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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: The Harmful Potential Of The Word 'Should' · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hay Hurdler's Emily Badi. Here you are listening to five
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  Speaker 1: Minute Friday from Hurdle.
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  Speaker 2: I hope everyone had a good week.
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  Speaker 1: I had a lot of interesting moments this week, and
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  Speaker 1: a really special one with my old boss, Liz Plosser.
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  Speaker 2: She's now a dear friend of mine.
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  Speaker 1: We worked at Self magazine together and she is also
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  Speaker 1: the creator behind the popular sub stack best case scenario.
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  Speaker 2: I'll link it in the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: Liz and I did a live the other day to
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  Speaker 1: rap about mourning routines, and I was on the other
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  Speaker 1: side of the microphone, so to speak, for ones answering
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  Speaker 1: questions about mine. So when we are exchanging thoughts, she
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  Speaker 1: told me that she has a certain level of guilt
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  Speaker 1: lately because she is in this place where she's getting
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  Speaker 1: sucked into her laptop early in the morning. So what
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  Speaker 1: used to be a constant for Liz getting to her
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  Speaker 1: workout by a certain time now is typically put off
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  Speaker 1: in favor of homing in on a productivity window. In
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  Speaker 1: her words, she found that she was being the most
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  Speaker 1: productive creative at that time of day, but still was
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  Speaker 1: experiencing some guilt over putting off the other things that
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  Speaker 1: she wanted to do, and I asked her, I said
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  Speaker 1: to her, why not both? Is this guilt simply a
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  Speaker 1: result of analyzing the routine and seeing that it's different
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  Speaker 1: than it used to be?
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  Speaker 2: Is there anything inherently.
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  Speaker 1: Bad about out getting productive work done first thing in
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  Speaker 1: the morning.
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  Speaker 2: And she didn't have an answer to that.
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  Speaker 1: It truly was Liz shooting on Liz, and I shared
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  Speaker 1: a story with her that I recently sat down with
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  Speaker 1: a self help guru of sorts. His name is Sahuel Bloom.
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  Speaker 1: He has a book out now called The Five Types
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  Speaker 1: of Wealth. I interviewed him for GQ, and one of
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  Speaker 1: his main productivity work windows is literally between what I
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  Speaker 1: believe to be if I'm recalling it correctly, four forty
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  Speaker 1: five am, after he of course takes a cold plunge
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  Speaker 1: two six forty five am. He's at his laptop during
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  Speaker 1: that time period, and he recognizes that it's his most
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  Speaker 1: productive time period of the day. And so it's almost
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  Speaker 1: as though sometimes when we hear that someone else does something,
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  Speaker 1: it unlocks a certain amount of permission for us to
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  Speaker 1: feel okay doing the same. But what if you got
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  Speaker 1: on it about what works for you instead of waiting
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  Speaker 1: for the permission from someone else, And that's exactly what
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  Speaker 1: I asked Liz, I said, why can't it be both?
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  Speaker 1: Why can't you give yourself an hour in the morning,
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  Speaker 1: knowing that that time, that productivity window feels good for you,
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  Speaker 1: that you're getting a lot done, and then transition into
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  Speaker 1: your morning workout routine.
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  Speaker 2: Can that work for you?
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  Speaker 1: Can you stop shooting yourself into what you think you
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  Speaker 1: should be doing. It's food for thought. I'm sure there
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  Speaker 1: are a lot of things right now in your existing
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  Speaker 1: routine that you're asking yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Does this work for me?
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  Speaker 1: And how does it compare to someone else that maybe
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  Speaker 1: I'm seeing on my morning doom scroll. This is along
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  Speaker 1: the same lines of advice, along the same lines, along
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  Speaker 1: the same page, along the same vibe. You get what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying that I often give about morning routine. Just
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  Speaker 1: because you see me in my morning routine drink an espresso,
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  Speaker 1: eat a protein bagel, do breath, work journal, and go
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  Speaker 1: to the gym doesn't mean that that same routine will
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  Speaker 1: work for you. I'm not saying that there aren't benefits
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  Speaker 1: to most of those things, especially the protein bagel, but
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  Speaker 1: what I am saying is that there are going to
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  Speaker 1: be a series of rituals that feel good for you
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  Speaker 1: and your body. If you're not someone that really jives
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  Speaker 1: with journaling, if you're not someone that really jives with breathwork,
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  Speaker 1: if you're actually feeling more energized by doing your workout
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  Speaker 1: in the evening, whatever suits you, whatever habits really resonate
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  Speaker 1: with you, those are the ones that you're going to
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  Speaker 1: repeat time after time. So do a level of self
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  Speaker 1: inquiry before you start designing your routine based on what
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  Speaker 1: you see other people that you may deem to be
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  Speaker 1: successful doing. Focus on what feels good for you, and
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  Speaker 1: I promise you you'll be better for it. My thought prompt
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  Speaker 1: for you this week, what's one thing that you can
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  Speaker 1: insert into your morning routine or maybe reflect and something
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  Speaker 1: that's already a part of it, that is you giving
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  Speaker 1: back to you and you living more well.
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  Speaker 2: What is one thing that.
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  Speaker 1: Can really inspire you to live a healthier life that
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  Speaker 1: can be inserted into your morning routine or perhaps a
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  Speaker 1: reflection of what's already working. And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 1: Hi Emily, congrats on your recent five k p R
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  Speaker 1: in Boston.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: I was wondering if you had a standard warm up
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  Speaker 1: for shorter road races like a five k or ten
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  Speaker 1: k that you could share best Jane. So I don't
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  Speaker 1: have a standard one. I will say this, I have
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  Speaker 1: a lot of girlfriends that will run before a race.
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  Speaker 2: I have never been this person. In terms of the
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  Speaker 2: warm up.
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  Speaker 1: There are certainly physiological benefits to doing this. I recognize
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  Speaker 1: that it's just never been something ingrained into my routine.
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  Speaker 1: I will, however, do a dynamic warm up. That is,
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  Speaker 1: I want to highlight there that word dynamic. You want
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  Speaker 1: these movements to be fluid. You save the static or
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  Speaker 1: still stretching for when you're done. So my dynamic warm
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  Speaker 1: up traditionally consists of a few different skips, as we
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  Speaker 1: call them in running warm ups.
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  Speaker 2: A skip, B skip.
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  Speaker 1: Then I'm going to do some lateral lunges, some squats,
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  Speaker 1: some hamstring scoops, and some knee grabs, and then really
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  Speaker 1: I'm kind of ready to go. In terms of how
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  Speaker 1: much I'm doing, I would say ten reps per side
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  Speaker 1: is pretty adequate. And as a casual reminder, nothing new
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  Speaker 1: on race day. I'm not saying that inherently any of
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  Speaker 1: these warm up exercises are truly dangerous. However, I want
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  Speaker 1: to make sure that you understand the movement before you
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  Speaker 1: just slide it into the routine for the first time
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  Speaker 1: on the morning, afternoon evening of a race. So get
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  Speaker 1: to it warming up. I'm proud of you for warming up.
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  Speaker 1: It's something that a lot of people skip over. Dynamic
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  Speaker 1: is best and get moving. Always here to answer your
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  Speaker 1: listener questions, submit them over email over at Emily at
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  Speaker 1: hurdle dot us.
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  Speaker 1: guys next time.