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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ EPISODE #140_HOST BLAQUE DIAMOND · DA CREW Podcast

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are living and surviving cancer, including non Hispanic and African American women in the
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US, who are more likely to be diagnosed than die of cancer compared to
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women who are not of color. This disparity is not due to genetic differences
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among whites, African Americans, or Hispanic women, but rather related to systematic
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racism, access to healthcare, and socionomic factors. My guest tonight is a
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cervical cancer survivor and she's here to talk about her journey. Please welcome my
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guests, Apostle, Tamala Lucas. Hey, I'm doing good. Oh wow,
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that's great. That's great. I'm glad that you came here tonight to
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share your journey. How are you doing now? You look great? Oh,
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thank you, I'm doing real good. I'm so happy. Beautiful lastly
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spoke. You mentioned that you had cervical cancer. What type of cervical cancer
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were you diagnosed with? M They just say cervical they I don't know.
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There's different types. Yeah, yeah, I heard that there were different types
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of cancer. How did you hear the news that you were diagnosed with cancer?
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In twenty sixteen. Everybody was getting on my nerves. They it's like
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if they said hi, it just agtivated me. And when they would have
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conversations with people, I was just I was real sharp, you know.
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They said, oh, you're so mean, You're so sharp, and me
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like, what's wrong? I was like, I don't know. And then
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I was at the church. We had a church meeting and they was talking.
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I said I have to get off of here, and they was like
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why. I said, cause I feel like punching everybody in their face.
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And it was like, oh, that's not you. I said no,
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I said, something's wrong, Something is really wrong. I was very ativated
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and mean and nasty, and so I went to my primary doctor. I
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asked them to check my blood. I said, check my blood, see
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what's going on. That was on a Monday. I didn't hear anything from
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them, so I called my gynecologists and she told me to come on a
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Wednesday. I won't in there on a Wednesday. She checked my blood.
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She told me to come back in the very next day. She said you
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have cancer. But at the time when she said, I didn't hear her.
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You know how you I just just block it off like I just didn't
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hear it. You know. All I heard was you would have to get
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surgery as soon as possible so we can cut this out and it won't spread.
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So I ended up having my surgery two months later, February first of
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twenty seventeen. I had a hysterectomy. So when you went in to your
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gyn and she took them, she took blood and did your examination as well.
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She called you to tell you to come in, and she told you
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over the phone that you had cancer. She called me to come in the
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next day so she can look me dead in my face to tell me yes.
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She didn't tell me anything on the over the phone. She told me
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to come back in and she said we have to do surgery as soon as
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possible. So with her telling you to come back in, what were you
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what were you feeling at that time? Did you send something was wrong by
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the way she spoke to you, or was you just feeling like, Wow,
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something is really wrong. I knew something was wrong. I didn't know
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what was wrong. And I was like, oh lord, I hope I'm
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not HIV positive. You know, you know, you know, you'd been
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thinking stuff like that on top of your head, you know, stuff like
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that. But she said you had to get surgery as soon as possible.
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And she said what day you want to have the surgery because we got a
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hair because it's spreading, it's spreading, and it's spreading fast. And I
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was like, and people, it was like, why are you gonna have
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surgery? I'm like, I don't know because I didn't hear everything. I
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think I was just in a daze or gone or whatever. I just all
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I heard was surgery, surgery, and I have to have it as soon
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as possible. Were you in any pain at that time? Were you feeling
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any pain? Were you were you noiseious or anything? I never had pain.
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I was just aggravated. I had I was aggravating, like everybody got
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my last nerve. I was so aggravated and I couldn't figure out why I
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was so aggravated and my husband's like, what is wrong with you? Like,
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we can't even have a conversation with you where you're going off. I
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was just so aggravated. Wow, at that time, were you even thinking,
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you know, because you're a woman, and you know a lot of
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times people are going through mental pause and they're aggravated and everything under the sun
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just works on their nerve where sometimes some people want to put somebody in the
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face, you know, So were you even thinking that that's what you was
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going through? Yeah? I said, maybe it's a bad case of menopause
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because I was already in peri menopause after I had my daughter, because I
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had got my toolstad mm hmm. Wow. Wow, that's that's a blown
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to to, you know, to have her tell you to come in.
