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5 Things to Tell Yourself Every Morning · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey there, welcome to the Nadia Chapman Show. Today we're talking about things
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  to tell yourself when you get out of bed.
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  Mornings are my thing. Mornings have always been my superpower.
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  Even when I was little, my mom said there's not one morning ever that I woke
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  up in a bad mood and I would wake up at like four o'clock in the morning to
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  go skating and I was on fricking fire,
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  just like I do now in my older years.
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  So if you're not like that, it's okay.
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  If you do wake up with anxiety or you wake up tense And if your mind starts
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  racing before your feet even hit the floor,
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  if you wake up already thinking about everything that you need to fix and everything
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  you need to manage or the things you think you've got to fix,
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  the things you've got to handle,
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  then maybe what you need, it's not more advice.
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  Maybe you need a different way to meet your day. So today I want to share five
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  things to tell yourself when you get out of bed and not from a place of fixing
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  what's wrong with you, of course not,
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  but from a place of taking control before the day takes control of you.
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  Because we all know that, you know, we can wake up in a great mood and life
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  happens and people and situations happens and we have to learn to control the
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  day before the day control us.
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  So the first thing you're going to tell yourself before you get out of bed is,
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  I don't have to feel ready to begin.
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  So I don't wake up motivated because everything feels easy.
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  I wake up motivated because I don't negotiate with my feelings.
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  So you do not need to feel calm or feel confident or inspired or prepared to start your day.
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  Because waiting to feel ready is how momentum dies even before you have your
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  first sip of coffee. And most people wake up and ask themselves,
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  do I feel like doing this today?
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  Well, that's a question trap. Tell yourself, I can begin exactly as I am.
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  That's a little bit kinder instead. So getting out of bed is already an action.
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  And action is what tells your brain, all right, we're moving forward.
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  So you don't need motivation first.
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  Motivation follows movement. So I don't have to feel ready to begin. Just begin.
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  Number two, I can choose how I respond today.
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  And this is where real power begins, in my opinion, because I don't wake up
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  assuming that everything will go perfectly.
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  Oh, I know that the shit's going to hit the fan at some point. Okay, hopefully not.
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  But I wake up knowing that whatever happens, I get to decide how I made it.
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  I get to decide how I approach things.
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  You cannot control emails or traffic and schedule and people or surprises that
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  are going to show up, but you can control whether you spiral or whether you stay steady.
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  So tell yourself, I choose my response before the world chooses it for me.
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  And that one little silly sentence creates so much space.
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  And space is what lowers your stress, sharpens your focus, and keeps you grounded
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  when things don't go as planned. Number three.
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  No one is coming to do this for me. That's a good one.
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  This one matters. No one is coming to wake you up differently.
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  No one is coming to regulate your nervous system for you.
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  No one is coming to push the reset button on your mindset, on your habits, on your life. All right?
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  And that's not depressing. Cheer up.
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  That's actually quite empowering because it means that you get to take ownership of how today starts.
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  So tell yourself, I don't wait to be saved. I lead myself.
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  And that moment that you stop waiting for rescue for people to show up is the
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  moment motivation shows up within you.
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  Number four, I don't need to be perfect to be proud of myself.
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  And this is especially important if you wake up anxious.
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  And I know a lot of you and people that I work with or people in my life wake up anxious.
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  Anxiety loves perfection. Oh, yes. It tells you that if you don't get it right,
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  if you don't get it perfect, everything will fall apart.
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  And that is a big, fat lie.
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  You can have a messy day and still show up really well. You can feel off and
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  still take your responsibility.
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  And you can try without mailing everything. All right?
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  So tell yourself, effort counts, showing up counts.
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  Pride isn't a reserve for perfect days. It's built on honest ones, honest days.
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  Lastly, number five, I don't need to manage anyone else's feelings today.
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  And this is a big one. And the work I do and, you know, just even conversations
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  I have with people in my life, not even clients, we put so much pressure.
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  Important, so much emphasis on what people think and what people are doing around us.
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  So I don't need to manage anyone else's feelings today.
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  It's a big one because so many people wake up already carrying other people.
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  You know, we carry their moods, their expectations, their stress, their reactions.
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  So before your feet even hits the floor, you're already managing how people
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  are going to feel and what people are going to say, what they might feel about
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  what you say, what you do, how you show up, what you choose, or what you don't do.
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  And that's so exhausting. And here's the truth that most of us were never thought.
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  Other people's emotions are not your responsibility. So you're allowed to have
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  boundaries before breakfast.
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  You're allowed to be grounded, even if someone else is not and someone else
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  is all over the place, whoever that might be that you're going to see later in that day.
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  But you're allowed to move through your day without adjusting yourself to keep
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  everybody happy and everybody comfortable.
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  It takes time. It takes practice. But man, once you learn to do that, you will be thriving.
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  All right. So tell yourself, I can be kind without carrying.
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  I can care without fixing.
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  And I can show up without absorbing, absorbing everybody's energy.
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  Managing everyone else's feeling is how you abandon yourself slowly,
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  quietly, and daily. But that's how you abandon yourself.
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  And when you stop doing that, oh, something shifts.
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  You suddenly have energy, you've got clarity, you suddenly have space to focus,
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  and focus on what truly matters to you.
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  So you don't need to explain yourself today, you don't need to overthink everything,
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  and you don't need to anticipate reactions from people around you.
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  Tell yourself, I get to take care of my energy first.
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  And that's not selfish, that's leadership, and you can do it. All right.
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  So how do you apply this if you wake up stress or you wake up anxious?
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  And this part matters, so pay attention because I know a lot of you who wake up like this.
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  If morning feels heavy, don't try to fake or force positivity.
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  Instead, I want you to do this. Sit up, okay, sit up before you even touch your
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  phone, before you scroll, and take one slow breath.
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  I want you to pick one sentence from this list, say it out loud,
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  or say it in your head, and then move your body even just a little.
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  You're not trying to feel better. You're just trying to take control, all right?
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  Your mood follows your movement and your clarity follows action.
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  You don't need to be a natural born motivated person to change how your day begin.
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  Maybe you just need to stop handing the first moments of your day to stress
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  and negative thoughts and habits and just being on autopilot.
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  All right. So I want you to think about that for a bit. So tomorrow morning,
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  before the noise rushes in, I want you to remind yourself, I don't need to manage
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  everyone else's feelings today.
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  I get to lead myself. and that
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  that's a powerful way to live
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  and like i just said no one is coming to
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  do this for you so that's not me adding pressure it's
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  me handing you your power your own power so you get to decide how you start
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  your day and you get to lead yourself before the world you know decides to lead
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  you so tomorrow morning don't wait to feel ready don't manage everything and everyone around you.
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  Just begin. Just begin. Stay grounded.
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  Stay reassured. One breath, one sentence, one small action.
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  That's how your day start on purpose. So say one thing that puts you back in the driver's seat.
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  Move before you think too much and stop carrying what isn't yours.
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  Capiche? You've got this. Have a great day.