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Episode 4: Let's Talk Trauma · Just Be True ~ A Soul-Led Podcast

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this episode, we will be discussing trauma and
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our body -based emotions. Please care for yourself
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during this. If you need to pause, skip, or come
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back later, if anything feels too intense, it
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is always your choice to stop and not continue
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or stop when you're in a more comfortable space.
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So this episode is for education and spiritual
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support. It isn't therapy or a substitute for
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medical care. If you're processing significant
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trauma, consider working with a licensed therapist
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or a qualified practitioner. So just to make
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sure you get the quality care in which you deserve.
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We're opening to a tender yet. powerful conversation
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about something that touches every one of us
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in some way, and that is trauma. And before we
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begin, please notice your surroundings. Are you
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somewhere where you feel safe enough? You feel
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supported? And your privacy is respected. If
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not, consider listening to this at a later time.
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It's not like you're going to be asked to share
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your trauma, but sometimes these conversations
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can be triggers and just want to be mindful of
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that with everyone. So trauma is not always what
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we think it is. I don't want to get into the
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clinical definitions of trauma, but this is what
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I will say. There are several different types
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of trauma. There's acute. chronic and complex
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we may have experienced one of these if not all
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of these trauma isn't just about what happened
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it's about how we hold on to what happened in
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our bodies it's the relationship we have with
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that emotional event that impacted us deeply
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whether it was physical emotional are something
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we simply witnessed and absorbed. There's no
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criteria that says your trauma has to lurk a
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certain way to matter. If it hurt you, if it
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changed you, if it still echoes in your life,
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it's valid. And it is not for anyone to tell
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you whether your trauma is valid or serious.
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or anything like that. It's yours. It's what
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your experience is, and it's valid just with
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that simple fact right there. What I would do
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want to say is that when we hide our pain, it
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doesn't go away. It finds a home in our body.
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Maybe it shows up as tightness in our shoulders,
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fatigue that lingers, or health issues that seem
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to have no explanations. our body remembers what
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our mind tries to forget. So, our bodies are
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incredible storytellers. They remember what the
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mind forgets. Every emotion, every experience,
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every moment of pain or fear that leaves an energetic
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imprint. When those emotions aren't felt or expressed
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they don't just disappear they settle somewhere
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in the body you may be sweeping it under the
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rug thinking oh if i put it up under here i don't
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have to face it your body holds on to that so
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you're not doing yourself any favor whatsoever
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if you're one of these that said yeah we're not
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going to talk about that okay but your body is
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going to remember it and it's going to hang on
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to it And it's going to show up somewhere later.
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You may not see it now. You may not see it tomorrow.
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You may not even see it in 10 years from now.
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But it will show up at some point. Guarantee
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you. So from a psychological standpoint, trauma
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activates the nervous system. Floods the body
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with stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol.
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If that activation never fully resolves, the
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body stays in a subtle state of defense, like
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it's still waiting for danger, like the next
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shoe to drop, like always looking over your shoulder,
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concerned about hot things. Over time, this unprocessed
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energy becomes stored as tension, tightness,
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pain, and fatigue. And it hides, and it comes
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out sometimes. the least expected moment, or
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what you may think is the least expected moment.
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You might feel it in your shoulders and your
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neck, carrying burdens or responsibilities that
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aren't yours. You might feel it in your heart
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and your chest, grieving loss or heartbreak that
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was never fully released. This doesn't necessarily
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have to be loss of someone who's passed on. This
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could be... A loss of someone who you were in
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a relationship with and you're no longer in that
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relationship for whatever reason. This could
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be a loss of a pet that you never fully grieved.
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So the loss could be many things. Stomach. Stomach
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issues can be held by anxiety, fear, or experience
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that you could not digest. Like you couldn't.
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fully resolve or deal with lower back many times
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i'm gonna say like most of your back but lower
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back in particularly you may feel unsupported
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or unsafe i'm in our throat ah truths unspoken
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or emotions held in silence and i'm gonna tell
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you like i was really good at that right i just
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zip it up right It's not safe for me to say this
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around you. So I'm going to zip it up and I'm
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not going to say anything. And I was holding
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it in. And so that might be why I have thyroid
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disease today. I have learned that it's safe
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to speak up and it's safe to share. And I still
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work on this today. Just because I've identified
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it and I've worked through it doesn't mean that
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that working through never stops. So energetically.
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These stored emotions can create blockages in
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our body's natural flow. What many traditions
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call stagnant energy or dense vibration, the
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body tries to communicate through sensations.
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These sensations can be aches, tension, even
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reoccurring illnesses. It's not punishment, it's
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communication. If it helps, there's one you can
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do like... a simple sentence to kind of start
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that communication. You have to listen, right?
