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National Women's Month · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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Black Girl Interrupted. Y'all already know how you started. Y'all already know how
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you started? Rupt. What's up? What's up? What's up? Y'all?
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Welcome back to another episode of Black Girl Interrupted. Y'all already know who
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it is. It's your favorite girl, the five Baby Bring y'all another episode
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of Black Girl Interrupted. A Happy third Thursday, everybody. Happy Happy Thursday
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to all the beautiful people out there. I hope everyone has had a great
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and phenomenal date. This show is not gonna be long tonight. It's just
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the introduction to the topics we're going to be discussing for the month of March.
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So, but the people that know, March is national Women's History months.
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So this month I decided I selected six phenomenal women that I wanted to
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pay homage to. I wanted to give their flowers to. Some of these
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women you may have heard of, some of them you may not have heard
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of. But I always want to give my flowers to the to the hidden
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figures, not the ones that we see all the time. And that's no
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shade to the women in history. That's no shade to them. But I
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want to always pay homage to the ones that are less recognized. So I've
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selected Diane Carrol to speak about this month. Uh, Debbie Alan because Debbie
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Allen just really does not get her accolades like she should. And some other
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women that you guys may or may not have heard of, but again,
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I definitely want to give homage to them. But tonight I want to give
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homage to some phenomenal women that are in my life, that are in my
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circle that he me encourage. Uh. And there's one in particular who is
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no longer here with us, but she's still here with me in spirit soul.
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Y'all already know what I do before I even get started. Y'all know
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I have to do my mental health check ins. Yes, I know I
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just saw y'all yesterday, but anything could have happened between yesterday and today.
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You know, you may have had a bad moment today, but I just
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wanted to encourage you. I just want to pour into you. I just
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want to love on you and let you know how appreciated you really truly are.
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And I think you're doing a fantastic job. So before we even jump
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into tonight's conversation, y'all already know what I do. Y'all do know I
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still continue my mental health check ins. I also want to give a shout
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out to I don't know if y'all could really see, but the magazine Women
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Who Podcast Magazine Who. I had the pleasure of being featured in their magazine
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last year, so I wanted to pay homage to them and thank them for
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just even extending the invitation to even want to get to know who black Girl
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Interrupted really truly is. So before we even get started, like I said,
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I have to do my mental health check ins again. Y'all know I
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always play something inspiring, encouraging, empowering, and uplifting. So this one
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particular video tonight is dedicated to a special person. I just want to let
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her know that just because you have bad moment, don't allow that to set
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the tone for your day. So here we go, and then we're gonna
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jump into the conversation, what is the common denominator of failure? Why are
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you failing? You're never say because of me. Oh, it's the competition,
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it's the economy, it's the president, it's Congressman. If you wake
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up tomorrow morning and blame your failure on someone or something else, you have
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no reason to change. Do you. But if you woke up in the
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morning and looked in the mirror and said, I am failing because of me,
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the decisions that I make, the energy I put in. I'm not
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passing the blame. If you look in the mirror tomorrow and say that you
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will change because nobody likes they of themselves as a failure. Winners win and
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lose. Ers lose. And if you create a culture of losing, if
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you keep being a victim, if you keep letting losing happen to you,
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if you keep letting people do you and treat you any kind of way,
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it's going to become a culture. Take ownership. Take ownership of everything in
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your world, the good and the bad. Don't make excuses, don't blame
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any other person or any other thing. Take ownership of your mistakes. Take
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ownership of your short falls. Take ownership of your problems, and then take
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ownership of the solutions that will get those problems solved. Take ownership of your
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job, of your team, of your future, and take ownership of your
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life, the life that win. Play offense, not defense. Stop backing
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into everything, stand up, blow your back a little bit, start to
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walk a little different, start to be have best version of you. You
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can do it in your quiet way, you can do it the way you
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do it, But somehow they gotta look at you and go, okay,
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I want monkey with that one. You push back, you gonna get obsessed.
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You gotta get relentless. You gotta be a road doll. You gotta
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get infense. You gotta have a permeating attitude that you're gonna win. You
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gotta be a positive out look. You gotta be optimistic. You gotta know
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you're gonna win. You gotta right now, you said I'm gonna win.
