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MHM - Not Everything Needs to be Healed · Life Lived Better

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  Hello there, and welcome to another mental health moment
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  from the Life Live Better podcast.
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  This is a place where we take just a couple of minutes to care
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  for our minds. I'm Paula, and today's message
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  might feel a little unexpected, but I hope that it's right on
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  time. It is the idea that not
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  everything needs to be healed. And we hear a lot about healing.
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  Healing your past, healing your inner child, healing
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  relationships. We talk about it here on the
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  podcast all the time. And while that work can be
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  powerful, somewhere along the way healing started to feel like
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  a requirement. Like every emotion needs to be
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  processed, every wound needs to be resolved, every part of you
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  needs to be fixed. But here's a different
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  perspective. What if some things aren't
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  problems to be solved, but realities to accept?
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  Because not every painful experience is something you're
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  meant to erase. Some things just become part of
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  your story. And the constant pressure to
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  heal everything can actually become exhausting.
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  It can leave you feeling like you're never done, like there's
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  always one more layer, one more issue, one more thing wrong with
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  you that needs attention and that can quietly turn into a
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  belief of I am always a work in progress and I am never enough
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  as I am. But acceptance offers something
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  different. Acceptance says this happened,
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  this mattered, and I don't have to fix it to move forward now.
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  Acceptance isn't giving up. It's not even minimizing your
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  experience, and it is definitely not pretending that something
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  didn't hurt. Acceptance is making space for
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  what is without trying to force it into something else.
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  Things in life sometimes just don't get neatly resolved.
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  Grief that softens but doesn't disappear.
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  Losses that change you permanently.
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  Parts of your past that you understand but you still wish
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  had been different. And the work isn't always to
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  heal those things away. Sometimes the work is just to
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  live well along aside them, to stop fighting you know what
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  already exists, and to to start building a life that includes it
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  without being defined by it. Because when everything becomes
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  something to fix, we can really lose sight of something
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  important. The fact that you're not broken,
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  you're human. And being human means carrying
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  experiences, sometimes beautiful, sometimes painful,
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  that shape who you are. So maybe today isn't about
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  asking what do I need to heal next.
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  Maybe it's asking what can I allow to simply be without
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  trying to change it. Because sometimes acceptance
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  isn't the end of the work, it is the work.
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  The life. Live Better podcast thanks you
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  for joining us for this mental health moment.
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  Until next time, take care of your mind because it's the only
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  one you've got. And don't forget that knowledge
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  leads to a life lived better.