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VALUING FRIENDSHIPS · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables, Like to me, if I ever
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  Speaker 1: have kids, which I probably will, the most important thing
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  Speaker 1: for me is probably seeing a smile on their face. Fact, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's all I wanted. That's all I want from them, true. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And to be a pro tennis player.
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  Speaker 1: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself Whatdy Clark Akammy
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  Speaker 1: and my partner in crime, mister Jake cray A k Yay. Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, daddy.
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  Speaker 1: I actually have you you know how, it's like this
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  Speaker 1: whole thing that sometimes girls during course we'll say like, oh, daddy,
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  Speaker 1: like you know, keep say that again, Oh Daddy, like that, dude,
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  Speaker 1: I like that. But it's like sexy.
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  Speaker 2: I do know. That's the thing. Yeah, that's like sexy.
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  Speaker 3: Uh.
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  Speaker 1: Have you ever once thought to say in the midst,
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  Speaker 1: in the heat of the moment, like mummy.
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  Speaker 3: I've never once thought that. And I've never once thought
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  Speaker 3: I wish you'd call me daddy.
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  Speaker 1: No. No, have you ever been called daddy? No? Trying
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  Speaker 1: to think. I'm trying to think of like would it
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  Speaker 1: ruin the mood if a man like if a grown
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  Speaker 1: man in the midst is like kind of grunting and heavin.
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  Speaker 1: He goes like, oh, yeah, mummy, I'd be lying if
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  Speaker 1: I said I haven't thought about it. I've never done it,
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  Speaker 1: but but I have thought, like what if I was
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  Speaker 1: to just.
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  Speaker 2: Be like, have you thought me about doing it during
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  Speaker 2: the act?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, I've never thought of myself like I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to do it. I've always thought like, imagine if I
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  Speaker 1: did that.
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  Speaker 3: Oh nah, I've never thought about even like I've heard
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  Speaker 3: people say like daddy and porn, and I'm always.
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  Speaker 1: Like, it's one of those things that are you. It's
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  Speaker 1: almost like a thing I use when I when I'm
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  Speaker 1: trying not to prematurely ejaculate finish said session. Yes, maybe,
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  Speaker 1: And so I'm thinking, like, imagine if I just would
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  Speaker 1: ruin the mood and then I ruin my own mood
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  Speaker 1: while the mood's still good. The only time I think
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  Speaker 1: I could ever use it and get back to you
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  Speaker 1: and you can never do this is when I'm drunk,
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  Speaker 1: because drunk sex is always fun, and yeah, you're having
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  Speaker 1: a giggle each other around, you're having a bit of
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  Speaker 1: fun doing some random stuff because you both find it
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  Speaker 1: real funny. So I'm thinking, one of the six times
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  Speaker 1: I get drunk next year, mate, I'll let you know.
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  Speaker 1: Six is a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Like this year, this is a lot for you. Oh no,
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  Speaker 1: well maybe for this year. Are you aiming for anymore
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  Speaker 1: this year? I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I don't have anything in mind, but nothing coming up.
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  Speaker 3: The New Years is coming, but I don't feel like
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  Speaker 3: drinking at the moment.
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  Speaker 1: No, because the last time you rank would have been balley. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm still going. I think one of my New Year's
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  Speaker 1: resolutions for this year the only one I remember. The
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  Speaker 1: other ones I don't really remember. I probably haven't stuck
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  Speaker 1: to him, but sorry guys. But one of the ones
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  Speaker 1: I did think, I remember saying was like, just because
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  Speaker 1: I think I can, I don't want to drop. I
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  Speaker 1: don't want a single drop. Imb We said that of
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  Speaker 1: alcohol touching my lit a single drop and I and
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  Speaker 1: not a single drop has touched them yet. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 1: not a single drop will.
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  Speaker 2: On news if we're together and pin you down.
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  Speaker 1: If somebody accidentally fucking gets me, I'm gonna be pissed.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna put it's not my own doing. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 3: put some hand sanitizer in your mouth or something.
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  Speaker 1: Fuck off that doesn't care that alcohol mate that doesn't
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  Speaker 1: care bullshit. So I think I full think of all
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  Speaker 1: the ones I've ever known, I no one ever. I
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  Speaker 1: tell you what New Year's resolutions next year? Cool?
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  Speaker 2: Your girlfriend call her mummy?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, in the midst of it, ship, what if she's
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  Speaker 4: into it? Try something new may well. But I mean
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  Speaker 4: we started off a bit different than I wanted to start.
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  Speaker 4: I wanted to start off with another question, like last week.
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  Speaker 4: So I know, like last episode.
