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The Season Of Gratitude Part2 · Have A Little Faith with Delilah

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  Speaker 1: Greetings, my friend. Hello, Hello, Hello, are you enjoying this
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  Speaker 1: season of Thanksgiving? You know, I realized a few years
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  Speaker 1: ago after I lost my son Sammy in twenty twelve,
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  Speaker 1: that the holidays are like a huge speaker system. They
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  Speaker 1: amplify everything. Whatever you're feeling, whatever you're experiencing. Come November, December, Thanksgiving, Hanukkah,
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  Speaker 1: Christmas season, everything is amplified. So if you're joyful, if
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  Speaker 1: you're falling in love, or things are going well, you're
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  Speaker 1: flying high as a kite. You're at the top of
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  Speaker 1: your game. You can leap tall buildings. You're so excited.
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  Speaker 1: But if you're grieving or struggling, oh my gosh, the
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  Speaker 1: holidays are are so hard to get through. I shared
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  Speaker 1: with you last week. You will find the subject of
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  Speaker 1: gratitude woven in every one of my shows. Every night
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  Speaker 1: I go on the air, I share my heart, and
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  Speaker 1: my heart is grateful. During the holidays, that gratitude can
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  Speaker 1: be amplified because we call it Thanksgiving. You know, gratitude
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  Speaker 1: is easy to feel when things are going well, when
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  Speaker 1: you found the love of your life, when your children
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  Speaker 1: are thriving and living their best life in school, when
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  Speaker 1: you don't have economic challenges or instability, or relationships that
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  Speaker 1: are challenging, and especially grief. I want to appeal to
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  Speaker 1: you again that those challenging moments, that, my friend, is
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  Speaker 1: when you need gratitude the most, the only thing, the
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  Speaker 1: only thing that kept me somewhat sane after I lost
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  Speaker 1: my first son, Sam, and then my son Zach, and
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  Speaker 1: then are my step son Ryan. The only thing that
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  Speaker 1: kept me saying was forcing myself to remember how blessed
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  Speaker 1: my life had been by their presence and recognizing their lives. However,
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  Speaker 1: brief were a gift to me, to my heart, and
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  Speaker 1: just because God called them home before I wanted him
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  Speaker 1: to doesn't diminish or negate that gift, that blessing when
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  Speaker 1: you can focus on the gift, on what you did have,
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  Speaker 1: on the goodness in your life, instead of on the grief.
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  Speaker 1: Not that you shouldn't grieve, you should, but when you
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  Speaker 1: can find gratitude for the gift of love, it makes
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  Speaker 1: everything just a little bit better. Next up in today's
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  Speaker 1: podcast of How a Little Faith We Have, Gianna Gianna
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  Speaker 1: is a long time listener who basically grew up with
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  Speaker 1: me I'm Mama Delilah on the radio. Uh She shared
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  Speaker 1: on my show about her grandmother, the woman who raised her.
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  Speaker 1: Gianna is missing, this wonderful woman tonight, but her gratitude,
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  Speaker 1: her gratitude is so evident even in the midst of
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  Speaker 1: her deep grief. Hony, my name is Tianna Gianna, what
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  Speaker 1: a pretty name. What can I do for you?
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  Speaker 2: Thank you? Well, I just wanted to say thank you
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  Speaker 2: for always broadcasting your love and faith with God. I've
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  Speaker 2: listened to you and I was a little girl, and
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  Speaker 2: I remember just sitting in the back of my grandma's car,
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  Speaker 2: always listening to your stories and players for people. And
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  Speaker 2: unfortunately my grandma is no longer allound, but especially I
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  Speaker 2: just love her a lot. As the Christmas.
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  Speaker 1: Season no longer around as in she's moved or no
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  Speaker 1: longer around, and that she changed her address to heaven.
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  Speaker 2: She yeah, very see we're putting it. But unfortunately, yes,
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  Speaker 2: she is not our LRD Caker.
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  Speaker 1: So she's just changed her mailing address.
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  Speaker 2: You're right, I should always think of it in that sun.
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  Speaker 1: You can't go to her old house and see her,
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  Speaker 1: but you can still send all your prayers and love
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  Speaker 1: and say Lord, can you deliver this firsthand? Yeah, what
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  Speaker 1: a great mail man. We have huh.
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  Speaker 2: I know, I know he really is, but yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: just I haven't felt the same around Christmas about her.
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  Speaker 2: And sorry, don't mean to get little emotional, but it's hard,
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  Speaker 2: not when you're talking about your grandma.
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  Speaker 1: Wait wait, wait, did you just apologize for loving and
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  Speaker 1: missing your grandma?
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  Speaker 2: I know it's crazy, isn't it.
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  Speaker 1: That's pretty crazy? But I know, I know, why is it?
