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401: Why You're Struggling with Human Design (And How to Fix It) · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to flow without sacrificing results.
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Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: Hello, and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: And.
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Nicole Laino: And it's just you and I today, and I'm going to address a question in today's episode that I got asked in a group of entrepreneurs.
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Nicole Laino: A lot of them had been dabbling in human design, and they had been asking me questions.
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Nicole Laino: And then one of them was like, can you give me, like, your number one tip?
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Nicole Laino: Like, what's your number one thing that, like, everybody needs to know about human design and working with it?
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Nicole Laino: And I thought about it, and I honestly, I came up with two.
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Nicole Laino: There were two kind of equally important tips, so to speak.
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Nicole Laino: Human design isn't the type of, like, system that has lots of tips necessarily.
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Nicole Laino: It has instructions that you kind of play with and make your own.
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Nicole Laino: And it's this vast system that has so much depth that when it boils down to, like, what's a number one tip?
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Nicole Laino: I was like, huh?
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Nicole Laino: What is my number one tip with human design?
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Nicole Laino: What is the thing that I wish that everybody knew?
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Nicole Laino: What is it that.
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Nicole Laino: And that was how I got into thinking about this, was if I thought about it and I said, what is it that I wish everybody who came to work with me did?
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Nicole Laino: Or what is it that I wish my clients, I could get them passed faster?
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Nicole Laino: That was how I started to think about this.
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Nicole Laino: Cause I was like, give me a minute and let me come back to that.
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Nicole Laino: Like, I think I have something, but let me come back to you.
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Nicole Laino: And what I landed on were actually two things.
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Nicole Laino: There were two things that I thought, you know, I don't know if I could pick one of these.
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Nicole Laino: I think it has to be both.
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Nicole Laino: So.
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Nicole Laino: And nobody's ever too angry with, you know, sharing more than they asked for.
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Nicole Laino: So they got two tips instead of just one.
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Nicole Laino: And I figured this might be a great topic for the show and I could share this with you, everybody who's listening.
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Nicole Laino: Because if you are dedicated enough to listen to this show, to take time out of your day, if you come back time and time again, or even if this is your first time listening and you're just starting to dive into your human design, these tips will help you have greater success, certainly more fun with the system and you'll start to see whatever it is that you got into human design for.
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Nicole Laino: But particularly with business where we're looking to get results from it, we're looking for human design to deliver on something for us, which is tricky territory because it's hard to put a deadline on transformation.
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Nicole Laino: And that was how I kind of approached this.
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Nicole Laino: I came back and I was like, well, if everybody that I worked with did these two things, I know they would get to transformation faster.
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Nicole Laino: I know they would get what they were looking at of human design.
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Nicole Laino: In fact, I know they'd get more than they even knew was possible.
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Nicole Laino: And that's what I'm going to share with you today.
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Nicole Laino: Before we get started, I do want to mention that we have.
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Nicole Laino: If you're interested in human design for business, if you really want to know what it takes to grow a multi six figure business, a business that is profitable not just about revenue, not just about a vanity number of how much money you make.
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Nicole Laino: Because I hear entrepreneurs all the time, after they've gotten over the hump, of course, once they've righted themselves, they tell this story.
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Nicole Laino: But a lot of them will say that, you know, on Instagram and on social media and all of the other platforms, I looked like I was having this, you know, this ride and high life and making seven figures and doing all this in the house and all of that.
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Nicole Laino: And I was broke.
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Nicole Laino: Zero profit.
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Nicole Laino: And that I have been there, not zero profit.
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Nicole Laino: I don't know if I've been there, but I have been in that situation where I've had revenue but I did not have the profit to match.
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Nicole Laino: And now I'm very proud to say that we keep over six figures of income in this business.
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Nicole Laino: I take home more than six figures, but my business makes multiple six figures.
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Nicole Laino: And the reason that I do that is I care about my profit margins and I have systems built and I have a way that I have approached this through a lot of hard lessons, learned a lot of mistakes that I've made.
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Nicole Laino: And what I've done is I have put this together, an entire private podcast.
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Nicole Laino: It's 13 episodes.
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Nicole Laino: And it basically walks you through the whole process of creating an aligned and profitable business with human design.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so let's get started on these two tips.
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Nicole Laino: Now, when you're approaching human design, I often have people, you know, when they book readings with me or if they're in business by design with me, where we're working together really closely over a period of time, they will ask me questions like, you know, what does my chart say about this?
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Nicole Laino: Oh, I'm having this problem.
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Nicole Laino: What is my chart say about this?
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Nicole Laino: And the way that we're asking that question, usually I can hear it in their voice, I could hear it in their tone.
