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HOW DO YOU HEAL IF YOU DONT KNOW YOU BROKE......."LET THE HEALING BEGIN" | DA CREW PODCAST LIVE EVERY 1ST & 3RD SUNDAY @ 8PM EST | APOSTLES · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Begins. Oh.
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  Speaker 2: Every first and third Sunday, eight pm Eastern Time.
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  Speaker 1: Apostbly and Doctor.
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  Speaker 2: Kimmery bring healing to your man.
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  Speaker 1: Streaming on the Crew podcast network, YouTube, Facebook, Kick and Twitch.
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  Speaker 1: Faye Truth and Relationships. This is what your spirit's been missing.
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  Speaker 1: Let the healing begin, Let the truth be told. Let
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  Speaker 1: rise up, ever stare your souls. Where's some troub above
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  Speaker 1: like day.
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  Speaker 3: Emily Love, it's uh. Let the healing begin, Let the
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  Speaker 3: healing begin, healing begin, Let the healing begin, healing again.
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  Speaker 1: Apostle he brings the word with grace, Biblical truth for
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  Speaker 1: the trials. With face, Doctor Kimberlee speaks life to the heart,
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  Speaker 1: restoring the broken, a brand new sun from Tallahassy Roots
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  Speaker 1: to the world online. The sharing real top, one soul
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  Speaker 1: at a time, spiritual growth and practical advice helping you
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  Speaker 1: heal and walk in new life relationships, forgiveness, family and faith.
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  Speaker 1: Real life challenge is covered by grace, broad truth.
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  Speaker 4: Rial less is healing with it. Come to the table.
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  Speaker 4: Let the heal, Let me begin, Let the truth be told.
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  Speaker 1: Opect it's a probable, I don't Emily.
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  Speaker 3: Love, It's time, It's it's une. Let the heal again.
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  Speaker 1: Let the healing begin. Let not again, let the healing begin.
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  Speaker 5: Welcome, Welcome.
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  Speaker 6: I don't know what just happened, but they were here,
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  Speaker 6: they dropped off. I don't know what happened, But y'all know,
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  Speaker 6: from time to time we may experience some technical difficult
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  Speaker 6: some things that we cannot always control. But I tell
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  Speaker 6: you get prepared, get ready for yet another amazing show.
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  Speaker 6: As soon as we can get them back up, that
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  Speaker 6: they will be right here on the screen for another
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  Speaker 6: amazing opportunity to allow you, guys, to allow.
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  Speaker 5: Your healing to begin.
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  Speaker 6: So I see them coming up, so y'all know, I'm
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  Speaker 6: gonna move on out the way to allow them to
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  Speaker 6: come on on. But just bear with us, y'all. From
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  Speaker 6: time to time, things like this happen, but yet we
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  Speaker 6: keep pressing. Let me move on out the way so
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  Speaker 6: that they can now take the stage. Let the healing begin.
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  Speaker 7: We understand, we understand, We understand so many different things
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  Speaker 7: about life as well as warfare. So we just thank
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  Speaker 7: God tonight. We are grateful to be here. We are
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  Speaker 7: your hosts.
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  Speaker 4: And Kimberly Thomas ve let the healing begin.
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  Speaker 7: We do not claim to have the monopoly on this thing.
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  Speaker 7: Called marriage, nor do we have nor have we mastered marriage.
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  Speaker 7: But one thing that we do have is we have
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  Speaker 7: a marriage. We have years, we have experience, and most
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  Speaker 7: of all, we have a mandate from God to share that.
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  Speaker 4: Experience with each of you.
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  Speaker 7: So tonight we have a little bit of a topic
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  Speaker 7: that we want to talk about tonight, and so we're
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  Speaker 7: going to jump right in tonight talking about the fact
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  Speaker 7: that healing is not only emotional, it's more than emotional.
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  Speaker 7: It is also spiritual, it's intentional, and it's transformational. So
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  Speaker 7: let us get ready to let the healing begin.
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  Speaker 5: Amen. Amen, good to see you guys.
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  Speaker 8: Happy father the Day to the father's and happy Father's
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  Speaker 8: Day to the mothers that are fathers, and happy it
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  Speaker 8: Fathers Day.
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  Speaker 5: Two.
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  Speaker 8: Those are just being a stepfather or just being a
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  Speaker 8: meant to them. It's a wonderful thing to stand in
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  Speaker 8: that position. But now that that is said and we
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  Speaker 8: got the formalities out the way, my question tonight is
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  Speaker 8: how can you help someone heal that doesn't know they're broken?
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  Speaker 5: So tonight I'm gonna allow you to go ahead and
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  Speaker 5: get started. First.
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  Speaker 7: Wow, Okay, after you put that question out here, Okay,
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  Speaker 7: how can you help someone heal that does not know
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  Speaker 7: that they're broken. Well, first of all, speaking from a
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  Speaker 7: woman's point of view, there are many women who do
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  Speaker 7: not think that they are broken.
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  Speaker 4: Many women think that they're okay.
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  Speaker 7: They have experienced some things in their life, maybe their
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  Speaker 7: former life, former relationships, or what have you. They feel like, Okay,
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  Speaker 7: well I have moved on from that individual, from that situation,
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  Speaker 7: and I'm good.
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  Speaker 4: But I have come here.
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  Speaker 7: Tonight to tell you you're not good. You're not good until
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  Speaker 7: you are totally healed. That means that you have to
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  Speaker 7: open yourself up. You have to allow God to touch
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  Speaker 7: that tender place.
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  Speaker 9: You know.
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  Speaker 7: We have some places that we allow God to come in.
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  Speaker 7: We want him to touch this place, that place, and
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  Speaker 7: the other place. But there's this one place that we
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  Speaker 7: may have that is the place that we have stuff
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  Speaker 7: locked up, chained up. We have pad locks, we got
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  Speaker 7: the chains on the doors.
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  Speaker 4: It's like a little dungeon.
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  Speaker 7: That's all tied up that we don't want him to touch.
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  Speaker 7: But in order for us to be totally healed, we
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  Speaker 7: have to allow him to touch those places. And even
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  Speaker 7: in our relationship, early on, I thought.
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  Speaker 4: That I was good.
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  Speaker 7: I thought I was good when we started dating, Oh God,
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  Speaker 7: thirty plus years ago.
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  Speaker 4: I thought I was good.
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  Speaker 7: I thought I was okay, and never really realized that
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  Speaker 7: I was just existing, not really living, because of everything
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  Speaker 7: that I had gone through. And we bring a lot
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  Speaker 7: of stuff into relationships, a lot of baggage, a lot
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  Speaker 7: of things from former relationships, a lot of things from
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  Speaker 7: childhood traumas and various things. And if you don't deal
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  Speaker 7: with those things, they will wreck you. They will control your.
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  Speaker 4: Life, they will dictate your life.
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  Speaker 7: And so as a woman, and I know that there
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  Speaker 7: are many women that can attest to the traumas, attest
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  Speaker 7: to the abuse, aest to the incense molestation. Some have
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  Speaker 7: even gone through domestic violence, some have gone through rape
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  Speaker 7: and different things. If you do not get help, if
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  Speaker 7: you do not seek the counsel of God, both people
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  Speaker 7: will dictate your life. And me being transparent tonight, I
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  Speaker 7: can attest to those things that occurred to my occurred
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  Speaker 7: in my life, dictating my life for twenty plus years.