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  Speaker 1: We celebrate weddings, we celebrate birthdays, we celebrate engagements. Now
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  Speaker 1: we got celebrations when somebody finds out they're pregnant. We
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  Speaker 1: have you know, gender reveal parties. But we don't honor
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  Speaker 1: people's grief. Yeah, we think we have to apologize or
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  Speaker 1: make excuses or explain. You think you got to explain
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  Speaker 1: to me what it's like to miss a grandma.
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  Speaker 2: That's true, that's true.
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  Speaker 1: My grandma more than half raised me.
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  Speaker 2: That is exactly my mom had me really on.
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  Speaker 1: My mom just had too many of us and didn't
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  Speaker 1: really have the capacity or the bandwidth to care for us.
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  Speaker 1: And she used to tell me, and my grandma even
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  Speaker 1: said this, she was not a great mom. My grandma
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  Speaker 1: was not an emotionally available mom because my grandpa was
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  Speaker 1: in World War two and they were gone and blah
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  Speaker 1: blah blah. But foy did she make up with it
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  Speaker 1: thus grandkids?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's that's pretty much how I had it.
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  Speaker 2: My grandma she was born in Poland and raised during
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  Speaker 2: communist times more and she came on over to America,
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  Speaker 2: and boy, could she tell you how to reuse something
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  Speaker 2: about twenty times over before it was finally time to
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  Speaker 2: throw it away.
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  Speaker 1: My grandma had a drawer, a stuff drawer. Every gramma
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  Speaker 1: has a stuff drawer. I've got a stuff drawer. But
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  Speaker 1: she had a ball of rubber bands. Wow. She would
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  Speaker 1: just you know, wrap them around each other until she
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  Speaker 1: had a ball that was like bigger than a baseball.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I am, I am familiar with that. And then
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  Speaker 2: to the point where some of the rubber bands were disintegrating,
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  Speaker 2: but they still stayed within.
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  Speaker 1: That I'm sure in the inside they were. They're all disintegrated.
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  Speaker 1: But you ever need a rubber band for anything anything,
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  Speaker 1: you knew exactly where the rubber band ball was.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely. Yeah, It's kind of crazy to think, like it's
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  Speaker 2: just such a pullsterical moment to be talking to you
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  Speaker 2: when literally, like I I'm twenty eight now and I
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  Speaker 2: was five, or however the young's sitting in the backseat
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  Speaker 2: of her Toyota Coroa just like listening to you talk
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  Speaker 2: about everything and talking to people and just making their
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  Speaker 2: gay brighter. And so this was just kind of surreal.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I'm glad you got through. I'm glad you called.
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  Speaker 1: I'm glad you were loved unconditionally by such a sweet grandma.
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  Speaker 1: And it sounds like she imparted a lot of wisdom,
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  Speaker 1: perhaps a lot of faith, and a lot of goodness
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  Speaker 1: into your soul.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Right now, it's popular to talk about general trauma, and
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  Speaker 1: a lot of us have it, but I don't hear
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people talk about the generational blessings that
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  Speaker 1: come from having parents or grandparents who were real you
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  Speaker 1: know who told us like it.
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  Speaker 2: Was, I know it's I was just going to say that.
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  Speaker 2: Every year, it's been very difficult to see multiple people
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  Speaker 2: in my family that are older passed away because I
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  Speaker 2: just was so close to that generation and I would
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  Speaker 2: love to have as much wisdom as possible as I
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  Speaker 2: move into my later like you know, later twenties and thirties,
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  Speaker 2: and unfortunately they're not here to give that anymore.
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  Speaker 1: No, but there are plenty of us, all folks around
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  Speaker 1: that are more than willing to share our wisdom with
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  Speaker 1: young people. They just they don't want to hear it.
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  Speaker 1: They think eyes got better answers. So you know there
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  Speaker 1: used to be well I can google that. I'm like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: I can look at that on YouTube. I don't you
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  Speaker 1: don't need to teach me how to sew. You don't
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  Speaker 1: need to teach me how to can I can look
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  Speaker 1: it up on YouTube. All right, Well, one day you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna miss my pickles and I'm gonna be gone, and
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  Speaker 1: you're not gonna know how to make them exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Makes some things that chat GBT just can't touch.
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  Speaker 1: So they can try, but no.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So what's the song that will bring Grandma close to
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  Speaker 1: your heart? Oh?
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  Speaker 2: I think out of all the songs that I would say,
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  Speaker 2: Merry Christmas, Darling by the Carpenters.
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  Speaker 1: So beautiful, Karen Carpenter, what a voice.
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  Speaker 2: Oh it gets me so emotional and it throws me
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  Speaker 2: right back to that back of those cars, listening to
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  Speaker 2: you and going on going to see the Nutcracker or
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  Speaker 2: whatever she did to make Christmas extra special?
