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Basic Blaque After Dark’s Sacred Gathering! · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Luck, Luck.
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  Speaker 2: Luck Sent to then.
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  Speaker 3: Leges and gentlemen, May I have your attention fleets. The
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  Speaker 3: show starts in ten night, seven, six, five, four, three, two, one.
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  Speaker 4: Go and gives you exactly what you ask for.
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  Speaker 5: Tonight, we're diving deep into legacy, healing and generational wisdom
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  Speaker 5: with a powerful circle of women who have not only liveded,
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  Speaker 5: they've written it. These remarkable code authors have come together
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  Speaker 5: to put truth, test testimony, and transformation in the pages
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  Speaker 5: of sacred Seeds of Wisdom. Tonight we have Trevita Harris.
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  Speaker 5: She's the CEO of Wings of Transportation, Transformation, I'm So
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  Speaker 5: Sorry and Publishing LLC. We have Deborah Ivy, she is
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  Speaker 5: the Presidential Lifetime Achievement Award winner. How about that Cynthia Spencer,
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  Speaker 5: She's a motivational speaker and founder of Better Tomorrow counsel
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  Speaker 5: In LLC. Michelin Moris she's a best selling international author
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  Speaker 5: and poet.
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  Speaker 4: We have Bobby Stretching.
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  Speaker 5: She's an award winning author and the Extinguished Authors Guild Ambassador.
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  Speaker 5: And we also have award winning author and a Distinguished
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  Speaker 5: Authors Guild Ambassador and Champion for People with Disabilities, Baron Maclamore.
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  Speaker 4: But at the helm of.
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  Speaker 5: This powerful project is the brilliant doctor Carroll Stevens, visionary
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  Speaker 5: author and spiritual therapist.
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  Speaker 4: She's gathered these women and gave.
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  Speaker 5: Them space to release, reflect and rise with deeply moving
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  Speaker 5: collections the honest voices. Get ready, because tonight we're talking
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  Speaker 5: sacred stories, generational hearings, and the wisdom that gets passed
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  Speaker 5: from women to women's generation to generation. Let's welcome the
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  Speaker 5: women of Sacred Seeds of Wisdom to Basic Black Afterdogs.
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  Speaker 3: M h.
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  Speaker 6: Hello, Hi ladies, Hey you.
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  Speaker 5: All, thank you all my Before I even get started,
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  Speaker 5: I'm gonna say thank you for putting what you put
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  Speaker 5: into these books.
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  Speaker 4: So I'm gonna get that out of the way real quick.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you again for putting what you put in into
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  Speaker 4: this And speaking of that, the origin of this book.
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  Speaker 5: What as bin as you to contribute to Sacretyes of Wisdom?
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  Speaker 6: I can go?
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  Speaker 7: I think first, well, it was an honor first.
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  Speaker 8: To one of the big type lady walk Stephen, Uh
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  Speaker 8: ask for me put some wisdom to another.
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  Speaker 7: Woman.
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  Speaker 9: Honor?
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  Speaker 4: Uh?
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  Speaker 1: I s.
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  Speaker 5: Hear you sounded really fuzzy or somebody does when someone's talking,
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  Speaker 5: because everybody knew because.
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  Speaker 4: It might be somebody's transition. Thank you. I appreciate it.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not sure where it's coming from, but yes, I
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  Speaker 5: understand that Doctor Carolyn just scooped you all up and
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  Speaker 5: you said yes to a wonderful book, and I appreciate it.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know tot heard, but I know I appreciate it.
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  Speaker 5: So some of the rest of what inspired you to
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  Speaker 5: contribute to Sacreties of Wisdom.
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  Speaker 9: So for me, first again, thank you so much for
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  Speaker 9: having us. It's always an honor to be here into
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  Speaker 9: the beautiful ladies of Sacrecies of Wisdom. Just like Cynthia mentioned,
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  Speaker 9: you know, doctor Stevens had asked me to be a
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  Speaker 9: part of such an amazing collaboration, and for me, I
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  Speaker 9: instantly thought of my daughter.
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  Speaker 10: I thought of my daughter.
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  Speaker 9: For many of you know, you know she was born
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  Speaker 9: with her rare genetic condition, And for me, it was
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  Speaker 9: something that I knew that I could leave for her
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  Speaker 9: that even after long after I'm gone, it was something
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  Speaker 9: that I know she could pick up and that it
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  Speaker 9: would be a reminder to her of who she is
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  Speaker 9: and how to take her rest. So for me, in
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  Speaker 9: the book, I left women the insight to know your
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  Speaker 9: worth because I think it's important for us, especially black women,
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  Speaker 9: to know how worthy we are. I know there are
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  Speaker 9: sometimes where I didn't feel worthy, and sometimes doubt whispered
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  Speaker 9: louder than truth, But through my reflection and resilience, I
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  Speaker 9: found the courage to turn pain into purpose. So, as
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  Speaker 9: a black woman, you know, knowing your worth isn't always easy,
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  Speaker 9: but for me, it's essential, and so I know that
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  Speaker 9: I needed to lead her by example. So I wanted
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  Speaker 9: to write to remind myself at other black women that
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  Speaker 9: you are enough, and that you are powerful, and that
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  Speaker 9: you are worthy. So that is that's the biggest reason, and.
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  Speaker 5: Every one of you are so worthy of what you
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  Speaker 5: contributed to this book here. I'm curious, though, how did
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  Speaker 5: the theme of sacred wisdom speak to your personal journey?
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  Speaker 6: For me?
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  Speaker 9: Can y'all hear me? Distrivita, my camera's not working tonight.
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  Speaker 9: I don't know why, but it just decided okay.
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  Speaker 10: But for me, it.
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  Speaker 9: Was a part of wanting to leave everything that I've
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  Speaker 9: been through for somebody else, to have a blueprint that
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  Speaker 9: you don't have to stay in the turmoil that you
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  Speaker 9: may be experiencing because someone else needs to know that
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  Speaker 9: it's it's gonna get easier and it's gonna look good
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  Speaker 9: on the other side.
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  Speaker 10: You just have to keep through the storm.
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  Speaker 9: And a lot of times when we're in the storms,
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  Speaker 9: we don't know that there's a way out, that the
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  Speaker 9: sun is gonna shine, because all we're surrounded by is
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  Speaker 9: just darkness. But if you keep walking and keep going
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  Speaker 9: forward and trusting in God to take you through your journey,
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  Speaker 9: you're gonna come out on the other side, and you're
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  Speaker 9: gonna know that God was walking with you the whole time,
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  Speaker 9: and he didn't put you in a space to not overcome.
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  Speaker 9: He put you in a space to where you were
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  Speaker 9: able to understand all that He's put inside of you.
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  Speaker 9: So I wanted it to be where people could see
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  Speaker 9: the journey of what I was going through and how
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  Speaker 9: I made it through.
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  Speaker 10: To the other side.
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  Speaker 5: I love that you mentioned the blueprint because that speaks volumes.
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  Speaker 5: What legacy do you hope that you from your chapter
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  Speaker 5: plant in the lives of others?
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  Speaker 9: What legacy I hope to leave just now, not just myself,
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  Speaker 9: but my children, my grandchildren, and anybody who reads my chapter.
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  Speaker 9: I want them to understand that it gets better. Your
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  Speaker 9: dark days are only temporary. You have the strength to
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  Speaker 9: get through it if you continue to trust in God
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  Speaker 9: because He created you for a purpose. And I want
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  Speaker 9: people to understand that the legacy is you. You are
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  Speaker 9: the icon, You are the legend. You have something that
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  Speaker 9: God placed in front of you, inside of you to
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  Speaker 9: give you what you need to be that own person
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  Speaker 9: that you look up to. Because I am the person
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  Speaker 9: that I've learned to look up to because of the
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  Speaker 9: things I've been able to overcome and I've trusted God
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  Speaker 9: to bring me through to where I am today. And
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  Speaker 9: that's a great legacy.
