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My boyfriend BLOCKED all my male friends from my account....without ever telling me! -r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3063 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Riley. And this is Dakota, your favorite
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  Speaker 1: OK Storytime host. And we've got some great stories coming up.
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  Speaker 1: But before that, we have a quick two-minute break from
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  Speaker 1: the sponsors that keep the show alive. My boyfriend blocked
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  Speaker 1: all my male friends from my account without ever telling me.
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  Speaker 2: That's not cool.
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  Speaker 1: This came to my attention because I, 22 female, was
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  Speaker 1: meeting with a group of my friends when one of
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  Speaker 1: them asked me, If I had deleted my Facebook, I haven't,
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  Speaker 1: and asked why he thought this, and he said it
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  Speaker 1: was because I had disappeared from his Facebook. He said
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  Speaker 1: I must have blocked him then, which I was sure
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  Speaker 1: I hadn't, but I got my phone out and checked
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  Speaker 1: where I discovered he had been blocked, along with a
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  Speaker 1: whole bunch of my friends and acquaintances, all male, who
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  Speaker 1: I know I hadn't blocked. I was 99% sure it
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  Speaker 1: was my boyfriend, 28 male, who had done it, which,
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  Speaker 1: let's just add that extra 1% on there, it was 100% him.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I let him use my computer so it would have
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  Speaker 1: been really easy for him to do it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's your boyfriend.
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  Speaker 1: Also, when we first started dating, seriously, he got a
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  Speaker 1: little jealous about a guy I messaged sometimes, which was
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  Speaker 1: totally platonic, and asked me to delete him.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, and that's your boyfriend.
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  Speaker 1: With this guy, I did understand why my boyfriend didn't
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  Speaker 1: like it because I did have a bit of a
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  Speaker 1: history with him.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, well, say more about that.
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  Speaker 1: At least in this case, my boyfriend talked to me
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  Speaker 1: about it first and why it made him uncomfortable, so
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  Speaker 1: I was fine with it. However, I find him blocking
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  Speaker 1: my friends on Facebook for no reason without telling me
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  Speaker 1: weird and a little controlling. A little? I confronted him
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  Speaker 1: and he admitted it straight away like it was no
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  Speaker 1: big deal. I told him it makes me feel like
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  Speaker 1: he doesn't trust me and that is kind of hurtful.
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  Speaker 1: He said it wasn't that he doesn't trust me, but
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  Speaker 1: he doesn't trust my friends. What does he think is
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  Speaker 1: going to happen in the unlikely scenario that one of
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  Speaker 1: them did message me in a spicy way or whatever?
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  Speaker 1: Does he not think I can handle myself? Again, it
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  Speaker 1: just feels like he doesn't trust me because he doesn't.
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  Speaker 2: He doesn't trust you. That's why he blocked all of
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  Speaker 2: your male friends on Facebook.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Kippers5. And if you
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  Speaker 1: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
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  Speaker 1: slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to read this story and have our thoughts,
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  Speaker 1: a little goofy advice, but we don't know everything, so
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  Speaker 1: let us know what you know in the comments. And
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  Speaker 1: OP says, He told me it's not a big deal
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  Speaker 1: and it's normal for guys to be protective of their girlfriends,
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  Speaker 1: but I don't feel like that at all. He genuinely
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  Speaker 1: doesn't seem to understand why I'm upset. I could be
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  Speaker 1: overreacting a little, but I hate that he did this
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  Speaker 1: behind my back.
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  Speaker 2: You're not overreacting at all. I would have broken up
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  Speaker 2: with someone if they did that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is like a, oh, like for sure. That's
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  Speaker 1: what you think about me. So goodbye. So long. And
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  Speaker 1: even if it's not you, it's like all your friends.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, well, those are all my friends. So I'm
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  Speaker 1: not giving all of those up for you. Goodbye.
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  Speaker 2: It's me or all your friends.
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  Speaker 1: I thought we had a really good relationship and he
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  Speaker 1: has no reason to not trust me. I kind of
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  Speaker 1: wanted to rant about this and get some reassurance that
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  Speaker 1: it isn't normal, or maybe it is. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: But I haven't had a boyfriend do anything like this before.
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  Speaker 1: What do you guys think? I think you should break up.
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  Speaker 2: Break up. Easy.
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  Speaker 1: Easy peasy lemon squeezy.
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  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. He blocked all your friends. Now you block him.
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  Speaker 1: It's not such a big deal. Why didn't you ask
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  Speaker 1: her before you did it?
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  Speaker 2: Why didn't you ask her to block her male friends? Oh,
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  Speaker 2: because you knew she wouldn't?
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  Speaker 1: Have you blocked all your female friends?
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  Speaker 2: I hope so. Better not see a single woman on
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  Speaker 2: your Facebook page.
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  Speaker 1: There's an update from a week later. Wow, okay, so
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  Speaker 1: this has been a tough week. Yay, breakup! Breakup city!
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  Speaker 2: Breakup! I feel so good for you.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm starting to think positive about what has happened
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  Speaker 1: and realize it's probably a good thing to be out
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  Speaker 1: of the relationship. Yes! The replies to my post were
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  Speaker 1: pretty much unanimously telling me it was a sign of
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  Speaker 1: him trying to control me, and this got me thinking
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  Speaker 1: about so many other things in our relationship. I could
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  Speaker 1: have been overanalyzing things, but there were so many other
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  Speaker 1: aspects I think I overlooked because I just thought he
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  Speaker 1: loved me, but really, they were just him trying to
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  Speaker 1: be controlling. That night, I felt so weird and stupid
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  Speaker 1: that I hadn't noticed things earlier, but I really couldn't
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  Speaker 1: face talking to him right then. I wanted more time
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  Speaker 1: to think about everything. I was supposed to be going
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  Speaker 1: to his place that night, so I texted him telling
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  Speaker 1: him I couldn't go. This pissed him off, and he
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  Speaker 1: kept trying to call me, but I really didn't want
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  Speaker 1: to talk to him, so I just told him I
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  Speaker 1: would call him tomorrow. He didn't stop, though, and was
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  Speaker 1: texting me telling me to answer my phone, so I
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  Speaker 1: eventually gave in and did. He asked me what was wrong,
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  Speaker 1: and I told him the Facebook thing had upset me,
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  Speaker 1: and I didn't like him trying to control me. He
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  Speaker 1: then said I was only getting upset because I had
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  Speaker 1: a guilty conscience.
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  Speaker 2: The only thing I'm guilty of is not wanting to
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  Speaker 2: be in a relationship with you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's just the click. I hang up. It's over.
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  Speaker 1: This made me so mad that I told him if
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  Speaker 1: he really thinks I've cheated on him, then that's fine.
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  Speaker 1: It's over. And I hung up. Yes. Nice.
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  Speaker 2: She followed your advice.
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  Speaker 1: I was so fuming mad and hurt that I had
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  Speaker 1: a determination to ignore all his calls and messages for
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  Speaker 1: the rest of the night. However, the next day when
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  Speaker 1: we had both calmed down, I agreed to meet him.
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  Speaker 1: He was doing that thing where he acted like everything
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  Speaker 1: was okay and tried to hug and kiss me when
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  Speaker 1: I saw him, but I pushed him away. So we talked,
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  Speaker 1: but never once did he apologize or back down and
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  Speaker 1: admit what he did was not okay. He was standing
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  Speaker 1: by his stance of he doesn't trust them and was
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  Speaker 1: trying to twist into a compliment that these guys can't
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  Speaker 1: help themselves. Ew.
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  Speaker 3: Ugh.
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  Speaker 2: And he's already admitted that he doesn't trust you.
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  Speaker 1: No, babe, I'm not being controlling. You're just so hot.
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  Speaker 1: You're just so hot. Nobody could keep themselves from smooching you.
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  Speaker 1: I met up with him with a little hope that
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  Speaker 1: he would apologize and we could maybe try and work
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  Speaker 1: it out. But his reaction made me realize that we couldn't.
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  Speaker 1: I told him he was full of crap and that
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  Speaker 1: he was trying to control me and I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to be with him anymore. He got mad, called me
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  Speaker 1: all kinds of names, but in some ways, that made
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  Speaker 1: it easier for me and reassured me that I was
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  Speaker 1: doing the right thing. Yeah, in some ways, that's a
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  Speaker 1: funny way to put in every way imaginable. It made
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  Speaker 1: it crystal clear that this is not going to work.
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  Speaker 2: Just in a couple ways, I realized, hmm, shouldn't be
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  Speaker 2: in this relationship anymore.
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  Speaker 1: We've got a little more story left. Everything has unfolded perfectly.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you followed the correct advice and you broke up
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  Speaker 2: with him.
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  Speaker 1: No notes. Let's finish. We had no contact for a
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  Speaker 1: couple days, but then he started calling me and leaving
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  Speaker 1: messages telling me he was sorry and he loved me.
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  Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't have, but I agreed to see him
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  Speaker 1: again and he told me he only did it because
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  Speaker 1: he didn't want to lose me.
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  Speaker 3: Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 1: It's funny because the thing he did is what made
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  Speaker 1: him lose you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, self-fulfilling prophecy.
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  Speaker 1: I just got the feeling, though, that he was trying
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  Speaker 1: to tell me what he thought I wanted to hear.
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  Speaker 1: I just knew that it was over and told him so.
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  Speaker 1: He got mad again. There it is. There it is,
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  Speaker 1: showing himself. And his parting words were something like, fine,
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  Speaker 1: go and be an effing witch then. Oh, there it is.
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  Speaker 2: Yikes.
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  Speaker 1: And that was upsetting to hear from the man I
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  Speaker 1: thought loved me. But if that's his opinion of me,
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  Speaker 1: then he is not the guy for me. I have
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  Speaker 1: not heard anything from him for a few days now,
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  Speaker 1: so hopefully I can try and get over it soon.
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  Speaker 1: I'd be over it day one, sister.
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  Speaker 2: I'm over and out.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, it's been over.
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  Speaker 2: And let's stay over it.
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  Speaker 1: Let's keep it that way forever. And that's the end
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  Speaker 1: of this story. Let's head to the next one. My
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend gave my violin away without ever asking me.
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  Speaker 2: You will never find this man alive again.
