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AFTER CARE AND SOME BAD PARENTING · CALL ME MISTRESS

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Hi, welcome to the latest episode of Call Me Mistress.
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I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia, and I've got with me, Madame.
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Liv. Hi, guys.
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All right. Well, Liv, that's exciting.
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So you need to hear these conversations that Liv and I
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have off off camera, off microphone.
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Off air. Off air, there you go, we are
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talking about Dicks and smelly vaginas and all that good stuff.
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Yummy yummy. After we just had some lunch.
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Yummy yummy. Anywho, so we're talking about
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aftercare today. How do you feel about Aftercare
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Live? You know, even vanilla people
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have aftercare do. Tell.
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Like they have aftercare in a way of like they snuggle
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afterwards That in a way is an aftercare because if you didn't,
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they were like, oh, they don't like me or they just use me.
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It's an aftercare. But that's just sex.
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So when you do like a hard session on somebody, aftercare
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could be just, let's talk about it.
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How do you feel? It could be a physical thing, or
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you give them a hug, or you rub their face and tell them that
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they're OK and you know, or go even deeper.
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Some people like to be diapered and like cared a little bit more
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for after a session. You know, you say, even after
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sex. It's funny because you can tell
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that I'm such a Dom because after sex it's like, get the
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fuck away from me, I'm going to sleep.
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You don't give him aftercare. I'm like, well, no, no, no,
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because we come at different times usually.
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It's interesting because you're not always, you know, synced.
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Together, yeah. And because it's men and women,
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yeah. Exactly.
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So it's like, you know, I'll let him get off and have his little
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orgasm, you know, and then I'll have mine.
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And then it's like, yeah, he's like, do you need to cuddle you?
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And I'm like, God no, you're sweaty and hot.
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It's funny you lay over there. I mean if that shows dynamic,
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but what about aftercare is for? For him, for.
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After the big hard sessions do you do aftercare for that or how
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do y'all do? So typically, again, I'm very
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mean, you know, if we do a session, I have them, you know,
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weren't where I put them in some bondage scene or whatever
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afterwards I'm like, OK, clean up, you can get undone now.
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That's your aftercare? Yeah, I'll.
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See you in the other room, slut. You know, maybe.
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It's just your style. Of Dom Well, but here's the
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thing, after we do that, then it's, you know, I go back to
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being the housewife. Hey, yeah.
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Do you want something to eat, honey?
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Do you want to watch a movie? Yeah.
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You know, it's that kind of stuff.
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OK. You know, And then if he's been
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too bratty in the session, I would just like, go finish your
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fucking chores. I've heard enough of you today.
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It's that kind of shit. Depending on cuz if you're being
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bratty in the middle of the session, yeah, be treated like
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that afterwards. That makes sense.
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Yeah, but that means your session still going.
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Yeah, You know, and this is something we do every day.
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And it's not some little, you know, acting ploy each day.
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You know, there's certain aspects like, you know, if it's
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his day to make coffee in the morning, you know, he'll make
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coffee in the morning, He'll bring me coffee, you know, but
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I'll do the same thing for him, you know, because I feel like,
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hey, I got to take care of my sub, man.
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You know, I take my little slave boy.
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I got to say, hey, you know, it's time to get up and go to
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work and do all those things. And I'm.
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I'm supportive, you know? Yeah, I feel like.
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Dom should be. Absolutely, absolutely.
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Because you got to nurture and, you know, care for them.
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So I do that, but to me it's like, you know, I do aftercare
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all the time with how I nurture and baby him because I do, I
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baby him. And as it depends on the type of
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Dom, like you said, if you're if that shows normal dynamic of
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already bathing, some people don't have that.
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So they need that small bit of babying afterwards.
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Yeah, cuddle being held that be saying you're all right because
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you did. I just beat the shit out of you.
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Yeah. You know, I got you.
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You're OK, You're safe, you know?
