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A Wrap on Season 6: What We Learned (and What We’re Still Figuring Out) · Mommywood

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Let's do it. Let's let's dive right into our
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recap. I like, didn't even prep in any
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way shape or do I ever prep? I don't.
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Know do I ever come? Well, Season 6.
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Yeah. What I OK, this is how much I
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didn't prep. When did we start season 6?
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When? How long have we been doing this
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now? That's a good question.
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This season I'm like literally going to look at my pockets.
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I don't know. I feel like in my head this
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season lasted no time at all and has gone on forever so.
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Right. I feel like because it feels
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like it's been so short, because I feel like usually we have all
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the guests set up before we start and this time they've
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we've had. So I feel like this season we've
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had 12 guests, 12. Yeah, 12.
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And yeah, but I feel like I'm like, are we sure it's not just
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five? Like I know I'm like who even?
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Yeah. But I guess that's.
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Yeah, I think we started like at the school year.
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Let's see. Also had over 100 episodes.
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Oh, ready? Oh my God.
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Wow. Go, team go.
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Isn't that crazy? OK, so we started, yeah, mid
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August with Erica Breen. OK with Erica Breen, you know
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it's been OK. This makes sense why it feels
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like forever and no time at all because Skyler started like big
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kids school. I was just going.
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To say. So before we started or when we
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were starting Season 6, you were starting big school for Skyler.
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So how have you been? How is it?
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The transition was rough but now it's good.
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Now that she like knows who her friends are she feels
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comfortable with her teacher. But the transition of like,
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because they go, well, Frankie's still there.
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But like, before big kids school, they did a Co-op and
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that meant I was there once a week with them.
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I could go in the classroom whenever I wanted.
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Like I was so much more involved.
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Right. And there was no time to prep
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her for big kids school because we found out the Friday before
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it started. Oh.
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My God. That she got in and the plan
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before that was to just home school.
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So there was no like transitioning her from you're
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going to see mommy with you at school too.
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Now you're going to be there longer and I'm not even allowed
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on the campus. Like I can't go to her
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classroom. I can't do anything so.
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That's rough. Yeah, the first now.
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She's doing OK, she's good. Yeah, yeah.
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We just had her first parent teacher conference and I just
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was like, I've never been more proud of my whole life.
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Like her notes from her teacher was like, she's very kind
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hearted. She gets along with everyone,
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She tries her best. Like all the things you want to
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hear. And I was like, OK, now is she
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now? Is it kindergarten or TK?
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No, she's kinder because. Like she can't possibly be in
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kindergarten. I know saying, well, yeah,
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because she is a really young kindergartner.
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So she she turned 5, she turned 5 August 10th and she started
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school August 13th. So she is the baby in her
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kindergarten class. Like all of her friends right
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now are turning 6. Or all of her classmates, I
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don't know. But that's, you know, you always
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hear like good, like I feel like it's better to be the younger.
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I isn't it usually like for girls it's kind of better to be
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the younger and then for boys it might be.
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Better to be the older. I don't.
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I don't know, I feel like yes, that's the boys and girls thing.
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Sounds right to me. If Skyler like in any way, I
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don't know. She's very smart and she really
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does not have an issue keeping up.
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But if she had I would have had no issues keeping her back and
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doing the 2K or the 2K the TK class but.
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Yeah. It was time she was bored at her
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little preschool like she was ready.
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She all summer long was like, when are you teaching me how to
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read? She was becoming ATA.
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Exactly. Help.
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Can I do this and then Frankie is still?
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Yeah, Frankie's still a Co-op. And 'cause they're two different
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places though, how is that? I'm always curious.
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Like how that is to have people at or people have kids too.
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Have people everywhere. It's OK.
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It's not my favorite, but it's not the end of the world.
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It's just like, I have this 90 minute break I'm forced to take
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in the middle of every day because I pick him up at 12:30
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and he still really needs a nap, but there's no time to bring him
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home and like lay him down for a nap.
