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Episode 398: College Football Week 1 Breakdown: Control the Controllables · The Growth Project

• 0:00
  can you stay true to who you are and persevere? I think that's a test. That's the challenge that lies within all of us.
• 0:06
  And part of why people love college football, it's such a great microcosm of life. Can you just accept the challenge and be proud of how you show up, and be proud of how you competed in and stay? Focus on the things you can control?
• 0:22
  Welcome to the Growth Project, a podcast brought to you by Angelo's in the studio today, doctor Drew Brain and joined by Doctor Milt. Louder. Welcome to the show. Yeah, it's been a minute since you and I've done a podcast together,
• 0:35
  I think it has. Yeah, this is a good one to be getting, you know, kind of the squad back together because, you know, we try to do it every year and that is our college football edition.
• 0:45
  Right. So, following week one, it feels like the right time to just dive into it at least a little bit. For some of us, it's, for some, that conversation may be easier, than others. But yeah, I think this is, it's been a part of our life for, I mean, ever since we, we've been together, our role in college football.
• 1:04
  And what do we learn? What do we know? But not only Clemson's experience, George's experience, but want to look at the big picture. What are some things we noticed over week one? The anticipation has been building, and hopefully to share some of those insights. Yeah. And I think we mentioned this each time we do this podcast.
• 1:21
  But, although we have listeners of the Growth Project all over the world, which we're super grateful for, we also have a large concentration of listeners kind of in the South, in the South East, because that's where we're located here in Greenville, South Carolina. And we know that, football, college football specifically, it's a really big part of of the culture.
• 1:40
  Yes. I mean, it just is. And it's always funny to me when you meet those people that, you know, and we know plenty of folks that are from bigger pro sports markets and, they don't really care about college football. And so, like, it's just so interesting because it's just, you know, we do. Yeah, it's in our backyard.
• 1:59
  It's a big part of our culture here. But we realize that that's true for some of our listeners than that. And we hope again, our, our work is hopefully the understanding and bringing to life these challenges that maybe are affecting. We're talking about college sports, but they're so applicable to the rest of our life and so applicable to our business.
• 2:16
  And so, examples we're going to use this week are very relevant and pertinent to, hey, here's what may be happening in my business right now. Here's something. Something can go my way or things are going really good, or we have these challenges where we have disruptions, how are we at react and how are we responding. So that's hopefully some light we can shed, whether you're a college football fan or not.
• 2:37
  Yeah. All right. So let's just jump into it. And I think the way that I would want to think about it would be this, you know, it's a really unique thing to spend somewhere between 9 to 10 months building towards something, right. Like like there. You think about what what industry are you in? I don't know that you do that in in a similar way, when you in the sense of like, no one had played a football game in no.
• 3:05
  Ten months. Yeah. So they have all these teams. They had not played a competitive game for almost a year, you know, not quite a year, but almost a year depending on when their season ended with 910 months or so. They've literally spent 9 or 10 months all building toward this like 3.5 hour thing. Yeah. Right. And so you think about like, what are some of the implications of that?
• 3:26
  Let's start there. When you, when you spend that much time building toward this like a first game, first game, what does that do to people kind of heading into it. Yeah. So so even even thinking about building into it, another component of that is how many times in life or in business are you working towards or for?
• 3:44
  Not. And you get zero feedback from the market, you know? Right. Like you get zero feedback out externally. You have no idea how ready or not. So ready. Yeah, yeah. What's your scheme? Look at like what? Your talent. How do they measure? You got some idea because maybe you got some. But in today's age, what's the chemistry of the team?
• 3:59
  How are they going to respond. So the the spring practice and preseason and camp, you're going to challenge them and go to some adversity, but you really get zero feed. Yeah. Zero feedback from the market. You're going good on good or good against scout team. Maybe you're you know, new new rules. You're kind of physically, involved as much.
