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When a Door Closes: Feeling the Intensity and Trusting Divine Timing · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not a something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise, sensitive authentic self. So last week
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I returned after a break and episode 42, trusting
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what you already know, embracing sensitivity,
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the body's signals and the inner voice. So I
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reflected on the bridge between science and soul.
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drawing from quantum biology, psychoneuroimmunology,
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biological decoding, astrology, and human design
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to illuminate what the body's communicating.
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Because, you know, this is something that has
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been part of my awakening journey, you know,
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since 2008. Just like... exploring like all these
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various ways to understand what's going on with
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our body and what it's communicating. Because
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like many of you, probably, you know, I was raised
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in a family that, you know, wasn't really connected
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to, you know, our body and our history, in a
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sense of, you know, what Do we understand, you
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know, about how to care for our body? And, you
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know, I always appreciate when the women that
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I have the honor of working with, you know, also
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share about their childhood experiences and,
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you know, how sometimes there's quite similarities,
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you know, especially when it's, you know, a similar
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generation, of course. But beyond that, I just
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really feel as though this episode is really
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talking more about the soul level. Right? Like,
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again, when we're when we're talking about our
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body, like last week, and I shared how, you know,
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when my son had some really significant abdominal
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pain, like how I approached it, which is very
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different than I used to. And of course, my first
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children who are now adults, got from me, and
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I was just really grateful that I had expanded
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my awareness and understanding. and capacity
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to support him and help him understand, you know,
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what his body's communicating and that, you know,
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running to someone else and taking their perspective,
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whether for many that's a medication or a procedure
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a test you know which some are very invasive
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and some you know uh put you in a position where
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you don't get to make the decision because you're
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sedated you know what's going to happen next
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and so Again, I'm bringing it back to we each
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have our own ability to tune inward more and
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to really connect with what is, you know, our
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inner guidance, you know, bringing up for us
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to be with. And when I reflect on like the soul
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level of our journey, you know, each of us, of
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course, understanding that to varying degrees.
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And that was actually something I was even thinking
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about as I was walking this morning, like, hmm,
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you know, when people are having this kind of
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experience, is that because they're like a newer
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soul? And so this is, you know, what they're
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here to experience on planet Earth versus others,
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right? Which you may have heard in other episodes
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where I have absolutely been questioning, you
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know, like, are those of us who are highly sensitive,
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you know, older souls in the sense of, you know,
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I guess more advanced, but it doesn't mean that
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life is easy, right? It just means we have different
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capabilities. And I'm certainly one to want to
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hone in like, okay, so if I am an old soul, you
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know, and I have this advanced capacity, what
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am I doing with it? You know, how am I being
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with it in a sense and understanding it? Because
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planet Earth definitely has a lot of things going
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on. And where we give our attention, you know,
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is what grows. So I'm very selective in, you
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know, what am I going to focus on? So where that
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brings me today is so much is shifting in my
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own personal world. And I have definitely talked
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about my experience, you know, and training in
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the human design system. I am certified as a
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BG5 career and business consultant, which is
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the business side of human design. And human
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design is a synergy of Eastern and Western astrology,
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the Kabbalah, the Hindu Brahman chakra system,
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the 64 hexagrams. So the Chinese I Ching, right?
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And then our specific birth data right and and
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then there's a way to read this human design
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to help us understand like okay well what does
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that mean for our experience something that i
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experienced in that training which began 10 years
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ago um was you know There were certain instructors
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who were really looking at the calendars, you
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know, and saying like the different planets,
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you know, on this day and that. And, you know,
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well, we don't want to do this on that day. And
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you do want to do this on that day. And I just
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felt like this is a lot, right? Like it's a lot
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to learn the human design system. It's a pretty
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complex interpretation for each person. But I
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just felt like that's too much. Like I need to
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be in the now, which is my design. My sun sign
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is Gemini and in human design, it's the gate
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of now. So I definitely am not somebody where
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I'm like gonna. you know, look at what day it
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is and the date and then look at a chart and
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go, Oh, I shouldn't do that that day. That's
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just not me, right? And I'm not saying that that
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isn't helpful and supportive to other people
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if it is wonderful. And that's your design, right?