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So I let him play at his school for a little with his friends
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and then drive him around in the hopes that he falls asleep in
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the car. And then we go sit and wait in
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Skyler's carpool line so I can pick her up at 2:00.
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So like from 12:00 to 2:15-ish I'm just driving around, just
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bopping and weaving in my car. So now this will only be They'll
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only be at the two different schools for the rest of.
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Yeah, Frankie can or not can do TK school.
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Year. Yeah, the school year.
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So he'll do TK hopefully. I mean I would assume he's going
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to be at Chime with Sky, but you never know.
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Is the school like TK to fit like?
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8th to 8th grade yeah, and I love it I.
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Is it a private or public? It's a charter school chime
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charter in Woodland Hills if anybody's interested.
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I really love it a lot. Yeah.
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I just I don't know the the setup of it is so lovely.
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Oh, OK, so I'm going to be a dumb, you know, not a dummy.
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I'm going to. I'm not going to have a lot of
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answers, but I'll try do. You pay for Charter.
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School. No.
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No. We don't.
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OK. So it is like a public school,
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but but it's not like the neighborhood district, right?
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Right, right. And the from my understanding is
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charters are started by a group of parents, typically people who
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want to like pick a thing to be their focus.
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And so like chimes big thing is that they're all about
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inclusivity in the classroom. So like Skyler has a non verbal
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little girl in her classroom and like they just learn all along
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together. And I just think it's so
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beautiful. It's so lovely.
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Like Skyler and Frankie now are exposed to so many different
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types of kids and it doesn't faze them at all.
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Like they just are. I just, yeah, it's really
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special. It's really special.
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And I yeah. We toured her May May school
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that she'll go in fall 2026, which were.
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Gotta get started, you know. Yeah, well, I'm so paranoid
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because I watch, which is I shouldn't be because like, if
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it's her, she's going to go to if we're still going to be where
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we live now and it's her district, it's her assigned
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school and but I so it will be fine that she'll like she'll get
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in and all of that. But I watched there was a
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documentary years ago called The Lottery which was about like
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getting kids into. Their yes, yes, yes.
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It's has clearly scarred me because I have called the school
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and been like how will I know that?
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Like how like can I, can I sign her up?
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And they're like, you can't sign up until the spring and they're
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like, but there is paperwork if you want to do that.
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And I was like, can I get that? And they're like, that's not
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until next year. Like there's so many things that
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I'm trying to do ahead of time. And they're like, if it's her
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assigned school, she will get in.
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And I was like, what if there's 1004 year olds that are trying
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to get in and they're like, that's our problem.
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They're like, that's not going to happen.
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But. But that's like on the district,
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they would have to add a school or add and I'm like, OK, OK.
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But the school was very sweet and very kind and similar.
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Like you were saying there. They were very like talking
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about how they, I can't think of the wording that they use, but
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they want to honor everyone's like where they come from.
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And so if people are speaking, if people come in speaking
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another language that they're or like have different wording for
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things where they're like, no, that's not how we say it.
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We talk like this or we do this and that.
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So they're very like very inclusive as well.
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And like the gifted program things like nobody, they're all
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together. Like nobody knows that
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somebody's in a gifted program or somebody's not.
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And I'm like, that was important to Preston because he was like,
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I always remember that like people would like go to a
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different thing. And it was like, oh, these are
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like the kids who need help or like I'm the smart one.
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Like which you never want for kids to be like oh I'm the dumb
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one or I'm the smart. One.
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Yeah, right. There's no reason for anybody to
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have. Yeah.
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But I'm like, I don't know if there's something wrong with me
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but. There's something wrong with all
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of us girls. Oh.
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My God, I am so emotional like all the time where we went to
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this school and this 5th grade 5th grader because it would be
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TK to five to 5th and it was she was like the president of the
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school or something and she was like, This is why I like this
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school and like I was fully tearing up and my.
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God. Shouldn't be allowed to be in
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public. And I was like, he's not even
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going yet. Yeah, I was like, he's talking.
