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Live with The Joy Jolt: Stop Taking Responsibility for Everyone Else’s Happiness · The Joy Jolt Podcast

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  SPEAKER_02: Welcome to The Joy Jolt.
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  SPEAKER_01: I am Susan Patrick.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I am Natalie Ledwell, and I just remembered to record our session.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's what's so funny.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right before we went live,
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  SPEAKER_01: I just love those moments,
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  SPEAKER_01: those very human moments of like, oh, I forgot to do this, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love it.
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  SPEAKER_01: That was fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: We kind of jumped right in, jumped right in, having a good time.
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  SPEAKER_01: So welcome to The Joy Jolt.
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  SPEAKER_01: The world needs...
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  SPEAKER_01: You need more joy jolts.
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  SPEAKER_01: So we're glad that you've found your way to this podcast.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we're excited today to talk a little bit about a subject that I think impacts
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  SPEAKER_01: a lot of women.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's that sense of really checking in with yourself to see
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  SPEAKER_01: if you are taking responsibility for other people's happiness and joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you are, we want you to stop it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Stop it.
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  SPEAKER_02: Stop it.
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  SPEAKER_02: Just stop it.
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  SPEAKER_02: Because I know that I have been doing that in the past, not so much now.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I think as a single woman,
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  SPEAKER_02: it's easier for me to be a little bit more selfish and to focus on my own.
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  SPEAKER_02: Although I am,
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  SPEAKER_02: I have a friend of mine,
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  SPEAKER_02: a friend of ours actually, who lost her husband a few months ago.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so I've been,
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  SPEAKER_02: even though I may want to go to the gym,
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  SPEAKER_02: I'll go out for a walk with her around the marina and it does end up bringing me joy
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  SPEAKER_02: as well.
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  SPEAKER_02: But I think that what I do is not at the expense of my own joy.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I think that was part of the reason that my relationship ended is because I had
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  SPEAKER_02: so much on my plate and what my partner was asking for wasn't outrageous,
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  SPEAKER_02: it wasn't ridiculous,
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  SPEAKER_02: but I just knew that I didn't have it in me because I'm like,
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  SPEAKER_02: I can't be responsible for your emotions and your joy as well.
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  SPEAKER_02: I have to look after myself.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so, yeah, so I ended that relationship so I could do that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because it literally becomes joy sucking and soul sucking.
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  SPEAKER_01: And relationships inherently, great relationships are generative.
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  SPEAKER_01: And great relationships are generous.
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  SPEAKER_01: And great relationships lift you up, they don't pull you down.
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  SPEAKER_01: But it's so interesting to see,
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  SPEAKER_01: I have a lot of friends who are single and married,
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  SPEAKER_01: but I watch women operating on the planet at a deficiency.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they kind of think that's just how it is.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love my sister.
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  SPEAKER_01: She's going through a really difficult divorce right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: And she spent years believing that she could delay gratification.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, once the children are older,
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  SPEAKER_01: once his parents,
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  SPEAKER_01: they kind of move out,
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  SPEAKER_01: once we get a different job,
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  SPEAKER_01: I think that we subtly bargain with ourselves with the ideal future.
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  SPEAKER_02: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so it's that sense of I'll suspend what I need today because I think it's coming tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: Well,
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  SPEAKER_02: and I think also what you're not saying is that it has to be this even balance,
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  SPEAKER_02: you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: your partner,
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  SPEAKER_02: your kids, everyone is giving to you equally and there's a reciprocation there.
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  SPEAKER_02: That's not what we're saying,
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  SPEAKER_02: you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: because there will be ebbs and flows and there will be times
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  SPEAKER_02: where it will be unbalanced and when one partner steps up and the other,
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  SPEAKER_02: you know, needs support and vice versa.
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  SPEAKER_02: But I think...
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  SPEAKER_02: What my new, the new practice that I want to share with everyone.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I was talking to my friend, Tiamo, and he's actually setting up a Substack page.
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  SPEAKER_02: So he is going to, we're going to have him on soon.
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  SPEAKER_02: And he just wrote a book called Joy First.
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  SPEAKER_02: And in the mornings when I get up,
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  SPEAKER_02: when I wake up, you know, I see the sun, I open the shades, I do the cold plunge.
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  SPEAKER_02: But then I ask the question, what's going to bring me joy now?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, what do I feel like
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  SPEAKER_02: doing now?
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  SPEAKER_02: Now, it could be a walk.
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  SPEAKER_02: It could be the gym.
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  SPEAKER_02: It could be, you know what, I'm just going to stay and have a fabulous breakfast.
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  SPEAKER_02: It could be just that.