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But for me, I'm all about living in the now being
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fully present, and feeling whatever I need to
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feel and becoming aware of what is there for
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me. So I definitely am more interested in astrology
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lately. And I've definitely been learning the
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more specific nuances about my birth chart in
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that sense. And I've also been more interested
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in, you know, what is going on astrologically
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and, you know, with the cosmos and all of that.
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And when I, you know, reflect on okay august
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12th was a solar eclipse and we're coming up
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in the next day or so with a lunar eclipse and
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all that has come into my awareness is is is
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about like what doors are actually closing you
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know and it's it's really just interesting
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to To see the doors that are closing in ways
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that surprise me, you know, things that I thought
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would continue forever. Right. But those doors
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are closing and some of those things are from
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15 years. And I have to say that I was so honored
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to have a conversation with one of my adult children
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about one of those doors. you know, kind of the
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response and even sharing my own words of wisdom
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that I had shared, you know, years ago with them.
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And it was just like, Oh, thank you. Thank you
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so much. Like, you're right, you know, because
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sometimes we can get caught up in like, but I
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invested so much time. So much money, right?
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Like so much resources, so much love, right?
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So much time, attention, whatever it may be.
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And sometimes it's difficult when a door closes,
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right? And I just really want to honor that whatever
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you're going through in this eclipse week, right?
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Like really feel. what that's bringing up for
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you because it's important you know whatever
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we've invested our time attention energy into
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right like that's an extension of what we value
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and Because a door closes doesn't mean that,
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you know, it was ever wrong or bad or, you know,
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that we've somehow failed that that door is closing,
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right? It's just one of those moments to reflect
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on. We never know when someone or some situation,
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right, is showing up for a reason, a season or
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a lifetime, as they say, right? But it is important
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to feel. what you're feeling. And I really want
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to speak to that because as sensitive individuals,
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um, and I know this firsthand, right? I'm definitely
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a highly sensitive woman, and have been a
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mom to highly sensitive kids and, and just obviously
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the honor and privilege of supporting other sensitive
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women who are waking up to the gift that it is
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right which doesn't make it easy but when
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we wake up to what it really means to be in the
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minority with this sensitivity trait there's
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a lot that can shift and i want to just take
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a moment and honor like each and every one of
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you for whatever you've gone through, right?
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I honor myself. I honor my children, you know,
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um, the different things that we've each experienced
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and that when a door closes, right? Like it's
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actually demonstrating our own growth, right?
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Like we are moving forward, we are moving on
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from something that was not serving our highest
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and greatest good for the long term. And so,
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again, feel what you need to feel in these situations.
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And then realign with you, with your breath,
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with your body, you know, and just be with those
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feelings. Because sometimes It is. There's grief.
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There's sadness. There's disappointment, right?
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Like, of course, you want to feel that all that
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you put into something, you know, flourishes.
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And that's not what every one of these relationships
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and situations is about, though. And sometimes
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that's just difficult for us to acknowledge.
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I just want to honor that for you, if that's
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what's happening for you right now. And certainly
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what I have been doing for myself. Yeah. And
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I just, you know, I think the other thing that
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was coming up for me is, you know, when I'm supporting
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women and I'm hearing you know about the difficulties
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um right like the intensity that we as sensitive
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women feel things is really inexplainable. And
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it certainly is different for each of us. None
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of us know what it feels like to be in each other's,
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you know, full experience. But the intensity
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that's there is real for each of us. And what
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I notice is, and of course, this is observing
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myself, in addition to observing the amazing
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women who I have the pleasure of talking with
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um is that sometimes the intensity feels unbearable
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and we just want to escape and so sometimes we
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are literally not feeling able to just be with
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the intensity, because we just want it to go
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away. You know, and I know that through my own
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experience over the last 15 years, you know,
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there were so many times when I was just like,
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I just need to get as far away as possible. Right,
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like literally did. And the women that I support
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as they talk about their experiences, too. It's
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really important that we can pause, right? Take
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a break and breathe love at the peak of these
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moments, right? Because when we are just trying
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to run away, escape it, you know, it doesn't
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change the situation or the experience, right?
