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Fit, Active, and Ageless for Life Now! · Create The Best Me

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Well, hello there and welcome to Create The Best Me, a haven for women in midlife seeking to reinvent themselves and embrace their dreams.
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I am your host, Carmen Hecox, and today I'm thrilled to have a remarkable guest, Kelly Howard.
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Kelly is a beacon of inspiration, a fitness consistency expert with a splash of adventure.
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Author of " Fit: Active and Ageless For Life," Kelly has devoted over 25 years to helping women prioritize their fitness, ensuring they feel fantastic and can fully enjoy this exhilarating phase of life.
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Author of " Fit: Her Fit is Freedom podcast.
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Author of " Fit: Coaching, retreats, and online courses have transformed the lives of countless women.
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Author of " Fit: Join us as we discuss this empowering world of staying fit in midlife Kelly Howard, welcome to Create the Best Me.
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Author of " Fit: I am a big fan and I can't believe you're on the show.
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Author of " Fit: Oh, Carmen thank you so much.
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Author of " Fit: I'm super excited to be here.
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Author of " Fit: Great.
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Author of " Fit: Can you, tell the audience who you are and a little bit about your business?
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Author of " Fit: Sure Kelly Howard, and I am known as the fitness consistency expert with a touch of adventure.
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Author of " Fit: And what my business is I help women learn how to become consistent with their fitness and then keep it for a lifetime.
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Author of " Fit: And we do that through some coaching course retreats and just learning how to play and have a lot of fun.
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Author of " Fit: Yes.
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Author of " Fit: And you know, when I, think about your brand, Fit is Freedom, there's so much truth to that phrase.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah.
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Author of " Fit: It's it.
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Author of " Fit: It's just the thing, because in our lives, we play so many roles, but the truth is that if we don't feel good, then we're not free to do anything well with all those roles.
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Author of " Fit: It just doesn't work.
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Author of " Fit: And I'll give you a little backstory because just your title resonates with my backstory.
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Author of " Fit: So last year my husband and I and my daughter always go to Hawaii.
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Author of " Fit: It's our favorite place to be.
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Author of " Fit: And so we were in Maui during the time of the fires.
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Author of " Fit: And my husband and I did our best to not show how panicked we were, because we could see the fires.
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Author of " Fit: From where we were at from our hotel.
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Author of " Fit: And we had no power, no cell phones.
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Author of " Fit: We were trapped.
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Author of " Fit: And we have a 10 year old, she's 11 now, but she was 10 at the time.
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Author of " Fit: And all I kept thinking is if something happens, I'm going to get my daughter, get my husband and we're going to go into the ocean.
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Author of " Fit: And we were staying in a big hotel.
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Author of " Fit: So there's like several thousands of people staying here.
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Author of " Fit: And I just kept thinking anything happens, we'll just go to the ocean.
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Author of " Fit: I can swim.
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Author of " Fit: And I didn't tell my husband this because I didn't want him to know that I was scared for my life and, scared for us.
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Author of " Fit: Because, we could see the red flames.
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Author of " Fit: And, fortunately the fire stopped about a mile before it reached our hotel.
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Author of " Fit: Oh gosh.
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Author of " Fit: And when we got to the airport, my husband told me, he says, I was thinking that night, I thought about going and getting some life preservers.
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Author of " Fit: Cause there's thousands of people here and everyone probably thought the same thing.
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Author of " Fit: If the fire reaches our area, we need to get to the ocean.
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Author of " Fit: And my husband said, I know that I'm a good swimmer, but honestly, with that many people, I don't honestly think that I could stay in the water that long with my daughter and you.
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Author of " Fit: And so that's why your title, your brand resonates so much with me because fit is freedom.
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Author of " Fit: I think if we were both fit, we wouldn't fear that if we were put into a situation that meant life or death, could we survive?
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Author of " Fit: That's powerful.
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Author of " Fit: And yeah.
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Author of " Fit: oh my goodness.
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Author of " Fit: What a situation.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah.
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Author of " Fit: And, fortunately we made it out and stuff, but it's just, you never know where life's going to take you.
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Author of " Fit: And I think that being fit, in my opinion, especially after reading your book, is, it's not about having that rock hard body that we see, we all see those beach body commercials and other people that are just, they look amazing.
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Author of " Fit: And, sometimes.
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Author of " Fit: Some of us may dream, oh, I'd love to look that way, but is that really fit?
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Author of " Fit: I think that you have changed the, meaning of what it means to be fit.
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Author of " Fit: It doesn't mean that you have to look that way.
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Author of " Fit: Oh, thank you.
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Author of " Fit: Isn't that so true, too?
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Author of " Fit: Of course, everybody wants to have, and I think probably I can say this with, totalitarian.
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Author of " Fit: All of us want to have that appearance but in the very, very bottom line, it's what we can do.
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Author of " Fit: It's what we can do with the bodies that we have.
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Author of " Fit: It's how we take care of them so that we can enjoy our lives.
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Author of " Fit: We can live our lives.
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Author of " Fit: We can tread water when we need to tread water.
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Author of " Fit: Could you share How you discovered your passion for fitness and adventure and what motivated you to focus specifically in helping women in midlife?
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Author of " Fit: Absolutely.
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Author of " Fit: So much.
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Author of " Fit: We teach what we need to learn, right?
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Author of " Fit: I'm in my early sixties now.
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Author of " Fit: So prior to that, go back to just about 50.
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Author of " Fit: I had purchased a company a couple of years before, and it was an outdoor activity company.
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Author of " Fit: So it was like, hiking and biking and all these outdoor things.
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Author of " Fit: And it was stuff that I hadn't really done before.
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Author of " Fit: I had always been very active, but I'd never done these particular things.
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Author of " Fit: So I am growing this company.
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Author of " Fit: I'm doing all the work.
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Author of " Fit: We happened to buy a new house that was an old house.
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Author of " Fit: So knowing that the best thing you can do is be your own contractor or have a contractor, I decided to set up work in the middle of that vacant house and just tell everybody what to do.
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Author of " Fit: So now I'm working on two by four, running this company, starting it.
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Author of " Fit: My mother has a heart attack.
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Author of " Fit: She has a stroke and falls, ends up in a wheelchair.
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Author of " Fit: So now I'm taking care of my mom too.
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Author of " Fit: And it's no different the story is no different than any of us, right?
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Author of " Fit: Like we all have all these things that are going on in life.
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Author of " Fit: I was getting by on a body that, I'd always taken care of, but I was also, what, late forties, early fifties now.
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Author of " Fit: So you can't just get away with being a weekend warrior and expect your body to hold on.
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Author of " Fit: So one day in the middle of all this, I wake up and I realized that I am in too much pain to walk to the bathroom.
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Author of " Fit: Like I literally crawl to the bathroom and I crawl back to bed.
