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Ep 21. " What the Hell Are Modern Woman?" · We Talk Back

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Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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Speaker 1: talked back. Thank you for tuning into a new episode
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Speaker 1: that we talked back. It's your girl a j And
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Speaker 1: it's Tam Bam, y'all, and we are excited to be
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Speaker 1: back another week to talk ship with you, niggers and bitches.
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Speaker 1: How was your weekend so far? Um? I'm excited to
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Speaker 1: watch the Mayweather fight tonight. By the time y'all hear
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Speaker 1: this Mayweather, we'll have either been beaten by Logan or
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Speaker 1: beaten Logan's ask. But I'm gonna go with the ladder.
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Speaker 1: Do you know that Mayweather gets fifty of pay per
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Speaker 1: view sales or Logan only gets ten? Damn? And I
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Speaker 1: think the white boy has uh two hundred fifty thousand
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Speaker 1: guaranteed and Mayweather five million guaranteed two hundred two. I
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Speaker 1: don't know who negotiated his contract, but he already lost
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Speaker 1: the fighters as far as I'm so maywere that I
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Speaker 1: here really beating people up for the check, right, But
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Speaker 1: no matter what happens, he already won exactly. But you know,
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Speaker 1: like we're talking about boxing, like you can win a
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Speaker 1: hundred fights, but that one fights you lose. Boy, you.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna never let you forget it like Lebron right now,
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Speaker 1: you know what. They need to leave Lebron the funk alone.
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Speaker 1: God damn, they can't stand to see somebody like you're
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Speaker 1: not gonna win them all. Like people can't stand to
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Speaker 1: see he's not the underdog for sure. But like when
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Speaker 1: you're on top, it's like people be waiting for you
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Speaker 1: to fall, Like, yes, that nigga foully lose. He's mediocre
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Speaker 1: like me. Yes, people literally don't be um satisfied until
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Speaker 1: you back where he at. He never right back what
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Speaker 1: they had. But you know he's on a losing team
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Speaker 1: right now, right shame. We still love you, Lebron. You
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Speaker 1: to go. Hell yeah, and look, i'd be telling people
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Speaker 1: Lebron James is my cousin because he got the same
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Speaker 1: last name, and like everything on my daddy side of
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Speaker 1: the family tallest. Hell, even the women be like six
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Speaker 1: one six. Your family just had the same slave owner.
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Speaker 1: That's all why the slave owner couldn't have been a
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Speaker 1: black man last same James. It's black. Yeah, it's a
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Speaker 1: non fact that black people's own slaves, for sure. But
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Speaker 1: speaking of slavery, oh, let's get into the today messed up,
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Speaker 1: you guys. I'm sorry that we're talking about slavery. Speaking
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Speaker 1: of slavery. Before we get into it today's topic, let's
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Speaker 1: um go to and ask a black friend for this week. Yea.
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Speaker 1: You know, I had um some criticism from one of
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Speaker 1: my friends saying that we're not going to get a
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Speaker 1: lot of questions from white people because we mean in
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Speaker 1: our responses to them. Really are we? I don't feel
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Speaker 1: I don't feel like we're me. We've only had a
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Speaker 1: couple we only we've only had a couple of people
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Speaker 1: submit questions that I remember. I believe out of the couple,
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Speaker 1: two of them were pretty much the same thing. How
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Speaker 1: do you deal with um, white guilt, white guilt, white guilt,
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Speaker 1: and you know, people saying that they don't have white privilege, Like,
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Speaker 1: how do you deal with having white privilege? That's not
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Speaker 1: something I can really answer for a white person. So
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Speaker 1: we've had probably just a few questions, maybe five or so.
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Speaker 1: I don't know how we could have been any now,
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Speaker 1: you sir. I don't think we were mean at all,
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Speaker 1: but mm hmmm, that's how they feel. Hey, look y'all
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Speaker 1: need to stop being stuff goddamn sensitive isn't that what um?
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Speaker 1: Narcissists usually people? You're too sensitive. I'm not working with
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Speaker 1: your head. You're just too sensitive. Al right. So today's
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Speaker 1: UM ask a black friend comes via email. The person
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Speaker 1: would like to remain anonymous, so we're not saying any
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Speaker 1: names or emails, all that good stuff. UM So here
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Speaker 1: it goes. It says, one of my black friends noticeably
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Speaker 1: uses the term cracker. We're referring to white people. It's
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Speaker 1: not super excessive, but enough to make me right until
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Speaker 1: we talk back. I have never challenged him about it,
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Speaker 1: but since I would never call him the N word,
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Speaker 1: I just wish she would refrain from using the term
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Speaker 1: because it may refer to me. Do you believe that
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Speaker 1: black people truly can't be racist? Is reverse racism a thing?
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Speaker 1: This is a good one, tim, m hm, this is
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Speaker 1: a great one. UM. I don't know if I believe
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Speaker 1: in reverse racism because I think of racism UM is
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Speaker 1: a way to oppress others. And I don't feel like
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Speaker 1: this person can oppress you or keep you from having
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Speaker 1: anything by calling you a cracker. It just probably just
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Speaker 1: hurt your feelings. Most most importantly, I don't know if
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Speaker 1: maybe it's a form of prejudice, not reverse racism for me,
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Speaker 1: but I mean, if that's your friend, just tell her
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Speaker 1: you don't like it. It's a guy, oh yeah, oh
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Speaker 1: well tell him you don't like it, Like Yo, stop
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Speaker 1: saying cracking around me, bro, exactly because the life person
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Speaker 1: was saying the N word a lot. You know, they
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Speaker 1: would get checked about it a lot once exactly, like
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Speaker 1: if they grew up in the hood, like who why
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Speaker 1: are you using the word nigga? Like right, So just
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Speaker 1: check them on it, Like if you don't like that
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Speaker 1: anything that anybody is doing that is especially your friend
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Speaker 1: or even not your friend, that you don't like in
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Speaker 1: your presence, it's sore to address it absolutely and again,
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Speaker 1: like what Tam was saying about, um, black people not
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Speaker 1: being able to be racist, I believe it is prejudice.
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Speaker 1: And I believe all groups of people have some type
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Speaker 1: of prejudice. Um beliefs um that could be coming from
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Speaker 1: real places, like you know, even with stereotypes, they come
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Speaker 1: from real places, right, So I believe I really do
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Speaker 1: love chicken and watermelon. I love that ship. It's not
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Speaker 1: a not a joke. I love that ship. This is
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Speaker 1: why the watermelon costs so much. Why is watermelon eight
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Speaker 1: dollars for a small wa watermelon that don't even have season?