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And then like yesterday teaching, I had a yada rocks in
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a day. We did a wicked camp.
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So I had 10 little like 5 year olds, like 5 to 7 year olds.
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And we did a wicked like concert performance thing.
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And they started, I started doing defying gravity with them
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during their performance and I'm in the back kind of like doing
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it with them for them. And I'm like.
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Oh my God, me. And I have to talk to the
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parents afterwards. So I go back on the stage and
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I'm like, you guys, your kids. And I was like, these aren't my
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kids. And I was like, oh, and I was
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like, I'm sorry. But I'm like, oh man, it really
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gets me. Yeah, yeah, dude, the school
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thing is, is crazy to me because it it came, it came fast.
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Like so fast. Well.
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Especially for. You I mean really fast, like
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there was no transitioning Skyler, but that also meant like
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there was no time for me to process it either.
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So like helping her through it while also feeling really like,
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sad myself and just, you know. 'Cause you hadn't been without
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her. No, no, I mean, this is like
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this year is the first time and it's not even a lot like I get
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my little 3 hour chunk every day, right?
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But like, that's the first time. Oh, without both of them.
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Meaning, yeah. Meaning they're both out.
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Yeah. And I have time to myself that
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I'm just like sitting here, like working as much as I can in
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three hours. No time.
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Really, it's no, it's no time at all.
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It's also not a break like you think or people are always like,
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oh, you get to be free or whatever for when they're in
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school. And I'm like, no, I mean, I'm, I
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feel like I'm unusual in the fact that like I am really good
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at being lazy and resting. I feel like I feel like most.
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People are. Most people are not, Well, yes,
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and people, you know, do a lot more.
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But I'm like, oh, I do not have a perfectionism personality,
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personality or perfectionist personality.
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I don't have a problem like watching TV and having lunch
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while May is at school. But then I'm like, oh, I do need
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to make my schedule when she's at school.
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And I was thinking, just yesterday I was like, oh man,
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remember when just like that she wasn't in school and I was with
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her all day? I'm like that seems.
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So far away. Ago, yeah, but not like, do you
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find that now? Because I don't feel like I'm
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missing out on any time with her.
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Yeah, I don't. Feel like I'm lacking time.
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Yeah, you're like connection time.
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I don't feel like we're missing anything while she's I.
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Do you feel that? I know it's a little newer for
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you though. No, I don't think I feel that.
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And I, and that's probably because I'm still so involved
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with Frankie's school that like it.
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There's still like that piece that I was doing with her that
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I'm still doing and well. I think probably knowing that
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she loves like really like she. Really likes it now it's
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probably and her day is not very long, right?
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Like I, it's not like I put her in the aftercare program and it
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and like I can't drop her off till 8:30.
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So it's not she's there from 8:30 to 2:00 like I'm there,
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right? There.
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Yeah, it's still not a long day. And on days where, like, I can
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get my work for the most part done in that three hour chunk
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that by the time I'm picking her up, I can just spend, you know,
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the, the couple hours until Garrett gets home to take over
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with them. Yeah, you're right.
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I, I don't, all this to say, I don't feel like I'm missing all
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that time 'cause it's not like when they were here with me full
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time, I was on them and we were doing stuff all the time.
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I was still having to work. So it's, if anything, it feels
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like less guilty time, 'cause I know that, you know, on my
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busier days, I'm not just putting on a bunch of movies for
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them. Yeah.
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So I can knock a bunch of things out.
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So. I do find that I feel I feel
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more guilty when like when we're together and I'm getting like
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frustrated with her because I'm like, this is our time together.
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Like I mean, she's 3. I feel bad anytime I get
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frustrated with her, but I but I have found that I'm like, Oh,
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I'm not alone in that because I don't know if my, you know, my
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phone or friends have like been listening to my inner thoughts,
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but I'm like, Oh, I'm not the only one who feels like it's not
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like a rage, but it's like, like, it's like building where,
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you know, we hear all about the well, God, what is the term that
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keeps coming up all the time? Oh, regulating our emotions.
