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Can’t Sit Still? Why It’s Hard To Slow Down & Receive · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a naturopathic doctor, mentor, energy healer, a cost of breeder, intuitive, energetic business mentor, and honestly, so much more.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: Hello, welcome back to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am excited to dive into another fabulous episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we are talking about slowing down and why you find it slow hard to slow down and receive if you can't sit still.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is going to be for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is one of the things I see the most when clients come into my world, when you know we're trying to heal feminine energy and hormones and skin and well, anything to do with like hormones, like I said, um, self-worth and shame, like it's all wrapped up into here.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna be diving into this.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: This is gonna be a really great episode if you feel like you can't sit still and really help to give you context as to why it's so hard to slow down and receive and how we can solve that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So with that being said, your inability to slow down is literally a trauma response.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I say that because it's true, and so that you can start to not normalize it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think one of the big things, well no, I think I've seen one of the big things with women is that you know, you normalize that, oh, I can't sit still energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I'm just someone that can't sit still.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I am just someone who's just like I always need to be going, versus like, shoot, like I always need to be going.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like that's not a good thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's even about breaking that normalization because what you normalize is what you receive, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Just like what you normalize is with money is what you receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're normalizing this, that's what you're gonna receive, versus actually looking at it for what it is and then healing it, uncovering it, and growing from it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So the number one thing you have to realize is finding it hard to slow down and receive and not sit still is a trauma response.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so as soon as you identify that, you can be like, okay, perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: What am I avoiding from that?
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because normal when we sit still, when we slow down, I'm not even gonna get to receive, we'll get to receive after because you can't receive unless you slow down and sit still.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you slow down, things come up.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when we are so busy in our day-to-day, you know, we get up, we I don't know, shower, get breakfast going, run out the door, go to work, or do do work, and then come back.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I don't know, there maybe there's kids or a pet or this life is busy and we're calling our friend while we're on our walk, and then we're also doing this, and then we're going here, and maybe traveling here or going to this family thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you see this, you won't be able to unsee it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so funny, I see this with a lot of people.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't actually just be with yourself and be with your thoughts because of what's gonna come up there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you might notice that, like that uncomfortable, you might even actually get squirmy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is like this full body somatic flight or flight.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I were to tell you to sit down and just chill, you're like, I can't do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: How long has it been?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh no, I gotta do this, I gotta do this, I should be doing this, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there might even be quote unquote like things to do, dishes, I don't know, laundry, but there'll always be things to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's just kind of irrelevant, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So you saying, well, I can't sit still because I have things to do, there's always going to be things to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's not really a reason.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's, I promise you, you will never not have things to do or things that you could do, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: In terms of being quote unquote productive.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I actually have a full episode diving into like toxic productivity, which we're gonna touch on today.
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  SPEAKER_00: But step one is like realizing that you're avoiding stuff that's coming up, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so instead of actually dealing with it, you are in distraction mode trying to sweep it under the rug.
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  SPEAKER_00: The problem is that it doesn't actually help the situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then we get things like adrenal burnout, you know, PMS, endo, acne, PCOS, all of these things that are linked to feminine energy in the body, andor a lack of it slash a block in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So not being able to slow down or not being able to kind of like sit still and relax is a signal that you're stuck in your masculine energy, but specifically your wounded masculine, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we do need masculine energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: The masculine energy is this beautiful container, it's this beautiful structure that holds our feminine.
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  SPEAKER_00: We do need it.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, you are in it from a wounded toxic place.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are in it from a more hustle, grind, forcing type of energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you are engaged in this, it makes it hard to receive, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the feminine receives, the masculine gives, even if we think about it anatomically, the man gives, the woman, woman receives it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how you literally make children.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a giving and then a receiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: If your energy output is outward, how can you receive?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just, it's like a it's a block, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: They would get caught in the door and it wouldn't get anywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: So really start to identify what am I afraid of?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like what comes up when I'm slowing down?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why, what am I afraid is going to happen if I slow down?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, a big thing that happens is this need to like earn something or this value or goodness or worthiness being placed on what we do or how much we do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I used to wear this like busy badge of honor.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there is a time, there are seasons where things can be a little bit more busy, but not from a toxic place, not from a wounded masculine place.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when you slow down, what kind is it like the shoulds that you should need to be doing something?
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: If it's like, oh, if I don't do this, like I need to earn this, you know, if I do all these things, then I'll be a good person, then I'll be a good wife, then I'll be a good partner, then I'll be good in business, then I'll receive more in my business.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the interesting thing is that, I mean, I wish the amount of output or the amount of quote unquote work or things that we do in life directly matched what we receive back, but that's definitely not the case.
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  SPEAKER_00: Unfortunately, like it's just not a law, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And when we think about there are many people who spend plenty of time working very hard and they don't receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if that was required, then it would have to be required of everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's not true.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we're it's very much ingrained in us when we are little, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very much ingrained of like work hard, do stuff, like hustle, grind, do all these things, and then maybe you'll be enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very much like if you go, if you work very, very hard and put all your energy out and you do do do, then maybe, just maybe, you'll get there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when that's ingrained into your nervous system, yeah, it's gonna feel very hard to slow down.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not gonna feel safe to be receiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, what happens is you start to operate in a way that's not actually conducive for how you are biologically programmed, and it's just different.
