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In American Society Today, No One has Taught How to Create Success in Their Life · The Missing Secret Podcast

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  Kelly Hatfield: Welcome to The Missing Secret Podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield,
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  John Mitchell: Hey, and I'm John Mitchell. So here's our topic today, and this, I think this will be interesting in American society today, no one is taught an actual way to create success in life. Just think about that. I've been giving this a lot of thought, that that land, let me say that again, in society today, nobody is taught how to create success in life, not taught in grade school, not taught in high school, not taught in college, except one place that I know of, you know, but it's just not taught yet. It is so simple, and the course, this comes from the top book the world on success by a factor of 10, you just create immense clarity about your life, exactly the person you want to be, exactly what you want to accomplish, and precisely how you're going to achieve your clearly defined goals. And then you feed that to yourself every day, and it takes 12 minutes a day. And then after 21 days, the right actions happen automatically. And then those, those upgraded daily actions, create the life you want. And this works, whether you're 16 or 60. And you know, but the point I guess I'm really making is that people today don't have a conceptual understanding of how to create success in their life. They can't explain it. They just, they're just winging life. And again, it is so simple to just create immense clarity about your life and feed it to yourself every day, and that then factors in that 95% of your daily thoughts and actions are unconscious, and that's the repetition that the subconscious mind needs to then influence those unconscious daily actions. And I see that when you look at this on an individual basis, each person really has two challenges. First of all, they they can't intellectually describe how they create success. And secondly, even if they could, they don't have an actual way to do it. And that's that's exactly what think it be it is about. And this has sort of come out, as I was mentioning before we went on the air. I'm gonna, I'm
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  gonna, I see that there is a huge market in China for think it be it, because in China, the people are really serious about success, way more serious about it than here in the United States. Now, here in the United States, everybody you know talks about success, and it's, it's in the nomenclature, but it's merely a preference you know people in the United States and people in general, I guess, are lazy. You know, it's, yeah, sure, I'd love to be more successful. Well, no, I don't love to be more successful. I'd like to be more successful, but doesn't happen. No problem. Bad is most people, would? You agree with that?
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  Kelly Hatfield: Yeah? I think most people, it would be great if, yeah, but you know the work that it takes to create that you know for themselves or or you know that that's where the you know, or the know how, or the success formula, not having that, or you know, all of those things contribute to that. It being a mere preference, versus it being a necessity. You know, it would, it would be nice to have versus, you know, I must have this,
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  John Mitchell: Right well. And you know, it's sometimes hard to delineate between the people that it's a necessity and those that it's a preference, because you can always see, what will people do? They will, they will talk a good game, but what do they do? And and I think one of the challenges, certainly for myself, and I think for you as well, is that we oftentimes assume that everybody's like we are. And I have really gotten that lesson, that they are, that people are not like we are. And so, you know, I'm taking, thank you be it, and expanding it here in the United States by going on big podcasts. And, you know, I, I think I told you, I find this fascinating, that back to earlier this year, there was a book that the this wide receiver that was in Super Bowl for the Philadelphia Eagles. They saw him reading this book on the sideline of the Super Bowl. And the announcers, you know, see him doing it, they figure out what book it is, and that book had been written 15 years ago to. No critical acclaim issues up to number one book in the country. Well, why did that happen? Well, and this is a problem I think we have in this country, there's so much clutter and there's so much stuff coming at us that literally, we can't see the profound from the mundane. It's it's gotten to the point where this, this society is, is so overloaded with information. This concerns me long term, that we can't, even, you know, distinguish the profound. And I see that the only way think it be, it evolves is to find a little niche, sort of, like the Super Bowl example, you know, and like, like, if I get on, let's say, Ed millette's podcast, he's got a million listeners. Well, that begets getting on another podcast, a big one, and that conceptually is how think it be. It could become more widespread in in the United States, and I'm going to do that, and I hope it works. If it doesn't work, doesn't bother me, because I've got my whole world at the University of Texas that I'm expanding,
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  and that's great. My fortunately, my class is on a waiting list to get in which is cool and and so that's, that's great. But you know, as I affirm in my live GPS template, I want to, I want to take, think it be it, to its its maximum, and I see that that there's an angle in China through a friend of mine that has a connection that does speaking tours in China, and they would eat this up for a variety of reasons, just mainly because they're they're more oriented to success. And where, like even in my my at the University of Texas, the Asian students all flock to thank it, be it in a way that the American students do not and so I don't know, I just find fascinating the difference in cultures.
