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God Requires You To Love Yourself-Part2 · Have A Little Faith with Delilah

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  Speaker 1: Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, My faithful friends. See what I just
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  Speaker 1: did there. This is a podcast about having faith, but
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  Speaker 1: so many of you are just always faithful friends. You're
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  Speaker 1: from every race, creed, color, religious background, every area, and
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  Speaker 1: you always lift me up and you always say incredibly
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  Speaker 1: kind things and you show that you appreciate me. But
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  Speaker 1: guess what, I appreciate you. I need this relationship, these friendships,
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  Speaker 1: as much as you need them. Your love strengthens my
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  Speaker 1: faith every single day. This podcast Have a Little Faith
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  Speaker 1: with Delilah is uh an audio place that I want
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  Speaker 1: to use as a way to help build a community,
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  Speaker 1: a community where people can reach out and honestly share
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  Speaker 1: without fear of haters or being mocked. When you share something,
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  Speaker 1: you might never understand how many people you're touching. When
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  Speaker 1: you're honest, when you're transparent, when you say this is
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  Speaker 1: my issue, this is my struggle, or this is the
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  Speaker 1: struggle I went through and some of the steps to
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  Speaker 1: get me to the other side, you are helping pave
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  Speaker 1: the way. You are helping clear the path for a
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  Speaker 1: multitude of people perhaps following behind you. We all have
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  Speaker 1: moments when we want to isolate. Sometimes we need to
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  Speaker 1: isolate there are times when we hurt so bad we
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  Speaker 1: just need to be alone with God. And then there
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  Speaker 1: are times we want to pretend that we're not going
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  Speaker 1: through and stuff. We want to just pretend like everything
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  Speaker 1: is okay, and we want to stick our head in
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  Speaker 1: the sand. When I'm feeling like that, I go to
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  Speaker 1: the garden. I go to the garden, and there I
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  Speaker 1: find God. I go to the the creek, I go
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  Speaker 1: to the mountain. I go out in nature. I find
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  Speaker 1: my connection with the Almighty and I let him speak
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  Speaker 1: to me. There's an old hymn that says I went
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  Speaker 1: to the garden alone while the dew was still on
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  Speaker 1: the roses, and he walks with me, and he talks
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  Speaker 1: with me, and he tells me I am his own.
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  Speaker 1: This podcast is about that kind of relationship. It's not
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  Speaker 1: about religion. It's about an intimate, personal, amazing, fulfilling, life
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  Speaker 1: changing relationship in your heart, a transformation of your heart
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  Speaker 1: by the one who made your heart. And this episode
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  Speaker 1: is all about broken commitments and promises. It's about knowing
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  Speaker 1: when it is time to let go. Yes, breaking up
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  Speaker 1: is hard to do, but sometimes it is Son, And
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  Speaker 1: I promise you God will get you through it. The
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  Speaker 1: folks I'm featuring today on this podcast are very willing
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  Speaker 1: to share their heartbreak but also their strength, their resilience.
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  Speaker 1: And we are going to kick off today's episode from
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  Speaker 1: a young woman named Nicki. Hi, Nikki, welcome, Welcome to
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  Speaker 1: have a little faith. What can I do for you?
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  Speaker 2: I've been listening to you since I've been little, to
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  Speaker 2: listen to my mom all the time and afterward, actual
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  Speaker 2: a lot in the evenion when I get off work,
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  Speaker 2: so I'll listen to you every night.
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  Speaker 1: But wait, wait, wait, wait, why are you door dashing
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  Speaker 1: if you are working?
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  Speaker 2: Because I'm going through a really bad divorce and I
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  Speaker 2: kind of lost everything, so kind of starting over from nothing.
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  Speaker 2: But it'll be all right.
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  Speaker 1: How long were you married?
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  Speaker 2: Five years?
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  Speaker 1: Five years? And when you say you lost everything, I
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  Speaker 1: mean besides your heart? What are we talking here?