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  Speaker 1: And what is something that you can take from Grandma?
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  Speaker 1: A tradition, a recipe, a memory, a ornament, something that
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  Speaker 1: she always did that when it's your turn to parent
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  Speaker 1: or grandparent, you can share it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh. I will absolutely be making her her polish and
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  Speaker 2: gingerbread cookies.
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  Speaker 1: Oh you are delightful? Are you always the sweet?
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  Speaker 2: I hope so.
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  Speaker 1: Your grandma thought so, and that's all that matters.
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  Speaker 2: Oh she is delightful. I'm not saying I from her then,
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  Speaker 2: because oh that woman she would remember every little detail
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  Speaker 2: about everyone and make sure that like she remembers not
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  Speaker 2: just birthday, but like each day and just everything, anniversary date.
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  Speaker 2: And she was always that person that was reaching out
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  Speaker 2: and just letting people know how much you love them.
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  Speaker 1: Your smile comes through on the phone, you know.
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  Speaker 2: I actually it's not that I'm not normally smiling, but
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  Speaker 2: it's also like a proven trick. I used to be
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  Speaker 2: in customer service, and you have to smile on the
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  Speaker 2: phone because people can hear it on the other line.
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  Speaker 1: Boy can't they though.
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  Speaker 2: They really can't. Even in the most tricky situations where
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  Speaker 2: you want to have, you know, the frowniest of frowns,
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  Speaker 2: you just got to smile through it, and you just found.
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  Speaker 1: And fake it till you make it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's any situations like that, but.
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  Speaker 1: Nah, your smile sounds very authentic and very beautiful and
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  Speaker 1: very broad. Thank you, Thank you all right, you have
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  Speaker 1: a great night, happy hollow days.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's happy holidays, and thank you you as well.
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  Speaker 2: I am definitely You're in my prayers tonight.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you. God bless him, Bye bye. Next up,
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  Speaker 1: we're going to talk to Marcus. He is the voice
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  Speaker 1: of Velvet, and while he is so grateful for the
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  Speaker 1: love and family he has found, he is hesitant to
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  Speaker 1: go forward for I think foolish reasons. Let's have Marcus
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  Speaker 1: share his own story. Good evening, Welcome.
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  Speaker 3: Who's this does Marcus? How are you? Mister Delila?
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  Speaker 1: Marcus? You sound like you should be on the radio.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you?
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  Speaker 1: Do you get that a lot with your voice?
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  Speaker 3: I do?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you definitely sound like somebody who could be, you know,
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  Speaker 1: smoothing off the rough edges on the radio. What can
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  Speaker 1: I do for you?
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  Speaker 2: You know?
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  Speaker 3: I've done to love my lot?
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  Speaker 1: So who is the love of your life?
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  Speaker 3: Mine is miss Destiny.
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  Speaker 1: That's her name? Or she is your destiny?
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  Speaker 3: Ah, that's her name.
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  Speaker 1: Do you sing, Marcus? I do do you sing to
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  Speaker 1: Destiny because this sounds like a country love song to me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's where I'm supposed to be.
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  Speaker 1: Yep, you sound like a great, big, wonderful, lovable, plaid
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  Speaker 1: wearing down to earth gentle man.
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  Speaker 3: I do wear plaid.
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  Speaker 1: Plaid and jeans and boots. And when Destiny walks in
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  Speaker 1: the room, your face lights up like a Christmas tree.
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  Speaker 3: Oh it's the fourth of July. Every time I see her, well.
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  Speaker 1: Go write me a song about destiny and then send
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  Speaker 1: it to me.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I sure can.
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  Speaker 1: And how long have you in Miss Destiny the Fourth
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  Speaker 1: of July celebration. Been together.
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  Speaker 4: About two years now, and it's just it's forty two,
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  Speaker 4: she's thirty five.
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  Speaker 3: She's got four kids.
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  Speaker 4: I've got two kids, and we just we do what
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  Speaker 4: we do, and it's just amazing. I love her kids
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  Speaker 4: just like their mind, and she loves mine like they're hers.
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  Speaker 3: Everything's just amazing.
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  Speaker 1: So Christmas is coming, and I think Miss Destiny needs
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  Speaker 1: something sparkly on her left hand.
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  Speaker 2: Dude.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, well, it's been brought up by her girlfriend a
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  Speaker 4: couple of times.
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  Speaker 1: If she's a single mama, those kids have probably not
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  Speaker 1: had a lot of stability.
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  Speaker 4: I live on my one hundred and eighty acre farm
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  Speaker 4: and they get some stability, they get a little.
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  Speaker 3: Bit of chores here and there. They and they love
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  Speaker 3: it too.
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  Speaker 4: They're like, oh man, hey, can I.
