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Hygge · Cuff’s Basement

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  Speaker 2: Talking always like a chaos.
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  Speaker 1: Where that builds the glass. Oh man, all right, welcome
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  Speaker 1: back to cuss basement. How are you doing, Ryan?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Sorry, you're on mute? Say that it is good?
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  Speaker 2: How about you?
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  Speaker 1: I'm well? So whose side do you have in the
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  Speaker 1: Trump versus the Pope? Beef? Okay, hello, I said, whose
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  Speaker 1: side do you have.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I thought you said besides the Trump beef.
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  Speaker 1: No, I said, whose side do you have in the
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  Speaker 1: Pope versus Trump beef?
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  Speaker 2: I have to go with the Pope on that one.
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  Speaker 1: Really. No, Actually, I think it's absolutely hilarious that every
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  Speaker 1: day there's something happens that doesn't like it seems like
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  Speaker 1: it's fake.
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  Speaker 2: I'll be ready with it. I didn't know this happened
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  Speaker 2: until you just told me.
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  Speaker 1: Oh you did not know this? Oh my god.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: The other day I was visiting I was visiting somebody's
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  Speaker 1: office for work, and they had the news on in
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  Speaker 1: the lobby and it was just about Trump beefing with
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  Speaker 1: the Pope and like talking shit about the Pope, which
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  Speaker 1: I loved. And then today, like the daily podcast, the
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  Speaker 1: New York Times Daily, the episode today was called Trump
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  Speaker 1: versus the Pope. You just like because I guess the
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  Speaker 1: because Pete Hegseth said that we should pray in Jesus
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  Speaker 1: christ name that we should win the war in Iran
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  Speaker 1: and defeat them, and then some cardinals or somebody, maybe
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  Speaker 1: the Pope said you shouldn't pray in Jesus's name to
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  Speaker 1: like kill your enemies in war, because that's not really
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  Speaker 1: what Jesus is about. And then like Trump started shitting
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  Speaker 1: on him and taking shots in him publicly. Yeah, it's
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  Speaker 1: it's just what a wacky, wacky time we live in.
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  Speaker 1: Did you see that Trump cat door Dash McDonald's he
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  Speaker 1: pulled to him and Ryan, I did see that.
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  Speaker 3: Yep, yeah, I saw him. He gave the person one
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  Speaker 3: hundred dollars tip. Oh wow, I didn't really.
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  Speaker 2: Buy it because of the door dash t shirt the
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  Speaker 2: person was wearing. That threw me off a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: Well, so I always like like people who are I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I'm I'm very liberal, but people that are like dishonestly
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  Speaker 1: liberal are like just too extremely liberal. Won't even admit
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  Speaker 1: that Trump is intentionally and unint intentionally funny, because you
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  Speaker 1: have to admit he's unintentionally funny. If you don't think
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  Speaker 1: anything he does is unintentionally funny, then I have no
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  Speaker 1: interest in being your friend. But he also is very
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  Speaker 1: intentionally funny at times, like he is funny. And when
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  Speaker 1: he opened so that the DoorDash driver goes and knocks
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  Speaker 1: on the White House back door and then Trump opens
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  Speaker 1: the door and it's like oh hello, and they say,
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  Speaker 1: mister President, we have your McDonald's door dash order and
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  Speaker 1: then Trump goes this doesn't seem staged at all. I
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  Speaker 1: really liked that.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, I was gonna say that made sense
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  Speaker 3: because of the T shirt, that something was going on there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's what we're talking about.
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  Speaker 4: Well sorry, go ahead.
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  Speaker 2: Oh good, that's.
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  Speaker 1: What we're talking about today. We're talking about politics. Okay, No,
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  Speaker 1: So Ryan, this is a surprise podcast, my favorite once
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  Speaker 1: where you do not know what the subject matter is,
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  Speaker 1: and this is one. This is one of those things
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  Speaker 1: like we don't have any ideas, we have nothing in
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  Speaker 1: the can. Let's just throw something together and see what happens.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, throws show at the wall the episode. But
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  Speaker 1: I was reading this book called hold On. It's called
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  Speaker 1: The Danish Way of Parenting. It is by Jessica, Joel Alexander,
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  Speaker 1: and Ibben Dissing sand All what the happiest people in
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  Speaker 1: the world know about raising confident and capable kids. And
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  Speaker 1: it's basically about how like the Danish are always is
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  Speaker 1: consistently one of the highest happiness levels in the world
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  Speaker 1: in some poll that is regularly done, and they have
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  Speaker 1: very happy children. So I was reading this because I
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  Speaker 1: listened to an interview with the author, and I just
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  Speaker 1: thought she was like everything about this was fascinating, And
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  Speaker 1: I opened a chapter where years ago, well maybe not
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  Speaker 1: years ago, maybe like a year ago, Sarah fan of
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  Speaker 1: the pod told me about higi. So we've been talking
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  Speaker 1: about hige for a year, but I actually found out
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  Speaker 1: by reading this book. It says the Danish concept of
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  Speaker 1: hige pronounced hooga, so it's spelled h y g g e.
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  Speaker 1: Hence we thought it was higie, but it's actually huga.
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  Speaker 1: Have you ever heard of this term before?
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  Speaker 2: I'm not from that, but that would've been being much
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  Speaker 2: bigger trouble.
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  Speaker 1: What's harga?
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  Speaker 2: That's the holiday from midsommer from.
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  Speaker 1: Oh and we'd be in a lot of trouble. So
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  Speaker 1: heigi or sorry, Hooga literally means to cozy around together,
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  Speaker 1: and there is this So Shannon hates like trivia games
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  Speaker 1: games in general, board games games where you ask people questions,
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  Speaker 1: but this hooga game is a concept about enjoying a
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  Speaker 1: nice and cozy conversation with friends. There are no winners
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  Speaker 1: or losers. The goals to simply make it as hooga
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  Speaker 1: as possible and everyone wins. So basically these questions are
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  Speaker 1: like they're not softball questions, but they're just very cozy,
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  Speaker 1: relaxing questions that are not really controversial for the most part,
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  Speaker 1: or challenging. But it's just ways to start conversation between
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  Speaker 1: a group of people that feel comfortable around each other
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  Speaker 1: and get to know each other better. Okay, so this
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  Speaker 1: is sort of like I said, it would be almost
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  Speaker 1: like a mail bag. I have hooga cards.
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  Speaker 2: What a bag?
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  Speaker 1: A hooga bag? Yeah, there you go. I have hooga cards.
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  Speaker 1: And because sometimes we've talked about you, you've told me
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  Speaker 1: you don't like being on the spot. So I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to read questions from the hooga bag. I will answer
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  Speaker 1: the question, and that will give you time to think,
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  Speaker 1: so you can answer the question after I give my answer.
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  Speaker 1: Is that fair?
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  Speaker 2: Sure?
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  Speaker 5: And I'll give you Did we do these cards on
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  Speaker 5: the five hundredth episode?
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  Speaker 2: One? Am I thinking of different cards?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? You know what we did? We did do these cards?
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  Speaker 1: I think we I think I read a couple of them. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I think they might be the same cards. But you
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  Speaker 1: know what, whatever, shut up, Ryan, We're gonna edit that out.