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Author of " Fit: And of course, the first thing I do is, what I call hypochondriacs.com I'm on there looking to see What's wrong with me?
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Author of " Fit: I'm probably dying from something.
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Author of " Fit: And the whole time in the back of my head, I'm hearing, yeah, Kel, what you're dying from is the fact that there's nothing wrong with you except that you're not taking care of your body.
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Author of " Fit: You're trying to get by in a 50 year old body, treating it like it's 20 years old.
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Author of " Fit: And there's nothing wrong with a 50 year old body, except that we have to be a little bit kinder, and we have to be a little bit smarter.
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Author of " Fit: So, fast forward a week or so, I'm back to doing all the things, but I'm a little bit wiser than I was a week before.
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Author of " Fit: And I go back to what I had done before, which was, back to lifting weights, back to doing, all the mobility, back to my basics, my routine.
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Author of " Fit: But while I'm doing all this, I'm also thinking about the fact that all these women I know, all these women I work with, we're all doing the same thing, right?
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Author of " Fit: We're all doing all the things and expecting our bodies just to suck it up and do this stuff.
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Author of " Fit: And it's not real.
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Author of " Fit: Like it is realistic that we can do all the things.
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Author of " Fit: But only if we support ourselves in the process.
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Author of " Fit: So in that moment, this company was born.
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Author of " Fit: Now I still had, call it 10 years to grow the old company, get it to a point where it was sellable, sell it.
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Author of " Fit: But even during that period of time, I was still working with, I was really working with my women, like helping them get solid on whatever it was like their outdoor activities they wanted to do or their fitness really get solid with it.
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Author of " Fit: And so once I sold that company, I just decided this is what I do.
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Author of " Fit: I love it, right?
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Author of " Fit: I really love it because no matter where you're at, in life, we can get stronger, fitter, have more fun, have more freedom, but we do have to be a little strategic about It.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, like picking up weights or, let's say you wanted to build a shed in your backyard.
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Author of " Fit: When you were in your twenties or thirties, maybe you could lift a lot of lumber and haul it to where you needed to haul it, or you could just nonchalant, just bend over and pick it up.
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Author of " Fit: The wise thing to do is lift with your knees, not bend over because we're not going to recover as quickly as we did in our twenties and thirties.
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Author of " Fit: It's so hard to remember.
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Author of " Fit: I've got this dog that ended up living with me, two of them, and she's probably about 78 pounds, and twice, two times, I've just she doesn't like to get in the car, so I've just reached down, picked the dog up, threw her in the car, and all of a sudden I'm like, oh my gosh, what did you just do, Kelly?
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Author of " Fit: And then, of course, it takes me a little while to learn, do the same thing again.
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Author of " Fit: And we also have to be a little smarter, I guess.
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Author of " Fit: But I think that we need to become acquainted with our new bodies.
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Author of " Fit: They're not really new, but they're new to us because they react differently than they did before.
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Author of " Fit: They do.
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Author of " Fit: And maybe we get away with stuff when we're a little bit younger that we can't get away with so easily now.
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Author of " Fit: But maybe we're also smarter now.
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Author of " Fit: Obviously not since I keep picking up the darn dog, but one day I'm going to be smart enough not to do that.
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Author of " Fit: But we do, we get a little bit smarter.
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Author of " Fit: And when we do, we learn how to work with our bodies the way they are so that we can do even more.
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Author of " Fit: It's just a matter of care.
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Author of " Fit: So tell me, when you purchased this company, this outdoor activity company, and you suddenly discovered that you needed to change your life.
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Author of " Fit: Did owning this company, did it make it easier for you to connect with your tribe?
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Author of " Fit: Oh gosh, yes.
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Author of " Fit: Oh yes.
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Author of " Fit: Because I have been very fortunate my whole life.
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Author of " Fit: I've always been active and I've always been strong.
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Author of " Fit: And I don't know why, but I started going to the gym, lifting weights when I was about 19 - 20.
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Author of " Fit: I was like the only woman in there in the free weight section.
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Author of " Fit: And so I've always been strong.
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Author of " Fit: And what I realized was that a lot of us didn't have that lucky background that I had.
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Author of " Fit: So, what would happen is that women would be excited about doing something and then they'd try it and they'd realize that they weren't that good at it.
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Author of " Fit: And so they want to stop.
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Author of " Fit: And instead I'd be like, no, it's not the fact that you're not that good at it.
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Author of " Fit: It's just that you're not practiced at it.
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Author of " Fit: That's all it is.
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Author of " Fit: We can do almost anything if we train for it.
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Author of " Fit: And the women that I worked with, we proved that time and time again.
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Author of " Fit: And this is a story I'd love to tell it.
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Author of " Fit: It fits, it doesn't, but it's a worthwhile story.
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Author of " Fit: So I was, at the time I'd been leading hikes in Houston for a number of years.
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Author of " Fit: And Houston's a relatively flat city.
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Author of " Fit: Okay, it's flat as a board.
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Author of " Fit: But there's this one section in Houston that we have some hills.
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Author of " Fit: Houston Hills is what we call them.
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Author of " Fit: They're not that big, 20, 30 feet tall, not much, but it's something that requires a little bit of effort.
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Author of " Fit: So I had this hike, I was getting ready to lead and we're getting ready to head out and this woman shows up and she stops, she gets out of her car and she doesn't have hiking poles, she has a cane.
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Author of " Fit: I'm taken aback.
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Author of " Fit: I don't even know what to say exactly, actually.
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Author of " Fit: But I do know what I'm going to say because I'm like, oh, hi, great.
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Author of " Fit: Join us, right?
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Author of " Fit: Like I'm not going to say don't come.
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Author of " Fit: And she's no, no, no, no.
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Author of " Fit: I just wanted to prove to myself that I would come here.
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Author of " Fit: I'm not going to go with you guys.
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Author of " Fit: And I was like, wait, you don't know me.
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Author of " Fit: So you're here, you're going.
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Author of " Fit: And we convinced her to go.
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Author of " Fit: And it really became a deal where it takes a village.
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Author of " Fit: Like we were helping her up.
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Author of " Fit: We were helping her down.
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Author of " Fit: Everybody was in on this.
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Author of " Fit: I don't know how many people I had out there.
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Author of " Fit: I had a crowd out there.
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Author of " Fit: But it became a thing and we finished this hike and she finished it with us.
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Author of " Fit: And when she got back to the parking lot, she was just like, oh my gosh, I never thought I could do that.
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Author of " Fit: I was hoping that in a year I might be able to go like a mile with you somewhere, but not that hike.
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Author of " Fit: It was, three miles.
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Author of " Fit: It was solid.
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Author of " Fit: So, great story, right?
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Author of " Fit: But it doesn't end there.