• 4:19
  And so I think that's a challenge as well. And so there's so much anticipation, so much energy build up to this first game. And you only get guaranteed 12 games a year, right. And so I think the psychology behind that, the anticipation one is how do you coach the grind. How do you how do you as a coach make it creative and make it innovative and and just nuanced enough to fight the, what was a podcast we did that time or the video?
• 4:46
  The, mundanity of Excellence? Whoever wrote that book, you know, we know what a grind it is. And in college sports, what you spend 98% of your time practicing. Yeah. And yeah. And so after nine months, you're just ready to go. But I think those are some challenges that I think about. It is like, you know, you think you know what you got.
• 5:07
  But in today's world, you're not quite sure how the team is going to come together. Are they going to sacrifice or are they going to communicate well, or are they going to compete well? Are they going to respond to success in a certain way? They're going to respond to failure in a certain way. I think those are all the things you just don't know until you get out there and spot the ball.
• 5:23
  And, you know, why do people, you know, we'll get to this later in the discussion today? Why do we tend to see so such massive overreactions to week one? Well, that's part of the reason why I like so badly. Want it to go well. Yeah. You know, when you spend 9 to 10 months preparing for and we know you're not just preparing for week one, of course you are.
• 5:43
  But that's the first piece of feedback you get. It's the first day that you get on. Well here's kind of where we are. Yeah. And so they so badly wanted to go. Well, why do you see coaches and players who tend to be so worked up in week one? Well, that's why because they put so much into it and they want to go out and have a good game.
• 6:01
  Yeah, yeah. And everybody's just hungry for that. Like all that that's been communicated has been through the lens of a coach. You know we're a beat writer and everybody's full of optimism right? Everybody's full of hope. And week one now there's still a lot of hope and excitement. There's there's some teams that maybe you still don't know what you have, but you're still trying to figure it out.
• 6:22
  And so you think about how if you're not careful, that can set you up for a really tough dynamic. And that, okay, emotions are high, stress is high, anticipation is high. Those are the precise ingredients psychologically that typically help us play our best. Yeah, yeah. That's why it's so important that people are able to try to kind of steady themselves out a little bit mentally and emotionally.
• 6:45
  Some people do that better than others. You'll hear coaches talk about this a ton, and we just got to sell into the game. We've got a certain game. But that's that's what they're saying. Yeah. You talking about finding that zone. You know of peak performance. And how do you handle the emotion. And I think that's what we talk about so much and try to teach drew that adrenaline is activated when I'm really nervous, when I'm scared, when I'm excited, when I'm motivated, when I'm mad, when I'm frustrated.
• 7:10
  And part of that is, can I interpret those emotions correctly so I can stay focused on the task at hand? It doesn't hijack me away from my process, but I don't get so distracted by the energy. I remember right when I first started work with our team, our kicker came down the hill at Clemson and he came over and he was hyperventilating.
• 7:27
  He had to go kick off and he's like, I need some help. I'm so fired up right now. There's the first game of the year. I can't remember who we were playing, but he couldn't breathe. He was so, so just overwhelmed with emotion and like, that's what's building as well. The anticipation, anticipatory anxiety, causes many, a last night's late, it's going to be fired up.
• 7:50
  But yeah, he was he was he was jacked. I still remember that. So let's let's introduce a concept that we've talked about, on prior episodes. Plenty. And a lot of our work with an A-plus of the you trifecta. Yeah, because I saw it show up a bunch this weekend over the course of the college football week one.
• 8:09
  And so just to reiterate, for our listeners, when we say that you trifecta, all we mean is this is the description when things and when something happens in life where suddenly things show up, that are uncontrollable, unexpected and undesirable. Yeah. So we hope we don't have a lot of those, but guess what? You'll have some right?
• 8:31
  And so when something pops up that is unexpected, uncontrollable and undesirable, it can really put us on our heels. Yeah, I think probably you brought the you trifecta. I had my mind, Tony Bernardini getting real excited that we're going to talk about youth football. And, you know, they're their offense, defense, special teams. I bet my man Tony was all fired up.
