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(#10) How to know it will work out when there’s no evidence · Alignment With Jenn

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  Hello, welcome to this episode of Receive.
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  I am so excited to talk to you about this topic.
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  We are going to be chatting today about how to know that
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  everything will work out for you even when there is no evidence.
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  This totally delusional idea that is really essential for
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  manifesting the things that you want in your life.
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  It is a powerful principle that guides your energy and I'm going
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  to help you connect to that. And really what I'm also going
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  to talk about is how to let go of knowing exactly how it's
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  going to happen because that is a trap that gets us stuck and
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  stuck and stuck. So I am your host, Jenn Ditzhazy
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  I am a premier transformation coach and I have helped many,
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  many, many women manifest incredible things into their
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  life. And I'm so excited to share this
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  knowledge that I have been learning since I was a wee
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  little last with you today. So this question for the topic
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  today came up a lot in the past couple of weeks with my clients
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  and it comes up all the time. And really what it is, is I want
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  something, whether it's a relationship, a business, a job,
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  a new house, whatever it might be, I want something.
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  I have a desire for something. And I have been trying and
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  trying and trying to make this thing happen.
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  And I'm seeing no evidence. How do I believe that this thing
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  will work out for me, that life will work out for me when it
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  feels like nothing is working and we've all been here and it's
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  hard. It is not an easy thing and is
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  your mindset, your consciousness that you carry through this
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  period, this valley before you reach your new destination that
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  is going to determine how quickly and how easily you reach
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  that destination. This question, what's really at
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  the core of this question is control is I want things to
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  workout in a certain way. And so how do I make sure that
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  that happens? Because if I don't, something
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  bad will happen. That's really what this question
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  is if you kind of bring it down to its nuts and bolts.
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  Because when we get very stuck on a specific outcome, whether
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  it be a specific job, a specific revenue in our business, a
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  specific and them wanting to date us and love us back, a
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  specific house or a specific car or anything that is very
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  specific in our lives. It's actually our relationship
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  with control that we need to look at and we need to
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  reevaluate because yes, you can manifest the most incredible
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  life imaginable. You could have everything you
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  could possibly want, but it will not look exactly how you want it
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  to look. And that's a good thing because
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  as I've given this metaphor before, you are the person in
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  traffic. You're sitting in your car on
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  the 405 freeway in LA and it's a a mess, a hot mess.
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  All you can see around you is the the rear view lights,
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  whatever you call them, the backup lights on the car in
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  front of you, the lights in your rear view mirror, the cars to
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  your side. The guy on your right's picking
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  his nose, right? That's all you can see.
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  And your GPS is like, continue on this freeway for 75 miles to
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  get to your destination, and you're going to get to your
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  destination 30 minutes late, OK? That's all you can see.
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  The universe. The creator is in a traffic
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  helicopter hovering above traffic, and the creator can see
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  that. Oh, you know what, if you exit
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  on that next exit, you're actually going to circumvent all
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  this traffic and you're going to get to your destination 10
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  minutes early. So just exit and then take that
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  side Rd. No big deal, no big deal.
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  But you are sitting there and you're like, I don't want to
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  take that side Rd. Like I never take that side Rd.
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  That's gross. I don't want to take that right.
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  You're getting into, you're thinking, you know better than
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  the evidence and the guidance that you're receiving, but that
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  guidance is trying to get you to your destination faster, to get
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  you to an even better destination, right?
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  Maybe you get there early and maybe you're going to hotel,
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  you're going to get an upgrade if you get there early, right to
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  a better destination. And so when we get so fixated on
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  things working out exactly how we want them to work out, we
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  mess up our energy and we delay our results.
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  And we also eliminate our ability to see the potential
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  that's available to us because there are so many magnificent
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  things available to you. You are aware of less than 1% of
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  all the magnificence that is available to you.
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  And so when you get so fixated on Robert, I don't even know
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  Robert, I guess I have a cousin Robert, Robert wanting to date
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  you and he doesn't want to date you.
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  But like Greg is going to come in the picture and Greg is like
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  your dream man and he's going to be all about you.
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  But you're so fixated on Robert that Greg can walk by and you
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  don't even see him. Because we get so fixated that
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  we lose sight and we miss out on opportunities.