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  Speaker 3: Do this today instead of me doing that? And let
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  Speaker 3: them do that?
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  Speaker 4: Y'all pick which one y'all want, you know, it's just leave.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just thinking that. You know, at Christmas time, if
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  Speaker 1: they got a new dad for official, for real, that'd
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  Speaker 1: be quite a Christmas gift.
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  Speaker 3: It could be offering that up there. Oh yeah, you
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  Speaker 3: would love it for sure.
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  Speaker 1: So what are you waiting for? Well, sell a cow,
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  Speaker 1: buy a ring, make it forever?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I mean I could. I just don't feel like
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  Speaker 3: I'm financially there yet.
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  Speaker 1: Do you think she cares where you are financially?
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  Speaker 3: Oh? Absolutely not.
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  Speaker 1: When your kids were being created, in formed, were you
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  Speaker 1: there financially to afford them?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, if you call an army paycheck.
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  Speaker 1: My point is you made it, didn't you?
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  Speaker 3: Oh? We did? Yes?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: If this is the woman that God has brought into
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  Speaker 1: your life to be your helpmate, to be your best friend,
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  Speaker 1: to love you, then let her know that it's forever, yes, ma'am. Absolutely,
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  Speaker 1: Mostly it'll bless your kids and her kids.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, ma'am.
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  Speaker 1: The last call I want to share today is from Andy.
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  Speaker 1: One act of kindness has changed Andy's whole perspective this
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  Speaker 1: holiday season. The irony is this, It was his own
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  Speaker 1: act of kindness that shifted his mindset. Hi, Andy, welcome
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  Speaker 1: to have a little faith with Delilah. What or who
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  Speaker 1: is on your heart tonight?
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  Speaker 5: So I actually wanted to share a story that just
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  Speaker 5: recently happened to me that I just wanted to tell
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  Speaker 5: you about. So the other night I stopped at a
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  Speaker 5: gas station, I was stoped to long story short, I
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  Speaker 5: gave the casher eighty dollars cash, told him to use
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  Speaker 5: it for whoever needed it or whoever couldn't buy whatever
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  Speaker 5: they needed, and left. And I come to find out
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  Speaker 5: the eighty dollars either helped or made the night better
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  Speaker 5: for nineteen people that night.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, that's paying it forward. Andy.
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  Speaker 5: I just wanted to share that with you and hope
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  Speaker 5: it brightens up somebody else's night. Just hearing that story, Well.
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  Speaker 1: It brighten's my heart. Knowing you're that kind of generous
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  Speaker 1: that is wonderful. A lot of people miss out on
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  Speaker 1: the blessing that comes to us, the happiness that comes
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  Speaker 1: to us, the joy that comes to us when we
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  Speaker 1: are giving to others and blessing others and sharing with others.
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  Speaker 1: There's an old song that says, this is my commandment
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  Speaker 1: that you love one another, that your joy may be full.
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  Speaker 1: And when you're loving people the way you did with
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  Speaker 1: that donation, that gift, your joy was made full, wasn't it.
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  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, the feeling I had it was. I have
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  Speaker 5: never felt anything like it in my life.
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  Speaker 1: I will play a sweet song and encourage everyone to
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  Speaker 1: do the same, to give what they can to love
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  Speaker 1: in a very real way.
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  Speaker 3: I appreciate you show.
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  Speaker 2: I listened to it every night.
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  Speaker 1: You have a great night. Thank you for calling. Thank
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  Speaker 1: you Andy for just being a sweetheart, for being a generous,
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  Speaker 1: kind soul.
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  Speaker 5: You are most welcome.
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  Speaker 1: I am blown away sometimes with the generosity of people
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  Speaker 1: who can least afford to give away anything. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: talking about just giving things money. I'm talking about giving
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  Speaker 1: your heart, your time, your attention, your focus, your kindness.
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  Speaker 1: When people are hurting, it's hard to imagine that you
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  Speaker 1: have anything to make someone else keep going. I'm here
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  Speaker 1: to remind you that an act of kindness, an act
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  Speaker 1: of love, can indeed keep someone moving forward. In closing
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  Speaker 1: this episode, I want to thank you for your calls,
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  Speaker 1: your comments, sharing your stories in your lives with me,
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  Speaker 1: if you had any idea how much this means to me.
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  Speaker 1: Your love gives me the energy to hold on to
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  Speaker 1: hold on to my hope, but mostly it reminds me
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  Speaker 1: to cling to my faith even when times are tough,
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  Speaker 1: even when I'm going through the hard stuff. When you've
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  Speaker 1: got teenagers, you're raising teenagers, you know you're going through
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  Speaker 1: hard stuff. But even with all of that, I promise
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  Speaker 1: I will focus on the gratitude and share that with you.
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  Speaker 1: You're listening to the Lilah del