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Speaker 1: Exactly y'all selling GM a watermelon for eight dollars. Let's
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Speaker 1: get back on track. The fuck literally was just in Walmart.
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Speaker 1: I do not want a seedless watermelon for eight dollars.
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Speaker 1: Who y'all playing with? I was trying to find me
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Speaker 1: a watermelon just so I could put mustard on it
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Speaker 1: like Lizo did over the weekend. What it tastes like? Yeah,
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Speaker 1: me too. There's a trend about putting mustard on your watermelon,
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Speaker 1: and I wanted to taste it to see what was
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Speaker 1: going on. And when I saw the price of watermelon,
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Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not paying that for that fake watermelon. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: you gotta go to a farmer's market. Yeah, but um yeah,
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Speaker 1: back to our ask a black friend, Like, black people
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Speaker 1: are not at this point, We are not in a
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Speaker 1: position to put laws and bills and things like that
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Speaker 1: in place to systemically oppress the white people. So really,
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Speaker 1: if we use the word cracker, it's literally us just
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Speaker 1: talking ship. We can't we we it has no merit
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Speaker 1: behind it because we can't do ship. We can't exactly,
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Speaker 1: we can't do anything we can't do anything to really
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Speaker 1: affect you're getting a job, getting housing, getting food, uh,
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Speaker 1: taking care of your family. We can't. So I understand
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Speaker 1: his sentiment absolutely, and yes he should address it like
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Speaker 1: you should not. If you feel uncomfortable, you know you
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Speaker 1: should address it. But in the South, a cracker usually
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Speaker 1: is a redneck for real, for real, you know what
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Speaker 1: I'm saying, which they can. They are damn their equivalent
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Speaker 1: to any nigger out the projects because they're just as ghetto,
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Speaker 1: because it's all a state of mine. Um. The way
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Speaker 1: they act, you know, the way they dress, the things
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Speaker 1: they do. The culture of a cracker is different from
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Speaker 1: a regular traditional white person as far as I'm concerned. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: so I don't feel like that. Sometimes I use the
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Speaker 1: term cracker when I'm talking about a cracker, though, you
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Speaker 1: know what, I'm saying that I got white friends like
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Speaker 1: they like to say, I got black friends. I wouldn't
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Speaker 1: call my white friends a cracker because they just aren't crackers, right,
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Speaker 1: I want to say, And that's a cracker ass cracker,
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Speaker 1: I don't just use one. I'm sorry, we are we
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Speaker 1: offending you. I apologize, and we probably should not talking
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Speaker 1: about you though we should probably apologize in advanced First
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Speaker 1: of all, yeah, but we listen, we're sorry for your friends.
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Speaker 1: You should talk to that person and tell them not
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Speaker 1: to say that in your presence because it makes you uncomfortable.
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Speaker 1: And you probably aren't a cracker because if you listen,
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Speaker 1: I don't feel like crackers listen to our show. But
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Speaker 1: if you do, please keep tuning in. You appreciate you. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: let's look at the historical term, the historical meaning of cracker, right,
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Speaker 1: you know, the government, it's probably made up of some
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Speaker 1: crackers because they stay whopping us right on our ends exactly.
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Speaker 1: So that's where the turn cracker even comes from in
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Speaker 1: the first place. So listen, it's not a salt team.
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Speaker 1: Check your friend. Check your friend. If that's really your friend,
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Speaker 1: they'll understand. But I really don't think that they're talking
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Speaker 1: to you personally. I know you may feel that way
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Speaker 1: because you might have some crackers in your family, m
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Speaker 1: but I promise it's no malice behind it, especially if
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Speaker 1: you consider this person a friend. So yeah, that's just
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Speaker 1: that on that. So the crazy part is we would
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Speaker 1: not give the same exact advice flipped. If the conversation
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Speaker 1: was flipped totally different exactly because they are in more
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Speaker 1: of a position to really affect what we do on
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Speaker 1: a day to day basis and how we live our
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Speaker 1: lives as a body of people. Like maybe that one
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Speaker 1: white person has no bearing on the black person's life,
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Speaker 1: you know, just between the two of them, but as
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Speaker 1: a body of people, y'all do. And that's why you
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Speaker 1: can't just be going around saying that in words. Right,
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Speaker 1: we'll fight and we'll fight you about it too. It's
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Speaker 1: probably not good. You know. Black people are really like
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Speaker 1: some uh, black people embody like a lot of empathy,
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Speaker 1: and that's how we that's why we're in a position
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Speaker 1: we are now because we just naturally like kind even
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Speaker 1: though we're really nasty to each other, we're naturally like kind.
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Speaker 1: So like that word could get your ass what before
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Speaker 1: anything else, right, because it comes from a place of
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Speaker 1: painness embedded in our spirits. Yeah, like nigga, excuse me
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Speaker 1: before you even though it and the most kindest, nicest
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Speaker 1: person that don't even bother anybody mussed around and beat
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Speaker 1: the dogs out of you. Hold on, before we get
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Speaker 1: into anything else, Let's pay some bills real quick. Let's
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Speaker 1: get into a topic today. It has nothing to do
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Speaker 1: with you know what, it really doesn't have anything to
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Speaker 1: do with slavery. But we are living in a different time, right,
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Speaker 1: So that's why I was talking. That's why I said,
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Speaker 1: speaking of slavery, but maybe hold on a little bit
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Speaker 1: and make it may have something to do with slavery
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Speaker 1: a little bit. We want to talk about this term
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Speaker 1: modern woman, um, as opposed to a traditional woman. There's
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Speaker 1: a lot of talk right now in the Black community
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Speaker 1: in regards to modern women. Are mordern women? Finish? Um,
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Speaker 1: ain't nobody fucking with modern women? What exactly is a
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Speaker 1: modern woman? Like? What are y'all nigg is talking about? Actually,
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Speaker 1: last week we had three really really really successful Black
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Speaker 1: women on one of them is engaged to be married.
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Speaker 1: I guess we would consider them modern women. You know,
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Speaker 1: they're able to finance their entire lives without a man.
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Speaker 1: So really a man is a necessity. How women have
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Speaker 1: always been a necessity to men, you know. So now
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Speaker 1: we're more in a position to have more of a voice. Uh,
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Speaker 1: we're making more money, we're getting more educated, um, and
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Speaker 1: now we're considered like this modern woman as if it's
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Speaker 1: a negative thing. I'd like to think of myself as
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Speaker 1: a like a hybrid kind of we do want to
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Speaker 1: maintain that independence, but I also still exactly and I
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Speaker 1: still want to be treated like a damn lady. I
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Speaker 1: still want to be treated like a woman. I still
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Speaker 1: want you to sit facing the door so you could
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Speaker 1: see who walking up behind me, like my nigga, like
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Speaker 1: that used to be your own guard. Argument Because I'm sitting,
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Speaker 1: I like to watch you coming in, right, But he's like,
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Speaker 1: you want to get up and fight first or what,
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Speaker 1: So sit here, okay, So going forward, I know that
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Speaker 1: my back is facing the door, so he could see
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Speaker 1: who coming in the door. So that's Those are just
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Speaker 1: some of the things. Um I've seen some ship on Clubhouse.