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  Speaker 1: I have another question for you, not really for you,
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  Speaker 1: actually for I have a question for everyone listening and
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  Speaker 1: or watching. If you knew there were five other guys
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  Speaker 1: or girls out there right now that were each the
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  Speaker 1: perfect one for you, they would make you happy, and
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  Speaker 1: and all they wanted to do was date you. Would
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  Speaker 1: you leave the person you are currently with to beat
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  Speaker 1: with one of them.
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  Speaker 2: That's a silly question.
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  Speaker 1: What's not really a question for you?
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  Speaker 2: What's a question for any question for anyone in a relationship.
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  Speaker 1: I suppose.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was.
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  Speaker 3: Another question for me because I know your answer. I
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  Speaker 3: feel like that's going to be everyone's answer. You reckon
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  Speaker 3: everyone who's in a happy relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because I saw I think Beath sent it to me,
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  Speaker 1: and I saw it and I was like, oh, I
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  Speaker 1: might write that down and just like use that one day.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm surprised you didn't say, like, yes, yes, But
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  Speaker 1: what it made me think was like, I don't think
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  Speaker 1: that anyone is perfect for anyone.
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  Speaker 3: Oh you went that way, I was gonna say, I
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  Speaker 3: think there's obviously more.
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  Speaker 2: Than one perfect person for everyone. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I think, oh yeah, there's more than one person for everyone.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe not the word perfect.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't think anyone is like perfect for one,
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  Speaker 1: like anyone really, because like every single person is like
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, everyone's like a snowflake because there's never
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  Speaker 1: been more there's you can't ever find two of the
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  Speaker 1: same snowflakes.
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  Speaker 3: I know, people agree or have the same outlook on
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  Speaker 3: your core values, yes, and that's when two people aligned.
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  Speaker 3: And you can definitely disagree on the minute little things
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  Speaker 3: around the world and relationships and feelings. But I think
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  Speaker 3: core values, the things that really make your heart beat yep,
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  Speaker 3: have to be ninety five ninety five.
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  Speaker 1: I mean yeah, because some people go in although I've
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  Speaker 1: heard you say plenty of times as well, have a list,
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  Speaker 1: you know, they don't have to meet everything. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 1: most of them.
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  Speaker 3: I know, and in that list, like for an example
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  Speaker 3: like it obviously might be want to get married, have
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  Speaker 3: two kids, I have a house by thirty. Things like that,
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  Speaker 3: they're the core values that really make sense. But then
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  Speaker 3: on my list, I could have said, maybe I like brunettes,
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  Speaker 3: but Cassie's a blonde, Like that's one of the minute things,
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  Speaker 3: A very simple past that. Yes, very very very simple example,
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  Speaker 3: but that's what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and maybe on hers she was like, I like
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  Speaker 1: one that's eight inches, she's got four.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe on your girlfriend just said over six foot she
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  Speaker 3: got five eleven and a half.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, here we go.
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  Speaker 2: To complain this game.
• 7:08
  Speaker 1: She complained this game, But I really just one in
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  Speaker 1: the right pair of shoes. You fuck her.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sick saiting the right pair of shoes.
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  Speaker 3: I was gonna say, though, what percentage of relationships do
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  Speaker 3: you think?
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  Speaker 2: This is gonna be a deep question.
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  Speaker 1: Stay in them because they're so deep.
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  Speaker 2: In them when they're unhappy.
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  Speaker 1: Percentage wild stabbing the dark fifty? Honestly, I just I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't be I wouldn't be shocked at a high number,
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  Speaker 1: and I probably wouldn't be shocked at alone number. I
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  Speaker 1: think any numbers just not going to shock me because
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  Speaker 1: of I've been in a relationship that lasted like nearly
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  Speaker 1: three years where it was like the last like seven
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  Speaker 1: months of it, which is a long time really thinking
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  Speaker 1: about it, is like there was like so many moments
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  Speaker 1: in that in that seven months where I was thinking,
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  Speaker 1: like are we I was like, this isn't like really
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  Speaker 1: working out. I was like, this isn't really working out.
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  Speaker 3: Stories in girls even who like plan their breakup like
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  Speaker 3: three or four months before.
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  Speaker 2: And they just stay in the relationship.
