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The One About Poop Etiquette and Last Meals · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It is La La Keent. Welcome back to
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  Speaker 1: the Give Them La La Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: I am dying because I went on the GRAM and
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  Speaker 2: I asked, y'all, what do you want to talk about?
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  Speaker 2: Let's talk about it all and today I don't know
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  Speaker 2: what y'all are on, but you.
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  Speaker 1: Had the best questions.
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  Speaker 3: They came through.
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  Speaker 1: They did come through.
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  Speaker 2: Usually, like I know the drill, it's usually going to
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  Speaker 2: be about my relationship with the cast, talk about Mandi
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  Speaker 2: Pump Rules.
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  Speaker 1: I got it. I love talking about that shit.
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  Speaker 2: But there's a lot of questions today where I was
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  Speaker 2: reading them going.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, this is awesome.
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  Speaker 2: Second of all, I love that you're turning to me
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  Speaker 2: to get advice on this.
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  Speaker 3: I'm so excited to hear these questions. I haven't heard
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  Speaker 3: of Orsino.
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  Speaker 1: I They're good. Yeah, yeah, they're really good. Did you
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  Speaker 1: have a good weekend, Jess?
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  Speaker 3: I did. I had a relaxing weekend, saying some karaoke
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  Speaker 3: with myself, did some cleaning.
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  Speaker 2: I saw that on your Instagram. Yeah, you were supposed
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  Speaker 2: to be folding laundry.
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  Speaker 3: I was, but I needed to do that first and
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  Speaker 3: I got it out of the way. One song, easy
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  Speaker 3: breezy and then moved on to folding laundry. Went to
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  Speaker 3: Santa Monica for breakfast, just like little things like that.
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  Speaker 3: How about you, though, because I saw you attended a
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  Speaker 3: gorgeous baby shower.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I had my two best friends since childhood, Madison and
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  Speaker 2: Danielle there. We recorded a podcast that will come out
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  Speaker 2: next week. I loved having them. I got to see
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  Speaker 2: Danielle's baby for the first time in person.
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  Speaker 1: He's so unbelievably gorgeous.
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  Speaker 3: He's so gorgeous.
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  Speaker 1: He's like the most perfect little human. I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I have to say, besides my own baby, because we
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  Speaker 1: all feel that way obviously, this is the most gorgeous
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  Speaker 1: baby I've ever seen.
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  Speaker 3: Was Ocean? How was Ocean with.
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  Speaker 1: Him completely obsessed?
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  Speaker 2: Would wake up in the morning and it's so cute
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  Speaker 2: now because I think because Ocean's been hanging out with
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  Speaker 2: Summer Moon a lot. Ocean usually calls me mama, but
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  Speaker 2: Summer Moon calls her mom mommy. So now Ocean has
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  Speaker 2: started calling me mommy and she screams it at the
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  Speaker 2: top of her lungs in the morning, Mommy, momy. It's
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  Speaker 2: the cutest thing, like from her crib yep yep. So
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  Speaker 2: I would go in there, Oh it's eleven eleven, make
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  Speaker 2: a wish, my loves.
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  Speaker 1: But I go in there. And the second I would
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  Speaker 1: go in.
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  Speaker 3: There, she go, baby, baby, baby.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, yes, we're gonna go see the baby.
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  Speaker 2: Danielle let Ocean holds Rome. She was just in heaven
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  Speaker 2: and I asked her. I said, do you want mama to.
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  Speaker 3: Have a baby?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh yeah, I said boy or a girl? It
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  Speaker 1: was girl.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, oh, she said girl.
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  Speaker 1: She did say girl. Interesting, isn't that Yeah. I don't
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  Speaker 1: even think she knows. She just wanted the because so
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  Speaker 1: she doesn't care.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm working with Ocean on cause she can say yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And We've been watching Miss Rachel a lot. But I'm
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  Speaker 2: trying to get her to understand when I ask a question,
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  Speaker 2: to not not have it be yes or no.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, okay, you ask a question.
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  Speaker 1: Like do you want asparagus or spinach?
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  Speaker 2: And even if she just points like, I need her
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  Speaker 2: to understand, like I'm asking you a question on these two,
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  Speaker 2: it's not yes or no.
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  Speaker 3: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes she'll say yes or no. She always says yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, but which one this or this?
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  Speaker 3: But her yeah, yeah, mind you. Every time I see her,
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  Speaker 3: because I'll go like maybe a week without seeing her
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  Speaker 3: because I'll be working from the office. She's like all
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  Speaker 3: these new words are added to her vocabulary. So I'll
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  Speaker 3: see her and I'll say things like like the last
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  Speaker 3: time I saw her at the office, I was like,
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  Speaker 3: I think I said. She was like pointing to the door,
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, what do you want? What do
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  Speaker 3: you want? And I think she said something like open, yeah, open, and.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, shocked. It's so cute.
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  Speaker 2: So we had a full house this weekend, which is
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  Speaker 2: not hard to fill a house that's not a house
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  Speaker 2: and it's an apartment.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but hey, it's like you love that, right.
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  Speaker 2: I love people on top of each other. Yeah, it's
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  Speaker 2: my most favorite thing. So Maddie and Danny came into town,
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  Speaker 2: and they came because Christina Kelly is having a.
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  Speaker 1: Baby in March.
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  Speaker 2: Her due day is one day after Oceans, which is amazing.