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Speaker 1: A bitch was arguing with a guy because he literally
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Speaker 1: broke up with her because he wanted to sleep. They
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Speaker 1: were out of town at a hotel and she wanted
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Speaker 1: to sleep on the side of the bed closest to
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Speaker 1: the door. And this is it just came up to
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Speaker 1: be like two things that are true at the same time.
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Speaker 1: So she was single but in a relationship with this guy,
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Speaker 1: but she had children, so she slept closest to the
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Speaker 1: door so that she could be basically on call for
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Speaker 1: her kids, right, but now and they're together in the
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Speaker 1: hotel and he was saying how he was telling her
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Speaker 1: to sleep on the other side. He's going to sleep
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Speaker 1: by the door for you know, because that's an innate
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Speaker 1: thing that some may have. Yeah, the protector right right,
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Speaker 1: And she argued him down about this. They broke up
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Speaker 1: over it. They broke up over and sleeping on the
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Speaker 1: side of the band. And who's patty though? Is the
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Speaker 1: woman patty or the guy the woman? Because based on
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Speaker 1: this term modern woman capable, she's incapable of being protected basically,
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Speaker 1: mm hmmm, basically, but at the rise of the modern woman.
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Speaker 1: Do we feel like it correlates with the decline of
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Speaker 1: marriage in our community? I'm looking here and it says
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Speaker 1: in two thousand nineteen only thirty percent of African Americans
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Speaker 1: were married, compared to forty eight percent of all Americans.
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Speaker 1: So do we think that in our community with us
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Speaker 1: to be more educated and having more money is ruining
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Speaker 1: are a black family unit even more? It's very well possible.
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Speaker 1: And you know a lot of women may not see
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Speaker 1: see it that way, but I believe it's very well
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Speaker 1: possible because you look at things that that have been
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Speaker 1: done to the black community to deter us from the
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Speaker 1: success that we know we are destined for. Right. So, um,
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Speaker 1: you know I told you all I was writing a
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Speaker 1: book before. So in the very first like the introduction
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Speaker 1: of my book, I talked about the history of black marriage.
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Speaker 1: So before nineteen sixty the majority of black people, and
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Speaker 1: I don't want to use the term African American. I'll
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Speaker 1: tell you about that in a minute. But before nineteen
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Speaker 1: sixty five, the majority of black people in America over
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Speaker 1: the age of thirty were married. We're more married, you know,
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Speaker 1: in comparison to the white to their white counterparts. But
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Speaker 1: something happened, like different things happened, like you had to
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Speaker 1: warn drugs, the civil rights movement, redline, all these different
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Speaker 1: things happened, and especially the War on drugs, right, um,
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Speaker 1: which caused a lot of black men to be incarcerated
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Speaker 1: for petty ship in comparison to black I mean sorry,
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Speaker 1: in comparison to white men. So it kind of ripped
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Speaker 1: apart the black family dynamics. Um, they took the men
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Speaker 1: and then they gave women. They gave black women, you know,
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Speaker 1: public house and government assistance. So now and then you
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Speaker 1: also can't have the black man in the home when
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Speaker 1: you're on public housing. Right, So it's like the government
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Speaker 1: is now your daddy, the government is now your husband.
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Speaker 1: Black men can't get a job, so then black men
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Speaker 1: can't take care of their families. And people are using
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Speaker 1: that now as if it's an excuse for some black men,
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Speaker 1: Like some black men are using that as an excuse
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Speaker 1: to not show up for their families. Um, but it's
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Speaker 1: really not an excuse. Like even an educated black woman,
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Speaker 1: you and that black man could possibly have the same degree.
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Speaker 1: I feel that the black woman could possibly get that
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Speaker 1: job before the black man would. So they're intentionally and
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Speaker 1: it's still a form of white supremacy there somewhearing their
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Speaker 1: hidden right that's still turning us against each other. Right,
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Speaker 1: because it also says, uh, in two thousand nineteen, just
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Speaker 1: under half or forty eight percent of black women have
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Speaker 1: never been married. Forty eight percent of us have never
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Speaker 1: been married, and that's up from forty four percent in
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Speaker 1: two thousand and eight and up from it's two thousand
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Speaker 1: and five. So the number of us not getting married
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Speaker 1: married is just going up and up and up. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: because I remember at my high school, Sorry, what were
17:40
Speaker 1: you gonna say? Tom? But then the money we're making
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Speaker 1: is going up and up and up. Two. Yeah, but
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Speaker 1: what do we want a husband our money? Right? That's
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Speaker 1: why I said I'm a hybrid, Like I want both,
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Speaker 1: Like I want a man who's not that insecure to
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Speaker 1: not give a ship about this money, because guess what,
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Speaker 1: I'm giving it to you. I'm gonna give you the
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Speaker 1: money like I'm not. First of all, I'm not messing
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Speaker 1: with somebody who is mentally broke. There's a difference. There's
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Speaker 1: a difference between a man who's you know, living paycheck
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Speaker 1: to paycheck like a lot of people do, and then
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Speaker 1: just somebody who's out here not trying. If you are
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Speaker 1: mentally broke, I can't funk with you. That has nothing
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Speaker 1: to do with how much money you have in the
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Speaker 1: bank account. That just has That has everything to do
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Speaker 1: with you know, what you want out of life? No ambition,
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Speaker 1: no goals, no nothing that's different. So should if I
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Speaker 1: get to the bag first here, because I know you'll
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Speaker 1: multiply the same way. If a man gives a educated
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Speaker 1: woman something, she's gonna double it. Right, You give her
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Speaker 1: a home, she give her a house, she make it
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Speaker 1: her home. Yes, So I would give him the bag
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Speaker 1: if I got to it first, I wouldn't be that
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Speaker 1: concerned about And I'm not messing with somebody who has
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Speaker 1: nothing now, because here's my question for men. Oftentimes, do
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Speaker 1: y'all funk with broke niggas? Yeah? Do they? Well, they
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Speaker 1: go into business with a broken nigga, Well, they go
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Speaker 1: into business with somebody who because the marriage is a business,
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Speaker 1: what you're going to somebody that does not have the
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Speaker 1: proper business plan? No, that doesn't have the proper um
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Speaker 1: financial standing, that does not have any history of being
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Speaker 1: successful at any fucking thing. No, So why are y'all
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Speaker 1: expecting that out of women? It's the same thing. Men
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Speaker 1: love men with money too. What is the problem? Right, bigimie,
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Speaker 1: big dog, big brow in this guy? What are you
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Speaker 1: talking about? So? Yeah, y'all want men with money too,
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Speaker 1: So what's the problem like? And it doesn't necessarily like
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Speaker 1: the man doesn't necessarily have to have the money today,
19:55
Speaker 1: but you have to always be working towards it. I
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Speaker 1: feel that, Um, if you are with a woman who
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Speaker 1: is not at least worthy of you aspiring to one
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Speaker 1: day take care of your complete family, then leave her.