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  Speaker 5: It is, it is, it's a great legacy to lead
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  Speaker 5: to not just your own children, to anyone else that's
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  Speaker 5: dealing with whatever situation.
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  Speaker 4: Did they.
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  Speaker 10: Dealing yes, ma'am every time?
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  Speaker 4: Was it difficult to share your truth on paper?
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  Speaker 2: Better? Yet?
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  Speaker 5: What surprised you most during the writing process? Someone, what
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  Speaker 5: surprised any of you ladies.
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  Speaker 2: For me?
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  Speaker 4: Did you think that just writing.
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  Speaker 11: For me? I thought it was gonna be uh, you know,
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  Speaker 11: you just take what you think and you just write
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  Speaker 11: it down, but the words come alive. It's what was
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  Speaker 11: surprising to me is that once it left my mind,
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  Speaker 11: went through the pen to the paper, then it was
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  Speaker 11: like I was outside of it, and I could see
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  Speaker 11: it from a different perspective, even though it's coming out
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  Speaker 11: of my head.
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  Speaker 12: So writing.
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  Speaker 11: Is more than just sitting down and taking a thought
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  Speaker 11: and putting it on paper. It became alive. But even
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  Speaker 11: the story that's being written where I perceived it one
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  Speaker 11: way in thought, it took another perspective.
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  Speaker 5: It becomes when some people just take it and just
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  Speaker 5: put it in the back of the drawer and it's
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  Speaker 5: just it sits.
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  Speaker 2: There for you.
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  Speaker 13: But I would like to speak to that question if
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  Speaker 13: I can. No, yes, okay. So I thought that it
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  Speaker 13: was very therapeutic for me because it was very intentional.
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  Speaker 13: I really wanted to tell my truth. So because I
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  Speaker 13: was very intentional, I wanted to tell people everything that
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  Speaker 13: I had gone through, you know, especially I had read
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  Speaker 13: a study a while ago from John Hopskins, and it
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  Speaker 13: was talking about how African Americans women were at the
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  Speaker 13: bottom of everything. And then you know, we just you know,
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  Speaker 13: we we it makes us work harder for things. We
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  Speaker 13: have to work harder. And in the midst of me
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  Speaker 13: working so hard to accomplish certain things, I really didn't
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  Speaker 13: get a chance to know my authentic self. So this
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  Speaker 13: is why I wanted to write in there the things
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  Speaker 13: that held me back from being authentic, you know, because
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  Speaker 13: knowing that we're at the bottom and we're just always
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  Speaker 13: racing trying to get something, you know, trying to accomplish
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  Speaker 13: something when we knowing that we're at the bottom, in
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  Speaker 13: hopes of all of us finding our authentic self so
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  Speaker 13: we could be better sisters to each other.
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  Speaker 5: So a part of that authentic self is also legacy.
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  Speaker 5: See in manyhing what sacred wisdom was passed down to
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  Speaker 5: you from a mother el guide you today.
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  Speaker 4: The legacy that was as anybody tell the little secrets
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  Speaker 4: asking you that.
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  Speaker 11: The legacy that that was passed down to me from
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  Speaker 11: my mother is the importance of voice. It's it's the
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  Speaker 11: importance of uh. From the point of where to Traviedia
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  Speaker 11: was Travidia was just speaking, was that God made us
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  Speaker 11: and so we don't have to just depend on ourselves.
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  Speaker 11: And so to understand that takes away a lot of
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  Speaker 11: anxiety and stress and a demand to be a part
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  Speaker 11: of the competition or the comparison.
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  Speaker 12: So it was important that this legacy my mother in
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  Speaker 12: my story left me, was God gave you voice. You're
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  Speaker 12: not a victim, you know, you're gonna go through some
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  Speaker 12: trauma and some drama, but her legacy was trauma and
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  Speaker 12: drama is life. That's not you. It doesn't define you.
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  Speaker 12: Keep your voice, use it.
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  Speaker 14: I think for me it's like.
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  Speaker 4: To you, did you break my shit? M go ahead.
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  Speaker 14: I think for me one thing that was broken is
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  Speaker 14: that you know, sometimes you may not grow up the
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  Speaker 14: way that everyone else grows up grow up, but it's
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  Speaker 14: like you don't have to stay stuck in that environment,
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  Speaker 14: that you can rise above that and be who you
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  Speaker 14: were you know, supposed to be, and you never let
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  Speaker 14: somebody hold you down or tell you that you can't
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  Speaker 14: do something. You can do whatever you you know you
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  Speaker 14: want to do when you put your mind to it.
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  Speaker 5: You need to speak that to the next generation is
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  Speaker 5: coming up because they all idolize all these celebrities and
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  Speaker 5: want to be just like them. And not to say
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  Speaker 5: that you can't sing, but there's only one of that
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  Speaker 5: person and you have to be your authentic self.
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  Speaker 4: There's only one or there.
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  Speaker 5: Wus only they one Michael Jackson. They want the things
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  Speaker 5: and you know, grabbing an audience maybe the way she did,
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  Speaker 5: but they're still going to only be one one.
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  Speaker 4: Whitney Houston, and with you.
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  Speaker 5: Saying what you're just saying, Deborah, it holds so much
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  Speaker 5: truth to that you know you're gonna be who you're
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  Speaker 5: going to be. So what unspoken truth did you break
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  Speaker 5: by sharing your story?
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  Speaker 4: M hmm.
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  Speaker 14: I think you can break the truth by not letting
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  Speaker 14: society put you in a box because a lot of
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  Speaker 14: times we're perceived as difficult have attitudes. So by writing
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  Speaker 14: the book and speaking that you know you are limitless
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  Speaker 14: and that it's a lot of opportunities that you can
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  Speaker 14: take a part of and that you don't have to
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  Speaker 14: you know, let somebody say, oh, you can't do this,
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  Speaker 14: or you can't you know, let somebody say, well, you're
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  Speaker 14: never going to amount to anything, because you have to
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  Speaker 14: believe in yourself. You have to have faith in yourself
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  Speaker 14: that you can do whatever anybody else does, and you
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  Speaker 14: can put even better.
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  Speaker 9: The other unspoken truth for this particular project.
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  Speaker 4: So how does your faith through the sick.
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  Speaker 9: It basically is the fact that it dispels the lie
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  Speaker 9: that black women don't.
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  Speaker 10: Know how to work together.
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  Speaker 9: We can get along and we can support and encourage
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  Speaker 9: and uplift each other to do great things. We are
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  Speaker 9: not in competition with each other. We grow and we
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  Speaker 9: become better because of the sisters that we have surrounding us.
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  Speaker 9: And I think that's one of the truths that this
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  Speaker 9: book holds truth to, that we can collaborate and work
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  Speaker 9: together and be great not only as individuals but as
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  Speaker 9: a collective.
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  Speaker 7: That's true, so true.
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  Speaker 5: One of you said earlier that we are on the bottom.
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  Speaker 5: And I want you to think about this when you
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  Speaker 5: when you hear it from me, some people think of
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  Speaker 5: it as being negative negative, it's petty as a totem
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  Speaker 5: pole with us being on the bottom. What is it
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  Speaker 5: about that totem pole with us on the bottom that you.
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  Speaker 13: Recognize sometimes you know our work in a work in
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  Speaker 13: corporate America and sometimes question that others have or proceed
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  Speaker 13: sometimes let someone else than African American women because of
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  Speaker 13: the way has made you know, has set up for Africans.
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  Speaker 13: So that's what I mean by you know the bottom,
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  Speaker 13: And sometimes I don't.
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  Speaker 7: Can you hear me?
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  Speaker 5: We're looking at and look at Actually it's a lot
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  Speaker 5: of static and and whatever you're at, it's a lot
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  Speaker 5: of static that comes through never whenever you're speaking. But
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  Speaker 5: I want to go back to the total pole you
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  Speaker 5: have African Americans.
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  Speaker 4: You have all all sorts of cultures and you have
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  Speaker 4: men and women on it, and as African American women,
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  Speaker 4: we're still on the bottom.