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  Speaker 1: No, crazy you say that, because I'm pretty sure I'm
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  Speaker 1: not going to be like confident with this, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: pretty sure that it's not uncommon for a girl to
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  Speaker 1: almost go through a breakup before that while they're still
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  Speaker 1: with the person, and then when they break up, they
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  Speaker 1: don't care.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I think that's maybe a good trait the girls have,
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  Speaker 3: is they emotionally detached from the relationship before the actual breakup,
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  Speaker 3: where guys, I're in it the whole time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And we maybe because we don't like connect with
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  Speaker 1: our our with our own emotions that well, and also
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  Speaker 1: we don't really like talk about in depth about our
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  Speaker 1: relationships like with our friends. We just kind of sweep
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  Speaker 1: shit under the rug for like as long as possible,
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  Speaker 1: whereas maybe a female who's more likely I'm not saying
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  Speaker 1: she's definitely going to but more likely to bring up
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  Speaker 1: how she feels about her relationship with her friends and
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  Speaker 1: then also just like maybe think about it more is
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  Speaker 1: more likely to do that. So they do go through
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  Speaker 1: this detachment breakup period before they even break up.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: No shit. So if you ever want to break up
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  Speaker 1: with someone, yeah, break up with them in your head
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  Speaker 1: and then and then after a couple of months, say the.
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  Speaker 3: Words and uh and add on that, I actually say
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  Speaker 3: the words, don't do an action that will cause their
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  Speaker 3: relationship to break yeah.
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  Speaker 1: No, no no no no no no.
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  Speaker 2: We figured that out.
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  Speaker 1: Don't do an action that will cause it a break.
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  Speaker 2: Up, yeah, which is way worse.
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  Speaker 3: I was thinking, it's funny, probably not a great analogy,
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  Speaker 3: but you know how a lot of people stay in
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  Speaker 3: their job when they're unhappy because it's so hard to
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  Speaker 3: start again.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hm.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like so many people would do that in
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  Speaker 3: a relationship because it's so hard to start again and
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  Speaker 3: then open up to someone all over again.
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  Speaker 1: It's hard and stare, it's hard and scared to start again.
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  Speaker 1: But it's also scared to be alone, very scared, especially
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  Speaker 1: when you've been someone going on like that for for
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  Speaker 1: five year mark. Yeah. And it's also like, how do
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  Speaker 1: you give someone the best advice? I would always I
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  Speaker 1: would give to anyone because I guess I like actually
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  Speaker 1: went through it was was with someone for a long time,
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  Speaker 1: broke up their vote and then really just like stuck
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  Speaker 1: out being alone for a long time. And for me
• 10:57
  Speaker 1: at least, I would say, that's like the best thing
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  Speaker 1: you can do. Also, like some people get into a
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  Speaker 1: relationship again three months later and it works. How do
• 11:05
  Speaker 1: you reckon you were alone on your own accord or
• 11:08
  Speaker 1: because no girls wanted you so you cheated me up?
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  Speaker 5: Okay, I'm kidding, man, you're a good looking I'm trying
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  Speaker 5: to think like there was there was, there was a farewell,
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  Speaker 5: there were I wasn't trying.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember I wanted I wanted it to be
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  Speaker 1: handed in my lap.
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  Speaker 3: I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. A couple
• 11:33
  Speaker 3: of times it was handed to you and your like
• 11:36
  Speaker 3: naw yeah in my Independent Boy, Yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, oh yeah, I was in my Independent boss
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  Speaker 1: Boy era Boss Boys Boy. But no, I think, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there's and then there was I mean, I'm sure there
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  Speaker 1: was some trying to think, like that's probably times where
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  Speaker 1: I even tried and got fucking denied.
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  Speaker 3: We'll bringing a back round circle your question. If there's
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  Speaker 3: five other perfect people out in the world and you're
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  Speaker 3: in a relationship, and if you say yes to that question,
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  Speaker 3: obviously the answer to your question is actually you should
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  Speaker 3: break up.
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  Speaker 2: With your blurder.
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  Speaker 1: Obviously you have emotionally detached already.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe you're in that three or four months period before
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  Speaker 3: you break up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you haven't. You don't even know yet. All right, guys,
• 12:29
  Speaker 1: last week or maybe the week before, Jake asked, and
• 12:32
  Speaker 1: you guys came with the goods it. He asked for
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: your best group chat names. Yeah, because we said ours, Yes, ours,
• 12:42
  Speaker 1: the kind of shit.
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  Speaker 3: Ours are, drunkie poos and ship you can see un
• 12:48
  Speaker 3: And I thought males went derogatory and girls went creative.
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: But maybe really they're not as good as I think
• 12:57
  Speaker 3: they are. Oh well, they're still great nicknames, but also
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  Speaker 3: kind of dirty.
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  Speaker 1: Oh they're dirty. Yeah, girls are dirty, man.
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  Speaker 3: So this is best girls group chat names. First one
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  Speaker 3: is Hawes and chores.
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  Speaker 1: Fuck? Really?
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  Speaker 2: What next one?
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  Speaker 3: I didn't really get this one, but maybe you will
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  Speaker 3: Satisfiers pros and Hose.
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  Speaker 1: Satisfiers, pros and Hose.
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  Speaker 2: Didn't get it, but I.