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I'm gonna win. My life is gonna win. There's gonna be a victorious
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life here because listen to me, the price you've made for losing year is
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too extreme. You have to carry the burden of failure the rest of your
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life. As we begin to elevate ourselves and not to follow the crowd,
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activating the thinker us and disciplining and putting on hold the emotional part of ourselves.
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It's not easy, but through practice and practice, and practice practice makes
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improvement. You can always better your best. You can always go beyond anything
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that you have ever done. You never hit a state of perfection. You're
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always bigger than what you do, and so are you. Looking for new
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breakthroughs. Through practice and practice and practice, you'll get better and better and
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better. Something you should affirm to yourself every day. Repeat this, please,
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no matter how bad it is or how bad it gets, I'm going
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to make it. The people that make it in this world look around for
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the circumstances that they want, and that they can't find them, they create
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them. It's hot, no easy, it's not an option. However,
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ladies and gentlemen, what you will discover it is that it's worth. There
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takes cuts. You gotta dig down deep to get it out. Keep on
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going again and again and again. I tell you make it happen because you
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know that it is possible and you are the determining factor. All right,
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So let me tell you something. You can only make a move if you
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get up and do it. Stop being stagnant. If you want to win,
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you gotta give it your all. You gotta give it your hard work
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and dedication, and you have to know and understand that it doesn't come overnight.
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You're gonna have those ups and downs, the highs, the lows,
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the happy days, the sad days, But it's all about how you bounce
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back and you recover. You know, I sit and I look at how
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far I've come in my podcast journey. Am I where I want to be?
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No? But am I doing what it takes to get where I want
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to be? At? Absolutely, I've had a lot of those days,
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the highs, the lows, the good, the bad, the people that
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support, the people that don't support, the people that show up, the
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people that don't show up. As long as I continue to show up for
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Ashley, that's all that matters to me, because the finish line is gonna
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is there, and I'm gonna make it. So as long as you get
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up and you give it your all, you give it your best, then
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that puts you one step posted to you the finish line. Don't give up,
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don't give up. Like I posted today, everyone's gonna encounter restore.
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But that doesn't mean you're gonna get wet. Just words of advice. Happy
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Thursday. We're one day away from the weekend. Hey, but y'all are
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hanging out now with black girl interrupted A black girl interrupted? Ay, of
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course, SONI let me tell you something. If I don't celebrate nothing else,
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Baby, I'm gonna always celebrate meat. I'm gonna celebrate the good,
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the bad, the highs, the little baby. I'ma I'm gonna let me
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tell you something. I'm gonna celebrate the small victories like it's a big victory
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because them small victories will get you to the big ones. So anyways,
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but I'm still doing my mental health check ins. Like I say, I
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know, today's Thursday. We are one day away from the weekend. I
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know tomorrow's payday for a lot of people, and the bills and all that
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other good, great grand stuff. But it's good, y'all. We're gonna
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be streaked. Take this time this weekend to relax, relate, and release.
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Don't worry about what you didn't get done this week. Just reset,
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relax your mind, calm your heart, and try it again. That's all
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that matters. And know that I love you and I appreciate y'all. Yes,
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I'm hype. Let me tell y'all. I get excited more and more
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every episode that I do, Like I get up here and I just love
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doing what I do. So uh, I can't wait to black Girl Interrupted
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is a household name. We getting there, but just wait, I can't
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wait, so many opportunities are come in my way. I wish I could
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tell y'all, but I can't right now because I don't want I don't want
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to mess it up. But just no, great things are coming for black
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girl interrupted. And just know I waited my turn to get to where I
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am to day. I didn't step on anybody. I didn't have the name
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drop and do anything disrespectful to my name or to my brand to get to
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where I am the date. I'm making genuine connections with people by just being
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Ashley, and that's all I know how to be, and that's all I
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continue to be. All Right, So we jumping on And like I said,
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March is National Women's History Month. I forgot to put history, but
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y'all know what I'm trying to see. But it's National Women's History Month,
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and I'm taking the time this month to pay homage to six phenomenal women who
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I just don't feel like they get enough accolades. What is National Women's Month?