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Author of " Fit: Call it four to five years later, I get an email from her and she stayed in touch with me.
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Author of " Fit: She'd been traveling and stuff like that.
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Author of " Fit: So I get this email and she has it's her 65th birthday.
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Author of " Fit: She's at the trailhead for Yosemite Falls.
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Author of " Fit: Yosemite Falls is, it's a solid hike.
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Author of " Fit: I've done it and I was like, that was fun.
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Author of " Fit: So she's at the trailhead she's just finished the hike.
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Author of " Fit: She'd taken a couple of friends.
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Author of " Fit: It was her birthday and she did the hike.
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Author of " Fit: And she had taken off and she was going to go hike all the national parks around the country.
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Author of " Fit: That's amazing to me.
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Author of " Fit: That right there I could have just stopped.
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Author of " Fit: I, as far as I was concerned, I had just accomplished my life's mission.
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Author of " Fit: But then, you go on and it keeps happening and that's freedom, right?
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Author of " Fit: It is.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah.
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Author of " Fit: I love that story.
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Author of " Fit: I remember when I got to that section in your book where you wrote about that story.
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Author of " Fit: I asked my husband, how rigorous is, Yosemite Falls?
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Author of " Fit: Cause we've been to Yosemite.
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Author of " Fit: And he goes, you've never been to Yosemite Falls.
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Author of " Fit: He says, that's a hike.
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Author of " Fit: He that's not for everybody.
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Author of " Fit: He says, you could not do that.
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Author of " Fit: And you have to be in really good shape to do that.
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Author of " Fit: And I said, because I read about that.
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Author of " Fit: And it warmed my heart to read that story because I loved the community that you built.
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Author of " Fit: Because I think if it would have been a different community, you would have had some people say, oh my God, Right.
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Author of " Fit: This is going to take forever.
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Author of " Fit: I can't believe Kelly invited her to come.
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Author of " Fit: Now we're going to have to chug her along.
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Author of " Fit: We're responsible for this person who's out of shape.
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Author of " Fit: But they welcomed her.
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Author of " Fit: They embraced her.
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Author of " Fit: They motivated her.
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Author of " Fit: It's so cool.
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Author of " Fit: Isn't it?
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Author of " Fit: It's a changer.
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Author of " Fit: It's a changer in our life.
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Author of " Fit: And when you have good community, oh my goodness, like life changes.
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Author of " Fit: And the benefit that she received is that it motivated her to keep going.
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Author of " Fit: That she had an entire village that believed in her.
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Author of " Fit: You believed in her.
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Author of " Fit: And then the village believed in her that they helped her achieve this thing that she thought was going to happen in a year or two.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, I love that story.
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Author of " Fit: It's like one of those, I'll never forget that one.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, I loved it because like I said, it just showed, the support system of, women connecting with women.
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Author of " Fit: It's a big piece.
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Author of " Fit: It's a huge piece.
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Author of " Fit: I don't think we really realized for the longest what a difference a community makes.
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Author of " Fit: We know we need friends.
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Author of " Fit: And we especially know we would need friends after the pandemic.
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Author of " Fit: We experienced what life was like without connection.
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Author of " Fit: But then when you really get connected even just like briefly, right?
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Author of " Fit: It's when you have those connections, we need that.
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Author of " Fit: So fun.
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Author of " Fit: Exactly.
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Author of " Fit: From your extensive experience, what is the most common obstacles that women encounter and how do you help them overcome that obstacle?
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Author of " Fit: There's a couple.
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Author of " Fit: First one starts in our head, right?
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Author of " Fit: I believe that fitness starts in our brain, not our feet.
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Author of " Fit: And a lot of times it can be one of several things.
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Author of " Fit: One of them is that feeling that, you know what maybe it's time to just give up.
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Author of " Fit: Whatever it is, right?
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Author of " Fit: Whatever holds us back.
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Author of " Fit: Maybe it's just time to throw in the towel.
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Author of " Fit: That's one of them.
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Author of " Fit: The other one is, I'll start next week.
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Author of " Fit: And either one of those, they're two sides of the same coin, right?
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Author of " Fit: And so, what it's about is the fact that a lot of times we think that we'll start next week because next week we'll have our act together.
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Author of " Fit: Next week we'll be perfect at this, right?
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Author of " Fit: We'll nail it.
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Author of " Fit: Perfection is baloney.
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Author of " Fit: Perfection when it comes to, especially when it comes to your fitness, isn't real.
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Author of " Fit: If you're hitting every one of your fitness goals every day, click, you're probably not trying hard enough, quite frankly.
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Author of " Fit: So knowing that your mind's has to be your first obstacle.
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Author of " Fit: One way to, to jump around that is to give yourself a very simple little schedule of the things that it's a mix.
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Author of " Fit: Okay, it's a mix of some mobility.
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Author of " Fit: Because we need that mobility and mobility is nothing more than warming up our joints.
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Author of " Fit: Think about mobility that way.
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Author of " Fit: It's not about stretching.
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Author of " Fit: It's not about having to do an hour of yoga.
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Author of " Fit: It's just warming up our joints.
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Author of " Fit: We need that.
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Author of " Fit: I'm going to give you an aside.
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Author of " Fit: This is not a squirrel moment, but I'll just give you an aside.
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Author of " Fit: I've done a test and this test is on my body.
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Author of " Fit: So it's a test of one, same hike done numerous times.
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Author of " Fit: I'll get out of the car and I'll go out cold.
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Author of " Fit: I'll come back and I'll test How do I feel?
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Author of " Fit: How fast did I go?
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Author of " Fit: All this, I'll test all the things.
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Author of " Fit: Then, same hike another day I get out of the car.
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Author of " Fit: I do my mobility workout.
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Author of " Fit: After those five minutes, I go out and do it.
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Author of " Fit: I'm faster.
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Author of " Fit: I feel better.
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Author of " Fit: Things hurt less.
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Author of " Fit: So if I can say anything, do a little bit of mobility.
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Author of " Fit: Then you need to have a little bit of cardio, whatever a little bit is for you, and then some resistance.
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Author of " Fit: And there's lots of resistance out there.
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Author of " Fit: But take those things and then just simply ask yourself, if I was to do a couple of these each a week, how could I put them into a schedule that fits into my time?
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Author of " Fit: Even if it's only 10, 15 minutes a day and start there.
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Author of " Fit: Start so small that you're pretty sure what you're doing is not worthwhile.
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Author of " Fit: When you start that small, and you just do it for a month, right?
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Author of " Fit: You just give yourself a month.
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Author of " Fit: After a month, you start adjusting, you start getting a habit.
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Author of " Fit: You maybe don't have a full habit yet, but you start getting a habit.
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Author of " Fit: That's what gets us moving.