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  Speaker 2: I'm secretly hoping that it falls right on Ocean's birthday.
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  Speaker 2: I hope it's March fifteenth. And she was like, she goes,
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  Speaker 2: I don't want it to be March fifteenth because I
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  Speaker 2: don't want, you know, that's Ocean's birthday, and I go.
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  Speaker 1: But then we can like split the cost of birthday parties.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say, be awesome.
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  Speaker 3: And also when you I feel like when you're a
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  Speaker 3: little girl or little whatever, when you're a child, you
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  Speaker 3: enjoy sharing a birthday with your friend until I think,
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  Speaker 3: until you get to like sixteen, and even then, do
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  Speaker 3: you remember I remember being so oh excited if I
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  Speaker 3: heard someone had my same birthday and being like, we
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  Speaker 3: should have a birthday party together and all those things.
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  Speaker 2: I just like sharing things. I've always been that way,
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  Speaker 2: Like I don't care if you get the same outfit
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  Speaker 2: as me. I don't care if you get the same shoes, bag, whatever,
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  Speaker 2: Like I really don't care. I don't care if you
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  Speaker 2: share my birthday. And I like people that have my
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  Speaker 2: same birthday because yes, even if it's around the same time,
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  Speaker 2: we can share a birthday party.
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  Speaker 1: And then if no one shows up, it's like, well
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  Speaker 1: they didn't like you. They don't like you either.
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  Speaker 3: That's so true. Well, Caessa, you don't have any friends.
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  Speaker 2: Eat, you don't have any friends with me. I love
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  Speaker 2: being miserable with someone.
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  Speaker 3: There you go and you have each other. So then
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  Speaker 3: you're both weirdos.
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  Speaker 1: If no one shows up, totally, I just like a
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  Speaker 1: little partner in crime.
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  Speaker 3: That's funny.
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  Speaker 2: So the baby shower was absolutely beautiful. I loved it
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  Speaker 2: because there were no games.
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  Speaker 3: Oh you like that?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, all play games.
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  Speaker 2: I'm down for it. But it was just like a
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  Speaker 2: group of and it was men and chicks.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, is that how it usually is?
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  Speaker 1: I feel like Britney's boys came towards the end.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, it with all women.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, this was.
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  Speaker 2: You know, Christina and Max gave a really sweet and
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  Speaker 2: heartfelt speech. But other than that, it was like there
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  Speaker 2: wasn't opening gifts in front of the group, which is
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  Speaker 2: great for us because I really don't care.
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  Speaker 1: What you got. Yeah, I hate to be that person.
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  Speaker 1: I really don't give a shit.
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  Speaker 3: This is great because I think a lot of people
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  Speaker 3: throw these parties like me planning like a bridal shower,
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  Speaker 3: and I'm like, what did people like I don't don't
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  Speaker 3: okay in front of gifts?
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: And then, but more importantly, the person that the baby
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  Speaker 2: shower is for doesn't have to sit there.
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  Speaker 1: And put on some like oh my gosh, I saw
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  Speaker 1: it for fucking twenty five hundred hours.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and if someone gave you the same gift, like
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  Speaker 3: the oh my god, it's okay, like or whatever, because
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  Speaker 3: I can keep this one in the car and.
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  Speaker 1: I can put this one. It's like, it's just exhausting. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I hate that.
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  Speaker 3: Did you do that?
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  Speaker 1: I never had a baby shower.
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  Speaker 3: You didn't know.
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  Speaker 2: So that's what's so amazing is if I have a
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  Speaker 2: future partner and we like decide to have a commitment ceremony,
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  Speaker 2: I've never had a bridal shower.
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  Speaker 1: I've never had a bachelorette party. I've never been married,
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  Speaker 1: never had a baby shower.
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  Speaker 3: Like, I've never had any of it. That's great. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that's amazing. You get to do them all for the
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  Speaker 3: first time.
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  Speaker 1: I get to do them all for the first time,
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  Speaker 1: which is so great for me. Yeah, yeah, that's cool.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get to the questions real quick because I can't
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  Speaker 2: stop thinking about them.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm going to put the best one at the beginning.
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  Speaker 2: Pooping in a small apartment you live in with your boyfriend.
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  Speaker 1: How to get confidence with it.
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  Speaker 2: We just talked about this literally minutes ago.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, this is going to be a TMI. This question
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  Speaker 1: and what happened.
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  Speaker 2: There's something very satisfying about going to the bathroom. And
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  Speaker 2: I've been there where like I've gone to boyfriend's homes
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm there for the
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  Speaker 2: entire weekend. How am I going to like not take
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  Speaker 2: a shit'.
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  Speaker 1: Just call it what it is.
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  Speaker 2: My mom always said, everyone does it. I think opening
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  Speaker 2: the conversation. I feel like that's why I'm so open
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  Speaker 2: about talking about things, because shit gets awkward sometimes, and
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  Speaker 2: if we just break the ice by like talking about it,
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  Speaker 2: things are way less awkward, right, Yeah, And like, guess what,
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  Speaker 2: your boyfriend's going to take a shit too, and it's
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  Speaker 2: probably not gonna smell.
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  Speaker 3: Great, and probably more shits.
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  Speaker 1: There's gonna be a lot.
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  Speaker 2: You're gonna eat funky food sometimes that taste delicious but
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  Speaker 2: is funny on the bowls.