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  Speaker 3: Thought some of the listeners might, so I put it
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  Speaker 3: in there, pros and Hose.
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  Speaker 1: I guess maybe the group like consists of people that
• 13:39
  Speaker 1: are like yes men, yes, women like Satisfiers, and then
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: there's pros it's something, and then they have some hose
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  Speaker 1: in there. Maybe I'm thinking about it too deeply. Satisfies,
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  Speaker 1: pros and Hose.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, next one, Best girls group chat names Fanny Freaks,
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  Speaker 3: keeping it going, powder Rangers, what the good one? I
• 14:04
  Speaker 3: think a couple of people listening might like this one.
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  Speaker 1: Book sluts. I like that. Yeah, I like that. A
• 14:12
  Speaker 1: little bit of smart bit of smart books in there.
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  Speaker 3: Best girls group chat names, criminal masterminds.
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  Speaker 1: Fact. Seriously, you don't want to be in that group chat.
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  Speaker 1: If your name pops up in that group chat, I reckon,
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: you do want to be in that group chat, but
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: your name doesn't want to pop Your name should not
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: be popping up in that group chat. You're done for.
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  Speaker 1: I reckon that is the most relatable name for any girls.
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  Speaker 1: I'll find out where you live in an hour. They'll
• 14:37
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  Speaker 1: good one.
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  Speaker 2: I like that one.
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: Why do they horror in them?
• 14:47
  Speaker 2: What easy rubbing words?
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: Maybe best girls, group chat names, homies that don't fuck
• 14:52
  Speaker 3: each other.
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  Speaker 2: It must be happening a lot out there.
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  Speaker 3: a part of. Maybe I don't know, little booty bitches.
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  Speaker 1: Shit.
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  Speaker 3: Imagine thinking about like a group of like six girls, like, oh,
• 15:18
  Speaker 3: let's come up with a group chat name.
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, what have we all got to comment? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Oh shit, that's actually they're way more derogatory than I
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: thought that.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking.
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: Wow. Should we do the opposite as well next time? Yeah? Yeah, yeah,
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: I bought her boys.
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  Speaker 2: Can we put that on the internet?
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  Speaker 1: Probably not?
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  Speaker 2: Oh so wild crazy?
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: No, they're good, They're very good. All right, guys, we
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: have a dilemma in this episode. You know what to
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• 16:01
  Speaker 1: the dilemmas going there. They're all anonymous. This one is titled.
• 16:06
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• 16:08
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• 16:16
  Speaker 1: where I grew up, and where I want to be. Oh,
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• 16:23
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• 16:25
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• 16:30
  Speaker 1: more guys like you. I just listened to the You
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: Are Enough episode ten out of ten, by the way,
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: and would love your input into my situation. My family
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: and I moved to the Gold Coast from South Africa
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: in twenty thirteen when I was ten. I'm twenty one
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: now and with that sacrifice comes a lot of migrant guilt.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: My parents' dream was that we'd all live on the
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: same street, be a close knit family, and when I
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: have kids, they'd be active in their grandchildren's lives. They
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: moved away from their own families to the other side
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: of the world in the hopes that we'd have a
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: future they like those. But during and after high school,
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: I was not happy in Queensland and decided to move
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: to Melboyne for my UNI degree. After three years of
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: living in student accommodation and finishing my degree, it was
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: time to move out and find a rental home with
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: my friends. Melbourne is my home now. My jobs, my friends,
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: and my boyfriend are all here, but my mother seems
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: shocked and hurt that I want to keep living here
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: so far away. I am lucky to have financial support
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: from them, but my mum is leveraging the fact that
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: I don't have enough money to do this on my own,
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: in addition to wanting to spend time with me and
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: hoping i'd want the same, to convince me to stay
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: with her, But I need to go my own mental
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: health and happiness. It's hard because sometimes I like our
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: complicated relationship is actually better when we're apart, but I
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: don't want to have any regrets and if or when
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: there comes the time. Every time she asked me to stay,
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: I feel like I have to break her heart all
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  Speaker 1: over again when I tell her I don't want to.
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  Speaker 1: I still want a relationship with family and I and
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: I'll do what I can to fly back and forth
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: between my two homes. But do you have any thoughts
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: or advice that could help me out? Thanks and advance,
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: lots of love, And I think she's the think. I
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: think UNI is just finished and she's thinking about now
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: getting a rental there. Okay, okay, this is very interesting
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: because it's a complicated dilemma but a relatable problem where
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: kids and parents have different thoughts and ideologies about how
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: their lives should look. Yeah, to be a good question
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: is like, so, like is it really fair for the
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: parents to I guess, leverage and or or make her
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: feel kind of guilty because they're like, you know, we
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: want to have like we want to be part of
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: our retrich's lives and stuff like that. Like it's not
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: really fair because like this is her life.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: I think it's.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: Fair for her parents to want their kids to be
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: around them, but it's definitely not fair to leverage money
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: at all. No, No, definitely not. It's very tricky. It's tough.