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You ask? I bet y'all are like, how did they come up
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with this? How come they don't do anything for men? I think they
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should. I really think they should have a National Men's History Month, so
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we could pay homage to a lot of men that go unrecognized, whether it
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be someone in your community, whether it be somebody in your household. It
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could be your dad, it could be your uncle, a cousin, a
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brother. But right now we're just gonna focus on the women. So a
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lot of people are like, well, how did National Women's History Monk come
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to be? Well, here's a little short excerpt that's gonna explain how Women's
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History Monk came to be and how you can learn more about it. Here
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we're going. Then we're gonna jump back into the conversation Women's History Month.
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Do you know that every March Americans celebrate Women's History Month for real? Today
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we are going to talk about the origins of Women's History Month and why it
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is so important to celebrate. You have probably heard about famous women in American
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history like Harriet Tubman and Abigail Adams, But what about Eleanor Dare or Mary
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Chilton. Eleanor Dair traveled to the Roanoke Colony in the year fifteen eighty seven
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and most likely gave birth to the first English child born on the North American
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continent. At age twelve, Mary Chilton was so excited to get off the
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Mayflower that she jumped into the water and waded on to land, making her
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the first person on the ship to set foot on Plymouth Rock. Neither of
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these stories were well known until historians discovered the information, which is why knowing
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women's history is essentral. Understand More, let's talk a little bit about world
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his story, with an emphasis on his. For much of the world's history,
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only males have written and published stories about the past. This is because
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women were not treated equally to men, nor did they have access to the
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same opportunities and education. Here is an example. In colonial America, women
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could not own property or vote in elections. In many places, females were
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not allowed to go to school, and if they were allowed, they were
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not often taught the same subjects as males. This is because society at the
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time believed that women were fundamentally unequal to men, which seems kind of ridiculous
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when we talk about it today. However, this idea has existed throughout history
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and is a product of patriarchy. Patriarchy is a system of society or government
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in which men hold power and women are largely excluded. Where men were taught
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academic skills like reading, writing, and mathematics. Women were taught domestic arts
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or how to manage a household. These differences in education maintained the power imbalance
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between men and women up until modern times, and even today, inequities between
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genders still exist, which is why it is important that we celebrate Women's History
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Month. It is a way that we can celebrate the contributions of women not
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only today, but throughout history. So how did the celebration of Women's History
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Months start? Like many historical movements, a small group of people recognized the
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shortcomings in learning a male centered history and decided to do something about it to
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create change. In March of nineteen seventy eight, a group of educators in
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Santa Rosa, California, thought that more could be done to further the cause
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of women's equality and to bring awareness to the significant historical contributions that women have
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made over the years. They planned a Women's History Week to correspond with International
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Women's Day on March eighth. By nineteen eighty, the movement had spread throughout
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the country and gained the attention of President Jimmy Carter. After meeting with women's
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groups historians, and the National Women's History Project, which is now called the
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National Women's History Alliance NWHA. President Carter proclaimed that the week of March eighth
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would be National Women's History Week. At the time, President Carter said,
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too often women were unsung, and sometimes their contributions went unnoticed. But the
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achievements, leadership, courage, strength, and love of the women who built
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America was as vital as that of the men whose names we know so well.
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Nice President Carter. One year later, Congress joined with the President by
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passing a resolution declaring the week of March eighth as the official start of Women's
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History Week. Seven years later, Congress passed a law authorizing the President to
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proclaim March as Women's History Month. It has been celebrated that way ever since.
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Since then, the NWHA has selected a yearly theme for the month,
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and the rest, as they say, is her story. What are some
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ways that you can celebrate the contributions of women throughout history? Hope you had
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fun learning with us. Visit us at learnwright dot org for thousands of free
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resources and turnkey solutions for teachers and homeschoolers. All right, so, what
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a beautiful introduction to National Women's History Month. Oh, oh goodness, when
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I tell you so. When I sat down and was trying to decide which
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women do I honor for National Women's Month, because we're always recognizing the big
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names Oprah beyondce Michelle Obama, etc. Baola Davis, We're always honoring them,
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and again, they deserve their accolades because they've done a lot iconically in
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history. But me, I'm all forgiven the forgotten their roses because we always
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wait until a person leaves when we want to give them their roses. But
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I want to give them their roses while they're still here. Some of the
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women that I will be speaking about this month have gone and passed on,
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but some of them are still here. So why not paying homage to the
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women that have helped shape women's history? Oh my goodness. I think this
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is such a beautiful thing that we do, that they could have even thought
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of to celebrate women. But I think next month I want to celebrate men.