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  Speaker 1: Just rip off the band aid.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, Pooperrie is also great. I keep yeah
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  Speaker 2: that travel poopri Yeah, just spray that. My favorite thing
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  Speaker 2: to break the ice is after you go potty, just
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  Speaker 2: like roll out to your man and be like I
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  Speaker 2: would avoid that area for just a sec and then
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  Speaker 2: it's like, Okay, yeah, she took a poop and I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to sum at some point take a poop too, and.
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  Speaker 3: It's not weird. We all do it.
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  Speaker 2: Question, even Beyonce is taking massive shits sometimes.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I don't know about the question if you're in
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  Speaker 3: a because I hate this, but I know a lot
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  Speaker 3: of people love it. If you're in a long term relationship,
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  Speaker 3: do you ever get to a point where you take
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  Speaker 3: a shit while your man is in the bathroom?
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  Speaker 2: I think you got to keep that part private, you know,
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  Speaker 2: because during sex and things like that, you want to
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  Speaker 2: keep it spicy and you just don't want to think
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  Speaker 2: about the gross stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's it, I think.
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  Speaker 1: Don't you agree?
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  Speaker 3: No? I agree. I'm not one which people are shocked
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  Speaker 3: about because Kyle and I are so open with each
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  Speaker 3: other when it cut and I live in a one bed,
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  Speaker 3: one bath when it comes to bathroom stuff off limits.
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  Speaker 3: If he like I've been, don't want to hear about it? No,
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to. I mean he is, like he's
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  Speaker 3: a man and typical with the bathroom stuff, so like
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  Speaker 3: sometimes it's fine, but like if I'm doing my hair
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  Speaker 3: in the bathroom and he comes in to even go pee,
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, do you okay? Do you need me
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  Speaker 3: to excuse you for a moment, and he's like yeah,
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  Speaker 3: and I'll get out shut the door. Never And if
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  Speaker 3: he like goes takes a shit in the bathroom, I'll say,
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  Speaker 3: like did you spray? And like how long should I
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  Speaker 3: avoid the area? I'm just not a bathroom person, so
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  Speaker 3: like bathroom humor or whatever. So for me, if i
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  Speaker 3: have to go, I'll go in. I'll spray. I always
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  Speaker 3: spray and use the poopery and then I'm usually quick
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  Speaker 3: like a few minutes and then I'll leave. And if
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  Speaker 3: it like is really bad in there, I'll say something
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  Speaker 3: like my tummies a little off, maybe avoid the bathroom
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  Speaker 3: for like a few minutes. And he'll make jokes about it.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, I've never been like I've never been one
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  Speaker 3: to like take a shit in front of my man
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  Speaker 3: while he's brushing his teeth.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, you do that?
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  Speaker 3: Get the fuck out, or like even when they're in
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  Speaker 3: the shower. I'm like a lot of my girlfriend's, like
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  Speaker 3: my one friend from home, she's like, you don't use
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  Speaker 3: a bathroom when your man's in the shower. What if
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  Speaker 3: you got to go? I'm like, well then I got
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  Speaker 3: to hold it, And she's like no, I'm always in there.
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  Speaker 2: See, my mind just goes to like there's nothing worth
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  Speaker 2: Like if I'm brushing my teeth, I'm picturing like it's
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  Speaker 2: going in my mouth. Or if I'm taking a really warm,
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  Speaker 2: yummy shower and you're taking shit, steamy shit, I don't
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  Speaker 2: want to, please, don't.
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  Speaker 3: I can't smell that along with my like gorgeous shampoo
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  Speaker 3: or something.
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  Speaker 1: No, No, that's.
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  Speaker 2: Why I think just the little thing of hey, just
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  Speaker 2: like stay out of there for a sec.
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  Speaker 3: I like that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know yeeps, I poop.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I get more afraid of gas.
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  Speaker 3: Granted, if you are someone who sits in front of
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  Speaker 3: your boyfriend and he's fine or your man or your
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  Speaker 3: girlfriend whatever, and they're fine with it, more power too you,
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  Speaker 3: More power to you. I just personally, I don't know
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  Speaker 3: what it was. If it was something in my child,
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  Speaker 3: who knows, But I'm just not one of those people
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  Speaker 3: like gas, you're like farting. Yeah, I mean that I
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  Speaker 3: agree with.
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  Speaker 1: How do you do that?
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  Speaker 2: Like if you are in the bed with Kyle and
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  Speaker 2: your tummies acting funky, what do he well? If you
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  Speaker 2: just let her rip?
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  Speaker 3: Easy for me, because he'll go He goes to bed
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  Speaker 3: at like eight pm. So I'll it's wild to think,
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  Speaker 3: but I kind of still hold it. And we've been
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  Speaker 3: together for almost seven years.
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  Speaker 1: You hold it well, so not all night.
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  Speaker 3: I hold it until he goes to sleep, and then
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  Speaker 3: I slowly release. But like Kyle, I mean, we've had
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  Speaker 3: talks about this. I'm like, you have to go to
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  Speaker 3: the doctors. You fart too much. And he's like, I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: you gotta like.
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  Speaker 1: Get it together.
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  Speaker 3: You get it together. He farts constantly and laughs about it,
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  Speaker 3: but he's respectful too. He's like, I'm trying, like I'm trying,
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  Speaker 3: but sometimes it just slips out.
