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Midlife Health Fails Quietly. Here’s Where It Starts · The Midlife Guys

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because they're just spreading disinformation about medicine
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and they know they're spreading disinformation.
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They're fucking lying and they know it.
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So that's that's infuriating.
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Yeah, there are lots of charlatans out there that is.
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Yeah, charlatan.
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Well, I know. Look at that.
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That's my big word for the day.
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Hey, everyone, I'm Mike.
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And I'm Andrew.
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And we're the midlife guys.
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So, Andrew, last week we started diving
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into the subject of building healthy habits in midlife.
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And I cited a paper that was published by Stanford University
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School of Medicine that was published on January 7th, 2026.
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So this is brand new, brand new.
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And last week we talked about two of the five
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focus areas of that paper, which were prioritizing exercise
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and protecting muscle and bones, as well as eating a balanced diet.
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And this week, I'm going to dive into the last three recommendations.
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They include protecting your sleep and recovery,
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monitoring your health before problems arise
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and managing stress and staying social.
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Are you ready to continue our discussion about building
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healthy habits after 40?
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I am ready. Although a quick note, if you haven't listened to last week's episode,
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go check that out real quick.
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You can get caught up on the full study in the first two parts.
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But yeah, let's let's get back at it.
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All right.
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So we talked about the importance of sleep in a previous episode.
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So if you not listen to that one, we will leave a link to it in the show notes.
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But one of the things that we didn't really dive into
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is ways in which you can monitor your sleep and improve your sleep
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and ways that you can be proactive about your sleep health.
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So first off, a startling fact
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is that nearly one billion billion with a B
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people have sleep apnea or obstructed breathing as they sleep.
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Most people assume that this is a condition that only individuals
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who are overweight or suffer from.
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But that's not true.
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As we age, the muscles around your airways can become weaker.
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We talked about the need to exercise, but most people don't realize
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that exercising also extends to the muscles around your neck,
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which are pretty important as well.
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How do you exercise those muscles around your neck?
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Stretch, stretch, stretch.
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Mm hmm. Additionally, the lining of our nasal passages
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become weaker as we age, which is probably why we all hate the cold so much.
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I know I have a cold right now because the cold.
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These factors are why more and more people are suffering
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from challenging sleep, or they also are going undiagnosed with sleep apnea.
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They just don't even know it.
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They don't want to undergo surgery.
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They don't want to use a CPAP machine.
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They feel like there's a stigma behind all of that.
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There are other factors that are leading men and women
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over their 40s to have sleep problems, including high blood pressure.
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Kids, kids.
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I can relate to that one. Mm hmm.
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Even your anatomy, which kind of hard to change
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unless you want to do a whole plastic surgery type of thing.
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But your anatomy actually does impact your sleep habits as well.
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So doctors recommend that everyone and I do mean everyone
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try to do at least one sleep test
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in their lives in order to ward off future complications.
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This is especially true when you start getting to a point
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where you're always fatigued when you wake up.
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Many of us, although not enough,
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get our blood pressure drawn on an annual basis to check on the factors
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that could impact health in the future.
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But we don't tend to to monitor things when it comes to sleep.
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A lack of sleep
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factors can show up in blood results through higher cholesterol.
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But a doctor doesn't necessarily know if you're higher
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cholesterol is because of your diet or it's because you're not getting any sleep.
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And why would in the hell would anybody want to be on a medicine
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that they don't really need to be on if all of it boils down
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to the fact that you're just not getting enough sleep at night?
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So what do you think about that, Andrew?
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I'm one of those people who've never had a sleep study.
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I'm kind of curious about that now.
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I get to get a physical every year, but I've not done a sleep study before.
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So maybe I'll add that to my 2026 bingo card.
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But I do think sleep in general is very, very important.
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I certainly agree with that.
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You know, when I think about it, especially in midlife,
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I feel like not getting sleep definitely impacts me more than it did in the past.
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I feel like I drag for longer.