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Nicole Laino: I hear them wanting answer.
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Nicole Laino: And it's not that the chart can't provide answers, of course it can.
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Nicole Laino: But it doesn't provide direct answers the way that we necessarily want it to with a question like, what does my chart say about this?
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Nicole Laino: Because underneath that it's like, what should I do?
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Nicole Laino: And the chart gives you guidelines.
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Nicole Laino: The chart.
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Nicole Laino: I always say if you're looking for answers in the chart, you're probably going to be disappointed because they're not going to be as clear as you wanted them to be.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not saying it never happens.
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Nicole Laino: But in general, if you're looking at your life and you're saying, any problem I have, I'm going to go pull out my human design chart and I'm going to figure out why this is happening and what the answer is so I can fix it.
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Nicole Laino: There's a forcing nature to that.
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Nicole Laino: And what I find is that usually forces people into incorrect action because you're in your head, you're thinking about it, you're looking for answer.
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Nicole Laino: You're looking for logic.
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Nicole Laino: You're saying, okay, the chart tells me who I am, so it'll tell me why I'm having this problem.
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Nicole Laino: And the truth is that it can give you a lot of insight.
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Nicole Laino: It'll give you insight beyond your wildest dreams.
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Nicole Laino: But answers, usually what I find is that it puts people in their head more then they're not listening to their sacral.
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Nicole Laino: They're not following their strategy.
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Nicole Laino: They're.
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Nicole Laino: They're not following their authority.
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Nicole Laino: They're not really feeling into anything.
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Nicole Laino: So they're like giving their power away to the chart.
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Nicole Laino: And that's not what this is about.
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Nicole Laino: Human design is about putting the power back in your body.
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Nicole Laino: Human design is about opening you up to a new way of doing things into A new way of thinking and operating in life.
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Nicole Laino: So sometimes the first step is to stop looking for answers and to start looking for insight.
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Nicole Laino: Because what the chart will do is if you're looking for insight, you will never go hungry a day in your life, you will always have more inspiration than you know what to do with and what that does.
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Nicole Laino: When you look for insight and you're looking for inspiration and you're looking at the chart for, like, pathways into yourself, into deeply understanding yourself, that's how you get to master yourself.
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Nicole Laino: That is how you master yourself.
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Nicole Laino: Not from a way of, like, making sure you do everything right from this moment on, but to truly understand why you do the things you do, how to unwind some of those shadow patterns that you have and just deeply understanding yourself, having this deep personal connection to yourself and how you operate and what's true for you.
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Nicole Laino: What are your gifts hiding under those shadows?
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Nicole Laino: If you can get curious about them instead of feeling like they need to deliver on a result or to help you fix a situation in the moment, you'll start to see that every day is new insights.
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Nicole Laino: That's what planting the seeds are.
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Nicole Laino: When you're looking for insight, you will have seeds of inspiration planted within you.
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Nicole Laino: Where you're going about your day, and you're watching and you are operating and you're working and you're with your family, and there's going to be little ahas all throughout your day, all throughout your life.
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Nicole Laino: It's like everything starts to open up in a new way.
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Nicole Laino: You start to see yourself and see everyone else in a different way, and the dots start to connect and you start to see why you are where you are, why you are, who you are, and how to open up into, like, the next level of who you are.
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Nicole Laino: That becomes clear when you look for insight over answers.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so that's my first tip with Human Design.
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Nicole Laino: My second tip kind of goes hand in hand with this.
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Nicole Laino: It's not something you do, but it's something that you surrender to.
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Nicole Laino: And it's very much aligned with what we talked about.
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Nicole Laino: The second tip is to have patience with yourself, have patience with the process.
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Nicole Laino: Everybody comes in from a different place, right?
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Nicole Laino: We all come in, you might be looking at somebody else's success, and you hear that they were able to turn their life around in a year, or they were able to make this much money in a year or in two years or whatever it is.
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Nicole Laino: And you're like, I've been doing this four years and I'm way behind.
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Nicole Laino: Like, why isn't it happening for me.
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Nicole Laino: We all come into the game with a different hand, and some of us have a more difficult hand to work with, and that's okay.
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Nicole Laino: But be patient with yourself, with the process of working with your design and getting to know who you are and really becoming comfortable.
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Nicole Laino: Because embodiment is something that can happen very quickly, but what causes it to take more time is pushing.
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Nicole Laino: The watch.
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Nicole Laino: Pot never boils.
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Nicole Laino: That's exactly what we're talking about here.
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Nicole Laino: Are we there yet?
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Nicole Laino: Are we there yet?
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Nicole Laino: Are we there yet?