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  Speaker 5: What is it that you recognize about that totalm pole
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  Speaker 5: that's being on the bottom.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sorry, who can't hear.
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  Speaker 3: Who?
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  Speaker 5: Whatever that is, you maybe need to go out and
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  Speaker 5: then come back in, because I can hear just about
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  Speaker 5: everybody here.
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  Speaker 4: What I'm getting at is with the totem.
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  Speaker 5: Pole is that if you realize, is that they place
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  Speaker 5: us on the bottom. But we are the ones that's
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  Speaker 5: holding everybody up. So we're the strong ones and they
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  Speaker 5: can't quite get it about us. They may they may
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  Speaker 5: look at us in certain ways and say things because
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  Speaker 5: they want to knock us down, but we are the
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  Speaker 5: ones that's holding them up.
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  Speaker 4: I'm so sorry. Somebody's saying that they cannot hear Synthy.
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  Speaker 4: Can you hear me?
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  Speaker 2: Yes?
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  Speaker 15: I can hear you, Bobby, I can hear you, Yeah,
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  Speaker 15: I can hear I think that is coming from Michelin's.
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  Speaker 6: Signs because I can't hear anything.
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  Speaker 4: Can you hear me?
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  Speaker 13: I can hear you.
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  Speaker 4: That's Michelin, Michelan, can you okay staring? Can you hear me.
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  Speaker 7: Yes, I can hear you. De you can hear me, Yes,
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  Speaker 7: I can hear you.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, all right.
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  Speaker 5: I just wanted to make sure that everyone can hear.
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  Speaker 5: We also just spoke about faith. How is your faith
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  Speaker 5: evolved around or evolved through the seasons of your life.
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  Speaker 13: My faith has carried me through every dark season of
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  Speaker 13: my life. You know, reading back in the Bible and
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  Speaker 13: you see some of the other people like Joshua, we'll
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  Speaker 13: just use him when God told.
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  Speaker 7: Him to be strong and courageous.
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  Speaker 13: Just holding on to that faith that God is always
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  Speaker 13: going to be there with us to go through anything.
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  Speaker 13: That is what has sustained my faith and not caused
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  Speaker 13: me to stop, give up, stop moving. It has caused us,
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  Speaker 13: caused my resilience. You know, they get knocked down but
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  Speaker 13: get right back up. It's due to faith. If God
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  Speaker 13: has got it for others and everyone who has mentioned
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  Speaker 13: it in his book, that's what gives me faith that God.
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  Speaker 5: So has anyone's spiritual practice grounded them in times of uncertainty.
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  Speaker 7: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 11: Absolutely, it's pivotal to me to hear the the scenario
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  Speaker 11: with the totem pole that you just spoke about, how
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  Speaker 11: the black woman you know is at the bottom of it.
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  Speaker 11: But that's the foundation and strength and all in the
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  Speaker 11: part of the book that I wrote about overcoming faith
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  Speaker 11: is my spiritual faith increased and it changed me so
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  Speaker 11: that I can understand when even the statement that were
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  Speaker 11: placed on the bottom, that I can understand that even
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  Speaker 11: that is a lie because there's a certain point that
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  Speaker 11: faith taught me. You have to agree first of all
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  Speaker 11: that a thing is true in order to start dealing
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  Speaker 11: with it. Sometimes there are things we don't deal with
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  Speaker 11: because we don't want to face them as a truth.
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  Speaker 11: And so my faith has transitioned me from that place
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  Speaker 11: where I'm always fighting to achieve my authenticity to understanding
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  Speaker 11: that's nothing to fight for. It's mine from the beginning.
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  Speaker 11: And so this project and all of the writers, when
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  Speaker 11: I've read their chapters, I mean, it's a book that
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  Speaker 11: even though I am an author co author in the book,
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  Speaker 11: I'm benefiting from the collaborative stories of each author that's
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  Speaker 11: here tonight because I get to read their stories. It's
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  Speaker 11: amazing that collaborative that adds to me without me buying
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  Speaker 11: another book, just me having a copy of the Sacred Seeds.
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  Speaker 12: See, I'm receiving this because just more.
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  Speaker 4: Than one book. It's almost as if you got more
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  Speaker 4: than one book inside of a book.
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  Speaker 12: It's a library. Wow, it's a library.
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  Speaker 4: Wow. I love that. I love that.
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  Speaker 9: I agree with that.
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  Speaker 4: Wow, that's just that.
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  Speaker 6: Now.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not one that to get tongue tied, but here I.
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  Speaker 9: Am every.
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  Speaker 11: Healed Yes, so that I get from each one of
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  Speaker 11: these authors, I am empowered beyond myself.
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  Speaker 12: I'm able to take their.
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  Speaker 11: Overcoming seed and plan it into my families, my friends,
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  Speaker 11: my community because it doesn't have to just be my
• 24:24
  Speaker 11: story of overcoming. I've got each one of you and
• 24:29
  Speaker 11: so hey, that's why the book is gonna sell. That's
• 24:32
  Speaker 11: why it's necessary a it's a library that not only
• 24:36
  Speaker 11: it's not selfish. It's not just focused on one area
• 24:40
  Speaker 11: of difficulty, struggle or weakness or something like that. It's expansive,
• 24:47
  Speaker 11: it's inclusive. At the same time, people have to buy
• 24:52
  Speaker 11: this book.
• 24:53
  Speaker 5: It's an investment, yeah, investment with not us. It's planned
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: seeds for the next generation. What do you want young
• 25:05
  Speaker 5: women to know about healing, power and purpose?
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  Speaker 6: I couldn't here before I had to go out and
• 25:14
  Speaker 6: come back in. But I'll answer that. My chapter is
• 25:20
  Speaker 6: about the prodigal daughter of how I left home and
• 25:26
  Speaker 6: went and did my own thing. And I have three granddaughters.
• 25:31
  Speaker 6: And I didn't start writing until I was like fifteen
• 25:35
  Speaker 6: plus years old. So I finally discovered what my purpose was,
• 25:41
  Speaker 6: and I wanted to, you know, let them know that
• 25:45
  Speaker 6: it doesn't matter how old you are or you know
• 25:49
  Speaker 6: what's going on in your life, you still have a
• 25:53
  Speaker 6: We all have a plan and purpose and as they say,
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  Speaker 6: God knew us before we were formed inside our mother's womb.
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  Speaker 6: So I just want people to know, and especial especially them,
• 26:05
  Speaker 6: of all the hardships that I went through. And my
• 26:10
  Speaker 6: chapter is about you leaving them with an inner strength
• 26:14
  Speaker 6: to face adversities. So if you just know who you
• 26:18
  Speaker 6: are and what you're supposed to do, and you listen,
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  Speaker 6: because we sometimes avoid, you know, what is told to
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  Speaker 6: us to do. We want to take another path, but
• 26:30
  Speaker 6: some kind of way, you know, you get to that
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  Speaker 6: crossroad and then you come back and you see what
• 26:35
  Speaker 6: you're supposed to do. So I just want them to
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  Speaker 6: have strength. I want them to know that they are special.
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  Speaker 6: I know that. I want them to know that they
• 26:46
  Speaker 6: were beautifully and wonderfully made and that whatever they're supposed
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  Speaker 6: to do. Is it's going to happen because that's God's
• 26:54
  Speaker 6: will good. I couldn't hear before.
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  Speaker 5: The different seeds, and each of these have planted so
• 27:09
  Speaker 5: many different seeds in each and every one of your chapters.
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  Speaker 5: What scene do you believe each woman must plan for herself.
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  Speaker 13: I would have to I would like to speak on
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  Speaker 13: that one. I would say, be honest with their selves.
• 27:28
  Speaker 13: And I would like to piggyback on the last question
• 27:30
  Speaker 13: that you just asked. If you don't mind healing, I
• 27:34
  Speaker 13: think once we learn how to properly heal, we will
• 27:38
  Speaker 13: have to heal something for the rest of our lives.