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Speaker 1: Leave her today if she's not worth it. That's the
20:12
Speaker 1: bottom line exactly, leave, get up right now and going
20:16
Speaker 1: there and be like, hey, Kea, just say working, I'm
20:19
Speaker 1: about to go and walk out that motherfucker. Yeah, leave
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Speaker 1: her if she ain't worthy. Are y'all nigg is waiting
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Speaker 1: for your sons to grow up to take care of
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Speaker 1: a mama? Is that what y'are waiting for? Because I
20:29
Speaker 1: know half these men were raised by single black women right,
20:32
Speaker 1: never saw a man take care of their mom. So
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Speaker 1: they their whole lives, they've they've been striving to get
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Speaker 1: to a certain point so that they can take care
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Speaker 1: of their mama because they never saw a man do it. Right,
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Speaker 1: Are you saying that you are making the woman that's
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Speaker 1: in your life wait for her son to then get
20:50
Speaker 1: older to take care of her, Because that's what it
20:52
Speaker 1: sounds like to me. It's a it's a hamster wheel.
20:56
Speaker 1: It's just over and over and over again, same, over
20:59
Speaker 1: and over and over again. What can we do about it? Though?
21:02
Speaker 1: How can we create a paradigm shift that will we
21:07
Speaker 1: can have equality or send my equality in our relationship
21:11
Speaker 1: and still get married and be happy with one another?
21:14
Speaker 1: What the fund can we do? That's the question? What
21:19
Speaker 1: can we do? What can we do um. I think
21:24
Speaker 1: are we better off when we were in the kitchen?
21:29
Speaker 1: So here's the thing home. What with the pandemic, it
21:32
Speaker 1: forced a lot of people to be at home. It
21:34
Speaker 1: forced a lot of people to teach their children. It
21:36
Speaker 1: forced a lot of people to be more tentative to
21:40
Speaker 1: their household, right, and it forced people to see who
21:42
Speaker 1: they're actually married to, and who they are actually in
21:44
Speaker 1: relationships with, and who the funk they are themselves. So
21:49
Speaker 1: a lot of people, from a lot of people I know,
21:51
Speaker 1: didn't a lot of children to go back to school.
21:53
Speaker 1: They're better off being home schooled. Like I think children
21:56
Speaker 1: need to go to school more so for like the
21:58
Speaker 1: social aspect of it, right, proper secialization. Yes, But as
22:03
Speaker 1: far as the teaching, I feel like parents should be
22:06
Speaker 1: responsible for the curriculum that the children are getting, not
22:10
Speaker 1: some fifty old, sixty ye old white woman at the schoolhouse.
22:14
Speaker 1: You don't know what they're teaching your kids. You know what.
22:17
Speaker 1: I don't mind a fifties sixty year old white woman
22:19
Speaker 1: teaching their kids, but I just feel like the parents
22:21
Speaker 1: need to also teach their children the things that they
22:24
Speaker 1: is not solely the response exactly of the teacher to
22:28
Speaker 1: to rear these kids. It's our responsibility, especially the things
22:33
Speaker 1: that apply to our culture and things like that that
22:36
Speaker 1: they're not receiving in school. We have to give it
22:37
Speaker 1: to them ourselves. I remember I used to make my
22:41
Speaker 1: ex boyfriend's daughter, like six daughters sit down and watch
22:45
Speaker 1: different documentaries and watch like Black Girls Rock and write
22:49
Speaker 1: a report on it. And they were really little, so,
22:53
Speaker 1: I mean, the reports wasn't going to be like but
22:56
Speaker 1: I would make them do it, and I would have
22:58
Speaker 1: to pay them though that would have to like the
23:00
Speaker 1: reward would be like money. But that was okay for
23:05
Speaker 1: me because I knew some of that information. They would
23:08
Speaker 1: eventually start to retain it. Yeah, yeah, even though they
23:12
Speaker 1: were just doing it for the money. So you know.
23:16
Speaker 1: So that's why I said I'm a hybrid, Like I
23:18
Speaker 1: definitely believe that I should be teaching my children. I
23:21
Speaker 1: believe I should be breastfeeding. I really wan't like when
23:23
Speaker 1: I have a child, I would like to make their
23:26
Speaker 1: food preservatives and you know, not feeding the bullshoot at
23:29
Speaker 1: the store. I believe the woman is responsible for the
23:32
Speaker 1: nourishment of the family. I have a lot of traditional
23:37
Speaker 1: values values, but at the same time, I do not
23:40
Speaker 1: want to be in a situation where the man isn't
23:42
Speaker 1: respecting me. So men, it has to come with I
23:46
Speaker 1: think that's what the and that's the hard part actually
23:50
Speaker 1: a j because sometimes I remember, like so both of
23:54
Speaker 1: us have like seven values and we're traditional in those
23:57
Speaker 1: types of ways. Because yeah, and I take place to
24:01
Speaker 1: the table. I love it. I love That's one of
24:03
Speaker 1: the things that make me happy. Like I'll literally make
24:06
Speaker 1: a good meal and I'll stand there after I hang
24:08
Speaker 1: your player, I want you to tell me and tastes good.
