Episode 10: How to Speak to Your Wife

Shalom Bayis for Men · Sep 17, 2026 · 28m

You'd never talk to your chavrusa's bad pshat gently — so why is that the exact tone you can't use at home?

Chazal obligate a man to honor his wife even more than himself — the Rambam brings it l'halacha — and Rabbi Klapper unpacks what that actually demands. Real consideration isn't "I wouldn't mind if someone did this to me," because a woman is far more sensitive; it means thinking about what she can handle. You can shred a weak svara across the shtender from your chavrusa, but the same sharp line aimed at your wife is simply onaas devarim. And it's not only words — a small, careless…