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  SPEAKER_00: One is not better than the other, but it is different, it's just not using your abilities to the greatest extent that you can.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's especially true if you're like a projector or a reflector or even a manifester in human design, and like you're female.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even more true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Generators still need to be able to slow down and receive 100%, but even more so when your energy centers are ones that don't obviously generate their own energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's even more so.
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  SPEAKER_00: So whatever comes up, those are then the signals that you kind of like need to clean up, right?
• 8:37
  SPEAKER_00: That's where you need to really dive into okay, why do I not feel safe?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do I feel this need to earn?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do I feel like my worth comes from maybe what I do?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it like the shoulds, is the conditioning, is it the the programming, the wounding that's preventing me from slowing down?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the thing is that if you don't actually bring, if you don't resolve those things that are making it unsafe to slow down, you might actually try to slow down, but what's operating in your system is such a fight or flight response that even though you are quote unquote slowing down, the whole time you are slowing down, your body's having a full trauma response or a full like somatic fight or flight, then it's not doing as much good as it should.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why people can be like, well, I've been trying to slow down, I've been trying to do this, but if you don't actually resolve what's preventing it from feeling safe, then you're just putting yourself in situations that are not normalized for your system.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's really about uncovering what is coming up and dissolving those patterns in loops so that you don't get stuck in the feeling of nothing ever feeling enough.
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_00: I am just popping on to let you guys know that Goddess Activation is now open.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_00: This is my signature program to really rewire your nervous system from the emotions, trauma conditioning that is preventing you not only from loving yourself unconditionally, but really sinking into your feminine and having solid self-worth.
• 10:12
  SPEAKER_00: This goes way beyond just clearing symptoms like PCOS, PMS, fertility, endo, and more that are linked to feminine energy in the body, but really actually living a life filled with pleasure.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: We'll be going over the exact processes and methods to really embody deep self-love so that you don't need external validation to feel good.
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  SPEAKER_00: And let me tell you, this is not go ahead and take a bubble bath.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is about sinking into your feminine with ease because it no longer dysregulates your nervous system to slow down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Plus, we're gonna be going into what is preventing your nervous system from sinking into your feminine and releasing that, along with releasing things like lack of self-worth and shame that keeps your nervous system comfortable in its wounded masculine.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: We're also gonna be building a structure in your nervous system so that it feels safe to be in your feminine, along with dissolving the patterns and loops that are creating the feeling of nothing ever being enough and really running on that hamster wheel.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you want to know how to be in receiving mode and really heal the parts of you that are preventing you from living a life that really turns you on, this is what goddess activation is all about.
• 11:15
  SPEAKER_00: We were gonna leave the link for that down below.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_00: If you are listening to this after this live round, definitely go ahead and join because as soon as you join, you get instant access to the portal and you can start healing and watching the content right away and then dive into the next round of live calls whenever they happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, with that being said, if you have any questions, you can always email me or send me a message on Instagram.
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  SPEAKER_00: But this is truly going to be the best round yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, and healing those parts that are preventing you from living that life in receiving mode in your feminine.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: But that's why, in order to get into your feminine, like we talked about, that masculine structure needs to be there from a supportive place.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's building the structure in your nervous system so that it feels safe to be in your feminine.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what it's about.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you try to go from zero to 100, it's gonna feel like water spilling all over the floor.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your feminine is not gonna feel like it can let go.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like if you pour water and you just pour it onto the table and there's no container or bowl or anything to hold it, the water's gonna be spilling everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna be like, oh shit, the water's going everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what your system's gonna do.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's about building that container in a way that allows flow, that allows safety, and not from a restrictive place where the restrictive place would feel like it's closing in, it's shoulds, it's siphoning, it's draining, it's pressure.
• 12:39
  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And we've all sometimes felt that like that pressure to hustle, to grind, to keep going, to push, to push, to push.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's when you know that your structure is more of a constricting than expanding structure.
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  SPEAKER_00: So an example of this could be, you know, people who book their calendars super solid and actually have like no space in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then when it doesn't go exactly according to plan, right, you get dysregulated because there is no space in your calendar.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_00: A structure would be having some structure in the day, so it's not necessarily completely open.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_00: So you have an idea of like vague things that need to get done where you need to be, but it's not so rigid.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's like removing those rigid things.
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  SPEAKER_00: But like I said, it's very hard to do so when you've been raised in an environment where you need that, where it's been very much encouraged to be like that, where you're taught in order to be successful, you need to be like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there that is not completely untrue.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, that comes from the premise of the masculine.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're a man, that works very well.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you're a woman, that doesn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: So being able to sink into it will actually allow you to then receive more.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you believe you will not receive, if you have like a deep conditioning in your system that then thinks, oh, I need to earn, oh, I should be doing, oh, if I don't do this, then that won't happen, then you get caught in that loop and you get caught in that pattern.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you have self-worth and shame, really that that will keep your nervous system only being comfortable in its masculine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because what happens is that that lack of self-worth and shame, your nervous system perceives that that will be eliminated by being in your masculine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because masculine is very hyper-direction focused, hyper-body focused.