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  Speaker 1: But me, I feel like it's really unhealthy to hold it. Jess,
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  Speaker 1: I know, but.
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  Speaker 3: I don't hold it for long or if I really
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  Speaker 3: have bad like gas, I'll walk into the bathroom and
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  Speaker 3: he's like laying in bed and I'm like, ooh, this
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  Speaker 3: is gonna be bad. I can't hold it. I walk
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  Speaker 3: into the bathroom, let it go, and then walk back
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  Speaker 3: into the bedroom. But he goes to bed at like
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  Speaker 3: eight PM, and I don't go go to bed until
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  Speaker 3: like ten or eleven.
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  Speaker 1: So, oh see, some stank will wake me right up?
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  Speaker 3: Really? Oh yeah, me too, though, Do you hold around
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  Speaker 3: your what previous partners do you just let a rip
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  Speaker 3: like sound and all.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I mean previous No.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I can speak on it being uncomfortable, because
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  Speaker 2: it's like you hold it and then it's like now
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  Speaker 2: I just need.
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  Speaker 1: To throw up. Yeah, because I'm so sick. My stomach
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  Speaker 1: is just air right now.
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  Speaker 3: Really. Yeah, I don't even find it like disgusting. Like
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  Speaker 3: my she won't hate me for saying this, but like
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  Speaker 3: my sister and my best friend constantly letting it rip
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  Speaker 3: around me, and I think it's funny and like, but
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  Speaker 3: there's something about me, am I saying them, Yes, that's
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  Speaker 3: what it is. I'm not having sex with them, and
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  Speaker 3: it's just something about it that I'm like, I don't know,
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  Speaker 3: I hold it in. But then he doesn't care.
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  Speaker 2: Because he's a trainer. And I've noticed people that are
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  Speaker 2: into fitness and health. Yeah, they think about it as like.
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  Speaker 1: You can't hold it, you got to get it out, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: because it does this, that and the other to the body.
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  Speaker 1: And when this, that and the other happens to the body,
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  Speaker 1: your muscles do this, and your blah blah blah does that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I've noticed, So note to self I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna go for someone who's in the health industry because
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  Speaker 2: then they're gonna want to hear about that stuff and they're.
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  Speaker 1: Gonna be like, good for you. I'm so happy for you.
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  Speaker 3: Yes. And that's the thing is that he talks to
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  Speaker 3: his clients, and since I'm a client of his, he
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  Speaker 3: had to talk to me. He shows a chart of
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  Speaker 3: poops between one and ten and he'll say, point, what
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  Speaker 3: does your poop usually look like? So he's very and
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  Speaker 3: you have to point, and he tells you if it's
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  Speaker 3: healthy or not. He talks to women about periods, so it.
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  Speaker 1: Is very like scientific. Yeah, I'm technical. Amazing question.
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  Speaker 2: I hope that you and your partner get to a
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  Speaker 2: place where you can poop in the same space. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: not together, but in the same small apartment. Yeah. This
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  Speaker 2: person says, how do you not let the unknowns take
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  Speaker 2: over your mind? We talked about this, I think last week.
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: Keeping your head where your feet are because I constantly
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: sit in the what ifs?
• 15:14
  Speaker 4: You do?
• 15:15
  Speaker 3: What do you elaborate on that?
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: I think about things one hundred years from now. But
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: what if this happens, then this is gonna happen, and
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: then if that happens this will happen, and thirty seconds
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: has passed and I've already talked myself into the deepest,
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: darkest hole you could possibly be in.
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: Right, we did talk about this because it's anxiety, and
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: it's the worrying twice. If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen.
• 15:37
  Speaker 3: Why not worry about it when it happens.
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: Versus exactly, don't cross bridges that you don't have to
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: cross yet. So when that happens and you start going
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: into that place. This is why I constantly am preaching
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: to people to have a higher power, no matter what
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: it is.
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: I don't give a shit that you can.
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: When you feel yourself looping and spiraling into that place,
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: you immediately have the tools to sit down, take your
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: deep breaths, punt it to something greater than you, remember
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: where you are, look around you and see where you are,
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: and become connected with that space. Like Okay, right now,
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: I'm sitting down, I'm doing a podcast, I'm keeping my
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: head where my feet are, and we're not moving from
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: this space right mentally, you got it, Like connect your
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: feet to your brain.
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: That's what I have to do. When the unknowns start
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: taking over.
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and you who taught you that again said like
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: you say, you shouted them out last week, but I
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: just they said that to you and it seemed like
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: it really changed your perspective of lawyer. Head where your
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: feet are?
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, because when I entered this new phase of
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: life and what I was going into, I was constantly
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: thinking about the what ifs and that will take you out.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that'll take days off your life or your Yeah,
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: and the anxiety and the stress and they I think
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: keeping your head where your feet are it sounds so simple,
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: but it's like, yes.
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: No, it's extremely difficult. And that's why I think everything
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: has to work in tandem, the punting it to a
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: higher power take over. It's becoming too much. Now I'm
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: going to do what I have control of, which is
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: mentally getting myself to be exactly where I am and
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: focusing on right now. And when I get to the
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: place where I have to cross a bridge, we'll deal
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: with it then. But I ain't crossing bridges I don't
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: need to cross because someone could burn that bridge.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: Yes, How am I going to cross a burn bridge?