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  Speaker 1: Who's we in this scenario? Okay, So not counting your
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  Speaker 1: spouse or your family members, who in your life has
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  Speaker 1: been the kindest to you. So that's an example. This
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  Speaker 1: isn't This is a fascinating question, but it's not gonna
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  Speaker 1: ruffle any feathers or piss anyone off. It's not really
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  Speaker 1: challenging to answer it. So my spouse would not be
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  Speaker 1: even in the consideration, so she doesn't need to be
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  Speaker 1: automatically disqualified. But honestly, I would say Ryan. I would
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  Speaker 1: say Ryan probably has been the kindest to me in
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  Speaker 1: my life. And I don't mean this to kiss his
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  Speaker 1: ass or I don't expect Ryan to say me as
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  Speaker 1: his answer that I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Not gonna scratch out and change it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not setting I'm not setting you up for that.
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  Speaker 1: I just think Ryan is We've never really gotten in
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  Speaker 1: a fight, you know, Like if Ryan ever dislikes something
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  Speaker 1: I did or said, he would just calmly talk to
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  Speaker 1: me about it. He's very very nice. Jesus Christ, Chucky,
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  Speaker 1: he's a very nice people.
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  Speaker 2: Chuck, you heard fights be came right down. He came
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  Speaker 2: right down exactly.
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  Speaker 1: He would not be on the list either. You're very helpful.
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  Speaker 1: You always offer, like if I needed to move a
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  Speaker 1: really like a grand piano up a staircase, and no
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  Speaker 1: one wants to help me. I feel like Ryan would
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  Speaker 1: be kind enough or a sucker enough to actually come, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: to come over and help me. Like the time Mike
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  Speaker 1: Ma asked you to help him remove a floor and
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  Speaker 1: you like worked an entire day of construction for free.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, a great day. Learned a lot that day.
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  Speaker 1: So do you know, not counting your partner or family members,
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  Speaker 1: partner being podcast partner or family members, who in your
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  Speaker 1: life has been the kindest to you.
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  Speaker 3: Been the kindest to me? Oh my god, just sheer frequency. Jesus,
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  Speaker 3: this is really hard. I mentioned I know a lot
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  Speaker 3: of mean people.
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  Speaker 1: That's true. I mean there are a lot of mean
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  Speaker 1: people in this world.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, just out the gate.
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  Speaker 1: Oh boy, this was a mistake.
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  Speaker 2: It probably was.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is really hard.
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  Speaker 1: No one has been kind to you.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of people have, That's what I'm trying to say.
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  Speaker 3: It's like, it's like, who has done like the sheer frequency?
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  Speaker 3: I you know, i'd say Mike really and truly.
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  Speaker 1: Mike Mas, Mike Mack.
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  Speaker 2: I would never accuse Mike Mass of being kind ever.
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  Speaker 4: I know.
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  Speaker 1: I was like shocked by that answer.
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  Speaker 3: No, just because just little things like similar deal. Always
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  Speaker 3: wanted to help out, just like a great caretaker as
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  Speaker 3: a person in general, let alone as a friend. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: just alously. I live with the guy, so it was
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  Speaker 3: just sheer frequency. M hmm, so just the most But.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, okay, if if you had an extra room in
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  Speaker 1: your home, that was entirely it just magically appeared. You
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  Speaker 1: have an extra room, and you can do whatever you
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  Speaker 1: want with it. It's entirely going to be your decision
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  Speaker 1: and not shared. What would you do with that room?
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  Speaker 3: Definitely the DVD storage room, that's my.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I would be like a walk in DVD library.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they need to get I need, yeah, need more space.
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  Speaker 1: With this space. Is that your room is running out
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  Speaker 1: of space? Yeah, that's that's uh, that's very fair. Yeah
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  Speaker 1: I think that. And again, some of these answers are
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  Speaker 1: going to make me seem like I'm I chose these
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  Speaker 1: questions to look like a good person, and that's not
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  Speaker 1: at all the game. My room. If I had an
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  Speaker 1: extra room, I.
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  Speaker 2: Did email me the answers to say earlier that is.
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  Speaker 1: What I did. I would give Shannon an office because
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  Speaker 1: she doesn't have an office space in my house. I
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  Speaker 1: have an office because I had a job where I
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  Speaker 1: was entirely working from home, and then she after the fact,
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  Speaker 1: she got a job where she was working from home
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  Speaker 1: all the time, but she doesn't have an office space,
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  Speaker 1: so she like works in the in the bedroom, but
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  Speaker 1: sometimes on the couch, and I just think it kind
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  Speaker 1: of sucks.
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  Speaker 3: I would agree. I think that's what it's like. Part
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  Speaker 3: of the reason I would also like like to do
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  Speaker 3: like a separate DVD room is because like this is
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  Speaker 3: where sleep if I work from home, this is where
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  Speaker 3: my desk is where I am now, and then these
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  Speaker 3: things so there's just no change. I think it's part
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  Speaker 3: of the reason why I like going to the office,
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  Speaker 3: because it's just some change.
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  Speaker 2: From this in somewhere. Okay, I like that, But great answer.
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  Speaker 1: If you could take a week long vacation anywhere in
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  Speaker 1: the world by yourself, where would you go? That's the
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  Speaker 1: top one for me because it's by yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was.
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  Speaker 1: By myself, like it was with Shannon or with CC
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  Speaker 1: would be a much different answer. Yeah, by myself.
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  Speaker 3: Because I feel like when you go to like other countries,
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  Speaker 3: it's only been once. Someone who knows their way around,
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  Speaker 3: I feel is crucial. So we did meet that guy
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  Speaker 3: who was just here on his own, the guy from
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  Speaker 3: and think he was from California met at that breakfast place.
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  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, came here.
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  Speaker 1: I think that that's true and not like if somebody
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  Speaker 1: dropped you in Ireland, you'd probably be okay. If somebody
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  Speaker 1: dropped you into rural China, then that would be more
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  Speaker 1: of a problem.
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  Speaker 3: I feel at least though, like they would like show
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  Speaker 3: you things to do, like curate the experience.
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  Speaker 2: You wouldn't feel like.
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  Speaker 3: I was dropped in the middle of Ireland, I was like,
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  Speaker 3: how the fuck did I get here? I just wanted
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  Speaker 3: to go home. I didn't really use the trip for Ireland.
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  Speaker 3: Well did I get here?
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  Speaker 1: I would the bunny ranch in Nevada?
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  Speaker 2: Okay? Interesting? All right?
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  Speaker 1: No, not choose that? Were you gonna answer?
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  Speaker 2: For real?
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  Speaker 3: Anywhere Italy? I just always wanted to go there.
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  Speaker 1: There it is awesome. I would love I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: don't think it would be as fun by myself, like
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  Speaker 1: I'm tempted to say Galway. But what would be fun
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  Speaker 1: by myself? You know what I would do is if
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  Speaker 1: it was by myself for a week, I would find
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  Speaker 1: some like really beautiful but completely remote location where there's
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  Speaker 1: I would not see another human being.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so it's like double down on like the alone.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, that's like soul experience.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I would, honestly if I could just like do
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  Speaker 1: if we had a magic wand I could do anything,
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  Speaker 1: I would probably go to a place that was safe
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  Speaker 1: but there's no other people and I'd be alone in
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  Speaker 1: a safe environment that I felt comfortable with, and I
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  Speaker 1: would like heavily take loucinogenic drugs like I would take
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  Speaker 1: peyote or acid or something like that. I think that
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  Speaker 1: would be a very interesting experience that I genuinely would
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  Speaker 1: want to do.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's like it's it's so much better with
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  Speaker 3: people alone.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's a great call out.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, Bunny Ranch as well. That's what Ryan's thinking.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, you got me get my wheel spinning here. Now, hedonism,
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  Speaker 2: what do you?