• 27:41
  Speaker 13: It's not just the one time fix because we don't
• 27:43
  Speaker 13: know what we're going to go through or come against
• 27:47
  Speaker 13: or come up against life. But we have to get
• 27:50
  Speaker 13: used to healing our soul, resting our soul, because it's
• 27:56
  Speaker 13: just not like a quick fix and then you fix.
• 27:59
  Speaker 13: This is one book, and I think Doctor Stevens is
• 28:02
  Speaker 13: not another book. It's constant healing. You know, I may
• 28:05
  Speaker 13: have healed from one situation that I don't even know
• 28:08
  Speaker 13: what's ready to come around the door to the corner
• 28:11
  Speaker 13: for next week. But learning how to heal be honest
• 28:15
  Speaker 13: and get the correct healing because we all have power,
• 28:19
  Speaker 13: we all have purpose, but the healing can stop ork
• 28:24
  Speaker 13: or hinder any all the power and the purpose that's needed.
• 28:31
  Speaker 5: So how do you intentionally nurture your own growth today?
• 28:36
  Speaker 5: Because it seems as though it's really empowered, not one
• 28:44
  Speaker 5: of you, all of you. How would you intentionally nurture
• 28:47
  Speaker 5: your own growth today? Since you've written this book.
• 28:53
  Speaker 6: I would say self love, self care, knowing who you are, healing,
• 29:01
  Speaker 6: as Cynthia just said, knowing when you need to take
• 29:05
  Speaker 6: a break, because sometimes you know, it's like we have
• 29:09
  Speaker 6: the battery in our back and as women and black women,
• 29:13
  Speaker 6: and I heard someone say that like we're the lowest sign,
• 29:17
  Speaker 6: the potem pole. So it's like you got to know
• 29:20
  Speaker 6: who you are. You gotta step back. It's okay to
• 29:24
  Speaker 6: say no, It's okay to explore new things and know that,
• 29:29
  Speaker 6: like your purpose may not just be this one thing
• 29:33
  Speaker 6: that God has poured you know, different elements in you
• 29:37
  Speaker 6: so that you can learn grow, teach someone else. But
• 29:41
  Speaker 6: I know mainly for me it's resting. No one when
• 29:45
  Speaker 6: to rest. And at one point I didn't love myself
• 29:49
  Speaker 6: and I had a low self esteem. So now it's like,
• 29:53
  Speaker 6: you know, I talk life then to me because I
• 29:56
  Speaker 6: was in survival mode for so long and I want
• 30:00
  Speaker 6: to live. I want to I want to love, I
• 30:02
  Speaker 6: want to be happy. So I just you know, like
• 30:06
  Speaker 6: I said, it's just the self uh worth that I
• 30:10
  Speaker 6: need to you know, tell myself I have and just
• 30:13
  Speaker 6: take a rest when I need to.
• 30:18
  Speaker 5: That right there, All of that that said right there,
• 30:21
  Speaker 5: it took current and vulnerability to write this book. What
• 30:28
  Speaker 5: fear did you have to overcome to be a part
• 30:31
  Speaker 5: of this book?
• 30:36
  Speaker 14: I think for me the fear was, you know, we
• 30:39
  Speaker 14: have some.
• 30:41
  Speaker 7: We have some power on the pages.
• 30:45
  Speaker 6: And I think Trebida said something about if she could
• 30:49
  Speaker 6: help someone else, so like, if I can just touch
• 30:52
  Speaker 6: on person, you know, then then I feel like my
• 30:57
  Speaker 6: job is done. Because that's saying that was a wise
• 31:01
  Speaker 6: person learns from other people's mistakes, and a fool learned
• 31:05
  Speaker 6: from his own. So if you know, I know me,
• 31:08
  Speaker 6: growing up, somebody said, hey, don't go over there, you
• 31:12
  Speaker 6: got to fall off the bridge. I believe them, you know,
• 31:15
  Speaker 6: but it's not always like that. But if I could
• 31:18
  Speaker 6: just like speak life into one person, then I know
• 31:21
  Speaker 6: I did my job, and that made me get the fear.
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: Anybody else, will you cool?
• 31:34
  Speaker 13: Because fear has gripped my life for so long. It's
• 31:38
  Speaker 13: actually therapeutic for me. And I was just so happy
• 31:42
  Speaker 13: to be able to not experience fear. And how I
• 31:46
  Speaker 13: did that was kept my mind off of myself and
• 31:49
  Speaker 13: sure my faults were in the right place and thought
• 31:52
  Speaker 13: about the person that would buy this book and this
• 31:54
  Speaker 13: book with help. So it was actually therapeutic to me
• 31:59
  Speaker 13: writing this. A chapter in this book.
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  Speaker 4: Has vulnerability to become a source of strength in.
• 32:13
  Speaker 11: Your Yes, it has being transparent, is being vulnerable to
• 32:25
  Speaker 11: actually be truthful and it closed yourself is it's it's
• 32:34
  Speaker 11: life changing because you don't you know how is it
• 32:37
  Speaker 11: going to be perceived and received. But the vulnerability for
• 32:41
  Speaker 11: me now is once I could tell the whole story,
• 32:45
  Speaker 11: what's worth it. That's why in my in my chapter
• 32:49
  Speaker 11: I write about overcoming faith. It's not that the vulnerability
• 32:54
  Speaker 11: was a weakness until I told the whole story. It's
• 32:58
  Speaker 11: one you know, one particular place is where I can
• 33:01
  Speaker 11: say that I've been raped.
• 33:02
  Speaker 4: That's vulnerable.
• 33:03
  Speaker 11: I mean, that's not something I'm looking forward to telling people,
• 33:07
  Speaker 11: but I have been. But it became a strength because
• 33:10
  Speaker 11: it gave me the platform to tell the rest of
• 33:13
  Speaker 11: the story. Yes I was, and yes, through God's grace,
• 33:19
  Speaker 11: through his counseling, through his providing me with the community
• 33:24
  Speaker 11: of people who know that rape is not an everlasting,
• 33:28
  Speaker 11: painful drama. Just like we were saying earlier, it may
• 33:33
  Speaker 11: have been something that I had to deal with, but
• 33:36
  Speaker 11: not for the rest of my life.
• 33:38
  Speaker 12: So now that vulnerability to speak on.
• 33:41
  Speaker 11: Rape without wondering how it's gonna be ple, see, how's
• 33:44
  Speaker 11: somebody gonna look at me later, or anything like that.
• 33:48
  Speaker 11: Now it's my strength that, yeah, drama happens, life happens,
• 33:53
  Speaker 11: but there's an overcoming faith that says that is not
• 33:56
  Speaker 11: the rest.
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  Speaker 12: Of your life. Neither is that all of who you are.
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  Speaker 12: That's not all of who we are.
• 34:02
  Speaker 11: Is the drama and the pain and the society of
• 34:06
  Speaker 11: abuse or injustice, that's not all our lives.
• 34:10
  Speaker 12: And a lot of it is a lie.
• 34:12
  Speaker 11: And that's vulnerable for me to say that with you
• 34:14
  Speaker 11: women here, because that's a strong statement to say a
• 34:18
  Speaker 11: lot of what has been spoken against us and set
• 34:21
  Speaker 11: up against us. First of all, it's a lie. We
• 34:24
  Speaker 11: have to help it be true so we can fight it.
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  Speaker 11: But by the grace of God.
• 34:30
  Speaker 5: We can't think of any woman. I can't think of
• 34:35
  Speaker 5: any woman or male that can say that they weren't
• 34:39
  Speaker 5: at some point in their life vulnerable. I just I
• 34:46
  Speaker 5: couldn't buy into that by anybody telling me that they know.