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So you can start by saying, today my body speaks
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in my, we'll say lower back, my body speaks in
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my lower back. And it's saying that I don't have
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support on this new adventure that I'm going
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on. All right? You don't have to fix it. You
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just have to witness it, right? So the healing
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begins when we listen. And so when we allow ourselves
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to feel what was once too painful to face, we
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open space for the energy to begin to move again,
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to begin to shift and change. Breath work, movement,
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like physical movement, walking, meditation,
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Reiki. journaling, one of my favorites, and forgiveness
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work. All of these things help restore trauma.
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So your body, our bodies are not betraying us
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by holding us in. It is inviting us to reconnect.
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Each ache or discomfort is a whisper from your
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soul saying, hey, there's something here ready
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to be loved and to be freed. So when we go back
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to the sentence that I stated earlier, today
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my body speaks in my, fill it in, and it's saying
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that, and fill it in. Even though you don't have
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to fix it at this very moment and you're just
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witnessing it, I encourage you to ask, what do
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I need at this moment? And listen for that answer,
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right? It could just be simply self -love. It
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could be like, I've got to get these emotions
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out and I've got to set them free. It could be,
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I need somebody to talk to. So whatever that
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is, I encourage you to step into that. So how
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do we begin to heal? The first step is to simply
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acknowledge it. To allow yourself to talk about
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what happened. Even if your voice shakes while
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you're doing it. Even if you start getting into
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tears. If you can reach out to a trusted therapist
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or counselor, that would be amazing. If that's
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not available to you, I would say find a friend,
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a mentor. Someone who can hold space for you
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without judgment. Someone that can be there and
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just... Just simply listen. They don't have to
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provide advice. They don't have to provide you
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anything. Just the safety of being able to listen
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and consult, right? The safety of being able
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to, what's mentioned here stays here, right?
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So you don't have to worry about anything, right?
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So they're holding a space that is safe and judgment
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-free. Very most important thing. If speaking
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out loud is too hard and sometimes speaking out
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loud these things and saying them out loud is
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so hard. I mean, I know, right? Then write about
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it. Journal about it, right? Put it down in writing.
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So I don't care if it's like pen or paper journaling
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or if it's typing notes in your computer or on
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your phone. Like, as long as you're moving that,
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right? And so you may want to start by asking
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some things in your journey, like, what emotions
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have been asking for my attention lately? What
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emotions have been asking for my attention lately?
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And see what emotion comes up. Do tears start
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flowing? let the tears flow does anger start
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creeping in okay be angry for a minute right
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i mean it's okay it's just you and your journaling
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no harm there next i would ask is what would
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support have looked like to me back then so what
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kind of support in the moment of the trauma that
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you witnessed, or the moment shortly thereafter,
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what would a support look like for you? Right?
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And then identify what that is. And then follow
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up on that. What is one, just one small way I
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can offer that support to myself now? Is it listening?
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We're going to practice listening. Right? Is
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it sharing? You're sharing through your journaling.
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Right? So you're giving yourself that. Is it
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unconditional acceptance? Give yourself that
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unconditional acceptance. Right? Lack of judgment?
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Release all the judgments around it. Right? And
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be able to hold that space for yourself. And
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then maybe, you know, another question is, what
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boundary would help my nervous system? feel safer,
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right? So what kind of boundary do you need to
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set? What kind of boundaries do you need to set
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in your life to feel safer, right? And then see
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about being able to follow through with setting
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those boundaries and putting them into practice.
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Even if that means telling someone that you love
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dearly, but that has may have been a cause of
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further trauma. Being able to just let them know,
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hey, I need time to myself. I need time to heal
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and I need space. And I'll let you know when
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I'm ready. It's perfectly okay to put a relationship
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on pause so that you can heal. Especially if
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that relationship, you know, was the trauma.
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Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Right? Because
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you have to begin to heal yourself. So recording
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your thoughts or your emotions is like the most
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important thing that can allow the words to move
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out of your mind and into expression. I love
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that. Allowing the words to move out of your
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body and into expression. Because once you allow
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ourselves to feel, to begin to heal, we begin
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to free ourselves. At that same moment. In my
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own journey, I carried deep wounds from childhood
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abuse. Deep wounds. And for many years, I worked
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to release this pain. But the full freedom of
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that didn't come until my abuser passed away.
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And my abuser didn't pass away until I was like
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in my 40s. But once my abuser passed, I believed
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I finally had the permission to talk about what
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I had experienced more openly. This time, I didn't
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speak out to gain permission from others or sympathy
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from others. I did it purely for me. For me to
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allow myself the freedom to scream, and believe
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me, I screamed. To yell, I yelled, and I just
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got it out. And it happened like time and time
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and time again there for a little while. Many
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times I was screaming and yelling at my abuser
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in an empty room by myself. But I was letting
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it out. And this, you know, these were huge moments
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for me. And finally it came the moment that was
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most bittersweet. And yet it allowed me to finally
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breathe, to forgive, and to reclaim my peace.