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  Speaker 2: My home, my car. I just bought a new car,
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  Speaker 2: so you know, I'm staying with my daughter now, looking
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  Speaker 2: for a place. It's a bad divorce. It's cheated only
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  Speaker 2: several times. I took him back several times and just
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  Speaker 2: got to the point I can't do it no more.
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  Speaker 2: Just like I've been beat down, you know, till like
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  Speaker 2: I didn't even know who I was anymore.
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  Speaker 1: Put your shoulders back and take a deep breath. Yep,
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  Speaker 1: now repeat after me. Are you ready? I am royalty,
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  Speaker 1: I am royalty. I am a daughter of the King
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  Speaker 1: of Kings.
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  Speaker 2: I am a daughter of the King of Kings.
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  Speaker 1: I am a daughter of the God Most High.
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  Speaker 2: I am a daughter of the God Most High.
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  Speaker 1: I deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
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  Speaker 2: I deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
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  Speaker 1: And never again will I settle for less.
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  Speaker 2: Never again will I settle for less.
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  Speaker 1: Ooh, I like the emphasis there. I never never, ever
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  Speaker 1: ever Nope. Good for you? All right? What can I
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  Speaker 1: do to make your night a little sweeter? Nikki?
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  Speaker 2: Pick me a good song?
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  Speaker 1: All right? And have you gotten past gotten over the liar, liar,
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  Speaker 1: pants on fire, the cheater, cheater where you meet her?
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  Speaker 2: I'm getting there.
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  Speaker 3: Just stay by day.
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  Speaker 2: I'm getting there.
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  Speaker 3: Every day's a little easier.
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  Speaker 2: Toughest part, Oh, the toughest part is I guess that
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  Speaker 2: not being alone when you're used to being with somebody.
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  Speaker 1: I knew you were going to say that. Do you
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  Speaker 1: know why my show is so successful? Because at night
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  Speaker 1: is when the it's it's when the monsters come out
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  Speaker 1: from under the bed, it's when the lonely creeps out,
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  Speaker 1: It's when the self doubts show up.
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  Speaker 2: It is those those were the things that made it
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  Speaker 2: so easy to take him back. I guess all the
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  Speaker 2: other times.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you're not going to do that again, though, You're
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  Speaker 1: never going to allow somebody to treat you like that,
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  Speaker 1: right right? Never?
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  Speaker 2: No, never.
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  Speaker 1: And when mister oh, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean
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  Speaker 1: to it was an accident, when he comes knocking, what
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  Speaker 1: are you going to say? No?
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  Speaker 2: But because he's not sorry and he has no remorse.
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  Speaker 1: If he's sorry, he's sorry that he got caught.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's again, that's the only thing you're sorry about.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. I will play a sweet song, Nikki, just
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  Speaker 1: for you, for you and every other woman and man
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  Speaker 1: who's going wait a second. I deserve so much better.
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  Speaker 1: I deserve to be treated with love and compassion. I
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  Speaker 1: deserve to be if I'm going to be in a relationship,
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  Speaker 1: I deserve to have an honest relationship that's built on
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  Speaker 1: trust exactly.
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  Speaker 2: I deserve to get what I give out.
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  Speaker 1: Don't forget you are royalty.
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  Speaker 2: I am royalty.
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  Speaker 1: God bless you, honey, Wow, just wow. What can I say?
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  Speaker 1: Nicky was afraid to lose everything, but all she lost
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  Speaker 1: were things, Things come, things go. What a wise young woman.
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  Speaker 1: She knew enough to choose her serenity, her peace, and
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  Speaker 1: quite possibly her sanity over things. NICKI. Kudos to you
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  Speaker 1: working two jobs and leaning on people who love truly
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  Speaker 1: love you, Nikki. God will restore everything that you have lost.
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  Speaker 1: You just need to have a little faith. Okay, Up next,
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  Speaker 1: I have a call I want to share with you
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  Speaker 1: from Angel. Angel is actually responding to Nicki who she
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  Speaker 1: heard on my radio program and mile Min does Angel
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  Speaker 1: have a story of her own and we are going
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  Speaker 1: to share that story right now. Angel. What can I
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  Speaker 1: do for you tonight?
