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Understanding Compassion over criticism (S5) S24:E2 Sun · Inspirations for Your Life

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  It's season five series, which is the show
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  24.
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  Episode number two.
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  Well, I'm John Morley.
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  I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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  I'm an engineer.
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  I am a marketing specialist.
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  I'm a video producer.
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  I'm a podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate
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  student, passionate lifelong learner, and I'm so grateful
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  to be a published author.
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  Today's episode is titled Understanding Compassion Over Criticism.
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  Yes.
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  2026 and we're reaching out to the local
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  New Jersey community.
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  Today, we have a shout out to a
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  local pastry place and we want to give
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  them a shout out because they are family
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  run, but also because we'd like to ask
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  them to invite us to come in to
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  shoot a live show.
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  We picked this week, we picked the Artist
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  Baker.
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  It's a bakery cafe.
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  The Artist Baker is located at 16 Catano
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  Avenue in Morristown, New Jersey.
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  It's located just off the green and behind
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  They are at 16 Catano Avenue, Morristown, New
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  All right, guys.
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  So again, big shout out to them.
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  Thank you so much for all you do.
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  And so, you know, Leigh Shulman, in a
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  world that reacts quickly and judges even faster,
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  choosing compassion is not just powerful, it is
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  necessary.
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  Let's walk through about 30 key truths that
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  can transform how you show up in your
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  life and for others.
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  Because, you know, sometimes we don't show up
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  because other people stop us.
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  You know, that's no excuse, guys.
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  No excuse.
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  Okay.
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  You never know what someone is carrying or
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  what they're going to say, but that should
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  not impact what you're going to do.
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  Most people need support, not a lecture.
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  I get it.
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  Right.
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  So judgment is easy.
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  Understanding takes courage.
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  And I think some people are like, oh,
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  wait a minute, I might have done something
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  wrong or I might need to get, what's
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  that big F word, feedback.
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  And people fear feedback because they don't realize
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  it's part of life.
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  It's part of growing.
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  Now, ladies and gentlemen, you can disagree without
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  dehumanizing someone.
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  I mean, I've known people, been in fields
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  for a long time where people literally demean
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  others because, well, they get their job, at
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  least it'd be nasty to people.
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  And I'm here to tell you, it should
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  be consistent, constructive feedback.
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  It should never be dehumanizing feedback.
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  It costs nothing, guys, to be kind.
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  So my question is, why aren't people kind?
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  All right.
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  That's a very good question.
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  And the reason people aren't kind, I'm going
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  to tell you, they're selfish.
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  That's it.
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  They're selfish.
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  It costs nothing to be kind, nothing, absolutely
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  nothing.
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  You don't have to clap back at everything
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  that happens.
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  You don't even have to agree with everything
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  they say.
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  You can actually agree to disagree.
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  I remember many years ago when I didn't
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  agree with someone, I said, you know, I'd
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  like to agree.
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  Oh, that's great.
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  I'd like to agree to disagree with you.
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  I'm like, huh?
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  I understand what you're saying.
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  And I also disagree with what you're saying.
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  So I respect what you're saying, but I
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  don't agree with it directly.
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  Now, guys, not every mistake needs a public
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  dragging, just being honest.
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  Treat people like they're more than their worst
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  day.
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  Curiosity, what happened?
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  Beats assumptions.
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  I know exactly who you are is where
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  it comes from, right?
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  You can set boundaries and still be compassionate
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  every single day.
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  All right.
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  But a lot of people, they get stuck
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  in this mode.
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  So let's pause for just a moment if
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  we could there.
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  Compassion does not mean weakness.
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  It does not mean you accept everything.
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  It means you choose a higher ground or
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  a level of awareness in how you choose
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  to respond.
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  It's a choice.
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  Our life is a choice.
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  Now, let's just continue for a moment, OK?
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  Holding people accountable does not mean putting them
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  hostage, does not mean humiliating them, does not
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  mean demeaning them, does not mean harming them,
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  hurting them, harassing them.
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  There's a whole plethora of them hazing them,
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  right?
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  Being rude to them.