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  Speaker 1: What would you hedonism? The Hedonism Resort in Jamaica?
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  Speaker 3: Is that what you're talking about Workaholics when they go
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  Speaker 3: and it's just disgusting.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I didn't know that that was even an episode
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  Speaker 1: of Workaholics, Like I knew about the Hedonism Resort. Hedonism
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  Speaker 1: is a nude resort in Jamaica, and I like me
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  Speaker 1: and Colin in college used to read the online reviews
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  Speaker 1: and because we just thought it was hilarious, and some
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  Speaker 1: of them were like overwhelmingly positive, like they loved it.
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  Speaker 2: Food is amazing.
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  Speaker 1: No, but some people would legitimately be like, the food's
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  Speaker 1: not that good, and I'm like, what why are we
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  Speaker 1: even talking about the food?
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  Speaker 2: You knows me off.
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  Speaker 1: It's like that's like going to Taco Bell and saying
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  Speaker 1: like they didn't have molay. It's like, well, we're not,
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  Speaker 1: We're not. That's not what this is. You know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean exactly here for unfortunately, But what what would
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  Speaker 1: you if you were to ask your parents, what would
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  Speaker 1: they likely answer? What was the craziest thing Ryan did
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  Speaker 1: as a child or Tim did as a child? Crazy
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  Speaker 1: thing I did as a child. That would be tough,
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  Speaker 1: I think to answer. I would say, one time, when
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  Speaker 1: I was really really angry at my parents, I punched
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  Speaker 1: a hole in the through the drywall. Oh wow, in
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  Speaker 1: the basement. I punched a hole through the drywall.
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  Speaker 2: Did you hurt your hand?
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  Speaker 1: No? No, because I got lucky, because like if if
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  Speaker 1: I was, because I don't know where the studs are.
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  Speaker 1: But if I punched where a stud was located. I
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  Speaker 1: probably would have broken my hand, but I managed to
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  Speaker 1: punch in between studs and I went through. It probably
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  Speaker 1: wasn't that thick of a sheet of drywall, but I
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  Speaker 1: went through the sheet of drywall in between studs.
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  Speaker 2: Wow. Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not I'm not bragging about that. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: it was not a great way to handle your emotions.
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  Speaker 1: But I think that actually may have happened twice. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think once was my my I think once was
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  Speaker 1: Mike Barbo asked me to go to Cape Cod with
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  Speaker 1: his family and my mom said no for no reason,
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  Speaker 1: just like there was no explanation, we had no plans.
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  Speaker 1: She just said, no, you can't go. And I was
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  Speaker 1: so mad. I thought, like I need to punish them.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost like in jail, where you have to let
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  Speaker 1: them let people know, Okay, like you can try to
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  Speaker 1: do this again, but is it gonna be worth it.
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  Speaker 1: That's honestly the way I would look at some of
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  Speaker 1: the things my parents would do that I would think
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  Speaker 1: were so unfair. I would think, Okay, I need to
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  Speaker 1: I need to let them know that doing this in
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  Speaker 1: the future is going to be a mistake. That's what
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  Speaker 1: was my thinking at the time, and then another time
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  Speaker 1: I punched a hole in the drywall was unrelated to
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  Speaker 1: my parents. It was it was a girl lady troubles,
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  Speaker 1: I'll put it that way. Lady troubles caused me to
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  Speaker 1: punch a hole in the drywall and also in my basement.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, do you do you have any answer? I
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  Speaker 1: was thinking about when you covered your dad's eyes, which
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  Speaker 1: you've told so, yeah, go ahead tell that.
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  Speaker 2: So we were driving on a family vacation.
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  Speaker 3: We were all in the car and I don't know,
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: I don't know why. I know I was mad at
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: about something. So my dad was driving and I threw
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: I said, shut up, you stupid muppet baby, and I
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: threw a blanket over his head while he was driving.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Well, he was on the highway, right on the highway.
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and then he got out and he my mom.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: Drove, and he made me and him.
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: Walk along along the highway to wherever we were.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: Going, just out of sheer anger and determination.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: Just just you need to pay for this. Yeah.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: So he was all just like me in this scenario
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: pretty much.
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: I can't really think of like.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: The little thing, but that was probably the craziest where
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: it's like, wow, I think about it, not like, wow,
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: that was pretty dangerous.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: That could have been bad, very bad, very bad, very
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: dangerou to walk along the highway my father one time,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: because he's.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: Also just spin off and drive off the road and
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: kill us. All. Yeah, he could have.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: Killed your entire family with your with your little muppet
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: baby prank. My father went through a phase this is
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: like when he was younger, I mean ten, ten to
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: fifteen years ago, where he was constantly losing because once
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: he once he had keyless cars and you don't physically
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: need keys. He would lose his keys all the time
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: because as long as the car would start, he would
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: leave home without the keys. But what he was always
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: doing is he was always leaving the keys on the
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: roof of the car. And if you need a physical
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: key to start the car, that's never gonna happen. But
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: he would just start the car and drive away. And
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: then he realized, I think a couple of times he
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: left his key, his keyless keys, his fob on the roof,
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: and one time he was walking up and down ninety
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: five looking on the road, like on the shoulder, looking
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: in the road to see if he could find his fob,
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: which he luckily he didn't because he would have run
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: out into the road to try to grab it on
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: ninety five. And this is people like, people are like, Oh,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: your dad's so great, Why do you get so frustrated
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: with him? You have no idea what it's like. You
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: have no idea what it's like to truly explain to
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: him why it's dangerous to run out into ninety five
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: to look for your keys. And it's not worth it.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Just pay even if it's five hundred dollars, it's not
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: worth it. Just replace the keys. And he looks at
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: you and think and thinks you're so wrong, like you're
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: not even a remote one percent sliver of regret, like
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: you know, he just thinks, wow, Tim is so wrongo.
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: Can't they also like arrest you for doing that? Like
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: can't you be arrested?
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: Walked?
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: Yes?
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, he should have arrested him. I would have
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: loved that. And eventually he lost his keys like two
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: or three times, and Jeff Iken worked at the Toyota dealership,
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: so my dad would try to like not pay for
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: a key replacement and ask Jeff, I can for keys again?