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I'm like, oh, I'm terrible. This is when they meant that
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this is what they. Mean it's all be like like in my
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head, but then I always try and make it into like a jokey where
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I'm like you're. Driving me insane.
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Yeah, yes. I try not to like, say it like
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that, but I'm like, I'm going to lose my mind.
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Yeah, I have started, I think I've said more this summer into
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the school year, more out loud to them.
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I'm just so frustrated right now.
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Like I just say it out loud and that tends to just kind of, I
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don't know. I don't it does.
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It definitely doesn't work all the time, but it does tend to
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like take their curiosity. I don't think curiosity is the
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word. I'm looking for it.
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Like what's going on with? You.
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Yeah, it takes out them trying to.
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Figure out. Yes, what I'm feeling.
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The other. Big thing that I noticed is most
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of our meltdowns happen when my work is more intense or I'm on
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my phone more like these kids don't, they will have a great
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day. They'll be so well behaved,
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they'll get along with each other.
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If I'm just walking around the house and like cleaning or
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journaling or, you know, just doing things that keeps my
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attention in the house but not on my phone or my computer.
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The second I pick up my phone or I go to sit down at my desk,
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it's like they know that I'm not mentally in the house anymore
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and that stresses them out. Interesting.
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Yeah, I I do think it is like a huge technology.
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Yeah. It's like a screen thing or like
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the phone thing. And I've been really trying to
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leave my phone. Like I'll come home and then
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I'll try, I'll take because usually Preston will get her
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from school a lot of the times and then I'd get home and then
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I'm like, you know, I'll see her and blah, blah, blah.
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But then I'm like, OK, I just need like 5 or 10 minutes to
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like transition myself. So I'm like I will like look at
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my phone in my room and check stuff or whatever, you know,
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nothing important. But I'm like, I just need a
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minute and then I'll try and leave my phone in a big room
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because I'm like. You know, we see all those
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things where it's like, even if your phone is, even if you're
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not looking at your phone, if it's near you.
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Yeah, not they know that they're not the most important.
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Yeah. Or like they not, they don't.
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They feel that way. Yeah, Yeah.
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And I feel that way too. If somebody, you know, if you're
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out to lunch or whatever and somebody's phone is on the
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table, you're like, oh, they're waiting for something important
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or, you know, yeah, like, oh, I just have to leave it.
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And I've had May start telling me and I will be like, oh, thank
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you. She'll be like mommy off the
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phone. Yes, and Oh my God, Skyler will.
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She'll yell it at me. So get off your phone.
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Get off your phone. But I'll say it to myself too,
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because she'll be like mommy, mommy and I'll be like, oh, and
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say mommy off mommy, get off the phone and I'm and then I'll put
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it away. So I say it to myself or like
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answer and then she'll say it hurt.
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Yeah, that's that's the way to do it cuz.
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And I've had cuz I'll call out Preston, I'll be like off your
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phone, like, why don't you go put it in the other room And he,
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but then he'll half of the time be like, you're on it as much as
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I am, blah, blah. And he'll like, what if I would
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call you out? So I've been like, you can call
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me out If I am on my phone, like I'm like, please, I will not.
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That's one thing that like I won't get like annoyed or mad
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about it. I'll be like, Oh, you're right,
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especially if it's not something important.
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If I'm like, Oh, I need to also like neither of us have anything
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like important to do between the hours of like, you know, 4 to 8.
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It's like nobody. Yeah, nobody needs me right now
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and if they do it can wait till tomorrow.
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Like I think I've tried to make my window like 5 to 9 and that's
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only because Garrett usually gets home around 4415 ish so he
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can be on them and I could get like that last chunk of whatever
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in. But yeah, we've really, we've
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done the same. We've we've tried to keep our
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phones like central in the kitchen so I can hear it if I
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need to, but like on the weekends and things.