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So there was no other treatment choice but to have the surgery. Yeah,
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because it was growing rapidly. It was growing up. Dad, So your
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primary doctor didn't pick up on that prior to any of that from examinations from
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before. My primary doctor didn't say anything. And I called after she told
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me that on Thursday. I called him on Friday. I said, the
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sad part is I went to you all first to check my blood and you
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haven't said anything to me. You have not called me like, what is
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the problem. This is one of the things that I'm talking about, how
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you African American women and women of color, they're going to these doctors and
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they're not giving them the health care that they need and the treatments that they
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need. You had to reach out to your g y N just to find
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out. Now, just say you had previously had a g y N appointment
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maybe two months ago, and you figure everything was you know, okay,
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you know, just to say that lady feeling well at the work and they
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just you know, just do blood work. But if you had went to
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your t y N. I am so grateful for you having sense enough to
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call you because something some place, that's what I wanted to connect from.
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And then you just out of the group decided to call your g y N.
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Was this something going through your mind where you figured, well, I
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went and took blood. But why any other doctors decided to maybe you know,
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for headaches to you look at you or maybe your pressure and it's like
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something tapped you on the shoulder and told you go see your g y N.
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Yeah, And that's why a lot of women are losing their lives because
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you go to a primary doctor and you they checking your blood and they're not
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saying anything like what's the problem. And I went to them first, they
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didn't and even a whole week passed, they didn't say anything to me,
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and I was shocked, like and I called him and I told him,
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I said, I just went to her and she checked my blood and she
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told me the very next day what was wrong with me? I said,
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y'all haven't seen anything or and well were still checking what what? So it
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was horrible. Well, so since the history hysterectomy are the things that you
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can't do that you were doing before, like this and exercises or other treatments
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that you have to take following that. Well, the issue with with my
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gone to college. This is what she said. Now all I know is
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afterwards, my legs start swelling up, and they ran all different kinds of
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tests and they said it's not connected. They said it's not connected. But
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other people I asked who had hysterected me. I asked them, have your
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legs start swelling up and they said yes. I said, did it swell
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up after your heads? Directly? They said yes, And I have got
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all different tests. Ran they kept on saying it might be this, it
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might be that. No one knows what it was, and I had to
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wait two years later to find out. It's called a edema in lythothema,
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adema and lithothema is when your legs swell up. It is like a ballooon,
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just you know, blow your legs up. So I keep my legs
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elevated a lot. I still try to go to work as a teacher,
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but I retired because twenty nineteen the kids were so bad. I just had
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it. I couldn't do no more. Yeah, well, you know,
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you have to take care of yourself. You definitely have to take care of
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yourself. But did they even try homown therapy, herbal treatment or anything.
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Was that ever suggested to you? After my hysterectomy? There was like you
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should be fine, but yeah they nothing else? Nothing nothing else? Wow,
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So since the hysterectomy and everything, is there any chance of a recurrence
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or spreading any further? Did they say that they got everything according to my
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kind of coologies? She said that I should be fine because she the way
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she cut everything out. She said she cut she she constructed the inside where
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if anything happened, it won't spread to no parts of my body. That's
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what she said. But even in that, I still have I still get
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my blood tested for any other things because I am a cancer survivor anything else.
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Other things can jump off because once it's you know, sometimes it's in
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your blood system, and so I just get checked. They always make sure
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I get check, So I still get checked for everything. I'm glad that
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you do. I'm so glad that you do. Did you get in check
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for everything? I'm just so sorry to hear any of that that that you're
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going through. You know, learning you have cancer can be overwhelming to something
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suffered depression or distressed. Were you stressed or did you fall into depression?
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You know what? Because I didn't tell anybody what the doctor said, I
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just told them my head I was getting surgery, and because I think I
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was still in a state of shock, I just didn't tell anybody the journey.
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I waited a whole year. A whole year passed, and when I
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looked at my health breakers and I look and it said cancer and his directing
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me and all that stuff, That's when I started telling people I'm a cancer
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survivor. So through the whole journey, not even my husband, not even
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my children, nobody knew. They just knew surgery because I ain't tell nobody
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because I've watched how people go to things, and i watch how people want
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to put the little two cents in and make things worse, and I said,
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I'm not going through that. I'm not going to have people make me
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feel worse about you know, already going through this. And it was after
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the hiss direct me. That was a painful journey. Even though a lot
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of people who have had history to me, they got up within three months
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and it was, you know, okay. It took me a long time
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to bounce back as I was teaching, and I stay home for two months
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February and March. Went back to work in April. I told my principal
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said I'm not able to stand because it's you know, I'm just too painful.