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: And I think the second or third time my dad
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: came in for new keyfob. Jeff had tied a long
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: ribbon around the keys and put it over my dad's neck.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: It was like, Bill, Bill, don't you lose these.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: These are tied and go straight home.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Oh man, that's incredible.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: Uh okay. Another question, speaking of my parents. As you
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: get older, do you find that you act more and
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: more like your parents? I would say definitely yes. When
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: I was younger, because my dad was never home. My
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: dad would work every single day until like nine o'clock,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: and on the weekends my dad was also working all
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: the time, and he would work like at least one
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: weekend day. And this is the he said, this is
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: the meanest thing I've ever said to him, which says
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: a lot. One time he asked me to go to
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: dinner or something and I said, like, no, I just
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: I don't really want to. And he said, you know,
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: when I'm dead, You're going to regret that. And I said,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: and I said, oh, really you were. You worked every
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: day till nine pm, and then on weekend days. I
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: remember you working in your office in the basement and
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: I would come in and say, like, Dad, can we
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: go out for ice cream or go to the park
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: and play baseball? And he would you would say no,
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: sorry to him, I have to work, so don't talk
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: to me about deathbed regrets and how he didn't spend
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: enough time together and my dad. When after I finished
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: saying that to him, he looked like I had just
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: torn his heart out of his body. But to answer
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: the questions, so sorry, what real talk? Real talk exactly,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: so like, yeah, up, yours buddy. When I was when
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: I was little, because I was around my mom all
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: the time and I was never around my dad, I
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: feel like I was a lot like my mom. And
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: then once I moved out of the house and I've
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: gotten older, I feel like I'm less and less like
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: my mom and more and more like my dad. Like
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: not not willingly more and more like my dad. But
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: it's just it sort of happens. And Shannon points it
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: out all the time. She goes like, okay, Bill, when
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: I say or do something, yeah, so you know it's anyways,
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: But do you feel like you're more and more like
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: your parents?
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: I think so.
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: I feel like I definitely adopted more of my stay adopted.
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: Remember it's just a kid. If we were ever doing anything,
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: it was even beyond that. My dad was always like
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: let's just do it so we can be done, meaning
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: like oh, if like something was wrong with a car
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: we were using or something like that, it was like, Okay,
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: look at it, fix it, try and fix it, figure
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: it out. But we need like it needs to be done,
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: Like I don't want to have this that's not my
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: just a ten part project. And like I was always
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: like I'll start this and i'll finish this in June.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: That was always my mentality. And now I feel like
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: I think a lot of this got sped up with
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: like during like lockdown, where like you were just finding
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: things to do that I'm like, if I bought like
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: a new shelf or a new piece of equipment or
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: something like that, I am like, the second I get it,
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: I'm opening it, turning it on, seeing if everything works,
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: instantly trying it, kicking all the tires possible, which I
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: would never do before.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: It's just very bizarre.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: But I think it's funny you say that because I'm
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: the same way. When I was younger, I was the
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: ultimate procrastinator. And even when I was working when I
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: was in my twenties, like somebody would send me an
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: email and I wouldn't really know what to say, so
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh, I'll respond to their email tomorrow,
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: and then that email would never be responded to ever.
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: And Shannon now gets mad at me because of the opposite,
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: Like she says, I'm the least patient person ever. Where
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, hey, you know, we're sitting around watching TV.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, we've been talking about hanging that painting
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: for a week, and I just remember, I'm going to
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: hang it right now. Where do you want it to go?
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: And then Shannon's like, I don't know. I don't know
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: where I wanted to go. I don't feel like figuring
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: this out right now. I'll tell you another day. And
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: I'm like, no, we've been We've been doing this for
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: over for weeks. Let's figure it out right now. Like,
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: once I get it in my head, it's like, let's
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: do it or it's never gonna be done. And I
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: think that that's I did it. For the most part.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: That's good, but it's also annoying for other people.
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: I think so, and I think it's I feel like
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: I he with him. It was very much for almost everything.
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: I feel like it's just much more like I bought
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: like a new blind set for our front doors window,
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: and I was just like, I want to go like
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: ordering it was only available online. I was like, nope,
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: I'm willing to sort of buy this. This project needs
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: to end today, like I will. I will drive twenty
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: five miles out of the way to get this thing.
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: This is when I'm doing it, and it's done today,
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: And it's like it's just it's also just done. My mentality,
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: it's like that never existed until the past, like literally
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: five years.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: I'm not kidding you, it was just never the case.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like if I, you know, like maybe once a
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: year in the summer, I do landscaping in my backyard
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: and trim the bushes and stuff. And you know, if
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: I if I could do it from nine to four
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: and then do the rest of it another time, I
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: would rather do it nine to nine just to just
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: get it done that day. Just let's just be oh,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: let's not worry about this ever again.
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: I feel like you kind of become a combination of
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: them besides your own self.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: You kind of become a combination.
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: And also, I mean, you and I both have two
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: older siblings, and I feel like that also, in a
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: weird way, kind of rubs off on you.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: Two.
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: I think sibling behaviors that way.
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna just just quick fire gun to your head.
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: Is Mark your brother? Mark more like your dad or
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: your mom?
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: I take that, Sandy.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna guess she's more like your mom, just because
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: I know that your mom and her butted heads and
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: a lot of time if you're just like somebody you
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: butt heads with them.
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: That's a great call out. And definitely now i'd say
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: my mom definitely. Now, yeah, I would say that, Okay,
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: And Kelly is combination. I can just tell, like, because
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: I'm seeing her as she's a parent now, she's seeing
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: those things come out as she parents her own kids.
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: I'm sure, yeah, you see it too with Megan and yourself.
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: It's it's both because I think like it's that, but
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: also I think Kelly is truly just kind of like
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: her own thing entirely too with that, which is really funny,
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: Like her parenting style is just not it's funny.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: My parents think her parenting style is.
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: Different than theirs. But we're all like, the fuck are
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: you two talking about? It's like shoot, because they're like,
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: she can't expect them to be adults.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: We're like, really, you sure about that. Think Ryan, stop rapping.
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: No people, people don't wrap other people up in tenfoil,
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: or you're doing well.
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: I think that may well. I don't think it's possible
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: to be zero percent like your parent, of course, but
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: I would say a man is like one percent of
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: my mom and ninety nine percent my dad.
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: Uh.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: And then Bridget. I think Bridget's more of a combination.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: But if I had a gun to my head, if
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: I had to choose, like fifty one percent for one
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: or the other, I would say fifty one percent like
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: my mom. But I think she's a I think she's
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: a combination.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: I think also when people when you look more like
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: an individual parent, I think people then kind of associate
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: you more to them too in their head.
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: That kind of thing too.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: Okay, This question is sort of related. Is life easier
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: for children or adults? Now? It depends on the child
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: and the adult, Like what was your life as a child?
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: What is the life as an adult? Some people have
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: really bad luck and one or the other. For me,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: without question, my life is easier as an adult than
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: a child. And my dad and I got in an
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: argument about this once when I was an adult. He
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: was like kids have it so easy, And I said,
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: totally disagree, totally disagree. Why is my life better as
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: an adult? I know, like I'm struggling. I have lots
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: of responsibilities. I own a home, I'm paying a mortgage,
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: I'm paying for daycare. I'm poor because I'm paying for daycare.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: My life is still waysier. First of all, I am
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: I am free, like I'm a free American citizen to
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: make decisions. And when you're a kid, you're in fucking prison.
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: Your parents dictate everything you do. You don't get to
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: do what you want. You know, your siblings. I love
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: Megan a bridge it now, but I'm living with two
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: roommates I didn't particularly like as a child. I'm going
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: to a forty hour a week job that I don't
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: get paid for, which is school. School is the worst
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: job on earth and you don't get paid for it.