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: You don't?
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: That's so true? Did Chris Medina say the burning bridges?
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: Was for you in twenty twenty four or was that
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: for you at the moment?
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: No, he said when did I mean it was in
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: twenty twenty two? He said? This is the year of
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: burning bridges.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: Okay, and we have that on an episode.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: Right, No, I haven't had him. We should get him
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: back on the podcast.
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: And now everyone will DM and be like, when's he coming?
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: Let's have him back on. I'm gonna reach out to him.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: Okay, this person wants to know, are you keen on
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: doing IVF to have another baby?
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: Ooh, good question.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: I'm not opposed to it. Did I say that right?
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: Opposed to it?
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: I'm not opposed to it?
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, whoa?
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: That sounded really weird, really kind of Do you ever
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: say things and you're like that makes zero sense all
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: the time?
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I question it and I spell things and
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: I'm like, well that's not how you spell it, and
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: it is weird. You're not opposed to it? Is IVF
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: after you freeze your eggs or is that something?
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: IVF is you take your eggs out, take the sperm,
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: and create an embryo and then they insert it.
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: Interesting, So this is IVF is one of several techniques
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: available blah blah blah to help people during IVF, and
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: egg is removed from the woman's ovaries and fertilized with
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: sperm in a laboratory. The fertilized egg, called an embryo,
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: is then returned to the woman's wombs. So maybe it
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: don't freeze it first, or do you.
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: I think most people that decide to do IVF, they're
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: not freezing their eggs. Okay, they're like taking it's when
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: you're really struggling to get pregnant, they take the eggs
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: if you if you haven't met a partner. People, it's
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: really like insurance on being able to have a baby.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: You freeze your eggs, whether you're the one that carries
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: the baby or a surrogate carries the baby. You're just
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: taking the eggs before.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: You get to the point where like there's no eggs
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: or the your numbers drop.
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: Okay, so I'm not at that point yet. I went
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: into a fertility specialist.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: He said that I.
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: Could be an egg donor. Okay, yes, but he said everything.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: This is when I was, you know, weighing my options
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: for a sperm donor, which I'm still thinking about.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: That is not out of the question.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: So I just wanted to make sure everything was good
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: and right and tied up there it is.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I'm not a posed IVF I will do. I know.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: I want another baby, So whatever I need to do
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: to make that happen, whether it's meeting a partner, even
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: though that freaks me the fuck out to have a
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: baby with somebody, or IVF, sperm donor IUI type deal,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: any of it, any of it. I just want Ocean
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: to have a sibling and I want to experience being
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: pregnant again.
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, it's all wild, like the egg freezing and
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: all of it is like so it's very I've I've
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: you know, I know, we talked about this a little
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: bit a few episodes ago. I don't know if it's all,
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: but a lot of it seems like privileged stuff to do.
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: I don't know how much IVF costs.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: It's you it's expensive. Yeah, it's extremely expensive.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: Okay, so it's all it's like with same with egg freezing,
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: and like a lot of all stuff is so expensive
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: and it's like just you know, good for any of
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: the women who can do it and who can afford it,
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: and if you can't, it's like a ton of us
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: other women. It's like maybe something you think about down
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: the line, and if not, then it's just something you
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: sort of pass up. It's very interesting. I'm I'm still
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: obviously learning a lot about all of it, because I
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: just asked what IBF is.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: Well.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: I have friends who, from the time they were like
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: little kids, have just been incredible with children, right, they
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: just have had this like motherly instinct from the time
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: they were little tots. Yeah, and they struggle to get pregnant.
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: And I went through this guilt thing calling my friends
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: who are going through this journey and saying like, I'm
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: pregnant sixty days after I removed my IUD you know.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: And I still struggle with it where these people have
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: incredible marriages and incredible lives and I'm sitting here with
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: a baby, and my world essentially has like that's all
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: they want in life is a baby, and here I
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: have the baby with like kind of a messed up situation.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: So that fucks with my mind. Sometimes I'm not even
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: opposed to adoption. I just want a baby. However the
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: baby gets here, wherever the baby.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Comes from, I just know I would like another child. Yeah,
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: So that's where I'm at.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: Are the questions good today, Judy are really good.
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: These are great.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: Oh, this one's funny and well not funny, kind of
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: like dark but also.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: It'll be quick. What would be your last meal on Earth?
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: So if you were to it's your last day and
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: then you're getting taken out, do you know yours? Yeah?
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: I know exactly what mine would be.
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: I it's weird because I think, like, if it's my
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: last day and a meteor's coming, I would just be
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: like I wouldn't necessarily be thinking about food, and I
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: was sitting with my loved ones. But if I had to. Oh,
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: I hate to say this, but I think I think
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: steak and potatoes. And I hate to say this because
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: I know we're on our journeys right now.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: Well after we yeah, after we went to the sanctuary. Yeah,
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: like now I really want to give up the meat. Yeah,
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: but I'm not judging you. This is your last day
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: on Earth. Yeah, it would do a steak, any sauce.
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: I would do a steak, no sauce, just a nice
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: mediumware steak. Oh my god, garlic butter, I guess would
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: be the sauce. Then I have my garlic mashed potatoes
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: and then broccoli done. Yum, that's what I'm eating. That's
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: just what I'm eating. What about you?