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So he allowed me to work, but I had my little chair.
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I just roll around the room in the classroom. That's how I talked until
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school was out. So do you do you miss teaching at schools? I
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loved teaching, but because of all the stuff that's going on, I can't
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do it. What about virtual Have you thought about doing anything virtual? Or
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you just burocracy all that stuff, because right now they really don't want you
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to teach children. They want you to teach them how to pass the test.
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And I my belief is you should teach children that ABC's and one two
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threes first so they can learn how to get to the next level. Why
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teach them the test because passing the test is not helping them if they don't
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know the basis. You don't know the foundations, right I absolutely rightful.
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Are you on any medications right now? Are you you know, do you
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have to take medications? Or she said that you're just so fine that you
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don't need to take any medications. I just take I just take my vitamin
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D three, all my counsel and courteous, you know, keep my bones
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up. Because God allowed me to meet this one guy. He had surgery.
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He said he was about six hundred pounds and he was like one hundred
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pounds when I met him. And he said one thing about major surgery.
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Then I'm gonna tell you're gonna lose bone this. See, your bones gonna
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get weak, and so you need to build that back up and strengthen your
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bones. And I said, okay, so I just keep a lot of
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count see them, and vitamin D three and all that stuff, try to
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keep my bones strong. Did that change your appetite any you know, did
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when you're craving other things or you just didn't have a taste for food,
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you know certain types of food. Did your things change where you just didn't
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want to eat certain things? No, nothing changed. I was truly blessed
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because I they say I called it early. Some people, you know,
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they go through stages one, stage two, stage three, or death,
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and just knowing your body, I just knew something was wrong. So a
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lot of people said I called it early, and I just thank god I
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called it early. I just knew that something was wrong. And sometimes we
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think something is wrong, we just keep on going. And but we need
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to pay attention to our body, because our body is always talking to us
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and telling us something's wrong. Yeah, you're so right. I am so
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glad that you're doing so much better and that you was able to catch this.
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We're gonna continue this conversation. We're gonna take a commercial break right now,
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and then we're gonna come back with Apostle Tamila Lucas and continue this journey.
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Turn off the lights tonight. I'm gonna I'm made. Let's take a
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shower, show it together. I'll watch your buddet. You was some my
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wealth day and same ja. Turn off girl. I wanted to hear of
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you a special tweet. You're so sweet. Turn on. We are back.
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We are back, We are back, and we're here talking with a
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pop Tim Lucas and she's taken us on her journey with the surviving cancer as
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many women have, and I'm just so grateful to have you here. It's
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just a blessing that you're here. As with any cancer, when it comes
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to cervical cancer, early detection is key if it's found earth. To detect
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cancer is important to be aware of the earliest signs of what you mentioned.
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What you sign was to everybody. It is different how they feel what they're
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going through. Somebody else that may know that it's going through that to do
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is this something that's in your family? Is there other forms of cancer?
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Is there? Did they even ask that question? Was the other forms of
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Especially when he took your blood work, I don't know what he was thinking,
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just doing blood work and calling of the day. But you know,
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all those questions should have come up during that time, and then he goes
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up to something else. Is that something that's in your family? You know,
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cancer does not run in my family. So and it's weird because I
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was like the first one who got it, and then like and I got
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this in twenty seventeen, and then twenty twenty one, that's when my aunt
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end up with breast cancer. And she's older than me, She's fifteen years
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older than me. And I was like, I guess I was the trailblazer.
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It's weird, like we it happened like later in our in our life,
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Like, what's going on? Is crazy? And I told her,
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I said, I'm gonna show you. I'm gonna tell you how to survive
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this. Don't tell a lot of people you need to travel. You need
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to travel, have fun and enjoy life and laugh at everything. Find you
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some comedies, fun things to do, and you're gonna have to laugh this
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through and be happy through it because if you dwell on it, that's what's
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going to take you out. And she did. She was working at the
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hospital and she had retired to retire, and she started traveling everywhere and when
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she came back, she just had to get a little little surgery. It
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didn't spread, and I thank God for that. And she did what I
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told her, and she had her little surgery and then she rung her bell.
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So she is a cancer survivor. But I told her, I said,
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that's how you. I said, I didn't tell anybody. I said,
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you didn't know I had it, I said, I said, when
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you go through, you can't tear up people because people I don't know.