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  Speaker 1: I am a professional violinist. I work at a symphony
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  Speaker 1: orchestra and teach as well. For background, I met Jay,
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  Speaker 1: who's a non-musician, at a party three years ago, and
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  Speaker 1: so far everything has gone well until this past week.
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  Speaker 1: I have five violins at home.
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  Speaker 2: Dang, that's a whole lot of violins.
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  Speaker 1: Two violins, size 3-4, and three size 4-4.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what that means.
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  Speaker 1: Don't know what that means. I'm going to assume that
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  Speaker 1: 3-4 is smaller. All of those are violins that accompanied
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  Speaker 1: me through my childhood, high school, college, master's, and professional life.
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  Speaker 2: Look at you, Missy Poo.
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  Speaker 1: The 3-4 violins I use with students sometimes, and even
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  Speaker 1: though those are small for me, they are of great
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  Speaker 1: sentimental value to me. Of the other three violins, the
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  Speaker 1: first is the one I use for orchestra, the second
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  Speaker 1: I use for outdoor concerts, my battle violin, and the
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  Speaker 1: third one is adapted for baroque music. Now the issue.
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  Speaker 1: My boyfriend's sister, female 13, used to play violin when
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  Speaker 1: she was little.
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  Speaker 3: She stopped.
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  Speaker 1: For some years, and now she wants to join her
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  Speaker 1: school orchestra and retake violin next school year, and maybe
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  Speaker 1: make it a career. That made me really happy, and
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to share that with her since our relationship
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  Speaker 1: is good. I told my boyfriend I would help her
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  Speaker 1: get a violin by asking some friends who had some
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  Speaker 1: for sale. And by the way, this comes from illustrioususe6491.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: And we are going to fiddle our way through this
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  Speaker 1: little violin story. And we'll have our own thoughts about
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  Speaker 1: what we should do or what you should do. And
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  Speaker 1: we'll have our own thoughts about what should be done. And,
• 9:05
  Speaker 1: you know, you might disagree. Let us know what you
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  Speaker 1: think in the comments. And Opie says, Some days later,
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  Speaker 1: I got a text from his sister thanking me for
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  Speaker 1: the violin.
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  Speaker 2: Uh, I texted her back, what violin?
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  Speaker 1: Weird. I was still trying to find a violin for her.
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  Speaker 1: When I got home, one of my 3-4 violins was missing.
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  Speaker 1: I called my boyfriend and he just said she was
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  Speaker 1: so excited and you said you'd help her get a violin.
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  Speaker 1: What's the difference between letting her get one from your
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  Speaker 1: collection and buying her one? You can replace it, right?
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  Speaker 1: It's like the same energy as like the stuffed animal
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  Speaker 1: you've had your whole life and like, you know, someone
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  Speaker 1: just takes it and then gives you another one. Like
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  Speaker 1: it's the same one, right?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like you have a necklace, a gold necklace
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  Speaker 2: that's been passed down. you know, in your family and
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  Speaker 2: you're like, oh, I'm going to buy a necklace for
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  Speaker 2: this other person. And they're like, well, just give me
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  Speaker 2: that one. Give me the sentimental one.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Give me that one. You can find another one.
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  Speaker 1: that looks like that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm messaging the sister if you have a good relationship
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  Speaker 2: and saying, hey, I wanted to buy you a violin
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  Speaker 2: or help you buy a violin. I was not planning.
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  Speaker 2: That actually is sentimental value. Sorry if you could give
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  Speaker 2: that back.
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  Speaker 1: Now, that violin is too small for her anyway. She
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  Speaker 1: needs a 4-4. So sooner or later, they're going to
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  Speaker 1: find out. Meanwhile... I went to his apartment and took
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  Speaker 1: his PS5 and left a note saying, since you're buying
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  Speaker 1: a Switch 2, what's the difference between me borrowing your
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  Speaker 1: PS5 and replacing it with the new console, right?
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  Speaker 2: That was great.
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  Speaker 1: Um, well, I will say. Push his glasses up. There's
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  Speaker 1: a huge difference between a PS5 and a Switch.
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  Speaker 2: That's what he's gonna say.
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  Speaker 1: Later that night, he came to my apartment demanding the PS5.
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  Speaker 1: I explained about the violin sizes, the violins I'm trying
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  Speaker 1: out for his sister, and told him that the PlayStation
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  Speaker 1: would stay with me until I get my violin back.
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  Speaker 1: We haven't spoken for two days. I know I might
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  Speaker 1: be wrong for what I did, but I wanted him
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  Speaker 1: to feel how I feel. Any advice is well received. Honestly,
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  Speaker 1: if he didn't immediately understand he was in the wrong
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  Speaker 1: when you did that, like... It's over.
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  Speaker 2: If that didn't teach... Like, yeah, maybe it was the
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  Speaker 2: pettier way to respond, but also I think you're completely
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  Speaker 2: in the right, and the fact that he didn't give
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  Speaker 2: you back the violin is insane.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, especially once you explain to where it's like, it's
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  Speaker 1: not even the right size. Like I'm the reason I'm
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  Speaker 1: not giving her my violin is when it's my violin
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  Speaker 1: and I love them in two. It's the wrong size. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: we have an update. I'm glad he didn't take one
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  Speaker 1: of the violins I work with. For those saying I'm wrong, too,
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  Speaker 1: I agree. I know two wrongs don't make a right.
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  Speaker 1: But what can I say? I'm petty. So I got
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  Speaker 1: my violin back and he got his PlayStation back. Last night,
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  Speaker 1: his mom and sister came to my place and brought
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  Speaker 1: back my violin. They had no idea how my violin
• 11:45
  Speaker 1: got to them until my now ex told them that
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  Speaker 1: I had his PlayStation and wouldn't return it. He didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to say why I took his console, but in
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  Speaker 1: the end he had to. How could he possibly get
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  Speaker 1: away with not explaining why?
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  Speaker 2: It's like she took my console. Also, can I see
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  Speaker 2: the violin I gave you?
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  Speaker 1: As soon as the sister played the violin, she felt
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  Speaker 1: the obvious that it was too small. I let her
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  Speaker 1: try one of my other bigger violins and she felt
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  Speaker 1: more comfortable. I explained the right size for her and
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  Speaker 1: gave them the info of a friend who's selling a
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  Speaker 1: good intermediate level violin.
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  Speaker 2: It also doesn't even seem like OP was planning to
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  Speaker 2: buy it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she was just looking for the plug.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, which is even crazier. Because she... Like, going back
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  Speaker 2: to our, you know, example that we gave, it's more
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  Speaker 2: like if you said, hey, you know what's a good
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  Speaker 2: place to get a gold necklace? This jewelry store. And
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  Speaker 2: they said, well, give me that one.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. No, and then they just take it without telling you.
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  Speaker 1: And then when you're like, where's my gold necklace? You go, oh, well,
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  Speaker 1: there's that other one in the store you can buy. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, oh, so you, what?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I gave it to my sister. After all that,
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  Speaker 1: I gave the PlayStation to his mom and texted Jay
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  Speaker 1: about it, and he left me on read, so... That's that.
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  Speaker 1: I lost my three year relationship. I got my violin back.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, he sucked. The fact that he stole your violin. Insane.
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  Speaker 1: To be honest, there is. I see how that could
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  Speaker 1: have just been a misunderstanding and like, oh, I just
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  Speaker 1: thought that. I didn't think it would be a big deal.
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  Speaker 1: He's not a musician. He doesn't understand, like, maybe the level.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, after three years, I would think he should understand.
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  Speaker 1: That's another, like, red flag. But if he had immediately
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  Speaker 1: been like, oh, okay, I'll undo that. That's my bad.
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  Speaker 1: Totally fine.
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  Speaker 2: If he had responded well to her being like, uh,
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  Speaker 2: why did you give my violin away? He could have recovered.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But he didn't.
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  Speaker 1: But he did not do that. So if anyone lost anything,
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  Speaker 1: it's probably him. And that's the end of this story.
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  Speaker 1: Let's head to the next one.
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  Speaker 2: My girlfriend accused me of invading her privacy, so she
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  Speaker 2: took revenge on me.
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  Speaker 1: That seems backwards.
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  Speaker 2: For background, my girlfriend, female 33, and I, male 34,
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  Speaker 2: had been living together for 11 months. I was working
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  Speaker 2: on a project down south when I met her and
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  Speaker 2: we did long distance for a few months. She was
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  Speaker 2: down there living with an old college roommate and was
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  Speaker 2: struggling to find work. At the time, she was unemployed
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  Speaker 2: and the job market down south sucked. I offered to
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: let her move in with me because the job market
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  Speaker 2: was much better where I lived, a couple states north,
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  Speaker 2: and we wouldn't have to do long distance anymore. After
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  Speaker 2: she moved up here, I bought a used car for
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  Speaker 2: her to use, and she did find a job at
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: a call center for a bit. For the last six months,
• 14:23
  Speaker 2: she's been unemployed, and I have supported her. That is
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: pretty crazy.
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: It's a long stretch.
• 14:31
  Speaker 2: I mean, they started off long distance, and then she
• 14:35
  Speaker 2: moved in with him.
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: While unemployed.
• 14:39
  Speaker 2: And has been unemployed for six months.
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: Seems like the order of everything is really messed up here.
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: Over the last three months, the relationship has devolved to
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: the point where we are constantly fighting. Unsurprising that the
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: relationship where you were never together in person until you
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: lived together full time has devolved into fighting.
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: Other news. The water is wet. The sky is blue.
• 14:59
  Speaker 2: After giving her an ultimatum, she finally got a new
• 15:02
  Speaker 2: job that started this week. By the way, this comes
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: from Department of Dank. And if you want to submit
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: your own stories, go to the r slash okay story
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: And OP says, last week I got a ring camera
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: and she was very upset by this invasion of privacy.
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: Now I feel like she's cheating on you.
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: Invasion of privacy at your front door? Yes. Where's the
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: ring camera? In the bathroom?
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: I think she's cheating. I should have asked, but it's
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: been helpful with coordinating grocery deliveries and makes me feel
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: more secure. We fought about it and went to bed.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: The next morning, I come down, and she has a
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: coffee ready for me on the table. I look into
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: the coffee, and there's something floating on the top. To
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: my disgust, I discovered... Ew! That she spat a loogie
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: of snot into my morning coffee?
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: Yo, get the hell out of my house.
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, bye.
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: Get out, go back.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: You're jobless and I'm letting you live here for free.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: Go away. I'll buy you a bus ticket wherever you want.