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  Speaker 3: Delilah, I like to say quickly that I was in
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  Speaker 3: a store just now and heard you on the radio,
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  Speaker 3: and I said, what station is that? And the young
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  Speaker 3: lady told me, and the message that you gave to
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  Speaker 3: the young lady that you were talking to it was
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  Speaker 3: like you were speaking to me, but I didn't hear
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  Speaker 3: the whole conversation. So I want to say to you
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  Speaker 3: that I have been in a relationship on and off
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  Speaker 3: for sixteen years with an habitual cheater who isn't good
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  Speaker 3: at it. For the last six months he has not
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  Speaker 3: been in the home, but he is trying his very
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  Speaker 3: best to come back. In these last six months, every
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  Speaker 3: other day I catch him in some lie. Today I
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  Speaker 3: ask him, why do you continue to lie to me?
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  Speaker 3: And he didn't have an answer for me. So my
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  Speaker 3: question to you is probably what I already know. But
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  Speaker 3: sometimes you just need to hear things from other people, strangers. Actually,
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  Speaker 3: I know that I should probably let go, but it
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  Speaker 3: is really, really hard. It's been sixteen years, and no
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  Speaker 3: matter what I do, no matter how I beg, no
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  Speaker 3: matter if I'm good or if I'm bad, he continues
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  Speaker 3: to lie. He continues to manipulate and deceive me. But
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  Speaker 3: I keep holding on by a thread, and I need
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  Speaker 3: to know what the problem is other than me.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the problem. Angel. In the last minute and and half,
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  Speaker 1: you basically just told me that you are in a
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  Speaker 1: relationship with someone who's acting like a snake, a snake
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  Speaker 1: in the grass. But he's trying to convince you that no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: he's a codly little kitten. He's not. You know how
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  Speaker 1: I know that. I know that because a person shows
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  Speaker 1: you by their actions who they truly are. Their words
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  Speaker 1: might say one thing, but if their actions show you
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  Speaker 1: something else, believe they're actions. They might have all the
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  Speaker 1: right words, but people are not what they say they are.
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  Speaker 1: They are who they are what they do. You are
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  Speaker 1: an incredibly intelligent, articulate woman. I don't know what your
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  Speaker 1: career is, but I know you're successful at it. I
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  Speaker 1: know that you are faithful to a fault, that once
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  Speaker 1: you commit to a job, or to a friendship, or
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  Speaker 1: to a church or to an organization, you give it
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  Speaker 1: one hundred and ten percent. You are somebody that everybody
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  Speaker 1: can count on. But when you were small, when you
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  Speaker 1: were young, when you were birth to four or five,
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  Speaker 1: you were shown that love hurts, And so the language
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  Speaker 1: of love that you speak is not really love at all.
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  Speaker 1: It's called a trauma bond, and you have a super
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  Speaker 1: glue trauma bond to someone who does not respect you
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  Speaker 1: one dmy diny little bit.
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  Speaker 3: Everything you just said is absolutely correct, And in saying that,
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  Speaker 3: I also acknowledge the fact that it's not just him,
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  Speaker 3: it is me too, for all the same reasons that
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  Speaker 3: you said, I am so accustomed to pain, it's natural
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  Speaker 3: for me. I get that in my mind. I understand that.
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  Speaker 3: In my mind. At the same time, I'm saying to myself,
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  Speaker 3: I have more years behind me than I have ahead
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  Speaker 3: of me. This thing is not changing. It's been sixteen years,
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  Speaker 3: and like you said, it's the snake and it's not
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  Speaker 3: it's not the furry little fat No.
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  Speaker 1: He sheds his skin, you know, once every every few
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  Speaker 1: months and makes a promise. Oh baby, I promise. I'm sorry,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I promise. It's not like that. I love you,
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  Speaker 1: You're You're the one I love. They don't mean nothing.