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I guess sometimes people think they're helping when they talking, but sometimes you just
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don't want me to hear anybody's voice. Just be, you know. And
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so I just went through it, and I was just praying my way through,
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and I just thank God. I was truly blessed because my hair did
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not fall out. All my hair stay and I just thank God. So
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it didn't look like I was going through anything, so that nobody would have
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ever known unless you told them. Right. Well, for young women and
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women of all ages who are listening, once should they begin screening for cervical
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cancer? I hear it's usually around twenty one years of age. But I
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also hear when they start having sex that they should start screening us. Yeah,
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because the sad part is a lot of people don't want to talk about
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this. But I've been on another playfor and I talked about this before.
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When I was married to my first husband, I kept a STD. Okay,
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I was always in the doctor's taking medicine, getting shot. And what
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people fail to realize is when you get an STD, it kills your healthy
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blood cells, and too many healthy blood cells will turn to cancer. And
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and so we tell these children all the time, wrap it up, you
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know now here. I am supposed to be trusted my husband at the time,
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so I was always at the doctor's office. And what people fail to
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realize, too many dead blood cells, It's just gonna keep on collected and
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then it's gonna turn into cancer. So we gotta be careful to just keep
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those doctors appointments. But access to healthcare and establishing establishing trust is essential to
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help reduce the cervical cancer mortality. Way for black feel healthcare is being I
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think what health care is a lot of people say, well, I don't
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have any money, I can't afford healthcare, but go to a clinic,
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because a clinic will go by your income, and some clinics. They won't
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even charge you if you just go to a clinic. And I don't think
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people understand clinics are free. You might have to wait two or three months
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to get in there, but they are free if you don't have the income,
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So go for everything a clinic. You can get your te fixed or
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check up all that. They do all that for you. So just go
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to a clinic if you can't afford it. And also if you're working and
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you can't afford insurance. What people don't understand hospital has financial aid and people
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say what financial ads say? Yeah, when they send you that bill on
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the back they said, do you need financial assistance? Fill it out?
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People be shocked, like I could feel that out. You can fill it
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out. If you're working, feel it out. They're gonna ask you how
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much you make, and then they're gonna see they will either reduce your hospital
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bill or they'll pay for it. Well, you know, some people are
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afraid to go to doctors. But because some of them are afraid to get
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that type of news. And then you have some who just really weren't taught
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healthcare, how to take care of their own health and knowing that they have
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to see their doctor year lead and you know, do certain visits. But
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then you have those that will apply for some benefits, but they don't get
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the benefits. They may applied for certain aid and for whatever reason, certain
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parts of the government may tell them that they're not comfortable and that becomes a
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problem. So I understand that our free clinics, but they sometimes people go
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to spep clinic and they're not offering them what they would be offering them if
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they had the money to pay for. So they be on that part that
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we got money because back of the day, that's all we heard about was
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the free clinic, the free clinic. But me also knowing that those free
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clinics they were using some people anything, people were afraid of that, especially
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African Americans, they were afraid to go to the free clinic. Now living
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in a state where there was a lot of issues with the free clinic,
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and I ain't gonna say to being mad. People will figure out what places
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I'm talking about, But that happens. People are afraid to go. And
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you remember how they was doing all the other testing and whatnot way back when
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people don't free you know, they're not educating education. Just say so was
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educating people that people knew what was going on. People knew that they were
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the African Americans, or for now money to come in and they're still doing
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it nowadays, or for no money. So they could come in to test
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them for this, and the test them for that and running this and running
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that, but they're running a chance of coming down. That's the number of
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things that hasn't been approved. So that becomes an issue. So people,
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you know, I do understand and I appreciate people saying free clinics, but
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I think that they really need to look at these so called free clinics to
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see what the whole also working bad. But you know, for some people
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in an other words, feel more treated like no so off for treatment or
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told to come back. Many people are not lack meaning and discus menalism has
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been imnified contributing factors. How what all women, especially cervical answers about their
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healthcare provided that is an issue they don't follow. Well, they get that
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clean bill of health for that movement, but they don't come back. Why
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do you think they don't crowd all this clinic? Well, I always try
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to encourage them, because even hospitals have clinics if they don't want to go
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to the free clinic. Hospitals have clinics. I don't think people know that,
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but hospitals they have clinics and they do go buy your income, and
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so don't be afraid to go see the doctor if it comes to finances.