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  SPEAKER_02: But whatever it is,
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  SPEAKER_02: it's like,
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  SPEAKER_02: what's going to bring me joy in this moment that's going to help me feel good?
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  SPEAKER_02: Now, he started doing that practice and he found that he was like 30% more productive.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: When he just went, well, what do I feel like doing?
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  SPEAKER_02: He goes, and my days are only filled with things that I enjoy doing.
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  SPEAKER_01: That I like.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so what I love about Te Amo's concept,
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  SPEAKER_01: so brilliant, joy first, because I think a lot of us are putting joy last.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like joy is the reward for a hard day's work.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm not saying that a hard day's work is bad,
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  SPEAKER_01: but a hard day's work done in joy feels a lot different than just a hard day's work.
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  SPEAKER_01: We've looked at joy and we've kept joy as a thing that we're going to get at the end
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  SPEAKER_01: of something.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's such a beautiful message to say, Put joy at the beginning of the conversation.
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  SPEAKER_01: Make joy the priority.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so one of the ways that I do that in my relationship with my children,
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  SPEAKER_01: with my husband, is that I really argue for my joy.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: I bring it up.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, you know what?
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  SPEAKER_01: I deserve to feel good.
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  SPEAKER_01: You deserve to feel good.
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  SPEAKER_01: This doesn't feel good.
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  SPEAKER_02: Mm.
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  SPEAKER_02: So what are we going to do?
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  SPEAKER_02: I've been at your house.
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  SPEAKER_01: I've stayed at your house.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the rule, number one rule is fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's right.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Have fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: Have fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Which I think,
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm going to just say,
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  SPEAKER_01: I think that is not a frivolous rule because kids are just little adults
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  SPEAKER_01: that are emerging.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the truth is nobody likes rules, but everybody likes to have fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: And what I say about fun is that fun isn't fun unless everybody's having fun.
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  SPEAKER_02: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if mama ain't having fun, we're not following the rule.
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  SPEAKER_02: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we only have one rule and that rule is have fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: Everything else is a regulation.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I don't think that people like rules for rules sake.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so it's that sense of how do you inspire?
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  SPEAKER_01: And that doesn't mean my house is out of order and we don't do things.
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  SPEAKER_01: No.
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  SPEAKER_01: Quite the opposite.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know,
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  SPEAKER_01: being thoughtful in the morning,
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  SPEAKER_01: even if you haven't had your cup of coffee is a requirement.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, you come in, greet people, you say hello because it's more fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: You've got to follow the rule.
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  SPEAKER_02: See, I think the challenge is for many people,
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  SPEAKER_02: which is why we decided to do our retreat down in Mexico,
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  SPEAKER_01: which we'll talk about in a minute.
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  SPEAKER_01: Real joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Real joy retreat.
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  SPEAKER_01: Real joy.
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  SPEAKER_02: Is that we have gone into a routine.
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  SPEAKER_02: We have gone into default way of operating and habits that,
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  SPEAKER_02: you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: we like if we're working,
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  SPEAKER_02: it's like, okay, I have to be at the computer for eight hours.
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  SPEAKER_02: I need to be doing this.
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  SPEAKER_02: I need to like,
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  SPEAKER_02: you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: we have these old paradigms or old ways of thinking about how we need
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  SPEAKER_02: to do certain things or how we interact with other people.
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  SPEAKER_02: And so you could be listening to this podcast and go, no, I like that.
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  SPEAKER_02: I like the idea of that.
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  SPEAKER_02: I like the sound of that.
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  SPEAKER_02: That sounds great.
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  SPEAKER_02: But then you go into your life and you go back into your default mode,
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  SPEAKER_02: which is why having like a complete pattern interrupt,
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  SPEAKER_02: a complete reset is important,
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  SPEAKER_02: which is the purpose of why we put the real joy retreat together.
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  SPEAKER_01: And because we do need to interrupt that pattern and we need to take a stand for our joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're doing everything else for everyone else
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  SPEAKER_01: and accommodating everyone else's schedules,
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  SPEAKER_01: but doing something that's for yourself and the focus of it is your joy is one of
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  SPEAKER_01: the greatest gifts you can give to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: I've really become very clear in this over the years is that I'm really more now
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  SPEAKER_01: than ever seeing and holding my joy As sacred.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I also want to honor that it's my joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm never going to give you my joy, Natalie.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what I can do is I can inspire you to connect deeper with your joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: So what I can be is I can be an advocate for other people's joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: But my joy is contained only in its mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: My joy is mine.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I can't give my joy away to try to have someone else.
