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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: Zealousness and Defense of Divine Honor 12.11.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  4 all move kind of quickly. They're all the same theme,
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  which is the need for some Kha and mitzah to feel a joy to
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  enjoy all they're doing in this foot.
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  The next level of love about Hashem.
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  Page 395 very important. And of course that idea of some
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  value to emphasize also is endless.
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  We mentioned and clarified hopefully yesterday, which is
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  that a person should feel like I am doing and living my purpose
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  when I am so high. I heard a quote yesterday rented
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  and that quote was there's no greater pain for certain people
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  and feeling like you're not living life's purpose.
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  I don't know where it came from. It sounds like it's my apostle.
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  Go somewhere. The hardest thing in life is you
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  feel like you're not living your purpose.
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  It's a very vague statement, very gentle as someone could
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  define it the way they want. But on the other hand, when you
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  feel like you are living your purpose and flip side's
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  important for us, you feel like you are living a life of
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  meaning. All living purpose is all
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  greater feeling, even if it's a spiritual purpose, even if it's
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  son that's, you know, top part of not part of the regular
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  structure of life. If you feel like you're doing
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  something of meaning, that gives you a great level of joy.
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  Now the next level of avant of love of a champion is not joy.
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  Another display of love. This is very important.
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  This may sound strong. It's kinna.
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  Well, it's kinna, can I mean jealously?
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  But here it means the English word zealousness.
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  To be zealous, that means to be zealous.
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  That means if something bothers you, no, if something you hear
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  is anti Hashem in the world, something comes up in anti
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  Hashem. We're not supposed to feel bad
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  about it. We are actually supposed to be
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  angry about. I'll give you multiple examples.
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  I'll play it out when you hear a law as anti the Jewish way, when
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  you hear you see something public, it's a moral heaven is
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  old when you hear exactly when you see someone say a common
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  like the world is 2 and a half million years old.
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  All these things. This is the bother you bother
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  me. I don't get bothered.
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  I'm a nice guy, I'm an easy guy. What is this made-up?
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  What you think about this trait is very important is that this
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  trait includes and shows all things that you think are bad.
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  It shows anger, it shows upset, it shows frustration.
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  It shows all those different traits which we normally say
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  shouldn't exist. We shouldn't have it.
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  It's the one area in Judaism, I think literally the only one,
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  where the bad traits are supposed to show themselves.
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  What do I mean? Example, Classic example, Pincus
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  or you can't even. We gave you one halacha today,
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  we'll give you another one. Pincus Pechas Benazzar Benadron
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  Acquain. He's so in a more immoral left
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  between a leader and a non Jewish woman and he got up and
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  he killed the two of them. As a zealot, as a man with this
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  me dog, I normally one would say that is a sign of anger.
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  That was a sign of frustration as a sign of emotion.
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  And the reality we're trying to show you is no, it is true that
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  you are reflecting it with anger.
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  What it really is. It's a sign that you care.
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  The whole idea. This means Ivy dies.
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  Do you care or are you in different Classic example of a
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  parent sees another mother yelling at your child.
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  What do you do? You see a mother yelling at your
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  child. You're a nice person.
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  You defend each other. You're a nice person.
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  You're a soft person. You never get angry, but
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  someone's yelling at my child. But get her.
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  I'm a different why? Because I care about a nice
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  person, but here I can't bother me.
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  Someone insults your wife in front of you, You're not happy
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  someone that's right, because you care.
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  But in general, you're indifferent to these things.
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  You don't really care about these things, but when it hurts,
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  you should defend. You care.
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  So you should see some level of defense needs to be hacked.
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  But the natural reaction is that you care when someone, they'll
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  just be put a similar concept, insults God's way.
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  You care. If you care, you react.
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  So when you heard about some of the laws of marriage becoming
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  normal in America years ago, it bothered you.
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  It bothers you deeply. It bothers you because you're
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  children in your office of the world.
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  But more than that, it bothers you because you care about
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  Hashem's way being part of the norm.