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  Speaker 7: And as I stated that I thought I was good,
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  Speaker 7: I thought, you know, all was well, and you know,
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  Speaker 7: I had boyfriends or whatever. But it wasn't really until
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  Speaker 7: we started dating, until I really realized that I was
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  Speaker 7: just existing because out of all the boyfriends that I
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  Speaker 7: had in my life, nobody ever really realized that I
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  Speaker 7: was a wreck until I actually got with you. You
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  Speaker 7: were one that realized that I was a wreck just
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  Speaker 7: because And I think sometimes it's because of the love.
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  Speaker 7: I'm gonna put it that way, because of the love,
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  Speaker 7: because there were you know, we attach ourselves to people,
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  Speaker 7: we say that, you know, we're in relationships with people,
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  Speaker 7: but people really don't love you. They're they're out for
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  Speaker 7: whatever they're out for, whether there's money, sex, being a
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  Speaker 7: show piece or whatever.
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  Speaker 4: That's what they're there for. They're not there for the love.
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  Speaker 7: And so when we got together and you express the love,
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  Speaker 7: you not only express the love verbally, but you showed love.
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  Speaker 7: And that's the thing. Love is an action word. It's
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  Speaker 7: not all about what you say. It's about the action
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  Speaker 7: behind what you say. And so when I was broken,
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  Speaker 7: I didn't know I was broken. And so it took
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  Speaker 7: that for you to say, you know, what one is
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  Speaker 7: really going on with you?
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  Speaker 4: What is happening.
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  Speaker 8: What happens is a lot of time and relationships like that,
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  Speaker 8: Like you said, it's infatuation and stuff like that, you know,
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  Speaker 8: and it's just for the moment. But in this case,
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  Speaker 8: you had to have that same type of feeling on
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  Speaker 8: the inside for the one that you say that God
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  Speaker 8: showed you was yours.
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  Speaker 5: So going through our.
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  Speaker 8: Life, you've been up and down in situations and stuff,
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  Speaker 8: and you thought you was in love and all that,
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  Speaker 8: then the hurt came and all this, and then when
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  Speaker 8: you get an opportunity to show someone real love and
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  Speaker 8: then they don't know how to show it back, You're like,
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  Speaker 8: what's going on? Because I understand that you care for me,
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  Speaker 8: but why is it that you don't open the door
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  Speaker 8: for me?
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  Speaker 5: You know? Why is this wall up? You know?
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  Speaker 8: So in order to do that, you have to really
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  Speaker 8: kind of search and seek. Just like for wisdom, you
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  Speaker 8: got to seek for her. You got to search for
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  Speaker 8: and the only way you can find it is if you.
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  Speaker 5: Look for it. So when you start this, look at the.
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  Speaker 8: Individual, throw all the other formalities out the way, and
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  Speaker 8: find out what's going on in their head, because you know,
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  Speaker 8: life is what it is. People want to be loved
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  Speaker 8: and they want to show love and give love, but
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  Speaker 8: people can't give.
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  Speaker 5: You what they don't possess.
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  Speaker 8: At that time, you don't know what the trauma that
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  Speaker 8: they have been through in their life, so therefore take
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  Speaker 8: the time to see. And as you and I begin
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  Speaker 8: our journey, it was kind of hard because you were
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  Speaker 8: so we were good, we have a great time, but
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  Speaker 8: then you were so closed up, like no, no, you know,
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  Speaker 8: I can't just grab you. What are you doing all
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  Speaker 8: that right there? And you know, people lose the one
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  Speaker 8: that they really love because they don't understand or take
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  Speaker 8: the time to really find.
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  Speaker 5: Out what's on the inside. Right.
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  Speaker 8: Yes, there's a lot about you yourself, Yes.
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  Speaker 7: And that's the that is very important because when you
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  Speaker 7: really love somebody, and like I said, I guess tonight
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  Speaker 7: is just transparency.
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  Speaker 4: There were times where we were on.
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  Speaker 7: The verge of splitting up. You know, it was like
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  Speaker 7: he was at his wits end with me. You know,
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  Speaker 7: I don't know what's going on with you, and I'm
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  Speaker 7: just I'm done.
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  Speaker 4: I'm done.
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  Speaker 7: And the thing about it is, when you really love somebody.
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  Speaker 4: And you want to be healed, you.
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  Speaker 7: Will try your best to do whatever it takes to
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  Speaker 7: be healed, not just for them, but for yourself.
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  Speaker 4: And that's the thing that we have to understand. So
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  Speaker 4: many times we.
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  Speaker 7: Change, and we change for other people, but you have
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  Speaker 7: to change for yourself.
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  Speaker 4: And that's why healing has to be intentional.
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  Speaker 7: It can't be something that I'm doing this because of
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  Speaker 7: this person.
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  Speaker 4: I'm doing this because of that person.
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  Speaker 7: No, I'm doing it because I love me, because I
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  Speaker 7: want to be whole, I want to be free. I'm
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  Speaker 7: tired of living in this place and I need to
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  Speaker 7: move from this place. And that's where I had to
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  Speaker 7: find myself. I had to find myself and really realize
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  Speaker 7: because so many times we wear masks, and we have
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  Speaker 7: a mask for every everything, every situation we have a
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  Speaker 7: mask for. We have a mask for when we are
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  Speaker 7: hanging with our friends, we have a mask for when
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  Speaker 7: we go to work, we have a mask for when
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  Speaker 7: we show up at church.
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  Speaker 4: We have a mask for everything. We have a mask.
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  Speaker 4: Even some of us today and marriages are still wearing.
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  Speaker 7: Mask because we will not be totally honest about how
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  Speaker 7: we feel what is going on with us. And that's
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  Speaker 7: the thing. You have to have that communication. If I
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  Speaker 7: don't like it, I just don't like it. I'm sorry
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  Speaker 7: that you like it and I don't like it, but
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  Speaker 7: I'm really not sorry because I don't like it.
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  Speaker 4: And you just have to.
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  Speaker 7: Be honest about that, and that's where healing comes in,
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  Speaker 7: because when you can intentionally tell somebody how you feel
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  Speaker 7: and not be concerned about hurting their feelings to a
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  Speaker 7: certain extent to where if I say this, I know
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  Speaker 7: that it's gonna hurt their feelings. So I'm just gonna
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  Speaker 7: go along to get along. No, we don't do that,
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  Speaker 7: because when you just go along to get along, that
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  Speaker 7: means that you're in a place of still being broken.
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  Speaker 5: Correct.
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  Speaker 8: And the thing of it is the Bible tells us
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  Speaker 8: not being afraid of men and their faces and.
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  Speaker 5: The man or the woman.
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  Speaker 8: And that's before you you're afraid to open your mouth
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  Speaker 8: and say what the real.
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  Speaker 5: Problem.
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  Speaker 8: Let's put it down with the real problem is because
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  Speaker 8: I like you, and I really want to be you,
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  Speaker 8: be with you. I desire your company and stuff like that,
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  Speaker 8: but I still have baggage, so and join on this side,
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  Speaker 8: but the backage is on that side, and I hadn't
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  Speaker 8: released myself from what was before. We have to realize
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  Speaker 8: and understand that things happened yesterday is just yesterday. We
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  Speaker 8: got to know that if we're really supposed to be together,
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  Speaker 8: I can tell you anything. Yes, hurt comes, but it
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  Speaker 8: comes to heal, it comes to deliver, it comes to
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  Speaker 8: set free.
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  Speaker 5: But because of what we don't know.
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  Speaker 8: You know, I know if I said it to the
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  Speaker 8: other individual that I used to be with, then there'll
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  Speaker 8: be an argument or I don't want to hear here.
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  Speaker 5: I can't talk to you.
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  Speaker 8: All because you really don't want to release what we
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  Speaker 8: have on the inside of you. You know, we can't
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  Speaker 8: get caught up in this flesh, because flesh is a mess.