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  Absolutely, absolutely not.
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  Compassion is not weakness, guys.
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  It is emotional intelligence.
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  And I think the quicker our world wakes
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  up to that, the quicker life is going
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  to change for people.
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  You need a second chance before, too.
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  So why aren't you willing to give somebody
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  a second chance, right?
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  I'm not perfect.
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  I know a lot of the people in
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  this world, they're not perfect.
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  I know a lot of people claim to
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  be perfect.
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  They probably are not.
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  Speaking softly can land harder than shouting.
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  I think people shout, I'll tell you why,
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  because they feel that if they shout, they're
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  going to get the most.
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  Really, they're going to come off like an
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  idiot.
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  I'm just being honest.
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  And I think we have to ask ourselves
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  a question.
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  Are we trying to do what we're doing
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  to help somebody, or are we trying to
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  create a scene?
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  That's really the problem.
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  I have another one for you.
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  Are you okay, ladies and gentlemen, is a
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  powerful question.
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  And sometimes people don't ask it in the
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  manner you think it is for if you're
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  okay.
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  They're using it as a power contortion.
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  You can be right and still be kind.
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  Empathy will build trust every single day of
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  your life.
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  Shame builds silence.
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  Everybody is learning in real time.
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  And you're not required to have a harsh
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  opinion.
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  If you disagree with something, you're okay to
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  disagree with something.
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  But it doesn't mean that you need to,
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  like I said, shame everybody, embarrass people.
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  But yet I see people doing this.
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  Maybe they think that if they do this,
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  they're going to protect their own stature.
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  Really what they're doing is they're slowly eroding
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  the little bit of trust and reputation that
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  they still have and dignity.
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  Sometimes ladies and gentlemen, the kindest thing is
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  listening.
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  Think about that for a moment.
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  How often do we listen to respond?
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  Instead of listening to understand, right?
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  Most people, they're listening so they can butt
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  in with what they want to say.
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  Is that really great?
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  No.
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  People do it every day though.
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  People think it's about power.
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  Okay.
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  They think it's about power.
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  And that power, I think, hurts a lot
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  of people because they don't get what they're
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  expecting.
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  They don't get what they're expecting.
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  So I think when we think about other
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  people, all right, and we think about maybe
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  something they're doing, okay?
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  Maybe they're doing something, maybe they're trying to
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  copy us, right?
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  Maybe they're trying to do something to become
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  better, but they're using our magic glue in
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  place.
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  As long as it's not copyrighted, no big
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  deal, right?
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  But I know people do this and then
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  they don't give credit back for the people
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  they got the idea from.
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  And I think that's a very big problem
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  in today's age.
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  We get the success, we get the accolades,
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  we get the praise, but then we don't
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  have the decency to say, hey, you know,
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  I was talking to X yesterday and I
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  got this idea.
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  I think that's an amazing one.
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  And I want to tell you that it's
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  about listening.
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  It's about being human, okay?
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  People say, oh, well, John, they're not going
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  to make a profit if we're human.
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  I got news for you.
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  If you are human, if you act with
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  authenticity, if you act with who you really
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  are and not with who you're pretending to
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  be, people are going to like you more.
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  People are going to want to be around
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  you, right?
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  That's hard for many people to, let's say,
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  rationalize, but it is the truth.
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  And when we can understand something and we
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  can think about it and we can know
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  that that made us better, that's great.
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  But when something's not going right, I'll give
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  you a perfect example.
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  I was in a car the other day
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  going to the airport and the driver, which
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  I use, I think it was, I'm not
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  going to mention which car service, but it
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  was one of the car services.
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  And I was going to the airport and
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  I said to the driver, you know, make
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  this first ride, it'll be easier when you
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  come out of here, go through this parking
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  lot.
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  Then when I told him, come out, make
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  the first ride on 287.
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  Okay, okay, okay.
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  He goes past 287.
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  I said, excuse me, sir, I mean, yeah,
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  yeah, don't worry.
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  He goes, he goes, be quiet a little
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  bit.
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  He's like, I'm going the other way.
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  Please, please let me do my thing.
