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Facing the Fear: My First Platform Mediumship Event 🔮 · The Psychic Explorer

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Good afternoon, good morning or good evening.
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Hello everyone. It's me, Matt from the Psychiexplorer.
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I hope you're well. I am sat in my back bedroom
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and I am recording on the day after my birthday.
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Yes, your host is now 41 years of age and the
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older I get, the more I feel I am fitting into...
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her natural age. You know, I've always felt old.
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I've always felt older, rather, should I say.
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When I was a kid, my mum used to say to me, you
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don't like other children. She was completely
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right, I didn't. And yeah, it's been a really
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lovely day actually, my other half. took the
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day off with me and I wanted a very cultural
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day. I wanted to go to a museum. I wanted to
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do a tour of a medieval street here in Norwich.
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Norwich is the nearest city that we live near
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or the largest town that we live near. And then
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he took me out for a really beautiful dinner.
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a place called the Gunton Arms if anybody is
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in Norfolk you will have heard of the Gunton
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Arms and they have this incredible grill and
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just over the grill is this huge skull and antlers
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and I mean huge I'm talking like three four meters
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wide just ginormous I had to ask I said to the
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waitress I said I know you must get asked this
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all the time." And she laughed and she looked
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at the skull behind her and she said, you want
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to know more about that? I said, what is it?
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Where is it from? She said, it's an elk skull.
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Because the hotel and the restaurant is on the
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grounds of a deer park, I just presumed it was
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a massive deer. But no, she looked at it and
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she said, well, it's an elk skull and it was
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found in an Irish peat bog, which is why it's
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so well preserved. And it's over 10 ,000 years
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old. why it's not in a museum or why it is over
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a grill in some pub in Norfolk I have no idea
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but it was very impressive and the meal was good
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too so I'm going to sing myself happy birthday
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happy birthday to me and all that malarkey no
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I'm not one to celebrate my birthday but yeah
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it was my birthday so I am now one year older
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apparently one year wiser than I was the last
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time you spoke to me but uh onward we step on
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this march of life I guess as I sit with this
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with this podcast with these episodes that I
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am putting out I suppose I want to revisit my
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journey a little bit more if you will indulge
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me to just revisit one of the parts of my journey
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and that journey is my very first platform event
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Now, for those who don't know, a platform event
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is when you go to a service or a gathering and
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you stand up in front of a group of people and
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you try and tap into the energies and you try
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and bring forward a loved one for people within
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the audience. At the time of recording, I've
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done a few of these now. In fact, I think I was
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on about five five. I think I've done now where
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I go to a service and I stand up and I. bring
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through whoever wants to be brought through to
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a loved one who's in the audience but I've not
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yet spoken about my very first one so I thought
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I'd take the opportunity and again if you'll
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indulge me to talk about my experience then I
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will talk about the first time that I did platform
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the first time I did platform was a complete
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surprise it was not planned in the slightest
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It was a weekend and I think I'd gone out on
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a Saturday evening to see some friends. I wasn't
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hungover when I woke up on a Sunday but for me
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Sunday mornings are luxurious. They should be
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spent in bed. They should be lying in bed and
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catching up on sleep and Sunday mornings are
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my mornings when I have breakfast in bed made
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by my other half. I always get up before him
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every other morning or every morning in the week
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apart from Sundays and I make him his breakfast
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and then we go to work but Sundays are my mornings
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where I am made breakfast which I really look
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forward to so I'm laying in bed this particular
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Sunday morning and I noticed that I have a WhatsApp
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message on my phone and it was Nicola who you
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have heard from who was in the episode about
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circles a few months back now And this is what
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she had to say. Good morning, Matt. Well, I am
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just putting it out there and it is quite late
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in the day, which actually is a rather strange
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expression right now, as it's actually early
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on a Sunday. But I have just been asked by the
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centre I'm working for this evening if I would
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like to bring a student with me. I'll make a
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pause while you now run around in circles deciding
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whether you'd like to be sick or not with just
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the thought of it. But would you like the experience?
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Why not accept the challenge? Bye! Sick? Sick
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was not the word. I promise you now I went cold.