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  When you hear all these liberal concepts becoming part of the
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  mainstream will be out there or being spoken about, it pained
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  you not simply because it's against your thoughts, because
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  really you're you're defended, you're zealous about this.
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  You're angry about this because you care.
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  And a person has to be a person who actually gets angry, gets
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  disturbed when there are ideas being publicized.
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  And our guys this way, just being a guy who's Mr. Nice Guy
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  is a beautiful thing every other area of life, but there are
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  times there's No 2. Choose to have the same outlook
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  on anything. Good.
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  So it's simpler when there are things that are cut and joy,
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  it's grayer, Gray area when there are all these
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  controversial issues and yes, I can't cover it on any of them.
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  All those ones that are going on Israel today, between the two
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  sides, all the ones that are Gray areas, many ray areas,
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  something's happened in the community where people make big
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  stinks about things. All those areas.
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  The starting point is they need to come from a good place, you
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  know, the overall ideas. They need to develop a level of
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  care and just say to yourself, I'm indifferent of these things,
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  about these things. I don't ever react.
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  Abouk, you don't ever react. But if let's say Haji Shalom
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  reform took over a big footprint of people around here, you'd
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  react, all right. If someone came in an ideology
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  into the schools that was and I thought you thought was correct,
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  you react right. If someone change how we do our
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  weddings, you react. If someone change how our
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  schooling is run, you'd be upset if someone change how our school
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  systems are going to frustrate you.
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  All these ideas are implication and revealing the fact that you
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  care, and it's important to know that I care about in this way
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  and I have kidna. I have zealotry of zealous when
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  it comes to this area in general.
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  I'm a nice guy in this area. I get fresher and I get angry
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  and it's a point to be. That way, but you get angry.
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  That's the problem there. Yeah, and you're allowed to.
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  You're allowed to. You're supposed to.
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  If it's something, if you heard about the laws of marriage being
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  changed in America in 2008 or whatever it was 2910, if you
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  didn't get angry, it's because you don't care.
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  You're supposed to get angry, and that doesn't mean you can do
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  anything about it. But getting angry is already
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  half the positive battle in the eyes of God.
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  Why go one level deeper? The concept is a kabochamaya
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  should be a front and center of our mind.
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  Kabochamaya. And when something like that
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  happens and you don't care, it means I don't really care about
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  kabochamaya. That's a big problem.
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  I need to be in defence of Kabochamaya.
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  Now you see yourself. How often in my life do these
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  things come up? They come up all the time.
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  Every time someone makes a move in the community that bothers
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  you, every time the wrong person stands at the helm of an
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  institution, every time you hear something public about someone
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  so doing something I all these things bother you and make sure
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  of this. Make sure they continue to
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  bother you. The fact that we're in this nice
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  cozy, everyone gets a long world should not allow, but this need
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  not to go away. You need to be bothered, you
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  need to protest and you definitely need to tell your
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  family about the fact I did not approve of that activity.
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  Now a general shall love is paramount, shall love is #1
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  getting along, being soft spoken, being happy, happy,
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  frustrated, not get angry in every other area of life and
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  correct, correct, correct this one.
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  Stand up. But is it to get angry?
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  To teach your own family? Like knows you can't control the
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  world to control your own family.
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  No, it's both. It's get angry to have an
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  opinion and it's also get angry to to tell your family you have
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  to have an opinion. Why?
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  Because God cares and God is that son over there who feels
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  hurt when someone is doing something against this cover
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  under the law or someone openly doing something in the community
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  that's wrong. God is hurt and if we don't
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  care, God is even more hurt. But if we do care and we can't
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  do anything about it, but God is happier.
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  It's literally like that. Standing up the Cavocha Mayim is
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  paramount and you saw something I don't want to give any
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  examples much out of this power to have the community, but if
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  you saw something that bothered you right, You know the
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  something that bothered you something that according to your
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  upbringing is wrong. Something going to your
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  knowledge of Torah is I am correct.