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  Kelly Hatfield: Yeah, absolutely, I, you know, I think that there's an Eastern component, you know, where I think there's more of a open mindedness to some of the different concepts that we're talking about. You know, even they're so backed by science, you know, there is, you know, I think part of the, I don't, I wouldn't want to say pushback, but part of the resistance for people may be that they put it into the manifestation category, and so it feels woo, woo and right, well, and all of that, whereas in that culture, you know, they're much more receptive to that, even though this is, you know, it's not, it is that, but it's not that, you know, right, right? It's understanding much more about the brain. What I think is interesting, that I do want to point out is, you know, you were talking about, there's so much clutter, you know, and there's so much, so many things out there, it's hard to break through, you know one thing, and, and I am somebody, as you know, who's focused on growth. I am always looking at, okay, you know, new books that are out there with new techniques that are in topics I'm interested about. And, you know, but I would, I would say over and over and over again to anybody of the I use this methodology to then implement any of those new concepts, strategies or ideas that interest me with some of that like this is the foundational because what's happening right now, and I know every single person listening knows this, is you read a book, or you listen to the book on audio, or You take a little online course, or you go to an event and you are excited about the material you're learning. Oh, that's a great idea. I'm going to do that. Oh, this is a and then as quickly as you close the book, because you are so inundated and distracted with next idea, the next thing that you need to do. We live in that reactionary world that that whole idea about, oh, this is a good idea. This is something that could make a difference in my life, goes
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  out the window. The minute is, as soon as the thought comes in, it's back out through the other side, because of the the world that we live in now. And what I want to say to people is like, this is the methodology that helps install any of the cool stuff that you're, you know, picking up, or you're hearing about, they're like, Oh, Batman, that would make a huge difference in my life. Or this is a habit that I want to add in. Or this is the mechanism that is, you know, is the delivery vehicle that helps you implement all of the other things that you're learning. Because I think that's the frustrating part. When I talk to like people who are focused on growth, and I don't even necessarily mean the 2% that we talk about, right, it is the fact that there's so much out there they're looking for a quick fix. This book, this newest book, this newest thing, this newest concept, is going to be thing that you. Makes this huge difference in my life, only to find out that the very thing that we're talking about with 95% of your you know, thoughts being unconscious. You know you're falling back on that old behavior, like you're set up to not implement all of these things that you're excited about learning and as you're talking that's one of the things that I'm thinking about when you're talking about how crowded it is, and all of this like this is the mechanism that helps you integrate, you know, all of these, you at all of these things that you're learning, or strategies or business ideas, and this is the thing that helps you integrate all of that and to be able to do it consistently, so that you can have the type of progress that you want to make. Because I think the other thing too, John, I'll say on this, and then I'll let you weigh in, is I think we also have, like, an epidemic of people who aren't keeping their word to themselves, yeah, oh, yeah. They get excited about this book. I'm going to do this. This is such an exciting concept that that I want to
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  integrate in. And they do it for a week or two consistently, and then all of a sudden, life happens, and they forget six months from now that, oh yeah, I was doing that, and that was a great you know, so I think. And then each time you do that, it chips away and erodes at your confidence in yourself. So it's this circle that I'm talking about. But what are your thoughts on that as I'm ordering my thoughts on all this