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I think I'm going to create my own little thing and do National Men's
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History Months because there are some wonderful men out here that deserve the homage as
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well, that deserve their roses as well. Y'all, let's work on that.
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Let's work on that, you know, because we have her story,
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but I want to do his story. I want to celebrate some of the
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men, because, like I said, there are some great men out here,
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but I want to recognize the ones that go unnoticed, the ones that
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don't get their due. You know, they're just due. So mm I
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want to start off. Let me ask, y'all, who is your superwoman?
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Who do you feel us like you're superwoman? Me? I could say,
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oh goodness, there's so many, but I'm gonna say my mom is
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one. You know, although me and my mom have haven't always had the
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best relationship, my mom always came through. You know. My mom worked
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two three jobs to make sure me and my sister were good, to make
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sure we had clothes on our back, roof over our head, food on
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the table. My mom did everything to make it happen, and she still
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does even though she's really tired. And with my shortcoming, she stepped in
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and helped raise my children. So I definitely have to give my mom her
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flowers. And then there's my godmother, who is no longer here with us,
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who believed in me when no one else did. You know. So
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it's like when she passed, it's like I lost a part of myself too,
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because she was one of my biggest cheerleaders. She was one of the
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women that outside of my mother, let me say that because I don't want
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anyone to say, oh, well, you're not salute your mother. I
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did. And this woman was like another mother to me. She was a
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person that I could talk to when I couldn't go and talk to my mom
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when I couldn't sit down and have conversations, and even up until she passed,
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she loved me all the way to the end. So I'm so blessed
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to have had Nova Chapui in my life. Like it's fun now you know
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that I had this amazing woman that stepped in like she was my mom and
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encouraged me. She empowered me, She uplifted me. She gave me advice
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even when I didn't want to hear it, even when I was out here
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running while acting crazy, she knew just what to say. So I want
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to pay omage to her. Thank you so much, maman Nova, for
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just being the person and the woman that you are that you were, and
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I hope I'm still making you proud even from up above. So hmm.
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I don't want to get too emotional, but like I say, this was
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not going to be a very very long episode. Again, we have to
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pay homage to the women that set the foundation for us, that laid the
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foundation for us to be the phenomenal women that we are. You know,
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I look at Maya Angelou, I look at the Czar and nel Hurstons,
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I look at the Josephine Bakers and so on and so forth. There's so
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many women that I could just name and go on and on. We'd be
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here all day if I did that, you know. But we women,
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we are so amazing. And to all my super women out there, it's
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okay to sometimes take your cape off and not always be super and just be
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a woman. It's okay. What else do I want to say? I
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just men. I don't know where you would be without us. You know,
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we're We're the backbone. We're the rib to y'all, some of us.
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Let me say that, let me correct myself, because I'll have some
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women that say, well, not huh and da da da, you know
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so, but we women make it work. We make things happen, you
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know. One of the one of the beautiful things that I admired about,
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not just my mother, but my grandmother. They made a dollar out of
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fifteen cents, even though we weren't rich. They made us feel like we
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were our mothers and the women in our lives. They took care of us,
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They nurtured us, they loved us. They gave us everything that we
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needed and set the groundwork and the foundation for us to be phenomenally great,
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for us to be phenomenal women. Not all women followed suit, but the
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ones that did. I salute you. I'm proud of you. I see
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you. Everything that you do does not go unnice, It does not go
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and recognized. So if you are a phenomenal woman, say you're a phenomenal
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woman. When you get up tomorrow morning. I need you to go stand
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in that mirror and say I am phenomenal because you are. I know the
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world makes women feel like we're less than, but we're not. You know,
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I'd look at hm. I just look at us and I see greatness
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in us women because we've endured a lot then and even now, you know
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there they still sometimes consider us not equal. Hey, miss Denise, thank
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you for tuning in. Yes, yes, Miss Denise, says, choose
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your fruit wisely. Girl, You absolutely said a word with that, because
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every fruit that you eat is not gonna always be sweet. Huh, thank
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you for that one. Oh goodness, you know what I'm gonna have to
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use that. I'm stealing that from you, Miss Denise. I'm stealing that
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from you when you say choose your fruit wisely, I need to steal that
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from you. That's definitely gonna be a post on Facebook. That's definitely gonna
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be a post. But I look at the things that we as women,
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that we've endured then and even now. You know, even when it comes
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to health care, you know, they don't take our concerns seriously. I
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look at women that are misdiagnosed with breast cancer and things of that nature.