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: I would have and I've actually cut this out of
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: my diet, like long before we even visited the sanctuary. Okay,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: a lambio. I know it's horrible, but it is the
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: best thing on earth. I would have Bokleva for my dessert.
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: Okay, good.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: And to be honest, if it's my last day, we're
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: going out with the bang, I'm having a jack and
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: coke and I'm gonna wash that down with a vodka soda.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: We're fucking shit up.
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: A jack and coke first. So I always thought your
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: drink of choice when you were drinking was vodka soda.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: Why jack and coke?
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: That is that?
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: Like?
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: I just I just liked to jack and coke with
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: a meal, youkay?
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: And I loved to shoot honey jack Oh my god. See.
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: And that's another thing too, that's interesting. I've talked about
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: this before with Kyle and said, if let's say we
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: knew a meteor was coming and we haven't, we had
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: a few hours left to live, I would want to
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: get hammered. And someone like Kyle said he was like,
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: absolutely not. I would want to be completely sober, like
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: I wanted, like take in those moments with you, those
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: these last moments on Earth. I am going to be
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: so drunk.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: Let's be real, if it's my last day on Earth,
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: for real, I don't have an appetite. I'm vomiting, and
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: I'm extremely upset exactly. That's why it's just like, it's
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: an easy question. Don't think about it too much. Yeah,
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: because it let's be real, if any of us had
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: our last day on Earth and we knew it was
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: our last day, yeah, devastating.
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: Devastating, devastating. So I'm getting hammered. I'm not like, because
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: I talked about this with him too, I'm not trying
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: any new drugs like I'm not because some people are like,
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: oh my god, then I'm gonna do mushrooms.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: It's like no, no, no, no, I'm sticking to what
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: I know, the drink.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: Sticking to what I know. I'm getting hammered. Yeah, maybe
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: if I can stomach a steak. I'm eating the steak.
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: But I'm really just focusing on time with my friends
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: and family, and I get list.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: I really want to spend a lot of time with
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: my friends and family, and I want to give Kyle
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: a bloodless big kiss.
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: Oh my god, it's not really happening. Let's keep its
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: surface level because if we go there, it's gonna take
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: me out if I start going to like ocean's face
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: and like no, my god.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: No you can't do that. Did you not hear the
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: Jim Carrey story. It was Jim Carrey. I believe. If
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: I'm wrong, then I'm wrong. But it was a celebrity.
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: I think it was Jim Carrey. He was on Hawaii
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: and he was with his assistant, and I think he
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: has a child.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: You say he was on Hawaii Island.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: He was in Hawaii. He was in Hawaii. They get
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: he gets a text from his assistant or there's an
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: alert that says there's a missile coming. You have like
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: an hour to live. Basically, take cover. You're about to die,
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: like literally. Their textsas that he's talking to his assistant
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: and they're like what do we do? And hiss. He
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: basically is like I don't want to die in a
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: car like trying to get off this island. So I'm
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: just gonna have to accept my fate. So he either
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: I don't know if he has a kid or not,
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: but he ends up being on the beach and sitting
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: there and he's like, Okay, this is it. And in
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: this moment, he said he and you can google this,
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: he like accepted his fate and like thought about all
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: these different things and it was like a true moment
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: of just like accepting his fate. And I think he
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: called it a beautiful moment. But and then they get
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: a caller text that like that was a April fool
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: and he was furious, but like, which I would be too, but.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: I'd be furious too.
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: Wild.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but that I feel like, who knows, Maybe you
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: do tap into something where it's like, Okay, this is happening,
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: and I now I'm going to see what the other
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: side may or may not be.
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: Damn, this just got deep. I know, I really enjoyed
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: your simple question of what my last meal would be
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: a yarro with blac lablah. Let's just leave it at that.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: At that, Okay, how do you manage to keep your
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: cool and not talk about all the things that are
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: going on?
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: I actually wonder that about you all the time.
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: It is the hardest thing in the world, it really is,
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: to not just like get on my story and be like.
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: Here it all is here.
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: It all is an out every single person who's participated
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: in the shit.
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: The self control that you have is astounding. Just so
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: people you know, your friends on here. No, the amount
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: of times I've told Lalla like it's time get on,
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: you know, make a video and time to tell the
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: truth and we're gonna release it, and she's just like
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: so another caliber and is like, Nope, it's not what
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: we're gonna do. I just got to control myself, got
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: to keep moving forward. So I don't know how you
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: do it. I would have been, well.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: Firstly, I think about Ocean.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: M hm, yeah, you know, it's I feel like I'm
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: playing a game of chess, which is I'm not used
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: to that at all, you know, but when someone is
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: when someone fights with fire, then I have no choice
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: but to fight with fire as well. But it's I
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: think about her first, and then I also going back
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: to how do you let the unknown not take over?
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: When I get to that place, I have to remember
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: to keep my head where my feet are.
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: And we're not doing that.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: This is we have to like I believe in the universe,
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: and the universe has a plan and God has a plan,
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: and everyone is held accountable at some point.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: Okay, even Tom.
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: Girardi at the ripe old age of almost eighty had
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: to answer.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: For what he did.