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  Speaker 8: We gotta get caught up in our minds and what
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  Speaker 8: is at hand, you know, because we have people that's
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  Speaker 8: pouring into us, and they can only pour into you
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  Speaker 8: by what you say. Because if what you say is true,
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  Speaker 8: I can give you the information that I know from
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  Speaker 8: that standpoint, but the part that you kept, I can't
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  Speaker 8: talk about that. And I'm all to the left because
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  Speaker 8: you know what, you aren't honest with me completely.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, I want to touch that if what you say
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  Speaker 7: is true, and a lot of times it's not.
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  Speaker 4: You lie, your mouth lies because you.
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  Speaker 7: Want to continue to hold on to that little, that
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  Speaker 7: little place, that little piece of you that you can
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  Speaker 7: run back to and unlock the door and then unleash
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  Speaker 7: hell on somebody else when they tap on your toe
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  Speaker 7: a little bit. And so that's why you have to
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  Speaker 7: get past the fact of being in a place of
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  Speaker 7: being broken. And so many women are broken, and I
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  Speaker 7: see it so often, and you know, sometimes I really
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  Speaker 7: my heart goes out for some of these men that
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  Speaker 7: I see in relationship with women that are broken because
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  Speaker 7: they get treated like dogs, they get drug they are
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  Speaker 7: made to feel less than a man, and that's not good.
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  Speaker 4: That's not good.
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  Speaker 7: You don't want as a woman, you don't want anybody
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  Speaker 7: to make you feel less then, so why would you
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  Speaker 7: do it to somebody else? And then you do it
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  Speaker 7: all in the name of love, and you want to
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  Speaker 7: cry because you start to fire, and then you want
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  Speaker 7: to cry victim, and that's not good. The thing is,
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  Speaker 7: you are broken. You need to be healed. Let go
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  Speaker 7: of the past so that you can live the way
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  Speaker 7: that God has intended you to live. Stop dreading other people.
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  Speaker 7: Stop making people feel bad, because you know what, you gotta.
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  Speaker 4: Pay for that.
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  Speaker 5: And that's a two way streak, because there's a lot
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  Speaker 5: of men that have been broken, you know how in
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  Speaker 5: life where you desire to be with this woman and
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  Speaker 5: she knows it, and all of a sudden, y'all get together,
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  Speaker 5: but it's just for that moment.
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  Speaker 8: I can take you out to dinner, we can ride around,
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  Speaker 8: we can go to a movie, but you know what,
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  Speaker 8: we're gonna go to the early movies.
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  Speaker 5: So about nine point thirty, you know, you canna take
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  Speaker 5: me home.
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  Speaker 8: Now, we had all the good time I'm gonna have
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  Speaker 8: for you, because you know what, John Boy getting off
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  Speaker 8: work and I'm gonna hang out with him. So I
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  Speaker 8: was able to feed you. I was able to wind
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  Speaker 8: and dine you and all that. But John Boy get
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  Speaker 8: all the fun. And then now I'm broken, which incurs
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  Speaker 8: another problem because you know it, sooner or later I
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  Speaker 8: may pop up, Oh so what's this right? And then
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  Speaker 8: I'll hurt shore enough now because you're gonna tell the
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  Speaker 8: whole truth, cause I ain't wanna be with you anyway.
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  Speaker 8: You had the money, but he had the fun. But
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  Speaker 8: then later on in life, now you come tappling yourself
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  Speaker 8: back to me. Yeah, you're gonna attack on me now, No, no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 8: you know, because you know what it was a facade.
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  Speaker 8: Looks so good, smell so nice, and ride so decent,
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  Speaker 8: and you're still living with mama, you know, but he
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  Speaker 8: is a man working that really desires to be with you.
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  Speaker 8: So you know, it's a two way street because a
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  Speaker 8: lot of men are come right back into that and
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  Speaker 8: be like, yo, okay, it was done to me, I'm gonna.
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  Speaker 5: Do it to you, you.
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  Speaker 8: Know, And now she really likes you, and now she's
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  Speaker 8: getting the wrong end of the deal, and really she
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  Speaker 8: doesn't deserve it, and so that's a two way street.
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  Speaker 8: It's really kind of touch you right there. But at
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  Speaker 8: the end of the day, we really have to learn
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  Speaker 8: to love ourselves first and just be brutally honest with
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  Speaker 8: the truth. Because one thing about it, I don't care
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  Speaker 8: if a person goes through something with another individual that
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  Speaker 8: they really like and then they give you the business
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  Speaker 8: business now, so why can't you hear the whole truth
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  Speaker 8: when it comes to you and this individual? Or because
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  Speaker 8: I don't want to lose you, so I'm a holes back.
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  Speaker 8: But then four or five years down the line, you
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  Speaker 8: been faking and not a whole truth come because you
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  Speaker 8: don't want to be with me, and you know, now
• 19:48
  Speaker 8: you're tired, right and I'm wonder like, what's wrong with you?
• 19:52
  Speaker 7: And that's the thing we have to We have to
• 19:54
  Speaker 7: stop playing with people's feelings. Stop it because that's that's
• 19:58
  Speaker 7: how people get hurt from all that's how people lose
• 20:01
  Speaker 7: their lives playing, and.
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: So we have to be real.
• 20:06
  Speaker 7: And as you said, it's not just always the women
• 20:11
  Speaker 7: on the emotional side. And I'll raise my hand. I
• 20:15
  Speaker 7: was one of those people years ago. I was one
• 20:18
  Speaker 7: of those people. I was one that Okay, yeah, I know,
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  Speaker 7: I know you like me. M Yeah, we can go
• 20:25
  Speaker 7: to the movie, so we can go out, and we
• 20:27
  Speaker 7: can do all of that, all of that. But when
• 20:29
  Speaker 7: it came down to doing anything else, you know, I
• 20:32
  Speaker 7: got all my girlfriends, all my girlfriends, we ride and
• 20:36
  Speaker 7: were doing all of this stuff. And my thing is, oh,
• 20:38
  Speaker 7: you gotta take them home, but I gotta go home
• 20:40
  Speaker 7: first because I got a curfew, and so these other things.
• 20:45
  Speaker 7: And this is how we played the game when we
• 20:47
  Speaker 7: were children. We're not children anymore. We are not children anymore.
• 20:52
  Speaker 7: We should be grown, We should be mature enough. Stop
• 20:54
  Speaker 7: playing with people. There are so many people. You're in
• 20:57
  Speaker 7: a relationship with somebody that you really don't give a
• 21:00
  Speaker 7: flip flap about. It's about convenience.
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  Speaker 4: It don't have nothing to do with love.
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  Speaker 7: You really don't want to be with this person you're
• 21:09
  Speaker 7: with them because of convenience, because they got the money,
• 21:13
  Speaker 7: they got a good credit score, they got some things
• 21:16
  Speaker 7: that's going on for them, and you're just riding it out,
• 21:20
  Speaker 7: You buying your time because you play that. Oh I
• 21:24
  Speaker 7: just don't have nothing, and oh you know you want
• 21:31
  Speaker 7: them to be falling and tripping over you.
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  Speaker 4: They got to be head over here.
• 21:36
  Speaker 7: Don't you look that way, look over here, don't ever
• 21:40
  Speaker 7: look that way. You want this person to be to
• 21:43
  Speaker 7: be walking and tripping over their own feet because they
• 21:47
  Speaker 7: got to watch you at all times.
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: The devil is a whole lot.
• 21:51
  Speaker 7: You don't care about those people. Stop playing with people's lives.