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  John Mitchell: You hit on on like three things that I think are brilliant or that that is, that is so true that this methodology is how you take those things that you learn from brilliant people, and apply them to your life. So true. And you know, it all comes back to the fundamental thing that 95% of your daily thoughts and actions are unconscious. Because think about this, think of it was the other way. Say 95% of your daily thoughts and actions were conscious and 5% were unconscious. Well, you go to a seminar and you learn this, or you learn that, and you go, Okay, I'm going to implement this into my, my life. Great. Well, 95% of your your thoughts and actions are conscious, so your your intellect and your intelligence is involved. Boom. You're able to do them all the time because, again, it made sense to you. You're like, Okay, this makes sense. I'm going to do this so that you do this. Well, that would be great if 95% of your daily thoughts and actions were conscious, but the exact opposite is true. That's why, when you find that great idea, and you and that five and you say, boy, this is a great idea. I'm going to implement it in my life. That's the 5% that's conscious. Now, to make it happen and show up every day in your life, you've got to somehow take control of your unconscious to make it conscious. One of the things that's interesting. So I am finishing my teaching my class this semester, and I've just been reading over the assignment where they really have to articulate what they have learned in the class, and I see that I have probably done a poor job in explaining part of this, because I see that virtually none of them get it. And here's the point I want to make. And this really has hit me over the last three months. Our methodology has always been based on 95% of your daily thought stations are unconscious. But I would say that, and I think largely it's it's like one of those, those statistics that goes in one ear out the other. It's just
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  another statistic. And and I lately have been trying to give a little more clarity around that, around this idea that in your in living your life, it's all in the moment. It's all reactionary, whether you're talking about your daily life, at work, or your your marriage or your health, it's all in the moment. And I see that what you're really doing here with this methodology, by what you're reading is you're making more of the 95% conscious you're changing that percentage and and as the example, I told you the story of, you know, with ginger and I, and me being impatient with with dinner, and how, you know, I from reading my life GPS template, at the first hint of my impatience and unconscious thought bubbles up to my conscious mind to go John, here's a chance to be patient. So be patient, and then I am patient. All from that bubbling up of thought. Not happening for reading my live GPS template and, and, but What? What? Evidently, I didn't explain well enough to my class, and I did not do a very good job in the first version of my book. Which, which I'm going to update. I'm in the middle of updating it right now, is, that's the point I want people to get is that from this methodology, you are taking so many of those actions that today are unconscious and not controlled by your intellect and intelligence, and you're changing it to where suddenly they become conscious and subject to your intelligence. Is there any better way to explain this? So if you follow me on this, yeah,
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  Kelly Hatfield: I totally follow you on it, yeah, and I'm just processing that I know I I don't know how else to describe it. Then I just described it, yeah?
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  John Mitchell: Well, I and it seems perfectly clear to me. But you know what's funny is, it's me, not them, when you're looking at every one of them, and I asked, literally a question on the on the exam was, so what is the implication of 95% of your daily thoughts and actions being unconscious relative to your intelligence and intellect. Boy, I thought they would just give that. I mean, I'm I'm basically giving them the answer in the question, but they, they did not get it, and so I am. Boy, tomorrow is the last class. I am going to hammer this point with them so that they don't leave under my control without grasping that. But I dare say that anybody that has read the book or is doing our methodology probably doesn't have that understanding to the degree I I want. And in fact, for years, I sort of would say that you're not changing the 95 five? Well, the more I understood it, the more I saw, Oh, but you are. You are absolutely changing it. And you know, so what is the what is the percentage? After you do this methodology, I don't know what it is. It may be, it may be 70% unconscious. 30% conscious. But the significant thing is so much of what's going on unconsciously is like your heart beating and biological functions and all that. Well, that's fine, no problem. That stuff being unconscious, it doesn't affect you one way or the other, but you probably got 50 intentions and desired actions, and then what is, what is that as a percent of all the things? I don't know, but if you can get those 50 things to happen consistently instead of sporadically, that's the difference between the exceptional life and the average life? Yeah, absolutely no, just something to think about. The other thing that that I would say that maybe I want to do a better job with my class, and this place applies to the people doing our methodology, is you need to get the think it be it app, and track your key behaviors every Sunday morning, because a key part of this, as you