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I look at us, women that work two or three jobs, and we
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still go home and make sure the kids are fed, make sure homework is
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done, make sure house is clean. We are phenomenal. I look at
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the doors that we've kicked in, the tables that we've built when they said
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we couldn't come in, and we made away, and we still make a
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way, We still solidify our places. Let me say this, let me
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back up. We still solidify our spaces at tables. We still don't get
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invited to. I love the unity of the women when we come together.
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I don't like the fact that we don't support each other all the time.
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For the women that do support, thank you. Thank you for being the
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blueprint of what greatness looks like. Thank you for being the blueprint of what
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phenomenal looks like. Thank you for being the blueprint of what love looks like,
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what a nurturer looks like, what a caregiver looks like, what a
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waymaker looks like. You get what I'm saying. So I want to salute
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the women and tell you I'm so proud of you and I want you,
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ladies, to keep going even though we get overwhelmed. Ladies, I know
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we do. But it's okay again for you to take a break. It's
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okay for you to set it down and go back to it when you can.
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It's okay for that. So going back to the super women that are
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in my circle, my sister Jule, let me say this to you.
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You have always been my voice or reason. You've always been the one to
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say I actually know. You've always checked me when my slip was shown You've
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always been one of my biggest cheerleaders. You've always been the inspiration behind a
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lot of a lot of the conversations that I've had on Black Girl Interrupted.
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So I want to pay oh my to you and give you your flowers while
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you can still see them. So thank you for always encouraging me. Thank
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you for loving me the way that you do. Thank you, Thank you.
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I know, y'all, I try not to get emotional, but when
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I'm passionate about what I'm discussing, it just happens. Just happens. To
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my God, sister, Javert, where do I even begin with you?
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Thank you for just even being my light when things seemed dark for me.
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Thank you for loving on me, bailing me out of situations that I got
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my own self into. Thank you for that. Thank you for being my
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best friend. Thank you for being my sister. Thank you for being my
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confidane, thank you for being my diary. Just thank you for just being
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you and I don't want you to ever change for anybody. Oh goodness,
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here we go. Ah, let me take it deep, brother, I
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just I get so overwhelmed sometimes to my sister Coco girl, we have been
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through so much together We have absolutely been through a lot together. Thank you
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for just being you. Thank you for sharing your children with me and allowing
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me to love on them. Thank you for loving on me. Thank you
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for just us having these these wonderful conversations. Oh my glass is fogging up.
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Ah girl, thank you for the last, thank you for the jokes,
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and I'm so proud of you. You have come a long way.
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Despite everything that you've been through these last three years, you still come out
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phenomenal. Javert, you missed it. I just gave you your flower,
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so you're gonna have to go back and catch the replace sugar plum and she
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says, Hey, Sis, I love you. You're an amazing woman.
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Thank you. Miss Denie says, please explain again the term colony collapse disorder.
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I got you. I'll definitely go back and explain that HM to my
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crew and my team. When I tell y'all, black Girl Interrupted would not
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be where it is today. On those days that I was done with Black
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Girl Interrupted, y'all kept saying, I get up, get up. You
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have something the world needs to hear. Even when I was in my darkest
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days, y'all pushed me back into the light y'all encourage and said, you
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gotta keep going. You can't keep saying you want Black Girl Interrupted to be
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a household name if you're not putting in the work. And that hurts for
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y'all to tell me that, but I know it was something that I needed
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to hear because I am gonna make Black Girl Interrupt a household name. But
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you, ladies and gentlemen have done some of the most amazing things. Thank
32:30
you for not only the financial, but the emotional, the physical, the
32:37
spiritual, and the emotional support that y'all continue to give me. I'm greatly
32:47
humble to be blessed with a circle of people like y'all. So when I
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win, we all win. When I eat, we all eat. When
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I build that table, you all have a place to see. I'm trying
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not to get choked up again, I promise y'all. I'm really trying not
33:09
to. But y'all are phenomenal women. I owe y'all so much, even
33:22
though you say no, no, no, I do because y'all have kept
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me grounded. Y'all have helped me humbled. Y'all have helped me from getting
33:31
a big head. Y'all have contributed, contributed to a lot of moves that
33:37
I have started to make with regards to my podcast, I'm humble. I
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just sometimes I m at a lost for words, because I really don't believe
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that there's a lot of words out here from me to explain how much y'all
33:59
mean to me and how great y'all are to me. If I could sum
34:10
everything up in one word, I would say, I'm blessed. Y'all continue
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to bless me. Y'all continue to pour into me. Y'all continue to empower
34:28
and uplift me and push me in the direction that I need to be in.