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  Speaker 1: I just can't help myself, but I promise.
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  Speaker 3: Are you in my house?
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  Speaker 1: I had your man back in the day I married him.
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  Speaker 1: I promise. No, I love you. I love you. You're
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  Speaker 1: everything to me.
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  Speaker 4: And then the next thing I know, I'm fighting a
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  Speaker 4: pair of ear rings on my window sill that did
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  Speaker 4: not belong to me. Why are there ear rings on
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  Speaker 4: my bedroom windowsill window?
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  Speaker 3: Yes? Well, like I said, sometimes it takes coming from
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  Speaker 3: a stranger to get the message. I get the message.
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  Speaker 3: Every day I'm getting further and further away. I am
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  Speaker 3: really getting further and further away. But it's like when
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  Speaker 3: I do that, it's like he's pushing harder and harder.
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  Speaker 1: So in contact, into all contact with this person, you
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  Speaker 1: need to cut you don't. You don't put a snake
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  Speaker 1: on a leash and take it for a walk. You don't.
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  Speaker 1: You don't build a little snake cage and say, okay,
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  Speaker 1: you viper, you just sleep in this cage. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: leave the door open in case you decide to come
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  Speaker 1: out and snuggle.
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  Speaker 3: No, consider it done. I cut that off today. And
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  Speaker 3: I know you've probably heard that before from a lot
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  Speaker 3: of your callers, but I understand that no contact is
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  Speaker 3: a real thing. And because I haven't had no contact,
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  Speaker 3: I continue to give him bits and pieces when he calls,
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  Speaker 3: when he's in his feelings, and you know he's going
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  Speaker 3: through this because I'm not in it.
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  Speaker 1: And he has a pet name for you that nobody
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  Speaker 1: else has, and he just says it one time, and
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  Speaker 1: it's just you. You melt like butter. You melt like
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  Speaker 1: butter on hot toast on a hot biscuit. You can't
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  Speaker 1: help it. Or he'll bring up a joke that nobody
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  Speaker 1: else understands but you, and all of a sudden, all
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  Speaker 1: of a sudden, you can't help yourself. You start thinking,
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  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, oh my gosh, what am I doing?
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  Speaker 1: I need you in my life. No you don't. He's
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  Speaker 1: a snake. He's hissing, he's hissing. I couldn't do it.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have one more heartbreak in me.
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  Speaker 3: I don't either, And Jelilah, I want to thank you
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  Speaker 3: for taking the time to talk to me today. The
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  Speaker 3: fact I knew I would get into you today because
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  Speaker 3: I kept calling and the line was busy. I said,
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna wait to this time and the phone's gonna ring,
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  Speaker 3: and that's exactly what happened. I appreciate your talking to me.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna call you again in about a month or
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  Speaker 3: so and let you know I went hard no contact.
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  Speaker 3: I'm tired and I'm ready, and I know that God
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  Speaker 3: has something out of me for me, but I continue
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  Speaker 3: to block my blessings because I continue to let the
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  Speaker 3: snake be around. So again, thank you for talking to
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  Speaker 3: me tonight. And I just want to say, if there's
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  Speaker 3: any other listener, and there are thousands that are listening,
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  Speaker 3: we can do this thing. Right here. I said to myself,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to start a podcast and call it The
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  Speaker 3: Never Ending Breakup, because I've been breaking up for about
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  Speaker 3: five years. Thank you so much, God, bless you.
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  Speaker 1: Here's what I want you to remember. Angel. I want
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  Speaker 1: you to remember that your name means something.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: An angel is a messenger of the most High God.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Before you were born, before the foundations of this earth
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  Speaker 1: were laid, he saw you, he knew you, he knit
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  Speaker 1: you together in your mother's womb. You are fearfully and
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  Speaker 1: wonderfully made. And because of that, because you are a
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  Speaker 1: daughter of the King of kings, you deserve to be
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  Speaker 1: treated with the utmost respect and dignity.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you, Yes, yes, but no more, no more.