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: Those are pricey.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: I immediately confronted her about it and she denied it
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: before eventually saying something along the lines of, if I
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: did it, you know why. I told her it was
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: time for her to leave. Initially, I had told her
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: she had to pack and leave immediately, but I ended
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: up walking that back because she had nowhere to go.
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: No family and no nearby friends. Despite my extreme disgust,
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: I couldn't just make her homeless. I mean, you could.
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: She shouldn't have done that.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: You could. You can camp out on the front porch.
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: I'll keep an eye on you.
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: I told her to clean up the guest room and
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: move her stuff into it. She did, but then came
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: into my room early in the next morning because she can't.
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: She's afraid to sleep in there alone. I don't care.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: Zero care, dude. You're a hobo living in my house,
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: spitting in my coffee.
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: I mostly just ignored her and kept to myself. She
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: tried to mend fences with me by cooking dinner a
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: few days later, and when I looked at the food
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: she had cooked, all I could think about was that
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: bottle of snot in my coffee.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta have a lick of sense to know
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: that cooking him dinner is not going to solve anything.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, now I don't trust anything you make me. Last night,
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: while trying to get to sleep, I couldn't stop thinking
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: about what else she might have done to my food.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: I told her she needed to move back into the
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: guest room.
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: I don't know, man. Send her to the shelter.
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: I mean, yes. Genuinely, she's got to go.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: She's got to go.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: If you want, if you feel bad, if you're like, oh,
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: I don't want to boot her out completely, give her
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: some money for a hotel, motel, something.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: Holiday Inn?
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: I've never been in a situation like this before. Am
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: I putting myself in jeopardy by allowing her to stay?
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: I'm not sure if this relationship is recoverable or if
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: I should try. Edit, I had a talk with her
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: when she came back from church. She just started attending.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: She wouldn't acknowledge her actions at first, but I persisted.
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: She's upset that I'm throwing away a year of our lives,
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: but not overly emotional about it.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: Girl, you loogied away a year of your lives.
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: I told her she's got to figure out how to
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: get along on her own now, trying to be as
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: fair but firm as possible. She has to stay until
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: her first paycheck from her new job comes in, but
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like I can risk her staying around.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: Fair.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: It's your house.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: What, does she have a car? If she has a car,
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: she has a home. And that's the end of this story.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: Let's head to the next one. My boyfriend buys me
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: gifts he knows I'll hate and then gets angry when
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: I say so.
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: Stop doing that!
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years. Now,
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: I want to preface this post by acknowledging that there
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: are a lot of financial disparities in today's economy, and
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: I do not wish to come off as selfish or privileged.
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: My boyfriend does very well financially, and I do too.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: Not nearly to his extent, but I buy myself everything
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: I need. As I, 31 female, have gotten older, I've
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: learned to stop mindlessly buying things. Materialistic things just don't
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: bring me much happiness anymore. Now, let's rewind to Christmas.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: I just moved into my new apartment. My boyfriend and
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: I had about 10 different conversations about how I did
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: not want a coffee machine for the new place. I'm
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: very particular about how I like my coffee. I go
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: to one cafe every day and get my coffee. I
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: can only drink one cup a day because I have
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: a heart to murmur, and he knows this. By the way,
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: this comes from KTTgirl4949. If you want to submit your
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: own stories, go to the r slash ok story time subreddit.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: And we are going to read this story and have
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: our thoughts. You might disagree with them. because we don't
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: know everything. And if you think differently than us, let
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: us know in the comments. Mwah, OP says. Anyways, it's Christmas,
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: and I've settled into my new apartment. He hands me
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: my gift and presents it with, I know you're going
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: to hate it, but I bought it for you anyway.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: It was a coffee machine.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: I know you're going to hate it, but I got
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: it anyway.
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: It retails for about a hundred bucks. I thanked him
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: and explained to him, I won't get much use out
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: of it and asked if I could donate it. He
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: got angry, but said, sure.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: Why did you buy it?
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: Why? Truly? I don't even have anything to say other
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: than what? I knew you were going to hate this,
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: but I bought it anyway. You're dumb.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I truly would just say why.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: Why, though? Come Valentine's Day, he bought me a heart-shaped necklace,
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: and I don't wear jewelry like literally none. I was
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: a little heartbroken, pun intended, because I couldn't believe out
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: of the three years he's known me, he's never noticed.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: I chose not to say anything and just thanked him
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: for it. Fast forward to yesterday. I'm out with my friends,
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: and all of a sudden I get a few text
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: messages alerting me that my order from Fast Fashion Site
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: is being prepared. I thought somebody hacked my card. I
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: go look at my text and see from him, I
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: bought you some random things. Feel free to throw away
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: what you don't like. I honestly saw red. I understand
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: there are some people who do use fast fashion sites,
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: and I won't judge them, but I personally don't buy
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: items from them. The things he got me were like $ 12,
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: three total, and they are honestly that cheap for a reason.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: They can't be worn more than once, and the material
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: is just, well, cheap. I did not ask for any
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: of this. I asked him if he could just not
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: do this again, and if he could just please ask
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: me next time before mindlessly buying me something. I can
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: tell he's angry, and we haven't spoken since yesterday. I
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: just don't understand why he insists on buying me things
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: knowing I won't like it or just throw it out.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: I sound so ungrateful, but I hate how wasteful and
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: mindless it is. I will definitely post what he bought
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: me to my local buy nothing Facebook group. Am I
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: the a-hole?
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: No.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: He doesn't know you at all. And that's so sad.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: After three years.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: I'll give him a pass on the necklace. Because even
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: if you don't wear jewelry, it's like there's no rule
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: that says you can't start.
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: That's true. That's true. Maybe he was like, well, she
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: doesn't have any.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: Exactly. Exactly. But the other stuff is just like. Yeah.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: Because the way that he's presenting it, he knows that
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: you will not like it nor wear it nor use it.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: It's like cooking someone a meal you know they don't
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: like and then getting mad at them because you're like, oh,
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: I cooked you a meal. But you present it to
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: them by saying, I know you won't like this, but
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: I made you dinner.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Enjoy.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: Update. He accused me of berating him when I asked
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: him politely to check with me next time. He also said,
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I didn't mean it literally when I said, I think
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: you'll just toss them. Which, then why did you say it?
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: He was accusing me of being really mean to him,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: even though I was being pretty level-headed. I was just
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: trying to figure out why he'd buy me things with
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: an expectation that I don't like it or I'll throw
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: it away. He also stated he didn't know it was
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: fast fashion, which is hard to believe, but I'll give
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: him the benefit of the doubt. He's trying to change
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: the subject, and this is probably a better conversation to
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: have in person. I'll see him probably in a day
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: or two, and we have another update. Oh boy. Does
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: this end in a breakup?
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: I hope so. I hope it ends in a breakup.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: I can't see it going anywhere else.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: I just want to understand what is making him tick.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. It's pretty, I don't think that
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: gifts have to be expensive or even you don't have
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: to get a lot of gifts for your partner. But
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: there is an understanding after a couple of years of
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: being together or even just a couple of months of
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: being together with someone that they will put any effort
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: into knowing what you like.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: There's an update, too. We got in a pretty heated fight.
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: I made it clear that my feelings were not disappointment
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: and anger, but rather they were just frustration and confusion.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: He used a lot of, you're making me feel bad,
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: you're berating me, you're being really mean, when I was
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: asking him why he kept buying me things with the
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: expectation that I wouldn't like them. After some time, he apologized.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: And to summarize, he mentioned gift-giving is his love language. Well,
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: he is bad at love, then.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: His love language....
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: I don't even think that's that can't even be accurate,
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: because if that was true, he wouldn't buy you something
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: that he knows you hate or won't use. He admitted
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: that he sometimes is wasteful and he admitted that he
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: didn't mean it when he said, I won't like it
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: or toss it, which doesn't make any sense to me.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: Why say it then? As far as the fast fashion goes,
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: he said he just typed it into Google and picked
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: the first thing that popped up, which makes it feel
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: so thoughtless. This man is just saying buzzwords.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: He said he searched up clothes for women.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: But he's like, gift giving is my love language.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: Gaslighting is your love language.
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: Let's finish this story. Well, I don't understand what he
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: meant by this. He said it was childish of him
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: to buy things for other people that he thinks are cool,
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: like the espresso machine. He said it.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: He did it.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: He just admitted it. He said, I'm not buying gifts
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: for you. I'm buying gifts for me and then giving
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: them to you.
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: And I didn't think that you would sell the coffee
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: machine because I wanted to use it.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: To clarify, he did not intend to use it for
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: himself at my place. He continued to apologize, but I'm
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: just really over it. I don't know. I need to
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: take some time and think. Thanks to everyone who commented.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: The items will be donated. And that is the end
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: of that story.
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, man.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, look, if your partner's love language, if he's
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: going to say that his love language is gift giving
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: and then he's like, I picked the first thing on Google,
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: he's lying.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: It's like saying your love language is words of affirmation
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: and then being like, hey, you suck.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you stink.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: You're so ugly.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah. There are little to no redeeming qualities about you.
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: I don't even know why I'm still with you.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: I am just here out of convenience.
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: I'm not feeling affirmed.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: Wait, you don't like that? But I love you. Those
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: are my love words. And that's the end of this story.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: Let's head to the next one.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: My boyfriend gave me gold jewelry for a year, but
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: I don't like it. Who doesn't like gold? I, 21 female,
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: always wear silver jewelry. Always have, always will. Silver matches
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: my skin tone so much better. And gold jewelry sticks
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: out and doesn't look cohesive. I've been dating my boyfriend,
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: 21 male, for just over a year and a half now.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: On all my dates, I wear silver. And I've literally
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: done a jewelry box tour from him. All the stuff
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: was silver. For our first Valentine's Day, he got me
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: a cute gold necklace. Now, since it was our first one,
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: I took it happily. I wore it for a couple
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: days to make him happy. Then I took it off
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: because it clashed with my closet.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: Now, I must ask, have you ever told him that
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: you only wear silver?
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: Yes, I completely agree. Because he might be, I have
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: heard this so many times, he might just think, oh, well,
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: she doesn't have any gold. She doesn't have, she's got
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: so much silver, she doesn't have any gold jewelry.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: You know, gold is very practical.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I don't wear the necklace anymore. So
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: I told him that I usually only wear silver. For
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: our half-anniversary June and my birthday November, he gifted me
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: a gold bracelet and golden rings. Now I was pissed.
