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Escaping the Fishbowl of Limitation - Hypnosis to Step Into an Identity of Freedom and Adventure · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Are you in a job that feels limited, confining, maybe even
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  that you're kind of exploited or not valued that much?
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  If so, you're not alone. Adam here and I was working with
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  a client that had a job, quite a stressful job, a high pressure
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  job, but they didn't really feel valued and they had dreams of
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  escaping. But at the same time they had
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  certain limitations that felt like it was too much or too
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  risky to go off and do their own thing.
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  And this hypnosis session is all about helping to shift the
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  identity to move from an employee perhaps to a freelancer
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  or straight to a business owner. And I made that choice when I
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  was 23 years old. I've only actually had two jobs.
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  One was working for a radio station and the other was a PR
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  agency. And then I thought, you know
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  what? I want to own my own business
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  and the way I framed it is that if I did that at a young age,
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  then even if I failed, I'd get so much knowledge and learning
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  that it would be useful anyway. But if I succeeded, I would have
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  built my own business at a very young age.
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  So the last time I actually worked for anyone else as an
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  employee over 25 years ago. So that has given me a whole
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  life of being able to do cool stuff like this and be a
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  hypnotherapist. So I have two businesses, I
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  still own my PR agency, but I also have this hypnotherapy
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  business and I get to live life on my terms, doing what I want.
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  And in the analogy here for this client, it was when I was 23
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  years old, I jumped out of the fishbowl, initially went into
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  the pond, which became a very small business of being a one
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  man band, and then move to a bigger business where I had
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  employees working for me so I could leverage my time.
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  And that's essentially the essence of this.
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  Every business owner craves freedom over security, even
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  though it carries more risk. That's the nature of an
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  entrepreneur. There are risk takers.
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  So if you like the idea of having the courage or the self
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  belief or even just the willingness to try to explore
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  something beyond just becoming an employee, this is a metaphor
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  rich hypnosis session which could get you thinking in a
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  different way. Lots of metaphors, lots of
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  animal metaphors in particular because that resonated with the
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  client that I was working with. It was created for an
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  individual. Some of the references might not
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  connect with you. So if you do like the idea of a
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  session bespoke and tailor made to you and your circumstances,
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  there will be a link in the description where you can
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  schedule a completely free consultation call, we'll have a
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  chat and we might end U working together, me being a
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  hypnotherapist for you. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place, ideally where you're not going to be
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  wonderful feeling of confidence. And as you exhale, just imagine
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  how it would feel to breathe out doubt, breathing in that
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  confidence, exhaling doubt. And as you breathe in that
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  confidence, I want you to think of a time that you felt full of
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  confidence. Maybe you did something to a
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  certain level, you accomplished something.
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  You weren't sure if you could just drift back to that memory,
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  not just of social confidence, but of the confidence that comes
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  from competence. You're good at something.
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  Drift back to that memory and feel how it feels to feel that
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  level of confidence. Continue to breathe in, not just
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  confidence, but deeper levels of relaxation, and continue to
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  exhale any doubts, any fears, any worries, each breath taking
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  you deeper and deeper. Relaxed.
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  That's it. And I want you to get a sense
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  then. What if doubts and a lack of
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  self belief becomes a self fulfilling prophecy that limits
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  your ability to grow? I want you to imagine a goldfish
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  in a bowl. And I want you to get a sense
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  that while the goldfish is in the bowl, it can only grow so
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  big. And I want your doubts, your
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  fears, and any limiting beliefs to feel like that bowl and
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  you're inside. And while those fears and
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  insecurities, doubts and worries, limitations are there,
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  there's only so much growth that you can do.
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  And I want you to imagine that this, this bowl represents you
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  being an employee. I want you to feel a sense of
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  feeling confined, that you're fed only when fish food comes
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  into the bowl. You're there for the amusement
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  of other people. The value is being extracted
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  from you. And I want you to feel limited
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  in this bowl. And you've been looking at the
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  world outside of the bowl, wondering if you'd ever be able
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  to survive and thrive in that unfamiliar environment.
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  What if that's only because you haven't been in that
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  environment? People could wonder if they'd be
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  any good at scuba diving if they've never scuba dived.
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  But when they try it, they learn they can do it.
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  I want you to feel that beyond the fishbowl is all of your
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  capabilities. But you'll never know what they
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  are if you remain in the fishbowl.
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  And I want you to imagine what would happen to that goldfish if
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  it was scooped up in a jug and then put into a pond.
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  There's slightly more risks in the pond, but also a lot more
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  opportunity. For the first time, this
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  goldfish can explore, not limited to the monotony and
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  repetition of the bowl. And I want you to imagine that
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  moving from the fishbowl to the pond is like becoming a
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  freelancer when you've only ever had a job.
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  But I want you to feel that while there is more freedom,
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  while there is more creativity, there's also still limitations.
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  And I want you to get a sense that in the pond, sometimes the
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  owner of the pond changes the water and throws all the things
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  living in the pond away. I want you to feel a sense of
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  being disposable, that it's risky, there is uncertainty, but
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  there's still more space. No one need to imagine that
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  goldfish, if it's spent one or two years in the pond, may
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  already grow two or three times bigger simply because it has
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  more space. People grow proportionate to
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  their environment. The goldfish will never grow
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  bigger than the bowl, but in a pond it can grow much bigger.
