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All right.
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So build a life you don't need to
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escape from.
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Series 5, show 34.
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That is what the master topic is for
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this entire week.
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Yes, that's what the master topic is.
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And it's a pretty good one.
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And today's granular topic for Wednesday is learn
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to enjoy the life happening right now.
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Series 5, show 34, episode number 5.
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It's Wednesday.
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Yes, guys.
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Welcome once again to the ever-popular Inspirations
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for Your Life show here.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video
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producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student
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at Montclair State University, a passionate lifelong learner,
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and so grateful now to be a published
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author.
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Welcome, everyone.
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A question for you.
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How often do we tell ourselves that we'll
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enjoy life after the next goal, the next
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project, the next achievement, or the next problem
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getting resolved?
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The danger is that there will always be
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something next on the pike.
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Today isn't about abandoning a mission.
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It's about making sure you don't become so
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focused on building tomorrow that you miss the
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life you actually are living today, being present
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in the moment.
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Let's explore 30 ways, okay, to enjoy the
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life happening right now in your life.
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Number one, stop rushing toward the next milestone.
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I know you want to get there, and
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you will, but let's enjoy the milestone we're
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in right now.
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Goals give us direction, but life isn't only
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the space between accomplishments.
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Don't move so quickly toward the next destination
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that you miss everything happening along the way.
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Number two, guys, notice what is already good
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in your life.
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Notice what is already good in your life.
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I think that's an important piece, all right?
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Very, very important piece.
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We naturally notice problems because problems demand attention.
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Deliberately notice what's working, too, and something doesn't
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have to be perfect before it can be
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appreciated.
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Number three, guys, enjoy progress before completion.
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You don't have to wait until the finish
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line to feel good about what you're building.
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Progress deserves recognition because every meaningful accomplishment begins
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with smaller steps.
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Number four, stop treating today like a waiting
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room.
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Today isn't merely where you sit until something
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better happens.
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Give this day value of its own.
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Instead of continually postponing your life, enjoy the
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moment you're in right now.
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That tea is very good.
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Number five, pay attention to ordinary pleasures.
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Pay attention to them.
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A good meal, favorite song, beautiful afternoon, interesting
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conversation, or peaceful moment may seem small, but
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these experiences may make up enormous portions of
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our lives, and that's important to recognize.
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Number six, let yourself celebrate small victories.
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Not every victory needs fireworks.
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Sometimes it could be simply acknowledging that something
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went well.
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It gives your mind a chance to recognize
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progress instead of immediately searching for another problem.
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Stop moving the finish line.
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You reach the goal and immediately create another
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one.
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Growth is great, but constantly moving the finish
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line can make success feel permanently unreachable.
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Number eight, appreciate what once felt impossible.
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Look around at something in your life that
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you once hoped for, worked toward, or weren't
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sure you could accomplish.
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What once seemed extraordinary may now feel normal.
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Don't forget what it took to get there.
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Number nine, notice how far you've already traveled.
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We spend so much time measuring the distance
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ahead that we forget to look behind us
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occasionally.
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Compare where you are today with where you
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actually started, and you'll be pretty surprised and
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impressed.
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Number 10, enjoy people while they're present.
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Don't assume there will always be another conversation
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or another opportunity to spend time together.
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Give people your attention while they're actually in
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front of you.
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Yeah, and be respectful toward them.
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Number 11, stop waiting for everything to improve.
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I know a lot of people out there
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are like, I don't want to do anything
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until this improves.
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Okay, I get the point, but we need
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to be in the moment in our lives.
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That's a very key point.
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Number 11, stop waiting for everything to improve.
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And what I also want to say is
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there will probably always be something you'd like
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to change in your life.
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Don't make perfect circumstances a requirement for experiencing
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something good today.
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Number 12, find value inside imperfect days.
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A difficult day can still contain a great
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conversation, useful lesson, unexpected laugh, or peaceful moments.
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Imperfection doesn't erase everything good around it.
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No.
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It allows us to be able to appreciate
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what's going on in our life.
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Number 13, give yourself permission to feel satisfied.
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Satisfaction doesn't mean you stop growing.
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You can appreciate where you are while remaining
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excited about where you're going.
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I think that's an important piece, guys.
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Number 14, notice experiences money can't replace.
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Some of life's most valuable experiences don't have
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a price tag.