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: But then also it's just about perspective. Like when I
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: was six, or even older than that, when I was eight,
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: I thought legitimately, like monsters could exist or ghosts could
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: exist and kill me, like you know, like I would
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: watch a scary movie and I'd be like, I'm going
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: to die. There are monsters under my bed I'm going
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: to die. And I used to get so anxious about
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: plane crashes. So I think that like, you know, just
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: becoming an adult and just wisdom, like wisdom and learning
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: about life and even I think my life is easier
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: now than it was twenty years ago or ten years
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: ago because I know so much more about life. I
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: can judge people so much better, and I know, like, oh,
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: this person is probably gonna act like this in the
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: future based on my life experience. You just have so
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: much more life experience, and you know, if you want to,
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: you can. I mean it's not good, but you can
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: just like hang out naked and drink whiskey all night,
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: like you can't do that.
• 31:54
  Speaker 4: As a child.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: But finally, uh uh, you know. School. Another reason why
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: school sucks is if I'm not gonna go to my
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: job and be harassed and called gay or physically assaulted
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: at my job. When you're a kid and you're going
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: to your job that you don't get paid for, people
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: can steal from you. They can shove you into a locker,
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: they can say you're gay, they can you know, throw
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: a spitball at you, and they don't get fired, and
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: you don't go to hr, So I think my life
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: is way better as an adult. But anyways, what is
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: your answer, Ryan.
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: I would say adults as well. I had a blast
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: as a kid.
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: Don't get me wrong, I can't remember not having not
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: having fun in a weird way, just because I was
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: just in my head out of control. I would it's
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: so funny you say it that way too. Because I
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: took Root twenty to work this week and I drove
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: on the road I was taking to get to work,
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: I drove by Whale End High School and I was like,
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: could I sit in the classroom for seven hours today
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: and just taking all this stuff and do homework?
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: I'm like I could barely.
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: Then I was thinking of writing a paper in college,
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: and I was like, I just got like shippers thinking
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: about it. I was like, I couldn't. I didn't even
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: think like memorizing stuff. And I was just like, oh
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: my god, I can barely do this shit Like this
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: would be awful to do this now, it would be awful, awful, awful.
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: Well sorry, no, no, go ahead, Ohm.
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: Saying I think that's the point where like you can
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: go through those things when you're younger, and then when
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: you're older, it's like yeah, you gain that experience, like
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: you wouldn't kind of relive those certain things. I think
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: it's just kind of the point of the whole spectrum.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: And never mind kids now, kids now that are dealing
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: with like Instagram and you know, cyber bullying and social
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: media and cell phones and bullshit. Like, I don't envy
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: kids today at all. I don't think kids have it
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: easier today, though.
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: I think every generational group has their definitely has their
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: hurdles fetching that school life.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: I think.
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: It's just so it's so different every time. But I
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: feel like, what if, like families talking about it or
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: whatnot a friend they're talking about. I'm always like, I
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: get people being frustrated by it, but I'm also like,
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: I remember my parents being like not understanding why we
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: did certain things, like certain things acted certain ways.
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I think that's just what it is. It's
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: just like products of time in the time.
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, okay, next question, describe a time when
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: you felt like a terrible person. I can think of
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: a few. I can think of a few, probably the
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: worst I've ever felt about myself in my life, because
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: I do you know, I always talk about a man's
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: got to have a code. And I always say, doing
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: the right thing is always harder than doing the wrong thing.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: So I feel like I'm more held by my own
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: code than many of my friends. I know, like I
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: care more about my own moral compass more than a
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: lot of my friends. The shittiest I ever felt about
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: myself was I was in a long term relationship and
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: I was living in Baltimore, and let's say, let's call her.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: I'm looking at the copy of The Great Gatsbie, so
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: let's call her Zelda for Zelda Fitzgerald. So I was
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: dating Zelda for five years and I was living in Baltimore,
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: and things were like falling apart. We were fighting all
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: the time, we were doing long distance. It was not
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: going to work out. Not to make excuses, but I
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: had a coworker that was really, really hot who had
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: just moved to Baltimore, and we would hang out and
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: one time we and I thought she was so hot
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: that she would never be into me, or like this
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: was never going to happen. And one time I got really,
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: really really drunk and we made out, and I remember
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: the next morning was the Aaron Rodgers. It was a Saturday.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: The next morning was the Aaron Rodgers Ben roeth was
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: Burger Super Bowl. I believe that's what it was. And
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: they said at the time, if Roethlisberger wins, he will
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: have as many Super Bowls as Tom Brady. And I
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: remember thinking that the Steelers were going to win because
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: God was going to punish me for doing that. But
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: the Packers ended up winning, I believe, or maybe I
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: don't remember, but this is you know this. I was
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: much younger, I'm a much different person now. I was
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: so rattled and felt so horribly guilty that there was
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: a Polish language, yes, Polish language Catholic church in Baltimore
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: near me, and I found out when they were giving confession.
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: And I went to the Polish language church and gave
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: confession and confessed that I had done that.
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: To the priest, what was the recompense for that?
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: Like, what was the reconciliation for that?
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: He was, honestly way more concerned that I wasn't going
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: to church every Sunday. He was like, you just got
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: to go to church every Sunday. That's basically was his message.
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: And from that day forward, I did, wow, really wow,
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: what's the time that you felt like a terrible person Ryan.
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: One time when I was working at Star, there was
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: a woman had come to the front desk and she
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: had dropped a hundred dollars bill.
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: I heard this and I was like, I gotta fucking
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: find this.
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: She said, I dropped a hundred dollar bill. She told
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: you guys that.
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: She asked like the front desk and she was like,
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: can you help me, like find it? And they're like, sure,
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: I scoured the store and found it. I kept it,
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: and then she could not.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: You found it.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: Wow, I found it where they kept it? Kept it?
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: No bad kept it? And then she.
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: I was bagging and she went to the front desk
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: because she's like, I couldn't afford to pay the stuff
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: she was shopping for.
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: And She'm not kidding you. She cried and went home.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: You told so you found it and told her you
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: couldn't find it. Yeah, and then she cried and went home.
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fine.
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: We told her that's fair.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: You didn't share it with anybody. You just kept this
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: to yourself.
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: Because of myself.
• 38:20
  Speaker 3: I told Geane about it once at Liberty, which was hilarious.
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: Is this one?
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: Oh I'm sure he didn't care?
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah he was. You're a monster. I your mom.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: I knew it. It's like you're a monster.
• 38:32
  Speaker 4: I knew it.
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: Wow, okay, wow, that's yeah, that's dark. You should have
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: taken that to your grave. The cops are going to
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: show up now.
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: Actually, Sean, I see Sean dialing right now because especially
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: because it's stark, not because of not because of but no,
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: I was like, I can say no. I was like,
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: I think I was like fifteen at the time, but
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: it was like, yeah, I think about that a lot. Actually,
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: to be honest with you, as sad as that sounds, uh.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: So, oh I this is recording. Okay, No, I haven't
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: hit record yet. Let me know when you feel comfortable
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: and I'll start recording. Okay, this is a great question,
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: in my opinion, what age should a person be. Should
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: a person be considered one hundred percent responsible for their actions?