34:34
So I owe that to y'all. I love y'all so much. To
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my sister Trachelle, girl, when I tell you everything that you've endured in
34:51
life, you still stay strong. It took me a lot of years to
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realize how special you were to me. I admire the strength that you have
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and how you get up and you keep going. I wish I had half
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the strength that you displayed despite everything that you've been through. I love you.
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That is my best friend in the whole world. Is my sister,
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my best friend. I love your best friend. M To my daughters,
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y'all are phenomenal. Everything that we've been through together, you girls still come
35:55
out on top. Y'all are fine, I'm gonna know. And these are
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to my daughters, y'all. This is I'm homage to my daughters. Y'all
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are awesome. Y'all are amazing. I am so proud of y'all, and
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I hope I continue to make y'all proud because y'all are now getting the healed
36:21
version of your mother. So to my daughters, Mama loves y'all, and
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I'm so proud of the phenomenal things that y'all do. To my grandmother,
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who's been gone since nineteen ninety eight, I hope I am making you proud.
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I hope that you were looking at me and you were smiling and saying,
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she finally grew up. I did. It. Took me a while
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to get here, but I grew up. I made it. I'm still
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a work in progress. So let me just say that I'm not all the
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way where I want to be, but I'm not where I was last year.
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I'm not where I was yesterday because God woke me up to date and
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I got another chance to do it all over again. So to my grandmother,
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Thank you, Thank you, Miss Darris for being who you are.
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Thank you for loving me and nurturing me the way that you've always done.
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Although I wish you were still hearing body, I know you're still hearing spirit,
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and then I can and I can hear you now talking and telling my
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mama Joe, she finally grew up. She finally grew up, Joe as
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my mama named Joanne. Who else can I think? It's so many women
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like that. I just want to just think, but I just can't think
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of them right now. Like, but y'all know who y'all are. Like,
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I give y'all y'all flowers all the time. I always tell y'all I
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love y'all to my cousins, Hey, cousins, I love y'all. Uh,
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thank y'all for supporting me. Thank y'all for pouring into me all the
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blah blah blah stuff. You know. But I appreciate y'all and I think
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y'all are phenomenal women. I love the fact that y'all support like y'all love,
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and y'all tell me when I'm right and y'all get me together when I'm
38:37
wrong. So shout out to the family. Baby, let me tell you
38:39
something, It's nothing like having some phenomenal women in your circle. And when
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I say phenomenal women, I'm talking about the women that want to see you
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win, genuinely want to see you win, not the haters and the tag
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alongs on the sideline. Let's see who else is my superwoman. Oh God
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has so many. There are some beautiful women on my timeline that I'm proud
39:06
of you, ladies. I see what y'all are doing. I see what
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y'all continue to do. I've seen y'all through your ups, your downs,
39:20
the highs, the lows. But y'all still keep going, no matter how
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many times y'all bump, y'all head, y'all still get up, and y'all
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still keep on with the race. I love that, love that. I'm
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so proud of y'all. One of the most one of the things that I
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do want to see is more unity amongst women. I want to see us
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really supporting one another. I want us to stop being so jealous and envious
39:54
and prideful. Everyone's not gonna make it to the destination. At the same
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time, that's not the way God designed it. But I really wish we
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would love on each other more than what we do. I wish we could
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create bigger sister circles. I love to see that a circle of phenomenal women
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that share like minded ideas. We don't always have to agree, but I
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want us to start empowering. You know, I look at the women that
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I've collaborated with, the women that have given the given me the opportunity to
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share my stories. I thank y'all for that. I appreciate y'all for even
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looking and saying, you know what, I want to know more about her,
40:57
and did it genuinely and wholeheartedly. That's what I want, That's what
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I love the most. But I really do want to see more of that.
