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The 9 Traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) from the perspective of a diagnosed Narcissist · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about the 9 traits of Narcissistic
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  Personality Disorder according to the DSM 5.
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  If you new here, my name is Lee Hammock and I'm a clinically
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  diagnosed narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of the Narcissist Code. So finally, finally, finally,
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  not everybody's a narcissist. Lee, you got to be clinically
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  diagnosed. Be narcissist.
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  Yeah, duh. You don't have to be clinically
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  diagnosed to be a narcissist. I was like, that's what that's
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  the thing. That kind of blows my mind
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  because I have narcissistic personality disorder, right.
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  And although I am clinically diagnosed, if I would have never
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  went to therapy, would I not be a.
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  So does that not make me a narcissist?
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  If I never went to therapy and got clinically diagnosed, would
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  I not be a narcissist? You said that argument flips
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  people, flips on people's heads. It's just like it flips.
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  It flips people's arguments on on their heads.
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  It's like, no, you got to be diagnosed.
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  So if I wouldn't have gotten diagnosed, does that mean I'm a
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  narcissist? You see, you say you see so.
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  But today y'all. We're talking about the 9 traits
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  of Narcissistic Personality disorder.
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  The 9 traits that that psychologists and people use,
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  clinicians use, therapists use to diagnose people with NPD.
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  And the crazy thing about this is y'all you know, it's 9
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  traits, you only have to have 55.
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  It says the definition of NPD states that that it comprises of
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  a persistent manner of grandiosity, A continuous desire
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  for admiration, along with a lack of empathy.
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  It starts by early adulthood and occurs in a range of situations
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  as signified by the existence of any five of the next 9
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  standards. So you don't have to have all
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  nine to be diagnosed as a narcissist.
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  You only have to have five in each and every single one of
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  these is toxic in and of his own nature.
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  Y'all. It's, you know, that's why I'm
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  just telling people. So the first trait that they
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  have listed on here is a grandiose logic of self
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  importance. Yes, grandiose logic of self
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  importance is absolutely true because that's how it goes right
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  there. Y'all.
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  If you, if you think about it, narcissistic people think that
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  there are super important people just because we are us.
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  You know, just because I'm me, it means that I'm important.
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  It means that I I like I said. It just means that I have
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  importance because I am me. That's all it means.
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  Like I'm important because I'm me and you or you, and I'm more
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  valuable than you to this world. Because I am me.
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  No matter how much success you have, no matter how much how
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  many goals you've hit, no matter how much money you have, no
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  matter how much taller than me, stronger than me, faster than
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  whatever it is, better looking than me, whatever it is, I'm
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  still better than you. I'm more important than you
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  because I am me. And you know that You dealt with
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  most narcissists. I think most narcissists have
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  this trait right here. You know, most narcissistic
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  people have this trait right here.
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  They do, you know, they absolutely do.
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  It just gets into that space right there where they just feel
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  like they're super important to the world, like the world is.
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  The world should be blessed to have me in it, you know what I
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  mean? The world should feel blessed to
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  have me as a part of it, which is a wild mindset to have, which
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  I understand when people just look at.
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  You know, y'all know people like this all the time.
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  People that haven't accomplished anything in life but just feel
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  like I'm better than you. It should have been me.
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  Or they're jealousy. Boy oof.
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  They're jealousy. They're jealousy.
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  They're jealousy. They're jealousy.
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  So that's trait #1, y'all trait #2.
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  I'm walking down my time limits is a fixation with fantasies of
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  infinite success, control, brilliance, beauty, or idyllic
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  love. Fixation with fantasies of
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  infinite success. Like, yes, yes, I want it all.
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  Like, this is this is one of my this is one of my traits right
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  here. Yeah, like, seriously?
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  I am like literally, y'all. Seriously, since I was younger,
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  I want to be a famous actor or playing the NFLI needed to do
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  stuff that set me apart from everybody else because I want I
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  had those delusions of grandeur that kick in right there, right?
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  You know what I mean? The delusions are that I deserve
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  a better life, that I wanted so much success because right here,
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  and a lot of narcissists have this right here.