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I went numb. I went clammy. Oh the thought of
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the memory of that morning just now still fills
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me with borderline revulsion I couldn't quite
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believe what I was being asked because as you
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all very well know in my head I was just nowhere
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near ready surely in my mind I was still just
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exploring this but Nicola had reached out to
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me with enough confidence in me that she was
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willing to take me to an event that she was conducting
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to have me practice in front of a room full of
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strangers. When I look back on that morning I
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remember my other half coming up bringing me
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breakfast and saying to me, you alright? I said
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no and I replayed the message to him whereas
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my mind was i can't possibly do this what on
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earth is she thinking he said to me well she
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clearly trusts that you can do this so are you
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going to do it and there was a moment when i
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thought i don't want to actually that moment
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stayed with me the whole day but there was another
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moment or another thought that entered my mind
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the thought if i don't do this now i don't think
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i'm ever going to do it And I've never been one
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to shy away from challenging myself or trying
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new things. And I thought, you know what? I just
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got to put my faith in whatever is out there
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that I can just do this. When Theresa Caputo
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looks back on her development in her podcast,
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she often tells a story that she sat down and
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she had a conversation with God or whoever. And
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she said, if you open the doors, I will walk
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through them. And I thought, this is my door
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moment. This is my version of someone opening
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a door. And all I have to do is step through
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it. So I messaged her and said, can I speak with
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you? And she said, yep. So I called her and I
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said, yes. I said, yep, I will do it. I don't
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want to do it. I made that very clear. I don't
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want to do it, but I will do it and Thank you
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so much for having faith in me That whole day
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Was a bit of a blur. I don't really know what
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I did. I know I was just in my head the whole
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time I thought should I Meditate should I not
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should I just wait till later on to meditate?
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Honestly, I just felt physically sick. I thought
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oh I kept walking around saying oh god and making
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these noise like Just want to throw up just want
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to vomit This doesn't feel This is what it's
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supposed to feel like to do this every single
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time There's no way I want to do this as a regular
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thing But I just had to have faith that it was
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going to be okay. It was going to work out all
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right I was so in my head about getting up there
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in front of 30, 40, how many people it was going
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to be and nothing happening. And what were they
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going to think? It wasn't even a case of... What
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was Nicola going to think? What were they going
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to think of Nicola for bringing this loser along
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with her who thought he had disability, but when
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he got up and stood in front of these people,
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nothing happened or he was just making it all
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up. That was that. OK, that was it. That was
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if I felt something and I said it, but no one
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could take it. And everyone thinking I'm just
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making this up. That is the fear I had. that
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fear of what are they going to think of me and
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I say again it wasn't even a case of what Nicola
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was gonna think of me because you know I'd had
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these conversations with her previously I said
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I don't know if this is all in my head and I
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remember she said to me Matt you are now at a
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stage where you are doing this you are at a level
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but you have to decide whether or not you want
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to do it you have to decide whether or not it's
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real and if you don't think it is then you need
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to step back from it if you think it is then
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we'll continue and I always remember that I always
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remember that conversation with those it was
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just something you said in passing but to me
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it had so much impact that phrase of the only
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person standing in your way is you and if you're
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going to believe then you've got to believe in
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it so what I spent the rest of that day doing
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I could not tell you probably driving my other
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half absolutely crazy with me worrying about
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what ifs and all this sort of stuff that was
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going through my mind but she arranged to collect
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me that evening and the time came and I had meditated
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beforehand and we drove to this little coastal
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town where this village hall had been set up
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for a platform event I walked in and the person
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who was running this centre. So you will have
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heard in Nicola's WhatsApp message say that she
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was serving a centre. I don't know what it's
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like in other parts of the world, but in the
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UK, centres are... I guess you could call them
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sort of our versions of churches. I don't like
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to call them that because they're not churches,
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but they're just a group of people who meet on
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a regular basis at a regular place. where they
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have these events where they invite other mediums
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or they have resident mediums come in and they
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give addresses, they give prayers, they give
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messages. Sometimes there's music, sometimes
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there's not and it does sound all very happy
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clappy and I have to admit it's not something
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I still feel very comfortable with when I do
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these things. I do tend to mime the songs because
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I don't feel comfortable singing the songs live.