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  And I'll bet you, but I was very
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  disappointed with that.
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  Did that mean I was going to be
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  rude to him?
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  No, but I did stop talking to him
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  for that whole ride.
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  I was annoyed that he didn't take my
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  way.
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  He took me through towns that were not
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  safe at very early hours in the morning.
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  And as a customer, as a client, I
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  have a right to the way I want
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  to be traveling.
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  Well, this way is less miles.
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  My way was less time and it was
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  safer.
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  Okay, the way he took me was through
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  inner cities.
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  And when it came time for his evaluation,
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  I didn't give him an F.
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  I gave him a four to five.
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  I should have given him a three, but
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  I said, you know, I can't let my
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  ego make the decision.
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  He does get a four because he was
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  not fair to me.
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  I did still give him a tip.
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  I still gave him 15%, not the typical
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  20.
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  And I didn't give him 10.
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  I said he deserved to get some.
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  I gave him 15.
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  But my point is, it didn't pay for
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  me to get upset.
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  It didn't pay for me to get angry.
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  All I did was I took a nice
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  little paragraph that I wrote after I got
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  out of the car at North Liberty International
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  Airport.
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  And I wrote to them and I said,
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  hey, after I put all this down very
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  nicely, please don't ever match me with this
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  person again.
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  So you can actually get your point across
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  without coming across as rude, inconsiderate.
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  And today, most people think the only way
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  you can get your point across is to
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  be rude.
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  I'm here to tell you guys that does
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  not mean that all the time.
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  Sometimes people think that if you're quiet, it's
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  not going to go anywhere.
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  I think most people feel
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  that if you're one voice, you're not going
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  to have an impact.
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  I was at a donut shop for National
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  Donut Day on Friday.
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  And I was doing my donut tour.
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  And one of the donut shops I stopped
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  at was a Dunkin' Donut shop.
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  I'm not going to tell you which store.
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  But I was at the store and I
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  asked for my donut.
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  It was like the last stop.
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  I stopped at like four or five donut
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  places, some bakers, et cetera.
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  And I stopped at this place and I
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  said, I'll have a donut.
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  I'll have a cinnamon jelly donut.
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  He goes, what do you want to buy
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  the drink?
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  I said, nothing.
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  He goes, oh, you don't buy a drink.
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  You don't get a donut.
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  That's what I mean.
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  He said, oh, we're participating, but you have
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  to buy something first.
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  So I politely said, OK, I will make
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  a note.
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  I'll tell my father.
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  I said, what do you mean?
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  I'm just making a note here, letting people
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  know in town that this Dunkin' Donuts does
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  not participate in the National Free Donut Day.
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  You are required to make a purchase.
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  And I'm going to put that in my
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  notes when I post later.
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  I'm not even five feet from the doors.
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  Whoa, whoa, whoa.
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  Come back, come back, come back.
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  He goes, here's your donut.
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  He said, you take the donut.
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  He said, don't say anything bad about us.
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  Now, when I post content, for those who
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  don't know me, I don't post things to
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  be belligerent.
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  I post the truth about what's happening to
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  me, whether it's good or whether it's bad.
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  And I usually don't put people's names.
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  I just put the store name, you know,
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  and I usually don't even put that on
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  camera.
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  But I just usually tag and say I
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  had didn't have a great experience here.
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  And so why did that change?
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  Well, he knows I have thousands of followers.
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  He doesn't want me putting that video up
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  of me saying something.
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  And I think it's sad when that becomes
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  the crux point, right?
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  So these are very important things that a
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  lot of people, I think, you know, they
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  stumble upon.
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  So let's bring all this home, right?
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  Because we've talked about a lot, right?
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  People can manipulate you day in and day
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  out.
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  And that is unfair.
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  Will it get you to stop doing what
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  you want to do?
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  Yeah, it will.
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  I was at church the other day and
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  I'm talking to my mom.
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  I'm not talking very loudly.
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  And this guy comes out of nowhere.
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  And I've seen this guy before.
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  He goes, oh, you're back in town again.
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  He goes, oh, he says, can you not
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  talk?