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: I would say, and my answer is never. I don't
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: think a person is ever one hundred percent responsible for
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: their actions one hundred percent And I'll explain what I
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: mean because that might sound crazy. So this has to
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: do with the concept of free will, and Sam Harris
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: has talked about this a lot. He doesn't believe that
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: there's any free will he thinks we're all like zero
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: percent responsible for our actions. I'm not saying I agree
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: with that, but like, let's say there's a child that
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: is horribly, horribly beaten and abused and screamed at by
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: their parents. That child's gonna be fucked up. They're gonna
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: be a dickhead, and they go to school. They're in
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: fourth grade and they're bullying, bullying people and shoving girls
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: down and like just being an asshole. Okay, so if
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: they're so, I'm asking you Ryan, not rhetorically. So there's
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: this kid that was beaten and horribly yelled at it
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: and whatever, and he's six years old and he's an asshole.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: Do you think he, at six years old, is responsible
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: for his actions?
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: No?
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: And I think also just being a child too, I
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: think you're very it's much different. You're so much more
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: open for influence and you not have a lot of control.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: But let's say that he never finds he's always with
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: his parents until he's eighteen or older. He never has
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: another adult role model model or anybody that's trying to
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: help him, or anybody that's saying he should go to
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: therapy when he's twelve. Is he responsible for his actions
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: In my opinion, no, would you agree.
• 40:43
  Speaker 3: I would agree because I think he has a very
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: tunneled view of how to handle anything.
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: If he's only at home and he only has his education,
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: his only repercussions for his behavior are the the tunnel
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: vision he has of it.
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: Correct. So the question is what day does that change?
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: Because if you're saying that eventually he is responsible for
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: his actions, then there must be a day where that changes.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: So is it like his eighteenth birthday is the day
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: that that changes?
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: I'd say where that grows into though? Is that like many,
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: like many people adults, when you get older, you start
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: to I think, just feel like you either want something
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: more or need something more, or need to change. And
• 41:35
  Speaker 3: I feel like in that specific circumstance, it's kind of
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: hard to say, I guess if this person has a
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: truly tunnel of life. But like, I feel like there's
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: a lot of people have that upbringings who break themselves
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: out of it, and it's like hard where they kind
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: of like you know what I mean, Like they kind
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: of see a way out or they see like this
• 41:52
  Speaker 3: is not how it's done. That usually comes through experiencing
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: other things obviously, right, So.
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: It's a little bit harder when the kid lives in
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: a tube.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: But you know, and that's that's like I think that
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: so much of I don't believe in fate, But if
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: you use the term fate to just describe what happens
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: to happen to us, there's so much luck involved. Like
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: I don't believe there's self made men, you know, people
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: that pull themselves by their up by their bootstraps, like
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: Elon Musk might be a trillionaire soon. Do you think
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: luck is involved with that at all? Of course it
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: is like where he was born, who his parents were,
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: people he met, people he met by by happenstance in
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: his life. So you know, I am able to be
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: self aware and realize I'm acting a certain way or
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: being an asshole, and because because I have tools that
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: I learned over time that were taught to me by
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: either people I happened to meet in life or podcasts
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: I happened to find, or YouTube videos or books I read.
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: And somebody that just has never given the tools is
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: never going to get any better. Now, that's not to
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: say that we should just let people do whatever, Like
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying that at all. If somebody is so
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: like like Saddam Hussein's son was never going to be
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: a good guy, it's never gonna happen that he would
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: have turned down. So I think that I don't think
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: that there's a day where you become responsible for your actions.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: But that is to say, you know, and really the
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: term is one hundred percent. I think because of our
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: upbringing and our genetics and our brain chemistry and the
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: luck we've had or did not have in our lives,
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: I don't think anybody is one hundred percent responsible for
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: their own actions. What number is it, I don't know.
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's ninety, but it's definitely not one hundred. But
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: that that's not to say that if there's a murderer
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: like Ted Bundy. You know he Ted Bundy, he had
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: a horrible brain injury when he was a kid. Maybe
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: that's what made him Ted Bundy. I don't think that
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: we should just let Ted Bundy go because it's not
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: his fault. I'm not saying that. I think like, if
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: somebody took Ted Bundy in an alley and shot him
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: in the head, I would be fine with that. I
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: think it would be doing the world a favor. But
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: at the same time, even though I want a Ted
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: Bundy removed from society, I think that there may be
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: factors that were out of his control that made him
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: who he is.
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: If that makes sense, I'm sure it does make sense.
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: It's just the idea of, like, when your actions now
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: affect others who were like in that in that example
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: right there. I mean, obviously that's an extreme circumstance, but
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: we're seeing it more and more with a lot of
• 44:25
  Speaker 3: the milent activity in the US, right like when are
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: we holding people responsible?
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: When can we hold them responsible?
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: And it's an idea that Okay, well, now your actions,
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: regardless of their you know, nature versus nurture, cause or circumstances,
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: have cost someone else. And that's where the whole punished
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: mask that comes into play, I think too, which we're
• 44:48
  Speaker 3: probably leaking into something different. We're like, okay, maybe you
• 44:52
  Speaker 3: like I watched that truly really hard to watch, but
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: that Hulu series, the three part series about the screen murders,
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: the two kids who wanted to mimic scream and they
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: murdered a girl in their class, and like, I think
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: it was two thousand and six or seven, and they're
• 45:10
  Speaker 3: both they interview them after and they're both still in prison,
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: and they both like, I feel like I've changed, Like
• 45:17
  Speaker 3: I feel like I shouldn't Like one of them is like,
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: I feel like I really shouldn't be like held here
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: because I've changed since I was that agent to what
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: I am now. And there's this kind of argument of
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: like not giving people who perpetray crimes under the age
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: of eighteen life without parole. But they made an example
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: of because it was very premeditated, they recorded themselves doing it,
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: stuff like that, and now in their thirties, they're like,
• 45:44
  Speaker 3: I'm a different person, Like we're all different people from
• 45:46
  Speaker 3: who we are. But the problem is, like your actions
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: cost someone else. I think that's the interesting thing is
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: like maybe that comes into the idea we're talking here
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: about the responsibility aspect of it. We're like, you have
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: to be held responsible now for your actions.
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I completely agree with that, But I wasn't to
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: be honest with you. I wasn't paying attention. So if
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: you if you if you agree with what I said,
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: then whatever you just said was right. But if you
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: happen to have disagreed with what I said, then what
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: you just said was wrong.
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, just and please remember to keep showing the cards
• 46:22
  Speaker 3: up on the video so I can read my answers.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, oh I like this one Ryan. This is okay.
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: What part of your body do you like the best? Now?
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: I would say for Ryan his calves. But the question
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: is that you're supposed to self evaluate Ryan, I've talked
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: about before. I was mesmerized by Ryan has calves that like,
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: remember that guy on MTV True Life who got calf
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: and plants?
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: I do.
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that guy would fucking murder his family member to
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: get your calves. Ryan. I'm not even kidding. I'm not
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: being funny, like you should see Ryan's fucking calves.
• 47:02
  Speaker 3: Well it's too bad though, because I am on the
• 47:05
  Speaker 3: episode MTV True Life. I'm a genetically engineered shark, so
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: I don't have the calves anymore.
• 47:13
  Speaker 5: As a side effect, and a side effect, the shop's
• 47:16
  Speaker 5: got bigger calves. But what part of your body do
• 47:19
  Speaker 5: you like the best? I would say, Now, again, this
• 47:22
  Speaker 5: is gonna make me sound conceited, but there's most, like
• 47:25
  Speaker 5: most of my body I hate.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: So let's this is. You know, you're supposed to point
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: out the one part of your body you think is good.