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Author of " Fit: Just like giving ourselves a little bit of grace, giving ourselves a little bit of space And I think not comparing yourself.
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Author of " Fit: Let's say you have a girlfriend that her body is exactly like yours.
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Author of " Fit: You're around the same age.
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Author of " Fit: And let's say she says, oh, I walk a mile in, eight minutes.
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Author of " Fit: And you walk a mile and it took you 15 minutes.
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Author of " Fit: Maybe saying, I should just give up because it takes me 15 minutes she could have done two miles in the time that I did one mile.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, that's such a good point.
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Author of " Fit: And not worrying if you're slow.
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Author of " Fit: That's something I see a lot.
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Author of " Fit: And it's always my women, it's never my guys.
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Author of " Fit: It's always my women.
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Author of " Fit: And they'll be like, I don't want to hold people back.
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Author of " Fit: I'm like, you know what?
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Author of " Fit: So what?
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Author of " Fit: Don't worry about it.
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Author of " Fit: And know that you're not that far behind.
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Author of " Fit: Even if it's a minute difference in a mile, it's just not that big a deal.
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Author of " Fit: And you're exactly right.
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Author of " Fit: There'll be that day when that person who was doing their 10 minute mile or whatever it was, is wondering what the heck got into you?
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Author of " Fit: And they're trying to keep up.
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Author of " Fit: So we can't compare ourselves to other people and it's the same thing with appearance, right?
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Author of " Fit: It's just hard.
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Author of " Fit: Like when you see the people we were talking about earlier, when you see those people who look freaking amazing, at least in photos.
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Author of " Fit: It's like I always say, I want to look like I do on Zoom with my filter.
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Author of " Fit: I do.
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Author of " Fit: At least in photos.
18:56
Author of " Fit: And we just can't compare it.
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Author of " Fit: And that takes me to page 59 where you said, we live in a society that loves instant solutions.
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Author of " Fit: Quick fixes might seem attractive, but seldom last.
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Author of " Fit: And I think this is really important, especially right now, because you find that a lot of people maybe watching more TV and they see, Oprah or Kelly Clarkson, who we've all known them to be bigger people and now they're smaller people.
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Author of " Fit: And we say, I'm going to go see my doctor and I'm going to ask for that diabetic medication because I deserve to look small too.
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Author of " Fit: But that doesn't mean you're fit.
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Author of " Fit: You're still not going to be able to have the endurance to do the things you really want to do.
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Author of " Fit: We are very much a visual quick fix, lose 30 pounds in 30 days society.
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Author of " Fit: And it's hard, okay it's hard to look away.
19:51
Author of " Fit: I understand that.
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Author of " Fit: And then if you can, and you can just run your own race is what I've always telling my women, just run your own race.
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Author of " Fit: Don't worry about it.
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Author of " Fit: I have a client who one day she was like, oh my gosh, I'm finally running my own race.
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Author of " Fit: I said, and so what's happened?
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Author of " Fit: And she's I'm so happy.
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Author of " Fit: I'm so happy.
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Author of " Fit: She was trying to keep up with some of the other people in the group and she was trying to do other things that just didn't work for her body.
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Author of " Fit: And now she's just rocking it in her own space.
20:18
Author of " Fit: And another thing when reading your book that really was an eye opener to me was my husband and I walk three and a half miles every day.
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Author of " Fit: And he's taller than me.
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Author of " Fit: Got longer legs than me.
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Author of " Fit: And I am like almost jogging to keep up with him.
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Author of " Fit: And I cannot hold a conversation with him while we're walking.
20:36
Author of " Fit: Thank goodness we listen to books.
20:37
Author of " Fit: I was thinking, cause we used to walk my daughter to school and that was less walking than the walking we do now.
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Author of " Fit: And I started losing weight when we were walking her to school.
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Author of " Fit: And now I'm trying to keep up with him.
20:49
Author of " Fit: And it's just by the time we get home, I'm like sweating and everything cause I'm post-menopausal.
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Author of " Fit: And so I'm sweating.
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Author of " Fit: And he's like, why are you all sweaty?
20:57
Author of " Fit: And I said, I got a hot flash in the middle of all of our walking that's why I'm all sweaty.
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Author of " Fit: But in reading your book, you talked about raising your heart level, bringing your heart level down and stuff.
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Author of " Fit: And I thought, oh my goodness.
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Author of " Fit: The reason why I lost weight when we walked my daughter to school is because we had stoplights and we would stop.
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Author of " Fit: So it gave my heart enough time to drop and then spike back up.
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Author of " Fit: As opposed to now I'm spiked up at all time and so what do I have?
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Author of " Fit: Cortisol.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, that such a great awareness right?
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Author of " Fit: Cause when you were doing the walking to school, it's almost like you're doing high intensity training.
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Author of " Fit: Up, down, up, down, up, down.
21:34
Author of " Fit: But, basically, what happens is that we can get away with probably an hour of cardio, right?
21:40
Author of " Fit: Hard cardio.
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Author of " Fit: But after that we're burning muscle.
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Author of " Fit: And it's not really doing us that great.
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Author of " Fit: Which is a bummer.
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Author of " Fit: Like I love cardio.
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Author of " Fit: I'm a bit of an addict.
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Author of " Fit: But at the same time, I've also learned that maybe once a week, go hard and long.
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Author of " Fit: And then the rest of the time, give yourself that up and down.
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Author of " Fit: And high intensity training will help remove the weight versus just driving up the cortisol that doing nothing but hard cardio does.
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Author of " Fit: The other thing that I loved is that you talked about the blend.
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Author of " Fit: For example, you have Isabella She was heading for a heart attack.
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Author of " Fit: And so her doctor told her to do something.
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Author of " Fit: And so she walked and she was walking, she was moving but when she saw you, you made a different suggestion.
22:24
Author of " Fit: You said we need to change things up a bit.
22:27
Author of " Fit: And I liked that because you talked about not just the cardio, but she also needed to do the resistance training and balance.
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Author of " Fit: And I thought, oh my goodness, I'm like Isabella.
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Author of " Fit: I'm not doing the resistance.
22:39
Author of " Fit: I'm not lifting weights.
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Author of " Fit: I'm not doing anything about balance.
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Author of " Fit: About making sure that I, still have balance.
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Author of " Fit: Cause we're not as agile as we used to be.
22:47
Author of " Fit: And it's true right but two things I can say.
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Author of " Fit: One of them is, when you do resistance, your balance comes back.
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Author of " Fit: And when you do balance work, your balance gets better every time.
22:57
Author of " Fit: And it's fast, right?
22:59
Author of " Fit: Like we do what I call experiments in my group.
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Author of " Fit: Cause I don't like challenges.
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Author of " Fit: Challenges sound, I don't know, boring, but experiments are like, try this for three weeks or a month or whatever.