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  Or if you guys didn't talk, could you
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  like go outside there?
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  Because your voice echoes all through the church.
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  He wasn't even talking that loudly.
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  The funny thing was around, I think it
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  was maybe just before mass started, he'd get
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  back and he said, you know, you have
• 17:48
  a lovely voice.
• 17:49
  He said, you know, it's very loud, but
• 17:50
  you have a lovely voice.
• 17:52
  What do you use it for?
• 17:52
  I told him, an author, a speaker, a
• 17:55
  show host.
• 17:56
  Oh, that's wonderful.
• 17:59
  Before mass ended, he came up to me,
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  he says, I hope you have a wonderful
• 18:03
  day.
• 18:04
  Somebody comes back that many times, they've got
• 18:06
  guilt.
• 18:07
  But my point is I treated them with
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  kindness.
• 18:11
  I didn't get upset.
• 18:13
  I didn't yell at them.
• 18:14
  I just said, OK, this person's just a
• 18:17
  little bit deranged.
• 18:21
  And I didn't really judge them.
• 18:25
  I just said, this is crazy.
• 18:27
  So ladies and gentlemen, you can walk away
• 18:31
  instead of escalating, right?
• 18:33
  And that's what I chose to do in
• 18:35
  this situation.
• 18:36
  Why didn't I do that in the Dunkin'
• 18:38
  Donut one?
• 18:38
  Well, I was walking away and I wasn't
• 18:40
  escalating.
• 18:41
  But I wanted to make my truth as
• 18:43
  a journalist known that this place does not
• 18:46
  participate in the national Free Donut Day.
• 18:53
  And when they started realizing what I was
• 18:57
  doing and going back to my phone and
• 18:58
  social media, they panicked like you don't know
• 19:01
  what.
• 19:01
  I never threatened people.
• 19:04
  I just started walking away.
• 19:05
  I said, OK, no problem.
• 19:06
  I'll just let my followers know that this
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  store is not participating in national Free Donut
• 19:12
  Day.
• 19:13
  They require you to make a purchase before
• 19:16
  they give you a donut.
• 19:19
  Interesting, right?
• 19:20
  So ladies and gentlemen, what I want to
• 19:21
  say to you is don't confuse bluntness with
• 19:24
  honesty.
• 19:28
  So I was being honest.
• 19:30
  Was I being blunt?
• 19:31
  No, I was being honest about this particular
• 19:33
  Dunkin' Donuts.
• 19:35
  Now, I went to a couple other Dunkin'
• 19:36
  Donuts and they all just gave me the
• 19:39
  donut.
• 19:39
  They asked, did you like anything else?
• 19:40
  I said, no.
• 19:41
  They gave me the donut first and said,
• 19:42
  can we get anything else?
• 19:43
  I said, no.
• 19:43
  And they said, OK, here you go.
• 19:45
  And that's how it's supposed to be, right?
• 19:49
  Ladies and gentlemen, something else.
• 19:51
  You can forgive without forgetting.
• 19:56
  That's wacky, I know.
• 19:58
  So you can forgive what somebody did to
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  you and you don't have to forget what
• 20:02
  they did, but you can forgive the fact
• 20:04
  that they did that.
• 20:06
  And I know that's a hard thing for
• 20:07
  some people to forgive, right?
• 20:13
  Maybe something hurt you very badly.
• 20:16
  But the secret is not to rebel, not
• 20:20
  to come back and say, you know what?
• 20:21
  You did this and I'm going to be
• 20:23
  10 times nasty to you.
• 20:26
  What is that proof, right?
• 20:29
  What is that proof?
• 20:32
  Compassion, OK?
• 20:34
  And let's take a look at the word
• 20:35
  compassion from Merriam-Webster, OK?
• 20:41
  So according to Merriam-Webster, compassion, well, it's
• 20:44
  a word, OK?
• 20:46
  And it is a noun.
• 20:49
  Sympathetic consciousness of others distressed together with desire
• 20:53
  to alleviate it.
• 20:54
  Well, that's a very, let's say, ornate way
• 20:58
  to say what compassion is.
• 21:00
  What is it in English?