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I'm more irritable if I'm not sleeping on a consistent basis.
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And just, yeah, I feel fatigued.
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I can relate to this recently, because in the past week, my
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two kids have been taking turns, once again, getting up in the middle of the night.
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And sometimes both of them wanting to chip in, getting up in the middle of the night.
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So neither my wife nor I have had like a really solid uninterrupted
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night's sleep for a couple of days.
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And the impact is real.
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Like it definitely does affect all other parts of your life.
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So I could certainly see the connection to your health.
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And it's definitely something that is really important to try to,
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you know, get more sleep or do a better job getting sleep.
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It's actually interesting, because I saw a bunch of news reports recently,
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probably in the last week or so,
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that had some fascinating studies that were showing that it's not just
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the amount of sleep that you get, but it's your sleep regularity
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that's really important, especially for brain health, like to counteract things
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like dementia and other sort of brain issues.
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And so are memory issues, especially.
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And so it's saying that you really need to fall asleep within a 30 minute window,
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at least five days a week to have that sleep regularity
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to kind of counteract some of those other issues.
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So that's something I'm trying to work on, too, now,
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is not just trying to get sleep when I can, but going to bed at the same time
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each night to kind of help with creating that natural schedule
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and having the regularity.
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And so, you know, for me, that's been trying to read a little bit more before bed
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because less screens usually means I fall asleep quicker if I'm reading something
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for like half an hour, 45 minutes first.
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But I just thought that idea of the amount of sleep plus the regularity
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of when you sleep are really important factors, especially as we get older.
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And I think that's great.
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I'm glad you brought that up, and especially trying to find
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a regular time in which to go to bed.
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Yeah, I know that's challenging sometimes
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with kids and also just like, you know, life stuff happens
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that you got to take care of.
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Yeah, if I'm being honest, sometimes it's also just laziness on my part, too, right?
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I'm like, oh, I want to watch another episode of whatever I'm like binging at the moment,
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or I don't really feel like going upstairs yet.
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And it's just kind of, again, getting into a good habit, right?
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Of like, OK, we're setting a bedtime that we're sticking with.
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Yes, even as adults, we need a bedtime.
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So think about that, folks.
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Think about that, listeners.
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You need a bedtime.
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Yeah.
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Sleep, especially in midlife, is just so important.
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As I mentioned in a previous episode, I have terrible environmental allergies
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that includes like dust mites and pollen and stuff like that.
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And I do my damnedest to try to keep everything in my home very, very clean.
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But there's some things that are just out of my control when it comes to allergies.
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So that's why I started using a CPAP machine several years ago.
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It's made a significant impact in the quality of my sleep at night.
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Sometimes it's made it worse, but sometimes, most of the time, it's made it better.
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You know, and I know this because I try to measure my sleep rhythm on my Apple Watch.
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I don't do it every night, but I try to do it at least a couple nights a week
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to really track where I am, you know, REM cycles and stuff like that throughout the night.
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And I think that's important for us to be proactive about that type of thing.
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If we have, I know there are rings now that monitor stuff, your sleep habits.
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And, you know, of course, I think Fitbits do it and Apple Watches do it.
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I think if we have access to technologies that can help us with this,
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I think that's important that we try to utilize them just because it is so important.
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I know we've talked about this before, about the idea of
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really working on getting that seven hours of sleep at night.
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If we can do that, this will help protect us when we hit our 60s and 70s.
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Especially with issues related to dementia and other cognitive decline.
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But now's the time to be proactive about this.
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And unfortunately, it's not something that anybody really pays attention to.
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I do think that we dive too quickly, and sometimes the medical profession does this,
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as they dive too quickly into prescribing a medicine.
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When you don't really need a medicine, you just need a better night's sleep.
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But what about you, listeners?
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How are you building good sleep habits?
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And what are you doing to ensure a good night's sleep?
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Yeah, I'm definitely interested in people's thoughts on sleep.
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That's something I'm still trying to work on.