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We're just passing it by and it invites it to
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keep coming back. right? And that's what's really
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important to understand is because we circle
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a similar experience, you know, relationship,
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whatever the dynamic is, right? Repeatedly, it
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doesn't mean it's wrong or bad, or that we are
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not growing and evolving, right? I mean, this
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is why I, you know, in addition to being a holistic
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psychotherapist and integrative health consultant,
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you know, I do refer to myself as a spiral guide
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because that brings in that soul level of understanding,
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you know, that it's part of our soul's evolution
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to really feel what these experiences are bringing
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up for us to really understand it. And once we
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do, that's when it becomes a little bit easier.
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And that's when it becomes possible for a door
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to close that needs to close, because then it
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primes, you know, the ability to step into something
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new, to welcome something new, whether it's a
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relationship, right? A work opportunity, again,
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whatever the opportunity is. it allows you to
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shift, right? Like we're vibrational beings.
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And so when we do release what no longer serves
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us, right? And we truly be connected and true
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to ourselves, you know, that allows us to shift.
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and step into something greater that previously
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was not available to us. And again, not available
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isn't because there's anything wrong or bad,
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right? It's just it's not that timing yet. So
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everything is truly, I say, divinely timed and
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orchestrated, right? And that's not always easy
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to navigate. I know you truly do. But this is
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where, you know, I'll hear some people say like,
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oh, this was so random, you know, and that is
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one way to look at how things experience, you
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know, or how things unfold in life. Like, oh,
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this is random. This happened, you know, and
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I may have looked at life that way before. I
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don't really recall. But since my whole awakening,
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I definitely have come to understand how. Everything
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is truly divinely timed and orchestrated. And
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the more we can trust in ourselves, right? And
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in our connection to the vastness, to the something
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greater than ourselves, right? That one source,
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whatever you call it, God, goddess, mother, father,
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God, you know, universal mind, universal intelligence,
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quantum field. There's so many. Different words,
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it doesn't matter. What matters is what you feel
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connected to, right? And to know that you are
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not alone, that you are supported. And the more
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we can really pause when something is really
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uncomfortable and to just feel it, you know,
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then we're able to see things more clearly and
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move forward with greater ease. So let's take
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a break and breathe love together. This seems
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like a good moment to do that. So just as a reminder,
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you know, take a break and breathe love from
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my perspective is you honor you and what feels
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true to you. Each episode I guide in. various
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ways. So it's not just one specific breathing
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practice. And when I am supporting women, I do
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teach many different kinds of breath practices
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and when they might be helpful. So if you have
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breathing practices that work for you, and it's
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different than the one I'm guiding through, of
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course, honor the one that feels best and true
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for you. But in this moment, I invite you to,
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you know, let's start today with rubbing your
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hands together and just feeling the sensation
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of rubbing your hands together. You know, just
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tune into your hands, just feeling that movement,
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whether you're going back and forth with them,
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making circles, you know, you do you. And then
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I invite you to slow the movement of your hands
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down. And then just separate your hands, just
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like a half to an inch. And just tune in and
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see what you sense. Can you feel the energy moving
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through your hands? Can you feel your fingers
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tingling? You know, just pay attention there
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first. Then I invite you to place one hand on
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your heart and the other hand on any part of
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your body where... it feels attention is needed
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and if no particular place you know calls to
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you then i invite you to put it on your belly
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and then just take a nice deep inhale through
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your nose really lengthening your spine and then
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take a second quick inhale and then a nice long
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and slow exhale out your mouth and honor your
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pace however deep that can go for your inhale
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and your exhale. But again, deep inhale through
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your nose, second inhale, and then nice release
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out your mouth. And just remember you're releasing,
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relaxing and letting go on that exhale. And when
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you're inhaling, you're strengthening, lengthening
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that spine. Second inhale, right? You're receiving
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more love and light. And then exhale long and
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slow, just letting go, relax. And I invite you
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to continue with this if that feels best for
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you as I continue to talk. I'm a big fan of the
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number three, you know, but I certainly guide
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women beyond three when we're in a session. So
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just honor what feels good for you right now.
