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Ep. 49 What is a Projector in Human Design? (with special guest Carmen Tuleta) · Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Mastery, Wealth Mindset, Leadership Principles, Intuitive Decision-Making, Human Design

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  Erin Gray: You're listening to Generate a Life Well-Lived podcast.
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  Erin Gray: I'm your friend and confidant, erin Gray.
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  Erin Gray: I'm a former certified financial planner, turned human design, financial mentor and guide to entrepreneurs.
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  Erin Gray: I believe our money and our business can only thrive at the level of our emotional wellbeing.
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  Erin Gray: I empower entrepreneurs to feel confident with their money and in their business so that they can have fun now and in the future.
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  Erin Gray: On this podcast, we will explore all things money, business and self-development, including human design.
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  Erin Gray: I hope you enjoy the journey where I share everything that I know and am continuing to learn along the way, as I honor my heart's desires while inspiring and encouraging you to do the same.
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  Erin Gray: Okay, my friends, I'm so glad you're back.
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  Erin Gray: I brought Carmen Toledo on the podcast to talk about all things human design.
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  Erin Gray: We're going to keep it short and sweet for you, simple.
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  Erin Gray: We're trying to break very complex stuff down and keep it super simple.
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  Erin Gray: Um, because I think it's important to like we can get so overwhelmed Like.
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  Erin Gray: What are the couple key takeaways?
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  Erin Gray: So, on the last couple of podcasts, we've broken down each type so far.
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  Erin Gray: So we've talked about manifestors, manifesting generators and generators in the last three episodes.
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  Erin Gray: So if you want to go listen or watch that you're welcome to do that, and so today we're going to talk about projectors, and Carmen is a projector, and I'm so glad you're here, so let's dive in.
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  Carmen Tuleta: I am I'm so glad to be here again today.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Yeah, so, type projectors, so our type, is the foundation, I think, of our human design.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It is how we energetically move through the world and interact with the world.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It is our aura and it contains our strategy, which is part of our decision-making strategy.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Our strategy, which is part of our decision-making strategy, so it's something that we always come back to.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So that's kind of it's the foundation of of our design.
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  Erin Gray: Yeah, so you want to talk about projectors, and I mean we're going to talk about projectors, but I'm like what I want to say is, like I've met so many projectors and this is what we both Carmen and I, feel so passionate about is never, ever, ever using your human design as a way to disempower yourself, Like, only use it to empower yourself, be delusional, Cause we're going to be delusional one way or the other, Right?
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  Erin Gray: So, um, and I'll talk to projectors and they're like, and if you want to share, first of all share your um like the, the strategy, and um you know, like how projectors move.
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  Erin Gray: And then I want to share a story that that many projectors have shared with me.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Okay.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So the strategy for a projector is wait for the invitation and recognition is wait for the invitation and recognition.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So when I first started human design, I didn't understand what my strategy was because it seemed so complicated.
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  Carmen Tuleta: And I honestly think that invitation is kind of like where to start.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It can be verbal, can be energetic, but understanding how your body feels when you get that invitation is the starting point and knowing that that is an invitation for you to move forward and then it's moving into recognition.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So knowing when someone recognizes you, for you, not what you do is is the key, I think, to really understanding your strategy and authority as a projector.
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  Erin Gray: Yeah, a lot of projectors lately.
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  Erin Gray: They have found out they're a projector and then they say like well, I can't do, I can't share you know my knowledge because nobody's invited me and I would love your thoughts on this, but it's like I believe it's like you just share but you're not going and infusing your advice yet, right, like you're just sharing and people love to, to grasp onto your knowledge and all of you know all of that.
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  Erin Gray: And then the invitations come through sharing.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So, coming back to like using it from an empowering place, it's about being seen for your knowledge and what you have to offer, and I find that as a projector it's very hard to be seen.
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  Carmen Tuleta: But there's also that want to be seen, if that makes sense does that come from the ego?
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  Erin Gray: do you think like the want, potentially like?
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  Erin Gray: Do you think that's what it means, or what do you mean by that?
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  Carmen Tuleta: probably I look back at like my younger days and when you push that to be seen, so I guess in a sense it's like um not waiting for the invitation, in a sense um or the recognition.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So with that pushing to be seen, um always blows back, Right yeah.
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  Erin Gray: And I think here we go back to like human design and then also just like energy vibration, like, I think, anybody, whether you're a projector or not, like giving advice unless that other person is at that place where they're ready to receive.
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  Erin Gray: No advice goes very well when you're like trying to shove advice or what someone should do, right.
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  Erin Gray: And so I think, whether you're a projector or not, it's like is that other person on the other end at a place where they are ready and willing to receive the message that you're about to give?
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  Carmen Tuleta: Absolutely.
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  Carmen Tuleta: And as a projector, we can see quite a bit and it's off-putting, it is very off-putting.