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  Y'all they have these delusions of infinite success, fantasies
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  of infinite success or control and brilliance and whatnot,
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  because they want to be happy. They think that going after
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  these goals will somehow, some way, shape or form, finally make
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  them happy. It will finally help me be me.
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  It will finally make give my life meaning when I'm ultra
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  successful, right? But that's the crazy thing about
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  it, because I've achieved a lot of success and it doesn't make
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  you happy. Happiness is intrinsic.
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  Happiness is internal. And I've come to realize that
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  because I've been in therapy for the last six years, that
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  happiness, you have to go. You have to earn it from the
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  inside out. Happiness is inside out stuff.
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  It comes from the inside and works its way outside.
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  But narcissistic people are different.
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  They try to go outside in. You see what I'm saying?
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  Like success, control, brilliance, beauty, idyllic
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  love. I want people to idolize me.
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  All that stuff is external. You see?
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  All that stuff right there is external things.
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  Control is external. Brilliance is external.
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  Beauty is external. All that stuff is external.
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  Brilliance can be internal a little bit, but mind, but it's
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  delusions of brilliance. So it's external, but all this
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  stuff is external things that that you think is going to make
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  you happy. Like I've experienced this on so
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  many different levels where I think that this is going to make
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  me so happy. When I hit the success, this is
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  going to make me so happy. When I fall in love, when I get
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  married, when I have kids, when I get the job of my dreams, when
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  I graduate from school, when I hit a million subscribers on
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  TikTok or something like that. You think it's going to make you
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  happy. But in the end it really, really
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  doesn't. You know it really doesn't.
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  So that and that right there when they hit these goals or a
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  lot of times they self sabotage themselves on the way to try to
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  hit these goals. So that happens quite a bit
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  right there. They self sabotage themselves on
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  their way to trying to hit one of these goals.
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  So they never hit it. So they can't.
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  They can say they tried but they didn't succeed.
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  So that gives them a reason to try to keep going to get this
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  this type of stuff, but it just doesn't make you happy.
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  You get there and that can make them resentful towards the
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  people around them. So when they hit success, when
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  you have a successful narcissist, they'll still be
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  angry at the people around them. They'll still treat the people
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  around them like lesser billions because you go back to the first
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  one grandiose logic of self importance, you know.
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  So trait #3, trait #3, seven minutes, 7 minutes.
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  A credence that he or she is extraordinary or exceptional and
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  can only be understood by or connect with other extraordinary
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  or important people or or institutions.
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  Here's right here. I'm special and nobody
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  understands me but other special people, nobody understands me
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  but other special people, other people that are in charge, you
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  wouldn't get it because you are a lesser being.
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  You don't understand my point of view because I'm up here.
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  I think up here. You think down here.
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  You know, like this is my first time reading through the non
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  trades, which is crazy y'all. But you think up here.
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  I mean, I think up here, you think down here.
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  So I'm just a higher being. Like you don't understand.
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  I speak, it's like I'm speaking Latin, You're speaking English.
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  We don't, you don't understand me because we're speaking, we're
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  on different wavelengths, we're speaking different languages.
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  And my language is the most important language.
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  You need to get up my level. You need to get to my level of
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  understanding. Even though my level, my level
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  of understanding might be delusional.
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  It might be conspiracy theory oriented, you know, it might be
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  just wildness. But that's how I used to feel
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  like. That's how I used to feel like.
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  That's why you get a lot of narcissistic people that feel
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  like even in a crowd of a lot of people, they feel like they
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  stand out even if they fit in. Even if they look exactly like
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  everybody in the crowd. Even if I was in a crowd of 6 to
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  250 LB. People with dreads, black people
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  with dreads, I would feel like I stand out.
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  I'm different. I'm different everybody here
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  because I'm different. I'm me.
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  You say I'm saying nobody else gets me.
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  I'm on an island by myself here. That's the mindset of a lot of
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  narcissistic people right there. Y'all.
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  It's wild. It is a wild mindset to have.
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  They feel like nobody else understands you, but that's why
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  nobody else gets you. That's why you're an outcast,
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  because nobody understands you. You feel like you've been
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  castaway from people because nobody gets it.