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  know, is, is you've got a separate goal for your health, a goal for your career and a goal for your romantic relationship, and it's a new goal every quarter and and you're defining your key behaviors, well, you have got To be dialing in a little accountability. Am I doing the key behaviors? And in the app, it allows for seven key behaviors. And every Sunday morning, you just go into the app, takes all of about one or two minutes, and you just write yourself for the for the week on that. And then once you you rate yourself, you compare. Okay, here's how I did this week. Here was the goal. Maybe, here's, here's how I've been doing, and you get clarity, oh, I got to improve on this, or I'm doing fine on that. But that, and I know you're a big believer in accountability,
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  Kelly Hatfield: Yeah, not only am I a big believer in accountability, but I think there's one layer to that that you know, we don't talk a lot about, which is when you are doing the tracking on a weekly basis. This is also a really important part for your brain. When you're celebrating, when you are checking off that you are doing these key behaviors, you are creating new like neural pathways you're giving positive feedback to your you know, which is all of this is happening to underneath the surface, you know, in that subconscious space. But you're, you are getting that feedback that you're getting from filling out that tracking is a huge motivator to to continue to go. So not only is it accountability. Already were like it, you'll see trends you can recognize and go, Huh, interesting. You know, I'm always hitting for what's keeping me from not hitting all seven days, but I'm hitting four, yeah, and then we'll allow you to cut, some tweaking and some evaluating. But there is the psychological benefit that happens when you are going in and checking off that you did it, and you're reinforcing that positive behavior. Yeah, you know, so it's, there's so many important aspects to that tracking, but that's one that often goes unnoticed. But we all get a little hit, you know, of serotonin or doping when you know we're checking off that we got that done. And again, it just that wants you to, it helps you continue to want to do that and don't need it anymore, because it's just part of your everyday, you know, yeah, well,
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  John Mitchell: I see that. It's just, I've been doing it for 20 something years. I haven't had the app for 20 years. I used to keep tracking on the bottom of the visualization, but the app makes it super simple. So you want to make sure you have the app and you're you're doing that. The other thing I would say is if, if you want to listen to your live GPS template, you really need to get speechify, because now I listen to my live GPS six, of the seven days and and in a lot of ways, there's some advantages to reading it. I think because you can go faster or slower read something again, I think that's great, but I see the power also of listening to it, except with listening to it, you really got to pay attention to it, because it's easy to get your mind distracted. And so I guess all things considered, I think reading is better than listening, but maybe a combination of both is good, but but specify is so good. Because if you're like me, and you change your live GPS template once a week. That can be problematic if you're having to rerecord it every every week. But with speechify, all you do is you make the change on the template, print out the the template, put it, put it on my nightstand and in the frame, and then upload it to speechify, and boom, now you can listen to it on your phone, and the changes are made. So that's the power of speechified.
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  Kelly Hatfield: So I know there's some other cool tools out there that will record your voice like it'll be in your voice too, because mine in my voice versus somebody else's, yeah, and I also, but I don't change mine every week, you know, and maybe every month, you know, ultimately, and then it's a good exercise for me. Anyway, I'm reading, and I might as well read it out loud, record it while I'm doing it. But the other thing that I added into the audio version is at the beginning, before I start on reading, my visualization is I have incorporated huberman's technique. Well, I say, Kelly, remember, you are the type of person who always does what she says she's going to do. Yeah, you're the type of person who, so it's still, you know, and then I go and I read through, you know, and have that. So I've kind of incorporated, you know, a three, like key statements that I know the you. And then I read my visualization, my GPS life template, out loud to record it, and then I listen to it in my own voice every day.
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  John Mitchell: So, yeah, yeah. Well, whatever works. I'm a fan. Yeah, work.
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  Kelly Hatfield: You just keep, that's the fun part. Once you get the fundamentals under your belt and the foundational then it's fun to experiment and to tweak and to opt you know, look at ways to optimize it,
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  John Mitchell: Right, right? Okay, well, there's some some tips and so we'll see you next time.