• 21:55
  Speaker 7: You're wasting people's time. If you don't want to be
• 21:59
  Speaker 7: with a person, be grown enough to just say that
• 22:02
  Speaker 7: and get yourself somewhere. Sit your happy hips down in
• 22:06
  Speaker 7: hell because you're broken.
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: You're broken.
• 22:09
  Speaker 7: You had somebody, and this is something that a lot
• 22:12
  Speaker 7: of women.
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: Do, and y'all can be mad. I don't care.
• 22:16
  Speaker 7: You've had somebody to mistreat you, so now you feel
• 22:21
  Speaker 7: like it's your turn. Nobody ain't gonna ever treat me
• 22:25
  Speaker 7: like that again. Nobody ain't gonna ever do that to
• 22:28
  Speaker 7: me again. Nobody ain't gonna ever talk to me like
• 22:31
  Speaker 7: that again. And you bring that mess over into your
• 22:34
  Speaker 7: marriages and into your relationship, and you become the domineering
• 22:38
  Speaker 7: person in the relationship. The Bible ain't never told you
• 22:42
  Speaker 7: you was ahead of nothing. Sit down, Sit down, because
• 22:47
  Speaker 7: the thing is, you wanna be. You wanna play like
• 22:51
  Speaker 7: you're the one that has it all. You know, he
• 22:54
  Speaker 7: gotta do what you say, do or else, And that's
• 22:58
  Speaker 7: not how it's intil it to be.
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: That's why we have to make sure that we are here.
• 23:03
  Speaker 7: We play with people emotions because we're in our emotions.
• 23:08
  Speaker 5: That's it.
• 23:09
  Speaker 8: And then at that point you say it's got to
• 23:11
  Speaker 8: be about you and he's got to do this that
• 23:13
  Speaker 8: and the look nowhere else.
• 23:16
  Speaker 5: Hey, but here's the thing.
• 23:20
  Speaker 8: You don't want me to look els and I got
• 23:22
  Speaker 8: to do this and I know where we spoke on this,
• 23:25
  Speaker 8: or how is it that you want me to do
• 23:27
  Speaker 8: what you can't do for yourself?
• 23:29
  Speaker 5: You know?
• 23:30
  Speaker 8: And and they take the word and they're beaten better
• 23:32
  Speaker 8: and bruise you with it. You the head, But you
• 23:36
  Speaker 8: to help me right, how you get past that? You
• 23:40
  Speaker 8: get stuck on the head part. But you want me
• 23:43
  Speaker 8: to do all for you? That you don't do for me.
• 23:45
  Speaker 8: And and we're working towards one ship, one not divided,
• 23:51
  Speaker 8: but one ship. So therefore we should be working together,
• 23:56
  Speaker 8: but not you against me or me against you. Sore
• 24:00
  Speaker 8: for at that point you need to really realize men
• 24:03
  Speaker 8: and women when you see it, going a ride right
• 24:06
  Speaker 8: off the beginning, pump your brakes. Ask the question the
• 24:11
  Speaker 8: only slow question. I ain't gonna say stupid, I'm gonna
• 24:14
  Speaker 8: say slow question is the one that you don't ask.
• 24:16
  Speaker 5: You've seen it from the beginning.
• 24:18
  Speaker 8: Yes, and you've already cast yourself a heartache plus a headache.
• 24:23
  Speaker 8: You know, and you already saw it. It's not like
• 24:25
  Speaker 8: you didn't see it. It's just that you're afraid and
• 24:28
  Speaker 8: man to be alone. Yes, And why is it that
• 24:30
  Speaker 8: you're afraid.
• 24:31
  Speaker 5: To be alone? It was alone before you got that.
• 24:33
  Speaker 5: Jesus is always with you.
• 24:35
  Speaker 8: But when you tell a whole truth and live, or
• 24:38
  Speaker 8: to keep telling a lie and die.
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And that's.
• 24:42
  Speaker 7: That's so that is so good because when you really
• 24:46
  Speaker 7: think about it, and you think about the emotional side
• 24:50
  Speaker 7: of it, and then you think about your healing has
• 24:54
  Speaker 7: to be intentional.
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: You have to want it.
• 24:56
  Speaker 7: You cannot want to continue to walk around and play victim.
• 25:00
  Speaker 7: You cannot want to continue to drag dead men or
• 25:05
  Speaker 7: women's bones everywhere you go. You gotta let these people go.
• 25:09
  Speaker 7: You got to let them go, release them so that
• 25:13
  Speaker 7: you can be free.
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: And so many.
• 25:17
  Speaker 7: Times we hold on to things. One of the things
• 25:21
  Speaker 7: that I often tell the women that I mentor, we
• 25:25
  Speaker 7: go through a process that says whose fault is it?
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: Who's the blame?
• 25:30
  Speaker 7: Who's the blame that we blame? We blame everybody for everything.
• 25:37
  Speaker 7: And the Lord had to take me through this many
• 25:40
  Speaker 7: years ago to ask me.
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: Who is the blame?
• 25:44
  Speaker 7: And while I was sitting there, he began to show
• 25:48
  Speaker 7: me everybody who I blame for whatever happened in my life.
• 25:52
  Speaker 7: I was never the blame for it, It was always
• 25:55
  Speaker 7: somebody else. I had a list running back two pay
• 26:00
  Speaker 7: of who was the blame for every situation that I
• 26:04
  Speaker 7: thought that had wrecked my life, and I had to
• 26:08
  Speaker 7: release those people.
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: I had to pray and ask God to help me.
• 26:12
  Speaker 7: When you want to be healed, you have to be
• 26:15
  Speaker 7: intentional about your healing because when you allow healing to
• 26:20
  Speaker 7: take place, your life transforms. I don't want to hear
• 26:23
  Speaker 7: that you are heal, but I see no change, that's
• 26:27
  Speaker 7: not healing. You're just in that place. You're just there,
• 26:30
  Speaker 7: that's right. We have to take responsibility. We don't like
• 26:34
  Speaker 7: to be responsible. We don't like to be held accounter
• 26:37
  Speaker 7: before our actions. And a lot of times we are
• 26:40
  Speaker 7: the blame because a lot of situations we put ourselves in,
• 26:44
  Speaker 7: a lot of things. We cost on ourselves. A lot
• 26:46
  Speaker 7: of times we set the fire and then as soon
• 26:49
  Speaker 7: as the blades get high and get taller than we are,
• 26:51
  Speaker 7: then we want to run and go to crime. We
• 26:53
  Speaker 7: want the fire man to come and put it out. No, baby,
• 26:56
  Speaker 7: you can't be the victim and the fire starter. You
• 26:59
  Speaker 7: can't not be that. And so that's why we have
• 27:02
  Speaker 7: to think about. You know, sometimes we gotta go back
• 27:05
  Speaker 7: to that place who is the blank? And then when
• 27:10
  Speaker 7: you realize that it's not this person that you're married.
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: To, the.
• 27:40
  Speaker 6: Having some connection issues, But they will be back on
• 27:43
  Speaker 6: as soon as step back up.
• 28:15
  Speaker 9: Halleluh. Young, People's nothing wrong with dancing for Jesus. Shoot,
• 28:23
  Speaker 9: but we can't forget where we come from. Shoot, So
• 28:27
  Speaker 9: if you don't mind, let's have a little church right now.
• 28:30
  Speaker 10: Shoot something about that name Jesus.
• 28:36
  Speaker 9: Listen shouting.
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  Speaker 10: Something about the name.
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  Speaker 9: Hallelujah, let's sweet.
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  Speaker 6: Sweet, sweetest, sweetest n.
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  Speaker 11: Hello, I'm gonna lift your hands and said he it's
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  Speaker 11: a sweet.