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You know, and I've been in the dungeon and we've done it with
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strangers over the years. But you know, there's a lot of
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times there's different, different ways that people have
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their own ending. So if a guy has had a scene and
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he's done, a lot of times it's OK where he's just like, OK, I'm
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done, want to go get my clothes on?
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Boom boom boom. Yeah, they run out.
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And they run out and it's kind of like, oh.
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Charles says it's a post. Come.
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What did he say? Clarity.
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Yes, come, come, clarity. Especially when I'm new.
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Exactly. I don't know what to do.
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Let me get out. Yes.
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What the fuck? This happened.
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You know, they freak out like, oh, God, I'm in the dungeon.
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What am I doing? I gotta get home.
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Yeah, it's one of those. And.
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And they run off and they forgot.
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They forget to close the gate. Yeah.
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It's like, motherfucker, so we have those and then we have
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others where they're just like, they're chill.
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They want to sit on the couch, they want to talk.
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And I'll say, and sometimes they're speechless and I'll say,
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well, well, here, sit down for a minute.
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I'll get you a bottle of water, you know, just kind of process
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things. We don't have to talk about it,
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you know. You can write me an e-mail later
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and let me know how you feel, you know?
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I guess you just fill out your sub at the time.
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Yeah, because. Exactly.
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They want to run out, let them run out.
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They want to sit down top. Absolutely.
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Sometimes you can tell when they want to be a little bit babied
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and coddled a little bit. You can kind of get get it.
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Absolutely. Sometimes I miss it though.
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They want that. But a lot of times people like I
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want to hug on my way out. Like needing to be.
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Cuddled at the end, yeah, like like taken care of for a second
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after a hard session. Well, and you know, cuddling is
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a thing. You know, it is in some people
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it's a fetish. It is a fetish for.
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People like the ABDL's. You like to be cuddled.
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They like that. They love to be, you know,
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nurtured and pampered. And, you know, a lot of people
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just don't really get to experience that even in their
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childhood. It's so sad.
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I know. Well, I mean, you know how I am.
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Yeah. I'm over there hugging people,
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but with some of my babies, I'm really like, I don't actually
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hug them. I'm just rubbing their face,
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which is what I do with my kids. I just kind of like associate
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them as my child. Yeah, maybe if I was a more
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snuggly mom, maybe I would snuggle them more, but I just
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treat them like my child. Yeah, rubbing their face.
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Do like a face trace? Yeah, you said you're not a big
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hugger. I'm not.
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Yeah, I'm not. And some people will ask me for
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a hug on the way out. Yeah.
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Or can I touch your butt? Please let me just let me touch
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it one time. Oh my God.
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They do that, but that's that's a fucking prize piece right
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there. They love it.
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An asset for sure. It is imposition the ass.
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Oh, goodness, yeah, we've, you know, we did that Hot video too,
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and I think I'm going to make another one.
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But it's you pulling off those those stockings as pantyhose off
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your butt. And there's something about it.
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It is I mean it sent Charles like, you know, wow, he's like
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that. That is the the money piece
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right there and like it was awesome.
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That's a great. Picture like the lighting on it.
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Yeah, but I did like. It well, we need to redo another
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one and we'll do change up the lighting, yeah.
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Yeah, get some tripods. Absolutely, absolutely.
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I think too, we need, yeah, the tripod light and I think we need
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to do the lights around the room.
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Oh, I know. She talked about the Yeah, like
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what I gave you. Yeah, we got 2 sets.
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That's what we need to do. Sounds good we can get.
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That going, Oh yeah. So go back to the topic.
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The topic is aftercare. So what is aftercare for you?
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Like if you're doing a scene and it's you that is the submissive,
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what do you like to have done for you?
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I definitely cuddled a lot more kissed and almost feel like in a
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sexy way, like like like almost like when you kissed your wife
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and you're about to Make Love type of feeling.
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Yeah, that soft kisses on the neck and making you feel like I
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still care about you. I still think you're pretty even
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though now you're black and blue.