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So I would love any advice or suggestions on getting a good night's sleep.
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You know, one might be that I thought about recently was just
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locking the kids in their room so they can't get out.
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Is that an option, anyone?
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No, I'm kidding.
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I'm not locking my children in their room at night.
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But seriously, any suggestions on better sleep?
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I'd love to hear it.
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Yes, please share your thoughts.
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So the fourth recommendation in the Stanford paper was
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monitoring your health now before something arises.
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Our 40s and 50s are the years when signs for chronic diseases
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such as diabetes, heart disease, cancers, and others begin to develop.
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So if you catch these things early and you start making lifestyle changes,
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you can ward off many of these diseases.
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So you don't have to worry about them later in life.
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As we discussed last week, you need to spend more time
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in your golden years, your retirement years, enjoying yourself,
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not worrying about chronic diseases or problems.
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The problem is that men and women in their 40s
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usually only get a checkup every two to three years.
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They do this because they don't feel like it's necessary
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and they only go to the doctor when they feel sick.
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But the research is clear.
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Men and women in their 40s need annual checkups
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to test for things like colon cancer,
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which is steadily on the rise all across the world, which is terrifying.
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Mammograms, blood tests, diabetes screenings.
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You know, you don't have to have all of these things every year,
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but you definitely need to go and get a checkup every year.
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Now, I know this is easy for me to say that,
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but there are a number of reasons
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why people also don't go to the doctor on an annual basis.
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Health insurance.
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Health insurance doesn't necessarily cover
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all of the screenings necessary to diagnose problems in the future.
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That's a problem.
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They may cover a visit to the primary care doctor,
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but that's about it, none of the screenings.
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Second, a lot of people in their 40s just don't want to know.
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They feel fine.
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They think things will be fine in the future.
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They don't want to be aware of any problems
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that may show up in the future.
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It's kind of this willful ignorance type of thing,
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which is not really great.
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Ignorance isn't always bliss.
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Yeah, sometimes you need to know things.
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Yeah.
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There's also a distrust in the medical community.
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You know, many individuals in their 40s and 50s are wary of physicians.
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I don't think this is new.
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People have been wary of physicians since the beginning of time.
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They don't necessarily trust what the medical community has to say,
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and they feel like they can manage any issues that they may have.
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So what do you think about taking care of your health
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before problems arise, Andrew?
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How have you made that part of your annual habits?
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Yeah, I mean, I think being proactive is important.
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I will say I was in the camp in my 30s of never going to the doctor.
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I think in my 30s, I went once maybe for my annual physical
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because I was like, I feel fine.
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I'm young. I'm healthy.
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Why am I going to go?
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And it's not because, I mean, luckily, my health insurance
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covered annual physicals and blood work and stuff like that.
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So it wasn't that.
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It was just laziness or kind of the somewhat willful ignorance piece.
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But it was, I think, especially being married to someone in healthcare.
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So my wife is a nurse.
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And when I turned 40, she was really like, no,
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you need to start going back and getting your annual physical
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to make sure everything's OK.
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And so I did start doing that again.
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And I know it kind of can seem like a pain
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or scheduling can seem challenging trying to find the time
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or a right doctor to go to or whatnot.
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But it is important because you don't know what you don't know.
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And as you've talked about before, Mike, this isn't something
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you just want to kind of like cross your fingers,
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like hopefully we're going to be OK.
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Because if there are ways that you can be proactive to prevent future issues,
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like I always think that's a better approach.
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And I had a personal experience of this when I went.
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It was the most recent physical.
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So I turned 41, got blood work drawn.
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And it wasn't crazy high, but like my bad cholesterol.
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I know the doctor says there's good cholesterol and bad cholesterol.
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So the bad one was like kind of high.
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It wasn't like super high, but it was elevated enough that he's like,
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oh, we should probably go back to listen to our other episode.
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Like change your diet.
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Think about how you're balancing it better.
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Like cut out cheese and things like that, which made me very sad.
