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Season 3 - Episode 142 - Thoughts from a reformed worrier · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to talk to you about being a professional
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  warrior in my opinion. Again, this is just my opinion.
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  While everybody worries, I think women really do an excellent job
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  of worrying. And I know I'm the top warrior
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  of Reformed, I should say and, but am I really reformed?
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  I don't know. I always wonder about that
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  because I still have things that I worry about.
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  But I used to be way worse, way worse than I am now.
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  Am I still? Do I still have the tendencies
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  to do it? Can I still go there?
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  Absolutely. But worrying what?
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  What is the F, you know, what is the cause of it?
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  What is the the reason that we go to it so easily?
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  What is the the the root cause that makes women particularly be
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  a warrior? So thinking about this and
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  really digging into this with my clients and researching and
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  looking through everything, there's no direct correlation
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  for a lot of it other than, you know, the the pace at which we
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  live. But I think women have always
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  been warriors. I mean, my mother was a
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  professional warrior as well and her mother was a professional
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  warrior. So you can go back and think,
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  well, you know, no doubt hundreds and hundreds and
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  hundreds, if not thousands of years this has been the case.
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  And in my opinion, I truly believe that a lot of the
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  worrying that we do as women just comes from the the the
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  place of being a nurturer that our nature as women is to
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  nurture. That is part of our hard wiring.
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  We can't get away from that. Women always want to nurture
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  things, whether it's, you know, their children, their families,
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  their homes, their farms, their workers, their their projects.
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  It doesn't matter. They women just love to grow
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  things. They love to nurture things.
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  They love to see them blossom, if you will.
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  Now, is this across the board for every single woman?
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  No. And it shouldn't be.
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  But those, most of us, the preponderance of us, have this.
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  And again I think it's just in our nature.
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  I think it's just part of our DNA and part of our hard wiring
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  just like you know safety, survival, all of that that's
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  there. We just have different ways to
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  get there than most men and worrying is part of it.
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  Remember our emotions are tied to us to help us get information
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  and quickly course correct. So worrying is and was a way
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  that gets us to pay attention to something that needs attention
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  in order to shift and move in a different direction to get to
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  the right place. But this world we live in now,
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  the society this, the way information comes at us, it's so
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  fast and so furious and so much that our brains just cannot
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  possibly comprehend it all coming at once.
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  So we just effectively delete, delete, delete, delete, delete,
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  and we move on. And then we choose the things
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  that we're going to worry about. And when we pick them, they seem
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  to stick to us like nasty boogers, if you will.
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  They just don't get off. And we try.
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  We try to get them off and they don't.
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  And the nature of this comes from a good place.
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  So I have the experience myself beating myself up for feeling a
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  certain way and thinking what the hell is wrong with me?
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  You know, going to this place of self deprecation so that I can
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  try to beat it out of myself. But as you've heard me say
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  before, when you subscribe to the methodology of the beatings
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  will continue until morale improves.
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  You're screwed because you can't beat yourself up enough to
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  change the situation. So recognizing that the root
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  cause of this, the root place that this all comes from, is
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  nurturing, eases it. It gives me the place of of of
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  going to that's much more relaxed, much more like, OK,
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  this is coming from my nurturing side.
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  This means I'm I'm attempting to care for something which is
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  good, that is good. OK, those are right thoughts in
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  my opinion. However, when they turn and they
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  become a problem, that's when they go to wrong thinking and
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  you have to kind of swirl yourself around and say OK, this
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  is too much. I went too far and allowing
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  other people to have their experiences, IE if you're
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  worried about your children all the time, they have to learn and
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  many of them as I know I was one of those kids.
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  I had to learn through my own experience and I did not learn
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  all the time through the experience of others.
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  There did hit a point in my life where I said OK, I see that
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  happening to them. I do not want that happen to me.
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  And I stopped myself from where I was headed, and that was a
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  gift because I was able to learn from someone else's experience.
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  And to me, that's the relative, the the relationship with true
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  intelligence. When you can look at something
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  that someone else did and learn from them, that is true
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  intelligence. We learn so much that way.
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  But certain other experiences, we let it go.
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  And that's where you start to say, OK, I've moved into a
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  different level of intelligence when I can do that.
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  And you can do that with worrying as well.
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  You can do that by recognizing this is part of your nature and
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  directed in the right way, coming from the right intent.
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  It's all good. And when you start to see that,
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  it's easier to let go of it. When you start to see that, it's
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  easier to stop beating yourself up for being a warrior and it's
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  also easier to think outside of those conditions and say I would
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  like to make this happen instead of worrying and then you can
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  start to move towards that. So hopefully this helps my
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  professional warriors out there the way it helps me and I hope
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  you guys have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.