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  So your ability to go after what you want full force, to show up
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  fully, to give your all to do your absolute best and then put
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  up your hands and say, OK, I've done my best and I release the
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  outcome. I let go of it.
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  I allow it to be. I don't need to control this.
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  I'm going to keep showing up, keep doing my part.
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  But if I I'm also open to this or something better, I'm open to
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  maybe Greg coming into the picture.
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  If Robert is not really seeming like the right one, then I'm
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  open to more. I don't need it to work out
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  exactly how I want it to work out because I trust it is the
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  energy of fear that creates the need to control.
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  I'm gonna say that again, it is the energy of fear that creates
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  the need to control. So do a little self evaluation.
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  Look at your life and say, where is it that I am needing to
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  control? And that's probably the areas
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  where you're most stuck. He, he, he.
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  So your ability to let go of that need to control and still
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  show up, still give your all, still fully participate, and
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  then let go of the outcome and let go of how it works out.
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  Knowing that it will be magnificent.
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  Knowing that you're not letting go of the joy, the happiness,
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  It's the pleasure, the satisfaction, the abundance, the
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  creation that you desire. You're just allowing it to come
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  to you in a way that is of your highest good of your highest
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  timeline, right? I see this all the time where
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  our paths can take these very circuitous paths, but then they
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  can end up in a magnificent location, a magnificent location
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  that we never could have ever anticipated.
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  OK, so let's get into more of how we create this shift because
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  it's easy for me to be like, Oh yeah, just let it go, right?
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  Laissez faire. And that's easier for some of
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  than others. But how do you actually create
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  the consciousness to let it go? That's what I want to talk to
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  you about now. So one of the key shifts to make
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  is recognizing and realizing that everything is happening for
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  you, that the universe is guiding you in every moment, and
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  that everything is unfolding for your highest good.
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  Even when it doesn't look like it, even when it seems like it's
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  not. When you can recognize that it's
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  all unfolding for your highest good, you recognize that there
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  is good and greatness coming to you.
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  And so you can let go of that outcome of things not quite
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  working out, things not being perfect the exactly how you want
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  them to be because you know something great is coming your
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  way. So that's part of it.
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  And how we really connect to that truth is by creating a very
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  strong relationship with the creator, the universe, God,
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  whatever name you like to use, I don't discriminate.
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  And also your higher self. So your higher self is like the
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  most advanced evolved version of your soul.
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  It's your perfected soul and it's always guiding you in every
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  moment. And when you can create that
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  connection between the universe, your higher self and your
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  current self, you are much more able to trust because it, it's a
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  relationship, you have to build the trust in that relationship.
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  But what happens is a lot of people say, well, like, you
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  know, I'll trust when I see evidence.
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  You know, I will show up when I see evidence.
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  I will be a good loving partner when he's a loving partner first
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  or whatever. But you have to go first.
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  You have to show that trust and that faith in the universe for
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  it to show up in your life. This is a spiritual, an ancient
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  spiritual truth that the light, the presence of the Creator will
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  show up in your life in direct proportion to your belief, your
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  faith in the Creator. So what that means is if you are
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  saying, OK, I just need a really good sign, just give me a good
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  sign and then I'll do it. Then I'll take the step.
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  OK, give me another good sign and then I'll take the step.
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  What you're basically saying is I don't believe.
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  I need you to like make me believe, and then I'll then I'll
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  show up. That's not how it works.
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  You need to fully show up. You need to fully show up for
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  the things you love in your life and you need to go after the
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  life that you want in full faith that it will work out.
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  So many people go the opposite and that's why they never create
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  the lives that they want. And when you create this
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  relationship of trust by following your intuition, by
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  taking those small steps and then bigger and bigger steps in
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  faith, taking those small leaps of faith and then those big
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  leaps of faith, what happens is you end up developing this
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  relationship. So that way in bigger moments,
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  you know that you have grace. You have that that creative
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  force in your life that you could trust, but you also
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  develop that ability to trust yourself.
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  The people who don't trust themselves are the ones who have
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  never really built that muscle to trust themselves.
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  So it's a relationship that you're building with your higher
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  self that allows you to know that it will all work out for
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  you. Because what you've done is in
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  very small moments, you've taken those leaps of faith.