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Trust, friendship, laughter, time, connection, curiosity, and meaningful
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conversations, as they cannot simply be purchased.
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The value of understanding money can buy some
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things, but it can't buy a lot of
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things in our own personal life.
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And I think the sooner we understand that,
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the sooner we realize that a big part
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of our success is relationships, is communication, is
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connection.
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I think that's a real big one that
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we often miss because we're so into jumping
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through the next hurdle that we haven't thought
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about what's happening right now.
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We haven't thought about what's happening right now.
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And I think those are things that maybe
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some of us are going to say, wait
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a minute, I didn't quite get that.
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I didn't quite understand that.
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But when we become in the moment, we
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start to appreciate things.
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We get insights, have better creativity.
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Number 15, stop comparing today's life to somebody
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else's.
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I know that might sound like something you
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should do because you're like, well, they're here
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and I'm there.
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Everybody's different.
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Comparison can make something good suddenly feel inadequate.
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You don't know the full reality behind someone
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else's life.
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And when you start analyzing it, it can
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make you feel down.
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You don't know what they went through.
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They don't know what you went through.
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Measure your progress against your own direction.
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I think that's one that I think we
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all have to learn.
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And once we learn it, we can appreciate
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where we're coming from or where everybody else
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is coming from.
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All right.
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I think that's something that may take some
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people years to learn.
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But I want to tell you that once
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you learn that lesson, you'll be very appreciative
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to who you are, to what you're doing
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and what you're actually going to accomplish in
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life.
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Right.
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That's a that's a very, very important thing
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for us to acknowledge.
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Right.
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Very important to acknowledge.
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And when we acknowledge this, we're going to
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start to realize one thing, that we are
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in the moment.
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You're in the moment.
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We're living in the present.
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We're living intentionally.
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We didn't just show up.
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We are living intentionally.
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I think that's probably one of the biggest
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things that I can actually tell you, that
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we are living intentionally in our lives.
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I think that's a very, that's a very
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powerful thing for us to us to realize.
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Number 16, enjoy what doesn't need improvement.
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Not everything needs optimization.
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Sometimes something is already good.
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Let it be good without immediately searching for
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a way to upgrade it.
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OK, I know lots of times we want
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to make things better and there's nothing wrong
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with that.
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But if something is good the way it
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is and we're enjoying it, we don't want
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to change that.
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We want to keep things the way they
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are, like right now.
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Right.
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That's a that's a very key thing.
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But a lot of people, because they're analyzing
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other people, they get stuck.
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And they don't even know they're stuck.
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They get depressed and they get apathy and
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they decide they're inferior and they don't do
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anything.
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That all happens because of one thing.
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You know what happens, why that happens?
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It happens because of the emotional change that
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happens in our life.
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And that happens basically when we put ourselves
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down and make ourselves feel inadequate.
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It causes a chemical change and that can
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cause depression.
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That can cause apathy where we just don't
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want to do things.
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And guys, I hate to break this to
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you, but that's the beginning signs of burnout.
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All right.
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Number 17, let accomplishment actually register with you.
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When you accomplish something meaningful, stop long enough
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to recognize it.
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You work for it.
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Give your mind a chance to understand that
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something changed because of your effort.
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Number 18, stop turning every victim to another
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alignment.
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I know so many people are like, well,
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I just accomplished this.
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I got to do this next and this
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next.
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And they don't enjoy the moment of where
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they are and what they have accomplished.
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You finish one goal and you immediately ask,
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well, what's next?
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We need to enjoy the goal that we're
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working on or that we've completed.
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And be grateful for it before creating another
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task.
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Experience the victory you just earned.
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You know, relax in it.
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Bask in it.
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Don't be ready to just, you know, hit
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clear and reset.
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You worked hard for that accomplishment.
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You deserve to get a reward and celebrate
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it.
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Don't just move on, guys.
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Number 14, be present for your own progress.
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Don't become a spectator to your achievements.
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Notice yourself learning, improving, adapting and becoming more
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capable.
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Our capability is something that we feed or
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starve based on our perceptions.
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Our perceptions predicate what we're doing in our
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life.
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OK, that's probably one of the most important
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things that that I can share with you.
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Number 20, notice the moments you'll someday miss.
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Ordinary routines can become precious memories later and
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a familiar place.
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Regular conversation, daily ritual or time with someone
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you care about may someday be something you
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wish you could experience again and again.