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  You mean nobody's going to understand me?
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  Nobody. Nobody here gets me.
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  So that's why I'm unhappy. That's why people I get always
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  get in trouble because nobody understands me.
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  That's how you That's how they explain away the bad stuff that
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  they do, Just how to explain away the bad stuff that they
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  say, the crazy delusional stuff that they say.
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  You just don't get it. You don't understand me.
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  Your level of thinking is down here.
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  So trait #4 is a desire for unwarranted admiration.
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  A desire for unwarranted admiration.
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  Like you go after the the, the you think you you want it.
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  Y'all. You want the attention.
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  You want all the attention on you.
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  You know what I mean? You.
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  You want it on you and you don't deserve it.
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  Like you don't deserve you feel like all eyes should be on me.
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  But what do you have? What have you done to deserve
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  it? What?
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  What? What can I just what?
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  What have? What can I say?
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  What have I done to justify admiration?
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  Why should people? Why should I?
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  Like this is how the crazy thing about it, this is how I used to
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  feel on TikTok. This is kind of how to be honest
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  with you. This is kind of how I still feel
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  on TikTok on any social media platform.
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  When I see somebody doing good, I always think like when they
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  have, when somebody else is doing good, right?
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  Let's say on YouTube per SE. Like they'll have like this is
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  back when I first got started they would have like 100K Subs
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  and I'll be like why don't I have 100K Subs?
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  I I talk better than them, I have the best information.
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  Why don't I have 100K Subs? I wouldn't wish I know so I
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  would. I'm not wishing bad on people
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  that had 100K Subs. I just felt like I deserved it.
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  Why needed more attention or more eyes on me?
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  Because I'm me. You see how all this stuff works
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  in together. The delusions of grandeur, the
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  fantasies of success and unwarranted attention.
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  Like you, all this stuff works in together.
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  You feel like you deserve more. Because I'm me, it all ties in
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  together. Like why I need more attention?
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  Because I'm me. I need to stand up because I got
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  dreads. You said, let's say it is a wild
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  mindset man. Just read these traits.
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  It is kind of crazy because that's how the because how the
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  mind works and whatnot. Y'all it is wildness.
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  So #5A sense of entitlement. You know, a sense of
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  entitlement. It just says, hey, clearly you
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  feel like you're entitled for because I'm me.
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  A lot of this stuff is just based, you know, you say a lot
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  of these traits are based on this, the serious like delusions
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  of grandeur and thinking you're more important to everybody
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  else. Like you feel like you're
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  entitled to certain benefits because you were born, because
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  you are here, because you exist. You know, I feel like I deserve
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  more following because I me, I provide the most, the best
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  information, which I wasn't at the time, you know, I just felt
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  I did. I felt like, hey, our diagnosis.
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  Narcissist. Who else knows more than me?
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  So many other people know more than me.
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  But in at the beginning, I thought I deserved more.
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  I was entitled to more followers.
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  I was entitled to more views, you know, But going to therapy,
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  being in therapy for so long, I've come to understand that you
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  had to work for it. You had to earn it.
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  Y'all seen me earn it. Yeah.
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  I've been three years, three years pumping.
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  I've been pumping hard for three years on YouTube.
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  I've been pumping hard for three years or 3 1/2 years on TikTok,
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  and this year I've been pumping hard.
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  Y'all know I've been on Facebook.
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  I've been pumping hard because I know there's that sense of
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  entitlement still. Is it?
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  Is it still there? Yeah, it's still there.
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  But I understand it. You know my I tell people just
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  to people all the time. My first thought is still
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  self-serving. My first thought is still the
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  thought of a narcissist. Like, it doesn't go away like
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  you. There's no period for
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  narcissistic personality disorder.
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  Right. So my first thought is still
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  going to be the narcissistic thought.
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  But I've learned over the years is to be I'm able to slow myself
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  down and rationalize with myself, to understand that,
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  like, yeah, I have a sense of entitlement, but I also have a
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  sense of common sense to understand that I have to earn
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  it. You know, like the the
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  entitlement kicks in first, but then the common sense in the the
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  therapy work comes in and it's just like, OK, you feel
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  entitled. But why?