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Author of " Fit: And right now we're doing a balance experiment.
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Author of " Fit: Start out like knowing where your balance is, what can you do?
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Author of " Fit: Can you stand on one foot with your eyes shut?
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Author of " Fit: If so, how long?
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Author of " Fit: Or whatever, wherever your starting point is.
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Author of " Fit: At the end of three weeks, everybody's just blown away by the fact that their body and their brain have reintegrated with these balance work exercises and they're, solid.
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Author of " Fit: And then, the flip side of that is that the resistance does add to your balance every time.
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Author of " Fit: It really does.
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Author of " Fit: And we need it.
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Author of " Fit: I mean, muscle starts going away.
23:39
Author of " Fit: It's a bummer.
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Author of " Fit: Oh I know I look at myself and oh goodness.
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Author of " Fit: Where I used to have muscle, I have fat.
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Author of " Fit: And it seems now ,that I'm older it seems like harder to build muscle.
23:49
Author of " Fit: It is you have to become can I use the word trickier?
23:54
Author of " Fit: You have to be a little bit more cognizant.
23:57
Author of " Fit: I'm more protein centric.
23:59
Author of " Fit: And I am someone who has been a vegetarian since I was about 20.
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Author of " Fit: So I didn't eat protein for 40 years.
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Author of " Fit: I ate pasta.
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Author of " Fit: It's my favorite food, right?
24:08
Author of " Fit: I love pasta.
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Author of " Fit: I can't do it anymore.
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Author of " Fit: Like I can eat a little bit of pasta once a week, but I can't get away with it.
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Author of " Fit: So, protein centric, more supplements that are leaning more like, and okay guys, I'm not a doctor.
24:20
Author of " Fit: I'm not a nurse.
24:20
Author of " Fit: I have no letters behind my name, but I will say sitting on my desk right now is a bottle of creatine.
24:27
Author of " Fit: Because I need to order some more.
24:28
Author of " Fit: Because I see for myself, when I lift and then take creatine and aminos, which are basically the building blocks of protein, my muscles come on quicker.
24:39
Author of " Fit: And, I use, more protein powders.
24:43
Author of " Fit: We just have to be a little bit smarter.
24:45
Author of " Fit: And I lift differently than I used to.
24:47
Author of " Fit: I used to go to the gym and I'd use the free weights and the machines.
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Author of " Fit: And that was great.
24:52
Author of " Fit: And now I work out at home.
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Author of " Fit: And so I'm very super aware.
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Author of " Fit: And I'm sure you know this, but if you need a reminder to anybody listening, when you're doing your, weights, or your resistance, or your body, or body weight, or whatever it is, you're thinking about those muscles.
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Author of " Fit: Because when you're thinking about those muscles, you're actually making a connection.
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Author of " Fit: And they have shown again and again, that you will actually increase your muscles by thinking about your muscles.
25:15
Author of " Fit: And it sounds crazy, if you haven't heard this before, read it.
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Author of " Fit: Olympic athletes do this night and day now.
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Author of " Fit: I have friends who are gold medal winners and this is how they train.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, and my husband, he lifts weights all time.
25:30
Author of " Fit: And I walked into his office, cause that's what he does during his lunch break.
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Author of " Fit: And I saw him lifting and it almost seemed like he was just like lifting.
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Author of " Fit: Not exactly like that.
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Author of " Fit: He was more concentrated, but I asked him, I said, hey, are you thinking about that muscle you're using?
25:42
Author of " Fit: And he's what do you know?
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Author of " Fit: You never lift.
25:44
Author of " Fit: And I said, no, but when was in my thirties I used to go to the racket club and I lifted.
25:52
Author of " Fit: I had a gentleman come up and he told me, he says, you need to focus on the muscle that you're working and breathe.
25:57
Author of " Fit: And I said, and he taught me how to breathe.
25:59
Author of " Fit: And he taught me to focus on that particular muscle that I'm working out.
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Author of " Fit: And I thought he was crazy, but I thought, hey, yeah, I'll try it.
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Author of " Fit: And I started gaining muscle definition.
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Author of " Fit: And I said, so you really need to focus on the muscle that you're working out and breathe.
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Author of " Fit: I said, I can't remember if it's in or out, with the flexion or whatever.
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Author of " Fit: And I said, you'll be surprised.
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Author of " Fit: You will gain muscle as opposed to if your just lifting nothing is to happen.
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Author of " Fit: It takes a lot of mind.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, isn't It?
26:28
Author of " Fit: It's so interesting to me.
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Author of " Fit: And I love, I love that I think something that's happening right now is that there's so much science, right?
26:36
Author of " Fit: I read a lot.
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Author of " Fit: And so I'm always reading the science to this stuff, because, somebody's going to say to me, I had a client say it a couple of days ago.
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Author of " Fit: She says, Kelly, I'm doing what you said.
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Author of " Fit: But I've never done any of this before in my life and I'm 67.
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Author of " Fit: Am I really going to see a change?
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Author of " Fit: So poor thing.
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Author of " Fit: She's probably still trying to dig herself up out from underneath all the reports I sent her showing.
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Author of " Fit: Yes.
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Author of " Fit: Yes.
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Author of " Fit: We can make these changes and especially if we do exactly what you just said, throw everything at it.
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Author of " Fit: Do all of I thought the guy was crazy when he told me that, but then, within a couple of weeks or so, I can't remember exactly, I was getting out of the shower and I was drying myself off and I looked at my leg and I'm like, oh my goodness.
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Author of " Fit: Cause I used to run cross country when I was younger in high school and I never had muscle definition in my legs.
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Author of " Fit: And I looked down, I'm oh my gosh, I have muscle definition.
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Author of " Fit: And it's funny cause I never noticed it.
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Author of " Fit: It wasn't until I was drying off and I thought that guy's not crazy.
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Author of " Fit: I did what he told me to do and I have muscle definition.
27:35
Author of " Fit: So that's why when I walked into my husband's office, I said, do you do that?
27:38
Author of " Fit: And he says, that's crazy and I said okay I said that's what I thought and I said, but it works It does actually, if he likes lift somewhere out there, and I don't know exactly where you'd find it, but there's a quote or a small snippet from Arnold Schwarzenegger, who was like, the bodybuilder King.
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Author of " Fit: And he was talking exactly about that.
27:57
Author of " Fit: I've ran across it just recently.
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Author of " Fit: I was like, oh, that's interesting.
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Author of " Fit: Cause that's a long time ago too.
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Author of " Fit: And don't make Mr.
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Author of " Fit: Olympia, without having valid information to support It.
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Author of " Fit: Exactly.
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Author of " Fit: How do you think stepping out of one's comfort zone and trying new activities can benefit women especially in midlife?
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Author of " Fit: Whoop, I think in lots of ways.