• 8:50
  And a bunch of hurricane fans and I understand. Unfortunately, I actually talked about on the radio this morning. Drew, this is exactly where Clemson is.
• 8:58
  when you find for us what is undesirable, unexpected, uncontrollable. We talk a lot about this in a reaction and a response. And and the reaction is warranted. I think it's just in our human nature to react in a certain way based on your lands, based on your mindset, based on your past experiences, based on your expectations and, and that reaction, especially just even from a Clemson perspective right now is pretty warranted.
• 9:26
  There's a lot of disappointment, discouragement, frustration. Think you get to own that and feel that thing. One great thing that sports gives us, maybe that sometimes we don't do a better job in life, is the net. Game is coming pretty quickly. Yeah, that's that's a good thing. Yeah. And you can stay. You know, we talk about a lot of times and traumatic experiences.
• 9:47
  The good and bad of life is life goes on. And most of the time football coaches and players are prepared to move from a reaction to a response. I think the quicker you can do that shows one the maturity of your team, the makeup of your team, the character of your team and that kind of gives you an inside of the character that is revealed.
• 10:09
  When you face that, you trifecta. So unfortunately for there's another you right? Unfortunately the Tigers, who I know a lot of our listeners here in the upstate are big Clemson Tigers supporters. I'm a Clemson Tigers forward. I got a daughter goes there. We should probably talk about that one now. For the first time in a long time, you are now no longer working with the team.
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  Yeah.
• 10:33
  so different perspective this time around. Right. So we should definitely, talk about that. No following. We could fill up a whole podcast episode on the the number of awesome things that happened over the years while you were working with the team. But no longer doing that. Yeah. So there had to be a different perspective for you.
• 10:52
  And I don't imagine it was. It was really interesting. Drew. Yeah, for the first time. As for coach, when his career, you know, I haven't really been a part of the team. And last week was just a weird experience for me, you know, kicking off the season, not being there, not being around, not being around during camp.
• 11:08
  So really not sure what's going on. Right. And and really not sure what to expect. Although I think when I first started working with the team, I would try to predict early on how we were going to play based on what I watched in practice and the and the mood of the team. And turns out I was a horrible fraud, nice dictator.
• 11:26
  Yeah, like, man, we're going to play like like this the best we could practice we ever. And we would go lay an egg and we go to practice. And it was lethargic and people weren't focused. And I knew there were some distractions of some of our players lives, like, there's no way. And we play unbelievable. And so it's one of the reasons I don't ever I've never bet on, you know, at all.
• 11:46
  But I think kind of watching it and knowing how much effort, how much work I know our coaches have put in and our players have put in knowing who those men are, what they truly believe and how hard they fight. It really just was hard to watch for me from that lens, to to watch us not play.
• 12:07
  To be quite honest, I'm not sure I've ever seen us play that way. I mean, there's been some glimpses in the past where, you know, the momentum got against us. But you just kept thinking, okay, we're going to we're going to kind of gain the momentum early on. You get the interception and you're like, okay, boom, this is exactly what we need to get off to a good start.
• 12:27
  And we just could move the football. And so not being there, not being on the sidelines, not knowing what was communicated, not knowing who's stepping up to lead on the team and just having to watch and listen, was a really hard experience because, while the decision was made to not be with the team for a number of different reasons and our our new situation, one, not feeling like you can help out at all, that you can all for any encouragement, any hope, any, support.
• 12:58
  That was that was maybe the most challenging part, you know. Well, heck, you know, I mean, let's let's apply even the concept here. And it would love to get your take on this. If you go back to the you fact, that started for Clemson before the game, even began. Oh yeah. So anybody who was keeping up this week at all knew there was terrible weather going on down in Baton Rouge.