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  Speaker 5: Thank you Jesus.
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  Speaker 11: I know listen is right here.
• 29:16
  Speaker 10: Some people say I'm trading. I can't explain. No, no,
• 29:25
  Speaker 10: the po that I feel. We'll not call your name,
• 29:32
  Speaker 10: were not calling your dad, sad, It's just lie.
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  Speaker 4: Back to our regular schedule program.
• 29:48
  Speaker 7: Hey, y'all, we forgot about the commercial break, you know,
• 29:57
  Speaker 7: but Hey got all of this tonight. He is in
• 30:01
  Speaker 7: control of this tonight, and we just thank god we
• 30:04
  Speaker 7: had an opportunity as we were in the middle of
• 30:08
  Speaker 7: the commercial break to actually read some of the comments,
• 30:11
  Speaker 7: and these are some really good comments about deliverance. Deliverances.
• 30:15
  Speaker 7: The first step in deliverance is really telling the truth.
• 30:18
  Speaker 7: And so when we start talking about things that you know,
• 30:22
  Speaker 7: where our healing is, healing is not just emotional, it's
• 30:26
  Speaker 7: not just intentional, and it's not just transformational, but it's
• 30:29
  Speaker 7: also spiritual. And you know, in this time that we're
• 30:32
  Speaker 7: living in right now, where marriages are under attack, God
• 30:37
  Speaker 7: wants us as couples to come back to the alter
• 30:41
  Speaker 7: or maybe I should say, come to the altar.
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: Because there are some people that don't pray together.
• 30:46
  Speaker 7: There are some couples that don't include God in their
• 30:51
  Speaker 7: marriage until things start falling apart.
• 30:54
  Speaker 4: So we have to learn how to come together.
• 30:57
  Speaker 5: We have to.
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: Learn how to pray together. And in us praying together,
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: we have to understand that He wants us to have unity.
• 31:10
  Speaker 4: We have to be that one like, not the two,
• 31:14
  Speaker 4: but the one. We have to be that one that
• 31:17
  Speaker 4: he has called forth.
• 31:19
  Speaker 7: When when we came together in marriage, we became one,
• 31:23
  Speaker 7: and so he wants to see that the unity, the intimacy.
• 31:28
  Speaker 7: We have to first get a relationship with him in
• 31:31
  Speaker 7: order for us to even have anything else to stand.
• 31:36
  Speaker 7: And so when we find ourselves in in this thing
• 31:40
  Speaker 7: called marriage, we have to first know that our healing
• 31:45
  Speaker 7: is spiritual. We got to seek God. We have to
• 31:48
  Speaker 7: seek him, we have to stay before Him. And as
• 31:52
  Speaker 7: you said, you know, sometimes we want our partner to
• 31:56
  Speaker 7: be fixed.
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: We want God to fix them.
• 31:59
  Speaker 7: And we're badgering God, fix them, fix them, fix them.
• 32:03
  Speaker 7: But God wants you to be whole. He wants you
• 32:06
  Speaker 7: to be healthy, He wants you to be here. So no,
• 32:09
  Speaker 7: we don't start with them, We start with us.
• 32:12
  Speaker 5: Exactly, fix me fix me.
• 32:15
  Speaker 8: Because what happens is God allow you to be in
• 32:18
  Speaker 8: what you call a holding pattern because He needs for
• 32:21
  Speaker 8: you to get it.
• 32:21
  Speaker 5: Just like the airport said, well.
• 32:22
  Speaker 8: We can't land right now, so we're going around and
• 32:25
  Speaker 8: round and around this holding pattern. And God allows that
• 32:28
  Speaker 8: same thing to happen to you, not your mate, but
• 32:31
  Speaker 8: to you because you always say, fix them, But fix me, Lord,
• 32:35
  Speaker 8: fix my heart. Allow me to speak truth over myself.
• 32:40
  Speaker 8: The Bible that physician heals ourself, So let me be healed.
• 32:45
  Speaker 8: That way, I can learn to love me and want
• 32:49
  Speaker 8: Once I learned to love me, I know I love God,
• 32:52
  Speaker 8: so derefore definitely love you. Yeah, And once I learned
• 32:56
  Speaker 8: to do that, then we can have this oneness. But
• 32:59
  Speaker 8: until we tell the whole truth, the sincere truth, we
• 33:03
  Speaker 8: don't have no truth right, the whole truth.
• 33:07
  Speaker 4: And sometimes the whole truth is not gonna feel good.
• 33:12
  Speaker 7: It's not gonna feel good to you, and it's not
• 33:15
  Speaker 7: gonna feel good to the person that you're saying it
• 33:18
  Speaker 7: to because now you're in a place and the enemy
• 33:21
  Speaker 7: is gonna always fight you.
• 33:23
  Speaker 4: When you want to tell the truth, you wanna, You'll
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: say I'm gonna tell the truth. But then you still
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: want to hold back a little bit of it, and
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: you cannot do that. You have to tell the.
• 33:33
  Speaker 7: Whole truth because in our spiritual healing, it calls for forgiveness.
• 33:40
  Speaker 4: And sometimes my truth is suffensive to them. Sometimes my
• 33:45
  Speaker 4: truth is really hurtful but to my partner.
• 33:49
  Speaker 8: But in that you got to realize when your truth
• 33:53
  Speaker 8: is offensive to them. If they really love you, love
• 33:57
  Speaker 8: conquers all and we can get through all of them that, yes,
• 34:01
  Speaker 8: But but see if it doesn't, that means it's something
• 34:04
  Speaker 8: wrong with me as well, because I said I loved you?
• 34:06
  Speaker 5: Or did I tell you a lie?
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 34:09
  Speaker 5: Right? Because we can get through anything, you know, once
• 34:12
  Speaker 5: you find out well, okay, say, for instance, I met you,
• 34:15
  Speaker 5: you had somebody in y'all kind of rocket, but I wooed.
• 34:18
  Speaker 8: You to me and were good, all right. But then
• 34:21
  Speaker 8: when I look now that somebody you hed somebody else,
• 34:24
  Speaker 8: Now you're jealous?
• 34:24
  Speaker 5: So were you really with me? See?
• 34:26
  Speaker 8: Because you didn't tell the whole truth. You got to
• 34:29
  Speaker 8: be honest and be honest with yourself. Yes, And that's
• 34:33
  Speaker 8: the key.
• 34:33
  Speaker 5: Once you can be honest with yourself, and I'm be
• 34:36
  Speaker 5: honest with y'all, learn how to just tell.
• 34:39
  Speaker 8: The whole truth, yourself, God, bess from the world where
• 34:44
  Speaker 8: and go to God's and just tell the truth something
• 34:46
  Speaker 8: that you know he loved. Start practicing telling the truth
• 34:50
  Speaker 8: and not hold him because you know what, not telling
• 34:53
  Speaker 8: the whole story is telling a lie. Yes, yes, tell
• 34:58
  Speaker 8: the whole story because one thing about it I can
• 34:59
  Speaker 8: look at to cross the eye and crazy. But you
• 35:01
  Speaker 8: know what I can respect about you. At least you
• 35:05
  Speaker 8: told me the truth. So at that point it's on
• 35:07
  Speaker 8: me because you know what, it's a lot of things
• 35:09
  Speaker 8: in my closet too. Now will you accept my truth?
• 35:15
  Speaker 5: Right?