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And what I learned from that experience is that
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dealing with what happened wasn't on anyone else's
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timeline. It was on mine. So whatever your experience
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with, however your healing takes place, Whatever
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it looks like, it's all yours. And it all happens
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your way, right? And it happens what best happens
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for you. It's never too late. It's never too
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far gone, right? And the moment that you choose
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to look at what's happened and what you've been
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hiding from and... you allow this healing to
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begin that's the perfect moment for you and that's
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all that matters I don't care if it happened
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two minutes ago or 40 years ago it doesn't matter
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the timing of what's going on is absolutely perfect
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for you because it's on your time so together
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you know they with all of these things together
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realizing that Whether it's journaling or talking
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or whatever you got to do for that. Pulling all
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these things together to help you feel. To help
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you heal. And to rest in your own mind. There's
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no shame in having gone through trauma. Many
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of us have done it, if not all. And so, you know,
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wear it kind of like a badge of honor. But allow
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it to heal. Stop holding it in our bodies. The
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majority of my trauma that I held was in my lower
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back. And it was hard. When I shared my story
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with the individual that mattered most, the lack
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of support. That I received from that individual.
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Literally. I mean almost literally broke my back.
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So. Me opening up and sharing. My story. With
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someone that. You know was very important to
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me. And that I was looking for. I don't know
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really what I was looking for. Right? Acknowledgement,
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forgiveness, I don't know. But there was absolutely
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no support from that person. And there was more
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accusations than support. And that hurt. That
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hurt terribly. And so literally two days later,
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I hurt my back, my lower back. I got my sciatic
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nerve. got ended up being pinched and literally
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I lived on the floor for three months and it
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was oh it was rough I mean the pain was just
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enormous the emotional pain was just as bad and
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so then I started dealing with the The reality
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that the expectation of what I was hoping for
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didn't happen. The reality of the support that
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I wanted wasn't there. But all of this, I was
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looking outside of me. Every bit of it, I was
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looking outside of me. I separated myself. I
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set my boundaries. Important to set your boundaries.
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I set my boundaries. And I started working through
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the pain. And I started working through the pain
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myself. And so, yeah, I screamed and yelled in
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a room, right? I said what I had to say. I said
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things that I never felt it was safe for me to
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say. I let the anger out for the first time.
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after like 30 years right um it was freeing um
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at the same time right um and then the amazing
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thing about it is yes for like three months i
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basically lived on the floor but um i was supposed
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to go for a no i did have you know modern medical
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help. I went to an orthopedic, you know, about
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my back. They gave me exercises and stretches
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to do and I started doing those. There was supposed
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to be a series of three shots that I was supposed
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to take for my back. I only had to do one. The
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other two I never had to go back for. Through
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exercise, determination, And going through my
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own emotional healing process, I didn't have
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to do the other two shots. I mean, I was better
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than I ever was before. And so, you know, realizing
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for me, one, letting the emotions out, anger
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out, because there was a lot of anger there.
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I'm letting the disappointment free. I'm held
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quite a bit. But what it is, is the support that
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I needed, the forgiveness that I was looking
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for, I turned inward and I found it within myself.
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I was no longer looking for it outside. Now,
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I'm not saying that to say, hey, you got to find
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it all within. No, sometimes you need to find
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it outside. Sometimes you need that outside support.
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. This
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is just what I did. So I'm not saying that necessarily
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everything that I did is right for everyone.
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This was what was right for me. And so what I'm
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saying is find what's right for you. Whatever
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healing process is right for you, you find what's
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right for you. Stick with it. Know that you deserve
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it. And find your support system. So, you know,
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healing trauma isn't about forgetting the past.
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I never forgot the past. It's about transforming
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your relationship with it. And that's what I've
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done, right? So every tear, every breath, every
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act of self -compassion brings you closer to
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wholeness. So being able to embrace that and
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bring that in. So today, I say take a moment
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to thank your body. Thank you. Give it a hug,
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right? It has carried you through. everything
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you thought you couldn't survive and it's still
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here and so are you guiding you towards peace
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right so you can simply start by saying something
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like i honor my body's wisdom i trust my soul's
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timing i am healing in love so let's say that
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again but just a little bit slower i honor my
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body's wisdom I trust my soul's timing. I am
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healing in love. So I hope you can carry that
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with you for the rest of the day. After this
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episode, drink some water. Step outside if you
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can. Place a warm compress on an area that has
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held some sensation or some tension for you.
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If big feelings have surfaced, plan a gentle
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activity like drinking some warm tea, stretching
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or journaling, right? So you can move on with
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the rest of your day. So I would like to say
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that if you are in the U .S. and you need immediate
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support, you can call or you can text 988 for
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the Suicide and Crisis Hotline. If you're outside
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of the U .S. please contact your local emergency
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number or a national crisis hotline in your country.
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Just know that there is support and help out
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there available for everyone. You're just finding
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what's right for you. So thank you again for
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could share this experience. And until next time.
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Bye.