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Don't be afraid to see the doctor. I know we watch movies and it
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said, oh, we're not going to see them because they don't have any
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insurance. But they do have clinics, and they will go by your income,
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and they will they have financial assistance, and yes, I did.
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I have heard of people saying, well, you know, I was okay,
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you know in two thousand and here it is twoenty twenty. I'm not
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going back. But you have to get checked every year because your body is
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always changing. You don't know what's going on in there, so get a
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check up. What resources are these women? Do you think that they're hit
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in this information and that there are some programs that are designed to cater to
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our needs, but we don't know about them. They have women's clinic if
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you don't. If you like, just like they got the mammogram vans,
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they have women clinics if you don't want to, you know, be in
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certain areas. You have to do your research and you have to really care
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about yourself and say, look, I have to take care of myself.
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And don't be afraid to take care of yourself. Because one thing about women,
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we don't mind taking care of the whole world. We'll take care of
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the whole world and we'll put ourselves last. But guess what if you're God,
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Who're gonna take care of everybody, they gonna keep on living and you're
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gone. So you have to take care of yourself and make sure you take
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time out. And just because you was okay in two thousand, that's different.
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Get a check up and it's something you just go in there. It's
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real simptoms. Get a check up, and learn how to love yourself.
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And I was telling somebody this yesterday, because she's gonna do cancer. I
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said, get you a massage, honey, get your nails done, your
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toes done, take care of yourself, do some self care. Get away
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from everybody. Sometimes we don't understand it. I don't think we understand that
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we're supposed to take care ofself. Learn how to get away from everybody and
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sow your brain and breathe. I don't think we understand our brain is supposed
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to breathe, just breed. Well, we don't have to hear anybody.
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We can eat our food. We don't have to hear anybody. So can
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I have some? You know? We need we need that, we need
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that, and I don't think we understand that. I know one thing,
32:07
I must have looked horrible because this lady walk up to me and she said,
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honey, you need to take care of yourself. She said, you
32:14
take care of everybody, take care of the hus me, take care of
32:15
you. And I said, dad, I must love hard. But she
32:19
told me to take care of myself. But I'm mad she said that because
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that's what I've been doing. I have days I just go to the restaurant,
32:28
sit by myself and enjoy my food. I have to worry about anybody
32:31
asking can I have some of my food? You know, I'm just enjoying
32:37
me. So we got to learn how to take care of ourselves. Well.
32:40
Self care is the best care, you know, so you just definitely
32:45
can't beat that. At Or you had mentioned something early when you was talking
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about teaching, and you were saying how they was telling you to teach them
32:52
to pass the test, and that's one of the things they don't teach in
32:57
school, and that's hygiene and self care and taking care of yourself the charge
33:01
away from that. How important do you think that we need to bring it
33:05
back because these kids are doing things that are a little different than the way
33:09
they were doing them when I was coming on. So how do you think
33:13
that would be to bring that back into the schools. Well, do you
33:15
think that the experience would be accepting that the said port It depends what school
33:23
district you are in, because some school district they still talk about self care
33:30
and how to take care of yourself, and then some schools talk about uh,
33:34
sex education and a lot of parents go off, we shouldn't be talking
33:37
about this. But my children will learn about sex education at the age of
33:42
three because I had two deaf children and they went to a deaf school,
33:46
so they had to learn that there was no work cookie, No. They
33:52
had to learn the appropriate words because just in case somebody touched them. We
33:57
didn't want to hear somebody touch my cookie. No, somebody touched my vagina,
34:01
somebody touched my penis, So we have to teach the children appropriate words.
34:07
At the right time. People say when it's the right time when they
34:12
five. Why Because when I was teaching first grade and they put the second
34:17
grade class in my room, one of my second graders, I was telling
34:21
her to stay away from strangers. I was telling the whole class stay away
34:23
from strangers. And she was talking about how somebody raped her so and she
34:29
was telling everything. A second grader, This baby six years old, So
34:34
we have to talk about that. We had to talk about this even though
34:38
we don't want to. Oh my goodness, they too young. Guess what,
34:43
these children are seeing more things than they ever seen before. When we
34:49
was growing up, you know, we you know, our parents, you
34:52
know, hit us from a lot of things. But now ask some of
34:55
these teachers. These children are in kindergarten, first, second, third grade,
35:00
they talking about sex. Well, you know a lot of the both
35:04
teachers are mandated reporters, and unfortunately some of them don't want to get involved.