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: I think that genetically, I was not gifted in it
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: in any way. Physically, I'm not tall, i'm not lean,
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: I'm not naturally muscular. But however, the one part of
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: my body that would always actually like grow and look
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: good when I tried would be my arms, so specifically,
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: like my biceps and triceps. When I was lifting weights
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: all the time, I would not really develop a chest
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: or develop anything that was like enviable in any way.
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: But I think I legitimately at times had awesome biceps
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: and triceps.
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: Wow, I've never I'm in the same mentality boat as.
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: You are, where I'm like, this thing is this That's
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: why I call it.
• 48:21
  Speaker 3: I just I just remember, like I when I threw
• 48:24
  Speaker 3: my back out and in the hospital, the nurse who
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: was so nice, they were giving like a pain killer
• 48:31
  Speaker 3: shot and she's like, okay, I have some bad news.
• 48:34
  Speaker 3: And she's like, I actually give you like this shot
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: like in like above like your ass cheek.
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: I said, I got some bad news for you. You have
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: to fucking look at this thing. That was my concern.
• 48:43
  Speaker 3: I was like, I'm sorry, like whatever, but I would
• 48:47
  Speaker 3: say neck weirdly.
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: Your neck interesting? What about it?
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: I always felt that it was very strong, like if
• 48:55
  Speaker 3: I've been doing like when I was always like, if
• 48:58
  Speaker 3: you're like moving stuff and whatnot, need use your.
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: Head to move it.
• 49:01
  Speaker 3: I'll put it that way where that happens, I just
• 49:06
  Speaker 3: say that I can't as similar to you, I don't
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: think about this.
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: It's way more of a shame aspect. Yeah.
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: I also I do like my neck, not in the
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: sense that it looks good. I think my neck is
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: very fat, but I have like a thick neck. And
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: being an MMA fan, being an MMA fan, I know
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: that there are people like Cabbage Carrera or Chris Leebin,
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: like people who have these really big heads that develop.
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: Because I have a very large head. I'm seven and
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: seven eighths hat size. It makes you develop, it makes
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: you you're seven and seven eighths as.
• 49:36
  Speaker 2: Well, not the same measure, it's just large head.
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, large head.
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: It makes you have a muscular neck because your head
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: is so large. And as a result, it's very hard
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: to knock those people out because their muscles are so
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: strong because like the snapback effect of a weak neck
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: and like rattle you to knock you out. So when
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: I was in college, I mean the pep always has
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: said this about me that it would be impossible to
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: knock me out. I don't actually believe that that's true,
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: but I'm just saying it would more difficult than maybe
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: the average person. Somebody, somebody ran at me in college,
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: ran at me at full speed from like thirty yards away,
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: and while they were yelling, while they were running, they
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: cocked back and haymakered me in the back of the
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: head as hard as they could. And the back of
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: the head is a really dangerous place to get punched.
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: It's actually illegal to do it in boxing an mma
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: because it can cause serious brain damage. Not only did
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: I not get knocked out, I didn't get knocked off
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: my feet. And the person who punched me running at
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: full speed shattered his hand on the back of my head,
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: shattered it because he went to my He went to
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: my college, and I found out through other friends that
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: he had to get surgery to reconstruct his hand, and
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: for like months he walked around campus with a cast
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: and a sling that I like, I witnessed it. I
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: saw him with the cast in his slang.
• 50:52
  Speaker 3: Damness the toughest kid at stone Hill, did you hear?
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: I mean, I have the toughest back of my head
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: of any kid it's own. Hell, they're probably true. I mean,
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: I'm I wasn't tough, I couldn't fight.
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: No, I was I would think.
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: I imagine like suddenly colleges middle school, Holy shit, no
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: one messes with them.
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, okay, I have Well so wait, hold on, Rod,
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna pause for a second. All right, Well, we
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: decided to do two parts for this. That was TBD,
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: but we're gonna do it. I'm gonna ask this. I'm
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: gonna switch this question. So the question is what is
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: something you do differently from most people? But this is
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: really hard to self determine. So I'm gonna flip it.
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna flip it, and I'm gonna ask you and myself.
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask myself what what does Ryan do differently
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: for most people? And then you're gonna be asked what
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: does Tim do differently for most people?
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: So?
• 51:50
  Speaker 3: Okay, can we have for this one question?
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: Oh, as Shannon turns, Shannon say she always does this,
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: she takes a ship during the podcast just to fuck me.
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: I would say, what if Ryan do different than most people?
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: Ryan is just so calm and kind, and I think
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: that that's different from almost everyone I know. He just
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: like doesn't get offended, doesn't get defensive, is calm, very
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: kind to everyone, respectful. Like when you told me the
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: story about how you were kind of like a brat
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: as a kid or did crazy shit like almost kill
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  Speaker 1: your family. I was shocked by that because I couldn't
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't imagine Ryan being that way. So that's how
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  Speaker 1: I would say Ryan is different than most people.
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  Speaker 3: It was beaten out of me by nuns in retail.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I tell everybody, or just say beaten. But
• 52:47
  Speaker 3: it was just riddled out of me by nuns in retail.
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  Speaker 3: But it was a fun time. Yeah, it's a weird, uh.
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  Speaker 3: I think of it a lot of times. I remember
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  Speaker 3: just I was just saying this to Mark. I remember
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  Speaker 3: one time I was in our Elementarchyol library and I
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  Speaker 3: was just screaming. And I remember just screaming as loud
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  Speaker 3: as I could, and I'm the teacher missed the library.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 3: Miss Research came over and she was like like she
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  Speaker 3: was talking to a wild animal.
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  Speaker 2: She's like, what are you doing?
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  Speaker 3: What I was? I remember not even acknowledging that she
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  Speaker 3: was there. I remember like just not even like taking
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  Speaker 3: it in what tim does be better than most people.
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  Speaker 1: No, not better, it's differently doesn't necessarily.
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  Speaker 2: That people okay better, it was gonna be a lot
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  Speaker 2: shorter list. No.
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  Speaker 3: I think you definitely make a lot of effort to
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  Speaker 3: be in people's lives. And I think that's a huge thing,
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  Speaker 3: because I think as we get older, it's really it's harder.
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  Speaker 3: Even if you I don't know, I feel like as
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  Speaker 3: we get older, we just like that kind John mulaney
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  Speaker 3: joke of like you love when people cancel plans when
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  Speaker 3: you're thirty, but you hating people do when you're twenty,
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  Speaker 3: and like it's just easier for things to drift away.
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  Speaker 3: And I think you do a very good job of
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  Speaker 3: keeping people in your life, especially where a lot of your.
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  Speaker 2: You do a really good what a fucking horror way
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  Speaker 2: to put that, I.
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  Speaker 3: Think you're extremely good at because like a lot of
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  Speaker 3: your truly close best friends are in four corners of
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  Speaker 3: the country, and you talk with them daily, individually and
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  Speaker 3: in group texts, which I think is really really incredible
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  Speaker 3: because I have people I was best friends with for
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  Speaker 3: fifteen plus years who will live two miles away and
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  Speaker 3: I haven't spoken to them in two years.
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  Speaker 2: It's just like this weird thing.