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I want to see more women's groups. I want us to have beautiful,
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healthy conversations, without name calling, without the disrespect. I challenge each
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and every woman to post on your page, whether it's Facebook, Instagram,
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TikTok, Twitter, push your superwoman and why you selected that woman as your
41:38
superwoman and pass it on. Let's create a big sister circle. No matter
41:46
where you are celebrating superwomen, challenge your fellow sister and say, you know
41:53
what, this is my superwoman. Once I post my superwoman sharing you post
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your superwoman. Let's start recognizing and giving our women their flowers before it's too
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late. Let's stop waiting until a person's eyes are closed to give them their
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accolades. That's why I chose tonight to kick off the month National Women's History.
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Money is to pay homage to the women that don't get recognized all the
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time. Whether you're a mother, entrepreneur, a domesticated worker, I don't
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care what you are. I think you're phenomenal. I think you're a great
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and I love you and I'm proud of you, and I see you don't
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give up, Please don't give up. From this poem y'all by Maya Angelo,
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Oh my goodness, that I want to play as we get ready to
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bring this episode to a close, and it is phenomenal. Woman, I
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love this, y'all. Here we go, and then we're gonna come back
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as I bring the episode to a close, and Miss Denise, I haven't
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forgot. I'll double back and answer your question. Many people wonder where my
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secret lies. I'm not cute or built a suit of fashion model size.
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When I start to tell them, they think I'm telling lies. I say
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it's in the reach of my arms, the span of my hips, the
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stride of my step, the curl of my lips. I'm a woman phenomenally.
43:29
I walk into a room just as cool as you please, and to
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a man, the fellows stand or fall down on their knees. Then they
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swarm around me, a hive of honey bees. I say, it's the
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fire in my eyes, the flash of my teeth, the swing in my
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waist, the joy in my feet. I'm a woman phenomenally. Men themselves
43:57
have wondered what they see in me. They try so much, but they
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can't touch my inner mystery. When I try to show them, they say
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they still can't see. I say, it's in the arch of my back,
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the son of my smile, the ride of my breasts, the grace
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of my style. I'm a woman phenomenally. Now you understand just why my
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head's not bowed. I don't shout or jump about or have to talk re
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aloud when you see me passing. It ought to make your proud. I
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say, it's in the click of my heels, the bend of my hair,
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the palms of my hands, the need for my care. Because I'm
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a woman phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, all you women and me, so Miss
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Denise, to go back and answer your question. I think that video was
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a great way for me to segue into answering your question. What is the
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collapse colony disorder? That's when the worker bees leave the Queen bee behind with
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just a little bit of food and a few work us to help the Queen.
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I hope I answered your question to you women again, I said this
45:45
was not going to be a long episode because again this is just the introduction
45:47
into the month of March and what we're going to be discussing on Black Girl
45:52
Interrupted. But to you women, I salute you, ladies. I'm proud
46:00
of you, ladies. I want to end the conversation by saying, lift
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your head up, adjust your crown. You're welcome, Miss Denise. And
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I'm so glad that you posted that question because when you said that, I
46:21
was like, oh my goodness, like she must be reading my mind because
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that that poem by Maya Angelou was definitely a great segue for me to get
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into your questions. So thank you for posting that question. I appreciate it,
46:35
and thank you for tuning in with us tonight. You are a phenomenal
46:38
woman. So I want to say this as I bring this episode to a
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close. Women, I love you. I'm so proud of you. I
46:54
am so proud of every obstacle that you have overcome. I'm so proud of
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how you maneuvered to every challenge that has come your way. I salute you
47:09
on those sleepless nights of having to walk the floor with the baby. You're
47:15
trying to balance a job, you're going to school, you're taking care of
47:20
the household. I see you, I see you, and I'm so proud
47:27
of you. Keep up the good work that you do. If no one
47:32
has told you, beautiful women, to day, you rock. You did
47:43
it. You're amazing, You're phenomenal. You're imperfectly perfect. I'm so proud
47:53
of you. I see you, I see you, I see you,
47:59
see you, and I want to sit down and have a conversation with you
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because I want you to share with me how you made it, how you
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got over. Because there are weapons that will form, but God say they
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will never prosper, and we always find a way to make it work.