• 34:51
  Speaker 5: And to pick doctor Stephens's brain of what was it
• 34:59
  Speaker 5: like to put the collection and the collective of women
• 35:03
  Speaker 5: telling not just a story but a sacred story. So
• 35:06
  Speaker 5: I'm going to put it to you, ladies, what was
• 35:08
  Speaker 5: it like to be part of a collection, collective of
• 35:11
  Speaker 5: women telling not just a story, but a sacred story.
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  Speaker 12: One word empowering.
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  Speaker 2: For me.
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  Speaker 4: Anybody else?
• 35:22
  Speaker 7: One word unity. Unity.
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  Speaker 13: It was just great to see the ladies come together
• 35:29
  Speaker 13: be involved, because you know, everything is associated with difficult issues.
• 35:36
  Speaker 13: So just everyone coming and being free of their shame,
• 35:41
  Speaker 13: coming together as a unit. It basically just winded us
• 35:45
  Speaker 13: together and whatever we're free, we're able to free others.
• 35:54
  Speaker 6: Like you tell the truth, shame the devil. So get
• 35:58
  Speaker 6: a blessing.
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  Speaker 16: Who I like that mischeline, love it.
• 36:10
  Speaker 4: For me, Love the way you're gonna have to. I'm
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: glad this is being recorded.
• 36:16
  Speaker 5: I'm so glad that this is being recorded because I'm
• 36:18
  Speaker 5: gonna I'm gonna steal it you right now.
• 36:19
  Speaker 4: I want to steal it, so don't be too surprised.
• 36:22
  Speaker 5: You hear it again and said Raymond, I said that,
• 36:24
  Speaker 5: I'm telling you now, I'm want to steal it.
• 36:27
  Speaker 4: I believe somebody else was charming in with.
• 36:29
  Speaker 7: Their word about.
• 36:31
  Speaker 14: Camaraderie For me, I mean because I've never I never
• 36:35
  Speaker 14: met any of these ladies prior to the book project,
• 36:39
  Speaker 14: and I just felt like, you know, we could always
• 36:42
  Speaker 14: you know, be friends, you know after this.
• 36:47
  Speaker 9: For me it was humbling because like a lot of
• 36:50
  Speaker 9: the ladies Lincoln, we don't know each other, but we
• 36:54
  Speaker 9: were able to come together and join voices and we
• 36:57
  Speaker 9: planted ours of truth and feeling and chances amson transformation.
• 37:01
  Speaker 9: So for me, it was about pouring on her into
• 37:04
  Speaker 9: something that can uplift someone else's journey. So it was
• 37:09
  Speaker 9: it was amazing just to feel seen and heard and
• 37:13
  Speaker 9: the wisdom passed on like a church from Hm.
• 37:17
  Speaker 5: Wow, you guys are dropping these little nuggets that again
• 37:23
  Speaker 5: I'm going to be taking all this in.
• 37:25
  Speaker 4: So do you believe that community and sister and impact
• 37:28
  Speaker 4: the way wisdom is passed on?
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 37:32
  Speaker 9: Yeah?
• 37:34
  Speaker 13: Yeah?
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: In what way? In what way?
• 37:45
  Speaker 13: I think if you share your truth, it makes someone
• 37:49
  Speaker 13: else feel like they're not alone. They're not alone. So
• 37:53
  Speaker 13: just getting that wisdom. You know, back in the day
• 37:55
  Speaker 13: when my mother was born in thirty four, they didn't
• 37:57
  Speaker 13: really talk about these things. Now we're able to share
• 38:01
  Speaker 13: our truth, put it in a book, and that wisdom,
• 38:03
  Speaker 13: I think will just carry on from generation to generation.
• 38:07
  Speaker 13: We're not longer quiet, we're no longer quiet. We're speaking
• 38:10
  Speaker 13: our truth, and we're showing that we're resilient. We're showing
• 38:14
  Speaker 13: that we're not giving up. We're showing that we can
• 38:18
  Speaker 13: come with other women and just be there to support
• 38:20
  Speaker 13: each other and lift each other up. So I just
• 38:23
  Speaker 13: I just really think it's just wonderful. You know, when
• 38:26
  Speaker 13: I was seven eight, I wish I did have a
• 38:28
  Speaker 13: book to read about something everyone was going through instead
• 38:32
  Speaker 13: of at seven being in my own young mind thinking
• 38:35
  Speaker 13: of my own wrong thoughts, which made me not feel
• 38:38
  Speaker 13: valuable enough at a certain age. And now someone else
• 38:42
  Speaker 13: gets this wisdom, you know, young girls, other women.
• 38:46
  Speaker 7: You know, we're not silent anymore. So I think it's
• 38:50
  Speaker 7: going to be That's what I love most about the project.
• 38:54
  Speaker 4: Oh say no, go ahead.
• 38:57
  Speaker 9: What I love most about the project is because cause
• 39:00
  Speaker 9: it is when it is women from different walks of life.
• 39:03
  Speaker 9: You know, we're all from different generations and we came
• 39:06
  Speaker 9: together for one mission, and that was to you know,
• 39:10
  Speaker 9: uplift and power and sold those seeds of truth into
• 39:14
  Speaker 9: the world. So someone who you know, we have, like
• 39:18
  Speaker 9: I said, we have all the different ages. So the
• 39:21
  Speaker 9: power from the experience is what I love about this,
• 39:26
  Speaker 9: this collaboration.
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: No, I don't know what you're talking about.
• 39:31
  Speaker 5: Family, but I'm twenty five five for the next twenty
• 39:35
  Speaker 5: five years, so.
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna keep that.
• 39:40
  Speaker 5: You tell my kids start topacity in age, I'm gonna
• 39:43
  Speaker 5: tell them I'm your cousin.
• 39:45
  Speaker 9: Right, because that's how my mom was. You would always say,
• 39:52
  Speaker 9: like I turned forty five. Before she passed, she would
• 39:57
  Speaker 9: always tell me she was thirty five. I said, well, Mom,
• 39:59
  Speaker 9: how is that possible If you're thirty five and I'm
• 40:02
  Speaker 9: forty five, somebody's math is off. And She's like, yeah,
• 40:06
  Speaker 9: yours is off because mine is right.
• 40:08
  Speaker 10: I'm thirty five.
• 40:09
  Speaker 4: That's right, that's right, She's absolutely right, because.
• 40:15
  Speaker 5: If we get a chance to do it over in
• 40:16
  Speaker 5: our way, So she was thirty five, just just acknowledged
• 40:19
  Speaker 5: that you were a little older than her.
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: I would have been the most prize of the action.
• 40:31
  Speaker 13: I'm sorry we didn't hear the question, or I didn't
• 40:33
  Speaker 13: I'm sorry, Can you repeat the question?
• 40:47
  Speaker 10: I think it's frozen.
• 41:08
  Speaker 11: I don't know how old everybody is on here, but
• 41:10
  Speaker 11: i'ma grew up to be just like you, and you
• 41:13
  Speaker 11: and you, and then I'm group be like you.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: I'm like you.
• 41:20
  Speaker 12: I'm grow up and be just like y'all outrageous and pretty.
• 41:25
  Speaker 7: Oh, thank you?
• 41:27
  Speaker 4: She back.
• 41:28
  Speaker 13: We didn't hear the last question.
• 41:35
  Speaker 9: Yes, I think it's self frozen. But as a collective,
• 41:38
  Speaker 9: it's been an honor to be a part of this
• 41:41
  Speaker 9: book with each and every one of you, ladies, simply
• 41:44
  Speaker 9: because we've all taken something and learned something about ourselves
• 41:50
  Speaker 9: while reading each one of our chapters and being in
• 41:55
  Speaker 9: a space where I was a little girl who was
• 41:59
  Speaker 9: constantly told I would never be in a space with
• 42:03
  Speaker 9: women like you guys. And we often talk about getting
• 42:09
  Speaker 9: to the table. I look at it like this. You
• 42:13
  Speaker 9: can knock on the door and make a lot of noise,
• 42:17
  Speaker 9: but you can't change the room, the atmosphere in the
• 42:20
  Speaker 9: room until you're inside. And so once you're inside, you
• 42:24
  Speaker 9: have the power to shift everything that's happening inside the room.
