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141. I've Been in Problem Energy · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping.
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  You elevate your. Impact in the world I'm Steph
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  Safra, your host. Let's explore the power of
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  showing up with intention and energy each day.
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  This is for those who seek to make life truly meaningful.
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  Get ready for impact. Hey team, welcome to the show.
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  I'm so glad you're here. I woke up this morning to the
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  sound of rain and I love the sound you can hear on the roof
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  and on the windows and skylights and it just felt good.
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  I think we're about to enter fall.
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  The first day of fall is the 23rd Tuesday, so tomorrow.
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  So I'm ready for it. I don't know about you, but I
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  think the seasons are good markers for the change that we
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  want in our lives. As I always say, humans don't
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  want to be stagnant. We want change, and I enjoy the
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  shift. I hope you do too.
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  In this episode, we are going to talk about something we've
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  covered before, and it's the idea of problem energy versus
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  solution energy. And I think because of the shift
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  in the seasons going from summer to fall, this is a good time to
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  talk about it again. It's always a relevant topic,
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  something that we need frequent reminders about, so it's time to
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  revisit the idea. In coaching, we speak a lot
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  about problems. Many of my clients bring
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  problems to the table and we talk about them and we work
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  through them. It's a big part of the job, as
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  it should be, because when you work with people who own
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  businesses or run teams or manage people, you're going to
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  run into problems. I mean, hell, you run into
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  problems just in your day-to-day life running a household.
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  But one of the things that I teach people is that the energy
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  of a problem is different than the energy of a solution.
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  And this is very important to note because many people will go
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  round and round with the same problem or the same types of
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  problems wondering why they can't get to a resolution.
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  So first what I want to do is a little recap on problem and
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  solution energy so we can have our foundation for the
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  conversation. Problem energy is primarily low
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  frequency emotions. And if you were to measure the
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  frequency of an emotion on a scale, these are all going to be
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  lower measurements in Hertz. These are emotions like apathy,
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  hopelessness, sadness, anger, bitterness, frustration,
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  resentment, etcetera, things like that.
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  Solution energy is more high frequency emotions, so they
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  measure higher on the Hertz scale.
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  And solution energy would include emotions like courage,
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  curiosity, hope, excitement, joy, gratitude, appreciation,
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  etcetera. So high frequency emotions.
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  There's a scale that charts out the different emotions and their
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  respective measurement. It's called the emotional scale.
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  David R Hawkins. He references these measurements
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  in many of his books. I'm a huge fan of David R
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  Hawkins. I think I've talked about him
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  before in some of my past episodes, but if you haven't
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  read his books, they're really incredible.
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  He's a renowned physician and researcher.
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  He's written so many books. One of my favorites is called
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  Letting Go. So if you haven't ever read
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  anything by him, go out there and get it.
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  I would start with Letting Go. It's one of my faves in
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  referencing this emotional scale.
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  An emotion like apathy, for example, it measures at around
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  50 Hertz, whereas an emotion like joy or peace or gratitude,
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  they would range from 540 to 650 Hertz on the emotional scale.
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  Now that's a big difference. That's a huge gap from 50 to 650
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  Hertz. And that's why when you're in
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  problem energy, you can't easily get to a solution.
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  It's just a totally different place.
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  It's a different frequency, it's a different feeling, and we have
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  to transition from problem to solution.
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  So what does it look like to be in problem energy?
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  What kind of actions would it be?
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  Well, it looks like complaining. It's victim mentality, it's
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  gossiping, it's bitching or ranting or venting.
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  All those things would be classified as problem energy
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  behavior. And So what does solution energy
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  look like? It's how do I want to feel?
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  Where do I want to go? What do I want to do?
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  Who do I want to be? It's being curious, it's being
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  creative, being open minded. It's listening to other people,
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  being in appreciation or gratitude.
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  It's feeling joy or excitement or happiness about things and
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  circumstances in your life and your relationships.
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  And yes, you're going to be in problem energy.
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  Sometimes that's OK. Sometimes knowing what you don't
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  want helps you understand what you do want.
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  We've all been there before. But the other thing is that
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  problem energy is often a habit for people.
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  We can get stuck in a loop of negative thinking.
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  We might not be watching our input very closely, so we get in
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  the habit of doom scrolling or watching negative news all the
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  time, or listening to pressing music or hanging out with
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  negative people. And the people thing is
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  interesting because problem energy is often a place where
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  people find connection to other people.
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  The complaining and the gossiping that happens when
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  people get together, It's a way to find common ground.
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  But The thing is, it's a low vibe connection.
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  It's a very low frequency connection, and what we're
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  looking for is a higher energy connection with people, which
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  would be solution energy. Those are the friendships and
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  the relationships that are quality, that fill you up.
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  When you're hanging out with those people and you leave, you
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  feel good, you feel uplifted, you feel cheerful, that kind of
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  stuff. Not drained or depressed or
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  exhausted or feeling down or discouraged.
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  Now, one of the reasons I wanted to do a refresh episode on this
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  topic is because I've noticed myself being in problem energy
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  lately. You know, I've had some bumps in
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  the road with the end of my treatment that I've shared a
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  little bit about on social media.