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  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't go that way.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can become an advocate for someone's joy, but you cannot take responsibility for their joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's one of the messages that's huge in my home,
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  SPEAKER_01: that when my husband's having a bad day and we all have bad days,
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  SPEAKER_01: you can say,
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm sorry,
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  SPEAKER_01: you're having a bad day,
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  SPEAKER_01: but you need to figure out a way to get reconnected to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't do that work for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I can advocate to say I'm seeing you be unplugged right now.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: But even being an advocate for your own joy and somebody else's joy,
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  SPEAKER_02: you can't do that from an empty cup.
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  SPEAKER_01: No.
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  SPEAKER_02: You can't do that from a place where you are surviving and you're getting through
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  SPEAKER_02: and you're just going through the motions.
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  SPEAKER_02: You know,
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  SPEAKER_02: part of what we'll be going through and teaching at the retreat is how
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  SPEAKER_02: to Carry your joy with you throughout the day because here is the point of it all.
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  SPEAKER_02: The journey and how we navigate the journey is the point of everything.
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  SPEAKER_02: That is the point.
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  SPEAKER_02: Because we're always on a journey to somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_02: We're always,
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  SPEAKER_02: you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: even if we achieve a certain goal,
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  SPEAKER_02: there'll be another goal that we set for ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_02: And it's not necessarily that we reach the goals.
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  SPEAKER_02: That is the point of everything.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's how we travel along the journey.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_02: Is it a joyful journey?
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think what's so exciting about the Real Joy Retreat experience
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  SPEAKER_01: that we're hosting in Mexico is that we've really brought together a beautiful group
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  SPEAKER_01: of facilitators who are going to be speaking to and inviting women into
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  SPEAKER_01: and advocating for women to really access their joy at the mind,
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  SPEAKER_01: the body, and the spirit, the soul level.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so looking at kind of the layers of where we can start and joy, you know, our definition.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hopefully you know that if you're listening to a joy for us dance for just open yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, just open yourself to the possibility of really allowing yourself
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  SPEAKER_01: and giving yourself permission to step away from What is the pattern,
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  SPEAKER_01: the circumstantial drift of your life and take a full stand in your mind,
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  SPEAKER_01: your body and spirit to just open yourselves to experiencing your joy in
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  SPEAKER_01: a deeply profound and fun and playful and safe space.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_02: And that is what, you know, we are advocating for your joy at this retreat.
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, our request of you is that when you arrive, like we've looked after everything.
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  SPEAKER_02: You know,
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  SPEAKER_02: your transportation from the airport to where we're doing the retreat,
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  SPEAKER_02: the meals, all the activities, everything we've looked after.
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  SPEAKER_02: So our request of you is that when you arrive, you surrender.
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  SPEAKER_02: You get to a place where you are open,
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  SPEAKER_02: just opening yourself
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  SPEAKER_02: to the fun and to the pleasure and to the insights and to
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  SPEAKER_02: the guidance and to everything that you will experience in
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  SPEAKER_00: this time.
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  SPEAKER_02: And, you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: it's not like we're hosting the retreat in an area that is really touristy
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  SPEAKER_02: and everything.
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  SPEAKER_02: This is a private place.
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  SPEAKER_01: We pretty much have the place to ourselves, the beach and
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  SPEAKER_02: everything to us pretty much.
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  SPEAKER_01: Except for all of the turtles that are laying their eggs on the beach that you get
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  SPEAKER_02: to watch every evening.
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  SPEAKER_01: So we'll have to share the beach with the turtles as they're laying their eggs
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  SPEAKER_01: and babies will be hatching.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's a very alive.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: And just open yourself, just reopen yourself to who you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's not changing who you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not manipulating who you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's allowing more of yourself to occupy that space.
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  SPEAKER_01: And really, I love it because I see that joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: I see the O in joy as the opening that's just right in my heart space.
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  SPEAKER_01: I've got to, you know, that's my O spot.
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  SPEAKER_01: We've got a G spot and O spot.
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  SPEAKER_02: And what we'll also be focusing on at this retreat, and we're looking at mind, body, and soul.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: So part of it, especially, you know, my forte is definitely the mind.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_02: How we can, you know, visualize and imagine and reimagine what our next chapter can look like.
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  SPEAKER_02: But how to visualize that,
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  SPEAKER_02: you know, effectively so that you're really speeding up that manifestation process.
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  SPEAKER_02: Those beliefs,
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  SPEAKER_02: those old programs,
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  SPEAKER_02: you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: everything that you may have thought about yourself,
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm too old, I'm too past it, I'm too this, too that.