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_00: Direction focused means like um hitting the next income level, getting the next promotion, getting the next thing, like the next, the next, the next.
• 14:36
  SPEAKER_00: But it creates a system where nothing feels enough.
• 14:39
  SPEAKER_00: So that lack and self-that lack of self-worth and shame never actually go away, but you think it will.
• 14:44
  SPEAKER_00: So you keep going the next, the next, the next, trying to fulfill that because that's the only thing you know, and that's comfortable, but it never actually gets solved because nothing will ever feel enough.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_00: And so you get caught in that vicious cycle and that vicious loop.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's really about releasing what's preventing your nervous system from fully sinking into your feminine, which is that wounding, trauma, and conditioning that you picked up, chances are when you were younger.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: And if you even like look at your mom or look at your parents, you'll kind of see how this is modeled to you.
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_00: You'll kind of be able to understand of like, oh, that makes sense.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_00: You look at the people around you, that makes sense.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: And this is a belief that in order to attain that, I need to be like this, which is completely not true.
• 15:27
  SPEAKER_00: So really start to take inventory on where you're in, like the trauma response of not being able to sit still, of why it's so hard to slow down and receive, even where you push away receiving.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_00: You know, so many, and then you get caught in the loop of you want to receive so badly, but you're pushing away receiving.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: And you maybe even be pushing away receiving in small ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: People opening the door for you, I don't know, people carrying your bags, people delivering your groceries, guys opening the door for you, uh, him taking up the garbage, him cleaning the kitchen, him, I don't know, booking reservations, him, whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Someone cleaning your house for you.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: No, no, no, I'll do it, I'll do it.
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: Notice how often you go to, no, no, no, I'll do it, I'll do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you or even if you struggle to receive compliments.
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  SPEAKER_00: And these are like the small things.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_00: So if we can't even receive a compliment, how do you expect to receive bigger things?
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_00: There's a lack of congruency there, right?
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: A very square peg round hole.
• 16:26
  SPEAKER_00: Or can you receive gifts?
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: Can you receive money?
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_00: Can you receive this?
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like all of these things.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_00: Where can you deepen your receiving and actually practice by cleaning up all the little ways where you are blocking yourself and receiving?
• 16:37
  unknown: Right?
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_00: But then we want to do all the things, but then we're exhausted from doing all the things, and we just wish someone would do them for us.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: Yet we're blocking ourselves, and this is where your ego is gonna jump in in a second, and I'm gonna be telling you, be aware of your ego.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: But the only reason you're not receiving right now is you.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: And I say this with so much love.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_00: As always, you're familiar and very to the point.
• 17:02
  SPEAKER_00: The only reason you're not receiving is you, but we get into the thing where we're blaming other people.
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_00: Is it other people or is it you that's not receiving?
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_00: Is it you that's not slowing down?
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_00: Is it you that's preventing yourself from sinking into your feminine?
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: Because you don't actually need anyone else to receive.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: So if you're not receiving, it's completely all on you, right?
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_00: But like I said, that loop gets stuck of like we want to receive, yet we're doing all the things, we're not slowing down, and then we also get frustrated that we're not receiving what we want compared to the output we're giving.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_00: We're like, I'm doing all these things, I'm doing all these things in life, I'm doing all these things in my business, I'm doing all these things, and I'm not receiving, I'm not receiving.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because what you give is not necessarily like what you give in action is not tangible to what you receive.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: It's what you give in frequency, but that's a whole different podcast.
• 17:55
  unknown: Right?
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: But like that outward action thinking, like doing more will allow me to receive more.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_00: That's why you're kind of trapped in that.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_00: And then you get frustrated and sad and upset, and then you're like, okay, well, maybe I have to do more, and then you get under the doing more.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: So really start to become aware of this.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna keep this like straight and to the point.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: This was like a juicy little episode, but really become aware of this.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, if you want to do this work, this is what we're doing in Goddess Activation.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_00: This is just, it's gotten an upgrade since the last round, and it we are going like deeper than ever before.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna be not only rewiring your nervous system from like the emotions and trauma so that you can sink into your feminine, but this is really like the exact processes and methods so that you don't need to be in that loop anymore, so that you can sink into your feminine, so that you can break out of the conditioning that's preventing it from happening in the first place.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_00: And so that you can really release that lack of self-worth and shame that's keeping you safe and comfortable in your masculine as opposed to your feminine, while building a healthy masculine structure for your feminine to thrive.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: And by doing so, you'll dissolve all of those patterns and loops that are creating that feeling of nothing, feeling enough.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_00: And obviously, how to be in receiving mode, right?
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because we're gonna be healing those parts that are preventing you from living a life that turns you on.
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_00: So the link for that will be down below.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so excited.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: If you got value from this episode, I would love for you to share it with friends, family, tag me on Instagram, and start sitting still.
• 19:20
  SPEAKER_00: Start slowing down and notice what comes up and what happens.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_00: And I cannot wait.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_00: So, with that being said, I will see you guys in the next episode.