• 21:02
  Compassion is kindness.
• 21:04
  Compassion is feeling, mercy, humanity, condolence, understanding.
• 21:12
  Humaneness, sensitive to people's feelings.
• 21:18
  But everything has to be drama for a
• 21:20
  lot of people.
• 21:23
  And the drama winds up causing more danger
• 21:25
  than what was happening.
• 21:26
  So in that store, I didn't get upset.
• 21:30
  I just said, OK, let my followers know.
• 21:34
  I didn't say, well, you better give me.
• 21:35
  I didn't threaten.
• 21:36
  I just walked away and started commenting.
• 21:38
  And they got nervous with me starting to
• 21:41
  type.
• 21:44
  So compassion includes yourself too.
• 21:46
  We need to be kind to others, yes.
• 21:49
  But you know what we need to be
• 21:49
  before we're kind to anybody?
• 21:51
  We first got to be kind to ourselves,
• 21:53
  right?
• 21:54
  We got to be kind to ourselves.
• 21:55
  We got to be our own best friend.
• 21:57
  Try asking this question, OK?
• 21:59
  What would I want to hear if I
• 22:02
  were them?
• 22:05
  What would I want to hear if I
• 22:06
  were them?
• 22:07
  And it basically puts the shoe, OK, on
• 22:11
  your foot for a moment.
• 22:14
  Now, whether you're online or you're offline or
• 22:17
  anything else in between, there is a real
• 22:20
  person on the other side.
• 22:21
  I think we've got to understand that, OK?
• 22:23
  You can model a better way to disagree.
• 22:26
  And I said the one that I like,
• 22:28
  which is to agree to disagree.
• 22:30
  People rarely change from being humiliated.
• 22:32
  So why do it?
• 22:34
  They change from feeling seen.
• 22:35
  They change from how you made them feel.
• 22:39
  People forget things you tell them.
• 22:40
  But they never forget how you made them
• 22:43
  feel.
• 22:43
  Remember that, ladies and gentlemen.
• 22:45
  Compassion ages better than clapbacks, right?
• 22:51
  And a lot of this becomes something for
• 22:55
  someone.
• 22:56
  It's like, oh my gosh, I can't deal
• 22:57
  with this anymore.
• 22:59
  And finally, I want to say, ladies and
• 23:00
  gentlemen, that kindness is always a choice.
• 23:03
  Even when it is not the easiest one,
• 23:06
  this is what true strength looks like.
• 23:09
  Not reacting, not attacking, not tearing down, but
• 23:13
  building up yourself and others, understanding more, choosing
• 23:16
  intention over an impulse.
• 23:18
  Because ladies and gentlemen, at the end of
• 23:20
  the day, your legacy is not defined by
• 23:23
  how loud you were, right?
• 23:25
  Whether you had a megaphone or not.
• 23:27
  It's defined by how you made people feel,
• 23:30
  right?
• 23:30
  Doesn't matter what you buy them.
• 23:33
  Doesn't even matter what you say to them.
• 23:34
  It's how you made them feel.
• 23:36
  Now, there may be times when you need
• 23:38
  to use a megaphone to get people's attention.
• 23:40
  But that's just for the moment, right?
• 23:43
  That's not going to stay with them.
• 23:45
  The fact that I was at a megaphone
• 23:46
  saying, you know, you need to get to
• 23:48
  the right, or you were at Disney, and
• 23:50
  they told you to go a certain way
• 23:51
  because there was an accident.
• 23:53
  You're going to forget about that after the
• 23:55
  situation drops.
• 23:57
  So ladies and gentlemen, this week is about
• 23:59
  more than just inspiration.
• 24:02
  It's about truth.
• 24:04
  It's about growth.
• 24:05
  And it's about renewal.
• 24:07
  So I want to ask you something.
• 24:09
  How will you choose to show up this
• 24:11
  week?
• 24:12
  With criticism or compassion?
• 24:15
  That choice, my friends, is up to you.
• 24:17
  But I can tell you, if you choose
• 24:19
  compassion, more compassion will be shown upon to
• 24:24
  you.