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Nicole Laino: Are we there yet?
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Nicole Laino: We've all been in the car with a kid yelling, are we there yet?
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Nicole Laino: Or we've been that kid.
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Nicole Laino: Are we there yet?
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Nicole Laino: And it just feels like it takes forever because they're clocking every second.
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Nicole Laino: If you're doing that with design, it will feel like it takes forever.
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Nicole Laino: And when it feels like it takes forever and then you get disappointed, and then you're not paying attention, and then you're not following it anymore, which we go back into our mental process behind it.
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Nicole Laino: How long is this going to take?
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Nicole Laino: When is it going to be over?
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Nicole Laino: When am I going to be there?
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Nicole Laino: With any type of personal growth, putting timing on it always screws it up.
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Nicole Laino: Money, mindset, all of these things, I'm going to make this much money by this date.
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Nicole Laino: The date is what screws it up.
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Nicole Laino: The money can happen much faster, or it can take much longer.
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Nicole Laino: The minute we let go of the hard deadline, the that we set for ourselves, that's the minute that our energy opens up.
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Nicole Laino: And human design is a system that requires your openness.
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Nicole Laino: It requires your patience.
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Nicole Laino: It requires you to surrender to the system.
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Nicole Laino: So those are the two areas that I would tell people, because this transcends type, this transcends profile, this transcends all of the pieces of the chart that.
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Nicole Laino: My advice then is the same for a projector, for a reflector, for a manifesting generator.
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Nicole Laino: Now, the way that patience shows up for you, the way you have to be patient, that will be dictated by your type, by your authority, by the rest of your chart, it'll tell you more about the detail of what you have to surrender to.
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Nicole Laino: But if I were giving that generic advice of what are the two most important things for you to focus on, or the things that I wish people would get sooner in this process?
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Nicole Laino: Because what happens when I see clients who finally let go, who finally stop forcing it?
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Nicole Laino: It's like magic.
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Nicole Laino: It's like they just feel like, oh, my God, it's all happening.
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Nicole Laino: Oh, my God, I see it.
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Nicole Laino: Oh, my God.
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Nicole Laino: And because I see this happen all the time as well.
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Nicole Laino: The answer isn't always what you need.
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Nicole Laino: Sometimes we're not ready for the answer.
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Nicole Laino: And this is where patience and looking for insight go hand in hand.
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Nicole Laino: I have clients that I have told in Business by Design.
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Nicole Laino: When you join the third tier, you get a private reading with me, you get a strategy call, you get these one one sessions with me.
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Nicole Laino: So I sit down with you right at the very beginning of your time in Business by Design and I do a business reading where I take you through your whole chart and I take you through all your business activations, your whole authority matrix, everything.
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Nicole Laino: I take you through the whole thing and I take what I know about your business and I try putting them together as much as I can.
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Nicole Laino: I try to connect those dots for you, to push you past the hard growing pains in the beginning.
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Nicole Laino: The goal with that is so that people aren't stuck studying their design and not moving on their business.
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Nicole Laino: We call it the fast track is what the third tier is called.
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Nicole Laino: We're literally fast tracking you past these parts where some people can get stuck for months.
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Nicole Laino: So that's the inspiration behind them.
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Nicole Laino: And I'll sit down in that business reading and I will take them through their chart and I will give them the answers and they won't take action on them.
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Nicole Laino: And I see this over and over again.
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Nicole Laino: I have clients where I'm like, they come to me with an aha.
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Nicole Laino: They come to me with something later on, you know, it might be six, seven months later sometimes.
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Nicole Laino: And they come to me and they're like, so I'm going to do this and I'm going to start these meetups and I'm going to start this community and I'm going to start to shift some of these things in my messaging and it's going to be more about this.
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Nicole Laino: And I'll say, you know, I think that's a great idea.
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Nicole Laino: I think I told you that in like week two of the program.
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Nicole Laino: But I'm so happy you're here.
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Nicole Laino: And that's not me.
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Nicole Laino: I just like to point these things out because it's not about me telling them I told you so.
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Nicole Laino: Although I lovingly say that sometimes.
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Nicole Laino: But I'm really, what I'm trying to let them and the rest of the group know is sometimes it isn't as easy as knowing sometimes we're not ready to take action and move in a different direction just because we know that's where we're supposed to go.
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Nicole Laino: Sometimes we need to catch up with the answer.
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Nicole Laino: So I have these clients that are four lines.
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Nicole Laino: And you know that I've seen this sort of path for.
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Nicole Laino: They weren't ready to walk that path yet.
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Nicole Laino: And that's fine.
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Nicole Laino: But this is why patience is so important.