24:10
Speaker 1: Like that's one of the things that make me happy
24:12
Speaker 1: outside of family and money and ship like that. Yeah,
24:15
Speaker 1: being a nurturer to man and eight my boyfriend, my ex,
24:21
Speaker 1: we'll get to the point where on Sundays he'll be
24:23
Speaker 1: watching football all day. That was his thing. That's cool whatever,
24:28
Speaker 1: But he will hold his beer bottle in the air
24:30
Speaker 1: and be like bag and just hold the beer bottle
24:33
Speaker 1: in the air. And they spent me to come get
24:35
Speaker 1: it and replenish it and take the old one to
24:37
Speaker 1: the trash. And that ship used to piss me off
24:39
Speaker 1: because he started to treat me like a servant. Mh,
24:44
Speaker 1: Like he don't even ask no more, were you working
24:47
Speaker 1: at the time, Yeah, I was working. And see that's
24:50
Speaker 1: the thing. Now let this, let me break this down
24:52
Speaker 1: for for you guys, and why what's the problem you
24:55
Speaker 1: have with modern women? Here's the thing. You want to
25:00
Speaker 1: them in to go to work for someone else, and
25:05
Speaker 1: then you want her to come to come home, work
25:08
Speaker 1: for you, work for the children, work for the house
25:12
Speaker 1: as a whole, and suck dick on demand, all while
25:17
Speaker 1: you just maybe cut grass and then you go out
25:21
Speaker 1: to your job and work for the white man. Or
25:23
Speaker 1: if you want to run a business like that's all
25:26
Speaker 1: you have, that's all you're responsible for, and I'm responsible
25:30
Speaker 1: for everything else. If I got to be the homemaker
25:33
Speaker 1: and also work, I feel like the homemaker responsibility should
25:37
Speaker 1: be split between us and I'll and I'll do the
25:40
Speaker 1: brunt of it. But don't hold your fucking beer bottle
25:43
Speaker 1: in the sky to shake it in the air and
25:46
Speaker 1: call my name like I'm so fucking made girl. You
25:50
Speaker 1: see like you need some therapy about that trump there. Yes,
25:54
Speaker 1: I almost took one of them bottles and cracking over
25:57
Speaker 1: his boyfucker head babe shaking the glass in the sky. Girl,
26:04
Speaker 1: I want to karate kick that shut of his that
26:13
Speaker 1: was That was my fault because I got him so spoiled,
26:16
Speaker 1: which just you know, just doing everything in that capacity
26:20
Speaker 1: for him where he just got to the point where
26:22
Speaker 1: he just felt like he could just scratch his nuts
26:24
Speaker 1: on the couch, nuts on the couch and hold the
26:27
Speaker 1: bottom there. That's why I fixed the fixed the fixes respect.
26:33
Speaker 1: Black women and black women need to equally have respect
26:39
Speaker 1: for one another, and that'll fix everything. We don't respect
26:43
Speaker 1: each other, how it is easy to respect. Listen to
26:47
Speaker 1: the music that these children all right, First of all,
26:49
Speaker 1: we had the kids are the future, right, Um, so
26:53
Speaker 1: are we the music that we're they're feeding them? Are
26:56
Speaker 1: we teaching them to respect each other? Hell no, But
27:00
Speaker 1: there's nothing in our music that is aligned with us
27:02
Speaker 1: respecting each other as a unit. But that starts with
27:06
Speaker 1: us as black women. You know, did you know that
27:08
Speaker 1: black women are the number one is consumed, number one
27:10
Speaker 1: consumers of music. We are the ones spending money aside
27:14
Speaker 1: from white people, We're the ones spending money on this music.
27:18
Speaker 1: We get all of TikTok videos going on, these nigga songs,
27:22
Speaker 1: all of ship. So one may say that a nation
27:26
Speaker 1: is only as strong as the women. So we're allowing
27:29
Speaker 1: this ship. We set the standards and we're not working
27:32
Speaker 1: with the music. Niggas is not making money off this bullshit.
27:35
Speaker 1: No more Future cannot have a new album come out
27:37
Speaker 1: telling people to go Papa Molly and all this bullshit,
27:40
Speaker 1: which I feel like he's changed a little bit. But yeah,
27:43
Speaker 1: we we shouldn't allow that ship our community. That's up
27:46
Speaker 1: to us, right, But it's so conflicted in my soul
27:49
Speaker 1: because I enjoy it. Yeah, I mean too. But the
27:52
Speaker 1: thing is is that we're adults, right, We have the
27:55
Speaker 1: we we have the amount the brain power to differentiate
27:58
Speaker 1: between real and what's entertainment. You see what I'm saying.
28:02
Speaker 1: These kids don't, so when they're in the car, like
28:04
Speaker 1: little Dirk brother just got murdered, right, Yeah, so the
28:09
Speaker 1: men that probably murdered her and were on drugs hopping
28:13
Speaker 1: in the car listening to some fucking rap music on
28:16
Speaker 1: the way to commit a fucking vicious ass crime, like
28:22
Speaker 1: they shot him in the head and he died on impact. Like,
28:26
Speaker 1: we have to be careful of the things that we
28:29
Speaker 1: listen to, the thoughts that we have because it's really programming.
28:35
Speaker 1: That could be a whole another topic for a whole
28:36
Speaker 1: another day. Is rap music detrimental to the Black community,
28:39
Speaker 1: and it's it absolutely is. You know, we actually fought
28:42
Speaker 1: for this in legislation, like freedom of speech and all
28:45
Speaker 1: that ship to be able to talk this crazy and
28:48
Speaker 1: fucking music. Like people don't realize, like black people. You
28:53
Speaker 1: see how we start moving when music starts playing, and
28:55
Speaker 1: how we moved to the beat. And you know, it's
28:58
Speaker 1: funny how when white people moved they can't get rhythm.
29:00
Speaker 1: Is certain type of white people that can. It's a
29:03
Speaker 1: real thing with vibration. I even think about, like with
29:06
Speaker 1: the radio stations and how most black stations are on
29:09
Speaker 1: like a nine to like a thousand and one frequency.
29:13
Speaker 1: It could be a reason that they put our stations
29:16
Speaker 1: are our radio. Black black stations and black music are
29:19
Speaker 1: certain radio frequencies because those frequencies really feed your your ship,
29:25
Speaker 1: your body. So if you're listening to all this crazy
29:30
Speaker 1: ass talk on a certain frequency, it really can affect
29:34
Speaker 1: you mentally. And if you're a young impressionable adult, young
29:38
Speaker 1: impressionable child, how do you different? And then you're living
29:43
Speaker 1: in the hood, you know what I'm saying, living amongst
29:46
Speaker 1: this stuff, you don't even know that there's a way out.