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're all going to have that day come, and
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: I just kind of lean into that. Now will there
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: may be be a day where I say it's it's time,
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: I'm fucking done. There may be that day where it's like,
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: bring the fucking dogs out now I've had enough. Yeah,
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: not time yet.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And thinking about yeah, I can tell. I mean
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: I see it in you. Every day you think about ocean,
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: and then you have your faith that like that what's
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: done in the dark will come to light, like you
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: always say, so, I just have to.
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: Because it's all about ocean. It's all about ocean. Yeah,
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: so I have to, like and protecting her.
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: How wild is that that literally two and a half
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: three years ago, it was probably about you, not that
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: saying your self is Persian. But for me, most of
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: most things are about me right now I don't have
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: someone to go and then all of a sudden, in
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: within nine months, it's not about you. You would literally
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: put your life on the line for this being in
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: the world.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, I think.
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: I mean it's just incredible, like I think about it
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: with moms and dads, and I'm like, well, it's.
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: A very animalistic thing that happens. You know, you see
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: it in the wild with bears. You come for a
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: bear's clubs like that mama bear is clawing you to death.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: That's how I feel about ocean. Yeah, so there's that
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: look at me. I'm wired. I'm like, maybe I.
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: Can go live right now. And like when it comes
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: to that shit, I am not the best assistant because
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, here we go, it's time. I'm like
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: setting the lights up, relax, not time.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: The relationship changes within the vander Pump Rules Cast.
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: How does it, oh, like, how does it change his season?
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: Well?
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: I okay, so it says the Vanner Pump Rules Cast former,
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: so maybe the former cast. Well with both, I mean
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: there's so much that happens where a passionate group, the
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: littlest things set us off. That's why we have a
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: show on the air. Yeah, because it's not normal most
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: people that can shake things off, like our group maybe
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: has a little bit of a tougher time. Things that
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: happened four, five, six years ago that like most people
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: would be like that happened a really long time ago
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: and people change. Our cast is like nope, holding you accountable.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: Still for that. It's a lot.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and the former cast, like some of them want
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: nothing to do with vander talk, so we leave that
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: in the background, and other people like Dody I feel
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: like she's pretty open to hearing about it.
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and she talks about it. She talked about it
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: on your podcast when she was a guest. Yeah.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: There's something about the former cast when they can say like, hey,
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: I don't like talking about this because it affects me
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: in this way that I'm like, I just love honesty
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: so much.
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: You do when you can tell me.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: Like, hey, by the way this affects me, it kind
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: of ruffles my feathers.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about it. Great. Yeah, I'm
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: not a mind reader.
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: It's the dirt. I just think you love director, tell
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: me what you want so then I can go in
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: that d It's so simple and so many people don't
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: do it. You don't want me to do this anymore,
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: and it makes sense. Okay, great, not going to say it,
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: not going to do it. It's the tiptoeing and like
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: oh you did this, and like, well, I didn't know
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: not to do that.
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: I don't know it's true or the coming from an
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: angle of like really like you let it fester and
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: then you hit a breaking point. And it's like we
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: all do that where we try to shove things down
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: where communication is something like the thought of it is
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: so easy, like just express yourself, but it's like that
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: shit is hard.
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it is hard.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: It's really hard.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: It's hard to come from a place of vulnerability instead
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: of like this affects me and the only way I
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: know how to deal with these feelings is to immediately
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: go into defense mode and aggression.
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: Do you ever because this is thinking about you and like,
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: because I do this all the time. Not all the time,
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: but I used to. Do you ever find yourself in
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: an argument or in a battle in midway through you
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: realize like, oh shit, I'm on the wrong end, but
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: now I can't back down. I gotta keep going or
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: do you never You're like, if I'm about to go
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: into an argument, I know I'm I'm probably right.
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: No, I go into arguments all the time. I mean
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: it's a rare occasion. Like our producer the other day,
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: he was like, it's so crazy, Lalla, because like you
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: go into an argument one hundred and eighty percent right
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: and like you may be completely wrong.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: But by the end of the conversation it's like, wait
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: a minute, maybe she's right.
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: You, and every went around you is like good points,
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: you're right, law.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: But I think I think too much on the details.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: I don't know what it is.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: It's interesting.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: But if you make a valid point, I have no
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: problem being like, you know what, that makes all the
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: sense and I completely understand what you mean.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: Now, Yeah I fucked up.
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: Oh okay, I'm backing down.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah I can back down in two seconds. Yeah, I just,
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: in my mind make a lot of sense.
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: I mean, you do. You argue with the best of them.
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: The hardest part is is I can't argue with someone
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: who wants to hold me accountable for things that happened
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: a really long time ago that we've already talked about. Yeah,
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: and that's what happens with the show a lot of
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: the time. Yeah, is they want to bring I don't
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: want to say they, because not all of them do this,
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: but a specific person loves to go back to what
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: I did when I first entered the show or when
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: I was drinking, and it's like we've talked about it.
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: We already talked about this. Yeah, I live in today. Yes,
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: and it's also hard when you have people who want
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: to hold you accountable.
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: But it's like, who the fuck are you?
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: I got people to hold me accountable, all right, I live,
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: My mama lived with me, bro, my mama can put
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: me in check. I got a sponsor to put me
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: in check. Like, who the fuck do you think you
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: are that you're gonna be schooling me on life? Yeah,
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: once you become Bethany Frankel, then yeah, you can school
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: me on a lot of shit. Until then, shut the
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: fuck up.
