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Patience Versus Submission · We Are The Same

• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone, I hope you've had a beautiful week.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: In today's episode, we're going to talk about the difference between patience and submission.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: I hear a lot from people that they've submitted to the universe or on the twin flame journey, or that they feel like they've submitted, but why isn't anything happening?
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's easy to recognize that these egos have in actuality been patiently waiting for something that they desire to occur, not actually practicing submission.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: How do we know if we're being patient or if we've truly given up our desire for control and have submitted?
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: It is a common misconception between submission and patience, so let's talk about the differences.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: You cannot submit without acceptance first.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: So let me state that again because it's really important to understand this aspect of submission.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: You cannot submit without acceptance first.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: Acceptance does not mean that you are okay with the situation or that you like the situation or that you cannot alter your situation in the future.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: Acceptance means that you understand that what has happened has already happened and there's nothing you can do about it right now.
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_00: So you might as well accept that it happened.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't accept when things happen, your ego will create an inherent resistance mechanism and fight against what it doesn't want, even if it pretends that it isn't the case.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: The reason for this is because the brain is biologically trying to survive and keep the body alive, pumping out chemicals and hormones to initiate an emotional response, and the ego in turn creating attachments to those emotional responses.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: Submission is about non-attachment to your emotions, not by suppression or invalidation, but true non-attachment via understanding that your emotions are simply energetic fluctuations that come and go.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: It's very common to believe that you've submitted when in reality you're either being patient, dissociating, suppressing, or invalidating yourself.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: For a basic example, remember back to a relationship where you were dumped.
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  SPEAKER_00: How did you respond afterwards?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you try to get them back?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you cry and make threats?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you pretend to everyone that everything was fine while you silently hurt?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you scream and shout or give them the silent treatment after?
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: Did you become depressed?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you go for a rebound?
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_00: Did you secretly wish and hope, imagine and fantasize about how you would get back together with them or make them jealous, etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't judge yourself, these are common reactions.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the question is, when did you stop obsessing over the relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you not remember because it just naturally faded out?
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  SPEAKER_00: Was it when you found a new partner?
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: Was it when you decided you were done being sad?
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: Was it when you got so busy with school or family or work that the obsession naturally fell by the wayside?
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: None of these are submission.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: They are all patience, self-invalidation, and dissociation.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: Remember that submission cannot happen without acceptance first.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_00: So take the same relationship that you just thought about and change the ending to you getting dumped, moving through your emotions for a few days, then sitting with yourself and finding acceptance that the event happened.
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean you would have been okay with it.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: It just means that you would have accepted it.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_00: After acceptance would have come acknowledging your emotions as they came up, accepting those too, and allowing the higher self to move you on the path that will help you learn more lessons.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_00: Submission is the literal sensation of truly being fine with anything that happens.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: Truly, not I'm okay with X happening, but I prefer Y to happen, but instead having equanimity, no preference, non-attachment.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: Submission is non-attachment in every form, getting excited to see what the universe brings you every morning and not wanting nor hoping for anything, nor desiring to change anything that occurs.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: So to be more succinct and paint a very specific picture for you, patience is the ego pretending everything is fine and that you're going with the flow while internally having desires, but telling yourself that you don't.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_00: Patience feels like a struggle in some form, whether it be mental fluctuations or emotional fluctuations.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: Submission is acceptance of every situation and a true non preference for anything that comes at you.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: It is non-attachment and it is pure peace.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: Sure, things may rile your emotions up briefly, but you know how to submit and can gain back the equilibrium quickly, finding non attachment.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: Until next week, all of my best and highest vibrations to you.