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: I told him multiple times that I'm a silver girl.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: He had a full year to listen to me and didn't.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: He keeps insisting that gold functions just as well as silver.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: And jewelry is jewelry. Okay, well now he's an ale.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: That's not the point of gold.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: Jewelry is jewelry.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: You could say gold's worth more. Holds its value indefinitely.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: I told him that it's not the same to me.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: But he said he liked the designs of the gold jewelry.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: Are you wearing it? By the way, this comes from
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: a deleted user. And if you want to submit your
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: own stories, go to the r slash showcase story time subreddit.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give our advice. And if you've
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: got advice, put it down below. And we're going to
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: get goofy with it. OP says, for our one year
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: anniversary in December, he got me a jelly cat, which
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: was infinitely better. And I was so excited. For your
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: one year anniversary?
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, those things are like $ 800.
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: Really? No.
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: They were like 30.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: They're pricey for little guys. Little stuffed animals are what
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: jelly cats are.
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: For Valentine's Day, he finally gifted me silver rings. But
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: he acted like it was a burden to go out
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: of his way to find a cute design in silver.
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: He said he found a bunch of gold necklaces that
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: were way prettier. But it's whatever you want, I guess.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: I told him that he didn't need to gift me
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: jewelry then. At this point, I'm not even upset about
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: the gold jewelry. I'm upset that he doesn't listen to me.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: He's basically telling me that he doesn't care about my preferences.
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: So I decided to get him back. He plays on
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: a PS5 and has been talking about the game Crimson
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: Desert for a while. For his birthday a few days ago,
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: I got him the Xbox disc. Edit, I gave him
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: a gift receipt too because I knew he wouldn't use
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: it for Crimson Desert. He was really upset. He said
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: that he'd been so excited to play and that I
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: ruined it and I wasted 70 bucks. My 70 bucks,
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: by the way, not his. I reminded him of all
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: the times he got me gold jewelry.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: Did you also remind him there's a receipt?
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: And then you go, okay, I'm trying to teach you
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: a lesson. There's a receipt.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: Did you remind him this is a mental exercise to
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: teach you that you don't buy gifts for yourself for others.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: He said that he had listened to me and gotten
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: me a jelly cut and silver jewelry and that I
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: was being petty. He basically said that I could still
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: wear gold jewelry functionally, but an Xbox disc was useless.
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: I told him it was the same principle and he
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: got really pouty. We've got a little bit left to
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: this story. Any final thoughts?
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to lie. I would be on this
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: guy's side if he was speaking from purely a place
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: of like pragmatism. It's like it's gold. It's good. Just
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: don't even just hold on to it and sell it
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: if you need to. It's gold.
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: I don't even think he's probably buying her like actual gold.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: I think he's getting gold plated stuff.
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: If you're going to buy gold, at least buy gold.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: In the past, I've gotten him good gifts because I listened. Uh,
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: Mariners tickets because he loves baseball. New slides because he
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: complained about his being ratty and gross. Even a new
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: PS5 controller. he usually is pretty good with paying attention
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: to my hobbies but something about jewelry just doesn't click
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: for him since i love to accessorize i wanted to
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: show him how much the jewelry thing mattered to me
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: but maybe i overdid it was i overreacting and giving
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: him the.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: Xbox disc your boyfriend's a dragon A dragon?
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: Oh, he just wants gold.
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: The boyfriend's a dragon.
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: He's got the gold sickness.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: Oh, how did we not see it? And that's the
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: end of this story. Let's head to the next one.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: My husband suddenly wants our nanny gone after two happy years.
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: Hmm, wonder what happened between them.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: My husband and I have three kids, 11 male, 6 male,
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: 4 female. And we have had a nanny, Mila, 21,
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: for almost two years. Mila is a ball of chaos.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: That is the only way I know how to describe her.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: The girl just screams undiagnosed ADHD. One of my kids
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: and I have ADHD, so I'm speaking from experience here.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: Some highlights include the last time she called in sick,
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: which was a voicemail 20 minutes before school got out, saying,
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: I don't know exactly what I did to my shoulder,
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: but it hurts real bad, and my arm's tingling. The
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: advice people say, this is an urgent care issue, so
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: I think I'm going to be a little late. That's
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: not ADHD. That's, I think I have a nerve issue
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: from a shoulder problem. I don't know what's going on.
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: I'm going to go to urgent care.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's like 30 minutes before she realizes, oh, I
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: am not capable of taking care of kids because I've
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: injured myself very badly.
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: Then there's the time she drove my kids to a
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: Walmart 30 minutes away to get supplies for my oldest
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: school project because none of the nearby Walmarts have all
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: the supplies. There was a Michael's three blocks away that
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: has everything. She just forgot that it was there. She
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: also tends to pick my kids up, saying I forgot
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: to eat lunch, so who wants fries, a shake, chips,
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: or other fast food? Around once a week.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: She sounds awesome.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: All this sounds like a normal person. Does she know
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: Michaels exists?
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: She might just not know about Michaels.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: We came home to my entire living room covered in
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: balloons because they decided the dog needed a birthday party.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: His birthday isn't for three months.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: This is so cute.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: All of the things you're saying are not really problems.
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: It sounds like really cute.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: She threw the dog a birthday. So what if it's
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: not the dog's birthday? It's the dog.
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like once a week, she takes her kids to
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: get fries after school.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: And it's fun for the kids.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: She sounds awesome.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: I came home to Mila sitting on a lawn chair
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: in my driveway while my kids flagged down drivers to
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: buy bracelets, sodas, cookies, and random toys from their rooms.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: All of these things have happened in the past six weeks.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: She sounds perfect.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: She does sound perfect.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: This comes from lividmeasurement5252. If you want to submit your
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: own stories, go to the r slash ok story time subreddit.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: And we're going to read this story, and we have
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: our thoughts. You get to have yours. Put yours in
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: the comments and tell us what you think. OP says,
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: you definitely have to be a little flexible to work
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: with her, but all of the kids come back alive.
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: They always have everything they need for school done, and
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: she plans some really fun activities for them. Yeah, I'll say.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: Sounds like it. My husband is not as fond of
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: Mila's chaos as I am. Okay. So you were saying
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: that with joy when you were describing it. Okay, okay.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: I hope he's like, I love this.
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: It's like just some examples of how great she is. Cool.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: He thinks we need a nanny that has more structure, rules,
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: and routines and someone that isn't going to take our
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: kids out to fast food places every week or forget
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: to take the kids to swim class, which only happened
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: once after the swim school changed classes from Fridays to Wednesdays.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: Sounds like That is pretty reasonable.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: Extremely reasonable. I refuse to get rid of Mila. I
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: think she's a great fit for our family and the
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: kids absolutely love the chaos. Let's continue. My husband is
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: upset that I'm not giving him a say in who's
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: caring for our children, although he's been fine with her
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: for the past two years and absolutely nothing has changed
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: with her. He's been complaining about minor things lately, like
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: the car being a little messy, which is about as
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: messy as my car. and has been bringing up profiles
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: for other babysitters, mostly older women or young men. The
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: only thing that I can think of that could have
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: caused this is my older son mentioning once that Mila
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: is really pretty, and an incident where we took a
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: family vacation, he didn't want to share a bed with
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: his brother, and he suggested that he share Mila's bed
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: because she doesn't fart. Mila shut that down before he
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: even finished his sentence.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think your husband has either a crush on
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: Mila or is engaged in some No, no business with Mila.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: And plus, all of this with my 11-year-old stopped after
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: I talked to him about him being 11 and Mila
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: being an adult. That's the end of that story. Don't
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: you dare let him get rid of Mila. Yeah, I
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: would say that scenario A, she's now 21 instead of
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: 19 and she doesn't just look like a child and
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: your husband is like, ooh, do I have a crush
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: on her?
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: Oh no, she has to go now.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: Situation B, he really has just put up with this.
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: And he's like, our kids need to be scientists. And
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: we need to have a nanny that instills discipline in them.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: He's like the sound of music. He's like the captain.
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: He's like, my children will address me as sir. And
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: I will whistle and they will all form a line.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: And you can't teach them how to sing.
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: No.
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: Dude, you're already living in Jackpot City. Your kids all
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: like the babysitter. And she's throwing dog birthday parties. Sounds great.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: She's teaching them how to make money.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: I just feel like he doesn't like his kids. Taking
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: your kids to get fries once a week will not
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: hurt them.
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: But, like, also, if that is your prerogative, you just
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: tell her, hey, no fast food for the kids. That's
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: the one thing that I'm like, you can be valid
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: about that. You should have a say in what your
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: kids are eating.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: But it doesn't seem like OP has any problem. And
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: it seems like he hasn't said anything about it until now.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so.
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: But, yeah, you could be like, hey, could you take them?
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: Not there. Thanks.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: I think he is valid when he says, though, that
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: it's like, you don't care what I think about blah, blah, blah.
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: And it's like, OK, but I think you should break
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: down to him exactly how bad it would be for
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: the kids. Because the nanny is not for your husband.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: It's for your kids. And that's the end of this story.
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: Let's head to the next one. Hey, this is Riley,
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: the new Californian here. We're going to get back to
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: these stories. But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: I skipped my sister's birthday to play games, so she
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: had a meltdown.
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: No game, no life.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: I'm 17 male. My sister is Sarah for the purposes
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: of this story. A couple of days ago, she had
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: a birthday party. She was turning 18. It was a
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: pretty big party at our home, and lots of her
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: friends and relatives were invited. Sarah has told me about
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: her upcoming party for a while, and she's been excited
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: about turning 18 all year. Anyway, I'm not really one
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: for parties. I don't look forward to them, nor do
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: I enjoy them. There were a bunch of her friends
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: and mates there whom I don't particularly like, as well
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: as relatives whom I don't particularly like either. Aw, OP's
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: just a grumpy cat.
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: You're a little room dweller, aren't you? And there's nothing
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: wrong with that.
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: I came out for cake and to say hi and
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: greet people, but that was about it. I spent most
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: of my time in my room playing games on my PS4.
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: Oh, was it Burnout Revenge?