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But like really think about how you're eating.
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And I'm glad to have known that because I'd rather like make some adjustments now
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than a number of years down the road,
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realize my cholesterol is like way off the charts
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and that's impacting other parts of my health.
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Or I'm on a bunch of funky medicine that isn't always the best to be on
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or maybe helps the cholesterol, but can impact other things.
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So I think it's just a matter of knowing in advance is not a good thing.
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Or is a good thing, rather.
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It's good to know these things up front and try to be proactive.
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So for those who haven't gone in a while, it's worth doing it.
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Find a time to go.
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Get checked out.
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It's always better to have information that you can figure out how to use it.
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I agree.
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A doctor can tell you the facts, but you're the one that's got to walk the walk.
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And I think that's important.
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I mean, that's definitely my experience.
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Going for my annual checkup has become a habit for me.
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I appreciate that.
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Go through, well, I first go and do all the diagnostic tests
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to make sure that everything's moving in the right direction, the blood test.
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And then I have a follow-up appointment with the doctor
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to go over the test results and say like,
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all right, here's what it says.
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Here are the adjustments that I recommend you making.
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And this has just become a part of my life, essentially.
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It's just what you do, right?
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It's just what you do.
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It's no different than renewing my annual auto insurance policy, really.
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These checkups are insurance for my future
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so that I can stop any problems before they arise.
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Because I don't want to sit there and fucking end up dying in some hospital bed,
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and God knows where, well, over something that I could have easily fixed.
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Right.
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Or just having to manage something that snowballs into something bigger
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because you didn't get it early enough.
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And you made a good point about the idea of you've got to walk the walk.
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And it's true that us as individuals all have to make decisions.
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And we have agency to do what we want to do and what not.
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But that idea also makes me think of like,
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but you need to at least have some map of where you're going,
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right, or directions.
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Like, you need the information about like, am I going on the right journey?
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Am I walking in circles?
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Am I going backwards?
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Like, I mean, I just feel like it's kind of hard to even use that agency
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or make those decisions if you don't have some information to go by.
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I 100% agree with you.
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And I think that is the big takeaway for me
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out of this particular recommendation from the Stanford paper is that like,
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if so many of us are not just doing an annual checkup,
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that takes an hour out of a day,
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one time a fucking year,
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then you're just making an incredibly big mistake.
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Because, you know, it may show up in your blood test that you are perfectly fine
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and that what you're doing is working out perfectly.
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And that's great.
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I'm thrilled for you if that's the case.
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But if there's just like the smallest change that you need to make,
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you know, these things snowball as you get older.
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They just snowball.
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And so it's really important that we make going to the doctor
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and doing the diagnostic stuff and doing all of these screening tests,
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just part of our habits, that they're part of our daily routine.
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Yeah.
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You know, and I understand a lot of the stuff
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as to why people either can't do it because of health insurance.
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Health insurance in the United States is a fucking joke.
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The whole health care system is kind of a mess.
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The whole health care system is a fucking joke.
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Yeah.
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And I understand that mentality of people feeling like,
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because I know a lot of people like that's like,
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I feel fine.
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And I'm like, right, go anyway.
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I will say you don't.
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And then all of a sudden, yeah.
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Yeah. I mean, I do have a problem with all of these, you know,
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social media doctors, essentially,
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are people that think that they do.
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I do my own research type of crowd.
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Because they're just spreading disinformation about medicine.
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And they know they're spreading disinformation.
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They're fucking lying and they know it.
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So that's infuriating.
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Yeah. There are lots of charlatans out there.
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That is, yeah.
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Charlatan, wow.
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I know, look at that.
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That's my big word for the day.
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Yeah, that is a big word for the day.
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I will say, this is a good point to just do our quick disclaimer
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that we did in our first episode, but not this one,
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which is that, just if you haven't picked up on this yet,
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Mike and I are not doctors.
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So we're just sharing our experiences about health issues.