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But it's hard because like, it's so hard.
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It's all just like, pick it up out of habit.
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And I'm like, it's one, Yeah. Like, it's one thing if you're
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like doing work or something, but it's like, I'm usually it'll
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be like on Instagram or something like that.
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I'm like, I do not need to be doing this.
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And, you know, they don't understand that either.
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So it's very like, oh, have to yeah, yeah.
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Off the phone. Yeah, man, kids are always like
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changing too. They changed so much.
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I was like, oh, I don't know, October was a really rough month
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for us because I was so busy, which just led to a lot of
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meltdowns because my attention was not in the house that I, I'm
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my holy cow that I, I know that every stage is going to have
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different hardships, but I'm like, Oh my God, I don't, I
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don't know about 5 has been a real, I'm struggling because she
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has more words, but not but not full understanding of her
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emotions. And she's can be so, so mean.
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Oh my God, so mean. They're so mean and it's Mae's
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already there with like, I mean, she's, it's the only like
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vocabulary she has. But when she's upset, she'll be
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like, you're not my best friend. Oh my God, yeah.
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The amount of times that. She said I don't love you.
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Oh no, luckily Skyrim will be like you're not luckily lol.
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She'll say things like you're not my mom anymore and I'll be
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like would like in the most calm voice I'll be like would you
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like me to go find you another one and then immediate run to my
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arms hug me. Why would you think about
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leaving? I was like, I don't want to.
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I'm just trying to figure out what's best for you.
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But anyway, that usually helps her when she's yelling at me.
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You're not my mommy. Oh my.
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God, yeah, it's hard because I'm like it.
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Obviously she doesn't mean it and like.
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No. Like she means it in the moment,
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like she's mad at whatever and like doesn't mean it, but like,
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it's hard not to take personally.
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And one time I did like, she did make me cry and we were in the
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car and I was like, that really hurt my feelings.
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And then she was like, are you crying right now?
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And I was like, yeah, that really hurt my And then she
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cried. Yes, yes, yeah, I.
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Was like, so I was like, okay, well, that probably wasn't the
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best reaction for me. So I've tried to just like when
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she says I'm like, well, I love you so I'm sorry, sorry.
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Yeah, that's the one. I mean, I'm definitely not a
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gent in like a gentle parenting, but I try to veer towards, you
25:38
know, at least like. Yeah, I don't think I would call
25:40
myself gentle parenting, but I we are very like communication
25:47
focused, both Garrett and I that like even when they're yelling
25:54
and like if I get heated and lose my patience, the first
25:57
thing I or not the first, it's definitely not the first, but
26:01
the last thing I always make sure I say is even when mommy's
26:05
mad, I still love you. Even when you do something bad,
26:08
I still love you. And so they'll say that.
26:11
But man, there was a couple weeks ago, we went through a
26:13
phase where they, like both of them were like, we're not good
26:17
people. Like they got so frustrated and
26:20
I lost my patience. Everybody in the house was like,
26:23
we were all like tensions high because it was a really busy
26:26
day. I was getting a migraine.
26:29
Anyway, that doesn't matter. The point is, is they looked at
26:32
me and they were both just like crying.
26:33
And they're like, we're not good people.
26:35
And I was like, no, no, no. I was like, mommy messed up.
26:39
At some point, I made you think when you do bad things, that
26:42
means you're a bad person. That's not the case.
26:44
And we had to have this big long conversation.
26:47
So now that also gets looped in because, man, them looking at me
26:52
and crying and thinking that they weren't good people.
26:55
I was like, no, we messed up somewhere.
26:57
Somewhere along the line of all of us being angry, you thought
27:01
that's OK. Yeah, maybe the other day was
27:05
upset just being like, I don't love anybody.
27:08
And she was like, I don't love myself.
27:11
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But then I'm like, I don't, I don't, I don't think, you know,
28:38
I'm going back to it. Don't don't think I was going to
28:41
let you get out of this without me talking about having another.