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We pulled up to this village hall and I think
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we were the first people to arrive so we walked
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in and we were greeted by the woman who ran this
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particular centre and she showed us into a little
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side room and we just sat. Nicola reminded me
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that she understood the sick feeling that I was
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feeling at that time, the panic, the feeling
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of just wanting to steal her keys, run out the
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door and just drive back home. But instead, we
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just sat in quiet meditation. Now, if I'm honest,
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did I meditate? Absolutely not. I could not even
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contemplate being that calm at that time. I was
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a mass, a tangled mass of nerves. And before
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we left that side room to go into the main room,
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she stopped and said, your mum's here. and I
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feel like I just want to give you a big hug from
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her and she gave me a huge hug and with that
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we walked out into this hall. Now there were
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about 30 or so people waiting in this hall and
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we were taken to the front where we sat down
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and faced these people. I tend to have a I wouldn't
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necessarily say a flamboyant wardrobe, but it's
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certainly colourful. I've got a few items in
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there which I really like wearing. My other half
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is not so certain on some of my choices of clothing,
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but I made sure that I wore something that was
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engaging, that was smart, and was going to either
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command or distract the attention if I was going
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to go sideways. And as I sat, at the front of
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this hall. The people in the front row were talking
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to me and saying, oh, I like your trousers or
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I like, I like your jacket. I can't remember
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what I was wearing. I've got a feeling I was
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wearing like a green and gold flowery sort of
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suit jacket. And it sounds horrendous, but I
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really quite like it. It's really quite nice.
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Every time I wear it, I always get nice compliments.
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And I was just trying to settle my nerves and
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bless them. all the people in the audience who
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were engaging with me were trying to calm me
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as well saying don't worry you'll be fine if
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nothing comes through it's not a problem you
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know this is just your first time you should
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be really proud that you're just doing this and
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you you're you're here and i was i was really
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proud that weeks before i was doubting my own
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sanity, doubting that any of this was real and
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here I was taking the next step because someone
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had believed in me enough that when I delivered
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these messages they rang true for people, they
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touched people in a way that moved them to tears,
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that helped them move forward in their lives
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and I hope I'm not putting too much meaning into
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that but for me it was important to get you know,
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my buzzword from episode two, the overused buzzword,
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but to get that validation that what I was saying
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was touching people, was true for people. If
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I'm absolutely honest with you, my dear, dear
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listeners, the rest of that evening was a bit
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of a blur. It was autumn last year. I think it
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was even earlier than that. It was late summer
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last year. I remember getting up and I remember
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Nicola delivering her address. and she delivered
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her first message. I think she even delivered
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a second message and then she said, right Matt,
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do you want to give it a go? And I stood up and
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I did, I just wanted to autopilot. I just thought,
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right, I just got to talk and I spoke from my
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heart. I tried to get the audience to engage
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with me to be on my side by cracking a couple
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of jokes. And I suppose as well by pre -warning
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them that this was my first time doing this in
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front of an audience this size. and to be gentle
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with me if nothing happened. But it did. Now,
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I don't remember the messages I've delivered,
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but I remember being drawn to someone and giving
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them the description of the person I felt was
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coming through. And they were saying, yes, I
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can take that. Yes, I understand what you're
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saying. And suddenly within me, I was like, oh,
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this is happening. Oh, God, this is working.
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This isn't just. happening in the circle that
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I go to. This isn't just accepted by people who
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already believe in it. I mean, yes, these people
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did believe in this stuff, but these were people
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I'd never met before. These are people I've never
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seen in my life. And I was still able to tell
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them things about their loved one, who I was
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feeling, still able to tell them things about
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their lives that they were going through. And
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they were able to confirm that what I was saying
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was resonating with them. I suppose, as I sit
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here now, doing this for a while now, I want
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to say helping, but I think that shows my development.
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Now when I do this, I feel that it is important
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that you do help people through their grief or
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help people in their day -to -day life. Back
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then, if I'm honest with myself, during that
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first service when I got up and stood up in front
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of these people, I was just grateful that what
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I was saying was being validated, was being recognized
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by people. Did I do a perfect job? Absolutely
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not, no. Did I drop the psychic? Yes, I did.
