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Minisode: Switching Teams with Chelsea + Catherine · Dear Chelsea

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  Speaker 1: Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and
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  Speaker 1: Mighty Tour.
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  Speaker 2: In August you can find me in Calgary, that's Canada.
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  Speaker 2: And September I will be in Santa Barbara, San Diego,
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  Speaker 2: New York City, Philly and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise,
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  Speaker 2: Idaho and Spokan. And then in November I'll be in
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  Speaker 2: San Francisco. I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston,
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  Speaker 2: Dallas Babies, I'll be there. And then in December I
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  Speaker 2: am closing out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So
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  Speaker 2: get your tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High
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  Speaker 2: and Mighty Tour.
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  Speaker 3: Hello Hi, Chelsea.
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  Speaker 1: Hi, it's just to see you today.
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  Speaker 2: Hi.
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  Speaker 4: Like Wise, Likewise, I have an update. Okay, this is
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  Speaker 4: from our Zasha Mammott episode.
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  Speaker 1: Johnsha mammet Sasha.
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  Speaker 4: I know it doesn't seem like it should be because
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  Speaker 4: we all said so for so long.
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  Speaker 3: It's Sasha Zasha.
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  Speaker 2: I just can't get anyone's names right. At least it's
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  Speaker 2: like across the board, you know, right, so no one seriously,
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  Speaker 2: it's kind of like pronouns.
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  Speaker 1: That's how I feel about regular names.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, I'm like how regular people feel about pronouns.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, I can't catch your fucking name right to
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  Speaker 2: begin with, so let's just forget it.
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  Speaker 3: That's why. That's why I'm here to set the record straight.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you from John.
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  Speaker 4: He had written in and like his mom was unsupportive
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  Speaker 4: about his wedding to his husband, so he was not
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  Speaker 4: sure whether to invite her, So he says, Dear Chelsea,
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  Speaker 4: I ended up inviting my mother to the wedding, and
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  Speaker 4: she responded a day after the deadline. Of course, during
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  Speaker 4: our conversation, she made it clear that she was uncomfortable
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  Speaker 4: attending the wedding and tried to blame it on the
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  Speaker 4: tension between her and her brother my uncle.
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  Speaker 3: Although I appreciate her.
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  Speaker 4: Responding instead of ghosting, I'm sensitive to BS and would
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  Speaker 4: have respected her more if she were honest about her
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  Speaker 4: feelings toward LGBTQ relationships. Nonetheless, I found myself less upset
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  Speaker 4: about her absence, and ultimately chose to focus on the
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  Speaker 4: happiness of my soon to be husband current Groomzilla and
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  Speaker 4: to give my energy to those who have supported our relationship.
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  Speaker 4: And will be in attendance. We're both excited to be
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  Speaker 4: tying the not soon. Thank you both for taking the
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  Speaker 4: time to meet with me during a time of confusion
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  Speaker 4: and hurt. It was greatly appreciated warmly, John.
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  Speaker 2: That's nice. I had an interesting conversation the other night
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  Speaker 2: at a dinner. Yeah and yeah, we were talking about
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  Speaker 2: you know, I was talking to two lesbians.
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  Speaker 1: Well, no, they're not lesbians.
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  Speaker 2: So just like one woman had been is with her
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  Speaker 2: partner who it's like the first woman she's ever been
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  Speaker 2: with and she'd only dated men before.
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  Speaker 1: But she they're married now too, they have twins, and.
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  Speaker 2: She was talking about like it was just such an
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  Speaker 2: interesting conversation because like in twenty years from now, like
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  Speaker 2: no one's going to have to come out right, you know,
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  Speaker 2: it's like, oh, you're dating a boy this week, or
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  Speaker 2: you're dating a girl this week, or you only like
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  Speaker 2: girls or you only like boys, Like you don't have
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  Speaker 2: to come out and say anything. Because she was talking
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  Speaker 2: about how when she realized she was in love with
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  Speaker 2: her partner a woman, she was like, Okay, wait a second,
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  Speaker 2: what do I do here? I have to tackle lesbian
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  Speaker 2: sex like I've never done that, and that seems like
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  Speaker 2: a challenge. And then she goes, and then I thought
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  Speaker 2: back to when I was a little girl and people
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  Speaker 2: told me that I was going to have to start
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  Speaker 2: giving blowjobs, you know, to guys, And she goes, and
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  Speaker 2: that was horrifying.