29:48
Speaker 1: You don't even know that there's a possibility that you,
29:50
Speaker 1: like you can change the trajectory, that you can change
29:53
Speaker 1: the trajectory of your life. But this is all your
29:57
Speaker 1: surrounded by, it's responsibility. So if there's going to be
30:02
Speaker 1: some change, unfortunately, it really lies heavily on women. It
30:07
Speaker 1: definitely lies on man men too, because it's just too
30:11
Speaker 1: easy for men to now leave their homes. It's still
30:14
Speaker 1: easy for you to have a baby and then not
30:16
Speaker 1: take care of that kid. And I don't know if
30:18
Speaker 1: that's stemming from slavery too, because they you know, they
30:20
Speaker 1: really was just literally breeding us, moving people from plantation
30:24
Speaker 1: and plantation, so you had no choice but to leave
30:26
Speaker 1: your family. So now it's like we are voluntarily splitting up,
30:31
Speaker 1: voluntarily leaving your children, acting like they don't even exist,
30:34
Speaker 1: like that's something we can't help. Black men gotta change
30:37
Speaker 1: that bullshit. But for the most part, black men are
30:40
Speaker 1: with black women, black women are Black women are with
30:42
Speaker 1: black men. As far as people not taking care of
30:45
Speaker 1: their responsibilities, I feel like more black men need to
30:49
Speaker 1: talk to more Black men who are doing well and
30:52
Speaker 1: doing right by their community and by their families need
30:55
Speaker 1: to then go out and have conferences, have brunches, have
31:00
Speaker 1: hunches like black women do to congregate and communicate and
31:03
Speaker 1: talk about all our issues. But I think they do
31:06
Speaker 1: do that a j what like maybe fraternities they do
31:10
Speaker 1: it a lot. But I mean, the average black man
31:13
Speaker 1: is not even telling his friends what he's going through. Yeah,
31:16
Speaker 1: you're right about and not talking to people about their problems.
31:19
Speaker 1: And you know what else, I feel like black men
31:21
Speaker 1: should start doing more. They should start taking care of
31:25
Speaker 1: each other as far as the health is concern. Like
31:27
Speaker 1: these niggas will see the nigga killing themselves and be
31:31
Speaker 1: like he grown. There's a grown man, Like especially once
31:35
Speaker 1: you start getting closer to forty, Like you see that
31:39
Speaker 1: your friend is unhealthy, and you don't say anything about him,
31:42
Speaker 1: how he's eating, how he drinking. He needs to go
31:44
Speaker 1: to the doctor and go see a doctor, bro, Like
31:47
Speaker 1: you're not doing enough. And then y'all dying and wearing
31:50
Speaker 1: a T shirt with a nigga face on it and
31:52
Speaker 1: he was right there and never said nothing to him
31:54
Speaker 1: about his health. Yeah, black men just don't talk enough.
31:58
Speaker 1: So that's what I would like that. I think that's
32:00
Speaker 1: another way to combat what's going on in the black community.
32:03
Speaker 1: Black men need to talk to each other more y'all
32:05
Speaker 1: writing books telling women how to think like a man
32:08
Speaker 1: and act like a woman, Like, what the funk? Why
32:10
Speaker 1: don't y'all tell niggas how to be men first, and
32:13
Speaker 1: make sure your homeboy isn't sucking up in love, life
32:15
Speaker 1: and business. Check him, check him, check on him. Talk
32:19
Speaker 1: to each other, congregate. Tell you, tell your friends you
32:22
Speaker 1: know what's going on with you? What you got a
32:23
Speaker 1: problem with Black men just be having so much pride
32:27
Speaker 1: when they all got shipped. Sometimes you don't got ship
32:29
Speaker 1: and you got and you got a side ego come
32:32
Speaker 1: before the fall or some ship like that, like that
32:39
Speaker 1: ego cometh before the fall. Yeah, yeah, it's the ego, man,
32:44
Speaker 1: you gotta I don't have ego when it comes to
32:47
Speaker 1: the people I love. I try. I strive not to
32:50
Speaker 1: let my ego get the best of me. I feel
32:52
Speaker 1: like in order to be successful, you do have to
32:54
Speaker 1: have some ego. Ego. You have to have a little
32:58
Speaker 1: bit of narcissum as well, narcissism. Narcissism, you have to
33:03
Speaker 1: have a little bit of narcissism, a little bit of
33:05
Speaker 1: ego to get through this goddamn life, and a lot
33:08
Speaker 1: of humility though, yes, absolutely so those I don't know.
33:13
Speaker 1: This is a great conversation though. We don't want me
33:15
Speaker 1: a husband though, and I just feel like my mouth
33:18
Speaker 1: is gonna hinder me sometimes. I don't think so, because
33:21
Speaker 1: you've told me some stories and I'd be like, that's
33:23
Speaker 1: all you're saying, did you like, in comparison to me,
33:29
Speaker 1: that's all you said that I would have said this,
33:31
Speaker 1: I maybe like in comparison to you, but in comparison
33:34
Speaker 1: to people with husbands, we both talked too much. My
33:41
Speaker 1: nigga skin gotta be this thick. My skin thick. You
33:48
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, I feel like not mine?
33:51
Speaker 1: You ready to cry? I'd be like, that's why they
33:54
Speaker 1: ain't even your baby. I mean, he'd be like, that's
33:57
Speaker 1: not your hair. How could you say that? Look, if
34:02
Speaker 1: nigga want to win an argument with me, I don't care.
34:05
Speaker 1: If I got a million dollars in the bank you
34:07
Speaker 1: called me fat, you win. As soon as you call
34:13
Speaker 1: me fat, you fucking wind And I might hate you this.
34:25
Speaker 1: I don't be trying to go there with niggas. I
34:27
Speaker 1: already learned my lesson about putting my hands on men
34:30
Speaker 1: because I used to be a domestic violent, domestically violent woman.
34:35
Speaker 1: But I had one nigga, get me together. You got
34:37
Speaker 1: me right on together your life. As I slid down
34:41
Speaker 1: the wall, I was like, you know what, it was
34:43
Speaker 1: like a cartoon character, you know when they hit the
34:45
Speaker 1: wall hardness, slide down. That's how I felt like. I
34:48
Speaker 1: was cooling down that wall, and I was like, you
34:49
Speaker 1: know what, I really should keep my hands to myself.
34:53
Speaker 1: Then I didn't hit nobody, since exactly nigga saved your life.
34:55
Speaker 1: You hit the wrong man, right, Modern women, I hope
35:02
Speaker 1: you all not here beating niggas out right. Keep your
35:04
Speaker 1: hands to yourself. Modern women and don't always been well
35:08
Speaker 1: for you. Right, So I'm a hybrid. I'm traditional and
35:13
Speaker 1: I'm modern at the same time. Can you can we
35:17
Speaker 1: be that? Yes? I believe you can be that. Like
35:20
Speaker 1: you know, um one of the ladies from last week,
35:23
Speaker 1: she was saying, like the husband, he'd have to be
35:25
Speaker 1: okay with outsourcing, like outsourcing the meals and stuff like that,
35:29
Speaker 1: like when you got a certain type of certain type
35:32
Speaker 1: of money, like we can get somebody to clean the house,
35:34
Speaker 1: we could get somebody to make food. But I definitely
35:39
Speaker 1: want to be in a loving relationship with a man.