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  SPEAKER_02: We're going to deal with all of those thoughts.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I'm going to give you a little process that you take home with you so that
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  SPEAKER_02: when these thoughts come up, you go up.
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  SPEAKER_02: I see you.
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  SPEAKER_02: I know what you are.
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  SPEAKER_02: I know that this thought is not true.
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  SPEAKER_02: And these are the thoughts that I'm choosing to think instead.
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  SPEAKER_02: So, you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: and it's not just for me,
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  SPEAKER_02: it's not just the mind and how we reprogram our subconscious mind.
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  SPEAKER_02: So now we're going to be happier, healthier, have more fun than we ever had.
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  SPEAKER_02: But how we inject joy throughout our day.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: And really taking ownership that your thoughts...
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  SPEAKER_01: Your thoughts contribute to how the body vibrates.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not making the thoughts wrong.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's just knowing that not all thoughts are true.
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  SPEAKER_01: It was really kind of interesting last night.
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  SPEAKER_01: I haven't even told you this,
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  SPEAKER_01: but last night,
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  SPEAKER_01: Jared and I, for whatever reason, we both woke up at 2.30 in the morning.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we just kind of both woke up.
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  SPEAKER_01: And at 2.30 in the morning, the mind is spinning.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: The mind is spinning.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I always say,
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  SPEAKER_01: whatever I'm thinking about at 2.30 in the morning,
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  SPEAKER_01: unless I really do some work then, could take me down a rabbit hole.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we were so awake that the two of us got out of bed and we went downstairs
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  SPEAKER_01: and we were sitting on the couch.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it was funny,
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  SPEAKER_01: we both were kind of looking at each other and it's like, so what are you thinking?
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  SPEAKER_01: And it was interesting how both of us,
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  SPEAKER_01: because his journey with holding his vibration and my journey
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  SPEAKER_01: with really holding my vibration and my joy, we've become advocates for each other.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so it was interesting how we kind of allowed there to be space for the thought to come up.
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  SPEAKER_01: But then there was conversation around,
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  SPEAKER_01: wait a minute, thinking we're in the midst of a really big remodel.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think last night was the first time I got a little bit stressed about what's happening.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I woke up.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think that was kind of what was going on.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I loved how my husband helped to soothe my vibration.
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  SPEAKER_01: He didn't manage my vibration.
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  SPEAKER_01: He didn't change my vibration.
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  SPEAKER_01: He just advocated for me not to indulge the thought that was agitating my vibration.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's really what it is that we're wanting to create is how do you advocate
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  SPEAKER_01: for your vibration?
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  SPEAKER_01: And then you become an advocate for people around you and they can become advocates for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: How fun is it to live in a world full of people who advocate for your joy?
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  SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
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  SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then we have Dr. Diane Kays.
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  SPEAKER_02: Who is a doctor who is an advocate for optimal health in midlife and through menopause.
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  SPEAKER_02: She focuses a lot on, you know, our environment.
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  SPEAKER_02: What are the toxins that are keeping us sick?
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  SPEAKER_02: Our gut health.
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  SPEAKER_02: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_02: I mean, our gut is our second brain.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_02: Yes, it is.
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  SPEAKER_02: And, you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: and as we get to middle age,
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_02: you start to get that, you know, that little barrel kind of look.
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  SPEAKER_02: And she helps us to understand what's going on and how we can look after our health
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_02: in that respect.
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  SPEAKER_02: But how we can live optimally, you know, in this next chapter.
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  SPEAKER_02: And then, Susie,
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  SPEAKER_02: you've got us,
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  SPEAKER_02: you know,
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  SPEAKER_02: tapping into that spiritual side of us and some of the Experiences
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  SPEAKER_02: that you've helped to curate and create down there are just mind-blowing
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  SPEAKER_02: and heart-blowing.
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and heart-blowing.
• 17:08
  SPEAKER_01: You know, it's funny.
• 17:08
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, I feel selfishly just so excited about what's being curated
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  SPEAKER_01: because it's just basically all of my favorite things,
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_01: all the most magical things that I've had the opportunity to interact with
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_01: while I've been down here, living here for 11 years.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is not your average Mexico experience.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're gonna take you to spaces that,
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_01: you know,
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_01: take the average person living here some time to find and we're gonna,
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_01: we've put them all into one week and it's just gonna,
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_01: I know that it's gonna blow people's mind, body and spirit wide open.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_01: You know, that really is what it's about.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_01: And, you know,
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_01: this whole topic is about stop taking responsibility for everyone else's happiness.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_01: And one of the greatest ways that you can do that Is by giving yourself permission.
• 17:54
  SPEAKER_01: Giving yourself permission.