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So, you know, I just want to thank you, you know,
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thank you for being a listener here. Thank you
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for, you know, living life in the way that you
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are because You know, each of our choices, you
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know, ripples out and influences each other.
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And, you know, being a sensitive soul, a sensitive
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individual, it's not the easiest path to walk.
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And I do believe that, you know, what we said
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yes to coming into this lifetime is what we've
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been living through. I want to invite you to
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release, you know, whatever guilt or shame you
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may be carrying in this moment. around you know
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either how you've handled something in the past
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or you know something that didn't work out that
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you had thought would or you know just something
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where you felt like you were doing your best
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you gave your all and something just changed
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and you can't explain it you know but it's important
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to feel you know, what you need to feel and also
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to be able to release it because you deserve
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the freedom to move on, to move on from past
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experiences that felt really heavy and may have
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created a lot of pain you know not only for you
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but for others you know and to just remember
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that you are a divine human being and so you
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are here to live and learn and love and grow
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and there's no one right way there's no one right
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um you know career path or educational you know
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uh curriculum You know, we truly are all very
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unique individuals and here to experience all
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that we can. So. I do want to share with you
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that my own personal journey, as I mentioned,
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with the solar eclipse and the lunar eclipse
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coming and my own travels, you know, I'm just
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amazed by how connected we are, you know, and
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how much we can recognize and understand with
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what's going on in the cosmos. And so I am someone
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who's definitely enjoying, you know, chatting
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with, joining together with others who enjoy
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these types of conversations, you know, and are
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fascinated with astrology or human design or,
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I mean, I'm into numerology and I love. the exploration
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of ontology, cosmology, cosmogony. Like there's
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so much and probably my, my Gemini sun. Right.
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Um, but anyway, I have been, you know, closing
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the door on some, uh, business platforms and
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have stepped into some new ones that I just feel
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really excited about. And so I wanted to invite
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you there. Um, my rise and realign. um, newsletter,
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it continues to be available on LinkedIn, but
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it's also now available in Substack. And that's
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where, you know, the podcast will also come through
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in that newsletter. Um, so I'm, I'm creating
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a space there for rise and realign community.
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Um, to chat in between the weekly podcast episodes.
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But I just invite you to just visit my new website,
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realignwithmelissa .com. And you can see all
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that I'm up to as far as how I support women,
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you know, whether it's holistic psychotherapy,
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like I said, in Massachusetts, California and
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Arizona, therapy intensives, health consulting.
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but also my spiral guide for sensitive and strong
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women. So it's a place where we can come together,
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you know, at the equinoxes and the solstices.
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You know, it's where I write a new moon letter.
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Yeah, and my new... um six month realignment
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group for your sensitivity is intelligent design
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that also kicks off in september so i invite
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you to explore any of these ways to walk with
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me if something in today's conversation did resonate
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with you um but again i truly truly appreciate
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you being here And so as always, you know, before
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we close, I want to continue to invite you to
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return to your breath, to your body, and to what
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feels true for you right now. There's nothing
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you need to fix. Just notice what's here. Where
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the heart leads, the body remembers, and the
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soul awakens. As a reminder, we are here together
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to rise, reclaim, remember. So as always, I'm
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grateful you're here. Your presence is important.
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Your voice matters. You have infinite value.
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And so take good care of you. Much love and light.