28:44
Kid, hey, hey, don't think I wasn't trying to subtly bring it
28:47
up and ask again. I, I think I'm close to like I
28:52
would say 90%. OK.
28:55
But being good with May yeah, like I wanted to.
29:00
But I think one of the things, and I think I just did a post
29:06
about this where I was like, I need to stop saying just like
29:10
people were talking about their emails, like stop apologizing,
29:14
Say I'm just circling back. I'm just this.
29:17
And I was like, oh, I keep saying anytime somebody's like,
29:21
oh, do you have kids or do you have a daughter or whatever?
29:23
I'm like, oh, just the one. And I'm like.
29:27
You have a kid, period. Always.
29:29
I always say that and everybody says that when they're like, oh,
29:31
just just just one daughter. So.
29:34
And I'm like, Oh my God, I need to really stop saying that cuz I
29:39
mean, obviously I don't mean it in any sort of way, but it is
29:43
very much a, you know, I did a whole episode talking about if I
29:49
wanted to have kids or not. And it's very much like I feel,
29:53
and I would never say this to somebody who has one kid, but
29:58
I'm like in my head, I don't feel, and I'm sure I've told you
30:03
this, like I don't feel like a full mom, like a now where it's
30:08
like I'm taking the easy route with.
30:11
The with parenting lol isn't that crazy.
30:14
Yeah, where it's like, oh, I'm, I'm only having the one, so I'm
30:18
not as much of a parent. As somebody with yeah.
30:21
Or like. Which is so wild.
30:24
Because I think it's a combination.
30:26
Well, obviously it's also wanting a sibling for her for
30:29
the future. Yeah, like.
30:33
Much right now, although her playing with babies and like
30:37
just like pulls my heart out of my body, but I'm like, wait,
30:44
where was I going with that? Oh, that it's also no, I no, I
30:49
did lose my train like no, it's back.
30:53
No, I lost it. The sibling in the future?
30:56
You don't really. Know yeah, we're like I don't
31:00
no, I lost it but talking about something where I hadn't hold
31:04
the whole episode about it feeling like yeah having one
31:10
like I'm not enough of a mom just having just having one or
31:18
like yeah no, I lost whatever. Go listen to that episode, I
31:22
talked about it. Speaking of recapping Season 6,
31:27
that's somewhere in here talk. About it there.
31:30
But yeah, I think anyway I could talk about that for for forever.
31:38
But yeah, I think we're. So if you're at 90%, do you feel
31:43
like the last 10% is just getting out of your head that
31:45
Mays not to have a sibling in the future?
31:48
OK. I got where I was, where I was
31:50
going. No, Oh my God, this is going to
31:52
be the worst thing ever. Oh, that I feel.
31:58
I'm not editing any of this. We're going to let people see
32:01
them, what it's like inside the mom brain.
32:05
That I feel bad just in general for every woman because, and
32:16
again, I don't, I don't even know if I if it would be easy to
32:20
have another one, if I could have another one.
32:22
But the fact that I don't know and I haven't tried yet, I feel
32:28
like I need a reason to not have another one and me just kind of
32:34
not. Doesn't feel like reason enough.
32:39
Exactly where I'm like, well, if I could, if I can, I should.
32:44
And it's like, well, that's not a reason either.
32:46
But but I found myself and I hate I like hesitate even saying
32:51
this out loud and I hesitated even saying it to Preston but I
32:54
was like I feel like part of me wants to try and then not not
33:06
that I want it to not work but if I didn't get pregnant then be
33:12
like but I tried. Yeah.
33:15
Yeah, which like is a kind of a horrifying thing to say, but
33:19
like, not obviously. Not that I want anything bad,
33:22
but if it just like doesn't happen.
33:24
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Then I'm like that.
33:28
And then I would at least feel and I was like, that's fucked
33:32
up. Like that's.
33:33
Yeah, like the this, the simple fact that you.
33:36
I don't think that's a good idea.