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  Speaker 1: And I promise you that I believe you.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you, Thank you for having this program.
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  Speaker 1: And here's the thing. Angel. You have a heart that
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  Speaker 1: desires to be loved. And once you let your Father,
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  Speaker 1: your heavenly Father, heal your heart, he will bring someone
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  Speaker 1: into your life who is worthy of you.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 2: But I gotta let go.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta let go of the snake that's holding his place.
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  Speaker 3: Consider it done. Thank you, Good.
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  Speaker 1: Luck, God, bless you. Can I say a prayer for you, please,
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  Speaker 1: Father God, I thank you for allowing Angel to get
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  Speaker 1: through on the phone lines. I thank you, Lord God
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  Speaker 1: for speaking to her heart, quickening her heart and saying,
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  Speaker 1: call this woman, Call this woman. She's been where you are. Father.
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  Speaker 1: I pray that you would restore her heart in the
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  Speaker 1: same way that you restored mine. I pray that she
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  Speaker 1: would not make the same mistake again, that she would
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  Speaker 1: wait on you. Those who wait upon the Lord will
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  Speaker 1: renew their strength. They will rise as on the wings
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  Speaker 1: of eagles. They will run and not grow weary, they
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  Speaker 1: will walk and not grow faint. I pray, as she
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  Speaker 1: runs the race of life, you will bring a partner
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  Speaker 1: to her side, a man that is worthy of your daughter,
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  Speaker 1: this heavenly woman, this angel that brings so much joy
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  Speaker 1: to so many other people, that she would be equally
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  Speaker 1: yoked with a man who would bring joy to her.
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  Speaker 1: I ask this in your precious your holy name. Amen.
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  Speaker 3: Amen, Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: He loves you, and I can tell you are the
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  Speaker 1: kind of friend that makes life better, brighter, more joyful.
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  Speaker 3: Try and like I said, I'll talk to you in
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  Speaker 3: thirty days again. At the same time, Thank you God, bless.
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  Speaker 1: You cling to the heavenly Father. And when you start,
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  Speaker 1: when you start getting weak, when he uses those words
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  Speaker 1: and you start to melt like better God, No.
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  Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, no no.
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  Speaker 1: I hear you hissing. I'm not talking to you. La
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  Speaker 1: la la la la again.
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  Speaker 4: Hear you.
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  Speaker 1: Block him. We got fancy phones down block.
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  Speaker 3: Him, absolutely absolutely, and please. Like I said, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 3: follow up with you. I'm gonna be one of your
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  Speaker 3: success stories. And I mean that, I'm gonna be a
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  Speaker 3: success story.
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  Speaker 1: You are a success story, Honey, you are a success story.
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  Speaker 1: You just got to find a real love instead of
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  Speaker 1: a trauma bond.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, thank you, delai Lah.
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  Speaker 1: All right, good night, good night. What a powerful call
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  Speaker 1: from Angel. I don't know about you, but I think
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  Speaker 1: she is more than ready now to trust God to
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  Speaker 1: take her life back. I want to thank you Angel
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  Speaker 1: for sharing your story, for being transparent in a way
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  Speaker 1: that's real and true and helpful. So thank you for that.
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  Speaker 1: The last call I want to share with you today
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  Speaker 1: is from Mary Kate. She not only has gone through
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  Speaker 1: relationship challenges, but a whole lot more. The good news
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  Speaker 1: is that Mary Kate confronted her challenges and made it through.
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  Speaker 1: Let's listen to this story right now. Hey Mary Kate,
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  Speaker 1: what can I do for you today?
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  Speaker 5: Well, Delilah, I would love to talk about taking chances Okay.