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  Speaker 1: And then then you had to be good.
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  Speaker 2: Not only you were going to be expected to do that,
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  Speaker 2: but you were going to be expected to be good
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  Speaker 2: at it.
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  Speaker 1: She goes. That was awful.
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  Speaker 2: And I learned how to do that, and here I
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  Speaker 2: am again now having to relearn something, and I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: that's no problem. I have actually heard any but I've
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  Speaker 2: already learned this like once, and it was a pain
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  Speaker 2: in the ass. And so I was like, oh, that's
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  Speaker 2: such a great way of talking about it, you know.
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  Speaker 2: And also I was like, did you have to come
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  Speaker 2: out as a lesbian?
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  Speaker 1: She goes.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I was like thinking and contemplating, Like do
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  Speaker 2: I have to come out as a lesbian?
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  Speaker 1: Because now I'm with a woman. It's like she's just fluid.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, right exactly, and like after a while, we won't
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  Speaker 2: even be asking people those questions.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think, you know, for a long time, I
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  Speaker 4: consider myself queer, even though I'm married to a man.
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  Speaker 4: But I realize, like more lately, I'm like, I guess
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  Speaker 4: I'm panned because like I don't know, I'm by trans
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  Speaker 4: guys are very hot, you know. So I'm like, once
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  Speaker 4: you get past like the gender.
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  Speaker 3: Of it all, all the whole gay straits.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess fluid as a reference more to you
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  Speaker 2: your self identity, right, rather than your sexual preference.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I guess I hope it all goes out
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  Speaker 1: the window.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Now, okay, were they friends for a long time?
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  Speaker 2: First they had built a friendship, but not for a
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  Speaker 2: long extended period of time.
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  Speaker 1: They met on a movie. It's I'm reading this book.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna have this guest on.
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  Speaker 2: It's called This Is what Happens when Women Read, which
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  Speaker 2: is a great book about this evangelical Christian woman, Juliana Glass.
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  Speaker 1: And then she kind of renounces religion and she has
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  Speaker 1: all this.
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  Speaker 2: She starts reading books basically like Pluto and or Pluto
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  Speaker 2: that's a planet.
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  Speaker 1: She starts reading.
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  Speaker 2: Pluto and Jupiter and Saturn, and she does the best plan.
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  Speaker 1: She just gives herself a huge like Darwin.
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  Speaker 2: She reads all these you know, Socrates, all of these
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  Speaker 2: like philosophers and Nietzsche, and she's just starts questioning everything
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  Speaker 2: in her life, of course, and is like, wait, why
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  Speaker 2: is there so much hate? And I'm and then you know,
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  Speaker 2: of course she ends up having sex with women too,
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  Speaker 2: not only women, She's actually having sex with men and
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  Speaker 2: women in this book where I am anyway, But.
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  Speaker 1: It's just so funny. Many people end up yes, once
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  Speaker 1: it's not our women, and we're like, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Once you get past the prerequisite of like, okay girls
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  Speaker 4: nate boys, and then you're just like, wait, no, there
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  Speaker 4: are no rules anymore.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of people open up yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Well our caller today is Jen and she says, Dear Chelsea,
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  Speaker 4: this is some wedding drama.
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  Speaker 3: I love wedding drama.
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  Speaker 4: I genuinely can't tell if my husband and I are
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  Speaker 4: being reasonable millennials or selfish assholes.
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  Speaker 3: Here's the situation.
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  Speaker 4: My husband's aunt is getting married this summer in Belize
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  Speaker 4: over a holiday weekend. Important context, she was incredibly generous
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  Speaker 4: during our wedding and twenty twenty four she helped pay
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  Speaker 4: for our invitations and give us money toward wedding expenses.
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  Speaker 4: We're genuinely grateful for everything she did for us. Now
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  Speaker 4: Here's where I'm conflicted.
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  Speaker 3: She is someone who.