• 24:25
  The boomerang effect.
• 24:26
  Hey, ladies and gentlemen, do you know who
• 24:28
  I am by now?
• 24:29
  If you don't, allow me to reintroduce myself.
• 24:32
  But first, I want to say thank you.
• 24:34
  And again, a very big shout out to
• 24:37
  our local bakery, The Artist Baker.
• 24:41
  We look forward to hearing from them.
• 24:43
  And hopefully they will invite us to come
• 24:45
  and do a live show at their cafe
• 24:48
  and taste some of their wonderful goodies.
• 24:51
  All right.
• 24:51
  So I am John C.
• 24:53
  Morley.
• 24:53
  And this has been Inspirations for Your Life.
• 24:56
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• 25:05
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  Right?
• 25:10
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  And you can catch all that where, guys?
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  You can catch all that at BelieveMeAchieved.com.
• 25:18
  So Inspirations for Your Life, for those of
• 25:21
  you who don't know, started off as an
• 25:22
  accident.
• 25:23
  I had a tech show before.
• 25:25
  And I said, you know, I want to
• 25:28
  get a message out to people.
• 25:33
  And so I got on just maybe once
• 25:37
  or twice a week.
• 25:37
  And I was like, this isn't going anywhere.
• 25:40
  Then I said, I need to put structure,
• 25:42
  right?
• 25:42
  What do you need for success?
• 25:43
  You need consistency.
• 25:44
  You need structure.
• 25:44
  So what do I do?
• 25:46
  I am on the air every day.
• 25:48
  Consistency and structure.
• 25:50
  I am very passionate about what I deliver.
• 25:54
  And even if I affect one person or
• 25:56
  I affect five or 10 or a million,
• 25:58
  I enjoy delivering this message.
• 26:00
  And I hope that you'll be able to
• 26:02
  deliver this message to other people.
• 26:04
  And now with our reach out to the
• 26:05
  community program and our plans of building a
• 26:08
  studio very soon, I believe that it's community,
• 26:13
  it's people.
• 26:14
  And when we can make people feel a
• 26:16
  certain way, that's something that's priceless.
• 26:19
  That's something that, you know, no commercial is
• 26:22
  going to leave with you.
• 26:24
  That's something that's not a facade.
• 26:27
  Remember we talked about TV sets the other
• 26:28
  day?
• 26:30
  It's not a facade.
• 26:31
  It's about truth.
• 26:32
  It's about integrity.
• 26:34
  So another question you might be asking me,
• 26:35
  and it's a very great question, John, why
• 26:38
  don't people do this?
• 26:40
  I'll tell you.
• 26:42
  Because they don't see an ROI.
• 26:44
  And because they don't see an ROI, they're
• 26:46
  like, why should I do this?
• 26:47
  Why should I bother?
• 26:50
  Why should I bother?
• 26:52
  That's an important one to understand.
• 26:55
  And the reason you should bother is when
• 26:58
  you can make someone feel good, it will
• 27:03
  help them and it will last their lifetime
• 27:05
  and beyond.
• 27:08
  We've just got to stop operating from the
• 27:11
  ego and operate more from our heart.
• 27:18
  Our heart is more than an organ that
• 27:20
  just pumps blood.
• 27:22
  Our heart is the epicenter for creating our
• 27:27
  feelings, for allowing us to feel things, both
• 27:31
  sorrow, good, happy, exciting, joyful.
• 27:39
  I know you're going to want to keep
• 27:40
  following me, so don't forget to check out
• 27:42
  BelieveMeAchieved.com.
• 27:43
  Also, while you're there, don't forget to go
• 27:46
  over to the link to JC Macademy.
• 27:47
  And you can learn about my new book.
• 27:50
  You can learn about other great stuff, like
• 27:52
  how to prevent burnout.
• 27:53
  I hope you guys have a great rest
• 27:54
  of your evening or day.
• 27:55
  And I will catch you guys when?
• 27:58
  Tomorrow for a brand new episode of The
• 28:00
  Inspirations for Your Life.
• 28:01
  Have a great one, everyone.
• 28:02
  Be well.