35:10
Some of them are the purpet trade thing because they're the perfect is themselves.
35:17
I'm not saying all teachers are like this, because you have different walks
35:22
of life where people are perpetrators in different walks of lives. But right now,
35:25
we're talking about teachers. I can talk about other subjects where they are
35:29
as well. But people, you know, some teachers are perpetrators, and
35:35
you have them that don't know how to talk to these children. You know
35:38
they should be when they're doing those developmental days that professional development days. What
35:45
are they actually doing professional development days for? Are they just getting their materials
35:49
together? Because I've worked in a school system too, you know, at
35:53
some point in time in my life and our professional development days, was actually
35:58
a professionalist about they come in, they're supposed to be getting tales and stuff
36:06
together, but what trainings are coming into the school. Because the states are
36:10
spending a lot of money on these school systems, but a lot of these
36:14
children are walking out without the knowledge of a lot of the things we're thinking
36:17
that they're getting, and I think they need to bring that back into the
36:21
school. Okay, they got sex education, but what are they really talking
36:24
about in there? You know, these children are way beyond the birds and
36:29
the bees now they are waits. Some of these kids can teach us some
36:31
stuff. You know, the language that they speak and I'm not talking about
36:35
the bad language. I'm talking about they know about things and they say things
36:38
that can be surprising, but it can be alarming. But I do think
36:43
that they need to bring this in there and the parents, you know,
36:46
go to the school meeting so you would know and you can have some input
36:51
as far as what you would like for your children to learn, because a
36:53
lot of children they don't want to hear from their parents. You know,
36:57
we can tell them to be good all day and to do this and do
37:00
that, they don't want to hear from us. They don't hear it from
37:02
their friends' parents. Fasten their hair for uths. But if you go to
37:06
these schools and you start there, because they're all gathered there, these children,
37:09
they're all in one room and that's a place where they can talk.
37:13
So I think they should allow that because a lot of things, like you
37:15
said, with the little six year old, it came out. She says
37:20
that she was touched inappropriately, so that came out. She was put in
37:23
a class with other students, had she not been put in there, and
37:27
she was just in her regular class. What she has said anything, I
37:30
don't know. But what she has said anything, So you know, we
37:35
have to come at it at all different angles. When we're talking about cancer,
37:40
HIV, when we're talking about sexually transmitted infections. When we're talking about
37:45
any of that, it's very very important for us to start talking about it
37:51
and not shy away from it because it's not taboo anymore. It's not taboo
37:55
to talk about it anymore. You can talk about all the gossip that's going
38:00
going on on TV and things that's happening on your block and the stuff on
38:04
the news. Why not talk about this? Why not talk about it?
38:12
How easy is it a possible to talk to these kids in school? You
38:16
gotta have a relationship with the children. And when I was teaching fourth or
38:20
fifth graders, they was talking and then they would ask me questions. And
38:25
you have to know your students. You have to know which one is going
38:30
to report you, because you know you can get fired. You can't you
38:35
can get The school system has to be on one occoord You can't be teaching
38:40
one thing in District one and District two is miles ahead teaching something. Not
38:45
because those kids from District one in District two, they get together, they
38:50
speak, they see each other, you know, so it should it should
38:52
be all the way around. It shouldn't be a difference in the way you're
38:55
teaching because they're going to grow up, they're gonna get older, they're gonna
38:59
start going to school together. Then they're gonna branch out, and then they'll
39:01
come back together when they going to college together. So you have to be
39:05
on one accord when you're teaching these children anything you really have to. And
39:09
then they grow up with a sense of self care and taking care of themselves
39:14
and appreciating theirself and appreciating their body. So I think I'm not gonna say,
39:20
oh, it starts at home. You know, I'm one that you
39:22
know it takes. It does take a village, But you got people really
39:28
have to watch a village people too, because you know, you don't you
39:31
don't know who to trust anymore. You know, tell your children and the
39:36
coach in this class, or or the the secretary over here, the school,
39:42
or you know whoever, then the school. You know about self care,
39:53
have those sessions instead of just reprimanding them for breaking perfect talk to them
40:04
time with them that it's about argument with your teenager, it's about waiting they
40:10
dressing. I know those could be issues, and I know some people may
40:14
say a lot of these, yeah, a lot of these. A lot
40:22
of parents are not talking to their children because a lot of them are not
40:25
at home. They work so much. Because I always ask the children,
40:31
you know, or your parents gonna be home? You get home? You
40:34
know, my my parents working first and second shift, and I'm like Lord
40:37
Jesus because they're trying to keep the roof over their heads. So a lot
40:43
of times these children are going home and there's no one there but their siblings.