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So I think it's important that we become
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present every part of our life.
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Our life becomes intentional in everything we do.
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I think that's a really important thing.
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We need to become intentional in everything that
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we do.
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Number 21, guys, enjoy the conversations without an
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objective.
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What does that mean?
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Enjoy the experience from, you know, the words
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that you're hearing, the person you're with, but
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also the opportunity to take in knowledge.
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To take in knowledge.
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That's a very important thing.
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So enjoy the conversations without an objective.
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Not every conversation needs to generate a lead,
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solve a problem, teach something or accomplish a
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task.
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Sometimes talking with another person is valuable simply
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because you enjoy the connection.
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The connection.
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Maybe you realize you're both like each other
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and you have similarities and that gets you
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to bond better than with anyone else.
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You're not trying to impress the other person.
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You're not trying to tell them that you're
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better than them.
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You're just trying to enjoy life and take
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it step by step.
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Do you know a lot of people that
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take things step by step or do you
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basically say to yourself, John, I have no
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clue what you're talking about.
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This goes back to the whole concept of
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being intentional, right?
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If we are intentional in our life, our
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attitude changes.
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The right energy falls into our life and
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the bad energy, mismatch, just falls to the
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side.
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But this takes practice, guys.
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This does not happen overnight.
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Doesn't happen overnight.
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Number 22, let ordinary experiences matter.
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You don't need extraordinary events every week to
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have a meaningful life.
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You don't need grand gestures every day.
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Ordinary meals, walks, drives, conversations, and quiet evenings,
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guess what, guys?
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They all count too.
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It could be anything from a fancy dinner
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all the way up to just making yourself
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something simple at home and enjoying and being
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grateful for that meal.
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Maybe you ordered out.
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Maybe it's just a slice of pizza.
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But being grateful for that moment that you
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have to sit there and to enjoy the
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food and the beverage that you are able
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to take part in.
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Number 23, guys, I ask you to stop,
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stop, stop requiring extraordinary circumstances because people looking
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for extraordinary circumstances, oftentimes they talk themselves out
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of where they're really going, okay?
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Not because they want to, but because they're
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putting an expectation.
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And when it's not there or fulfilled, guess
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what happens?
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Their attitude drops.
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If enjoyment requires perfect weather, plenty of money,
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unlimited time, or a major event, you'll spend
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a lot of time just waiting.
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Learn to recognize opportunities for enjoyment's sake inside
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normal circumstances.
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I think that's something that a lot of
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people here don't realize.
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You might have heard people say, oh, how
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do I get off the merry-go-round?
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How do I get off?
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It's just spinning.
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That means they're overcommitted.
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That means they're not taking time to be
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meaningful with everything they're doing.
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That's what that means.
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A lot of people don't want to hear
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that, but that's the absolute, absolute truth.
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Number 24, guys, recognize when you're already living
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something good.
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Sometimes we don't recognize a good chapter until
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it's over.
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Look around while you still know inside it.
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You may already be experiencing, well, something you'll
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remember fondly later.
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Number 25, give gratitude a practical place in
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your day.
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It deserves one.
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Gratitude doesn't have to become a complicated ritual.
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Simply pause long enough to recognize something you
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value instead of allowing everything good to become
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invisible through familiarity.
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Think about that for a moment.
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The things that you enjoy, do you just
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take them in, or do you really sit
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back and realize how grateful you are for
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them?
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I'm just asking a question.
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Number 26.
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Number 26 is an important one.
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Learn to appreciate without becoming complacent.
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Wow, that's a powerful one.
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Appreciation and ambition aren't opposites.
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You can be grateful for where you are
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while still working towards something better.
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The key is to be grateful for what
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you have now.
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In fact, appreciation can make growth healthier.
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I think we all want to change.
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We all want to grow, right?
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But we have to be grateful to what
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we have now, to what we are now
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in our life.
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That's a key, guys.
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That's a key.
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Number 27.
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Please let today have value of its own.
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Today doesn't need to justify itself by producing
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something for tomorrow.
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You may think it does, and if you
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do that, you're changing your perception, then when
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it doesn't happen, you get dismayed or you
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get disappointed.
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Some experiences deserve to matter simply because they
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happened and you were there to experience them.
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Number 28, guys.
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Stop racing past your own life.
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Constantly thinking about what comes next can prevent
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you from experiencing what is happening right now
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in the very moment.
