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Stop Giving Your Personal Power Away · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a naturopathic doctor, mentor, energy healer, a conscious creator, intuitive, energetic business mentor, and honestly, so much more.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: Hello, everyone, and welcome back to the Live Well podcast.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: I am excited for this episode because this is something that I continuously see, something that I see hold people back, and something that once you work with this and change this, literally everything else changes.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_00: And this episode is going to be all about stop giving your power away.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was literally on a walk and I was like, I need an episode on this.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_00: And the title just came through.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was just like, stop giving your power away.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: So if you couldn't tell by the title, this is all about stop giving your power away.
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_00: Before we dive into the episode, if you guys like the podcast and you get value from it, you learn things, it changes the your perception, it activates something in you, it inspires you, gives you aha moments, whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, with that being said, let's go ahead and dive into the episode.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: So, like I said, this was inspired honestly by some of the responses I get in the portal to things, um, by some DMs I get, all about people who are giving their power to external things, blaming circumstances, blaming jobs, blaming, you know, economy, blaming this, blaming that, blaming partners, etc.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: And they very well might suck.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're very well might.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, the problem is that you are assuming that you are not the coder of your video game.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are assuming that the power to change your life, to change your reality, whether it's your health, your body, your wealth, your relationships, anything lies outside of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it doesn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything, all the power you ever need to create a life beyond your wildest dreams comes from within you.
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_00: And so many times I see people playing into victim mode.
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  SPEAKER_00: The woe is me, poor me, this is my circumstance.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: And that might be true.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: Those might be your circumstances, but it is a choice, and you can choose to take your power back, right?
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_00: There are external circumstances, but acting like you don't have control of those circumstances is letting your life be dictated by it.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_00: The longer you let your life be dictated by external circumstances, instead of taking the power back within you and making a change and doing something to change it, the more it's going to persist.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_00: So if you feel like you're in a downward spiral, if you feel like you've been either like down your luck, things haven't been going your way, really start to examine where you are giving your power externally, where you are deciding that there's nothing that you can do, that you know, this is the just the way it is, it's just the way life is.
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  SPEAKER_00: False, no, wrong.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: There is always an answer, there is always a solution, there's always a way out.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: And almost every single time it involves you claiming and taking your power back.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: Now, ultimately, you are actually craving the power that you're giving away.
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_00: So normally when people give away their power, they're actually craving it so much and it's leaving you frustrated because it's like they wish they had the power, but it's like that little shift in your mind, in your coding that I could take this power back anytime I wanted.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: I could claim my power anytime I want.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like in any given moment, you can claim your power back.
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  SPEAKER_00: In any given moment, you can shift your reality.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every moment is a new opportunity to claim your power back and change your life.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: And that's the power, and that's what happens when we rely on personal power instead of external or circumstantial power.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: It's also very important to note, um, and we will be diving into this kind of in future episodes, that personal power or lack of it really shows up in your health.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: So oftentimes, you know, not only does personal power maybe not make you have the job that you want or the relationships or the house or whatever it is, but it's also showing up as physical symptoms in your body because your body wants its personal power.
• 5:01
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't like to give it away, it wants that fuel source.
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_00: And so when we are lacking personal power, this is gonna show up in your gut health.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's gonna show up as bloating, distension, trouble digesting food, cramping, IBS, IBD, Crohn's, colitis.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna show up as fatigue.
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  SPEAKER_00: So not only just fatigue, but also adrenal issues.
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  SPEAKER_00: So being burnt out.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna show up as weight gain.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you give away your personal power, you hold on to a lot of weight, especially in your abdomen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Also looks like blood sugar issues, so feeling shaking between meals, hormonal dysregulation, cravings, binge eating, and other eating disorders.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is also tied to a lack of personal power.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: And it's also interesting to note that there is an episode on eating disorders, binge eating, and the ties to personal power and health, but you seek control so much, whether it's binge eating disorders or eating disorders, or maybe you just seek control in your life in general, you're seeking the control because you're craving the personal power so much, not realizing that you are the one that's giving away the personal power.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody can take your power from you unless you give it to them.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_00: Point blank.
• 6:08
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that might be tough to hear, but honestly, once you realize that and once you start to embody that, that like, hey, nobody can take it from me.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: Unless I let them, it becomes so much more grounding and so much more inspiring that you're like and so much more powerful in your own body, right?