• 13:18
  As a result of that, the game was delayed for a couple hours. They had already showed up, it warmed up and all that. And, you know, I'll say this. You and I both have been to plenty. You know, I've been on the road playing college football games over the years. There is no such thing as a visiting locker room that you would describe as even.
• 13:36
  Okay. Yeah, like those don't exist. And that's by design. So what are some of the when you think about the mental and emotional challenges of you go out there and warm up, you're, you know, you're getting excited. You trying to get your body activated, ready to go play football. And then also hey guys, actually we gotta go back and sit in a locker room for two hours.
• 13:53
  Yeah. Like what are some of the challenges? I think that's so challenging right now. LSU had to face the same thing. No, they were probably in a better locker room. Yeah they're there. Yeah. Yeah it feels different. But you know as well as I do is the routine of a college football week. Yeah. I mean and we've been playing nine months like the routine has been said.
• 14:12
  We show up two hours and five minutes before kickoff. You know here's when you go out on your own and flex. Here's when the quarterbacks go out. Here's when the specialists go out. It is all choreographed. And so we've trained our team, I'm sure as you guys have to start activating your mind, activating your body so you're ready to kick off.
• 14:30
  And so that final 90 minutes is so important to getting your mind and body right, to play your best for 60 minutes or as long as it takes. And so to me, that was hard for not being there. But knowing, hey, the adrenaline is already started coursing through. You got the headphones going, you got your routine mapped out, and all of a sudden you had to call the timeout.
• 14:50
  Yeah, yeah. And so there's a big energy drain I imagine a big energy loss. And then you're sitting around. My guess what we've had to do this before we did it last year in a storm. I mean the coaches are going over last minute reminders. We're watching. You're seeing film, you're going over calls. And so there's an information overload probably during that time I don't I don't know what it was happening.
• 15:13
  But it just creates it's all kinds of disruption. Yes. Problematic. And you can say, well, the other guys had to deal with it too. Trust me, if you went in both those locked locker rooms, the it was not an equivalent. Yes. Well we're not you know, and I would never say this whether it's Clemson or any a team not at all saying that that's where.
• 15:31
  Oh yeah. Yeah. I'm not saying that but I'll know this. It certainly didn't help them be in a position mentally, emotionally and physically. Physically to start. Well yeah. Just bring your own home environment. And so we just added to another challenge. But yeah, but definitely that wasn't the reason we didn't play well, but it just added to the whole experience.
• 15:50
  Yeah. And so it's just that that's a good example too, of how I mean, it's just that like no one was planning on that. And I think if you're going to be effective in football, you're going to be effective in whatever industry you're in. We've all had our versions of those. If you've got to be able to mentally kind of move on, adapt, have agility and get yourself back to where you need to be.
• 16:11
  Yeah. And the team that can do that. Yeah, I think that great quote from Voltaire that I love so much as say, you can't control the hand that you're dealt, but what's the car in your hand? You could control how you play the hand in order to win the game. We had another great example of that last night with SMU and Florida State.
• 16:26
  Yeah. Where I mean, I think they were literally like three minutes before kickoff. And then the power goes out, which of course the power went out. Right. We all have predicted that. And it's always just funny because like I was watching that game and shortly after that, the ESPN person came on and, and she said, I'm being told we're gonna have a five minute delay.
• 16:46
  They'll be ready to play football. It's like, okay, you know, that we deal with it. And it's like, oh, now actually it's ten, it's 15, it's 20. And so you think about even psychologically like oh yeah, yeah. Oh yeah. It's really difficult. Yes. It's really difficult to have out. Oh we're about no we're not, we're about to. Oh no we're not.
• 17:01
  Yeah. And if you're telling the teams that you know what's going to locker room five minutes I 15 and you're ready to go. Yeah. So again not the reason SMU won and Florida State lost. But you know it's it's that balance of our routines really really good. Yeah they are yes. We always differentiate between routine and ritual right.