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  I asked myself the question, why?
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  Why do you deserve this and be real with yourself?
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  I have to be real with it. You know, I'm real with it.
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  So why do you deserve this? I come from a place of realness.
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  I have to keep it real. I have to keep it hot with
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  myself, you know? So I do feel entitled sometimes,
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  but I work on it. You get a lot of narcissistic
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  people. They feel like they're entitled
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  to stuff that they haven't earned just because they exist.
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  You see, just because they were born and they are here, or they
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  suffered more, or they are taller, or they're better
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  looking, or they're faster, or they're harder worker, or they
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  whatever, whatever it is, y'all they feel like that because they
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  feel entitled to other people's bodies.
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  They feel entitled to your space, they feel entitled to
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  your money. They feel entitled to your
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  support for no reason. For how have they earned it
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  without earning. They feel entitled Entitlement
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  without earning it, you know, And being entitled without
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  earning. Feeling entitled without earning
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  it is a narcissist is a narcissistic trait.
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  Yeah. So trait number six, what is it?
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  14/14/14 is interpersonally oppressive behavior.
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  So interpersonally oppressive behavior is number the 6th trait
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  of narcissistic personality disorder.
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  It means that you think that the the idea that one group is
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  better than another and has the right to control the other, you
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  feel like you are better. The narcissistic person feel
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  like they are better, so they feel like they deserve control
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  over you. They feel like they are again,
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  go back to the entitlement they thought they're entitled to, the
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  control over you. They feel like they can oppress
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  you because they are better than you.
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  They are, you know, more better at it than you.
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  So that's why a lot of people in relationships with narcissists,
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  they feel like they have to control every single thing that
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  you do. The children of narcissists,
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  they oppress their personalities.
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  They oppress their ingenuity, they oppress their happiness,
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  They oppress everything about them.
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  They want to control everything around them.
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  You know, they feel like if you want to do something with your
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  life because they control you, because they own you, because
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  you belong to them. They feel like you need to ask
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  them permission. You know, they feel like they
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  they are part of the dominant, like the dominant class.
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  It's kind of like they think that they're above everybody, so
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  everybody should listen to them. You need to listen to me because
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  I'm this person. I'm me, so you need to listen to
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  me. You belong to me.
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  That's why a lot of times when you get married to narcissists
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  or you get in a relationship or engaged, or you are born to a
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  narcissist, it's like you're signing a contract for them to
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  for you to for them to own you. You know, it's like you're
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  signing a contract for you to belong to them.
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  Like, hey, you belong to me right now.
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  You know I own you. You know, you have to earn.
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  You have to earn, you have to earn it.
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  And they take, they take financial control.
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  They take emotional control. They take mental control.
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  They take control in the bedroom.
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  They can take control of everything.
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  Like, they try to dominate you. They literally try to dominate
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  your life. That's why so many people get
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  stifled out in toxic relationships with narcissistic
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  people because you lose your sense of identity.
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  They take, they control your identity.
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  It's like literally right here. This is like, this is the part
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  of narcissistic personality disorder.
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  When you're with them, where it feels like you're a member of a
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  cult, this is like, this is, this is what a cult.
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  The cultish behavior kicks in right here.
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  They feel like you're a member of the cult.
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  Like, I think for you right now, I think for you, I breathe for
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  you. You breathe for me, like you do
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  as I say, not as I do. You see, I'm saying this happens
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  a lot of times in these spaces right here.
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  They they they just want to control you.
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  They put you down, they control the finances, they control your
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  whereabouts, they isolate you from your friends or family.
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  They do a lot of this stuff to dominate your life and to
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  destroy your life, to destroy your your relationships with
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  other people. This happens quite a bit in
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  toxic relationship spaces. Y'all.
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  This is one of those things that happens a lot with a lot of
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  narcissistic people, you know? So be very weary of that right
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  there. I know I ran along with that
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  one, but that that needed a little extra time, you know
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  1720. So it's trait #7.