• 42:29
  Speaker 9: You can make a lot of noise on the outside
• 42:31
  Speaker 9: of the door, begging to get in, but once you're
• 42:34
  Speaker 9: in the room, it's what you do that changes the atmosphere.
• 42:40
  Speaker 9: And so being in the space to where I've been
• 42:42
  Speaker 9: able to be in rooms that change the atmosphere and
• 42:46
  Speaker 9: change the way people look at black women as a collective,
• 42:51
  Speaker 9: because sometimes we are the only ones that look like
• 42:55
  Speaker 9: us in these spaces. And when you can change the
• 42:59
  Speaker 9: way people look at us as a collective, it's a
• 43:03
  Speaker 9: beautiful thing. It doesn't have to be looked upon as, oh, well,
• 43:09
  Speaker 9: her tone is too harsh, or you know, the way
• 43:13
  Speaker 9: she is just straight face is intimidating. We don't always
• 43:18
  Speaker 9: smile every time we're in a space, and that's intimidating
• 43:24
  Speaker 9: to some people. And I've learned that I have to
• 43:28
  Speaker 9: fix my face. You know, my face hasn't learned to
• 43:32
  Speaker 9: use her inside voice. She has a man of her own,
• 43:36
  Speaker 9: and so I would constantly bet she needs to fix
• 43:40
  Speaker 9: your face. My son would tell me all the time.
• 43:43
  Speaker 9: He's like, Mom, you didn't need a public speaking class.
• 43:45
  Speaker 9: You got speaking under control. You need a facial expression class,
• 43:50
  Speaker 9: because that face is what's gonna make people think that
• 43:54
  Speaker 9: you're unapproachable, and I'm learning to work on it. But
• 44:00
  Speaker 9: my face has a personality. She's loud sometimes even when
• 44:06
  Speaker 9: she's not trying to be loud. It's been an honor
• 44:10
  Speaker 9: to be part of this project, and I'm just grateful
• 44:14
  Speaker 9: that whoever decides to purchase this book, they are getting
• 44:18
  Speaker 9: a gift in so many ways and so many avenues.
• 44:23
  Speaker 9: And every time I read a different chapter since I've
• 44:27
  Speaker 9: gotten the book in hand, I'm just in awe. You know,
• 44:32
  Speaker 9: I've even looked at my own chapter and I'm like, girl,
• 44:36
  Speaker 9: you let it go. Then you know there's something you
• 44:40
  Speaker 9: know that somebody is definitely going to see that. The
• 44:45
  Speaker 9: journey is the beautiful process, and you have to go
• 44:51
  Speaker 9: through life and understand that even in those darkest moments,
• 44:56
  Speaker 9: those uncertainties, God is walking me with you. He's walking
• 45:01
  Speaker 9: you through each and everything that you're going through, even
• 45:05
  Speaker 9: when it looks like God, why did you bring me
• 45:08
  Speaker 9: to this? If he brought you to it, He's going.
• 45:11
  Speaker 4: To bring you through it.
• 45:12
  Speaker 9: He's not gonna place you in a space for where
• 45:14
  Speaker 9: he's not going to see you through it. It's up
• 45:18
  Speaker 9: to us to understand that He's given us everything that
• 45:21
  Speaker 9: we needed to get through. And when we realized that
• 45:25
  Speaker 9: we were created for this, we are walking in the
• 45:29
  Speaker 9: purpose of who He's created us to be. We are
• 45:32
  Speaker 9: going to be continuously awesome and everything that we set
• 45:37
  Speaker 9: our minds to, each and every person that we're connected to,
• 45:41
  Speaker 9: even every person that we meet along this journey, we
• 45:45
  Speaker 9: were supposed to meet.
• 45:47
  Speaker 10: We were supposed to.
• 45:48
  Speaker 9: Be part of this book because God had already designed
• 45:52
  Speaker 9: it when he created us. It was his timing, his selection,
• 45:57
  Speaker 9: his everything that was part of this whole project. We
• 46:01
  Speaker 9: knew that there was something bigger that was coming in
• 46:07
  Speaker 9: our season in twenty twenty five. We had no idea
• 46:11
  Speaker 9: exactly what God had planned, but God knew what he
• 46:14
  Speaker 9: had planned for us. He collectively collected each one of us,
• 46:19
  Speaker 9: and he put Mss Carolyn, Doctor Carolyn in charge of
• 46:23
  Speaker 9: putting us all together. And this book is a blessing.
• 46:29
  Speaker 9: It's not only a seed, it is a blossoming garden
• 46:34
  Speaker 9: for those who take it and read it.
• 46:40
  Speaker 7: That's awesome. Word to leader, You're absolutely right. We are
• 46:45
  Speaker 7: making it to the tables.
• 46:47
  Speaker 9: Now.
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  Speaker 13: This is where I wrote my chapter and was very
• 46:52
  Speaker 13: intentional about getting a seat at the table, because I
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  Speaker 13: think I started off and you all probably didn't hear
• 46:59
  Speaker 13: when I was talking about it. I had read that
• 47:00
  Speaker 13: article about us being at the bottom and then we work, work,
• 47:03
  Speaker 13: work to get to the top. But for me, I worked, work, work,
• 47:07
  Speaker 13: got to the top. And we know that God has
• 47:10
  Speaker 13: plans and purposes for us. Right the doors are going
• 47:12
  Speaker 13: to be open. But when they're open and you really
• 47:14
  Speaker 13: don't know your true value, you've just been working just
• 47:18
  Speaker 13: to obtain something, and you really don't know your true
• 47:22
  Speaker 13: value when you get to that table, that's when you
• 47:25
  Speaker 13: could possibly be depressed, just be uneasy.
• 47:28
  Speaker 10: Not just behold.
• 47:30
  Speaker 13: So I had to go back, even though I was
• 47:33
  Speaker 13: at the table, and get the real work done, go
• 47:36
  Speaker 13: back to work on the trauma, go back.
• 47:39
  Speaker 7: To talk about the things that my mother did not
• 47:41
  Speaker 7: talk about.
• 47:42
  Speaker 13: I really had to go back and find out who
• 47:44
  Speaker 13: was Cynthia at the table because I showed up with
• 47:47
  Speaker 13: a smile. I showed up as myself, but I did
• 47:50
  Speaker 13: not know who I was. Now when I show up,
• 47:53
  Speaker 13: I come at God's child with a name Cynthia Carter
• 47:57
  Speaker 13: Spencer that won't be stopped. And the other ladies at
• 48:02
  Speaker 13: the top, I don't have to look at them and
• 48:03
  Speaker 13: be I mean, the other ladies at the bottom, I
• 48:06
  Speaker 13: can hold my hand down and pull them up.
• 48:08
  Speaker 7: I don't have to be jealous of them.
• 48:10
  Speaker 13: I think sometimes at the bottom, when I mention us
• 48:14
  Speaker 13: being lowest at the bottom, it's because I feel like
• 48:18
  Speaker 13: some of us need to go back and find authentic self,
• 48:21
  Speaker 13: because we start fighting each other, not helping each other,
• 48:26
  Speaker 13: not sharing open resources for others because we want to
• 48:30
  Speaker 13: get there first. Sometimes it may be your job to
• 48:33
  Speaker 13: put down your goals to help someone else with their goals.
• 48:37
  Speaker 13: But if we don't know ourselves, we're just fighting for fame,
• 48:40
  Speaker 13: wanting fame, trying to get money. But when you know
• 48:43
  Speaker 13: who you are and when you know your value, it
• 48:46
  Speaker 13: this crisis and when you get to the table, you
• 48:49
  Speaker 13: just gonna get to bigger tables, and sometimes you may
• 48:52
  Speaker 13: be the head of the table. This is why I
• 48:55
  Speaker 13: wrote my chapter because I want it to be intentional.
• 48:59
  Speaker 13: And sometimes we see and black women that they're just
• 49:02
  Speaker 13: not getting along the way that we should give along.