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Like like just feeling like still cared for.
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Like just because I hurt you doesn't mean I hate you.
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OK, well, I know a lot of people are just like, give me
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chocolate, give me cuddles, you know?
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Yeah. Well, I mean it.
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I mean how he makes me feel cared for is different.
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Like how you said, like just making dinner for him that day
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and making sure I bring the plate to him and just small
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things like that. I feel like he does do it, but I
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feel like we need a little bit more like snuggle time get
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people need don't understand the level of what physical contact
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can do for a person. Yeah, it it brings out dopamine,
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relaxes you, it lowers your your blood pressure and your heart
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rate. So I mean, there's it's all very
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healthy positive. Honestly, I'm just letting
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people know that you're in the dungeon right now.
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I am I. Am in the dungeon.
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Well I made I made one of my Subs cry, remember?
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Oh my. Goodness to tell.
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I kissed him on the cheek and I told him I was like, you're OK,
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you're safe. And that kind of pulled him back
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because, you know, he went too far in his brain.
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So it's like maybe sometimes not being in your full subspace and
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getting the punishment it, it's actually really hard on the
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brain because the subspace is almost like almost like a coping
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mechanism maybe. I'm not really sure but if
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you're not in it and you get a punishment, it's like more
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hurtful. Not just like pain wise.
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I mean the pain probably is more unbearable, but like just in
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your brain you're just like you can't understand it the same.
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Maybe because he felt at the time that he was really relaxed
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and the scene and he wasn't really in that moment thinking
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about why he lets you take control and why he's put himself
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in that position to have control.
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Oh, well, we, we talked about why and we've, we've, we've went
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over it several times. So we don't.
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Put it back. Up.
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But in general, like communication is what we came
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back down to. It's like communication and not,
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yeah, not leaving somebody out. Like if I'm helping you through
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a trauma and not knowing that there was a trauma I'm helping
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you through, Yeah. How am I supposed to know to be
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careful with this subject? Well, and, and that brings me to
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the next point is that, you know, people who have been
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traumatized, they come to us for the reason that they can
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reenact, they're seen in their mind under their own control,
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and they can be released from that, that that feeling of, of
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torment or upset. Guilt, yes, or pain that they.
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Yeah, that they have their own control and it's they're
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experiencing it in a way that they can.
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Yeah, like what you said like release it.
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Yeah. And, you know, it's so hard for
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a lot of people to let go of the things that they've had to
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endure in their life. And so, you know, for the
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average guy that comes in and they just want, you know, a
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regular scene because they've never experienced BDSM.
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It's more than likely they've never really thought too much of
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it and they really probably haven't experienced any type of
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trauma. So it's kind of like they're
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like, oh, OK, we're done. All right, great meeting you.
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You know, I'll call you when I'm in town again.
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It's one of those. I mean, you can tell when people
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have had problems and they just want to experience it.
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Exactly. As you see, the regulars are
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somebody that's they need it more, which means they have
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something they're trying to work through.
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Exactly. They've planned for it, they
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thought about it. So yeah, I think it's, I think
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it's pretty interesting. But I know that when I ask
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people, you know, about certain things, their trauma or their
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experiences and what they've had to endure, you know, a lot of
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times they don't want to connect that with the BDSM that we do.
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But I feel like. Almost accepting it is is the
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healing process. Almost absolutely.
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You have to bring those two together in your mind and then
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it becomes fun. You changed your trauma into
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something that's more lively in something easier to endure for
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everyday life. Absolutely and.
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I've worked through some stuff, just working here.
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The Dom, yeah, I'm, I mean spending time here as a Dom.
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Right. Well, and you, you told me, you
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said, you know, this is so empowering.
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Help me as a parent. Yeah, there's structure
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involved. Help me just get things more in
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order in my head. That's great.
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Mm hmm, that's great. It's almost like you can
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compartmentalize different things and like you said,
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organize your thoughts and everything.