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  I've had some side effects as a result of my chemo and my
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  immunotherapy that we didn't anticipate, and they affected my
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  adrenals, and it's been really mentally challenging to deal
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  with those side effects that kind of come and go.
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  I never really know how good I'm going to feel in a day.
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  I think I was in a place where I was so ready to be done with
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  treatment after so many months of chemo and mastectomy surgery,
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  you're just so mentally ready to move on and start feeling
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  better. And when you don't immediately
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  start to feel better, it messes with your head.
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  And it messed with my head, to be honest.
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  It scared me. It all came out of nowhere and
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  for a while I was really pretty afraid of how I was feeling.
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  It's been just over a month that I've been managing all of this
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  and trying to recover and heal. But something I've noticed,
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  especially in the last week is that I felt that I've been in
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  problem energy. I felt the problem energy.
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  Meaning I've been noticing that I'm talking about my struggles a
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  lot. I've been focused on my symptoms
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  a lot and it's like something in the last week flipped in me and
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  I'm kind of sick of hearing myself talk about how I'm
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  feeling. I'm really kind of sick of
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  thinking about it and focusing on the symptoms and and all the
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  stuff that goes along with it. And this is kind of how it
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  works. We often go into problem energy
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  when something hard happens and it's our process to get out of
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  it. That's a very natural thing.
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  I was in the problem for a while, especially in the
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  beginning when I was trying to figure this all out.
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  I was processing a lot of fear and emotions and I was just kind
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  of in it. And it's natural to be there in
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  that energy, in that place. Especially at the start of
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  anything, you're working it through.
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  You have to feel the feelings and let them move through you
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  and have your process with it. But there's always a moment when
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  things shift, and I've felt this so many times in my life, and I
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  especially felt it last week. You feel like you're kind of at
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  a turning point, and that's when you have a choice.
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  You could stay in problem energy or you can move into solution
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  energy. You know, my coach recently said
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  to me, why is he so afraid? Steph, you're at the end of a
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  marathon. You've been running for months
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  and you're almost at the finish line.
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  She said. What happens so often to people
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  who are racing hard in a marathon?
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  Their bodies are struggling. They look exhausted and drained.
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  Sometimes people are throwing up at the line, sometimes they're
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  limping across. In some cases, people have to
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  carry them across the finish line.
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  She was describing all this and it had me thinking, if I
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  consider that analogy of the marathon, there's two different
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  perspectives you could have about that kind of scene.
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  You could be hyper focused on the racers ailments, only see
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  they're limping, or they're throwing up and be absolutely
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  freaked out or worrying and wondering what was going to
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  happen to them. That feels like problem energy
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  to me. Or you could zoom out and see
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  the whole scene. You could see that they were
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  competing and pushing and striving to get to that finish
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  line, but it was all for a purpose and a reason if
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  something they wanted to do and that they would be OK after they
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  recovered from the race. And when I think about that
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  perspective, it feels like solution energy.
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  And I've decided that I want that second perspective.
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  I want to zoom out and see the finish line and the race.
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  I don't want to be in fear anymore.
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  I don't want to be hyper focused on the symptoms or the days that
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  don't feel that great. I want to keep my eyes forward
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  and my heart open and focus on healing.
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  I want to level set my expectations about how fast
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  things should happen because my expectations are always a little
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  off and just do what I can control day by day.
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  And as I'm talking about all this, I wonder what kind of
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  marathon you might be running in your life.
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  Maybe you're doing the work in a relationship that's been really
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  hard, but you know it's worth it because you love that person.
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  Maybe you've been grinding at work for the promotion or the
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  opportunity that you really want and you haven't gotten there
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  yet, but you will. Maybe you took a big risk and
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  left your job, or you moved to another city, or you had that
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  hard conversation with someone that you care about and things
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  aren't great yet, but they will be.
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  Maybe you're hustling so hard to get yourself in a good financial
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  place and maybe pay off a bunch of debt and you aren't free yet,
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  but you will be. In any of those circumstances,
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  it can feel really easy to be focused on the problems.
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  We can all acknowledge that you don't have to look very far to
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  find a problem, right? But I know that we all want to
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  get to our solutions and at some point we have to make a
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  conscious choice to shift our energy, shift our energy from
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  problem to solution. So my challenge for you this
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  week is to look around and see where are you in problem energy
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  in your life and Are you ready to make a shift so you can get
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  to solution energy? Are there any marathons that
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  you're running right now? And are you aware of what
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  perspective you might have about it?
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  I've learned this lesson so many times and I know that I'm not
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  done learning it. It's part of growth and
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  expansion. We get better and better, but we
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  never stop learning. And this lesson will hit me
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  again and again. But I'm OK with that.
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  I'm OK with putting in the reps so that I can be in solution
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  energy as much as I can be. So look, as we close today,
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  we'll just note you might be in the problem sometimes and that's
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  OK. It is, but it's not where you're
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  going to find the solution. So that's all for today.
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  Thank you for being here and for listening.
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