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Author of " Fit: But probably, the biggest way is that when you do something that you didn't think you could do, or something that is uncomfortable, whatever it is.
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Author of " Fit: Like somebody I work with, she's wants to get on a standup paddleboard.
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Author of " Fit: And I was like, get on the standup paddleboard.
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Author of " Fit: She's like, well, I, you know.
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Author of " Fit: I was like, just get on the standup paddleboard.
28:35
Author of " Fit: What's going to happen?
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Author of " Fit: You're going to fall off.
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Author of " Fit: Thing is that when we do something that we.
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Author of " Fit: haven't done before, or we didn't think we could do, or it's a little bit of a push.
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Author of " Fit: We never come back to the person we were before.
28:46
Author of " Fit: It's like a rubber band.
28:47
Author of " Fit: You stretch a rubber band and you let it go.
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Author of " Fit: It's never going to come back perfectly small.
28:52
Author of " Fit: You were always stretching ourselves outside.
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Author of " Fit: And the more we do that, I think, I believe the more we're willing to experience life.
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Author of " Fit: The more we're willing to live a freedom life.
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Author of " Fit: The more we're willing to just live, like flourish, be vibrant.
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Author of " Fit: Those things really matter.
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Author of " Fit: Like having that, I'm not going to use the word outlook, energy, like having that energy changes stuff.
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Author of " Fit: It just makes stuff better.
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Author of " Fit: I'll just put it that way.
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Author of " Fit: Funner, as You stop living in sidelines start living on the field.
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Author of " Fit: Nice, nice I like that.
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Author of " Fit: I like that a lot.
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Author of " Fit: That's so true too....
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Author of " Fit: .
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Author of " Fit: For many years I would sit there like so and so because they look so happy doing whatever it was that they were doing that I wanted to do.
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Author of " Fit: And I would ask myself, why aren't you doing that?
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Author of " Fit: Why are you wishing you could be like so and so?
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Author of " Fit: What makes you different than so and so that appears to be happy?
29:48
Author of " Fit: Yeah, and it's so true.
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Author of " Fit: I know, and this goes back a long time ago, a long time ago.
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Author of " Fit: I'm going to say it was probably 25 years ago.
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Author of " Fit: I was reading this magazine article and it was talking about a river in Texas.
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Author of " Fit: And this guy had run it and it's a whitewater river in Texas.
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Author of " Fit: And I said to my partner, I went, oh my gosh if we were younger, I would love to try that.
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Author of " Fit: And those were my exact words.
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Author of " Fit: I couldn't even believe, now I can't even believe I said it at the time.
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Author of " Fit: If we were younger, we should have tried that.
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Author of " Fit: About five years later, one of my members in my club said, hey, can we try whitewater kayaking?
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Author of " Fit: And I'm like, sure.
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Author of " Fit: Like how bad could it be?
30:26
Author of " Fit: So I get there it was awful.
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Author of " Fit: Oh, it was awful.
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Author of " Fit: I thought I was going to drown.
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Author of " Fit: I couldn't swim, all the things like I was the worst paddler in the world.
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Author of " Fit: But it caught my attention because it stretched me so far that I was like, wow, I've never run into something that I just simply cannot do because it mentally debilitates me.
30:50
Author of " Fit: And I just kept coming back.
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Author of " Fit: And this poor instructor, you would just see it on his face.
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Author of " Fit: He's oh my gosh, she's back again.
30:56
Author of " Fit: Like she's the worst person who's ever come here.
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Author of " Fit: And what happened though was that now 20 years later, it's my passion.
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Author of " Fit: It's so much fun to me.
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Author of " Fit: Like I couldn't imagine not doing it.
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Author of " Fit: But it's because, I kept getting pushed past my comfort zone and it was a tough thing for me to do.
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Author of " Fit: But in doing that, I found something that I would have never done before.
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Author of " Fit: And I have friends that I would have never met before.
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Author of " Fit: And it's just one of those things.
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Author of " Fit: Like you don't have to do something that you're thinking you're going to die at.
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Author of " Fit: But you do need to do things that you're like, whoa, huh look at me do that thing.
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Author of " Fit: It's big piece.
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Author of " Fit: huge.
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Author of " Fit: And, my husband and I were watching this netflix movie.
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Author of " Fit: It's, Diane Nyan.
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Author of " Fit: And I just told my you know what, regardless to whatever they don't want to say that she really, swam from Cuba to Florida.
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Author of " Fit: The Florida Keys, even though she did, because there's all these rules that say she didn't do.
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Author of " Fit: I said, but the bottom line is she did.
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Author of " Fit: And she was 64 when she did it.
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Author of " Fit: And that to me is so empowering because it just showed that she became stronger and stronger with every single fail.
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Author of " Fit: And she'd been trying this since, 30 years prior, when she was younger and stronger and resilient and she failed.
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Author of " Fit: But it took her five times and she finally did it.
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Author of " Fit: And so, don't underestimate what you can do if you really want to do it.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, so true and yeah that was a very powerful movie.
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Author of " Fit: And a very powerful, not just movie, but story.
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Author of " Fit: A very powerful woman.
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Author of " Fit: Just, I was just taken back.
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Author of " Fit: I told my husband, I, remember every fail.
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Author of " Fit: I remember seeing it on TV and I said, and now seeing it from a different lens I'm older now, it's empowering.
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Author of " Fit: It's super empowering With that said, have you ever had a woman that said, I absolutely would love to do this, but I can't do it.
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Author of " Fit: And now she's a leader.
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Author of " Fit: This thing that she said she could not do she's a powerhouse she's rocking it.
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Author of " Fit: Other than yourself, cause you already gave that story.
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Author of " Fit: Aw, yeah I know.
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Author of " Fit: I, yes and and this a story that I probably shouldn't tell but I'm going to.
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Author of " Fit: So, I have a client who, when she first came to me.
33:12
Author of " Fit: To all you listeners, I apologize my dog is chewing on a bone and I'm trying just quiet her down, and it's impossible.
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Author of " Fit: So I have a client who comes to me and when she did, she said that her goal was to be able to walk down the stairs one foot after another, solid, have balance, without hanging onto the handrail.
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Author of " Fit: So this is her goal a year and a half ago.
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Author of " Fit: And so about eh three months ago, she's with me in Costa Rica.
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Author of " Fit: We have a bit of a, we have a bit of a moment.
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Author of " Fit: We're in a raft and the raft, so everybody listening, this has never happened before.
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Author of " Fit: It will never happen again, but it was funny now.
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Author of " Fit: So the raft gets stuck against a rock.
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Author of " Fit: We can't get it off.
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Author of " Fit: It's there.
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Author of " Fit: So I've got all these people in my raft.
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Author of " Fit: It's myself and a guide.