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It's more relaxing. Yeah, I can believe it.
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Well, you know, Charles always says it is your medicine.
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Yeah, you know. And how my sub says is.
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This is your church? Yeah, that's true.
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You know, when you told me that, I thought, you know, that's what
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Brie always used to say. The dungeon was her church.
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It brings think. About the healing process, it
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makes sense. Though, yes, like yes indeed.
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You know, people associate BDSM with, like, the devil or, you
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know, I think it's literally the pain.
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Yeah, I do think it's pain. OK, yeah, I understand.
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Yes, we got pain involved, but some people need it.
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Yeah, and it doesn't always have to be though.
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Who? Did I talk to, I think it was
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still PO saying that, you know, as you get older, you you don't
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have nobody telling you what to do.
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So you have no real consequences, you know, have no
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like structure. So having this kind of gives you
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back that structure. So if you have like a really
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strict parent or you know, parent figure and then you're
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going through this, you're like you're able to, I don't know,
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release it in a way like, OK, I need structure.
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I'm not giving myself structure, structure.
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My parents did. Now I need it again.
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I'm not getting things done. I'm not taking going to the
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doctor when I need to be. I'm taking my medicine when I
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need to be. So it needs to be structured.
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Yeah, and that's. What we provide for.
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Some of them, you know, and that's where parents don't
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realize how they fuck up so bad too.
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You know, people don't even realize how bad they can fuck
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their. Kids because it makes it hard to
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function in the real world. It does.
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It does when they try to control every aspect of their kids life.
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It makes it where the kids can't do it for themselves.
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Exactly. It's such a way where they are
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now here. Yeah, yeah.
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I took care of a lady years ago when we had an assisted living
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facility and she was fairly young.
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She was like 5455 years old and she came in because she had
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literally nowhere to go. Her father was very prominent in
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his job. He made a ton of money, 6
15:30
figures all his life, all his career, and they adopted this
15:35
woman when she was a child. She said she was probably two or
15:39
three years old when she was adopted by them and they chose
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to not adopt anyone else. But they kept her and raised her
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and loved her as their own and they controlled every aspect of
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her life. Now when they finally passed,
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she was in her 40s and here I was meeting her and she was like
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5455 years old, something like that.
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Anyway, she'd gotten all this money that her parents left her
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and it was like $6 million. And let me tell you, she went
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through that $6 million in less than five years.
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And we have no idea how she spent it, what she spent it on
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because she let the house go into foreclosure.
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She lost this beautiful four bedroom, 5 bath house.
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I mean, she had nothing. She owned nothing but a used old
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car. And then I walked into the house
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and I was like, holy shit, it was so crammed full with junk
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and shit she's bought that it was literally coming out of the
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windows. That's wild.
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In the back 'cause. She was so suffocated that this
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was her letting loose. Yeah, freaking 40 something
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years old. Yes, and you can't even control
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it. Couldn't control it.
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Because, you know, like whenever college even shows that they're
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crazy, whenever they move out of the house and they have
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structure. Yeah.
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Or if you don't let your kids dye their hair when they're
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younger and they go crazy looking like their 30s dye in
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their hair crazy colors. Which is fine, but I'm just
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saying like. Yeah, it's because.
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It's whenever it's the right age.
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Exactly. It's about self-expression, yes.
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And getting to know yourself. Yes.
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Because now you're getting to know yourself at 30-40 years old
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and you're not liking yourself because of this and this and
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this. Yeah, Get to know yourself while
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you're younger and able. Can stabilize your own emotions.
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You know, I was having this conversation with one of my Subs
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and it was interesting because he was up here doing a session
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and you had Poe downstairs doing a session.
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And afterwards, after they both left, I said, you know, Liv,
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they both went to the same church.
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And I mean, we're not going to tell who is who.
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But my point of it is they both brought up the church they went
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to. So that leads into how the
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conformity of religion just fucks people.