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: A It's like it's so hard for us. We've got
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: to put ourselves in the dilemma in the person's head
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: who sent it in and like because it's so easy
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: just to say, like.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: Do what do you want to do? Like don't listen
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: to your parents?
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, fuck them off, like blah blah blah. But it's
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: also tricky because I'm trying to think. In Australia, it's
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: the culture is so common to move away from your parents'
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: house and do your own independent thing as soon as
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: you hit eighteen. Like that's Australian culture, but a lot
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: of other cultures, like probably South African.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: A lot of other ones.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: Ah, this family base where they stay together, but I'm
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: even thinking in like with the economy, that's really hard
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: to do and maintain that relationship close by, especially if
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: you've got a nice suburban the Gold Coast as an
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: eighteen year old.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, like I think we even where we live, like
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: the Gold Coasis. Yeah, it's exactly the same. It's like
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: where we live at least is it's not like our
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: parents were. They all admit they were lucky enough to
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: get in while it was affordable. And now a lot
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: of people that live you their kids are not going
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: to be able to live you.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And so she listened to the two episodes, so
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: if you haven't listened to them, One I talked to
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: my dad and one Jake talks to his and the
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: takeaways were very similar but also different. So my dad
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: was sick and he said he wants me to do
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: what's best for me, but he also wants quality time.
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: And Jake's dad said he wants him to do whatever
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: makes him happy, But they both did say whatever makes
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: you happy, yeah, and that's what you will value in
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: the long run. So I think, although it's very tricky,
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: I think every parent's baseline core values is for their
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: child to be happy. And if your life is tenfold
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: better in Melbourne, you I don't think you should have
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: a second thought about staying there because you know, for
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: you this is a better life that you want to
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: live and you shouldn't feel guilty for your parents' life
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: and decision to live in Queensland when you live there,
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: because in the end of the day, it is your
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: life as long as you're putting in the conscious effort
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: to consider their feelings and make the trip as much
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: as possible.
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's completely fine to do what you're doing.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no, I think it's fine as well. I
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: think that also reading it, I'm pretty sure she's made
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: up her mind she's staying in Melbourne. Yeah, she's definitely
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: staying in Melbourne.
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: But it's also like simple simplify the di dilemma a
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: little bit, like imagine she stayed on the Gold Coast,
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: got a promotion in her job to move to Melbourne
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: for an extra thirty thousand dollars a year, Like would
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: her parents be like, oh, no, we want you to stay.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: Here, yeah, or would they be like no, congratulations.
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: Or is it because like she's done it on her
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: own accord to study when she could study in Queensland theoretically,
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: So I think it's a question. Yeah, I think maybe,
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: like the parent the strict parenting thing is so hard
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: to grasp growing up. We're lucky that we never really
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: had to deal with it, so not.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Very, very, very lucky. But I think you can always
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: just put your best foot forward and your parents will
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: hopefully respect that. Look, yeah, I'm sure you've explained to
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: your mom plenty of times that you're not happy in Queensland.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: I mean, you've got a boyfriend.
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: Now, I'm thinking like birthdays like Christmas, Easter, fairbling, sibling birthdays, cousins,
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: anything like that. Fly their fucking ten fifteen times a year,
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: stay there for a week each time.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: I mean, also, who's to say, like, fuck, you might
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: get sick of Melbourne in the year that you're not
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: at UNI because people, Yeah, you gotta work, you got
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: to grow. It's an expensive city.
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: Like who knows, really, Yeah, yeah, I mean it's color
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: and by like you saying that you don't want to
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: go to Queensland, I think you should voice to your
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: mum or something unless this is your opinion. But like
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: we just said, me staying in Melbourne doesn't mean I
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: don't want to come to Queensland in the future. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: Like I need this for my development right now while
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: I'm young having fun with my friends and I have
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: a boyfriend who I love here. That doesn't mean when
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna have kids. I don't know when that is.