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Author of " Fit: So we get them off the raft onto a big rock in the middle of the river.
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Author of " Fit: And she's one of those people.
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Author of " Fit: So she climbs onto that rock.
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Author of " Fit: She then stands on that rock in the middle of that river and then moves down to the other raft.
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Author of " Fit: It was an in the middle of the river rescue.
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Author of " Fit: And we were talking afterwards and she's oh my gosh, that was intense, but I think I have a new goal.
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Author of " Fit: And that goal is to be able to do that anytime I need to.
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Author of " Fit: And I said to her, I went, do you remember what your original goal was with me?
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Author of " Fit: She's like no, I said, your original goal was to be able to walk down a set of stairs one foot after another without grasping onto a handrail.
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Author of " Fit: And here you are, you're in the middle of a class four river, you get out of a raft, you balance on a rock, and you get down on the other side.
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Author of " Fit: I'm like, you are a rock star, literally and figuratively.
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Author of " Fit: So to me that was an extreme situation, but wow, she could have frozen.
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Author of " Fit: There were other people in that raft that froze.
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Author of " Fit: Believe me, they just froze and we just had to deal with it.
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Author of " Fit: She did it.
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Author of " Fit: That's huge.
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Author of " Fit: That's super huge.
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Author of " Fit: And one other, because not everybody can relate to being on a raft in the middle of a river and she couldn't either, quite frankly.
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Author of " Fit: But there's another one where one of the ladies who came with me in the book, I talk about the view from the top of the mountain.
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Author of " Fit: She came with me on the first retreat and when she got to that retreat, she didn't know any of us.
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Author of " Fit: She'd never met us before.
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Author of " Fit: She'd met us on zoom, but she'd never met us in person.
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Author of " Fit: And she told me, she said, my kids are really uncomfortable that I'm here.
35:37
Author of " Fit: They told me that I shouldn't go.
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Author of " Fit: And they're like, where are you going?
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Author of " Fit: And what are you doing?
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Author of " Fit: And she said, I need to be very careful.
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Author of " Fit: And I may not be able to do all these things.
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Author of " Fit: So I'm like, okay, no problem.
35:48
Author of " Fit: Let's just, do what you do.
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Author of " Fit: Are you kidding me?
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Author of " Fit: She was leading the pack.
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Author of " Fit: She was at the top of the mountain.
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Author of " Fit: She's like cheering everybody on.
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Author of " Fit: That's it.
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Author of " Fit: Like life gets so big when you get to play like that.
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Author of " Fit: That's amazing.
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Author of " Fit: and I think.
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Author of " Fit: that these women, what happened is, in this situation, they removed themselves from who they thought they were and become who they really are.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, that's a really good way of putting it.
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Author of " Fit: Cause it's true.
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Author of " Fit: Because we do tend to play safe a lot of times.
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Author of " Fit: And when we push back a little bit, doesn't have to be big, right?
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Author of " Fit: Like you don't have to be trying to drown yourself in the middle of the river.
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Author of " Fit: You just push back a little bit and you just stretch so much you become super women.
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Author of " Fit: I think all of my clients are superwomen, It's just so amazing.
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Author of " Fit: And most of your clients are women over the age of 50 am I correct?
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Author of " Fit: Yes, so I think my youngest person is 49.
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Author of " Fit: My probably my oldest client is about 75.
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Author of " Fit: She came with me on, we went to the Smoky Mountains last year.
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Author of " Fit: She did every single one of those hikes.
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Author of " Fit: She rocked it?
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Author of " Fit: like nobody's business.
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Author of " Fit: That's empowering.
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Author of " Fit: There you go.
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Author of " Fit: It is.
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Author of " Fit: It's so empowering because you find that sometimes women, once we get in the menopause years, we start to say, oh, I can't do this because I could have osteoporosis.
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Author of " Fit: I got to take care of my bones.
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Author of " Fit: But here are women that are saying, you know what?
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Author of " Fit: I'm going to prevent that because I'm going to be fit and I'm not going to limit my freedom because this could happen.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah, you know, things happen.
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Author of " Fit: Things happen in life and a lot of times they happen when we're really not having much fun.
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Author of " Fit: Could get up the couch, trip on the dog, break your hip All right.
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Author of " Fit: Exactly I know somebody who just grabbed her suitcase off a rack and ripped her shoulder.
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Author of " Fit: I'm like, well, hopefully you were somewhere fun doing that.
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Author of " Fit: Yeah.
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Author of " Fit: I absolutely love your book.
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Author of " Fit: As I mentioned to you before our recording, I love your book.
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Author of " Fit: It was very well written, very inspirational.
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Author of " Fit: And what I loved about it was that you didn't have these rock hard, you did have some women that were fit.
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Author of " Fit: And just wanted to move to the next level.
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Author of " Fit: Maybe do something a little bit more adventurous, more, rewarding per se in a community.
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Author of " Fit: But then you also have these women that were couch potatoes per se, or not really couch potatoes, but they were powerhouses.
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Author of " Fit: They were rocking it in the business world and spent too much time in their chair that unfortunately they were out of shape.
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Author of " Fit: And working with you allowed them the opportunity to turn into somebody different I love it.
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Author of " Fit: And the other thing that I thought was interesting and I, can't remember the actual lady that you wrote about in the book.
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Author of " Fit: But you talked about this woman who owned her own business.
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Author of " Fit: She was involved in, I believe her church.
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Author of " Fit: And she was your go to person because she got everything done.
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Author of " Fit: And if you added something to her layer of to do list, she got that done too.
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Author of " Fit: But she wasn't taking care of herself.
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Author of " Fit: And working with you, you allowed her to prioritize self-care then everything else Yeah self-care is, it's funny.
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Author of " Fit: We've been, it's like self-care is fluffy.
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Author of " Fit: self-care is not fluffy.
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Author of " Fit: Self-care is, doing the things that we know we need to do to be able to do the things that we want to do forever.
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Author of " Fit: That's self-care.
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Author of " Fit: Fit, fit, is freedom, is self-care.
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Author of " Fit: It's basically what it is.
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Author of " Fit: It's putting yourself first so that you can do all the other things.
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Author of " Fit: It's true and if anybody's listening, thinking, oh, but isn't that selfish to put yourself first?
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Author of " Fit: The truth is that if we don't, those people that we love, that we're caring for are going to be having to take care of us.
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Author of " Fit: So yeah, but if we put ourselves first, then they're going to be able to play with us for a very long time.
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Author of " Fit: Kelly, what advice would you give that listener right now who's listening or watching right now and says, I'd love to do that, but.
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Author of " Fit: What would you tell her?
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Author of " Fit: What would be the first thing that she should do right now to eliminate the but and move forward Hum yeah so there's lots of buts.
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Author of " Fit: There's usually no time.