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  Speaker 4: Loves to talk shit lovingly, but still about big, elaborate weddings,
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  Speaker 4: expensive parties, and over the top celebrations. So when she
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  Speaker 4: announced a destination wedding on a holiday, I had to
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  Speaker 4: laugh a little internally, because, ma'am the irony. My husband
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  Speaker 4: and I are millennials who just bought our first home
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  Speaker 4: last August with zero financial help from anyone. As you
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  Speaker 4: can imagine, buying a house in this economy has humbled
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  Speaker 4: us deeply. Every extra dollar seems to go towards something breaking, repairs, furniture,
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  Speaker 4: or just surviving homeownership. You know about that, Chelsea, my husband.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't think we should compare my situation
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  Speaker 2: to anyone calling in.
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  Speaker 1: That's not realistic, just lots of expenses. I just don't
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  Speaker 1: want any more shit from anyone.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, we'll just never bring it up again, just like
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  Speaker 4: if we don't talk about it, nothing bad will happen. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: my husband originally wanted to go to her wedding because
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  Speaker 4: he feels guilty not showing up. But now with that
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  Speaker 4: we've looked at logistics, the trip feels kind of insane.
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  Speaker 4: Flights are like eight hundred dollars per person because of
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  Speaker 4: holiday and somehow getting to Believe from New York is
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  Speaker 4: turning into a twenty eight hour travel experience with multiple layovers.
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  Speaker 4: We're talking expensive, exhausting, and honestly stressful. So my question
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  Speaker 4: is are we wrong for not going? Are we wrong
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  Speaker 4: for not even trying to have my husband go solo,
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  Speaker 4: especially considering everything she did for us for our wedding.
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  Speaker 3: And if we don't go, what's the classy way to
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  Speaker 3: make up for it?
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  Speaker 4: Or are we supposed to suck it up, swipe the
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  Speaker 4: credit card and show face because family obligation wins signed
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  Speaker 4: a guilty millennial jen.
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  Speaker 1: Hi, Hi, you're so cute.
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  Speaker 5: Thank you you too, Love.
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  Speaker 1: All our listeners are so cute. It's such a compliment
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  Speaker 1: some unity.
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  Speaker 3: It's calling in.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you have to go to that wedding
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  Speaker 1: you think so? Yes, this woman.
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  Speaker 2: Helped her with her own wedding, and like, I understand
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  Speaker 2: the expenses, but is there anyone else you can team
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  Speaker 2: up with to share at least a house or something
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  Speaker 2: inexpensive like another couple or something that can help you
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  Speaker 2: save some costs.
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  Speaker 6: So that was the plan, but no one is going,
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  Speaker 6: even her own daughters aren't going because of how not
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  Speaker 6: only is it expensive Chelsea, but like the flight to
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  Speaker 6: get through twenty eight hours.
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  Speaker 1: To believe believe from where from.
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  Speaker 6: New York because the only day where there's a direct
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  Speaker 6: flight it's on the day of her wedding.
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  Speaker 1: That no, twenty eight hours.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, so her own daughters aren't going, And we were
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  Speaker 6: going to share a house initially to like cut the costs,
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  Speaker 6: but once they told me that they weren't going, we
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  Speaker 6: were likeugh.
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  Speaker 1: Does she have you spoken to her?
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  Speaker 5: I have not.
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  Speaker 3: No, Okay, what if let me just throw this out there.
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  Speaker 4: What if you guys host a little like cake and
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  Speaker 4: ice cream homecoming party for them at your beautiful house
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  Speaker 4: when they get back?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I mean that's okay, but like you guys live
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  Speaker 2: in the same city.
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  Speaker 5: She's moving, and she's moving back to New York.
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  Speaker 1: And where do you live? You live in New York.
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  Speaker 5: When you're the Emma West Orange.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I write by my family. I think you
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  Speaker 1: should be very honest with her first of all.
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  Speaker 2: And just like if so, you can't. You don't have
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  Speaker 2: the option of flying direct, Is that right?
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  Speaker 1: Okay? So you don't have the option of flying direct?
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  Speaker 2: It's a twenty eight hour flight there three weekend for
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  Speaker 2: a three day weekend. That's not that's that in itself
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  Speaker 2: is a reason tonight. I didn't realize that part and
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  Speaker 2: then the cost. I think you should call her though,
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  Speaker 2: and talk to her, just be like, you really wanted
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  Speaker 2: to make this happen because of everything she's done for you,
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  Speaker 2: and it's really important for you to that you really
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  Speaker 2: wanted to be there, but you're finding it unmanageable. And
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  Speaker 2: maybe she's getting married and belize because she doesn't fucking
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  Speaker 2: want anybody to come true.