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Nicole Laino: Because if you're not patient, then you think it's not working.
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Nicole Laino: And if you think it's not working, you might quit.
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Nicole Laino: And then you quit before you get ready for the path, and then you're stuck again.
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Nicole Laino: We're talking about something really big, like, you know, living your purpose.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not saying that it should be hard, but the idea that we just read something in a book or we sit down with someone for one hour reading, and they break it down for us and we're like, okay, good.
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Nicole Laino: Got my direction, know exactly where I'm going, live in my purpose.
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Nicole Laino: Now there's more work involved.
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Nicole Laino: All things in life take a certain level of commitment to really see them flourish.
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Nicole Laino: And sometimes our commitment is a commitment of our energy and our time.
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Nicole Laino: Sometimes it's a commitment us in the form of surrendering to this and to doing the work of deconditioning all the parts, all the layers that are keeping us from running with that answers.
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Nicole Laino: Some people I have where I give them the business reading and they're like, oh, my God, that was the permission I needed.
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Nicole Laino: Done, and they're off.
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Nicole Laino: That's great.
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Nicole Laino: A lot of those people have already peeled back a lot of their layers.
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Nicole Laino: They've already worked through their stuff and they are ready to take action.
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Nicole Laino: But you know what's interesting about those people, they have the patience too.
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Nicole Laino: They are very into doing the work.
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Nicole Laino: They show up as these beautiful, open, curious students of themselves.
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Nicole Laino: So they get the answer.
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Nicole Laino: They can run with it, but they're also, like, diving into their design and having so much fun with learning about themselves and deepening their connection with who they are and what they are here for.
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Nicole Laino: It's beautiful.
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Nicole Laino: The people I see struggle with this are the ones that want answer now that need everything to turn on a dime.
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Nicole Laino: They expect human design to be a silver bullet that's going to change their life overnight.
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Nicole Laino: And usually it's because they're in some kind of survival mode, which I have a lot of compassion for because I've been there myself.
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Nicole Laino: I need this to happen, and I need it to happen now because, you know, I need the money.
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Nicole Laino: I need this to get going, and I need it to happen now.
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Nicole Laino: I got bills to pay.
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Nicole Laino: Been there.
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Nicole Laino: I understand that.
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Nicole Laino: I have a lot of empathy for that.
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Nicole Laino: But I also understand because I've been there that forcing and pushing didn't help, that I could get things done.
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Nicole Laino: I didn't allow myself to get in my own way in those situations.
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Nicole Laino: But I didn't expect it all to turn on a dime.
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Nicole Laino: I showed up and I did the work and sometimes the work took longer than I had hoped.
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Nicole Laino: That's also why I'm here now.
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Nicole Laino: It's also why I'm here now, talking about having an aligned and profitable business.
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Nicole Laino: A business that supports me and that feels so wholly and completely mine and a reflection of who I am.
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Nicole Laino: And every day, because I'm a student of myself in a way that I'm just curious about everything, I grow and expand into this bigger version of myself every day.
17:43
Nicole Laino: If you want to know more about that, if you want to know more about how you can grow your aligned and profitable business, check out the Secret podcast.
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Nicole Laino: I lay it all out there for you and you can hop on in to your heart's content whenever the timing is right for you.
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Nicole Laino: We'll also have it all linked up in the show notes for you, so don't worry.
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Nicole Laino: I hope you found this episode helpful.
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Nicole Laino: I hope that you take these tips to heart and you start shifting things, being patient and compassionate and curious about yourself.
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Nicole Laino: Have fun with this.
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Nicole Laino: The more fun you have with it, the faster it will go.
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Nicole Laino: I promise you.
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Nicole Laino: If you've been forcing it to ease off on yourself, loosen the reins and if you have been relaxing into it to feel more empowered to lean back into this process, show up every day.
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Nicole Laino: Be committed to the work, but don't push yourself and make yourself feel like you're on some timeline that doesn't serve you or make yourself feel like the answers are in here.
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Nicole Laino: The answers are in you.
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Nicole Laino: Human design gives you the process and the framework to unlock the answers that are in you.
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Nicole Laino: A lot of us know that the answers are inside of us, but we don't know how to get them out.
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Nicole Laino: This is what human design helps us with.
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Nicole Laino: Human design helps you get the answers out.
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Nicole Laino: Okay.
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Nicole Laino: I hope you enjoyed this.
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Nicole Laino: I hope to see you in the next one.
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Nicole Laino: I appreciate you.
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Nicole Laino: And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human.
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Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design.
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Nicole Laino: We'll see you next time.
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Nicole Laino: We'll see you there.