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  Speaker 1: So that's very good, that's very kind. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I'm still thrilled when people cancel the plans Ryan, so
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  Speaker 1: I will say that. I like if somebody, if I
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: was going to a Celtics game with somebody and they said,
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: oh I can't go at the last minute, why don't
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: you sell the tickets? I would think thank God. But
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: that's more like that's more just being tired and being
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: a parent. It's not that I don't want to be social.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just so tired.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't have any good reason. But like I
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  Speaker 3: was actually thinking, like when I first moved in here,
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  Speaker 3: every Friday, Saturday, Sunday we were out either all day
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  Speaker 3: at night just never. We were rarely ever here on
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  Speaker 3: weekends actually in the building. And I'm just thinking of
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  Speaker 3: it now, like oh I class week, I'm like I
• 55:17
  Speaker 3: have nothing to do. This is great, and just be
• 55:20
  Speaker 3: like wow, like this the interests have just changed.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I remember there was a peppal can attest to this.
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  Speaker 1: So like Andy was like this, he was like a
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  Speaker 1: forty year old when he was twenty two, and there
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  Speaker 1: was one night where he was gonna hang out with
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  Speaker 1: us and we were waiting for him in Charlestown, me
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: and Pepper waiting and we were drinking and pregaming in Charlestown.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna go out with Andy, and Andy's getting delayed's
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  Speaker 1: I'm texting you, where are you? He's not here yet.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, oh, I'm gonna be a little bit. And
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: then it's like it's seven, it's eight. Now it's nine
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  Speaker 1: to thirty, and he's like, oh, yeah, I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 1: make it out tonight. And I just called him and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, this is not acceptable, Like you can't know.
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  Speaker 1: This is not okay, but you can cancel. If you
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  Speaker 1: canceled six hours ago, you'd be shitty, you'd be a
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: shitty friend. But doing this, this is not acceptable, Like,
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: get your ass over here. So but like I kind
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  Speaker 1: of now am what I mean. I wouldn't do that
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  Speaker 1: to somebody. I wouldn't string them along and then bail.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm now more like what Andy was when he
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: was twenty two.
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  Speaker 3: What if you think, like, do you think Andy's gone
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  Speaker 3: the other way now? Do you think maybe he's more alike?
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  Speaker 1: I definitely do. I think Andy's changed a lot for
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: the for the better. Honestly, I think that Ashley has
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: changed him for the not not completely changed him for
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: the better. But I think that he's worse. Everybody's worse
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: and better in some ways. But I'd say overall, Andy
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: has mostly changed for the better. And I think he
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: appreciates friendship more, especially having moved to San Diego, So
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  Speaker 1: I think that he really I think he really values
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  Speaker 1: our friendship. And like I text Andy every day, but
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: I don't talk to him on the phone a lot,
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: like I don't see him. So so you know, recently
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  Speaker 1: Andy texted me was like, Hey, I want to call
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  Speaker 1: you and check in. We haven't talked on the phone
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  Speaker 1: a lot, and I was really impressed. I was really
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: impressed by that. I was like, I should have done that. Stereotypically,
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  Speaker 1: I would have done that when we went to college.
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  Speaker 1: Like I know people that have a standing Sunday call
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: with their mom in college. I had a stand I
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: had a standing Sunday call with Andy in college because
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: I said, I know you're gonna make no fucking effort
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: to ever talk to me again, and I'm not allowing
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: that to happen. So we have to have a weekly
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: call because I want to hear what's going on in
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: your life. So but I'm bad. I feel like I'm
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: the worst about it now. Just was I'm so busy
• 57:42
  Speaker 1: with work and having a kid and just being fucking
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: exhausted all the time.
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  Speaker 3: You know, do you feel like they're like texting has
• 57:49
  Speaker 3: kind of like I think I feel like I do
• 57:52
  Speaker 3: like this kind of like fraud mentality of like if
• 57:55
  Speaker 3: I'm texting with a person, whether it's frequently and frequently,
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, Oh, we are in some kind of flow here,
• 58:02
  Speaker 3: and then you don't realize that, Oh, I haven't seen.
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: This person five months. I don't know where I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I agree. So for example, Colin Colin. I text Colin
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: almost every day and Colin I rarely see him and
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: we literally never talk on the phone. So I'm kind
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: of like, could I be better? Like should I see
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: I feel like I should see Colin more. But at
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: the same time, you know, texting him every day is great, Like,
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: you know, texting is I'm a pretty prolific texter, and
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: there's definitely things that are lost in text and it's
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: not like the best form of friendship. But I think,
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: you know, texting somebody every day goes a long way
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: if you don't have anything otherwise, it's better than doing nothing.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly, And there's some consistency in there, and the fact that, like,
• 58:46
  Speaker 3: especially if you're almost a close one, if you're doing
• 58:51
  Speaker 3: nice that kind of like everyday texting where you're just
• 58:54
  Speaker 3: kind of sharing random ass things or whatnot, Like there's
• 58:58
  Speaker 3: a comfort in that and that I feel like that's
• 59:00
  Speaker 3: the closeness that it's not just like making an event
• 59:04
  Speaker 3: out of it. So I think I feels a little
• 59:06
  Speaker 3: bit more forced when you're kind of like actively doing
• 59:09
  Speaker 3: it that way.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: To me, it kind of feels that way, but I
• 59:12
  Speaker 3: still should do it because there's a lot of people
• 59:14
  Speaker 3: I should see that I haven't.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think you're pretty I think you're pretty
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: decent at it, especially if somebody has a plan that
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: nobody else really wants to go to, Like if somebody's like,
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm doing this thing with I can't
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: think of an example, but I was like, Oh, I'm
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: doing this thing. Do you guys want to like come
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: and stop by? And we're all thinking, no, I don't
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: really want to do that, but I kind of feel
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: like I should. I feel like you're always the one
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: to go.
• 59:44
  Speaker 2: I number one.
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  Speaker 3: I think they asked me because they're like, well, he's
• 59:48
  Speaker 3: doing nothing, so what's his excuse if he doesn't.
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: Come you out of pity? Really like, let's give him
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: something to do, you.
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: Know what, We'll have him bring some stuff to No.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: But I always feel like, and we talked about this, I.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 3: Think maybe in real life outside of this, but like
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 3: I always feel like if I'm hesitant to do something
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 3: and you kind of give into it, I always feel
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 3: like that pitfall comes into play of like okay, that
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 3: that avalanche of just not trying it.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 2: And again, it's that's the thing. It's not like it's
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 2: like someone's asking me.
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  Speaker 3: Hey man, we're going fucking sky off it with no marriage,
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 3: let's do it.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: It's not like that.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 3: It's more like, oh, do you want to come meet us?
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 3: We're gonna do like like actually, so speaking of like
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 3: your birthday like that if you guys like, we're gonna
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 3: go to this karaoke bar. I don't personally love karaoke.
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 3: I have no problem doing it. I just don't love it.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 3: I would never actively do it on my own. But
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 3: like I was like, okay, right, is this that is
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 3: this that hard of the thing to do no, and
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 3: like I feel like also, it's just kind of this
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 3: thing where you never know a lot of times the
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 3: great stuff comes out of those moments or comes out
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 3: of those situations that you wouldn't expect.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: I agree with that. I agree, well, I think that
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: we should bring it to a part two. I really
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: like this. This is almost like I'm going to therapy
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: for free. So I'm spilling the beans so.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: We will catch what's what's in here? Tim, what's in here?
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: Tell me what's in here.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: We're gonna we're gonna flip this hooga bag over and
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: catch you on the hohoga flip