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- Lucas: So you’re six weeks into a job search. You’ve sent out thirty applications. Maybe you got one first-round interview that went nowhere. And every rejection email lands with a little thud in your chest. Luna: I think most marketers know that feeling. It’s almost physically draining. Lucas: Right. And the natural instinct is to close the email, delete it, move on. But what if instead of ignoring the rejection, you actually catalogued it? Treated it as data. Luna: Like a rejection resume? I’ve heard that term floating around. Lucas: Exactly. A rejection resume is literally a document — or a spreadsheet, or a Notion page — where you log every role you didn’t get, along with details: the company, the stage you reached, the feedback you received, and what you think went wrong. Luna: And you do this while you’re still in the thick of the search? That takes some discipline. Lucas: It does. But here’s why it’s worth it. The American Marketing Association published a study last year — 2024 — that followed about 400 mid-career marketers. The ones who kept a rejection log were 23 percent more likely to land a role within six months, compared to the ones who didn’t. Luna: Twenty-three percent is not nothing. That’s a significant edge. Lucas: And the mechanism isn’t magic. It’s that the act of logging forces you to reflect. You start to see patterns. Maybe you always get cut after the case study presentation. Or every rejection from a health-tech company mentions ‘lack of B2B experience.’ Now you have concrete data about where to focus. Luna: So it’s less about wallowing in the rejection and more about pattern recognition. Lucas: Exactly. And I think the term ‘resume’ is clever — it flips the narrative. A resume is something you present to show your best self. A rejection resume is something you keep private, to show your gaps. But both are tools for moving forward. Luna: I’m curious — do you know anyone who actually does this? I mean, a real marketer who used this approach? Lucas: Yeah, I interviewed a product marketing manager at Mailchimp a few months ago. She’d been laid off from a fintech startup and spent four months searching. She kept a rejection resume in a Google Sheet. She told me that after her eighth rejection, she noticed a pattern: she was getting to the final round, but losing to candidates who had more experience with product-led growth metrics. Luna: So she had a specific gap she could actually work on. Lucas: Right. She spent two weeks doing a PLG certification course, then started mentioning it in interviews. She landed a role at Mailchimp three weeks later. Without the log, she might have just thought she was unlucky. Luna: That’s a really concrete example. What does she track in the sheet? Lucas: She tracks company name, role title, date applied, date rejected, stage reached, type of interview, feedback received if any, and then a self-assessment column where she rates her own performance from one to five. She also writes one sentence on what she would do differently. Luna: So it’s structured enough to be useful, but simple enough to maintain under the stress of a job search. Lucas: Exactly. And she updates it within 24 hours of getting the rejection. If she waits longer, she says she loses the nuance — she forgets the specific question she stumbled on. Luna: I think this is a great tool, but I also wonder — how do you keep from spiraling? I mean, if you’re logging rejection after rejection, doesn’t it reinforce the negative? Lucas: That’s the counter-intuitive thing. The marketers who do this say it actually reduces the emotional sting, because you reframe each rejection from a personal failure to a data point. It becomes clinical. And as the spreadsheet fills up, you start to see progress — you get further in the process, or you get better feedback. It becomes a story of improvement. Luna: That reminds me of something — I was at a HubSpot marketing meetup last quarter, and a senior content strategist there mentioned that she uses a rejection resume not just for jobs, but for pitches. She tracks which content topics get rejected by editors and which ones get accepted. Lucas: That’s a great extension. The same principle applies: you’re treating rejection as information, not judgment. Luna: And it works because it’s actionable. You can look at that list and say, oh, I pitched three listicles and all got rejected, but my two long-form case studies got accepted. So maybe I should focus on case studies. Lucas: Exactly. And I think that’s the core insight for today’s episode: rejection is feedback. But only if you capture it. Luna: So let’s talk about how to start one. What’s the minimum viable version? Lucas: I’d say start with four columns: company, role, stage reached, and one lesson learned. That’s it. You can always add more later. The key is to write it down within a day. Luna: And do you share it with anyone? Or is it strictly private? Lucas: Most people keep it private. But some marketers do a quarterly review with a mentor or a peer. They’ll say, ‘Here are the five rejections I got this quarter. What patterns do you see?’ That external perspective can catch blind spots. Luna: If these marketing conversations have sparked something you’ve actually used — maybe a rejection resume or a new way to think about your career — a couple of dollars a month is genuinely what keeps these going. That’s at buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. Lucas: Yeah, it’s a small thing that makes a real difference for us. No pressure, just if you’ve gotten value. Luna: Alright, back to the rejection resume. One thing I’d add: timing matters. I think it’s best to update the log when you’re feeling relatively grounded, not right after a particularly brutal rejection. Lucas: That’s a smart nuance. Give yourself an hour to feel the disappointment, then open the spreadsheet. Don’t suppress the emotion, but don’t let it stop you from collecting the data. Luna: And what about the content of the feedback? Some companies give generic rejection emails — ‘we decided to go with another candidate.’ How do you handle that? Lucas: That’s tough. But even a generic email tells you something: you didn’t make it past that stage. You can still self-assess. And if you have a contact at the company, you can sometimes ask for more specific feedback. I’ve had listeners say they send a polite LinkedIn message to the recruiter asking for one piece of advice. Luna: And do recruiters actually respond? Lucas: Sometimes. It’s worth trying. The worst they can say is no. And if they do respond, you get a gold nugget for your rejection resume. Luna: Let’s talk about how often to review the rejection resume. Weekly? Monthly? Lucas: I’d say monthly is good. Set a calendar reminder. Look for patterns across rejections. Maybe you notice that three companies in the same industry all passed on you. That might mean you need to strengthen your industry knowledge. Luna: And after you land a job, do you keep the rejection resume? Lucas: Some people archive it. Others keep it as a reference for the next search. But I think there’s value in revisiting it a year later — you can see how far you’ve come. Those rejections that felt devastating now look like stepping stones. Luna: That’s a nice reframe. It’s not about dwelling on failure; it’s about documenting growth. Lucas: Exactly. And I think for marketers in particular, this aligns with the data-driven mindset we bring to campaigns. Why not apply the same rigor to our careers? Luna: So to summarize: start a rejection resume today. Four columns. Update within 24 hours. Review monthly. Use the patterns to close skill gaps. Lucas: And remember, every rejection is just a data point. It doesn’t define you. But if you track it, it can definitely help you. Luna: Thanks, Lucas. And thanks to everyone listening. We’ll be back next week with another practical tool for your marketing career.