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  Speaker 5: I was thinking, that's what I was thinking.
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  Speaker 2: But I think, just like front load it, yeah, don't like,
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  Speaker 2: get get ahead of it and just be really honest
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  Speaker 2: and upfront and tell her what the deal is and
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  Speaker 2: just say, is there any way we can celebrate when
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  Speaker 2: you come back, Like, don't get into all the just say,
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  Speaker 2: don't get into all the financial issues, get into the
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  Speaker 2: flight duration. And also you know now that we're not
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  Speaker 2: able to share a house with anybody. We're pretty strapped financially,
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  Speaker 2: even though we were going to just try to make
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  Speaker 2: it work even so, but it's just becoming obvious that
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  Speaker 2: it's not going to be manageable, and we wanted to
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  Speaker 2: just like touch base with you on this before and
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  Speaker 2: let you know, and just do that and see how
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  Speaker 2: her response is.
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  Speaker 1: Hopefully she'll be really understanding.
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  Speaker 2: And if she's upset, then I think you should just
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  Speaker 2: go back to her and say, like, let's figure out
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  Speaker 2: a way to make this. Let's have a celebration for
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  Speaker 2: all the people that couldn't be there when you come
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  Speaker 2: home that you'd be willing to host in your new house.
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  Speaker 6: I do want to do something for her. God, really,
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  Speaker 6: that's a good idea, because I do want to do
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  Speaker 6: something for her.
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  Speaker 5: I feel bad.
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  Speaker 2: Twenty eight hours of flying doesn't make any sense for anything, really,
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  Speaker 2: I mean unless you're going to for two weeks twenty
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  Speaker 2: eight hours, like no, that's not right.
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  Speaker 6: You're going to like Asia right like or I don't know,
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  Speaker 6: but now for three days, and also like over five
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  Speaker 6: thousand dollars yeah right, right, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I also think if she knew that you guys needed
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  Speaker 4: a little help with your wedding, she probably knows you
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  Speaker 4: know that that might be too expensive. So I think
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  Speaker 4: Chelsea's exactly right, like frontload this talk.
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  Speaker 2: To her and also just set as a reminder when
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  Speaker 2: you're writing that email. Send it in an email so
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  Speaker 2: she can read it a couple times before she responds.
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  Speaker 2: If she does, if she does have like a reaction
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  Speaker 2: that's angry or mad or anything, but that usually calms
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  Speaker 2: people down.
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  Speaker 1: I think rereading stuff.
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  Speaker 2: But and then you can write at the end, reread
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  Speaker 2: this twice before responding no. But you can also say
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  Speaker 2: to her acknowledge everything that she did, you know, for
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  Speaker 2: you guys, at the top of the letter or within the.
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  Speaker 1: Body of the letter.
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  Speaker 2: At some point, just acknowledge everything she's done so that
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  Speaker 2: she doesn't if she's the type of person that would
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  Speaker 2: want to respond with like how could you? But do
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  Speaker 2: you know how she responded to her daughter's not coming.
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  Speaker 5: I think one word like noted.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So so approach it a little bit more, you know, softly.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I wanted to acknowledge that her help.
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  Speaker 6: I want to acknowledge she's been very very nice to
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  Speaker 6: me since I started like dating my husband, Like, she's
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  Speaker 6: been so nice. So that's why I feel bad, And
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  Speaker 6: I was trying to figure out, like what can I do?
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  Speaker 6: But I like the idea of writing something instead of
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  Speaker 6: like anyway, just like give her some time. Yes, absolutely, Yeah,
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  Speaker 6: that's great. Okay, thank you, okay, better, good good, all right,
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  Speaker 6: take care.
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  Speaker 5: Thank you you too, bye bye.
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  Speaker 1: You lost me at fucking twenty eight hours. Can you
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  Speaker 1: imagine how many of the money overs there?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I agree.
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: I bought new earrings with my sissies. We went to
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  Speaker 1: Sedona for the weekend and I bought these pretty thank you.
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  Speaker 2: They go all the way up my ears, so so like,
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  Speaker 2: I don't think I can sleep in them, which is
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  Speaker 2: why I have earrings like light earrings, so I can
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  Speaker 2: always sleep in them, because it's like I'm just gonna
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  Speaker 2: lose these.