33:39
And I was like, well, clearly. Obviously.
33:42
Thank you. But I was like, obviously that's
33:44
why I'm hesitating to even say it because like I don't want it
33:48
to get like misconstrued in any way.
33:50
But I'm like I hate. Yeah.
33:54
Like the not even trying because I feel like then I'll feel like
33:59
well, what if? Yeah, but like it's been three
34:04
years, so like it, if you feel settled in it, that's enough.
34:10
That's enough of a reason. I mean, you like, you know, it
34:15
is what it is. You're not any less than than
34:17
anybody else that has more. I would never.
34:20
Well, this is what you're saying.
34:21
You would never say that to a friend that only has kids.
34:24
Wow. Yeah, one of my close friends,
34:27
you know, obviously I know people with one kid and I'm just
34:31
like, and then I always compare 'cause then I'm like, but they
34:35
have so many cousins or they're nearby or like there's always
34:40
the comparisons of like, well, This is why they can get away
34:43
with only. One kid.
34:46
You know, where I'm like Julia's, she has like, you know,
34:50
older boy cousins, but only a like only three.
34:55
Well, she has these that were not like, and nobody's nearby.
34:59
And it's like, oh, I think I just have to be like and then
35:04
thinking of like, oh, if she wants to have kids, her kids
35:07
won't have any aunts or uncles from her.
35:10
Like that's sad to me too. I'm just, I know it's like you
35:15
spiral the way that I do in terms of like family dynamics
35:20
and things, but the the thing that I'm like constantly
35:23
reminding myself of is like, it will be all she knows.
35:28
She won't know any other version, so she won't have it.
35:33
Anything to compare it to. Like I'm constantly like, I need
35:37
more kids. I loved growing up with the
35:40
amount of siblings that I had and all the cousins that I had
35:43
and like all the aunts and uncles and the blah, blah, blah,
35:45
blah, blah. I want my kids that they don't
35:48
need, that they get their own little experience and I don't
35:54
have to give them what mine was in order for theirs to be just
35:59
as beautiful. And think if it is, I mean, if
36:02
it does, if it is just the two of them, they can be like so
36:06
close, yeah. And they are, which is.
36:10
And then I spiral the other way because I know I want one more.
36:13
But then I'm like, oh, but then these two are so close.
36:15
So I need to give that person. And then I'm like, okay, now
36:17
here then. Frankie, you'll be a middle
36:19
child. Yeah, exactly, Exactly so.
36:24
Which is everything I know. I do think of that too, because
36:27
then I'm like, oh, if we had another one, then I'm like, oh,
36:30
that would change. That would also change the whole
36:32
dynamic of May's life because then she'll be an older sibling.
36:35
And I'm like, I've never been an older sibling.
36:37
I don't know what that would be like.
36:38
Yeah. You know, there's no like, right
36:42
choice. It's just, it's just where
36:44
they're all. Exactly.
36:47
They're all right. The right choice is making one
36:51
and then choosing to show up in that scenario to the best of
36:55
your ability. And so like, if you have chosen
36:58
that Mae is going to be an only child, great.
37:01
You're going to give her the best life that you are capable
37:04
of providing her, and then she'll deal with the rest the
37:06
way she wants to. But yes, I've talked about that
37:12
topic AG nauseam. Is that the?
37:15
Word ad AG nauseam. Yeah.
37:18
Yeah, that's right. Anyway, so but mommy would I
37:25
feel like we've I still can't believe there's already been six
37:30
seasons and I started with me was like 2 months old.
37:35
Oh my God, crazy like that. Which now looking back, I'm
37:39
like, oh, Dang, that was a lot. Like to start when she was not
37:45
that I had much else going on, but I'm like, oh Dang, that's,
37:50
that's a lot. And then I'm like, oh man, I
37:53
remember bringing this idea to you and I'm on board.
37:56
Let's do it. And then I was like, she
37:58
probably regrets. Not even a little bit lol.