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: The whole time she kept popping in. asking when I
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: was going to go join the party. I kept telling
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: her I'll be there soon, but I lost track of
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: time and never ended up joining in, nor did I
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: really want to. I don't like the people there, and
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: I'm not sure why she insisted on me saying hi,
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: because you're her brother and she likes you.
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: She cares about you, and socializing is actually good for you.
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: It's true. By the way, this comes from my favorite customer.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
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  Speaker 1: to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: We're going to read this story about this little cat man.
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: And we're going to have our thoughts. Cat man do.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: But you can have your thoughts too. You can put
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: them in the comments. As OP says, the icing on
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: the cake was that I didn't buy her a birthday
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: gift either.
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: Should have bought her a PS3.
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: Now, I should point out that I don't really have
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: much money. I have a part-time job that I make
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: a meager amount of pay from, and I use it
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: mostly to buy stuff for myself, like electronics and gaming equipment, games,
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: and so on. I had made it clear to her
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: a while back that I probably wouldn't be able to
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: afford her a gift, but I don't know why she
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: was still expecting one. She has a job and has
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: far more money than I do.
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: Okay, it doesn't matter. You don't have to buy her
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: with something that's worth your entire bank account. It's just
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: the sentiment of getting a gift for someone that you
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: care about.
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm bad at this. I'll admit it. For my
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: birthday earlier this year, I told her clearly I didn't
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: want a gift, but she still went and bought one anyway,
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: even though I clearly said I didn't want one. It
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: was some disgusting shirt that I'd never wear anyway.
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: OP, you're kind of pissing me off.
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: I mean, he's 17.
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: I I know.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: We all know this version of a 17-year-old. Yeah. We
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: all know this guy. Oh. After her birthday party, she
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: was clearly not happy. She went into a rage and
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: started screaming about how I'm a useless, pathetic loser and
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: how I failed at life because I have no friends.
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: You're 17. Your life hasn't even started yet.
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: Not even close.
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: In the process of her stomping rage, she intentionally broke
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: three of my games to teach me a lesson, supposedly.
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: Ooh, not good.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she also needs to know that destruction of properties
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: is not okay. I was furious, and honestly, I had
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: to calm myself and hold myself back from hitting her.
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: Sibling stuff.
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: I went to my parents and told them everything she
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: had done. Later, she was crying and apologetic, and they
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: said I had to forgive her. I told them she
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: has to pay up around 300 bucks, and both she
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: and my parents said that was ridiculous.
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: What games are 300 bucks when it's especially a PS4?
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: Was it three games? Maybe this is in Australia. That
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: was the amount of money I'd spent on my games, approximately.
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: My parents said maybe that was a lesson for me,
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: and I'd learn from my mistakes and try to engage
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: with the real world more don't like that either dude
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: everyone sucks in this story clear as day Yeah.
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: OP was just minding his own business.
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: I mean, let's give a little bit of both. You
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: can say, yeah, you're right. She does need to pay
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: you back for that. However, maybe this is a sign
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: of some kind that you should do less gaming and
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: more living.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: 17.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: Yes, 17.
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: We were both 17 once.
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: But dude, like... These patterns set in early and if
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: you don't do anything to like circumvent them, they will
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: be your patterns when you're 27, 37. And then you'll
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: wake up one day and realize... Where'd everybody go? You
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: didn't grow for 20 years and you don't really have anything,
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: you know? And that's the that's the horror story, man.
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: I told them all that unless she pays up, I'm
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: not speaking to them ever again. And they said that
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: was fine by them. I think this is ridiculous.
• 40:22
  Speaker 3: I don't know. You were kind of doing that already,
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: weren't you? I mean, you kind of threaten them with
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: an empty threat of what you already do.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: Just to be clear, your parents don't actually never expect
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: to talk to you again. They're just calling your bluff
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: because you're a 17 year old. Let's just de-escalate. They
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: expect me to incur the losses of her crazy rampage
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: when I already hardly make enough money, whereas she's the
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: one who broke it and she should have enough money
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: to pay for it. Even if she doesn't, which she does.
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: It's still her responsibility. I get that maybe I'm not
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: the nicest person and I could do more to interact
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: with them and not ignore them, but that doesn't justify
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: breaking someone's things. And we have some comments here. But yeah,
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: it sounds like you're sniffing. You're on the scent of
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: like what really needs to be done here. I think
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: you have this sense that you need to change as well. Yes.
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: Because, again, go to the, what stemmed this? What was
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: the cause of the root of this problem? Your sister
• 41:13
  Speaker 3: wants to hang out with.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: You, man. Yeah, I think really at the end of
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: the day, the root of all of our problems here, OP,
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: is ourself. I know you're going to not like that,
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: and it would make you mad, but that's because you're 17.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm not sure what either of us would
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: have gotten out of being at the party. In either case,
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: it's not really an excuse to damage someone's stuff. I
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: wouldn't care if she wasn't at my party. Didn't. And
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: listen to me.
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: There it is.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: I was you.
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: We were you.
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: I was you. We were you. I was the guy
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: who was like, I don't care about my birthday. So
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: why do I have to care about someone else's birthday?
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: That's so fundamentally dumb. And I didn't realize it until
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: I was like in my early 20s. How absolutely stupid
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: that is. People like their birthdays. People like being celebrated.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: And it's such a small gesture that can make such
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: a huge difference to somebody. Truly.
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, don't say, oh, because of me or what I think.
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: That means everyone has to think that.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: Everyone is different. Brothers and sisters don't have to be
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: best friends. They can still treat each other with enough
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: respect not to damage stuff. Well, quickly, I would say
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: not going to your sister's party at all.
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: You damaged her.
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: Was disrespectful.
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: You damaged her. You hurt her.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: Okay, I realize I'm a flawed brother. and a flawed
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: human being. I took a deep look at myself and
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: even cried a little bit. I'm going to apologize to
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: my sister first thing tomorrow morning. Thanks for your comments,
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: including the tough love. I will update when I can.
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: And we have an update from 19 days later. Oh boy. Great.
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: We're 17 and we're changing.
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: Ch-ch-changes.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: Okay, guys. So I know it's been a while since
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: I made the first post, like three weeks ago. I
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: actually resolved this issue like two weeks ago, but I
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: wasn't really going to make a post about it. But
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: I showed my sister the post and some of the comments.
• 42:45
  Speaker 3: Merp.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: And she convinced me to make an update post explaining
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: what happened. Well, after I made the last post, I
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: got a lot of comments. Some supportive, others less so.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: I was feeling pretty bad, and I'll admit, it was
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: not the cool guy move that I didn't show up
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: for my sister. I realized I really should go and
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: apologize to her. Unfortunately, it was the middle of the
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: night and I didn't want to wake her up. I
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: couldn't sleep, however, so I decided to go and wake
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: her up and apologize to her anyway. I went to
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: her bedroom and roused her awake and she was really
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: tired and bewildered. I told her I was sorry for
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: being such a selfish, inconsiderate dude and that I really
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: did love her. She replied with a half asleep, okay,
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: and told me to go back to bed. I think
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: when she realized I'd been crying, she realized I was serious.
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: We had a bit of a talk. She told me
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: not to worry. She was sorry too and everything could
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: be sorted out and we could talk again in the morning.
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: Then she told me to go back to sleep. So
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: I went back to sleep and we had a talk
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: the next day. I basically told her I'm sorry for
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: being such a butt to her on her birthday and
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: that I think my video games caused me to forget
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: about the outside world and the passing of time.
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: And you know what? You said it real.
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: He's us.
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: He's one of us.
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: OP is us.
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: I've been that OP.
• 43:56
  Speaker 3: We've been that OP.
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: You know how many thousands of hours I've spent playing
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: Smash thousands.
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: Don't check my logs for Destiny 2. And that's just
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: one game.
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: Thousands.
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: More.
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: These hands.
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: You don't want to know.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: These dirty hands. When I play, I just forget myself
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: and time passes without me even realizing. I told her
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: I should have set aside the games the entire day
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: and just spent the birthday with her.
• 44:21
  Speaker 3: Ah, you don't OP? You just, you know what you do?
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: Put a pause on it.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: You pause it.
• 44:25
  Speaker 3: You pause it.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: I should have spent the birthday with her no matter
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: how much I initially didn't want to. I then made
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: a pledge to cut down my gaming and spend more
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: time with my family. She was really happy to hear this.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: She said she couldn't believe what she was hearing. Like
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: I was suddenly a new person or had had an epiphany.
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: He got one of those continue?
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: He got a continue screen. She gave me a hug
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: and once again apologized heavily for having broken my games.
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: She said basically that she felt my gaming habits had
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: stolen her little brother away from her and turned me
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: from a happy kid into a miserable troll that lurks
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: in his dark room.
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: Called it earlier. Room dweller.
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not going to lie. She kind of hit
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: the nail on the head because you did sound a
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: wee bit miserable. Very like, the world is against me.
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: No one gets me. I don't like anyone.
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: Everyone sucks. 17-year-old.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: And you are also a 17-year-old. She said she really
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: regretted breaking my games the instant she had done it.
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: and that she did it more out of anger for
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: the way they were hurting me and distancing me from
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: her and my family. She was extremely apologetic, and I
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: told her to forget about it, that I probably deserved it,
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: and she might have even done me a favor.
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: No, I agree here.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: This is true.
• 45:36
  Speaker 3: Don't touch my things and break them.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: I think she did do you a favor.
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: I think it was a wake-up call, sure. It was
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: a wake-up call, so was this post, but don't touch
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: my stuff.
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: She told me the reason she had been so upset
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: and why she wanted me at the party was because
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: next year she is going off to university and she
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: won't see me much anymore. She doesn't have that much
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: time left to spend with me and she feels that
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: I don't feel the same way at all. She was
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: hurt that I'd rather spend these last few months playing games,
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: especially on her birthday. I told her I understood and
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: that it was a really fair judgment that I hadn't considered.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: She said, you know us big sisters always have to
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: look out for our little brother and when we see
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: someone or something that hurts him, We can get a
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: little crazy, hence why she had broken my games in
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: a fury. I told her I wished there was some
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: way I could make it up to her for missing
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: the party, and we discussed it with my parents. They
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: both told me they were disappointed in me, but glad
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: that I'd finally realized what my problem was and was
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: trying to rectify it. She said she wants to take
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: us all out to dinner at a nice restaurant, which
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: she'd pay for as a specifically family-only celebration of her birthday. Cute.