40:47
Well, I'm not because they got to pay those kids benefits. They
40:52
got to pay for that so their children can be well. So you know,
40:55
it's we can go on and on and on, and I'm not blaming
41:00
anybody. I'm just saying is that certain systems are broken. I think that
41:05
healthcare should be free for everyone because it affects everyone. If you don't have
41:09
health care, how is your employees going to continue to work when they're not
41:14
well. You can have a ration to look at the epidemic we've just been
41:16
through. It was given out the shots. Had they not given out those
41:21
shots for free, how many the way if they hadn't, you could just
41:29
imagine. You can just imagine it. So, like I said, a
41:31
possible, I can sit here and talk to you all night, but I
41:34
do want to ask you. I see that you're also an author, and
41:37
you're a singer and your pastor. Tell me about your book. Okay,
41:44
my first book that I published, that's called Poppy You Are Love, and
41:50
I published that in twenty fifteen. It's about my mother. Somebody said,
41:54
why don't you write a book about your mother since she's no longer here?
41:59
And I didn't know that was going to be a domestic violence book. And
42:01
then I my son said, Mom, you got a lot of books,
42:09
and you start writing other books. I said, what. So I ended
42:13
up getting into a lot of collaborations with other authors and just praise God to
42:20
just meet everybody from all over the world. Then I start, I think.
42:25
I published my first children's book in twenty nineteen, and then my second
42:31
one twenty nineteen. Then I did a Bible book called The Guy Head in
42:39
twenty twenty, and then in twenty twenty one, I did another book and
42:49
that I started that but it didn't get finished in twenty twenty two, and
42:52
that's called Amazing Workbook, Study Workbook, Study, Bible Workbook. And I'm
43:00
telling you, we have a reference book that on it's finished. It's just
43:06
not out yet because I'm trying to get the format together. But I have
43:12
different various books out, different collaborations with different people, and I just praised
43:19
God for the different collaborations because the first collaboration I didn't even know how that
43:24
was going to work. That was with Vranessa, doctor Bressa Blackwell, and
43:30
we end up being the number one international, number one international bestseller authors.
43:37
And I was shocked. What So I was trying to encourage other people,
43:44
you know, do collaborations, and you know, it's hard to get people
43:47
to do think something different because of the unknown. And then Angela came along
43:54
and I met her and then we started doing collaborations. So I'm telling you,
44:00
uh, she got some number one uh best books out to and I'm
44:06
telling you, just learn how to just get along with folks and working together.
44:13
I'm telling you it's a beautiful thing. You seem to be keeping yourself
44:17
busy. I want to address this question here. Most of the babies will
44:21
statement, most of the babies are left to raise themselves. And yes,
44:23
Latanya, yes, a lot of children. It's not I don't think it's
44:25
because the parents want to, but I think that they feel as though they
44:30
have no other choice. But they they have to remember the law that you
44:34
cannot leave children under a certain age in the house by themselves without supervision.
44:39
I don't know what states things they are in, but every state, as
44:43
a daughter, I can not leave children in the home without So just say
44:50
in your state that the law is that they can't leave under the age.
44:57
You want to have to figure something out otherwise. So I can't tell you
45:05
you go to or what to do in those states to people. And I
45:09
know people don't trust people, but just now your child is left alone,
45:13
somebody else know not not to open that door. It only takes a hard
45:22
kick the break in the door, right, Think about all other things that
45:25
can possibly happen as well. And again, nobody's saying you're a bad parent,
45:30
but we're just saying is that you just got to be mindful when you
45:32
make the decision to make your challenge. There's a woman here in Ohio who's
45:40
going to prison for six years because she left her children who were under ten,
45:46
in the house and while she was at work, the house burnt,
45:50
caught on fire, and they died. So she's going to prison for six
45:53
years and she's already suffering, you know, you know I don't know what
45:58
the circumstances were, but pray for her and her family. You know,
46:02
Apostle, and it's been wonderful talking to you. Thank you for sharing your
46:08
journey and being so open. I believe me your testimony tonight will give insight
46:13
into early detection and treatment. There are usually no signs or symptoms of early
46:17
cervical cancer, but it can be detected early with regular checkups. Checkups should
46:23
include tests such as PAP tests you know they call them Papsman's PAP tests,
46:29
and or the HPV tests. The PAP test checks for pre cancero's changes in
46:35
the cervix. The HPV test looks for high risk types of human papalomavirus infections.