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: I might have to reassess my life and really value
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: that family time more.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but right now, for my personal growth, I need
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: to be here, which surely if you've said that to
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: your parents, like they would understand, Like I know it's surely,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: but like it's easier said than done. It's so much
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: easier said, Like it's logical in my mind, but yeah,
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: it's so her core values right now aren't family. They're
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: finding herself, which is what every person has to do.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: I couldn't imagine living on the same street as my dad. Like,
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: at no point ever in my head did I have
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: I ever thought like I want to live you know,
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: a couple of doors down from my dad. I bet
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: you my dad wants me fucking a couple suburbs away
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: from him. Well, now fucking a few hours quite a
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: few hours drive.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: You know it'll be like that guy brow them all.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean to be fair, Nah, like you probably
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: love it if I bought their hours next door.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: But I think like within in like an hour and
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: a half, two hours is like perfect. When raising a kid,
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: when you're independent and by yourself, I think you should
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: be able to be where the fuck you want to be.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's different. A I just think it's I don't know,
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: you love your mom, you love your dad.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: But I think it's slightly selfish what their parents are doing.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, yeah, you just you can't have kids
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: thinking that they're going to do what you want them
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: to do. You have to have kids thinking, like you know,
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: they're going to grow up be their own person They
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: have their own personality, they have their own set of morals.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: They they they have, they are their own thing. They're
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: not yours to boss around and until they're older.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: You know, it's especially we see this like money thing
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: be brought into relationship, not as much in the family relationship,
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: but more in the dating relationship where people use money
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: as leverage, which is very.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: Very unhealthy.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: As soon as anyone does that, because we've talked about
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: it before some reason it was an older fashioned thing
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: to do.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: But men will be like, I earn the money, you've
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: got to clean the house.
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, which is completely unhealthy. Which is sort of
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: along the same lines like that. It's just like I'm paying.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: For your rent. You should be near me, which is weird.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, maybe it's like a power trip. Maybe you
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: should say to them like, look like if you can
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: do it, if you could, if you've got a good
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: job lined up, or something, trying to say to them,
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: I don't need your money, I'll work it out, like
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know I should.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: But I also think it shouldn't come to that point.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: I don't think. Yeah, I don't think that they should
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: offer Like I would never like if you came to
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: me and said, like, Capley's borrow a thousand dollars and
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, like a thousand bucks. I wouldn't
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: like hold it against you. I guess it's a type
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: of person name like I wouldn't it's hard or like
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: you think about this, Okay, you don't buy your girlfriend
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: dinner and then later on in a relationship bring that up. No,
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: why would I ever bring that up. It's ridiculous. Yeah,
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: it's like, oh, you bought me dinner, so now you
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: should do this for me. What.
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I don't get it.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: Weird.
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: I also think that's a very common thing for older generations. Yeah, yeah,
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: where like I did this for you, now you should
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: do this for me. True, which I don't think is
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: very healthy at all. I don't think is very help
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: in a family setting, it can't be nice.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, no. And look, to be fair, your
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: mom probably doesn't want to hurt you. Ya, there's probably
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: no like i'd say, her mom doesn't want to hurt her,
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: but her mum's probably just thinking, like like she just
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: loves her and wants her where she is, and she's
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: probably that's just like the only way she knows how
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: to do it. Like she's just struggling to accept the
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: fact that you don't want to live near them. Yeah,
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: which is tricky and easier easier said than done. But like, yeah,
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: the funny thing is is like everything's like easier said
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: than done. But I guess when you're in the situation,
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: you kind of just have to do it exactly.
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think just just by having these thoughts,
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: something good will come out of it and you'll live
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: your best life. And hopefully your mom sees the light
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: of you living somewhere else.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: Hopefully she says, so happy you are. Yeah. Like to me,
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: if I ever have kids, which I probably will, the
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: most important thing for me is probably seeing a smile
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: on their face. Fact, yeah, that's all I wanted. That's
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: all I want from them. True. Yeah.
• 27:39
  Speaker 6: And to be a pro tennis player, it wouldn't be
• 27:45
  Speaker 6: a bad thing to get let me tell you. Let
• 27:47
  Speaker 6: me tell you right now, that wouldn't be a bad
• 27:48
  Speaker 6: one to get into.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: They make some money stuff.
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: Those team sports made tennis, Golf day makes golf.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: I'm telling you.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: Your retirement plan. Yes, as your child becoming a professionals,
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: well they'll be coach manager. Have you watched a ship
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: what's Serena Williams and coach Richard coach rich King Richard.
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and they great movie because it worked out.
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: If it didn't work out, they would have been fast.
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: Well here's the thing though, it was like they are
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: both appreciative of it. Yeah, like if it wasn't, wouldn't
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: it worked? And look it worked out, but.
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: Like, well I made I made a video on TikTok
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: the other day, and how many people do you think
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: thought that about their kids and it didn't work out?
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: And also side note, how I feel like I saw this. Yeah,
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: I was on TikTok, I made a TikTok about it.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: Keep going, I'm trying to remember you.
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: And then so looking at those like documentaries, they show
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: like highly highlights of Serena Williams and Venus whatever playing
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: tennis when they're like six in all, which is great
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: for the documentary, but how much footage direcons out there
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: of these like delusional parents thinking they got the next
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: Serena Williams and it's just sitting like on this random
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: laund room that's what.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And I remember watching that video and I was
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: kind of like.