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  Speaker 3: They have a flat back in case you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I do.
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  Speaker 2: Oh that's nice, Yeah I do. I need to just
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  Speaker 2: get earrings tattooed into my ears. That's my new thing, tattoos.
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  Speaker 2: After I got my eyebrows tattooed, I'm like, all right,
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  Speaker 2: what else can I fucking tattoo?
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 3: Would you get like a tattoo?
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: Tattoo?
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't care about tattoos. But my niece just
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  Speaker 2: got one, Seneca. I found out my sister told us
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  Speaker 2: she got one of the three girls when we went
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  Speaker 2: to Africa, the three nieces they got. There's a picture
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  Speaker 2: of them like kind of dancing, and she got that,
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  Speaker 2: which is really cute.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I like that.
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  Speaker 4: I like it when they have like a really nice
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  Speaker 4: meaning or yeah, cousins.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that.
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  Speaker 3: That's really sweet.
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  Speaker 1: Well.
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  Speaker 4: Our last little question for today is from Sarah. She says,
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  Speaker 4: I started talking with a guy on Hinge who has
• 13:50
  Speaker 4: long term relationship on his profile. After chatting, it seems
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  Speaker 4: like he's really only interested in hooking up, and essentially
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  Speaker 4: admitted as much to me. He said he only puts
• 13:59
  Speaker 4: long relationship on his profile to up his chances of
• 14:02
  Speaker 4: meeting up with someone. To be honest, I had been
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  Speaker 4: interested in just hooking up with him, but the bait
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  Speaker 4: and switch has me leary. Should I meet up with
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  Speaker 4: him and see if we have chemistry or skip it
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  Speaker 4: and move on?
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  Speaker 2: Sarah, I always think that's a bad you know, if
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  Speaker 2: you're not representing yourself fully and honestly.
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  Speaker 1: I would stay away from that person.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, the bait and switch gives me the eck.
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  Speaker 2: I don't like back and forth with when when there's
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  Speaker 2: relationship drama, I don't at this stage in my life.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have time for that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, if there's like a lot of back and forth
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  Speaker 2: and like you're saying one thing and you're doing another.
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  Speaker 1: Then you get like two tries, right, and that's it.
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  Speaker 2: And I think for that, like, yeah, if you want
• 14:35
  Speaker 2: to hook up with him and you're yeah, I don't
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  Speaker 2: respect that.
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: And actually, you know what, as a woman.
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: Just for the other women that he comes into contact with,
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: like it would be because it could go either way.
• 14:47
  Speaker 2: He could all of a sudden be like, oh, I'm
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: never telling them that I'm only into hooking up, or
• 14:50
  Speaker 2: he could be even more honest on his profile so
• 14:52
  Speaker 2: that he's not catching women that are looking for something more.
• 14:55
  Speaker 4: That's the thing is, like there are plenty of women
• 14:57
  Speaker 4: who are just interested.
• 14:58
  Speaker 1: I'm one of them, one of those people.
• 15:01
  Speaker 4: Hello, she's right here, So just put that on your profile, Okay, Sarah.
• 15:06
  Speaker 4: So I think we're saying skip it, don't keep it. Yeah, skip,
• 15:09
  Speaker 4: There are plenty of it.
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: When men act honestly, then we can reward them. When
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: they're dishonest, and what's the point. Then you're just setting
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: up a pattern of behavior where they're dishonest and they
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: get away with that.
• 15:18
  Speaker 3: You know what we need?
• 15:18
  Speaker 4: We need an app where women can like report them
• 15:22
  Speaker 4: and like search by their photos.
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: Well, I put up my first batch of.
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: Straight women on my little series, my dating series on
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: Instagram this week. So I'm waiting to hear because I
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: was very loath to do that because of the way
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: men behave, you know, and because I don't know how,
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: you know, how many straight male followers I actually have,
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: so I wanted to like see how they act with
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: you know, with that, And so I'm waiting to hear
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: some feedback from these women to see what kind of
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: men have approached them and if they're being respectful, because
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: there's so many straight women in my dms that I
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: really want to like help them find men, But I
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: don't know. I'm definitely the place to find women and
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: straight straight women, gay women and gay men. Yeah, I
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: don't know if I'm the place to find straight men, right.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: All Right, you have it well for this, Okay, bye bye,
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: bye bye.
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