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Author of " Fit: I don't know what to do.
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Author of " Fit: I've got too many injuries.
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Author of " Fit: I have to throw in the towel, that kind of stuff.
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Author of " Fit: So the first thing I would say is create what I love to call an MDM, which is a minimum daily movement.
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Author of " Fit: And that minimum daily movement is going to be so small that you are sure that it is useless.
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Author of " Fit: Okay.
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Author of " Fit: Because when you can do something like, let's say it's just like five minutes of mobility and five minutes of walking, like that's pretty small.
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Author of " Fit: We can all do it.
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Author of " Fit: You cannot tell me that you don't have time for that one.
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Author of " Fit: But if you do it, and you do it consistently five days a week and you do it for a month.
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Author of " Fit: What's going to happen is that even though you're sure like, I guess I'm going to add a second piece to this in just a second, but let's just say you do it for a month.
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Author of " Fit: What's going to happen is at the end of that month, you're going to be a little bored with that.
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Author of " Fit: And instead of giving up, like so many of us have done on so many different diets and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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Author of " Fit: We've got a fire, right?
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Author of " Fit: We have a little bit of a habit started there.
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Author of " Fit: So then we step it up, maybe we step it up to 20 minutes.
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Author of " Fit: Maybe you step it up to 30 minutes.
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Author of " Fit: But what you're going to find is if you're willing to give yourself that gift of movement for a month, then the bug is going to bite and you're going to keep moving.
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Author of " Fit: And you're going to start finding new ways of dealing with this.
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Author of " Fit: And you have to, and I don't like the word have to, but you're going to have to add a little fun into this because if it's boring, If it's not fun, it is not sustainable.
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Author of " Fit: So you have to find a few things that you enjoy doing.
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Author of " Fit: And if you are somebody like some of my people who tell me, there's really nothing I like to do that involves exercise.
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Author of " Fit: Then you need to think outside the box.
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Author of " Fit: And just start like being aware.
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Author of " Fit: One of my clients lives in Hawaii and she said to me the other day, we were on a call and she's oh my gosh, all of a sudden I realized that she can't stand up paddle board anymore because she can't carry her paddle board down to the water.
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Author of " Fit: She had some problems.
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Author of " Fit: She went oh, I could just go rent one of those paddle boards that's already down there.
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Author of " Fit: Thinking outside of the box.
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Author of " Fit: You're going to have to start thinking outside a little bit and having some fun.
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Author of " Fit: And then add to that when you're ready.
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Author of " Fit: Add to that a little bit of nutrition because food matters.
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Author of " Fit: Add to that a community because community matters.
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Author of " Fit: Add to that some accountability if you need it.
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Author of " Fit: But start somewhere where you know you're willing to do it.
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Author of " Fit: And you have to have a reason.
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Author of " Fit: It's that North Star.
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Author of " Fit: You have to have a reason.
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Author of " Fit: The reason could be as small as I don't want to fade away, which is really big actually, it sounds small, but it's huge.
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Author of " Fit: Or it can be as big as I want to do something stinking amazing that I've never done before.
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Author of " Fit: And I've got to start somewhere.
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Author of " Fit: Kelly, how can people learn more about you and maybe even begin to work with you?
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Author of " Fit: So my website's always the easiest place, which is just fitisfreedom.com.
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Author of " Fit: And from there you can find, all the socials and all the stuff.
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Author of " Fit: And also, in your show notes, we will have a free copy of my book.
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Author of " Fit: It's going to be an electronic copy, but anyone that's listening can download this and get started.
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Author of " Fit: I am adamant about helping women do anything they need to do to get moving.
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Author of " Fit: So you can get the book for free.
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Author of " Fit: Follow it, even though it's free, there's value there.
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Author of " Fit: And you're going to be able to walk away with not just inspiration, which I think is nice, but you walk away with a plan too.
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Author of " Fit: Which is probably, you know the gold.
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Author of " Fit: For anyone who is thinking about downloading it, you need to download it.
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Author of " Fit: This is an amazing book, a beautiful book.
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Author of " Fit: Well written.
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Author of " Fit: It was as if though you were sitting up there talking to me the whole time.
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Author of " Fit: It was very quick, easy, very concise.
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Author of " Fit: I loved it.
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Author of " Fit: Love the book.
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Author of " Fit: And I recommend any woman, every woman or man, read the book.
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Author of " Fit: It's great stories and awesome resource.
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Author of " Fit: Kelly, thank you so much for coming on the show I look forward to reading another book if there's one in the works.
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Author of " Fit: Oh, there's two in the works.
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Author of " Fit: What am I thinking I finished that book and I went, well, I don't have to do that again.
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Author of " Fit: And the next day I woke up and I went, oh, I have a couple ideas.
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Author of " Fit: Any future projects you're working on other than books?
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Author of " Fit: Other than books probably the project for this year, is to really like, within my group program, we have the Fit is Freedom course.
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Author of " Fit: And we're redoing the course.
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Author of " Fit: So that's a big piece.
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Author of " Fit: And then really the rest of this year, my big project is to simplify my life.
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Author of " Fit: So that I have more and more time to play and people would be like really Kelly how can you have more time to play?
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Author of " Fit: Because it's just it matters.
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Author of " Fit: So those are the big projects.
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Author of " Fit: Perfect.
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Author of " Fit: Thank you so much for coming on.
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Author of " Fit: I will include all your information in the show notes and the downloadable link for people to get a free copy of your book that everyone needs to own.
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Author of " Fit: Well thank you Carmen and Thank you.
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Author of " Fit: to everybody listening.
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Author of " Fit: I truly appreciate it.
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Author of " Fit: That wraps another invigorating episode of Create the Best Me.
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Author of " Fit: A huge thank you to Kelly Howard for joining us and sharing such invaluable insights and stories.
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Author of " Fit: Her passion for fitness and adventure is truly contagious.
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Author of " Fit: You can find all of Kelly's contact information on Links and downloadable copy of today's transcript at createthebestme.com/ep059.
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Author of " Fit: And also, don't forget to grab your free copy of her transformative book, Fit Active and Ageless for Life.
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Author of " Fit: And if you found today's episode inspiring, please subscribe to our show and share with your friends.
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Author of " Fit: Your support means the world to me.
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Author of " Fit: Join me next week as we explore effective communications and relationship buildings in midlife.
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Author of " Fit: A crucial topic for personal growth and strengthening our connections.
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Author of " Fit: Remember, midlife is not a phase.
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Author of " Fit: It's an opportunity to become the person you've always envisioned.
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Author of " Fit: Until then, keep dreaming big, take care of yourself, and remember, you are beautiful, strong, and capable of creating the best version of yourself.
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Author of " Fit: Thank you for watching.
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Author of " Fit: Catch you next week.
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Author of " Fit: Bye for now.