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, whar yeah, Like I bet you.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: My mom has footage of me doing ship thinking last
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: he is gonna be the next. I go home if
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: I sorry. I go home to Canada every couple of years,
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: and every time she talks about like, yeah, if you
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: stayed here, you would have gone you would have got
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: a university fucking like scholarship and ship like that. And
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: I was like, mom, I wasn't that good. There was
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: like seven people on my team far better than me.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: Like I was like, fucking hell, I was also eleven.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: How can you tell if someone's good or not?
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: That's what I mean.
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: I think it's just the delusion of being a parent,
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: and we haven't experienced that yet.
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you just look at your kid through these
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: gold lenses.
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, literally take them off every once in a while,
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: and some parents look through money lenses.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: Green lenses.
• 29:49
  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, okay, Jake.
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: Relatable topic that we often talk about is things that
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: you can't prepare for when growing up.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: Oh okay.
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: I feel like that's a reoccurring theme in different ways
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: throughout the podcast.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely never thought of it like
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: worded like that.
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And growing up such a weird concept because you're
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: just like figuring it out day by day. No one
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: really has the answers in your brain for your individual life,
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: Like the day.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: You realize that your parents don't know all the answers. Yeah,
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: you're kind of like you are just living this life
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: for the first time as well. You are stupid.
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: But there's one thing that I still really can't grasp,
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: but I really should be able to grasp, I think,
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: and it's the fact that let me play a little
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: game with and everyone listening right now can think along. Okay,
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: So when you were in primary school, think of your
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: best friend.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: Okay, don't want to go I don't want his name
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: or anything.
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: Just think about him or think about them or her
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: and your relationship together.
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: Now, let's move to high school. Think about your best
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: friend relationship. Everything you knew about each other. Maybe you've
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: just finished school. Think about your best friend again. So
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: you knew everything about that person. You guys would talk
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: every single day. Yeah, now they're strangers. Yeah, Like it
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: makes so much sense that they are because you grow.
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: But also like I used to know that person so well,
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: Like I knew everything about them. We used to hang
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: out every single day. I knew their phone number.
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: Off by heart.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: Yes, now I couldn't tell her the last time I've
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: talked to him. Fuck, man, I've never thought of it
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, yeah, I wonder what they're doing.
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: Make it think, But I was thinking about it, And
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: like it's funny because in high school, especially I was
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: definitely naive, and I was thinking, my mate's going to
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: be my mates for the rest of my life, and
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: like it's probably good to have that delusion in your mind.
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: But thinking back at it now and also looking at
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: my parents and their friends definitely still have their friends.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: But I'm thinking, like, especially now, if it like twenty
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: two to twenty three, the trajectory of some of my friendships.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: Are not what I expected.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm looking at them and I'm like, it's a
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: little bit sad or I mean, yeah, it is actually sad,
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: to be honest with you, but.
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: That's just like life and accepting that it is the
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: way things are. But for me that's hard to accept.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: Well, it sucks as well because I'm just trying to think, like,
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: so it's obvious, it's so common, so so common. But
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: I do think like the group that we had outside
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: of school after it was over, at the group we
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: got then, that was probably like the best one I'd
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: say I've been in. And I mean not that we're
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: not friends, but we all we don't see like I
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: don't even think like the group like we obviously don't
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: see them that much, but I'm pretty sure they don't
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: even see each other that much, and we've all just
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: sent me disbanded. I will say so primary school. I
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: was thinking of my best friend in Canada, and I
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: do know that the group, like so the group that
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: I was in, I guess when I was in Canada.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: They're all still friends. Really, they're all they all still
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: live in the town they grew up in, so maybe
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: some still there and they're all still friends and they
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: all still hang out. They all like play fucking like
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: sports together, like like beer League sports together. When I
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: go back to Canada, they're all still friends. Like I
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: feel like an outcast. I'm so different to them because
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: of like the culture.
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: Shock, Hey, but I'm back. But I was also thinking, like,
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: so these people used to mean so much to us,
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: but also we don't know what they're doing right now,
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: so like a message really does go a long way sometimes,
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: like especially for friendships, because I know some friends who
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: weren't as lucky as us, who have like a big
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: group of friends you get to hang out all the time,
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: and they're a little bit isolated. So I was also thinking, like,
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: because they used to hold such a special place in
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: my heart, you don't necessarily have to hang out of them. Yeah,
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: But like just a message saying hey, how are you going?
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: Goes a long way the older you get. And I'm
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: thinking when I'm fifty or something, or some people are
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: fifty and they didn't get lucky and they're going through
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: a divorce, their kids hate them, shit like that.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: I feel like a message like that, like that's obviously
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: the bad end of the specialt Like a message like
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: that could go such a long way.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: And might save someone, you know what I'm thinking.