• 49:05
  Speaker 13: We should love each other, we should be helping each other,
• 49:08
  Speaker 13: we should be encouraging each other. If you got a
• 49:10
  Speaker 13: million dollars in your bank account not only have two.
• 49:13
  Speaker 13: I should still be happy for you because if you eat,
• 49:15
  Speaker 13: I'm gonna eat. And we all have to go back
• 49:18
  Speaker 13: and find our authentic self.
• 49:22
  Speaker 7: There is work for us still to be done.
• 49:25
  Speaker 13: Be done if they're able to write articles to saying
• 49:28
  Speaker 13: we're at the bottom when we serve a God that
• 49:31
  Speaker 13: wants to put us at the top, but we'll lose
• 49:34
  Speaker 13: out at the top, but we don't really know.
• 49:36
  Speaker 4: Who we are.
• 49:37
  Speaker 7: Thank you.
• 49:39
  Speaker 11: Ooh, miss Spencer, misson, Miss Spencer.
• 49:45
  Speaker 7: Yes, I'm gonna tell you I can't help, but you
• 49:47
  Speaker 7: keep sending sparks.
• 49:48
  Speaker 11: Over here in Cordina, Georgia such when you talk about God.
• 49:52
  Speaker 11: I'm gonna say this again, y'all, this is a transparent thing.
• 49:56
  Speaker 11: When we get to that place where somebody said we
• 49:59
  Speaker 11: were on the babo, let me give you.
• 50:02
  Speaker 4: Two snaps up.
• 50:04
  Speaker 11: I would when I when I when you said go
• 50:07
  Speaker 11: right to the bottom, that's when I find out that
• 50:10
  Speaker 11: isn't a bottom, because that's not anything God designed that.
• 50:14
  Speaker 7: He doesn't have.
• 50:15
  Speaker 11: A respect of person, or respect of race, or respect
• 50:20
  Speaker 11: of gender.
• 50:21
  Speaker 12: God does not have that. And so like you said,
• 50:25
  Speaker 12: getting in.
• 50:26
  Speaker 11: The room, but still having that lie because society said it.
• 50:31
  Speaker 11: They established it that some kind of way I gotta
• 50:34
  Speaker 11: get in the room. That's why when we come with
• 50:37
  Speaker 11: this collaborative, we still gotta stay at that place. You
• 50:40
  Speaker 11: just said, miss Spencer, that I am not. I have
• 50:44
  Speaker 11: never been at the bottom. I assumed it because of racism.
• 50:49
  Speaker 11: I assumed it because of social status. I assumed it
• 50:53
  Speaker 11: because the world taught me that. And when I went
• 50:57
  Speaker 11: to that bottom, like you saying, and now I'm here
• 51:00
  Speaker 11: with you, ladies, I find out that there isn't anybody
• 51:04
  Speaker 11: on the bottom.
• 51:05
  Speaker 7: So when you said reach.
• 51:06
  Speaker 11: Down to get them, go down there and tell them, girl,
• 51:08
  Speaker 11: you ain't at the bottom.
• 51:09
  Speaker 7: You're nobody here.
• 51:12
  Speaker 12: Come that power.
• 51:14
  Speaker 4: So when I walk in the room with.
• 51:16
  Speaker 11: My seventy five cents, some bayon of sauces and a
• 51:19
  Speaker 11: bag of cheeto, I'm feeling big. It is I'm feeling big.
• 51:23
  Speaker 11: It is not comparison. Come my bianas.
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: Is all of that.
• 51:29
  Speaker 12: My Cheetos a fire?
• 51:31
  Speaker 11: Yeah? We value because we realize that all of what
• 51:37
  Speaker 11: was ever said is a lie. We can't own up
• 51:41
  Speaker 11: to God making us wonderfully, fearfully made, and at the
• 51:45
  Speaker 11: same time acknowledging that somebody else says that we're staggered
• 51:51
  Speaker 11: and no truth in that.
• 51:53
  Speaker 12: Lady Spencer, cond did you too more?
• 51:55
  Speaker 7: Give me, give me, let me get you, let me
• 52:00
  Speaker 7: get let me get there.
• 52:01
  Speaker 11: Everyone fair, all of them. I'm trying to tell you, right,
• 52:08
  Speaker 11: Doctor Carolyn, wherever you at the bomb girl, that's right.
• 52:14
  Speaker 6: I just want to say, it was definitely an honor
• 52:17
  Speaker 6: and a pleasure to be in the book with you
• 52:20
  Speaker 6: beautiful ladies, and just reading the chapters, it's like you
• 52:25
  Speaker 6: can release something. If it's not the whole thing, you
• 52:29
  Speaker 6: can pick apart and apply that to your life or
• 52:32
  Speaker 6: just say this is something that I can overcome and
• 52:36
  Speaker 6: and and don't do that, you know, and just stay
• 52:39
  Speaker 6: on that path. But you're all beautiful, you know. I
• 52:43
  Speaker 6: hope to meet you all one day. You know. We
• 52:46
  Speaker 6: got to figure out how we could do that, you know.
• 52:49
  Speaker 6: But I'm just saying thank you, and definitely to doctor.
• 52:52
  Speaker 11: Carolyn when I when I meet you all, I hope
• 52:57
  Speaker 11: I have my copy of Sacred Seed in my hands
• 52:59
  Speaker 11: or y'all sign y'all chapter for me that I hope
• 53:03
  Speaker 11: I have the calm and sister calm down and do
• 53:05
  Speaker 11: that because I'm too excited.
• 53:08
  Speaker 4: Sorry, you know what I'm saying.
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: I might be.
• 53:09
  Speaker 11: Like, oh my god, that's farn for real?
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: Are you kidding me?
• 53:13
  Speaker 13: Right?
• 53:14
  Speaker 12: Oh my god, that's in person.
• 53:17
  Speaker 11: I'm gonna try to be cool though, and I want
• 53:20
  Speaker 11: you all to autograph your chapters in my book.
• 53:24
  Speaker 9: When we do meet in person, y'all are gonna have
• 53:27
  Speaker 9: to look down for me because I'm the shortest.
• 53:29
  Speaker 10: One in the group.
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: Oh my goodness.
• 53:33
  Speaker 9: So I am only four eight, so you're definitely going
• 53:37
  Speaker 9: to have to look down for me. I won't be
• 53:40
  Speaker 9: in the in amongst the tall folks. I'm gonna be
• 53:44
  Speaker 9: over with the children because they tend to with them, so.
• 53:53
  Speaker 10: I'm not too far from you.
• 53:55
  Speaker 6: I'm only five four, so who's five for?
• 53:58
  Speaker 9: Oh? Well, see you still talk me, baby, I'm I'm right.
• 54:01
  Speaker 10: There, my seven year olds.
• 54:05
  Speaker 7: Cool book there.
• 54:06
  Speaker 9: And I realized how we only see each other so
• 54:09
  Speaker 9: many times just through video. So when everybody in person,
• 54:13
  Speaker 9: I'm literally the shortest in the room because I did
• 54:16
  Speaker 9: not know Gina was tall. I did not know Cynthia
• 54:19
  Speaker 9: was tall. You see these pictures, I'm literally the shortest person.
• 54:25
  Speaker 9: So now you get to be the shortest person. And
• 54:28
  Speaker 9: I'm always in the front because if I get in
• 54:31
  Speaker 9: the back to take any pictures I get lost. My
• 54:34
  Speaker 9: kids are always like, ma, let me hold your hand
• 54:37
  Speaker 9: because we're going in a crowded place. And I'm like,
• 54:40
  Speaker 9: but i'm your mom, you don't have to hold my hand.
• 54:44
  Speaker 9: And they're like, no, we have to hold your hand,
• 54:45
  Speaker 9: and they're like, we're just gonna get a balloon to
• 54:48
  Speaker 9: tie it on you when you get lost in the
• 54:50
  Speaker 9: store because we can't find you because you blend into
• 54:53
  Speaker 9: the racks and things.