• 17:21
  Like a yes in the way we kind of differentiate. Those are our rituals. It's more of the space of oh man. Like it's got to be this way. And if it isn't this way, it's going to kind of undo me on the inside a little bit, which is not an even a ritual as well. Is is usually not something you consciously engage in.
• 17:38
  You're just kind of it's kind of a superstition type deal. You just do it and you don't get the benefit. A routine is. I consciously engage in that process, so I'm not focused on the outcome or I'm not focused on what's behind me. I think the thing that stood out to me, I didn't get to see the game last night as much I was, I was traveling back.
• 17:55
  But for me, you better have a backup plan. Oh yeah. You know, if you become so reliant on technology or so reliant on the headset and your quarterback's not prepared to communicate, or you're not prepared to use your hand signals, or you don't have a replay or you can't watch the I-pad, you know, what are you going to do?
• 18:16
  And your backup plan. And I think that's something we can all take away, like again, without you try to shows up. What? How are you prepared? Yeah. Yeah. That was a really interesting dynamic that the people were talking about that game last night is because they didn't have a number of those things. The way communication was going on.
• 18:34
  Yeah, the leadership was going up and all that stuff, people on the sidelines and pulling guys together and talking about it, and not just like we're going to all huddle and just look at it myself on the iPad. Right. That's a really like I would imagine they were from both teams probably noticing some things and rules. I mean, when you do this, when we do.
• 18:51
  Yes. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's what what I took from that is we take for granted so many things that make our life easier, but they also maybe compromise the integrity of and the purpose of why we're doing it. So I'm thinking when our coaches are watching the iPad, we aren't we aren't face to face. We're looking this we aren't connecting.
• 19:12
  Well, yeah. And so that that that oxytocin, that bonding that strengthens that commitment. If everything's external or you're relying or dependent on technology, I think that's a good lesson for us in life, in business, what are the things that we're just taking for granted that life is easier, but it's going to sacrifice the integrity or quality of the actual thing that's taking place.
• 19:31
  And that's a good lesson to be reminded of as well as the there are many cases where this new trifecta pops up, and in the end, it reveals and shows some things that we wouldn't have seen otherwise. Yes. And you hope that you can have the awareness and the the emotional maturity to to grasp that and welcome that and then move on with the benefit of those lessons.
• 19:53
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. That was a I did that for the whole game. Imagine that. But I think they ended up getting power was restored I think at some point in the second half. But they spent at least the first half of that game without all the bells and whistles. Yeah, yeah. So just fascinating things. Now the flip side we talked about the the you trifecta.
• 20:12
  The flip side some some teams are feeling really good right now. Yeah. You know the Bulldogs I imagine are feeling pretty good right now. Yeah. Yeah I mean hard to know, right? I mean you certainly would rather win the lose, but I think we all recognize that some teams that we were one of the played some opponents this weekend that were not, probably of the same caliber.
• 20:33
  And there's some value that like, yeah, you're right. People are feeling good about themselves and feeling confident that kind of thing. And, you know, time will tell. But I think to me it does speak to the fact that, you know, there there is, without a doubt, a recurring theme coming away from week one of, taking an extremely small sample size and landing on some pretty big conclusions.
• 20:55
  Yes. Yeah, really good to do. Yeah. I remember what, we used to do a lot of assessments and on the, the ways for, on the verbal reasoning, I think subtests like question 29 or 30 is what does it say mean one swallow doesn't make a summer and you've gotten pretty far along. If that's that's one of the last questions I asked.
• 21:15
  One other one was about go out. And and so I won't I won't test your intelligence. But we had the answers. So we probably knew him and was like, okay, just because you see one bird fly south doesn't mean that summer's over. And I think that's a little bit of way we look at week one that that hey, you get you get one data point at a 12 and there are some indications of your team.
• 21:37
  And Georgia may not have the full capacity to understand because the competition. Clemson hopefully things aren't as bad as they looked or as good as they seem for Georgia. I think that's what we're talking about. Just because you see one thing doesn't necessarily guarantee success or failure going forward. And like you've seen I've seen it. You have to go back to the Clemson example.