46:42
Now, the HPV is not just for women. Well girls, you
46:45
can have your little boys do to HPV too, because it's more likely to
46:51
cause pre cancer certain cervical cancer, but it's also pre cancer. Regular screeners
46:55
can find pre cancer or early cervical cancer. What it is easier to treat.
47:00
Cervical cancer can be treated by getting vaccinated, so you have to get
47:04
the boys vaccinated as well. Now, I understand we're talking about surgical cancer
47:07
tonight, but we're also talking about getting vaccinated against HPV virus from age nine
47:14
to twenty six. The vaccine is effective if administrated before turning sexually active.
47:22
So the little boys are sexually active as well as the little girls, so
47:25
it's better and it's safer for them to get the HPV vaccination. Speak to
47:30
your pediatrician about sun getting the HPV. Do you have an idea suggestion for
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gmail dot com. Join us. On Friday, October Twentiethi is here and
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we're talking with author B. W. Jeffrey after eight after doc, thanks
48:07
so much. I appreciate you coming. This has been something that's been awesome.
48:13
And it's October and I'm loving not Toober because it's my birthday month,
48:19
but it's also cancel happy birthday. Thank you, thank you. That's what
48:24
in two days I have to remind myself some two days. But again,
48:30
just everybody, just be aware, Just be aware of yourself and your loved
48:37
ones and go get tested go get tested. I usually have my appointment on
48:43
my birthday every year, but I couldn't schedule it this year, but I
48:45
have one coming up. I do have a doctor's appointment, but it's for
48:46
something else. But I usually make that my gift to myself, and that's
48:52
to get that exam to breast exam and you know, just for my g
48:54
y n appointment, because that's my present to myself every year. So when
48:58
they say do you have plans, let's say, yea, I have a
49:00
plan. I'm gifting myself and that's what I do, so I think other
49:02
people that's how you can remember those appointments. Do it on your birthday.
49:07
You know, you got the whole day to celebrate, dude on your birthday.
49:10
This way you can celebrate again the next year because you did that.
49:14
So that's why I do it. For me. I do it on my
49:15
birthday every year, so this way I know what time of the year it
49:20
is and what I'm going for. So again, Apostle, and you didn't
49:23
tell me about the song though, Oh I'm sorry. My song is called
49:29
When I was nothing, God Loved Me. So there's a single out and
49:34
I have other songs. I'm just waiting for God to allow me to reveal.
49:40
Well, I'm gonna be listening and looking out for that, and I'm
49:43
gonna have you back because we're gonna talk about this song and we're gonna talk
49:45
about other songs that you have coming out. Okay, all right, thank
49:52
you so much. Good night everyone, Basic Black after Dawn dolllu Pod Cash
50:00
Show with your host. That was so nice. Thank you so much.
50:07
It was just I learned a lot sitting here talking to you about it,
50:12
because you know, some people take take it for granted, you know,
50:15
about cancer, cancer wareness. I have another guest coming on on the twenty
50:22
fourth, and we're talking about breast cancer. So I'm trying to do this
50:25
month for what it is, you know. But it's just amazing, you
50:31
know. I don't think that we should be talking about it just in October
50:36
and wearing the pink just in October. I think that things like cancer should
50:40
be dedicated. Maybe let's just say the first of every month, you know,
50:44
but then there's so much going on. You have HIV, so it's
50:46
going to be the second of every month. Every day you'll be doing something,
50:50
But then every day we should be until we can get a cure for
50:53
all of this. I think everything every day we should be because when it
50:57
boils down to it, no matter what anybody has, it's a form of
51:00
cancer. And then he said, hey, but that's some form of cancer.
51:04
They just gave it a different name. That's rights cancer, you know.
51:09
And that's the sad part. It's truly, it's sad. Praying for
51:15
you, now, what's stay you when you're in Ohio. I'm in Ohio.
51:22
Gosh. I just wish I had some connection because I did housing here
51:25
in this state. I did housing here. Yeah, the section that now
51:30
you know, you can port that section eight vouch you. Once you get
51:31
it, you can go to Atlanta. And once you get it, just
51:35
you can head to Atlanta. They'll take it. Any state that has what
51:37
you make, they'll take it.