• 6:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um, some other couple like symptoms.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I think the garbage pass has passed enough now that you guys are not gonna hear it.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_00: But some other symptoms about giving your power away that are gonna show up physically in your body are a sluggish liver and also any PMS menstrual pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is also a sign that you were giving your power away.
• 6:43
  SPEAKER_00: And it's also just like honestly, really draining.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: I know we say fatigue, but honestly, is draining and frustrating because you're stuck in this vicious loop of like craving the power, craving the control, not realizing you're the one giving it away, being frustrated and exhausted, why things aren't working, not realizing that's you that has to claim your power back, and you get stuck in this spiral, right?
• 7:01
  SPEAKER_00: And ultimately the root is low self-worth and low self-esteem.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you had the self-worth and self-esteem, you'd be unwavering.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'd be like, they can't take my power from me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, that's not gonna make me shake.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not gonna make me waver, right?
• 7:15
  SPEAKER_00: And so this is where you really need to take radical responsibility and build self-trust in yourself for not only your own power, but the responsibility of your power is yours and you get to claim it, right?
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: So why do we give our power away in the first place?
• 7:30
  SPEAKER_00: Now that we know that power is not something that like it's it is technically taken from us, but it's only taken when we allow it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So why do we allow it to be taken from us?
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_00: Why do we give it away?
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  SPEAKER_00: There are several reasons.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one is the fear of rejection or the fear of abandonment.
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  SPEAKER_00: We give it away because we fear that if we do not give it away, that we will be either rejected or abandoned.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_00: And ultimately, our core need is to be loved.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: And so if there is a potential risk of us not being loved, especially if we don't feel worthy enough yet, then we are going to keep giving our power away.
• 8:03
  SPEAKER_00: Which leads us into the second kind of like reason why we give our power away.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: And that's the need for love and attention.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: On some level, we're giving that power away because we crave love so much.
• 8:15
  SPEAKER_00: Normally, because we were not made to feel worthy as kids, we didn't feel enough growing up, or we were rejected and abandoned, that then made us have this filter of I need to give my power away so that I am enough for others, so that I will be loved.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_00: And this brings us to like the low self-worth and low self-esteem that kind of backs this all up and makes you a people pleaser.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: Generally, people who are people pleasers, people who have poor boundaries, do not have good self-power or do not have good personal power, right?
• 8:44
  SPEAKER_00: Because you're people pleasing instead of having your own power in hopes that they are going to like you and love you, or out of fear that they will not like you or love you unless you do X.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: So your power then rests within them because you are believing I will only feel worthy, whole, complete, and loved if they love me.
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: Not if I love myself, but if you have enough self-love, if you have enough self-worth and personal power, you feel worthy, whole, complete, and love no matter what.
• 9:08
  SPEAKER_00: So even if you don't go to Sally's birthday party and Sally gets mad at you, that's not gonna rock your world.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_00: You're not afraid of like being left from the group or anything like that, because you are so solid in yourself, right?
• 9:21
  SPEAKER_00: And do not forget that this can also show up as a need to control.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you want to control all the things around you, because hopefully if you control all the things, and you might think that well isn't controlling my own personal power.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: No, because you are controlling, over controlling out of the need that you assume that the power to dictate your life is not within you.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: So if you control enough things, then maybe things will work out.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: If you control enough things, well, then you know, X, Y, Z will be solved, not realizing that it comes within you.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_00: You need to remember that life is a choice.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: Your entire life is based on what you choose for yourself, and everything is a direct reflection of that.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_00: So the moment you take back your power, and this is going to be triggering, and choose to take it back.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: And I know this can be a big revelation.
• 10:09
  SPEAKER_00: I remember for me, I was like, oh my God, like everything is a choice.
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_00: Actually, I just posted a client win about this yesterday.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um, if you guys didn't see it, I definitely saved it to the highlights called client wins.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: And it's one of my one-on-one clients, she's like, Oh my god, it clicked.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, this is a choice.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_00: Everything is a choice.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: I get to choose my life, I get to choose to heal.
• 10:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like she's been suffering with depression for 10 years, not anymore, right?
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: Because we completely solved her depression.
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_00: It's like everything's a choice, and now she's choosing a different life for herself.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_00: Everything is a choice.
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_00: And once you make that click and realize that you have the power and you claim your power back, that's when your reality starts to shift.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_00: That's when your health starts to shift, that's when your wealth starts to shift, that's when your relationships start to shift, that's when you start to bring better things in there for you.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you do not have strong personal power, then other people's beliefs, circumstances, the way they treat you, what goes on in your life, you will start to succumb to it.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: You will feel deflated, you will feel discouraged.