• 21:58
  It is more than possible for any team to go on the road in a hostile environment and have a game get away from you. Yeah it happens. I've seen it and it's it's usually not a true reflection of reality there. Yeah. Know what do we always say. The truth is somewhere in the middle. Yes. So that's I think the overreactions that are happening coming out of week one for everyone's teams need to remind themselves of that of the truth is probably somewhere closer to the middle.
• 22:25
  Yeah. The you know, the extreme reaction they might be having, but, yeah, I mean, I think that's a concept we all need to be thinking about is like all right, are there places in my life where I'm using a really small sample size to land on something that I'm being really definitive about? Yes. Like that's dangerous. Yeah.
• 22:43
  And we all, we all do that, that you can kind of project. It's like this is way it's always going to be or we use those extreme words to paint a picture of either positivity or negativity. It's back to the Stockdale. It's either this like brutal truth. You know, that we all have a tendency to do, or the unwavering belief that we're overly optimistic or overly fatalistic.
• 23:02
  Yeah, I just think there's something to be said to about the having the ability to just see things through, like, can you just continue to kind of march when, there's a narrative and whoever, whether it be big or small, that frankly just isn't on target? Yeah, I think that's a that's a quality you see in a lot of high performing people, teams and organizations up, hey, we're just going to March and we're going to continue if we when we see things that aren't, you know, satisfactory, we're in our best to fix something or not be naive or, you know, coachable.
• 23:35
  But we're going to continue to do the things we need to do and not allow noise and things like that to completely knock us off. You know, I think that's a little bit what we talk so much a lot. Drew, at the end of the season, for our teams and our players. But at the end of a business year, at the end of your career, at the end of your life, can you just be proud of how you competed?
• 23:59
  Can you be proud of how you show up? Can you stay true to what, like your values? Did you adapt enough and adjust enough to respond to the current demands and respond to the information and feedback you're getting? But the most part,
• 24:12
  can you stay true to who you are and persevere? I think that's a test. That's the challenge that lies within all of us.
• 24:19
  And part of why people love college football, it's such a great microcosm of life. Can you just accept the challenge and be proud of how you show up, and be proud of how you competed in and stay? Focus on the things you can control?
• 24:32
  Yeah, yeah. Because especially as the season goes, goes along and plays out. You and I both seen this plenty over the years.
• 24:38
  Much of the season will be affected by things we just can't do anything about. Yeah. I mean, you're going to have, you know, you know, people are going to be affected by injuries. You're going to have some, some terrible when you talk about the Michigan thing. Oh, you're going, oh yes. Yeah. That, you know, that was a yeah, there's going to be a pass interference call when your guy literally didn't even touch the other guy, but they thought he did.
• 25:04
  It was just you've got to be able to manage things out of it. That's out of your control and not let them undo you. And I think that's what coaches that do a really good job is they don't ask anything of their players aren't able to do themselves. Yeah that's right. Yeah. They can. Can they maintain a perspective.
• 25:21
  Can they stay focused on their purpose. Then they can they stay passionate about the things that they care about? I think that's that's a little bit of what we want to be able to do. And we appreciate, especially in the South, the passion of our fans.
• 25:32
  But can we can maintain a perspective about what's really important in our life. Yeah. There's that. There was a video I saw to get some traction so we can although it's an old video of Mike Elko, Texas A&M. He never met the man. But he you probably you've seen it too.
• 25:47
  He was talking about how as the head coach, his job. Oh, yeah. Has to be on the other side. Yeah, that's so good. Whatever. That kind of like prevailing emotion is. Yes. So if the emotion is negative and down and worried, whatever his job is to be on the other side of that. Yeah. No, no, no I'm going to have composure and be steady and all the things you want to be if the emotion is, you know, like high up out of their mind and excited and then his job is to be, you know, kind of more subdued and like so it's really good wisdom I think.
