Latest / Beauty In Positivity / How to “Act as if”

Transcript

How to “Act as if” · Beauty In Positivity

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Hello gorgeous souls.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the Beauty and Positivity Podcast.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: My name is Alyssa Skinner.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: I am sitting at my makeup vanity right now with a candle lit.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: My Christmas tree is lit.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: I have a Christmas coffee.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: I'm in the vibe right now.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: I have a chunky knit blanket and I'm so cozy and I'm about to drop some wisdom, some excitement, and some truth on you.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm going right into it.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: Imagine this.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: You won the lottery.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: Feel that.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: What does that feel like?
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: So you won the lottery.
• 0:34
  SPEAKER_00: You won a million dollars.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know, five million dollars, whatever.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: You can choose how much for this dream, this thought right now.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: You would be thrilled, excited, overjoyed, nervous.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: My whole life is about to change, energy, adrenaline, dopamine.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, you would just be thrilled.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, through the roof.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: You're like, every single problem is solved.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: I can solve my family's problems, right?
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: You won the lottery.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, it's a jackpot winner.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: Millions of dollars, one million dollars, whatever.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: You get to choose that lucky number.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: So, how would you walk into the world?
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_00: You just found out.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_00: You go to the grocery store right now.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: How do you walk around?
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_00: You're smiling, right?
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: You're just like, my life is awesome.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna tip this coffee 20 bucks, like, and then you go into like the next day.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_00: Would you go into work?
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_00: How would you walk around work knowing I don't have to be here?
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm putting in my two weeks, you know.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um, think about how you would walk in the world.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_00: You just got this news.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: You're like, I was just told I'm a millionaire.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: So you get you're you're embodying the feeling, and now think about this.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have the million dollars yet.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: You just looked at your winning ticket, okay?
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, they tell you, oh, it's gonna take some time to process.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you got to do some paperwork, you gotta do some tax stuff, and then your bank is gonna process it, and blah blah blah.
• 2:07
  SPEAKER_00: You have to do this interview for the news.
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's probably gonna take like a month, you know, to get your money.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: But for that month, you're you're fine.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: You're like, I still, I'm still walking out into the world exactly how I just imagined, because you know it's coming, right?
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: That is the feeling you have to embody with whatever dream you have or goal you have.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_00: You just know you are embodying a knowing.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_00: You know it's already coming, and you're still acting like a millionaire.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_00: There's not a million dollars in your account yet, but you just know it's on the way to you.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_00: That is exactly how you decide the dreams that you have, the goals that you want to come true and to live, experience.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: That is on the way to you.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_00: It is already done.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: You have to embody that feeling and just decide because when you ask, it is given.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: And we don't take that serious enough.
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_00: We don't believe it because we try to hold the reins all the time.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: We try to control the future, the present, the outcomes, these situations.
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_00: We can't help ourselves but control everything and use our logical brain of well, that were wouldn't work out because of this.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_00: Well, yeah, that's true, but what about this?
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: And how would that even happen?
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't make sense.
• 3:31
  SPEAKER_00: That you know, it's not your job, girl.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: You are still controlling the how.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I want to go for this dream, but you know, that wouldn't just come to me.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's so different than winning a million dollars.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: No, it's not because you don't physically have the million dollars, you were just told that you won.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: And so you are now living as if, and that is how you live, as if you just know it's coming.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever you desire is literally coming to you only if you let go of the resistance of how and why and why not, because none of that is your job, and that is the only reason you might not have what you want yet, what you desire yet.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: Because you are trying to, you're resisting it, you're trying to decide why it why it would make sense, how it would make sense, how it would happen, and so forth.
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_00: But this dream and desire came to you because you are capable of it, you're meant to live it.
• 4:37
  SPEAKER_00: We don't all have the same dreams, we might they might be similar, but we are so different from each other, and we have different styles and we connect with people differently.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: What we offer is very different, and so you are meant to live that out, whatever excites you, because it's your purpose and it's your style.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: So stop trying to control the how, how it's gonna work, and how whatever problem needs to be solved, that doesn't matter.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_00: As soon as I decided this when I wanted to go for my business, it just happened.
• 5:12
  SPEAKER_00: One day at a time, I didn't even notice I was doing it, but I just kept going because I decided it was gonna work.
• 5:21
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know how, but I'm going to try anyways.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I started living out that day as if it was already on the way.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: So just feel that it already is coming to you.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_00: Stop worrying.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: It's a waste of energy, okay?