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: We did that a week or so later, and it
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: was really nice. I wanted to bring up the issue
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: of the games... but I didn't. I had said I'd
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: try to focus less on gaming and to bring it
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: up would be antithetical. I figured to myself that I'd
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: just save the money and buy them again. I don't
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: need to trouble my sister and make her feel bad.
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: She asked me which games they were, and I told
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: her to forget about it, that I didn't even like
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: them very much. I was in my room playing on
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: the PS3 a couple of days later. Guy's got multiple gens.
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: I was playing while she was at work. She walks
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: in and tells me she bought something for me, and
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: she shows me three games she bought, and the one
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: that I really liked, that she had broken, wasn't even
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: one of them.
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, she brought me the cheapest games.
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: But you know what?
• 47:20
  Speaker 3: It's her trying.
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: She asked me if they were the right games, and
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: I said, well, technically, no, but don't worry. It's not important.
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: She then pulled out that specific game from her purse
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: she had somehow remembered. She had also bought some multiplayer
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: games and a second controller, and she told me that
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: it's unfair that she only asked me to do things
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: she enjoys. Oh my god, she's going to do it.
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: She's going to ask you to be your player too. Yes. Oh,
• 47:43
  Speaker 3: I love this!
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: She said she should also do things I enjoy. Let's
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: finish this story.
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I'm about to tear up.
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: Also, I showed her my original post some time ago,
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: and we both read through the comments together. We were
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: in a good mood, so thankfully we didn't rage too much,
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: but I told her that I think some of those
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: comments had helped me realize... that I was in the
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: wrong and was losing my sister through my jerkiness. She
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: convinced me I should write a follow-up post, which I did.
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: It just took me about two weeks to get around
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: to doing it. Also, my dad found out she had
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: bought new games and that we were playing together and
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: was extremely displeased. He said she was just encouraging my
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: bad habits and she shouldn't have done that. He just
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: stood there shaking his head while she was playing, saying,
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: I hope you don't end up like him referring to me. Well,
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: gee willikers, I can certainly see why you and your
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: family might not be getting along.
• 48:31
  Speaker 3: But again, I go up to my dad and be like, Dad,
• 48:33
  Speaker 3: I have a cool game for you. It's called Call
• 48:35
  Speaker 3: of Duty Black Ops. Are you ready?
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's.
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: I'm just happy that, you know, you and your sister
• 48:42
  Speaker 3: finally saw eye to eye, you know, at the end
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: of this. And it's great. It really got me that
• 48:47
  Speaker 3: she was like, hey, can I be your player, too?
• 48:51
  Speaker 3: And that's just cute.
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: 1v1 me quickscopes, Rust. That is the end of that story.
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: We've got another one coming up.
• 48:57
  Speaker 3: Sure do. My sister-in-law demanded to be hired as a
• 49:00
  Speaker 3: professional photographer, but she uses a phone camera. I mean,
• 49:04
  Speaker 3: they got some nice cameras. Q, shot on iPhone 17
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: or whatever. Yeah. So, my wife and I just had
• 49:12
  Speaker 3: our first baby. We are excited to get to do
• 49:15
  Speaker 3: all the first things like taking newborn photos. We hired
• 49:18
  Speaker 3: a professional photographer to take them and paid her $ 300. Again,
• 49:22
  Speaker 3: we were excited to share them. So we posted some
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: behind the scenes photos to social media. My sister-in-law texted
• 49:28
  Speaker 3: us about how rude it was that we didn't ask
• 49:30
  Speaker 3: her to take our newborn photos. For some context... My
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: sister-in-law has been trying to get her small, keyword small,
• 49:38
  Speaker 3: photography business up and running for about a year. She
• 49:41
  Speaker 3: mainly shoots couples, families, or graduation portraits, but never newborns.
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: Hmm, newborns, notoriously difficult to photograph.
• 49:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, they're hard to stay in one spot. So we
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: tried to support her. We reposted her business on our
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: social media and even paid her about $ 100 to take
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: some maternity couples photos for us because she insisted she
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: needed more photos for her business portfolio, but we honestly
• 50:04
  Speaker 3: did not love them. She didn't edit any of the
• 50:06
  Speaker 3: people out of the background. She just edited the lighting,
• 50:08
  Speaker 3: the exposure, and focus in the photos app and called
• 50:11
  Speaker 3: it good.
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: Okay, well, that's... she'll get there.
• 50:14
  Speaker 3: I too was in high school. If that's the style
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: her clients are looking for, all the better for them.
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: It's just not what we wanted. By the way, this
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: comes from user TotalDegree1460. And if you want to submit
• 50:25
  Speaker 3: your own stories, go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon. I'm Dakota.
• 50:29
  Speaker 3: And we are just goofy goobers. We only know goofy things.
• 50:33
  Speaker 3: So we're going to tell you those goofy things and
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: how we do them in this story. Let us know
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: what you'd do down in the comments below. Mmm, goober. Goofy. Mmm,
• 50:41
  Speaker 3: goober grape.
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: As Opie says, what's eating Gubert grape?
• 50:46
  Speaker 3: As OP says, she doesn't use a professional camera. She
• 50:51
  Speaker 3: uses her iPhone 16 in portrait mode and whatever settings
• 50:56
  Speaker 3: on there.
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: I mean, you could make professional photos with that.
• 51:00
  Speaker 3: Listen, OP, look at me. People are using that to
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: make movies.
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah. She just doesn't have the skills to pay the bills.
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm not defending that. Just do with
• 51:10
  Speaker 3: that information what you will.
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: She's just got to increase her skills.
• 51:14
  Speaker 3: I'm not saying she needs the most fanciest equipment. She
• 51:16
  Speaker 3: doesn't even use any editing apps. Just whatever editing stuff
• 51:19
  Speaker 3: you get on the iPhone for photos editor or whatever.
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: That's interesting.
• 51:24
  Speaker 3: So going back to it, we explained we wanted professional
• 51:27
  Speaker 3: photos to be taken like we had gotten it done
• 51:29
  Speaker 3: in the studio. She claimed she could have done all
• 51:32
  Speaker 3: of that for half of the cost. We told her
• 51:34
  Speaker 3: she didn't have any of the stuff that the photographer had.
• 51:36
  Speaker 3: You know, props, swaddles, backdrops, and baby blankets and pillows
• 51:40
  Speaker 3: to prop him. We also stated the fact that she
• 51:42
  Speaker 3: doesn't typically photograph newborns. So we didn't know if she
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: would even be interested in that. She said we could
• 51:48
  Speaker 3: have used what we had and bought the rest. If
• 51:51
  Speaker 3: we bought the rest of the materials, it would have
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: probably been the same cost as our photographer originally. We
• 51:56
  Speaker 3: offered if she would like to build her portfolio, she
• 51:59
  Speaker 3: can use our baby to take some newborn photos. Hey,
• 52:02
  Speaker 3: or how about you just.
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: Do what everyone does, which is go take pictures without
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: getting paid. You don't have to have a paid gig
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: to build portfolio photos.
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: That's what a lot of college students and high school
• 52:15
  Speaker 3: students do.
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Like, literally just go to a place where people
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: go and say, hey, I'll take your photo for free
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: and practice taking good portrait photos of people.
• 52:28
  Speaker 3: She claims that we are offering out of pity and
• 52:31
  Speaker 3: we are being unsupportive of her small business. Am I
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: the a-hole?
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: No, she sounds really entitled.
• 52:37
  Speaker 3: No. I'd be like, see these pictures? Then your pictures.
• 52:42
  Speaker 3: We don't like your pictures. It's time to be upfront
• 52:44
  Speaker 3: and to be honest with her.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: This could all be summed up with one phrase. skill issue. Truly.
• 52:50
  Speaker 3: We have an update.
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, you're not an a-hole.
• 52:55
  Speaker 3: Truly. If you want the best, you're gonna pay the best.
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: You know, if you want to help her out, she
• 53:00
  Speaker 3: doesn't have to be rude about it.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: Update.
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: My wife thinks if we tell her she's not a
• 53:04
  Speaker 3: real professional and give her some critiques, maybe she will
• 53:08
  Speaker 3: be more understanding?
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: Well, not if you put it like that. I mean, maybe.
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: Maybe she'd be receptive to understanding, oh, I'm actually a
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: novice and I'm not Really ready to be a professional photographer.
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: I think that's in any field. You know, if you
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: want to help someone out, you got to be true
• 53:24
  Speaker 3: to them.
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, you got to know where you're at.
• 53:26
  Speaker 3: I do that with my friends with their cooking. When
• 53:28
  Speaker 3: they ask me for my opinion, I'll be honest. I'm
• 53:31
  Speaker 3: not going to lie to them. I think based off
• 53:33
  Speaker 3: her sister's personality, she will continue to play victim and
• 53:36
  Speaker 3: say we're just deflecting from the fact that we just
• 53:38
  Speaker 3: didn't want to support her. She already has told most
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: of our family and mutual friends that we purposefully chose
• 53:44
  Speaker 3: not to use her and she could have taken the
• 53:47
  Speaker 3: same photos.
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah. that's all true we did not support your business
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: we chose not to use you for our photographs because
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: we didn't think they would turn out as good as
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: we wanted them to and that is the cold water.
• 54:00
  Speaker 3: And now we have all of our family and friends
• 54:02
  Speaker 3: asking us why we couldn't have just been supportive so
• 54:06
  Speaker 3: i don't know is there really anything else we can
• 54:08
  Speaker 3: do And that's the end of that story. I'd be like, okay,
• 54:10
  Speaker 3: you guys want to be supportive? Have her take your photos.
• 54:13
  Speaker 3: You pay for her portfolio, all the things, you know?
• 54:16
  Speaker 3: You know what? You pay for it.
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: Why don't you get some wedding reenactment photos taken? Mom
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: and dad. Uncle and aunt.
• 54:22
  Speaker 3: It's always when people are like, oh, why can't you
• 54:24
  Speaker 3: just support? Or why can't you do it? Why can't
• 54:26
  Speaker 3: you help out? And then you tell them, yeah, why
• 54:29
  Speaker 3: don't you do that?
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: And it's, you know what? You can do that. You
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: can say, you know what? If you want to build
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: out your portfolio, we can do a photo session. I'll
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: give you 50 bucks.