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Yeah, with all the issues. That's why I.
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Feel like when people want to introduce it to their kids, and
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I'm not going to speak on everybody, I'm just saying like
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for myself, I want to introduce God to my kids.
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I want to introduce some more of a spiritual level, not a
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religion. Exactly because there's.
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So many different religions, yes, you know, So it's like, let
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me introduce this spiritually and then you choose your
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direction. I'm not going to choose your
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direction for you because you don't know where you're going to
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go. And it's just, you know, it's
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just like one big rabbit hole. Religion is so gosh, it's so
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frustrating. We're.
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Human, we make mistakes, and maybe those mistakes are being
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pointed out at church and making you feel like a Sinner.
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Or maybe you're just, you're sending in yourself and then
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you're listening to all these things and you feel like a
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hypocrite there. Yeah, when that's not what
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church is about. Churches is like a doctor's
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office. We're not going there because
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we're perfect. We're going there because we
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need a little help. Exactly.
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We'll say that for another episode, but I will say going
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back to the concept of aftercare.
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We're on. I don't even know what subject
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we were on you. Were on, yeah, aftercare.
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But the point of it is when, when you had yours down in the
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junction, I had mine up here. It was I would ask him little
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different things about church. I'm like, well, what did you
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have to do, you know? And it was just some of the
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things he told me. It was like, wow, you know, and
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I'm thinking, you know, and how does your mother treat you?
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And he's like, well, his mom's cold.
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They really don't have a great relationship.
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She's never been a very affectionate person.
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She's always found his faults before she did anything, you
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know, And I'm thinking, yeah, This is why you want to dress up
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as a Sissy maid. This is why you want to be
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called demeaning names and. Emasculated.
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You know This is why you want to be reminded that your Dick is a
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little turtle. I love, I love him so much
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though you. Gotta love him.
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He's a little giggle whenever you get on to him or something.
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It's so funny. He's so cute.
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He's so cute. That's.
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Funny, yes. Absolutely.
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Special place in our heart for a little.
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Absolutely, Justin, you are a little fucking slutty whore who
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has nothing but a little Dick and you're completely worthless
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and. He loves it.
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He loves it. His Dick will never satisfy a
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real woman. Like you know, he's at a loss.
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A man or a man, No and all he's good for a sucking Dick.
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That's it. Maybe not even.
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Having we need to. Teach him better.
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God he sucks at sucking Dick. Yeah, he really you think it's
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pretty self-explanatory, but. God, I've seen, you know, I
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always used to say, Oh yeah, you know, the, the trans people
21:06
really know how to suck Dick. And I still think I'm right with
21:09
that. I think trans people have it
21:11
down pat. I mean, because they have a
21:13
Dick, you would think they would know, but see, he's his too
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small. Yeah, no the.
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Genetic males know exactly how to suck Dick, but these other
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guys who aren't trans, who aren't cross dressers, who are
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just he is a cross dresser, but even long time cross dresser, a
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lot of these people do not know how to suck Dick.
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It's crazy. Well, we had to learn.
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Yeah, you have to learn, but yeah, sometimes it takes them a
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long time and a lot of Dicks. So let's line them up one day
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next week. Any volunteers?
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Oh my God that be a cool video. Just VIX and then yes, training.
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Yes, line them up. Oh my God.
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Fuck yeah. All right, so Liv did have an
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idea before we close out this episode and it was erotica.
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So if you like to write erotic stories, feel free.
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We had a gentleman a few weeks ago and I've already read his
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story on one of the bedtime stories.
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It was a little Horror Story, but it was a little love story
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how he met his his wife and it was a true story.
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It was very sweet. Yeah.
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But she turned his ass into a motherfucking pony.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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So if you have a cool story you want us to read it, by all
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means, make it good and send it in.
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And I'll pull it together and read it on a bedtime story.
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All right. So live until then.
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This has been the latest episode of.
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Call me Mistress, you go. And get that lingo.