38:02
Could you imagine? Let's do it.
38:05
Actually, I don't want to do it. I didn't.
38:08
Think I didn't think you'd be still doing it.
38:12
No, I just feel like I do. I think.
38:17
So here's what I'm thinking for Season 7.
38:20
Yeah, let's hear it. That we have some guests in the
38:27
pipelines that we're scheduling, but I also think that Season 7
38:33
might be a good, what are we going to call it?
38:37
I'll come up with a better name, but kind of like a a flashback
38:42
season. Where do some of the not redo
38:47
but? Check in with.
38:50
Some of the episodes and check in with some of the guests,
38:55
maybe if we do like a little recap with them or just like,
39:00
'cause I feel like we have had so many amazing guests and this
39:05
is on me that like I'm not great at being because I'm like, Oh my
39:10
God, they've done all of this. Everyone should just know
39:13
everything. Yeah, I feel like I'm going to
39:18
share more with followers, listeners, like who these people
39:21
actually are without like, even if they don't have to like,
39:26
listen to the episode, just I want the people who have been on
39:32
mommy wood to feel like we are celebrating them more, you know?
39:39
Yeah. Reminder, this is what this
39:43
person has done. Like they've done this and like
39:47
kind of even just maybe like not summarizing their episode, but
39:55
really like highlighting it. Yeah.
39:57
Highlighting. I was just.
39:59
Saying yeah and and showing like, you know, a reminder that
40:03
all of these things have been accomplished and done.
40:06
With kids in the in not even in the background.
40:09
And the very foreground of these people lives, yeah.
40:14
I think, yeah, I think that. I think that would be.
40:19
AI love that. I love that.
40:20
And anyone who is listening who has someone that they want to.
40:27
Hear from. Hear from or they have a
40:29
suggestion or somebody that they would like to nominate.
40:34
Was that the word DM? I'm I'm always I'm on my DMS so.
40:40
Send us a message, tell us who you want us to talk to and by us
40:43
I. Mean we're like or you can, I
40:47
guess you can leave, leave a comment on Spotify or because
40:51
that's a thing too. Yeah, I.
40:54
Don't know if people do that. Often I I, I, I don't, that's
40:59
not how I podcast, but you know, there might be some people who
41:02
do so. I also have liked that for this
41:06
season we've done video. I think that's really fun.
41:10
Yeah, I think, oh, maybe that will be part of the Season 7
41:17
highlight highlight season. Maybe I'll because we do have
41:21
all those videos and I don't think we've posted.
41:25
Oh, you're right. Maybe we'll do that.
41:30
Something we'll think. About yeah, maybe I'll do like a
41:34
YouTube. I think I put a couple on
41:35
YouTube and then, you know, again, I'm not not a
41:40
perfectionist so I forgot about it, but I feel like I could put
41:44
them on YouTube because I don't know how much I would want to
41:47
like read. Yeah.
41:51
Or just like. Something for us to think.
41:53
About yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't need to.
41:56
Tune back into Season 7 to find out what's what's been decided.
42:01
What the heck is going on? See, we're all just figuring it
42:07
out and I think we have some sponsors in the pipeline too,
42:13
which makes me think and I've and I've also got new commercial
42:20
Rep for myself, which is very. Exciting.
42:23
Wow. Well, I think thank you.
42:25
I'm so excited, but thinking of like getting my new commercial
42:30
Rep and like finally reaching out to sponsors and things like
42:33
that for mommy would just makes me realize like just just do it.
42:39
Just ask because I've been waiting for like, oh, I need
42:44
better footage. Oh, I need to book this before I
42:47
can look for new reps or oh, I need 10,000 followers before I
42:53
can see if somebody would be interested in a sponsorship.
42:56
And it's like, Oh no, you should just ask and be where you are,
43:03
when, where, when, where you are.
43:07
Yes, my theory or my philosophy is they can't say yes if they
43:11
don't know about it. So it's.
43:13
True, yeah. That's right.
43:17
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