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  And I want you to get a sand. Then you have ambitions beyond
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  the pond. I want you to use the power of
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  your imagination to imagine a huge lake.
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  Some lakes in the world are bigger than the entire island of
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  the United Kingdom. That is a Big Lake.
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  I want you to imagine the Great Lakes.
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  Several countries could fit in that single lake.
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  And imagine putting that goldfish there in the lake.
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  Bigger than a country. There is no limit to how big
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  that goldfish could grow. There's more risks there in the
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  Big Lake because there's bigger fish that also exist there.
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  But there's also more food, more opportunity.
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  The goldfish in the lake doesn't wait to be fed.
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  They find their own food. The fish in the lake can find
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  like minded fish and create a school of fish safety in
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  numbers. I want you to imagine what it
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  would be like if you'd only ever lived in the bowl.
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  Moving to the pond would feel like so liberating and free.
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  But what if you were in the pond and never knew that the lake
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  existed? You would never know just how
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  big you can grow. But I want you to imagine that
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  the lake represents ownership, your own business on your own
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  terms. I want you to imagine that
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  there's so much space, so much opportunity.
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  Things can expand. The fish in the bowl is
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  dependent on the owner. The fish in the lake needs to be
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  resourceful, make their own choices and decisions, find
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  their own food. But with great responsibility
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  comes great power. And I want you to imagine
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  feeling that power, the power of how you spend your time, how you
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  allocate resources, what you do differently, feel infinite
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  creative freedom. And any fish in the bowl would
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  have so much respect for a fish choosing to live in the lake.
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  Think of all that credibility, that status, all of that
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  opportunity. I want you to get a feeling, a
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  feeling of the zoo animal's dilemma.
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  I want you to think of your favorite animal.
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  Maybe it's a tiger or a lion, a monkey or something else.
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  And when you can think of that animal, let me know by nodding
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  your head. I don't want you to think that.
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  That animal in the zoo has regular meals, a vet if they
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  ever get sick. That animal has other animals in
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  the same situation. That animal as the illusion of
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  freedom, but only within their cage.
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  I want you to get a sense that being an employee is like being
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  a caged zoo animal. An element of security, a bit of
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  safety, even a bit of comfort, but not quite freedom.
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  And the same animal in the wild is not guaranteed their regular
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  meals. There's no vet on hand if they
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  get sick. But there is choice, autonomy,
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  freedom. People that were meant to be
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  employees their whole life, They want to be like the cage zoo
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  animal. They want things predictable,
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  comfortable, safe. But what if the zoo closes down?
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  Sometimes safety is an illusion. Entrepreneurs, business owners,
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  they would trade that security and safety for the freedom of
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  the wild every day of the week because they are confident that
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  they will find their own food, make their own home, live life
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  on their terms. And I want you to feel, feel
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  that there is a way to escape from the zoo.
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  I want you to get a feeling that you feel the desire to escape
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  the zoo by acting like you're already in the wild.
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  And I want you to imagine now, thinking of your future.
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  What would it be like to stay the next five years as an
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  employee? Exploited, trapped, undervalued.
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  Or maybe five years as a freelancer, stressed and hectic,
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  not knowing when the next project is coming and no safety
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  net if you get sick. Or think of yourself five years
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  as an owner, maybe having staff, long term contracts, quality
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  work and being paid well, high profit margins.
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  I want you to get a sense that you get to choose your future.
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  And if you know which future you desire, perhaps the fish in the
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  lake, the animal no longer in the zoo, being the master of
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  your own destiny. Let me know by nodding your
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  head. And I want you to get a feeling
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  now you don't have to do it all at once.
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  You can do it step by step, action by action, 1 foot in
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  front of the other, one step at a time.
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  And I want you to think of three easy wins that only an owner
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  would do. Your own company name, your own
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  materials, your own services or pricing or packages, something
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  else. And when you can think of those
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  3 manageable things in the direction of the owner, then it
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  means you are already the owner. Because that's what owners do.
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  They build, they don't work, they construct.
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  They are building something, not simply doing the work.
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  What you've thought about what those things could be.
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  Imagine planting 3 seeds in the ground, seeing them start to
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  sprout. Because these are more than just
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  token gestures. This is you stepping into your
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  true identity, no longer hoping or waiting to be, but actually
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  being. And when your unconscious is
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  ready to step into that identity, it even changes.
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  Being an employee is because a future owner as an employee
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  starts seeing ways that they can take inspiration for their own
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  business even while being an employee for someone else's.
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  They start looking at processes, documents, systems entirely
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  differently, looking to emulate what works and improve what
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  doesn't. But it starts with the identity,
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  and it's followed by the intention and then followed by
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  the action. And if you're ready to be that
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  identity in advance, knowing that you will acquire the skills
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  when you need them, let me know by nodding your head.
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  I'd like to leave this place. But in leaving, I want you to
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  see a large goldfish in a lake perhaps 10 times bigger than the
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  entire fishbowl they used to be in.
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  I want you to see that animal in the wild, thriving.
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  And I want you to see the future version of you.
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  Grateful for you to decide who you are at your core.
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  It's time to drift back now. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8 Open your eyes, open your eyes 910 Wide
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  awake, wide awake, wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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