• 35:16
  Speaker 7: And that's that's the thing, because when we can have
• 35:19
  Speaker 7: open communication, true communication, not withholding any when we can
• 35:31
  Speaker 7: talk about the good, the bad, the ugly, the indifferent,
• 35:35
  Speaker 7: when we can talk about that thing that really hurts me,
• 35:38
  Speaker 7: that really bothers me. And sometimes I'm gonna say this,
• 35:42
  Speaker 7: sometimes we will tell the truth and the person that
• 35:47
  Speaker 7: we're telling the truth to they act like they blind,
• 35:50
  Speaker 7: they oblivious to what we're saying.
• 35:52
  Speaker 4: Oh my god, that no, no how you feel like that? No,
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: ain't no way, I don't understand. But they understand and they.
• 36:02
  Speaker 7: Know, but they don't want to accept that at that moment,
• 36:06
  Speaker 7: and so that's why we have to just tell the truth,
• 36:08
  Speaker 7: and we have to stand our ground all the truth.
• 36:11
  Speaker 10: This is what it is.
• 36:12
  Speaker 7: And sometimes in relationships and marriage, truth is gonna call
• 36:16
  Speaker 7: for heated fellowship.
• 36:18
  Speaker 5: And if you said I do and God put this together,
• 36:22
  Speaker 5: it's gonna stand.
• 36:23
  Speaker 8: But you know what, in the midst of all that,
• 36:28
  Speaker 8: you like that onion in the relationship, you gotta kill
• 36:31
  Speaker 8: them layers off and heel them back to get to the.
• 36:34
  Speaker 5: Good part, the sweet part. He never said it's gonna
• 36:37
  Speaker 5: be sunshine every day, But we gotta go through this
• 36:40
  Speaker 5: range so we can get to the sunshine. And if
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: God put you with me and I know that, and
• 36:46
  Speaker 5: you know that, we can get through that. But make
• 36:49
  Speaker 5: sure it's you and I are not us.
• 36:53
  Speaker 4: Right, And that's so important.
• 36:55
  Speaker 10: You know.
• 36:55
  Speaker 4: I saw.
• 36:57
  Speaker 7: A comment that came across the screen that talks about
• 37:00
  Speaker 7: what's in the heart, and the Bible tells us out
• 37:04
  Speaker 7: of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. So
• 37:08
  Speaker 7: when you say something, whether you say it out of
• 37:12
  Speaker 7: anger or not, your heart, your heart is speaking.
• 37:18
  Speaker 4: And so so many times we say things out of anger.
• 37:22
  Speaker 7: When we're here and fellowship, we want to just we
• 37:25
  Speaker 7: want to get it all out, because what we do
• 37:27
  Speaker 7: is when you hurt my feelings and I get all
• 37:31
  Speaker 7: emotional and I don't deal with it right, then I
• 37:34
  Speaker 7: go over here to the dungeon and I unlock the
• 37:37
  Speaker 7: door and I put that in there about the doorback.
• 37:40
  Speaker 7: And so now I'm coming back and I got this facade.
• 37:45
  Speaker 7: Everything is good. Yep, it's good.
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: But the next time.
• 37:50
  Speaker 7: You bump me the wrong way, I go back over here,
• 37:54
  Speaker 7: and not only do I take that out, but I
• 37:56
  Speaker 7: take a couple other things out because I want to
• 37:58
  Speaker 7: let you know that you not only hurt me just now, but.
• 38:03
  Speaker 4: You hurt me back then. You hurt me last week, yesterday,
• 38:07
  Speaker 4: you hurt me two months ago, you hurt.
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: Me last year.
• 38:10
  Speaker 5: You hurt me.
• 38:11
  Speaker 7: We go back and we get all of that old
• 38:14
  Speaker 7: baggage and all that old stuff that we never let go,
• 38:18
  Speaker 7: that we did not deal with them, we didn't commute,
• 38:23
  Speaker 7: kay to talk about.
• 38:25
  Speaker 4: Now I'm gonna only all of that.
• 38:29
  Speaker 8: So in other words, you planning in the garden. I'm
• 38:32
  Speaker 8: talking about you planning a garden of trouble, and you
• 38:35
  Speaker 8: allow all that stuff to grow and faster, and now
• 38:38
  Speaker 8: it's bubbling over. So now you going and God, and
• 38:41
  Speaker 8: you're plucking out everything you want but your ammunition. It's
• 38:46
  Speaker 8: a hard time I've been to get all this to
• 38:48
  Speaker 8: put it in the pox.
• 38:49
  Speaker 5: Okay, I guess what. It's bitter, but it ain't sweet.
• 38:54
  Speaker 5: And that's what the problem is.
• 38:55
  Speaker 8: Why do you allow things to fester when you don't
• 38:59
  Speaker 8: have to, when you grown not twelve, but twenty one.
• 39:02
  Speaker 8: Over twelve and past twenty one, you're grown. Grown people
• 39:08
  Speaker 8: don't play games. They tell the whole truth. Look, hold up,
• 39:12
  Speaker 8: stop wait, I don't care nothing about what all that
• 39:15
  Speaker 8: going on, but then listen to this. Right now, you
• 39:17
  Speaker 8: said this doesn't so I don't like that.
• 39:19
  Speaker 5: Right now.
• 39:20
  Speaker 8: I don't care whether you don't like it or not
• 39:21
  Speaker 8: what I'm saying to you, but I didn't like it
• 39:23
  Speaker 8: when you said it to me. No, I'm not gonna
• 39:25
  Speaker 8: get all belligerent or anything like that, but I'm gonna
• 39:27
  Speaker 8: quickly put you in check with that. Come let me
• 39:29
  Speaker 8: talk to youve a second, y'all excuse me, and I
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  Speaker 8: need to talk to my wife baby, such and such
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  Speaker 8: and such a thing, because if you are allowed the
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  Speaker 8: fact that gives your mind time to let it, you know, marinate,
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  Speaker 8: and you're thinking all the stuff that you could say
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  Speaker 8: when you need to say what was.
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  Speaker 7: On your heart right then exactly, exactly, and so many
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  Speaker 7: times that's why marriage. You're in a situation to where
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  Speaker 7: we live in the house together, but we really are
• 39:55
  Speaker 7: not loving each other. We don't have any peace because
• 39:58
  Speaker 7: of the simple fact that we don't know how to
• 40:00
  Speaker 7: deal with things correctly. We don't know how to forgive,
• 40:04
  Speaker 7: we don't know how to communicate. And when you lose
• 40:08
  Speaker 7: the art of communication and healthy communication, health healthy communication
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  Speaker 7: means that we can agree to disagree agreeably because we're
• 40:24
  Speaker 7: not gonna always see things out of eye.
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  Speaker 4: We're not clones. Everything that I like, he does not like.
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  Speaker 4: Everything that he likes.
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  Speaker 5: I do not like.
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  Speaker 4: So why would you lie?
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  Speaker 7: And every time your significant other, your spouse says, well, you.
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  Speaker 4: Know I like that. Oh I like that too.
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  Speaker 7: No you don't, don't stop it, No you don't truth,
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  Speaker 7: tell the truth, Know what, baby, I really don't like that.
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: Today, for example, we're sitting there getting ready to leave
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: church and he was like, I want some pancakes. I
• 40:59
  Speaker 4: don't want no pancakes.
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  Speaker 7: We had you wanted pancakes last Sunday we had to
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  Speaker 7: go five pancakes after church last night. I don't want
• 41:05
  Speaker 7: no dam pancakes. I don't want pancakes todays. And so
• 41:09
  Speaker 7: I'm like, okay, well, all right, it's your day. So
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  Speaker 7: if you want pancakes, I guess I'm a fund somewhere
• 41:18
  Speaker 7: where I could take you to get you some pancakes.