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  It says no form of empathy. So right here this is where it's
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  kind of got for me. This kind of shows you that
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  like, you don't have to like most narcissists are going to
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  lack empathy. A lot of narcissists are going
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  to lack empathy. Right here it says no form of
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  empathy. But I think a lot of narcissists
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  like. So you to be diagnosed with
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  narcissistic personality disorder, I told you you had to
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  have five of the 9, right? So you can have a little bit of
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  empathy and still be diagnosed as a narcissist.
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  Like, you don't have to fall into the no form of empathy for
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  this diagnosis you see. Like you don't have to fall.
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  Like you can be a narcissist and have a little bit of empathy
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  according to only needing five of the 9 criteria, only only
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  needing to meet five of the 9 criteria.
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  So you can have, you can be a narcissist with a little bit of
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  empathy. You see, that's how it works.
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  That's why I said there's a spectrum of narcissism.
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  There's probably be a difference in a narcissist with five of
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  nine and a difference of a narcissist with nine of nine.
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  You see, if you have all nine of these, you got some, you got
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  some stuff going on. You know, I'm not laughing at
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  them, but you have a lot of stuff going on in this space.
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  But you know, empathy is the ability to put, put put
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  themselves in the shoes of other people, you know, put themselves
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  in the feelings of other people and understand the feelings of
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  other people. A lot of narcissists can't do
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  that. That's one of the things that a
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  lot of narcissists lack the ability to do is to put
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  themselves in your shoes. That's why when you ask a
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  narcissist to when you ask a narcissist to put themselves in
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  the shoes of other people, like, how would you feel if you were
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  in this situation? They can't do that.
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  They're going to give you a logical explanation of how they
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  would survive and be better than you in this situation.
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  But, like, they can't. They like the tears, the
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  feeling, like to feel the way that you feel.
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  A lot of narcissists cannot do that because showing empathy and
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  being vulnerable, like is weakness to a lot of
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  narcissists, like showing tears and being vulnerable.
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  Showing compassion is weakness to a lot of narcissists because
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  showing like a lot of times when we were growing up, being
• 19:46
  compassionate, being empathetic, we got punished for it.
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  You get punished for it, like, especially in certain societies
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  and certain cultures like, you get called soft, especially as a
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  man, As a little boy, you get called soft or girly for being
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  emotional, for crying, for showing tears, for showing
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  compassion to people. Stop being a girl.
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  You act like a girl. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's how we grew up. That's how a lot of us grew up
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  in a lot of these different spaces like we were.
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  Told you can't be empathetic. You can't be compassionate, you
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  know, So we sealed it up, you know, So I I do think a lot of,
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  especially me, a lot of narcissists.
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  Well, some narcissists have what, you know, there's to me,
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  there's two different types of empathy.
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  There's emotional empathy and then there's cognitive empathy.
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  Most, I feel like a lot of narcissists lack emotional
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  empathy. The ability to emotionally
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  connect like that by the the ability to put themselves in the
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  emotional shoes of other people. But some narcissists have
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  cognitive empathy, which they they can understand why you feel
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  the way that you feel. They can understand why you are
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  crying. They can understand why you were
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  happy. They can understand why you feel
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  the way that they feel. They just might not connect to
• 20:47
  those emotions with you. They can understand it.
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  They don't feel it with you. You know, They don't connect
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  with you on that level because of something that's going on
• 20:55
  within the, you know, behind the scenes, within the narcissist's
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  head. That happens quite a bit right
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  there. Yeah.
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  Yeah. So it says no form of empathy,
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  but that's right there, you know, I think.
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  But like I said, you can be a narcissist and have a little bit
• 21:08
  of empathy right there. So I think when you have, when
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  you have 0 empathy is when you can get diagnosed as a sociopath
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  or a psychopath. I think that's when it happens
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  right there in those spaces. Because there's a lack of
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  empathy for most narcissists because they say it's the
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  definition of MPD states. It says a lack of empathy.
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  Lack means there's still something there.
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  We have a lack of water that might sleep, a little bit of
• 21:29
  water left in the cup. You know, there's AI have a lack
• 21:32
  of juice. There's like, there's a little
• 21:33
  juice in here, you know, But no juice means the bottle's empty.