• 5:39
  SPEAKER_00: Act like you are a millionaire, act like you own your own business and start walking and talking like it.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: Act like you have a million followers, whatever you want.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: Act like you are already that successful version of you.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you're driving this car right now, but you're gonna miss her because you're not gonna have her very much longer.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna have whatever upgraded car that you dream about, and you're going to you're going to be so grateful for the life you have right now.
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_00: So enjoy it because it's the very last time you're gonna see it for a little while.
• 6:12
  SPEAKER_00: This is the last chapter of everything you have right now because more is coming.
• 6:18
  SPEAKER_00: And that's okay.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: We can appreciate everything we have right now and still be excited for more to come.
• 6:26
  SPEAKER_00: So, a little journal prompt that might help you embody your dreams and feel it because feeling is so important.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_00: Journal about this dream, this specific goal that you're excited to make this happen and make your reality.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: Write a letter.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_00: You are your future self who's already achieved all of this, and you're writing a letter to the version of you in 2025.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_00: You're writing a letter back to her, and you're saying, Thank you so much for bringing me here.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: You got me here.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: We have this now, we're living this.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: This is what our day looks like, and you did it, you got me here.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for being strong enough and smart enough and faithful enough to just try because now I get to live this life because of you, and go into it in depth.
• 7:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm trying to keep it general because everyone's dreams are so different, but I just found this letter I wrote to myself, like I think just a year ago, last October.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_00: I wrote a letter to myself, and it was crazy.
• 7:25
  SPEAKER_00: I I just found it randomly, and I was like, oh my gosh, I am her.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I pretended to be me writing myself this letter, and now I really am her.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what you want to look back on.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_00: You want to find these old messages from yourself, these old pictures, this old video of when you were just trying, but you weren't good yet, because you acted as if, and that is why you actually have it now.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: You are her now.
• 7:53
  SPEAKER_00: So I got really excited.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: I totally went off script, but I hope that this made you excited because your dreams are already on the way.
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: You just have to accept it.
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_00: Accept it is on the way, and you don't have control over everything, and you need to let go of that control and just let it come to you, okay?
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: Just take any action step that sounds exciting, that sounds like a great idea.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna post this because I feel like that would get me closer to this.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm going to journal about this because I do, I'm excited to read this a year from now.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever it is.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope you're feeling as excited as I am right now.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: In fact, I'm gonna write another letter to myself that I can read next year and just see how much I've grown because holy moly, just one year in my life, I'm a different person.
• 8:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm living a different life.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: I'm doing different things on my phone than I was last year.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_00: And that's just, you know, small examples.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: My husband and I live in a different house.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's the same house, but we've done so much to it.
• 8:57
  SPEAKER_00: We've been so blessed to completely renovate everything that it's a whole new house.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_00: And gosh, writing the dreams that I had a year ago, and then looking back on that letter and seeing I have all of that now.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'll just share a couple of them.
• 9:15
  SPEAKER_00: I never thought I would have a home gym.
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I I didn't have any room in the house.
• 9:20
  SPEAKER_00: I already used the extra space for my salon, and so I just kind of accepted the now.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, you know what?
• 9:27
  SPEAKER_00: And this is detachment.
• 9:28
  SPEAKER_00: I'll make another episode on detachment.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: And that this is what brought me my home gym.
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_00: Because I thought I already used the extra space for my salon, and that's okay.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so grateful, you know.
• 9:40
  SPEAKER_00: And our next home, I'll have a home gym, you know.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so grateful for everything I already have.
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_00: And what do you know?
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_00: My husband decides to start building a home gym in the backyard, a whole building from scratch, okay.
• 9:54
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, what?
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: I just brought a home gym into my life, into my reality, because I desired it, and I wasn't poutying, like, I wish we had room for a home gym.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: Other people have one, we are like, no, it was like I am so excited to have that one day, and I'm also okay not having it right now.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: Boom, months later.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: And so that's just one example.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_00: I don't typically share too much, um, but I will continue to share as they come and as they expand and kind of become more permanent in my life, but that's just an example.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it was really cool to look back on that from last year.
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_00: And so I'm so excited to write myself a letter today.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna do it with you, and yeah, I can't wait for you to read it next year.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_00: But thank you so much for listening.
• 10:47
  SPEAKER_00: I truly, truly appreciate all of you listening, and this is you give me the purpose to keep making these episodes.
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_00: I love that I have this outlet to talk about this kind of stuff and to encourage everyone and make them believe in themselves because I had to do all this on my own.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_00: Um I did, I just I sought out books, I read a lot of books, you know.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: I just YouTube meditations and affirmations and whatever it is, and I just tried.
• 11:16
  SPEAKER_00: So I just want to share everything with you that has been successful for me, and I know it's gonna be successful for you too.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: Have a beautiful Thursday, and I'll talk to you in the next episode.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.