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  Carmen Tuleta: We see the things that other people don't see.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So having that invitation is so tetramount.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It is like almost gospel to have that, because sometimes things aren't easy to hear right and, as a projector, knowing that I have that invitation to share something is huge because it's so much more impactful and I'm not left or a projector isn't left feeling that not self theme of bitterness and resentment.
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  Erin Gray: Yeah, and then what is your like when you know you're on track or when it feels like when you're in alignment?
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  Erin Gray: What is your, what is the emotion that typically shows up for you?
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  Carmen Tuleta: for projectors, for projectors is success.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Okay, yeah, yeah, it is success, that feeling of success.
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  Carmen Tuleta: And it's really funny because I I was talking to someone about a projector who wasn't a projector and they're like, well, I like success and it's not success in the of what we think success is.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It's not having all the things, it's not being successful, it's a feeling in the body, and I think what people don't understand is that that that that satisfaction or that signature goal of our types is not an outside thing, it's an inside feeling.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Yeah, yeah.
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  Erin Gray: Um, I want to go back to, because there's a couple of things that I've also heard and I'm like no, no, no, no, that's not what it means of like, oh, projectors, you know, they're not sacral being so they don't necessarily work well.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So because projectors are don't have a lot of times the projectors in the room are going to be the busiest ones and it's almost a frenzied energy in a sense.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Coming from my experience as a projector, maybe other projectors don't feel this, but for me it's almost like a frenzied.
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  Carmen Tuleta: My daughter Ukrainian danced and my son Ukrainian danced for years, and when it came to recital time I was the mom that did all the things.
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  Carmen Tuleta: I was the one running from room to room to help all the people, because I had knowledge in the area as well.
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  Carmen Tuleta: But also, too, there's a misconception that there's no energy in a projector chart and there are offsets of projectors.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So there is an energy projector, which I am, and it's having a motor defined for a projector.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So that could be, that could be your solar plexus, that could be your heart, that could be your root.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So there are such things as an energy projector, which I am, and my heart is defined.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So I have a little bit of oomph.
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  Erin Gray: Yeah, I think all I think everybody does right, like projectors, like you can work.
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  Erin Gray: It's just are you working in a way that is an alignment and that feels good in your body and you're honoring you know um the invitation?
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  Erin Gray: And it's not like you don't work at all, it's like, yes, you do.
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  Erin Gray: It's just what.
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  Erin Gray: Do you have the energy for honoring where you are in your energy cycle?
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  Erin Gray: And then, um, you said something about go ahead.
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  Carmen Tuleta: The honoring piece is huge.
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  Carmen Tuleta: As a projector and there's a misconception, I feel like that you have to rest.
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  Carmen Tuleta: As a projector, rest looks different for all of us and resting could be doing something you love.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It's something that lights you up and fills your cup, versus having a nap and I'm a napper and I require that.
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  Carmen Tuleta: But once I knew that I was a projector and I wasn't just lazy, I required that time for myself to rejuvenate my energy.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It was huge for me.
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  Carmen Tuleta: I let go of a lot of guilt because there was a lot of guilt, because I think people who are projectors sometimes have that conditioning of they're lazy and they're not.
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  Erin Gray: Yeah, so for you in terms of like the pause, like we've talked about on the other podcasts, of like how important the pauses and like pause is, and then waiting for the invitation, like you asked me about trusting and things like that, Like how has that shown up for you?
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  Erin Gray: And like tell us a little bit about that from a projector standpoint.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So, from a projector standpoint for me and this is like very recent that I've really tapped into this for myself and really began to understand how it works for myself as a projector is actually doing the thing that I'm passionate about and putting my blinders on, and those invitations have shown up in so many different ways, in amazing ways, and that recognition I'm finally learning what true recognition feels like in my body and it's like a huge light bulb for me.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It's yeah, it's been so, I think for me knowing okay I'm, I'm working on the thing that I love and doing the things, and then it's like projectors just slide after that things just come to them.
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  Erin Gray: So in business, that looks like sharing your knowledge.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Showing up, showing up, Okay, Um projectors can struggle with consistency because we're not energy beings and redefining what consistently, consistently consistency looks for us is huge.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So, for instance, showing up on social media you do not have to show up every day.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Consistency.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Consistency isn't showing up every day, that's frequency, yeah.
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  Carmen Tuleta: But if you're showing up, you're there two, three times a week.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Whatever it is for you, that's consistent, yeah.
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  Carmen Tuleta: And something before I ever was a projector that I've always said is people will come to me when they're ready for me.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So knowing that, that and that's pause, right, yeah, that's sitting back and waiting and pausing.
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  Erin Gray: So interesting.
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  Erin Gray: Um, you said about the consistency and I think that's for projectors and I think that's for everyone right, like what is your like?