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  He said no juice. But that's how it goes.
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  Like, yeah, so trait number 82130, resentment of others or a
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  conviction that others are resentful of him or her.
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  Like this is all the jealousy component kicks in for a lot of
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  Narcissus. Y'all.
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  A lot of narcissists resent you for being you, for being you,
• 21:59
  for having the ability to be you.
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  Like I said this in a lot of my other videos, that when you are
• 22:05
  happy, narcissists resent you for being happy.
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  They resent you for having the ability to be happy and be to
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  express yourself like that. Because a lot of narcissists
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  don't. They have the ability to be
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  happy, but they don't want to express it because they feel
• 22:21
  like it's weakness. They they are jealous of you.
• 22:24
  This is where the resentment kicks in.
• 22:25
  Y'all. Especially if you're like if you
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  get a narcissist right. This comes from like humble
• 22:31
  beginnings or lack of resources or something like that.
• 22:35
  And you were born like, what's the what's the term with a
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  silver spoon of your mouth where you came from, you know you were
• 22:41
  up. You didn't struggle growing up,
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  right? They resent you for that.
• 22:44
  They resent you for how you were raised.
• 22:47
  You got raised like this. How dare you like they feel like
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  you didn't earn anything in your life.
• 22:52
  So they that's why they resent you for your accomplishments.
• 22:55
  You only got that because you were born over here.
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  You you know I had to struggle and fight for everything I have.
• 23:01
  You were given everything. They will resent and just
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  diminish and invalidate everything that you do because
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  they're jealous of you. Jealousy runs rampant with
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  narcissists. Y'all just jealousy and envy.
• 23:13
  Like they sometimes they want to take what you have, you know?
• 23:16
  They don't want to just have it because they feel like they
• 23:19
  deserve it. They want to take what you have
• 23:20
  because they resent you for having it.
• 23:22
  They resent you for having empathy, they resent you for
• 23:24
  having friends. They resent you for having a
• 23:26
  close relationship with your family, you know.
• 23:29
  But this is the the the flip side of that.
• 23:31
  It says a conviction that others are resentful of him or her.
• 23:34
  Like a narcissistic person thinks that you resent them for
• 23:38
  being them. They think you are jealous of
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  them. Like this is the delusions right
• 23:42
  here. We always like the delusions and
• 23:44
  the paranoia kicking right here. We always feel like we're being
• 23:47
  watched, right? We always feel like somebody's
• 23:49
  watching us or somebody's out to get us and whatnot.
• 23:52
  So that drive it hits US in the head.
• 23:54
  It really does. Like we always feel like there's
• 23:56
  a set of eyes on us. So we are always behaving in a
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  certain way, right? We are always acting in a
• 24:03
  certain way. We we always move and like
• 24:04
  people are jealous of us. That's why you get a lot of
• 24:06
  narcissists. Y'all.
• 24:07
  When they do have the resources they have to shine, They have to
• 24:10
  try to outshine everybody. They, some of them want you to
• 24:13
  be, let's be real, some of them want you to be jealous of them.
• 24:17
  Some of them want it because that your jealousy and your
• 24:19
  envy, your resentfulness, it empowers them.
• 24:22
  They live for it. Some of them absolutely live for
• 24:25
  it. They live to make you resentful.
• 24:26
  They live to make you jealous. They live for it.
• 24:30
  So that happens a lot. Y'all they like I said, we
• 24:32
  always think eyes are on us. So I tell y'all hear a lot of my
• 24:35
  videos. I say I used to feel like I was
• 24:37
  alone. When I'm in a group of people
• 24:40
  when I was growing up, when I was inside a big group of
• 24:42
  people, I used to always feel like everybody was watching me,
• 24:45
  but I was feel like I feel like I was alone.
• 24:46
  But all eyes was on me. For some reason.
• 24:49
  I always feel like I stood out again.
• 24:51
  I could be in a crowd of people who look exactly like me, but I
• 24:53
  feel like I would stand out in some way, shape or form.
• 24:55
  I always, I always feel like that.