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  Speaker 5: I was online and I'm looking through profiles and saw
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  Speaker 5: this profile and this man is a skier and a
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  Speaker 5: scuba diver and a surfers a four hundred acre farm
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  Speaker 5: and I'm in a wheelchair. So I thought, well, this
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  Speaker 5: guy's ben't going to go for me. But his profile
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  Speaker 5: picture was a full on Bonnie Prince Charlie kilt, and
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  Speaker 5: I'm a real cult file that thought, well, I'll take
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  Speaker 5: a chance. I emailed him and said.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, love the Kilts.
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  Speaker 5: You know what's your clan, I'm Clan Stewart. And he
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  Speaker 5: got back to me and said, oh, well your clan
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  Speaker 5: chased my clan out of Scotland and Ireland. What am
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  Speaker 5: I supposed to do with that? What does that mean?
• 19:16
  Speaker 5: I thought, well, I'll take another chance. Okay, So we
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  Speaker 5: kept emailing, kept emailing, and finally talked on the phone
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  Speaker 5: for the first time and for four hours, and then
• 19:28
  Speaker 5: about a month later we met in person and thereby
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  Speaker 5: hangs a tail. We've been together for nine.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: Years and does he still wear the kilt? For you?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you took a chance on love. You said, you
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  Speaker 1: know what, I'll never know if I don't ask, I'll
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: never know. I'll never find out if I don't take
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: a chance. And what are your favorite things to do
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  Speaker 1: together besides you know, look at him in a kilt.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, we'd love to go to movies. We love to
• 20:00
  Speaker 5: just you know, hang out and talk. And we're actually
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  Speaker 5: going to Ireland this summer and so it's you know,
• 20:08
  Speaker 5: we just love to do all kinds of things. And
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  Speaker 5: I just want to say to everybody, and like you
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  Speaker 5: just said, you know, take a chance. If you don't ask,
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  Speaker 5: you don't get amen. Where they're closing the door, somewhere
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  Speaker 5: they're open the window. So that's what I try to
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  Speaker 5: live my life by.
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  Speaker 1: I'm proud of the fact that you are encouraging others
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  Speaker 1: to be bold and to live boldly.
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  Speaker 5: You've got and the lady that was on earlier about
• 20:34
  Speaker 5: the seventeen year marriage, I was like, God, that was
• 20:37
  Speaker 5: my marriage. I was in a marriage for seventeen years,
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: was losing myself and said, no, I got to get
• 20:42
  Speaker 5: out of this. And I've found myself again and she
• 20:45
  Speaker 5: can too. So you just kind of keep on going, right.
• 20:49
  Speaker 5: You know that I listened to you all the time.
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: You know that all very intimately.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Thank you for calling.
• 20:55
  Speaker 5: Thank you, Diana, talk to you later.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: Bye bye, honey. Thank you to Nicki, to Angel, and
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: to Marry Kate for sharing their tremendous stories of overcoming
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: You know, not many people enter a commitment. I don't
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: know anybody. I have never met a person who entered
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: a commitment thinking it would come to an end, thinking
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: it would become too painful to sustain. But when you
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: are in a relationship with someone who thinks that it
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  Speaker 1: is okay to hurt you, okay to dismiss you, okay
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: to disrespect you, guess what it's not here is what
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: I know to be true. God doesn't want us in
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: abusive situations. He doesn't He doesn't want us wasting our lives,
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: our love, our energy, trying to fix someone who doesn't
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: want to be fixed, trying to fill in the gaps
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: for somebody who's emotionally unavailable, who's too drunk, too tired,
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: too high, too stressed out, too busy, cheating, too busy lying,
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  Speaker 1: or to sell fish, to participate in the union. Let go.
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  Speaker 1: Let God fix them because he is the only one
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  Speaker 1: who can. And sometimes that means putting distance between you
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  Speaker 1: and the person who is not respecting you. Thank you
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: for giving me your time today. I do not take
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: that for granted. Call me this evening, any evening Monday
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: through Friday, and we will talk about it, and we
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: will pray about it. One eight eight, eight, six, three three,
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• 22:48
  Speaker 1: remember to have a little faith.
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  Speaker 4: Lie