• 54:37
  Speaker 3: And you know what? You also say, we are being
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: helpful by showing her she needs to be a little
• 54:41
  Speaker 3: bit better.
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's, you know, business isn't going to just
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: fall in your lap when you're doing something as competitive
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: as photography.
• 54:47
  Speaker 3: That is in that story. We have another one coming up.
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: I secretly hid my mother's belongings because I never trusted
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: my stepmom.
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: She's a thief.
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: My mom passed away when I was six. A few
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: years after she passed, my dad offered to let me
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: keep anything I wanted, but he decided it was time
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: to donate or get some things out of the house.
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: I kept a lot more than either of us expected.
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: There were just so many things that screamed hurt. And
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: I wanted them because of the memories associated with them
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: or because they made me think of happy things. All
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: of this was kept in my room for years, either
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: displayed or safely kept and stored. My dad met his
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: wife when I was 11. I never really liked her
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: and I didn't trust her. So when my dad told
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: me two years later that she was moving in, I
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: asked my grandparents if they could keep mom's stuff safe
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: for me. I explained why and everything, so they agreed
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: very fast, and we agreed to keep this from Dad.
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: The less he knew, the better, was our opinion. Tame Impala.
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: He thought it at the same time.
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: How old was OP when she did this, when she
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: contacted the grandparents?
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: Eleven.
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: That's a lot to have to think at eleven.
• 55:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, true. I've seen stranger things.
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: You lie like stepmama.
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: You lie like papa. Last year, grandma was diagnosed with dementia.
• 56:02
  Speaker 2: Oh, no.
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: Dad had not seen her in years and decided to
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: visit a month ago as one last goodbye kind of thing.
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: When he was visiting, she had no idea who he
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: was and started talking randomness.
• 56:12
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: And when he asked about me, she could remember as
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: far back as when I asked her and grandpa to
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: keep mom's things safe for me.
• 56:19
  Speaker 2: Oh, no, I knew it. She's going to be like,
• 56:22
  Speaker 2: I remember someone told me to not tell you or
• 56:25
  Speaker 2: tell you that. Oh, this is so sad.
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: She ended up telling dad about it, along with the
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: fact that his wife gave off a bad vibe and
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: how I hoped they wouldn't actually get married.
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: Ooh, grandma. It's not grandma's fault at all. That is
• 56:40
  Speaker 2: really sad.
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: Grandma's just telling the truth. By the way, this comes
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: from throwaway Ram Alino. And if you want to submit
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: your own stories, go to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit.
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 56:51
  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
• 56:51
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: We're going to read this story. We have our thoughts.
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: They're not always the best. They're not always the worst either.
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: They're just, we're just people. And you're people too, which
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: means you can have your thoughts in the comments. And
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: OP says.
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: This is sad.
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: It took him a couple of weeks to confront me
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: on it, but he got there. He was still upset.
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: He asked me what grandma had said to make me
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: not trust his wife and why I would do something
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: so hurtful. He told me it showed I didn't trust
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: him either, but that if his wife had known back then,
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: she would have felt so unwanted in our home.
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: So what do you want from OP then? Did you
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: want her to make your wife feel unwanted?
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: Do you want me to like your wife I don't like?
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: I don't like her.
• 57:31
  Speaker 2: I don't like her.
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: It's not going to change. Yeah.
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: Sorry.
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: I told him granny had said nothing to me back then.
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: And I told him protecting the things I had left
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: of my mom was more important than his wife's feelings.
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: I said I wasn't willing to take any risks. And
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: he said I should have communicated my concerns so she
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: could have reassured me. And I told him she couldn't
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: have reassured me. I mean, like, an apology for.
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: I don't think OP's done anything wrong.
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, shut up. Why do you feel disrespected? It's her
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: mom's stuff, and she was like, this weird woman who
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: gives me bad vibes is going to try to, like,
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: throw it away. Yeah. So I'm taking it out of
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: the house.
• 58:30
  Speaker 2: And also, you know, you would think that it would
• 58:32
  Speaker 2: say something that his grandmother or his mother, his own
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: mother also didn't trust her enough that she would help
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: OP with this plan.
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: His own mother was immediately like, yeah, not a bad idea.
• 58:42
  Speaker 2: And like kept this secret until she literally couldn't.
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: Yikes. In between talking to me, he also called out
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: Graham for influencing my view of On his wife.
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry. You're going to argue with your dementia grandma
• 58:56
  Speaker 2: or mother? You're arguing with your mother who has dementia?
• 58:59
  Speaker 3: It's like taking candy from a baby. That's so messed up.
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: She's got dementia, dude.
• 59:04
  Speaker 3: Like you're gonna you know for a fact he's gonna
• 59:07
  Speaker 3: manipulate the crap out of that.
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: Graham and him argued she threw a lot of stuff
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: in his face that he responded to like he had
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: with me that we judged his wife way too harshly
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: for those who wonder what those things are when my
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: mom was alive my Graham gave her a necklace that
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: had been given to either daughters or daughters-in-law as a
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: sweet gesture My mom got it because Graham loved her
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: like a daughter. Mom gave it back to Graham before
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: she passed. After my dad and his wife got married,
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: it went missing from my grandparents' house. Before it went missing,
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: my dad's wife had brought up the necklace, because dad
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: had told her about it, and had acted very angry
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: when Graham told her it was going to one of
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: her granddaughters next. My dad's wife looked very happy when
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: the topic of it being lost came up.
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: So she's already stolen stuff. Yeah, that's... I mean, just
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: keep an eye out. You know, unless she's selling it,
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: she's going to wear it eventually. And then you get
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: to go, oh, what's that on your neck?
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: It's just so annoying of like, she probably didn't even
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: steal it. She probably just got rid of it.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 3: That's a hickey.
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: It's like if you're too insecure over a corpse in
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: the ground to date a widower. Don't date a widower.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 2: Oh, you think she's just trying to get rid of all...
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: Of course.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 3: Oh, 100%.
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: She just wants to pretend like there was never a
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: previous partner, like he never had a wife before her.
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: Nobody ever accused her to her or dad's face, but
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: a lot of dad's family believe it was her and
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: she stole it. Another incident was my twin cousin's birthday.
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: My dad's wife offered to pay for one of the
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: cakes as a gift from her and dad to help
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: make it less expensive for their parents. She also insisted
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: she would take care of it and asked my cousin
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: what he wanted his cake to be. But he ended
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: up with everything he didn't want in a cake. And
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: as it turns out, the cake that was ordered was
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: my dad's wife's favorite. For the child's birthday, you ordered
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 1: the cake you like.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 2: I'm imagining this child is like... I want a unicorn cake.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: I want chocolate frosting and a unicorn cake. Cool.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 3: It's going to be vanilla Transformers.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: And then it's like Love Island. Red Velvet. Like lavender,
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: Earl Grey, Love Island themed.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: What is this Love Island cake? Oh, didn't you want
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: that little child? No, I don't know what that is. Look,
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: there's the villa right there.
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 3: It's Red Velvet. Close enough. Close enough. They're both chocolate.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: She claimed it was a mistake on the bakery's end,
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: but she would never show the order form to my
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: aunt and uncle. She was given the benefit of the
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: doubt reluctantly by most people. Then there was the time
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: she invited a bunch of her family members to visit
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: and she said they could stay with us and with
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 1: my grandparents. But she never told anyone.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 3: Even my dad.
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 1: It turned into a big fight between Graham and her
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 1: because Graham didn't want strangers staying in her house like that.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 1: Then my dad's wife and I kind of got into
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: it because I didn't want to give up my room
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: to sleep on the couch. I feel like your dad
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: just knows his wife sucks and refuses to see it. Yeah.
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 3: Or does he like it?
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: He's cutting everyone off. He's arguing with his mom who
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 2: has dementia. You don't have that much time left with her.
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 3: The way he's going about that.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 3: Goes to show.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: Like, clearly this, I don't know, he probably was kind
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 2: of sucky before, but clearly this marriage has also changed
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 2: him even more negatively.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 3: Stepmom's got your dad wrapped around her finger.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: For real.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: It's true. He probably would give her all of the jewelry,
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 2: you know? 100%. And he'd be like, oh, I hope
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 2: you don't need it. Yeah.
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 3: And he'll probably be like, what, what, what ex-wife?
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 2: What are you talking about?
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 3: You're my, yeah, you've always been my wife.
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 2: You came out of my mind.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 2: I never had an ex-wife. I never had a previous marriage.
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: You sprung forth from the ground like a dwarf.
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 2: So strong.
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: So in the end, Graham said I could stay with
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: them and they could overcrowd their house if they wanted.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 1: I brought anything valuable with me to my grandparents to
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: be safe. My dad didn't love it, but he didn't
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: want to fight me and Graham over it either. They
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: ended up having two miserable weeks stuffed into the house
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: with his wife's family all staying. But back to me
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: and dad, I don't know if he will get over this.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: I'm also not willing to apologize for what I did.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 2: Did what, though?
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 1: You were 11.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 2: Like, did what? If we're asking, if we're really looking
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 2: over the details, you took your belongings and put them
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: in storage at your grandparents' house. That's what you did.
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: He's just mad because you don't trust his sketchy wife.
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 2: Like, he can't force you to like his wife.
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 1: She can't even order a birthday cake without being self-centered
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: about it.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 3: This is literally... The ugly stepmom or manipulative stepmom that
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 3: we see. It's a trope that we see in movies
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 3: and stories.
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: There's just no way I was taking the risk of
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: my mom's things going missing or something. And I won't
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: apologize for just never really liking her. It's how I feel.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: And I've been polite when interacting with her. I don't
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 1: know what that means for me and dad and what
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: I should say or if I should say anything at all.
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: That's the end of that story. Yeah, um.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 2: Like, yeah, say what?
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: Continue not liking your weird stepmom. Your dad will learn
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: to live with it. You've done nothing out of sorts.
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 2: No, nothing that is your fault. If anything, the burden
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 2: of being liked is on stepmom. She gotta get you
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 2: to like her.
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't have to just like you because you're
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 1: married to my dad. He should know that. He should
• 1:04:33
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• 1:04:45
  Speaker 2: My brother demanded I invite his girlfriend's kids or he'd
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: skip my wedding.
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 1: Well, I'll see you later.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 2: My fiance and I are getting married. The wedding is
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 2: not strictly child-free, but we have opted only to invite
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: a couple kids that we have close relationships with, and
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: even the kids who are coming are not staying the
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: entire reception.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and who would want them to?