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  So maybe you have an intuition to go to that cafe on 1st St.
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  You don't know why, but you go to that cafe because you get
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  this intuitive hit. Then you go inside and you meet
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  a guy in there and he has a business that would partner
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  perfectly with your business, right?
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  So you're kind of rewarded for following your intuition and
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  then you followed in bigger and bigger and bigger ways.
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  That's how you develop that relationship.
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  And that's also how you are able to recognize that you don't need
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  to know the entire how of how something is going to happen,
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  right? You can allow the how to unfold
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  by continuing to take the next right step and the next right
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  step, the next step that feels right to you.
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  And people struggle with this who have not cleared out all of
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  the old gunk in their minds, the old programming, the old
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  subconscious fears, the old doubts, the old limiting
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  beliefs. The people that are still
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  operating on those are and we all still have them on some
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  level, but some people have way more than others that is going
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  to clog up this process, all of it, and make it more difficult.
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  And so I highly recommend that you create a practice for
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  yourself. A2 part practice 1 is on a daily
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  basis, every single morning, plug into the universe, plug
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  into the creator, whether that is through meditation, whether
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  that is going on a walk and talking to the universe and
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  saying thank you so much for this.
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  Please help me with this thank you so much for this.
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  Whatever it might be, having that connection is going to
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  allow a massive amount of energy into your life that will guide
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  you and support you. So that's the first thing.
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  The second thing is do work on yourself, on your mind to clear
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  out those old fears, those old doubts that come up and say, but
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  what if I can't do this? What if I'm not good enough?
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  What if I'm not chosen? Those things that come up are
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  gunk that needs to be cleared out of the mind.
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  And that's what I can help you with.
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  So if you're interested in having support with that, you
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  can always message me and I can share a 5 minute video on my
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  program. Just send me the word podcast.
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  But this is really what I want you to recognize is that when
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  you are operating from this place of it needs to work out a
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  certain way or I hope it works out.
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  You are operating from a low vibrational place.
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  You are not showing up with full certainty with full joy that
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  this will work out for you in a magnificent way, whether it's A
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  or B that comes about and when you're in this low vibrational
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  energy of I hope it works out or I need it to work out like this
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  or I hope he loves me back. You're constricted, right?
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  Your energy is constricted. It can't flow.
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  It's low vibrational energy. So you're not only attracting an
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  equivalent energy to that, but also whatever you're creating is
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  not of a high vibrational energy.
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  So if you're creating a business from that energy, it's going to
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  be very different that if if you're creating a business from
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  a place of joy and certainty and fun.
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  OK, So I know I said a lot of things in this episode, a lot of
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  different pieces to this. And so I kind of want to recap
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  for you. So how do I know it will all
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  work out for me even when there's no evidence?
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  First, you've got to recognize the areas of your life where
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  you're trying to control and why.
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  What's that fear that's coming up for you around that need for
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  it to work out that certain way? Is it that if he doesn't love
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  you, you don't believe that anyone else will love you?
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  That doesn't feel good to think about.
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  What is the fear that's coming up around that for you?
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  Why do you feel the need to control?
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  Because control is the result of fear.
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  And then you need to transmute that fear, let it go, neutralize
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  it. That I can help you with.
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  Send me a message, I'll send you info.
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  You need to clear out that fear though, or it will keep showing
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  up for you. Keep showing up, keep showing
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  up, keep showing up. Then you also need to start
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  building that solid relationship with the universe by listening
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  to those small intuitive nudges. You start to build up your
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  ability so that we have bigger situations.
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  You trust yourself and you trust the universe to guide you.
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  So that way you recognize that you don't have to know all of
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  the steps because likely they're going to change anyway.
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  And what can happen too is you can literally go full force on
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  the completely wrong steps. But if you are all in the
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  universe will guide you to the right path.
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  OK, so those are the big pieces. And then your daily practice of
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  every single morning plugging in, literally imagine like a
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  plug coming out of your head and you're just like plugging it
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  into the heavens above. So that way every single day you
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  start your day connected. So you'll receive more
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  intuitions, you'll receive more guidance.
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  So I hope you have loved this. I have loved being here with you
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  and I will see you in the next episode.
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  Bye bye.