35:42
Speaker 1: Like people say marriage don't have nothing to do with love,
35:45
Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? I guess they may be thinking
35:49
Speaker 1: about like how people have arranged marriages, which even then
35:52
Speaker 1: they grow to love the person they're with. It has
35:55
Speaker 1: to be a certain level of of um love and
35:59
Speaker 1: respect in a union, or my Funcker's would just be
36:02
Speaker 1: killing each other. That they'll just be killing each other
36:06
Speaker 1: ship not as much as they don't kill each other.
36:13
Speaker 1: Will get their asks and mirked right quick. Quite woman,
36:16
Speaker 1: But we ain't just out here killing men. Within the
36:18
Speaker 1: last couple of years, I know at least three women
36:21
Speaker 1: who have been murdered or at least like shot up
36:24
Speaker 1: by a man that was supposed to love him. Yes,
36:28
Speaker 1: but they just wanted to possess them. I guess that's
36:30
Speaker 1: another thing with me, Like I'm not trying to possess anybody.
36:33
Speaker 1: I want to exist and I want to experience people.
36:36
Speaker 1: I don't want to possess anybody to I feel like
36:39
Speaker 1: you belong to me, Yeah, like you're a thing. And
36:41
Speaker 1: I feel like some men they see women as things.
36:45
Speaker 1: Like I said, it's an asset to what they already
36:47
Speaker 1: have going on in their lives. So if you have
36:50
Speaker 1: a man who is a provider, when he brings a
36:52
Speaker 1: woman on, it's more like, because I want that woman.
36:56
Speaker 1: I want her. I'm not bringing her into my situation
36:59
Speaker 1: because I needed her to pay half the bills. Is
37:01
Speaker 1: because I want her hair, So I'm gonna make sure
37:04
Speaker 1: I finance her whole life. Like you've got these broadcast
37:08
Speaker 1: niggas out here. Sorry, y'all get sicket a little bit
37:11
Speaker 1: before we're in this discussion. You know, you gotta add
37:14
Speaker 1: that in there. They want to talk about not caring
37:19
Speaker 1: about a woman's degrees, not caring about how much a
37:22
Speaker 1: woman makes. Half y'all men half to half the men
37:25
Speaker 1: in the black community on child support. You definitely care
37:29
Speaker 1: about how much woman, how much money the woman that
37:31
Speaker 1: you're worth is making. A lot of them need help,
37:35
Speaker 1: just like black women need help. The problem is that
37:37
Speaker 1: black men and black women are all we're all in
37:40
Speaker 1: their trenches in America. We don't come from families out
37:43
Speaker 1: you know, super affluent families, you know, um generations and
37:48
Speaker 1: generations of money. We don't come from that. But if
37:51
Speaker 1: we expect to build generational wealth in the United States,
37:55
Speaker 1: we gotta work together. That's just it. That's the only
37:58
Speaker 1: way we gotta work to. Are we going to I'm
38:02
Speaker 1: going to, I'm violent, I'm going to. I want to.
38:05
Speaker 1: But as a community, I was on the Shade room yesterday,
38:10
Speaker 1: and did you see those kids in Chicago on top
38:13
Speaker 1: of the police cards working and the police trying to drive,
38:17
Speaker 1: and they just it's kids. It's kids being raised secondhand
38:22
Speaker 1: embarrassment watching that, yes, as kids being raised by the unraised.
38:27
Speaker 1: So grandmas are like our age now in their thirties
38:31
Speaker 1: because they had their kids at fifteen. It's just it's
38:35
Speaker 1: just messy out here, man. And um, there's black people
38:40
Speaker 1: and then there's niggas. There's people, and there's I love
38:45
Speaker 1: all of us because I mean, not just to laugh
38:50
Speaker 1: at them, but everybody is necessary. You have that like
38:54
Speaker 1: like Charlemagne always saying you have to have the righteous
38:58
Speaker 1: and the ratchet, like it has to go together in
39:01
Speaker 1: that way. And I still feel like I'm a hybrid
39:04
Speaker 1: of that. Look at this fucking show, like we two
39:07
Speaker 1: educated women, we'll be talking all crazy like we it's
39:10
Speaker 1: either we could be either one way or the other
39:13
Speaker 1: and both spontaneously exactly exactly. And it's fun. The fun
39:21
Speaker 1: because I can go listen you can take me everywhere
39:24
Speaker 1: from the trap house to the White House, and I'll
39:25
Speaker 1: be able to conduct my exactly. And it's a whole skill.
39:31
Speaker 1: It's a whole skill. So look, before we move on
39:34
Speaker 1: to the next segment, let's have a word from our sponsors. Yeah,
39:42
Speaker 1: so we talked back and just I'll talk about these niggas. Man.
39:45
Speaker 1: I I firmly agree that the funds of the responsibility
39:52
Speaker 1: it kind of lies on the black woman. Man. We
39:54
Speaker 1: set the standards. We set the standards for the world.
39:57
Speaker 1: We set the beauty standard at this point, now we
40:00
Speaker 1: set the standard for these men. Stop sucking. But here's
40:04
Speaker 1: the thing, all right, it's my and that not a
40:08
Speaker 1: change everything if women stopped. But you know that's not
40:10
Speaker 1: gonna I'm trying to fun. After we hang up, it's
40:17
Speaker 1: her birthday. Sex I had sexident. Oh y'all, y'all go
40:21
Speaker 1: to a J's page and wish her happy birthday. It's
40:25
Speaker 1: her birthday, she's turned it's plus a few thirty something.
40:33
Speaker 1: I'm all right. So the music I kind of do,
40:37
Speaker 1: not the lyrics that just feel the beat. At this
40:39
Speaker 1: point I don't even like because some of the words
40:41
Speaker 1: are just kind of just so you listen to the
40:44
Speaker 1: rap music and you can hear the words and it's like, oh,
40:47
Speaker 1: this is so degrading to my soul and spirit. However,
40:50
Speaker 1: the drums and the rhythm makes me want to dance.