• 24:57
  But yeah, that's like, that's it right there.
• 24:58
  Yeah. So the last trait #9.
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  This is the longest video I've ever done on YouTube.
• 25:04
  Y'all the longest one I've ever put up.
• 25:06
  Other than other than a live video, this is the longest one
• 25:09
  which is kind of wild, a display of egotistical and conceited
• 25:14
  behaviors or attitudes. Ego.
• 25:18
  I got a big ego. Ha ha ha.
• 25:21
  Yes, huge egos. So this is where the difference
• 25:26
  between a lot of covert and overt narcissist kick in the
• 25:29
  playoff. Covert narcissists who are the
• 25:31
  more subtle passive aggressive narcissists still have big egos.
• 25:35
  They just demonstrated in a different way over a narcissist.
• 25:38
  You know, they have big egos and they show you covert narcissists
• 25:41
  they have big egos and sometimes they show you and they tell you,
• 25:44
  you know, they just, you know, I think over a narcissist will
• 25:47
  show and tell you as well. But covert narcissist kind of
• 25:49
  whisper will over a narcissist scream it.
• 25:52
  They still the same because one of my friends, one of my old
• 25:55
  friends, he's an overt narcissist.
• 25:57
  I'm more covert most times, right?
• 26:00
  So we have the same, we would have the same goals, but we go
• 26:03
  about getting them in different ways.
• 26:05
  Still both of us still narcissists, highly narcissists,
• 26:07
  highly toxic. But we go about getting them in
• 26:09
  different ways. Everybody knows he's toxic.
• 26:11
  People didn't know I was, you know, it was like he oh, he's
• 26:14
  toxic. And he would over shadow me with
• 26:16
  his toxicity and I'd be cool. People look at me like I was
• 26:19
  less no toxic. I was nice guy, you see, that's
• 26:21
  why you see how that happens. But he goes, y'all egos.
• 26:26
  Jealousy kicks in. It says, a display of
• 26:29
  egotistical and conceited behaviors and attitudes.
• 26:31
  Think that they think they're better than you, But you see,
• 26:34
  narcissistic people have huge egos, but they're huge, fragile
• 26:38
  egos. Like huge glass tower egos.
• 26:42
  Like egos. As tall as as tall as the high,
• 26:45
  as mountain. But it's fragile.
• 26:47
  You can break it with a little baby rock.
• 26:49
  That's why narcissists don't like criticism and aversion to
• 26:52
  being criticized in any way, shape or form, right.
• 26:55
  You get a lot of narcissists that all it takes is a little
• 26:58
  bit of criticism and it breaks them down.
• 27:01
  All it takes is a little, yeah, all it takes is a little bit of
• 27:03
  criticism and it breaks the narcissistic person now.
• 27:07
  Little bit, You know, You criticize them, you hurt their
• 27:10
  ego. They'll lose their damn minds.
• 27:12
  They attack you. They try to come at you, they
• 27:14
  rage out on you. They start stalking you,
• 27:16
  harassing you because you hurt their ego.
• 27:18
  You did something small to them and they take it in the major
• 27:21
  way. They have these big egos, they
• 27:22
  have these grandiose egos. They you feel like they're the
• 27:25
  most confident people in the world, but they are fragile
• 27:28
  people that are easy to hurt. How do you hurt a narcissist?
• 27:32
  Criticize them a little bit. Tell them that they're not.
• 27:34
  Tell them that they're not as good as they think they are.
• 27:37
  It's all it takes. Y'all.
• 27:38
  It's not very hard to hurt a narcissist villas.
• 27:40
  It really, really isn't. They want to tell people y'all,
• 27:43
  it happens all the time in these spaces.
• 27:45
  It happens all the time in these dynamics and whatnot.
• 27:47
  Y'all. So I hope this video boasts some
• 27:51
  clarity, boasts some peace. I got all this information from
• 27:54
  itself. There were there were vibe.
• 27:56
  I put this, I put the link in the.
• 27:58
  I put the link in the comment section, order the description.
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  Y'all. So y'all can just click the link
• 28:01
  and go get more in depth about narcissist.
• 28:04
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