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Occasionally, slow your mental pace enough to notice
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where you actually are.
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That's a key.
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Number 29.
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The present isn't practice for later.
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This moment isn't a rehearsal.
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You don't get to save and experience it
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again when you're less busy.
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The present is part of the actual life
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you're trying to build.
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Number 30.
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Enjoy the life happening right now before you.
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Keep your goals, continue growing, build a future
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you actually want.
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But don't make the future the only place
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where you're allowed to experience happiness, satisfaction, connection,
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or even pure enjoyment.
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As I get ready to close the show
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up for today, there is nothing, guys, wrong
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with wanting more from life.
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Okay?
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You can want to accomplish more, learn more,
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create more, experience more, and become more, and
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you should.
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But there's a difference between building towards something
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and constantly telling yourself that life hasn't started
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yet.
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Your life has already started.
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It's happening during the ordinary Wednesday, which is
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what today is.
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It's happening during the conversation you almost rushed
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through before you watched the show.
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It's happening during the meal you barely noticed
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and gave thanks for because you were too
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busy thinking about tomorrow.
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It's happening while you're building the business, earning
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the degree, pursuing the opportunity, developing the relationship,
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or working toward the next goal.
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Ladies and gentlemen, don't become so focused on
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the destination that you forget the experience of
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the journey.
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You see, you're working so hard to create
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it.
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Why not enjoy the trip?
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Look around occasionally.
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The birds, different scenery, water, plants, animals.
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Notice what's already good around you.
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Celebrate the small victory.
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Recognize how far you've traveled.
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Enjoy the people who are here.
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Appreciate what once seemed impossible, and when something
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good happens, resist the urge to immediately turn
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it into another assignment.
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I know that's hard for some people.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley, a serial entrepreneur, and I thank you
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so much for choosing to join me here
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today for another amazing episode of Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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And I want to leave you with some
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important words of wisdom, okay?
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First of all, ladies and gentlemen, please keep
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growing.
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Please keep learning.
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Please keep building.
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Growing, learning, building.
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But ladies and gentlemen, please remember, the present
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isn't practice for later.
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No, people get that wrong.
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You see, this is your life too right
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now.
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The ordinary Monday, the ordinary Tuesday, the Wednesday,
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the Thursday, the Friday, this is your life.
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You're building it.
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Learn to enjoy the life happening right now
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before you.
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And I think a good way to enjoy
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the life before you is to be mindful
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of things.
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If you're about to have a meal, regardless
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of whether you're religious or not, take a
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moment and be grateful for the precious food,
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the beverage, right?
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Say thank you.
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Even if you're at a restaurant, you can
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do it privately and quietly.
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You don't have to have a big brigade
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or a big grand gesture.
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You can do it very quietly.
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If you believe in God, you can thank
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God.
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If you're in the Lord, thank you, Lord.
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Or Creator, I thank you so much for
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allowing me.
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Or you can just say, you know, I'm
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so grateful and so thankful that I have
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this bountiful plate before me and a beverage
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to enjoy with it.
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When we start to think from those mindsets,
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we start to slowly rewire our brain.
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And over time, the neuroplasticity we've talked about
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before changes.
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And with those changes, our perceptions change.
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Our attitudes change.
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Our energy changes.
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Our health changes.
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You know what else changes?
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Our level of gratitude.
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If you're wondering why you're not successful, the
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first thing I'm going to tell you is,
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how grateful are you for everything you have
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right now?
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Just a question.
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You don't have to tell me.
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Just be grateful every day for everything you
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have.
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Take a few moments before each meal, before
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you go to sleep, before you get up.
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Be grateful for everything.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
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more of my amazing, of course, inspiring creations.
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I'll catch you real soon.
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Just to clarify, are you talking about me
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specifically not loading in a browser or app
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or AI tools in general, not responding on
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your computer?
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Number two.
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Got it.
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So it's every AI tool, not just me.
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Let's narrow it down a bit.
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Yes.
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Is this a specific browser?
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Yes to both, I think you meant.
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Okay, does the page actually load like you
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see in the website?
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But then it just won't respond when you
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type or click.
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So let me be more specific.
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It's only the audio that's not working.
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I can use you in your app or
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in the websites, no problem.
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But when I try to talk, I hear
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you, but you don't hear me.
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That's a microphone issue.