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  You saw it, you watch it If you just go in here my way.
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  Couple things are happening. As David mentioned, your
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  children are watching you and they're saying if you don't
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  care, we don't care if we don't care no norm Part 1 Part 2 God
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  is watching you and God is saying if you don't care, that
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  means you don't care about me. If you don't care, that means
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  you're not defending my honor. I thought a Jew is here for his
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  sake of what's your mind? Where's he going?
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  That's the idea. So yes, in this one area, we
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  should be strong, we should be angry, we should be frustrated,
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  we should, we should protest, we should even lash out in this one
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  area. Now, it might be once or twice
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  in your life, right? Once or twice in your life, if
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  you know of someone who is publicizing that X kind of
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  marriage is OK. All right, look, I'll give you
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  that easy example. And year or so ago someone told
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  me that is a kid, you know, community all over Instagram,
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  one of those type of things. And there's a keeper.
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  He's wearing a keeper. And people even went all right,
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  either boys told me, this young guy told me this, I got angry
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  and men, I got angry and I said that's a disgusting thing and
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  that person's a terrible person. I said all those languages I
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  never ever used, they were surprised.
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  I said if I don't stand my ground, something, if I have any
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  principle, what am I worth? If the fact that I'm OK with
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  everything, if you OK certain things, then the Jewish people
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  will change. That's a reality if we accept
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  it. You know, someone brought up the
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  edict downstairs and we didn't have an edict.
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  Our community would have changed and we ought to have the modern
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  day unwritten edict which is basically everyone's acceptance
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  of certain norms and not allowing certain people to come
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  into our fold. And we didn't have the modern
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  day version. Then the community would have
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  changed too. The world is changing.
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  Why costume would not happen to us.
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  Don't want anything standing in the way of this is shame.
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  Shocking point. That's the mothers.
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  It's the mothers and it's a shame.
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  It's the embarrassment of evil feeling.
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  I am going to be shunned. I'm out.
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  They won't accept me. Why would they accept him?
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  They won't accept him because they don't accept the ways
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  against God. And that has to be public.
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  That has to be known and has to be expected that there will be a
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  reaction that knows who to get away with.
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  If there's no such expectation, people will do the things that
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  are wrong. That's just a reality of life.
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  No one does something wrong because they want to.
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  They do it because they're pressures.
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  They do it cause temptation. They do it because they're out
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  there in the world and they need something holding them back.
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  The only thing holding people back reality strongest the
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  turret is shame. Jail and shame baby.
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  That's it. So we need to have shame front
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  and foremost, first and foremost.
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  You know, you and I can't just decide whether we're going to
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  shame people. You can't shame a guy for having
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  a Mercedes and you can't shame a guy for having a house in the
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  ocean and you can't shame people for spending money.
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  You got to pick and choose and it's got to be once and twice in
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  your life, but it's got to be there.
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  It has to be something you stay on your ground.
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  And you and I raise our families.
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  This has to be clear. Maybe our kids never even need
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  to know. Michelle don't even need to
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  know. They don't even need to see the
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  conversation. But it has to be.
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  You have a light and you will not allow anyone around you to
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  cross. And if they cross, it gone out,
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  out of bounds. I'll see you later.
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  It has to be if that comes from a sense and a feeling of
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  Kabochumai. I care about God.
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  I'm lost about God. Divea medak #1.
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  Most positive, loving, caring person out there.
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  And he said these words to bring the pasuka at the bottom.
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  We'll close this. Hello, Miss Aneka Shen Esna.
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  The people who hate you. God, I hate that, and the people
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  who rise up and I fight with the people who rise up against you,
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  those who rebelled against Hashem, they're out of my book.
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  They're gone. I'll see them later.
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  I hate them. Whoever used the language hate
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  You don't use the language hate normally, but you do
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  unaccompositors. 3 or 4 examples that we can think of of cases
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  that are extreme. We have to have a line by
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  ourselves. Foul family.
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  That's the God's honor. That's the idea.
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  Stop with this.