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If you actually do have health concerns,
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you should talk to a doctor who's actually licensed
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and is a real doctor to do that.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Yes. Go see your doctor.
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Go see a doctor, someone who is licensed,
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someone who has an accredited degree,
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usually multiple degrees from an accredited medical school.
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Reminds me of like the fake doctor from the Simpsons.
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Oh, yeah.
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Not that guy, because there are plenty of those guys around.
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Yeah, there are.
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But just, you know, I implore all of our listeners,
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get your annual checkup, make it a habit,
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get checked for everything that you need to be checked for
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and tell your doctor, this is a really important part too,
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tell your doctor about family histories.
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Yeah.
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So if your mother or grandmother, you know,
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had an issue with high blood pressure or high cholesterol,
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whatever it may be, you know, those things,
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I mean, we're the product of our parents and our grandparents.
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So those things can show up in you.
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And so it's important that your doctor is aware
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of your family medical history too.
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And yet again, you know, these are ways
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that we can be proactive about having a better future
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if we're proactive about our health right now.
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Yep.
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And while you're at it, make sure you go to the fucking dentist
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and go to the dentist twice a year.
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And the eye doctor too, we're getting older now.
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And the eye doctor.
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All the doctors.
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I know, I have an eye doctor appointment tomorrow.
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I'm sure I'll be walking away with glasses.
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So what about you listeners?
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Do you go to the doctor every year for a checkup?
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Why or why not?
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Please leave your thoughts.
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So Andrew, final recommendation from this paper,
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stress management and staying social.
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So chronic stress can weaken your immune system,
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damage your cardiovascular system,
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and accelerate cognitive decline.
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We've talked a lot on the show about how midlifers face
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a lot of stress, especially right now.
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The balance between kids and work and parents
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and money can be overwhelming.
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Men and women in their 40s and 50s are open to doing things
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like therapy, meditation, and other ways to help
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with their stress.
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The challenge is most of them don't actually do it though
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because of time constraints.
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The same is true with social interactions.
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But here's the thing, especially on the social side,
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social isolation increases premature death by 30 percent,
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which is the equivalent of smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
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So as we've discussed in previous episodes,
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a lot of midlifers really struggle with social isolation
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because, again, they feel like they just don't have time.
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These are major red flags within the health community
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because they're seeing troubling signs among men
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and women in their 40s and 50s who are significantly
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more stressed and more socially isolated
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than previous generations.
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What is more interesting, though,
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is that this particular factor seems to be very limited
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to the United States alone.
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Other countries, including Canada, Australia, France,
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Spain, everywhere else, people in their 40s or 50s
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are less stressed and they have much higher social
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interactions with their peers and friends.
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So this is clearly a U.S. problem, which is terrifying.
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But what do you think, Andrew?
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How are you making stress management
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and social interaction a normal habit?
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A normal habit, yeah.
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I mean, this is, I think, a hard one
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because, as we've talked about in previous episodes,
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stress is real.
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And I think midlifers, and maybe particularly
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in the United States, it seems like
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have a lot of different stresses on them.
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I can tell you, just this past week,
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I'm trying to figure out, well, my wife and I
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are trying to figure out summer camps for two kids.
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And we just got our heating bill for,
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after getting this Arctic freeze.
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And I'm like, I'm about to lose my stress
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or my mind off the stress.
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It's just like, there's a lot that goes on.
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And so, I mean, I think it's trying
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to get through the day and manage it
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and acknowledge that the stress is there.
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I mean, I think some days are more stressful than others,
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but there's always at least like a baseline of stress
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that I think kind of exists, especially for midlifers.
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I do think, as you talked about, Mike,
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I mean, it makes a lot of sense to me.
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It seems very logical that there is a direct relationship
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between level of stress and social isolation as well.
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Because if you're dealing with all these pressures
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and then you're isolated on top of that,
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I feel like it would just compound you
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if you don't have other people to try to lean on
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or to share that with or to interact with
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or to have positive experiences
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to balance out the stressful experiences.