• 11:08
  SPEAKER_00: And you can even feel like for those of you listening who have your own business, discouraged when clients don't DM you, or people don't click on your link, or people don't like your photo on Instagram, or the algorithm or this.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's an example of like giving away your power.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: All of these things, giving away your power when dating.
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you're really worried about whether they like you.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's giving the power to them, not even realizing that, hey, you should also probably be worried if whether, yeah, whether you like them versus whether they like you.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully that makes sense.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: So when you take back your personal power, you realize that everything in your reality is created by your power.
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_00: And every moment you have a choice to choose something different and choose a different way out.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_00: But it's all about remaining that personal power in your body, also so that you don't get those physical health symptoms that so many of us deal with, because so many of us are conditioned to give our power away.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_00: This was something huge that I had to work through because essentially every symptom that I listed to you guys, I used to suffer with, whether like adrenal issues, horrible burnout.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_00: I had PMS, I had PCOS, I had poor blood sugar bounds.
• 12:14
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't really have like too many weight issues, but I had a sluggish liver.
• 12:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I had horrible, horrible gut health, like bloated all the time.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_00: And it's because my energy was constantly outputting to other people and my power was constantly to other people, and I had poor boundaries and I was a horrible people pleaser.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: All of those symptoms went away when I fixed these emotional roots, right?
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: Up leveling and healing your life gets a lot more difficult when you place the power on something external, not realizing the power is always within yourself.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: So one of the biggest tools I always work with with my clients, whether it is, you know, one-on-one or something like blow level one, um, which is the old, well-nourished and goddess activation put together, is to harness personal power and to start to set boundaries, whether it's with their business, with their partner in their life, with their boss, like even just the fact that you get a notification and you feel the need to respond.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: Someone calls you and you feel the need to respond.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_00: I swear.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_00: Unless like it's a setup phone call, or like my mom knows that like unless someone is like dying, you you text me first and ask me if I have the space to call, or like call me when you have the space, or call me when you have the time.
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_00: She knows now because like that demand, like that takes your power away from what you're doing, right?
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_00: All of these things cultivating deep personal power, and I could go through like so many different examples, but cultivating deep personal power is one of the most powerful things that you can do for yourself.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_00: So stop giving it away and you will have more of it, right?
• 13:42
  SPEAKER_00: Because otherwise, you're if you try to keep building and giving, building and giving, it's exhausting.
• 13:48
  SPEAKER_00: But versus if you keep more for yourself, then you will actually have more energy.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_00: And you know what the best thing is?
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: Is that when you actually learn to stop giving away your power and you have more of it, you actually have the energetic capacity to give more to others.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_00: You actually have more love to give.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_00: You're able to do more things for people, you're better, able to better show up with quality over quantity, you're more present.
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_00: So you might think, but then like, I'm not gonna show up for my husband or my kids or my job or whatever it is.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: No, now I show up more for my clients.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_00: Now I show up not all more for myself, more for my friends, more for my fiance.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_00: The more I have my own personal power is actually the more you can end up giving.
• 14:31
  SPEAKER_00: So you might think it's selfish, but actually you just need to rework your nervous system and energetic capacity.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: And then you are giving from love, not for love, because you are giving without expectation and your power is in you.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: So I invite you right now to stop giving your power away and look at what tests might be in your life right now that take your power away or that you feel take your power away, but are actually an opportunity for you to stop giving it away.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: You know, do you have a business and you're giving it away to algorithms on Instagram or potential clients?
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_00: You know, are you giving it away to your boss who's maybe texting you at 9 p.m.
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_00: about something you need for work, but you finish at five?
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_00: Like that is a personal power thing.
• 15:14
  SPEAKER_00: Is it, you know, your mom who's calling you five times a day or texting you or demanding your energy?
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like all these things are power leaks.
• 15:21
  SPEAKER_00: And chances are you have more than one of them going on in your life.
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_00: And the more power leaks you have, the more personal power you are drained.
• 15:27
  SPEAKER_00: And like we said, we went over the symptoms that this can manifest as.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_00: So know that it not only affects your mental health, your emotional health, but also your physical health.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope you guys enjoyed that like juicy little mini sode.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I like to keep it short and sweet.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_00: Definitely re listen to this whenever you need a kind of like a kick in the butt for personal power, um, kind of a reminder that you are your own creator.
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_00: You are the coder of the video game.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, I hope you guys enjoyed.
• 15:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I will see you guys in the next episode.