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And it's something that I didn't realize I did
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until I got home that evening. Nikola dropped
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me off home. We were talking about it the whole
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night. And I remember coming back in the car
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and I said, I think I understand. I just got
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to enjoy it. I've got to try to take that expectation
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off my shoulders. It's not mine to own. It's
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not mine to have. Instead, I've just got to try
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and enjoy what I do, enjoy the readings I give,
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enjoy the response that I get back. And that's
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it. I remember saying to her, just repeating,
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this is really exciting. This is really exciting
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because that validation again, I'm sorry to reuse
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that word over and over, but the validation I
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was getting from the audience was telling me,
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Okay, these images you're seeing in your mind,
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these feelings you are having in your heart,
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these stories that are just coming out of your
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mouth, they are coming from somewhere. And to
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hold on to that, to have faith that that is helping
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people, that is coming from somewhere from beyond
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my own imagination. I suppose the moral of the
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story, dear listeners, is that when opportunity
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comes knocking, accept it, take it, grab hold
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of it with both arms. Even if the opportunity
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is not seen as opportunity, even if the opportunity
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is seen as something terrifying, something scary,
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something you don't want to do, get comfortable
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with being uncomfortable. That I think is what
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I have learned from this, from that experience.
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I'll forever be grateful to Nicola for pushing
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me, for thinking of me, for inviting me to that
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center, that service. She didn't have to, but
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she did. And it really pushed me along. And like
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I say, now I've been invited to four or five
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of those events. And actually in January, Nicola
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has asked me to hold an entire service by myself.
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That will be another one. That'll be another
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one where I don't wear white underwear. Sorry
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for being too graphic there. But yeah, it's a
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progression, isn't it? It really is a progression.
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And when we as psychics and mediums say that
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we are developing, we really are developing,
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but I think it's very easy to forget that that
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development means that we need to put one foot
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in front of the other. and sometimes we don't
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know where the floor is when we put that foot
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down when we move forward we can't always see
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where that foot is being placed and we have to
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have faith that wherever that foot lands is going
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to take us to somewhere better one way or another
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so my lovely lovely listeners i'm going to leave
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that story there just a short one for you today
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to have a think about i'd love to hear How you
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have developed? Have you experienced any moments
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in your development? In your life that have pushed
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you? Things, moments in your path where you haven't
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necessarily chosen to do something but an opportunity
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has come up and you chose to take it. You chose
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to dive off of that diving board. And where did
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that take you? Where are you now? I'd love to
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hear from you. You can find me on Instagram,
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Facebook, threads and now TikTok. Yes, TikTok,
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you heard me correctly. I'm not going to be twerking
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or doing the ice bucket challenge or anything
21:24
trendy, and you'll be grateful to hear, but it's
21:28
just another platform for me to reach more people,
21:31
to help more people. But if you're on that, then
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give us a shout, the .psychic .explorer. The
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next episode that I have in store for you is
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a guest episode. And this guest episode features
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the lovely Judy Wayman. Judy is here to talk
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about the power of words as mediums and psychics
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and you know what, not even that, just people.
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Words have so much impact on how they affect
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other people. So I really wanted to talk to Judy
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about how she uses words. Judy is a celebrant
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here in Norfolk. She uses words daily to tell
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other people's stories. So I will love you and
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leave you. with a quick preview of the next episode
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and that's coming out in two weeks time. So if
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just promote this podcast a little bit more and
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hopefully get a bit more reach so that more people
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can be helped maybe by my story if you haven't
22:54
got the time trust me i get it that's absolutely
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fine but before i say my goodbyes i will leave
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you with this quick preview of judy's episode
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in two weeks time She was railing against one
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of the consultants who could be quite cutting.
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She said to me, words are like fire, they destroy.
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Now I think that's from the Bible. But I thought
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about that for a long time and I saw the other
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side of it. That words can be beautiful, they
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can be uplifting, they can be transformative.
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And that really set me on that path. Guys, I
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will love you and leave you. Thank you so much
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for listening to yet another episode. We are
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soon going to be in autumn, my favorite time
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of year. I cannot wait for the days to get shorter
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and for the nights to get longer. I just love
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it. The autumnal season is certainly my favorite
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time of year. So yes, sending you all my love,
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people. Take care. Bye.