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why only a select few I believe can
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: do it and they stay on TV. And that's you guys,
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: because I'm like not sure how, but.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: I just want to keep making positive changes in my life.
• 35:40
  Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, we have. It's like I am not
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: the same person I was last week, and I enjoy
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: that you are not the same person you were who
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: knows yesterday last year? Definitely not when you were drinking.
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: So it's just like wild to me when people bring
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: up things that you did when you were drinking or whatever,
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: even last year. It's like, that's not me anymore.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: Well, because a lot has changed. I made a lot
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: of decisions during my drinking days or even take the
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: drinking out when I was young that like I look
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: back and go, I don't recognize that person. But without
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: that moment, I wouldn't be here right now. And you know,
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: I saw the first episode of vander Pump. Oh my god, yes,
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: they sent it to us.
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: How do you feel?
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: I think it's great. Okay.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: I think my past and things that I have said
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: and done are going to clyde with the person I
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: am now. And there's going to be a lot of
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: people who call me a hypocrite and want to hang
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: on to that person that I.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: Used to be.
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: And there's going to be people who say, like, Okay,
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: she's come really far. And I have to be okay
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: with those people who call me out right, And this
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: is where I have to practice the separating reality from reality.
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: What do you have to say? Like, let's say, though
• 36:59
  Speaker 3: right here, someone said you're someone just viewed watched the
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: first episode of season ten and they said, oh my god, Lala,
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: you're such a hypocrite. What do you have to say
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: to that those people?
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: Nothing?
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: Oh my breath is so precious and my time and energy.
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: I don't need to convince you of anything. Who the
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: fuck do you think you are that I that I
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: need to sit here and explain.
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: My case to you. I don't have to. I think
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: that's what's so nice about this.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: Is we we know when we're filming the reunion already,
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: and I just there's gonna be certain things where I'm like,
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: I'm not arguing about this. Yeah, yes, sometimes I say
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: stupid shit, and I'm okay with that.
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: Moving on, Yeah, I'm okay with that.
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: We all do. The difference is mine's documented for all
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: of you to fucking.
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: Judge me exactly exactly.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: There is a scene though, where I'm like, oh my god,
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: episode one. In episode one, okay, I'm like, I am
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: just like, I don't who is that person?
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: Really?
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Like a throwback scene, Oh okay, like a flashback okay,
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: and I'm looking at myself going crawl into a fucking hole.
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: What are you doing?
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: But again, that moment is like, it's things like that
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: where I sat down the day that I got sober
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: and said, these are the reasons why I've got to
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: stop drinking. Not that I was drunk in the scene,
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: but I was still in my alcoholic mind where you
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: just don't think. And even now today, I have many
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: moments where I'm a dry drunk where I have to say,
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: you know what, it's time to pick up the fucking
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: big book and do better dry drunk.
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: That's interesting. I bet a lot of people deal with that,
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: and I don't know of a single person. I'm sure
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: there are some out there, but I don't know of
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: a single person that doesn't have a moment or for me,
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: millions of moments in my life where I could I
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: could be shown on a screen and I would just
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: be so humiliated's so disappointed, so disgusted. I just I
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: don't know of I'm sure there are the people out
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: there who are like oh, but I just don't know
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: of many.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: I'm not at the place where I can go back
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: and watch old school vander Pump. Yeah, I still cringe
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: and get embarrassed. And next year I'm gonna look back
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: on this on season ten and cringe and be embarrassed.
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: I don't know that that will ever change. I think
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: it'll change when the show is over and I'm like
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: an old woman with grandkids walking around where I'm like,
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: you know what, you guys are old enough, let's see
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: what Graham was like back in the day.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: And then you can laugh and be like, oh, she
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: was wild.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: She was wild. I'm not there yet.
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I still look at myself and go, wow, we
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: got it. We got some work to do, but.
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: That's on fucking growth. And I hope and pray that
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: in a year from now, I'll look back at some
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: things I rode in my fucking journal and be like,
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: oh my god, what a silly girl. She had no idea,
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: or like things that I'm like, oh, thank god, I
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: don't think that way anymore because I'm growing, right, which
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: is like, congrats. I hope a lot of us are
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: like that, right, So I think that's great.
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: So I think we all just need to be easy
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: on ourselves. Yeah, you're gonna be a different person tomorrow
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: than you are today. You're gonna fuck up tomorrow and
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: learn from that. It's just like you just roll with it.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: You know, none of us are ever going to be perfect.
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: We're gonna say things that we wish we didn't say,
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: and tomorrow we're.
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: Gonna say things we wish we didn't say. We'll fuck
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: it whatever. I don't give a fuck.
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: That's okay.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: That's life.
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna take this moment. I'm gonna have it be
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: a teachable moment for me. I'm gonna hopefully do better,
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: and I'm okay with the mistakes that I'm gonna make tomorrow.
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: Bravo, Right, Bravo, Yes, give me a sound bite of that.
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's just a lot of work to be
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: a living, breathing human.
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: It really is. And congrats for everyone who's you know,
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: trudging through.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: Life and making it work.
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you woke up this morning, Good for you. Celebrate that.
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: I'm just like proud of all of us to be
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: all of us too. So there's that. There's my uplifting speech.
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: I love you guys so much. Thank you for tuning
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: in to another chaotic episode of the Give
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: Them Lalla Podcast, and I can't wait to talk to
• 41:15
  Speaker 2: you guys next week.