• 26:17
  Yeah. About the true role of the leader. And I think to me it goes back to as a leader, I got to really understand my pressure points. How am I responding to stress? How am I taking care of myself? When we talk about a lot, the the art of performance or the art of leadership or driving performance is knowing my dad pressure on me to take it away so that being opposite of the moment is really good language.
• 26:37
  That means I'm not overwhelmed by my own emotions, and I'm very intentional and thoughtful about how I want to show up and what does my team need for me at this moment. Yeah. And I think you've got to be you can't be too affected by the moment. Yeah. You just can't allow that as a, as a leader.
• 26:57
  Okay. Well are there any other thoughts from you as we kind of, you know, wind down and, finish up or week one debrief? There's a lot that I probably don't need to need to share, but but I think you we've hopefully brought some things to light about the reaction and response is, hey, give yourself permission to enjoy it.
• 27:19
  I think, sometimes as you get older, you maybe don't give yourself permission to enjoy it as much. But everything that it has to offer, the highs and the lows, the the unexpected. I think that's what makes college sports great. You know, when you got a team that's supposed to win and, and and they don't or somebody battles down like Western Michigan taking on Michigan.
• 27:41
  I mean, whether you love sports or not, that was a great moment. I did text or boy, Bill and I was like, what a what a what a what a brutal way to end a football game.
• 27:51
  so whether you're feeling really good or really down about your team, you know, think about why you're a fan and think about the things in your life that matter and how do you kind of maintain that perspective and not overreact and be too blinded by this optimism, or overreact and to discouraged by the failure?
• 28:12
  Yeah, I think a final thought for me would just be, And look, I totally realize that the landscape is completely different in college football today, and these players are are making a lot of money. Realize all of that? Certainly not. Taking a position on that being good or bad. But like, just don't lose sight of the fact that these guys are just trying to figure it out.
• 28:33
  Yeah. I mean, you know, both of us have college age kids. We both work with college football players for a long, long time. Yes, they're driving nice cars make a ton of money. But when you spend time with these kids, like they are truly just trying to figure it out, and not a single one of them wants to fumble, wants to throw a pick.
• 28:51
  Yeah, a tackle. They've got plenty of complexities in life. So just don't lose sight of the fact that these are young adults who have a lot, a lot of whose brains aren't even fully developed for the most part. And and they care more than you care. Yeah. And the other thing I would add that this is the coach's livelihood and, and their families are affected, and, and and they are fighting for their jobs and, and fighting as hard as they can, to do what they think is best.
• 29:23
  and so before you unleash, you know, that frustration, whether it be toward, a player, a coach or whatever. Yeah. That they're, they're humans just like us. And they have bad days, too. Yeah. And I think part of that, drew, if we're going to get on a soapbox for just a second.
• 29:37
  Are you holding yourself to the same standards and accountability in your life as you're holding your coaches and your players in your team? Yeah. You know, how are you preparing? How are you showing up? How you responding? What are you saying? What are you doing? Are you driving towards excellence the way you're expecting them to drive towards excellence?
• 29:54
  I love the fan. It's like you want to be a place that people care and it's passionate, but I think those are good lessons just to keep in mind and keep in check. Yeah, and I think your final thing would just be, just always be mindful of the degree to which you could be allowing your team to define your happiness.
• 30:12
  Yes. Yeah. That happens unfortunately, quite a bit. And that's just a really, really volatile way to live. So, we recommend you don't allow 18 to 22 year old, young men who are doing their best with what they're given to define your happiness. Yeah, absolutely. Well said. Okay. Thank you for tuning in. We are excited about all that we've had this fall, including our 400th episode.
• 30:41
  Oh, yeah. Coming up here. Real, real soon. So looking forward to celebrate that here with our listeners, here within the next week or so. Yeah, really excited about that. Thanks so much. Take care.