• 54:54
  Speaker 10: So yeah, I am that short.
• 54:58
  Speaker 13: So are you so glad that I had a chance
• 55:01
  Speaker 13: to collaborate with you all? When I read all of
• 55:04
  Speaker 13: you all's bios and I said, oh, these are some
• 55:07
  Speaker 13: boss babes. You all are so humble when we come together,
• 55:13
  Speaker 13: it does not get any better than that. So I
• 55:16
  Speaker 13: am honored to be in the book with you all
• 55:18
  Speaker 13: and my name. Just to be able to be amongst
• 55:21
  Speaker 13: you all's bios from such humble women who's gone through
• 55:26
  Speaker 13: so much and so resilient and won't stop and willing
• 55:31
  Speaker 13: to tell the story for the next man, it just
• 55:33
  Speaker 13: humbles me down. So I thank you all. It is
• 55:37
  Speaker 13: such a pleasure, and I cannot wait to meet you
• 55:39
  Speaker 13: all and you won't miss me because I am six
• 55:41
  Speaker 13: feets get lost in the crowd.
• 55:49
  Speaker 7: So that's been an honor for me to meet you all.
• 55:52
  Speaker 14: I mean to you know, kind of like collaborate with
• 55:54
  Speaker 14: you all, and you all are some powerhouses and so for.
• 55:58
  Speaker 6: Some time too.
• 56:00
  Speaker 14: Five two.
• 56:01
  Speaker 17: Okay, I'm short too, but it's honor and I've learned
• 56:06
  Speaker 17: so much from you all, and your chapters are so
• 56:10
  Speaker 17: thank you, thank you, thank you.
• 56:16
  Speaker 6: Well.
• 56:16
  Speaker 11: I've been chatting or trying to chat with Black Diamond
• 56:20
  Speaker 11: and sending her Texas to let her know we we
• 56:24
  Speaker 11: miss her and we're looking for her. So she may
• 56:26
  Speaker 11: have had some technical difficulty, but I hadn't gotten a
• 56:30
  Speaker 11: response back from her yet. Queen Angela, I think it's
• 56:36
  Speaker 11: our host and I'm texting her too to let her know.
• 56:41
  Speaker 11: I know we're almost out of time.
• 56:45
  Speaker 13: We want to give just I guess Doctor Stevens just
• 56:48
  Speaker 13: big shout out again for bringing us together, because if
• 56:51
  Speaker 13: it was not for her, she's just so innovative, and
• 56:55
  Speaker 13: not just that she's always willing to just be there
• 56:58
  Speaker 13: to support us one on one. Talk about a super woman.
• 57:02
  Speaker 13: I know that she loves God and I know God
• 57:05
  Speaker 13: has given her all the power, but how does she
• 57:07
  Speaker 13: does it? I mean she's talking to all of these women,
• 57:10
  Speaker 13: making sure we're right, you know, setting up flyers for us,
• 57:15
  Speaker 13: having a sittings. So kudos to you, doctor Stevens. Behalf
• 57:20
  Speaker 13: of all of us. Yes, hopefully we'll get to collapse.
• 57:25
  Speaker 13: So by the book, who's ever listening to this? All
• 57:28
  Speaker 13: these wonderful ladies with such open books, billy good chapters,
• 57:32
  Speaker 13: wisdom that will help everyone?
• 57:34
  Speaker 7: Buy the book? Yes, yes, by two books.
• 57:39
  Speaker 8: Share it with the coworker friend, Yes, you and a
• 57:45
  Speaker 8: friend yes.
• 57:47
  Speaker 9: Because you're not gonna want to give him your coffee.
• 57:49
  Speaker 9: I'm just like.
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: You.
• 58:00
  Speaker 13: And then we have the Arthur's Guild coming up. Will
• 58:02
  Speaker 13: everyone be there?
• 58:05
  Speaker 7: I will be.
• 58:05
  Speaker 6: When is that.
• 58:09
  Speaker 9: November seventh?
• 58:13
  Speaker 16: Yes? All right?
• 58:16
  Speaker 13: Seventh words it at Okay, you're the fore.
• 58:25
  Speaker 7: Part four. Okay, get your ticket too.
• 58:28
  Speaker 13: You'll get a chance to meet all of us and
• 58:30
  Speaker 13: get our autograph and get your tickets to that.
• 58:33
  Speaker 12: Yeah, all right.
• 58:36
  Speaker 9: The book is available on Amazon as Angela asked me
• 58:39
  Speaker 9: to close out for a black doma. We don't know
• 58:42
  Speaker 9: what happened, but as a collective, I know she is
• 58:46
  Speaker 9: grateful that we all took the time to be here,
• 58:50
  Speaker 9: to be a part of sacred Sies. Of wisdom to share. Yes, God,
• 59:00
  Speaker 9: I don't know.
• 59:01
  Speaker 4: I have no idea.
• 59:02
  Speaker 5: I was talking and I can hear you, and then
• 59:06
  Speaker 5: I'm listening to y'all laughing and flap and I'm steady talking.
• 59:10
  Speaker 4: I'm like, they don't hear me, or they't listening to
• 59:12
  Speaker 4: what I'm saying. I'm ask this question anyway, I don't care.
• 59:19
  Speaker 4: My question was if someone walks over y'all.
• 59:23
  Speaker 5: Look, I mean, know what I'm gona doing. I'm gonna
• 59:25
  Speaker 5: tell doctor Stevens on.
• 59:26
  Speaker 4: You guys got your fight on that note. Yeah, I'm
• 59:30
  Speaker 4: gonna tell it on.
• 59:33
  Speaker 5: If someone walked away with only one lesson from your chapter,
• 59:37
  Speaker 5: what do you hope it is?
• 59:42
  Speaker 9: Walking?
• 59:43
  Speaker 7: Authentic?
• 59:45
  Speaker 10: It gets better?
• 59:49
  Speaker 9: Hate half say.
• 59:50
  Speaker 6: It does get better, Like you said.
• 59:54
  Speaker 4: You got the name. Yeah, don't buy everything you heard.
• 59:57
  Speaker 11: You are an overcomer, you are worthy, You are this.
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 5: This has been one powerful night of truth, tenderness, and
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 5: transformation to each of the women who shared their sacred
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 5: seeds of wisdom. I want to thank you, incredible ladies
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 5: for being such honor guests tonight. Your voice is a gift.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 5: Your stories on medicine, and tell you your stories are medicine.
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 5: If you haven't already picked up your copy of Sacredcies
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 5: of Wisdom, I.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 4: Highly encourage you to do so. It's more than a book.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 5: It's a legacy of healing, strength and truth passed down
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 5: from women to women.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 4: You could reach out to any one of these women
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 4: to purchase the book.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 5: They got them. They're waiting for you to contact them.
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 5: They're going to sign them and they'll get it right
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 5: over to you. But don't go too far. We'll be
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 5: back on a special night on August fourteenth at eight
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 5: pm Eastern time. Right here on Basis Black After Dark,
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 5: we're sitting down with new author Eric Blake as he
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 5: discusses his power, the book, my thoughts, first steps to hear.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 5: Trust me, you don't want to miss this raw and
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 5: inspiring conversation about what it really takes to begin again.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 5: Until then, thank you for showing up, thank you for
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 5: sharing space, and as always, thanks for keeping it basic.
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 4: Thanks ladies for participating.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 5: I have no idea what went on tonight with the
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 5: sound and the coming and goings of each and every
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 5: morning and the piercing sounds like that, but this is
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 5: just not something that normally happened. So I'm going to
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 5: try to find out what can be done so it
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 5: could be a smoother transition. I would love to have you, lady,
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 5: He's back. I'm quite sure you're gonna be in book
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 5: two when she does it. You seem to have bonded
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 5: with each other, so it's probably gonna be a smooth sailing.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 5: You already know how she works and operates, and you've
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 5: gotten to know each other. So I'm looking forward to