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So to us, ladies, you keep rocking. You keep doing exactly what
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you've been challenged to do. You're a winner. I don't care what the
48:39
world says. Ashley has told you how imperfectly perfect you really truly are,
48:51
and how the things that you do do not go un noticed, they do
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not go and recognized. I see you. So as I end, I
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challenge every woman to post who your superwoman is. Share that post and tag
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someone else and tell them to post who their superwoman is. Let's get that
49:15
going. Let's start spreading positivity and less negative things on social media, because
49:22
we see enough of that already. Let's protect one another, Let's love one
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another, Let's encourage one another, Let's empower one another, Let's uplift one
49:31
another. And as I bring this to a close, I want to say,
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God bless you. I love you. Stay safe, have a beautiful
49:45
weekend, and I'll see y'all on Tuesday. So don't forget to like,
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share, coming and subscribe to a Black Girl Interrupted. I am Live.
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I s live every Tuesday, every Thursday to Facebook as well as YouTube.
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Let me take a deep breath. You can always go back and catch any
50:09
episode that you've missed. I'm on all streaming platforms. Hello to my handsome
50:16
husband, Hi babe. I love y'all. Hope you're having a good night
50:19
at work tonight. But on Tuesday I will be speaking about Let me get
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my little notepad up because I have to remember, because baby, when I
50:31
tell y'all, I have so many women, all right, So on Tuesday
50:36
I will be talking. I will be speaking about the United Order of Tents.
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This is a group of women from Virginia who founded an organization of It
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was an organization excuse me, let me back up. It is an organization
50:52
of African American church women that was founded in Norfolk, Virginia in eighteen sixty
50:57
seven by Annetta M. Lane and Harry Our Taylor. It was a secret
51:02
society garner towards helping women. So on Tuesday, that is who I will
51:07
be speaking about again, the United Order of Tents. Do your homework,
51:13
learn about them, because we're going to be discussing them on Tuesday. Those
51:17
are the that is one of the upcoming episodes. Or the month of March
51:22
again, the month of March, we are celebrating National Women's History Month.
51:27
I will correct that. Don't even worry, hmm. It just my mind
51:37
is going in so many places, so many things are going on, so
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yes, don't forget tune in with me Tuesday, eight thirty pm Central Time,
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nine thirty Eastern Time. Again, we're gonna be talking about the United
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Excuse me, I was about to sneeze and I was trying to catch it.
51:53
I didn't want to sneeze on camera. The United Order of tents.
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As we continue on through the month of March, again, I will be
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paying homage to some beautiful black women. Some you may have heard of,
52:07
some you may not be familiar with, but I'm here to educate and give
52:10
you more information about them. If you want to be a guest on the
52:15
show, I'm not doing any collaborations until May. But the email is down
52:20
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52:23
That will change, but that is just a temporary email. So if
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you want to be a guest own Black Girl Interrupted, or if you want
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52:32
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52:37
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52:42
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52:49
If you have a business that you would love for me to promote on
52:51
my show again, Please send me an email whatever you like for me to
52:55
do. I have no issue with doing that. I'm all here for uplifting
52:59
it, empowering and encouraging everyone. Trying to take a deep breath because it's
53:07
so much I'm trying to tell y'all at one time, my mind literally just
53:13
won't blank. I think maybe because I'm ready for the weekend. Maybe because
53:16
I've just been running all week long and trying to take care of this and
53:21
that and this and that, and I just need a moment to breathe.
53:23
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53:38
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53:46
and beautiful and phenomenal things that are coming with Black Girl Interrupted. I do
53:51
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Interrupted and it will pop up. It's something else. I'm forgetting to tell
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y'all. It's something else. I just can't remember off the top of my
54:22
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54:24
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55:07
I hope everyone has a beautiful weekend. Don't forget Oh, I know what
55:12
I was about to say. Let me say this to everybody tomorrow. End
55:17
your work week. Take this time this weekend to resect. Don't worry about
55:23
what you didn't accomplish this week. Just plan, plot, strategize, and
55:29
get everything ready for next week. Take the time to decompress. Relax,
55:34
calm your mind, relax your heart. No, relax your mind, calm
55:37
your heart. Everything's gonna be okay. I love you guys, and I'll
55:42
see y'all Tuesday and night.