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 2: Ew, little kids. Although I did love going to weddings
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 2: when I was a kid.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: Checks out.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 3: Listen, as long as they're well-behaved, cute.
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 2: Ugh, I had a blast.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 3: I love kids at weddings.
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: I'd go up to the bartender and I'd go, give
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: me a Shirley Temple on the rocks.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 3: They're so cute in their little suits, bow ties, and
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 3: the cute.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 2: The issue arose when my brother suddenly decided to move
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: out of state and in with his long-distance girlfriend. and
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 2: her two young boys, six and two. When he called
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: to tell me he was moving, he immediately told me
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 2: that if I did not invite her and her kids
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: to my wedding, that he probably wasn't going to come.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: Why?
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: He didn't even ask you. He wasn't even like, hey,
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 2: can our kids come to the wedding? He just went
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 2: straight to, if you don't invite the kids, I will
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 2: not come.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 1: Like, because someone needs to take care of them?
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 3: I go, ask that nicely. And then we'll see.
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a discussion.
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 2: He stated that this was his life now and travel
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 2: without them wouldn't be possible.
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 3: Oh, that sucks.
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 2: Now some context. We had never once met his girlfriend
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 2: or her kids. We didn't even know her name at
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 2: that time or that they were dating. That's wild. He's like,
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 2: I have a girlfriend now. She has kids. We're all
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 2: coming or none of us.
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: At the time he asked for them to come to
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: the wedding.
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 2: They didn't even know her name or that they were dating.
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 1: I don't think your brother wants to go to the wedding.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think he's just like, please, will anyone date me?
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 2: Will anyone date me so I can get out of
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: this wedding?
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: Please, long distance preferable, please.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 2: So I was kind of astounded by the sudden demand
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: to invite her and these two young kids that not
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 2: a single person among my family or friends knew. I
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 2: didn't want to react poorly, though, so at the time,
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 2: I thanked him for being open about his boundary and
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 2: let him know that we would think on it. By
• 1:06:49
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  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice to Well buddy,
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 2: that's funny you'd say that. He's like, that's too far.
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 2: But I do want them at your wedding. Yeah, I
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 2: want them at the most important day. I want you
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 2: to meet them at your wedding.
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 3: And I go, where's the logic in that?
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: I don't understand. The dinner's too much, but a wedding
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 2: is okay.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: He's just like, everyone will be there.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: I told him, that was fine. And if they changed
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 2: their minds, we could grab dinner while they were in town.
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 2: But if not, no big deal. They ended up taking
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 2: us up on the offer to meet over dinner. And
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 2: it only ended up demonstrating why inviting the kids would
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 2: not be a good idea.
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: Oh, boy.
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the six and two year old.
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 3: He's going to take this really well.
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 2: Literally nothing against the kids themselves. They're kids.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: Men were sweet.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: But neither the girlfriend nor my brother seemed concerned or
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 2: properly aware of the kid's needs. It was hard to
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: watch and brought up a lot of bad memories. So
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: when my brother called to again ask if they were invited,
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: I told him that while I was still going to
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 2: extend the invitation to him and his girlfriend, the kids
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 2: were not going to be included. He just reiterated that
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 2: he wouldn't be able to travel or attend without the kids.
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 2: And I told him that I respected his decision. Well,
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 2: there you go. Solution. Point in case for 10.
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 3: I play your game. I play your hand.
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 2: He was upset when we ended the call and I
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 2: felt guilty about it. My reasoning is that I don't
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 2: want to spend my wedding day stressed out about the
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 2: well-being or behavior of two kids that I don't even know.
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 2: I don't think that my brother or his girlfriend are
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 2: responsible enough to leave the wedding early if the kids
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 2: are tired and need to go home. I don't want
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: that to stress out or ruin the event for my
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 2: other guests. However, I'm also worried I'm being a knucklehead
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 2: and that I'm making a bigger deal out of this
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 2: than it is since my brother and I already have
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 2: a strained relationship. Am I the a-hole for not inviting
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 2: my brother's girlfriend's kids to my wedding? And we've got
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 2: some info from OP, but what do you think?
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 1: I don't know, buddy. It sounds like your brother is
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: the one stressing the relationship. Sounds like.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 2: He's not really interested in going to your wedding and
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 2: is prioritizing this new relationship for some reason or not.
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 2: And if your relationship is already kind of on the
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 2: rocks with your brother, I don't think you have to go,
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 2: you know, trying to reach out to him and trying
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 2: to work on it when he's not reciprocating.
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I don't know.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: That is a what?
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 3: I don't know. He gave you his only options. It's
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 3: either we come with the kids or we don't come
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 3: at all.
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 2: And you said, well, sorry, you can't bring the kids.
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 1: Oops. It's weird that his position is, this is my
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 1: life now and I must travel with the kids. It's like, dude,
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: you just got here.
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 2: You just got that life.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not a parent, but that's also not
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 1: how that works all the time.
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 2: Relevant info from Opie. What does Opie's fiance think about
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 2: the situation? And are Opie's parents willing to step up
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 2: to take care of the kids? Nope, he says my
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 2: fiance doesn't want them to come after the dinner, which
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 2: says a lot. He's one of the most kind and
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: hospitable people I know and adores kids. He says the
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 2: whole situation feels weird and he thinks my brother is
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 2: planning something, but he said it is ultimately up to
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 2: me since it is my brother and has been really supportive.
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 2: I have not asked, but I know my parents would.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 2: The thing is, I don't want to make them do that.
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 2: Don't ask your parents to watch two random kids at
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: their daughter's wedding.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: Let's not do that.
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 3: I guarantee you, brother is like, no, these are your grandkids.
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 2: I want my guests, parents included, to have a good time.
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 2: I also know they aren't happy with my brother, but
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 2: they also hate conflict and won't say anything to him. Plus,
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 2: at this point, it's clear something more is going on
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 2: than what I know, and I'm not going to F
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 2: around and find out with it. I'm just deciding whether
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 2: I need to uninvite him altogether or change his invitation
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 2: to only include him and let him decide from there.
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 2: And we do have an update.
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, if there's some sort of mysterious plan that
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: you're starting to sniff out, Changed that invitation.
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 2: I'm wondering if he wanted to, like, propose at their wedding.
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 3: Oh, boy.
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 2: That's my guess.
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 3: Could happen.
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 2: He's like, I want her kids to be there so
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 2: that they can be okay with this union.
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: I feel like you are on the money. Update.
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 2: I found out some information that I think adds a
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 2: layer to everything. First, the girlfriend lives with relatives who
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 2: have been helping her raise her kids for the past
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 2: several years.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 1: Which is how long they've been alive.
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 2: Yes, they are several years old.
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 3: Well, one is. The other one's two.
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 2: The girlfriend and now my brother are living with these
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 2: relatives and they are continuing to help take care of
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 2: the kids. Not only that, but her parents and siblings
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 2: are involved parts of her life and help with her
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 2: kids as well. It seems like she just is really
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 2: good at convincing people to take care.
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 1: Of her kids.
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 3: She assembled a team.
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 2: She's like, you are my avengers. You are my disciples.
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 1: But it sounds like these kids are getting neglected with
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: the iPad or something.
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, OP said it seems like they don't
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 2: know how to take care of the needs. And maybe
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 2: it's a situation of all of her family watches these
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 2: kids for her and she just kind of gets to
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 2: live her life. So while I do not know the
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 2: whole dynamic, child care is not the issue I was
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 2: told it was.
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 1: Second.
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 2: A family member has informed me that my brother is
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 2: planning to travel down to our state on the weekend
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 2: of the wedding with his girlfriend and the kids. Sounds
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 2: like he's trying to get into the wedding anyway.
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 1: He is gonna be around.
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 2: Gatecrasher. The uncle who told me shared that they are
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 2: talking about attending the rehearsal dinner. but said they can't
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: go to the wedding because the kids aren't invited and
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 2: were told there were no exceptions for the kids despite
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 2: needing childcare. Note, I did not invite my brother or
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 2: his girlfriend to the rehearsal dinner and haven't even formalized
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 2: plans for one yet because I'm trying to navigate how
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 2: to afford it and what works best for our wedding party.
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 2: I was under the impression that the rehearsal dinner was
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 2: just for those involved in the wedding planning and party
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 2: as a special thank you to those who contributed. I mean,
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 2: rehearsal dinners are usually to rehearse.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:13:08
  Speaker 2: But that's... Usually the wedding party. So I've heard.
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 1: So they say.
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 2: So it was.
• 1:13:15
  Speaker 1: I mean.
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 2: Well, what do you think?
• 1:13:18
  Speaker 1: I think you should ambush your brother. Show up to
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 1: wherever he is. Go knock, knock, knock.
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: Hey, what are you doing in town?
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 2: I heard from a little birdie. You were in town.
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 2: And then you crack your knuckles. You want to tell
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 2: me why?
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 3: Update.
• 1:13:30
  Speaker 2: None of this has been directly communicated to me, and
• 1:13:33
  Speaker 2: my brother has not spoken to me since our last
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 2: phone call. I feel like I am being set up
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 2: to look like a villain based on the language being
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 2: used and how it is being framed to my family
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 2: members behind my back. I plan to call my brother
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 2: for an explanation and to set clear boundaries, but I'm
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 2: still working on how I want to word things, so
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 2: there's no room for me to be a pushover. I
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 2: don't know what drama he's cooking, but I really don't
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 2: want any part in it. And that's the end of
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 2: the story. I think you get security and, I don't know,
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 2: talk to family members as needed about the situation.
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, are there any other channels within the family that
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 1: have an open line of communication with him and they
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 1: can suss out what the heck's going on here?
• 1:14:15
  Speaker 3: I feel like your parents, Opie's parents, are just gonna
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 3: be like, okay, we'll watch the kids kind of thing.
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 1: They might, yeah.
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 2: The brother might, you know, cajole them into doing this.
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah, especially when the parents are like, we don't like conflict.
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, we'll watch them.
• 1:14:31
  Speaker 3: Okay, fine.
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 2: No, they're not invited.
• 1:14:33
  Speaker 1: This is why kids play needs to exist again.
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 2: Kids play.
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 2: And that's the end of the episodes.
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 1: We love you.
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 2: And see you tomorrow.