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: And we're saying some people like who we went to
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: school with the trajectory of their life, Like I'm not
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: being mean, doesn't.
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: Look that good?
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe not, And like I'm not judging by any means,
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: but like a message goes a really long way sometimes
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: I think.
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: Fuck, I fool. I've never thought of it like that,
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: a like who are you best friends with in primary school?
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: Like I'm sure everyone still follows them on Instagram? Yeah,
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: Like I'm trying to think of it, Like the guy,
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: the guy was like fucking best friends with from like
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: because I moved here in year six and so he
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: was like you're six.
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: He was like my first friend moved here from Canada.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: From Canada to Australia and you're six. And so my
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: first friend he lived like three doors down, just just
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: go there every avoh, like like high school friends. Like
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: we weren't like and we weren't even like really in
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: the same group in high school, but it was still
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: like best mates. And yeah, like the thing that happened
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: with us was I've said it. I don't know if
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: I've told the story before, but we discovered like in
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: our young years, you know, like late year nine, early
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: year ten, like that summer we both discovered like smoke
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: and weed, and you know, I I did it. I
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: just didn't really like like I enjoyed it, like it's funny,
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: but I didn't get heavy into it. He got heavy
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: into it, and just we just stopped hanging out.
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: That's a great example of what I mean.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, and I mean, I don't know what he's
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: doing now. I know he had a couple of rough years.
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure he's I think he's good. He's on
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: the end of it. Yeah, Like, I'm pretty sure's got
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: a good job. He's got like a missus. But how
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: all I have to do is fucking message him? And
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: I bet you you just be like, oh shit.
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I mean. I reckon that would be
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: most of your friend's responses. Oh shit, Like my best
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: friend through like primary school, Like he even became like
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: a family great friend. We went to like Bali and
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: stuff together. Yeah, and we'll occasionally see each other, but
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: like maybe once a year. Yeah, like a message like,
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: oh hey, what have you been up to?
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: Fuck? Right? But you who got Yeah I don't think
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: what like if I got one?
• 36:38
  Speaker 3: Because they mean so much to you, or they did
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: mean so much to you, it's not weird to message
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: him either. And I think a message like that would
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: bring a smile to anyone's face, which is so important
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: and vauable the older we get in life, just because
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: of how hard life is.
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: Sometimes, yeah, fuck message your old friends, eh yeah unless
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: they fucking did something dirty.
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but yeah, literally, you just grow apart. That's the
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: harsh reality of life. And that's one thing I was
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: thinking about the other day. It's just like hard to
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: accept that you do grow apart, just because you take
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: such different journeys in life, and that even it might be.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: It might be interesting to see who they are now.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, and you might rekindle some friendships, because
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: I don't know a period of time was like that
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: this and I'm sure a lot of people listening also,
• 37:21
  Speaker 3: their relationships chose. They chose their relationships over their friendship
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: and now they're over. So maybe the friendships could come back.
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah fuck maybe yeah, something like that. But one of
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: my deeper thoughts.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: No I say, I I say, message your friends.
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: Fuck, let's end it.
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: Good takeaway.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: Sorry I forgot to do I've got to do this.
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: Last episode, guys, last episode we forgot. It's how to
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: piss men off. The one hundred and nine things to
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: say to shadow the male ego we've done to shadow
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: shatterw some men's ego we've done too, and now we're on.
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: Okay, So.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: You say this, you say to a man quote, oh
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: I saw that on Pinterest. And the explanation is, so
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: you say this when a man talks about anything he's
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: interested in or shows or shows you one of his tattoos.
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: This is a great way to do two things. Number one,
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: drive a stake into the heart of his ambitious of
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: his ambitions and originality. Number two, get the words of
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: the iconic stand up come Dion Ali Wong ringing in
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: his head. If a man has a pinterest, he's probably
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: interested in men.
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: Fucking hell, I was even gonna say, like it implies
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: that he's basic.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: Yes, that's a good one. Yeah, that whoa. I like
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: that one.
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: I'm hoping that's a sign of things to come.
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: That's a good one. One hundred and nine ways how
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: to piss men off? Be no men's piece.
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we love all right, you know what to do?
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: Five stars patreons. There Facebook group.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: If you don't know what it's called, I mean there's
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: a link in description.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, be somewhere, Be.
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: Somewhere, and it's called if you're just going to go
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: on Facebook and look up, it was called relatables baddies,
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And like honestly, there's a lot of things to
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: do with the relatables, but right now, if you like
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: that episode.
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: Maybe just yell relatables and message your friend. Yeah,