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  Erin Gray: like here we go back to, we're so conditioned in our, at least the Western, culture.
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  Erin Gray: Right Of like, consistent means like every single day and doing all the things and like even to the sacral being generator.
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  Erin Gray: Here I'm like that just wears me out thinking about that Right and so really using, like I say to like, using your human design in a way that like feels good.
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  Erin Gray: Right, like what is consistent, like everybody can struggle with consistency.
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  Erin Gray: Right, like cause, we have a human brain.
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  Erin Gray: That's like.
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  Erin Gray: No, no, no no, no, no, we don't want to do that Right, and so, like what feels good for you and showing up and like committing to that and yeah, like the fun part of it, like having fun with it versus I said I was going to do this.
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  Carmen Tuleta: The question I always ask myself is is this fun?
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  Carmen Tuleta: How can I make this fun?
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  Carmen Tuleta: Because no one wants to do stuff.
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  Carmen Tuleta: That's not fun.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It's like a slog right, it's yeah.
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  Carmen Tuleta: And how?
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  Carmen Tuleta: Why would we have energy to do those things that we love if we're putting all our energy in the things that we hate?
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  Erin Gray: Yeah, you have anything else that you want to talk about and say about projectors?
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  Carmen Tuleta: Oh, yeah, no, the honoring.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So I think for projector as well, something that has occurred to me is who we are is rooted in relationship, because a lot of times, the people that come into our world help us with our energy.
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  Carmen Tuleta: So I think that, whether it's in a marketing capacity for your business or in life, right, and this comes and we've talked about this before like the generator projector relationship.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Yeah, I think that, because of the recognition between the two of them, it gives each other energy.
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  Erin Gray: Yeah, what would you say to someone is like how do I start to lean back and like allow invitations to come, because it's really scary and I don't trust you?
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  Carmen Tuleta: oh, um, how do I even put it into words?
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  Carmen Tuleta: Because I'm just starting to figure it out for myself.
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  Carmen Tuleta: It is taking that step back and finding that thing that lights you up, that you want to spend your time doing, because once you find that thing and you are honing in on that thing and finding that blinders, stuff's just going to come and trust the process.
• 15:06
  Erin Gray: Yeah, I was going to come and trust the process.
• 15:07
  Erin Gray: Willing yeah, I was gonna say like willingness, like it really absolutely.
• 15:11
  Erin Gray: It does take some willingness and some like dip in the toe like I'm gonna try it and like leaning into the trust, right, like I always say, like you know how it feels the other way in your body and it's not like there's one way right way or one wrong way right but like you know how forcing things felt like in your body for you versus how it feels in your body now to kind of like lean back and like things just come because you're doing all of the stuff that you love to do.
• 15:35
  Carmen Tuleta: Right, and for me too, because I'm I am an emotional being.
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  Carmen Tuleta: I stepping back and trusting is huge, whether you're in it and again is huge.
• 15:51
  Carmen Tuleta: Whether you're in it and again, no matter what, no matter what, your authority is stepping back and and taking that pause and and you're, like you said, trusting is huge and being willing one to do the work and one to wait.
• 16:02
  Erin Gray: Yeah, okay, my friends.
• 16:05
  Erin Gray: So we've got one more, we got reflectors on the next episode.
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  Erin Gray: Thank you so much, carmen, for all of your time, your wisdom, your knowledge for sharing all of that with us.
• 16:13
  Erin Gray: Where can people find you, learn more about you?
• 16:16
  Carmen Tuleta: all of the things.
• 16:16
  Carmen Tuleta: Well, right now, my website's on an overhaul, so that's that's coming, but I do have a link to book a session with me, so I'll I can give that to you and you can pop it in the show notes, and I do have an Instagram account.
• 16:35
  Carmen Tuleta: I'm also doing an overhaul there, but I'm still there and I'm still showing up there.
• 16:39
  Carmen Tuleta: Um, with a little bit of a twist on my um, how I look at human design and how I help people, and I have so much fun over there.
• 16:48
  Carmen Tuleta: I was like you gotta go.
• 16:50
  Erin Gray: You gotta go watch Carmen, Cause she's so fun.
• 16:52
  Erin Gray: She like throws twists on things and she's just yeah, it's.
• 16:55
  Erin Gray: It's fun to like talk about things in such a fun, easeful, like not serious way, and Carmen does a great job with that yeah.
• 17:04
  Carmen Tuleta: We have enough serious in life.
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  Carmen Tuleta: Let's have some fun.
• 17:09
  Erin Gray: Let's have some fun, yeah yeah.
• 17:10
  Erin Gray: So thank you everybody for listening, thank you for watching and thank you, carmen Again.
• 17:14
  Erin Gray: I appreciate it.
• 17:14
  Erin Gray: Thank you, thank you for tuning in today.
• 17:19
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• 17:21
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