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Like it would just feel kind of suffocating,
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I would think, after a while.
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So, I mean, I think that trying to address
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both stress for sure, but also the social isolation piece
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is really, really important.
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And I think it's something,
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Framing mentioned a couple weeks ago
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about this idea of like people kind of
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have forgotten social skills, right?
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We kind of forget after COVID and all
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how to interact with one another.
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And so I think that's something we've got to work on
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is how do we get better social skills?
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I mean, humans are social animals.
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I think we're supposed to be around other people
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and interacting with other people
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and spending time with them.
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I know one thing I've tried to do recently
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is once a week,
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which doesn't seem that difficult to me at least,
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to text someone I haven't talked to in a while.
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So it's a friend, a former classmate,
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maybe a colleague, a neighbor, whomever,
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just like say, hi, how's it going?
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And if we're like in the same general area,
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maybe see if they want to try to meet up in person
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to just catch up or whatnot.
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And so I think that's even little,
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yeah, like little things like that,
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I think can help too, right?
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Just like pick a person.
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And so far I've had some responses from folks
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and not from others, and that's fine.
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It's not a big deal.
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Like, I'll just keep trying it though,
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because I think trying to get out there
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and be social is really important,
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especially to try to counteract the stress piece,
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because I do think that stress underpins
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a lot of the other health effects,
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especially in midlife,
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because it does feel like it ramps up a lot,
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the stress does, at least.
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Yes, 100% agree with that.
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You know, for me, I, of course,
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deal with stress as well,
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but I try to stay ahead of it
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by staying very organized.
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So I write down five to 10 things
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that I want to accomplish in any given day.
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And Andrew and I actually share a list of those things,
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because they include work stuff, life stuff.
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And so we kind of encourage each other by doing that.
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I find this technique to be incredibly motivating,
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and it helps me, it helps ward off stress for me,
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because I can, you know, go through that list.
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And, you know, of course,
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there's going to be things that pop up,
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but I personally find that to be a great way
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to just manage stress by staying focused on that list,
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but also leaving some room for flexibility.
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In terms of the social side of things,
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I do try to, we've talked about this before,
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but I try to stay in touch with friends
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as much as possible.
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I have not always done a good job about that
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with like family members,
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especially family members that don't live locally.
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So I've tried to do a lot better job about that.
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That's a good point, too.
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It's a whole group, yeah.
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Yeah, so, you know, I wanted to,
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so that's something that I'm really working on.
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I wasn't always this way.
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You know, there was yet again,
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as I mentioned in the previous episode,
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when Andrew and I were first building our company,
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it was a pretty dark time for me.
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And so, you know, I quickly learned though
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that I needed to, by doing,
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by being more caring, empathetic,
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going out and actually socializing with people,
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that helped lift my mood quite a bit.
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And so like today, I host lots of parties
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and get togethers and cocktails.
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I love to travel with friends and family.
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In fact, you know, heading on a trip in a couple of weeks
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with friends and family.
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So I'm very, I try to really stay on top of that.
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Just calling people, just texting people,
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to Andrew's point.
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The key is not to be shy.
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You just can't be shy.
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You got to be outgoing,
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as well as connecting with many,
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with as many people as possible as you can.
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Because, you know,
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there's a lot of folks out there in the world
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that could add a lot of meaning to your life.
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So it's important to connect with as many people as possible.
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But I think for some folks too,
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that can feel kind of overwhelming or like a lot.
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So maybe again, start with like a couple people,
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maybe some friends or family members
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that you haven't talked to in a little bit
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and just, you know, make a list of who they are.
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And one by one, just reach out to them every now and then,
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you know, start up, try to start up a conversation.
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I just think anything we can do to be more social
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or interact with one another is valuable.
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I agree. I agree.
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But what about you listeners?
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Have you managed your stress?
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What have you done to be more sociable?
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You know, please let us know in the comments,
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30:33
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30:35
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30:38
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31:04
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31:06
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31:08
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