• 17:56
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I'm going to give myself permission to do something that's totally and wholly for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Why?
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_01: I don't have to explain it.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_01: I just get to choose it.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_01: It just feels right.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_01: It just feels right.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_01: And I think a lot of times we try to explain to people what we're doing.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't have to make sense in this time of your life.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't have to make sense.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_01: It's in October.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_01: So those people, we still got four weeks, which is plenty of time to plan.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_01: But October 13th,
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_01: if it calls you and it feels like it's going to fill your cup,
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_01: that's all the excuse you need.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, exactly.
• 18:35
  SPEAKER_01: How many times do we have to give ourselves a laundry list of reasons in order
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_01: to do something that is for us?
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, and justifications and all of that.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_02: Not only that.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_02: And the other thing is that the other women that are also coming,
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_02: I mean, we've already filled six spaces.
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_02: We don't have that many left.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, we're more than half, yeah, full.
• 18:57
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_02: Just the connections that you have with other women who are going through the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I think a lot of times we suffer in silence because maybe we can't talk
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_02: to our partners about it.
• 19:13
  SPEAKER_02: We feel a little embarrassed to share with other people.
• 19:16
  SPEAKER_02: And, you know, I went through a whole period of my life where I was like that.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_02: Now I'm just like, I'm talking about everything.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_01: And part of what I'm talking about is joy.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_01: Part of what I'm talking about is my joy.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like sometimes we just, we kind of been guilted into not talking about your joy.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_01: And so this is an opportunity for us to be playful and And to reengage
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_01: with our life force and our energy.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_01: And that's the greatest way.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_01: You take responsibility for your happiness and be a stand for your joy.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_01: And then all of a sudden what happens is it really kind of pours out in the form of
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_01: an invitation rather than an expectation.
• 20:03
  SPEAKER_01: And so invitation is so much easier to grab on to.
• 20:09
  SPEAKER_02: Well, and, you know, and we want to invite you to come and join us in paradise.
• 20:12
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, okay.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_01: Come and join us in paradise.
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_02: I mean, it is stunning down there.
• 20:17
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_02: And then,
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_02: like we said,
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_02: this is not about changing who you are,
• 20:23
  SPEAKER_02: but it is about understanding more about what makes you tick and how to go back
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_02: into your life.
• 20:31
  SPEAKER_02: In a way that you can regulate your emotions and regulate your joy.
• 20:37
  SPEAKER_02: How you can be a better mother, better wife, better sister, better girlfriend, whatever that is.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_02: And do it in a way where you are consistently filling your cup.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_02: It's not like you have to stop and...
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_02: Go, okay, I've got to schedule a certain amount of hours per day to be able to fill my cup up.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_02: No, we're going to send you back with strategies and tools and techniques
• 21:00
  SPEAKER_02: that you can be consistently filling your cup all the time.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_02: So life is not going to get less crazy,
• 21:07
  SPEAKER_02: but how you navigate through it will be more fun, more joyful.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_02: And we cannot wait to meet you in Mexico where we will have the most amazing time.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so visit realjoyretreats.com, realjoyretreats.com.
• 21:24
  SPEAKER_01: There is a submission process.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_01: You fill out a form, we'll give you a call.
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_01: And we'd love to hear from you if you're listening to this.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_01: If you are a man and you're listening to this and you're thinking about a woman
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_01: in your life that could use more joy, become an advocate for her.
• 21:38
  SPEAKER_01: Send her the link and let her know that I was thinking about you when I was listening to this.
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_01: And if you are a woman that's listening to this
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_01: and this is tickling something inside of you,
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_01: Just give yourself permission to reach out to us.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_01: It's a no pressure conversation.
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_01: We love to hear from you and we'll figure out if it's the right fit for you.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_01: This is a very intimate retreat.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_01: There's not going to be more than 15 people at this retreat.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_01: So it's a smaller group.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_01: It's more curated.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_01: And the goal is that you feel nurtured so that you can surrender
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  SPEAKER_01: and just open yourself to experiencing more of the divine being that is you.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_01: And that's your joy.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_01: So share this podcast.
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_01: If you're listening to this, please share this podcast, share the link.
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_01: If you are listening to us and you are not on Substack,
• 22:27
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• 22:31
  SPEAKER_01: Right?
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_01: That's what we're committed to doing is to spread a little bit more joy,
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_01: this one conversation at a time.
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_01: So welcome and thank you for being here.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_02: And we hope we get to see you in Mexico.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_02: Have a fabulous week and we'll be back again next week.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_02: Thanks, everyone.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_02: Thank you.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_02: Joy Jolt.
• 22:51
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