• 41:21
  Speaker 7: But me, I'm saying I don't want pancakes. And so finally,
• 41:26
  Speaker 7: as we were leaving, I said, well, where do you
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  Speaker 7: want to go to?
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  Speaker 5: Eve?
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  Speaker 4: I said, And I do this out there real fast,
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  Speaker 4: I said, because I heard.
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  Speaker 7: You say you wanted pancakes. And I said it, that's right,
• 41:39
  Speaker 7: And I said it dry. I said it dry, not
• 41:42
  Speaker 7: saying well I don't want pancakes.
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: I said it dry. I said, well, I heard you
• 41:46
  Speaker 4: say you wanted pancakes. It's your day.
• 41:50
  Speaker 7: If you want pancakes, we'll go get pancakes. But then
• 41:53
  Speaker 7: he was like, well, you know what, it really doesn't matter.
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  Speaker 7: We can go home and you know, we get some
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  Speaker 7: steaks and go and and we can cook and whatever. Okay,
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  Speaker 7: so hey, that that was my cue right there, because
• 42:03
  Speaker 7: that was.
• 42:04
  Speaker 4: What was on my mind. Anyway, Let's gonna get some steak.
• 42:08
  Speaker 4: Let's go get some steaks. So I'm like, okay, yeah,
• 42:13
  Speaker 4: it's gonna get some sake. And he was like, we
• 42:15
  Speaker 4: go to grocy No, no, no, no, no, no, We're
• 42:18
  Speaker 4: not going to grocery store. We're not going to store.
• 42:21
  Speaker 7: We're going unlet somebody else cook the steaks today. Not no,
• 42:25
  Speaker 7: I'm not cooking steak. But see, the thing is, had
• 42:30
  Speaker 7: he decided pancakes, it was okay. Even though I expressed
• 42:35
  Speaker 7: the fact that I didn't want pancakes, we were gonna
• 42:39
  Speaker 7: have pancakes because of the simple fact that's what he
• 42:42
  Speaker 7: said he wanted. He wanted pancakes. So now we're gonna
• 42:46
  Speaker 7: go somewhere where he can have pancakes. But I'm gonna
• 42:48
  Speaker 7: also go somewhere where I can have steaks. I'm not
• 42:51
  Speaker 7: gonna go to a restaurant that only serve breakfast and
• 42:54
  Speaker 7: I'm not a breakfast person.
• 42:56
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna sit there and be miserable. No, that's not
• 42:58
  Speaker 4: what we do.
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  Speaker 7: That's why you have to be honest about even a
• 43:01
  Speaker 7: little big You have to be honest about the little things. Okay,
• 43:06
  Speaker 7: if he wants and I've used this exemple before, you know,
• 43:10
  Speaker 7: there have been times when I kick the habit. I'm
• 43:13
  Speaker 7: I'm a pepsi drinker. Everybody that knows me knows that pepsi.
• 43:16
  Speaker 4: Is my thing.
• 43:17
  Speaker 7: And so there are times when I say, you know what,
• 43:20
  Speaker 7: I'm gonna get off the wagon. I'm gonna drink something
• 43:23
  Speaker 7: different and I want lemonade, And so I say, bring
• 43:30
  Speaker 7: me something to drink.
• 43:30
  Speaker 4: He goes in the store.
• 43:31
  Speaker 7: Because I'm lady, I go, I wanna go in the store.
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  Speaker 7: You comment, Nope, I'm not coming, bring me something to drink.
• 43:38
  Speaker 7: And so I say, bring me something to drink. He
• 43:41
  Speaker 7: comes back with a pepsi. Now why am I gonna
• 43:43
  Speaker 7: get mad and be like, now why he brought this
• 43:45
  Speaker 7: durn pepsi? He know I'm not drinking PEPs Did you
• 43:47
  Speaker 7: tell him that you weren't drinking papsy? See, we get
• 43:50
  Speaker 7: mad about stuff and we don't verbally communicate that that's
• 43:54
  Speaker 7: not what we're doing today.
• 43:57
  Speaker 4: You might have changed your mind. I don't like that today.
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  Speaker 4: You know I'm not having that today.
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  Speaker 7: But if you do not open your mouth and verbally
• 44:05
  Speaker 7: communicate it to your partner, then you be in your
• 44:09
  Speaker 7: feelings feeling some kind of way. They thinking that they've
• 44:12
  Speaker 7: done they did a great thing. Pepsi, my baby of PEPSI.
• 44:19
  Speaker 7: I know she likes pepsy. And then you sitting up
• 44:21
  Speaker 7: there with your nips on your truck, said.
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: I ain't want no pepsy today. You come bring me
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: this pepsi. I'm trying to get off the wagon.
• 44:29
  Speaker 7: And here he come with a tool leader, not just
• 44:31
  Speaker 7: not just a single ser, but he got a whole
• 44:34
  Speaker 7: tool leader.
• 44:35
  Speaker 4: And so this is what we have to do.
• 44:37
  Speaker 7: You have to learn how to verbally communicate. When things
• 44:41
  Speaker 7: happen that you don't like, you have to say that.
• 44:44
  Speaker 7: And sometimes your partner may not be able to see
• 44:48
  Speaker 7: what you're saying right away because they may not they
• 44:52
  Speaker 7: don't feel what you feel. And I'm gonna use this
• 44:55
  Speaker 7: and I'm gonna be transparent again because we have we
• 44:59
  Speaker 7: have a blended family. We have a blended family, and
• 45:04
  Speaker 7: sometimes we have to really teach each other or show
• 45:09
  Speaker 7: each hey, what there's something wrong with this conversation.
• 45:13
  Speaker 4: It's something going on that should be going on here.
• 45:16
  Speaker 7: You know, there are times when we may get a
• 45:18
  Speaker 7: phone call from somebody that you're calling and they're saying, hey,
• 45:23
  Speaker 7: you know, we need to talk about the kids.
• 45:25
  Speaker 4: What kids? What kids talk about?
• 45:29
  Speaker 7: You got grown people, You don't have kids, you know,
• 45:32
  Speaker 7: your kids are grown, so what what kid is your
• 45:34
  Speaker 7: talk about? And me with myself, I laugh, I said, oh, child,
• 45:40
  Speaker 7: she just needed her fix, She just needed her fix,
• 45:43
  Speaker 7: And I laugh about it. But somebody else that's not mature,
• 45:48
  Speaker 7: somebody else that really does not understand where they are
• 45:52
  Speaker 7: in their marriage, they would have a whole fit and
• 45:56
  Speaker 7: walk around with their lips stuck out.
• 45:58
  Speaker 4: I'm not talking to you, you know. It's silence in
• 46:01
  Speaker 4: the house. Ain't got nothing to say to you. I'm
• 46:03
  Speaker 4: rolling my eyes. I'm doing all of these things. No, no, no, baby,
• 46:06
  Speaker 4: that's not what we do when we're mature. We don't
• 46:09
  Speaker 4: do that.
• 46:09
  Speaker 7: When you know where you are, you don't do that.
• 46:12
  Speaker 7: When you trust the one that you're.
• 46:15
  Speaker 4: With, you don't do that. And people that do that,
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: and I don't care about you getting mad people.
• 46:22
  Speaker 5: That do that.
• 46:22
  Speaker 7: You got something going on with you there you go
• 46:26
  Speaker 7: that you're not telling the truth about. Because when you
• 46:30
  Speaker 7: get to the place to where you've been with somebody,
• 46:33
  Speaker 7: you're in a marriage with somebody and you know that
• 46:37
  Speaker 7: this person loves you and you love that person, and
• 46:40
  Speaker 7: somebody else comes from way back, when what.
• 46:47
  Speaker 4: What I care about?
• 46:49
  Speaker 5: That?
• 46:50
  Speaker 8: That tells a lot about the individual themselves, you know,
• 46:53
  Speaker 8: because if we're one and that's what we said, but
• 46:55
  Speaker 8: if we said I do, we're one ect so be one,
• 46:59
  Speaker 8: you know, because that was your past and say what
• 47:03
  Speaker 8: it is.
• 47:04
  Speaker 5: But then and the same token, if you the head
• 47:08
  Speaker 5: and this comes to you like that, then you need to.
• 47:10
  Speaker 8: Straighten that immediately exactly, you know, because like you said,
• 47:14
  Speaker 8: we don't have kids.
• 47:16
  Speaker 5: These are grown adults. Now what is it that you
• 47:18
  Speaker 5: really need to say?
• 47:19
  Speaker 8: Because I'm trying to figure out how you calling me
• 47:22
  Speaker 8: and I say, okay, here we go and my wife
• 47:24
  Speaker 8: is here, but I can't call you while your husband
• 47:26
  Speaker 8: where you at. See what I'm saying, you gotta be
• 47:29
  Speaker 8: one hundred. Don't play games. And I'm not one of
• 47:32
  Speaker 8: those people that people that know me know I don't
• 47:34
  Speaker 8: do that. I give it to you clean and raw.
• 47:37
  Speaker 8: We don't go there because see the only way that
• 47:39
  Speaker 8: you don't allow anything to get started is don't let
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  Speaker 8: it get started, exactly.
• 47:44
  Speaker 4: And that's the thing. I'm not finna do this. I'm
• 47:46
  Speaker 4: not finna track this right here. Baby, go where you
• 47:49
  Speaker 4: want to go, do whatever you want to do. If
• 47:52
  Speaker 4: I got to track you, I don't need you. I
• 47:55
  Speaker 4: don't need you I'm not gonna secretly put a tracker
• 47:58
  Speaker 4: on your phone and summer. These men y'all ride around here, y'all.
• 48:01
  Speaker 7: Don't even know y'all being tracked, just being real. And
• 48:05
  Speaker 7: some of the women the same way. You don't know
• 48:08
  Speaker 7: you're being tracked. You're being stalked by the one that
• 48:11
  Speaker 7: you sleep with every night. And that is not good
• 48:14
  Speaker 7: because if I gotta stalk you, and I gotta know
• 48:16
  Speaker 7: where you at every day. If you tell me you
• 48:19
  Speaker 7: at work from eight to five, I expect you to
• 48:20
  Speaker 7: be at work from eight to five. If you not,
• 48:22
  Speaker 7: that's between you and God. And baby, believe me, he
• 48:25
  Speaker 7: is a revealer. He gonna show it up.
• 48:28
  Speaker 4: He's gonna show it up. I don't have to track you.
• 48:31
  Speaker 7: And that's what we have to realize when you when
• 48:33
  Speaker 7: you are tracking somebody, you're either tracking them for one
• 48:37
  Speaker 7: or two reasons. You're tracking them because you don't trust them.
• 48:39
  Speaker 7: You should never be with somebody that you don't trust,
• 48:42
  Speaker 7: or you're tracking them because you want to know where
• 48:44
  Speaker 7: they at while you're.
• 48:44
  Speaker 5: Going to do what you want to do so your faith,
• 48:47
  Speaker 5: and you're not really what.
• 48:49
  Speaker 4: I'm not gonna track you.
• 48:51
  Speaker 5: You don't have to. I mean they don't.
• 48:54
  Speaker 7: That's why you broke because you knowsy and you trying
• 48:57
  Speaker 7: to figure out where this person and you don't trust them,
• 49:02
  Speaker 7: so that causes you to be broken. Because if you
• 49:05
  Speaker 7: tracking somebody and they're even in the vicinity.
• 49:10
  Speaker 4: Of somebody that they used to be with, you done
• 49:15
  Speaker 4: lost your whole mind. They come home, you mad, You
• 49:19
  Speaker 4: throwing stuff, don't kiss me, You got all kind of
• 49:22
  Speaker 4: stuff going on.
• 49:24
  Speaker 7: You ready to start the fire and don't care who
• 49:27
  Speaker 7: get burned in the midst of the fire.
• 49:29
  Speaker 4: And you don't even know what happened.
• 49:32
  Speaker 7: You don't even know why they might have been in
• 49:34
  Speaker 7: the vicinity, not even at that person's house. Don't even
• 49:37
  Speaker 7: know that that person moved away. They don't even live
• 49:40
  Speaker 7: here anymore, let alone at that address.
• 49:43
  Speaker 12: But you mad, you being mad, and so now you
• 49:48
  Speaker 12: have started stuff because you too nosy, You don't want
• 49:53
  Speaker 12: to allow yourself to be healed.
• 49:57
  Speaker 7: You're causing damage to your own self. That's why you
• 50:01
  Speaker 7: have to understand healing has to take place. You cannot
• 50:05
  Speaker 7: be in a marriage or a relationship and be broken
• 50:10
  Speaker 7: because all of those broken pieces of your former life,
• 50:14
  Speaker 7: things that somebody did to you when you were wherever
• 50:18
  Speaker 7: you were whenever you were, and you thought that because
• 50:22
  Speaker 7: you left that person, you got away from that person,
• 50:24
  Speaker 7: that you was healed, and you have not been healed
• 50:27
  Speaker 7: from that. All of that stuff you have brought over here,
• 50:30
  Speaker 7: and all that's gonna take is a glimpse, a glimpse.
• 50:34
  Speaker 4: It don't even have to be the same thing, just
• 50:36
  Speaker 4: a glimpse, and you have lost your mind. People that
• 50:40
  Speaker 4: have been.
• 50:41
  Speaker 7: Abused in relationships, this is a trigger, don't do that.
• 50:46
  Speaker 7: They might have been reaching the hug you and you
• 50:49
  Speaker 7: don't do that.
• 50:52
  Speaker 4: Because you're not healed.
• 50:55
  Speaker 5: So that means you better learn to love yourself better
• 50:58
  Speaker 5: than that.
• 50:59
  Speaker 8: Yes, tell the hold truth, cleanse your heart, ask God
• 51:05
  Speaker 8: for the answer, and be grown enough to when he
• 51:09
  Speaker 8: gives it to you deal with that and don't go
• 51:12
  Speaker 8: back to him with that same question because you go
• 51:15
  Speaker 8: to the back of the line. God can only fix,
• 51:18
  Speaker 8: but you ask him when you release it.
• 51:21
  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, And that's so important that we got to.
• 51:25
  Speaker 5: Be willing to let it go, let go, and let
• 51:30
  Speaker 5: God let it.
• 51:31
  Speaker 10: Go, let it go.
• 51:33
  Speaker 4: Realize that.
• 51:37
  Speaker 7: One thing that we have to understand is marriage is
• 51:43
  Speaker 7: not perfect, but healing is always available. Yes, if you want,
• 51:49
  Speaker 7: always available, If if you want it, you have to
• 51:53
  Speaker 7: be a participant.
• 51:57
  Speaker 4: In the healing process. You have to be willing to
• 52:01
  Speaker 4: let it go.
• 52:02
  Speaker 7: Allow God to deal with every broken place in your life.
• 52:09
  Speaker 7: Realize that healing is not just emotional. It's transitional, transformational,
• 52:18
  Speaker 7: is intentional, and most of all, is spiritual. So practice
• 52:26
  Speaker 7: allowing God to have total control of your life and
• 52:34
  Speaker 7: be totally honest with your Let go and let God
• 52:39
  Speaker 7: and let the healing be Amen.
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