40:58
Speaker 1: I usually listen to that ship when I'm on a
41:00
Speaker 1: long trip, where really I listen to R B R
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Speaker 1: B R B. I listen to UM, R and B
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Speaker 1: when I'm driving now in the gym, straight trap, shit,
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Speaker 1: little baby, dub baby future, everybody, everybody, I'm listening to
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Speaker 1: that ship. But um, but we live in a society
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Speaker 1: right now where is pay to play. That's what these
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Speaker 1: girls are like. I don't know. Young girls are like
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Speaker 1: just it's money for pussy and that's that's it. Okay,
41:36
Speaker 1: But listen, if the man don't have the money, you're
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Speaker 1: not giving out the pussy. Imagine when we were growing up,
41:41
Speaker 1: bitches just just fucking, just fucking for what reason. Don't
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Speaker 1: you think these girls probably having less sex than us.
41:47
Speaker 1: I don't know, forty dollars, it's a lot of forty
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Speaker 1: dollars out here. Listen, these girls are in high school
41:57
Speaker 1: with Gucci bags and Louis bags. I don't know the
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Speaker 1: parents buying it or the fucking nigga's body. I don't
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Speaker 1: know who purchasing it, but I feel like they are
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Speaker 1: very high meetenings. Okay, I don't feel like they're busting
42:08
Speaker 1: it wide open just because maybe I could be wrong.
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I believe these I look on Instagram
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Speaker 1: and I don't know. I believe they are just because
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Speaker 1: I feel like men feel like you owed them sex
42:20
Speaker 1: faster than when we were young. No niggas be three
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Speaker 1: days and then one day they could be like ready
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Speaker 1: to get some pussy. And you had that happening here recently. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: like what, I didn't even bring my pussy. I don't
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Speaker 1: bring my pussy this early, leaving at home exactly a
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Speaker 1: matter of fact, I ran out of pussy, got it.
42:47
Speaker 1: I had a guy that I was talking to and
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Speaker 1: we just weren't equally yoked, I'll say that. And he
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Speaker 1: said he had sent me some money. I was in
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Speaker 1: another city and I was told I was about to
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Speaker 1: go shopping. So he's at me some money, right, He
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Speaker 1: sent me a text message asking me for that money
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Speaker 1: back because I ain't never sleep with him. What when
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Speaker 1: did he asks for it back in the text? Months later?
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Speaker 1: Oh that's some bullshit, that's your money at this point.
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Speaker 1: So basically, you're asking me to borrow some money and
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Speaker 1: get out of my face. I'm not for sale for one.
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Speaker 1: If you do anything for me, doing out the goodness
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Speaker 1: of your heart, okay, because that's how I operate. I
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Speaker 1: do things out of the goodness of my heart. And
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Speaker 1: I didn't like I've I offered to do nice things
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Speaker 1: for him too. It wasn't like he just I was
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Speaker 1: just a taker and he wasn't you know. Yeah, man,
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Speaker 1: I didn't give it real gold Digg is tricked first.
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Speaker 1: I buy you a little trinket, and I just seen
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Speaker 1: him a bunch of laughing faces and said, no, no,
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Speaker 1: I'm not sending you nothing back that money but spent
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Speaker 1: when I was in New York out of here, Shane.
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Speaker 1: Am I wrong for that? No? Hell no. I wouldn't
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Speaker 1: never sent him no money back. You sent me that
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Speaker 1: money as a gift, funk, I look like sending it
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Speaker 1: back two months later? The hell that's because so if
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Speaker 1: you had slept with him, you wouldn't been able to
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Speaker 1: get your pussy back, right. That's why you just gotta
44:23
Speaker 1: keep your rejoinal to yourself. Yeah, man, we need to
44:26
Speaker 1: stop working as much man, and I bet you, I
44:29
Speaker 1: bet you everything. That's that's like the movie shy Town.
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Speaker 1: That's and that actually is based off of true true events.
44:34
Speaker 1: You know, when all the women stopped having sex shy Town,
44:38
Speaker 1: shy rack, sorry Shyra. Yeah, the movie sh Iraq. It
44:43
Speaker 1: was like the women's started sustaining from sex to fix
44:47
Speaker 1: the community, to stop all the violence and ship Like
44:49
Speaker 1: that's a real I really feel like that maybe we
44:52
Speaker 1: could do that again. How could we do that? What
44:54
Speaker 1: will we call the movement? We just I mean, we're
44:56
Speaker 1: just gonna have to beat some bitches up though, because
44:58
Speaker 1: they're just gonna want to stow smash these ning is
45:00
Speaker 1: on the low, Like if everybody just stopped working for
45:02
Speaker 1: a little while and of the enforced men to step
45:05
Speaker 1: it up. You cannot get no pussy if you don't
45:08
Speaker 1: have a headboard on your bed, if you don't have
45:11
Speaker 1: nice pillows on your bed, if you have a comforter,
45:13
Speaker 1: if you don't have a bad set, if you don't
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Speaker 1: have a car, if you don't have a job or
45:16
Speaker 1: something form of income, you can't get a pussy. That's
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Speaker 1: your sin. You shouldn't be able to. I don't even
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Speaker 1: think you should be really focusing on pussy if you
45:25
Speaker 1: don't have a headboard yet. So the headboard. You can
45:28
Speaker 1: get a headboard on Wayfair for like a hundred fifty dollars.
45:31
Speaker 1: They got headboard. Girl. I had this nigga one time,
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Speaker 1: went to his house, went upstairs, blow up, mattress, went
45:38
Speaker 1: back downstairs, right, Mattress, And I explained in this bouncy house,
45:46
Speaker 1: I told him why he couldn't get this pussy. A
45:51
Speaker 1: couple of months later, I get a fucking picture message.
45:54
Speaker 1: He got a nice little bad set. He wanted me
45:57
Speaker 1: to see that he got a bad set. I great
46:00
Speaker 1: life exactly. We gotta be honest with these dudes. Man, No,
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Speaker 1: this isn't this, ain't it. I'm pretty sure somebody allowed
46:07
Speaker 1: you to fund them on this block, Mattress, But I
46:09
Speaker 1: can swer it is. Your house being renovated is something
46:12
Speaker 1: while you're on there? What? What's what's going on? But
46:15
Speaker 1: you are a single man living alone with a blowout Mattress. No,
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Speaker 1: how does your back even feel? Okay? Right? A lor
46:26
Speaker 1: So we gotta go into our next segment, which is
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Speaker 1: random sex facts and love is six. Yes, what are
46:36
Speaker 1: we talking about? All right? So today's random sex fact
46:40
Speaker 1: and it's really not random. It closely aligns with what
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Speaker 1: today's topic was. It says love makes for better sex.
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Speaker 1: A recent study presented at the annual meeting of the
46:51
Speaker 1: American Sociological Association found that the most mind blowing sex
46:58
Speaker 1: comes with being in love with your partner. And it's true.
47:03
Speaker 1: It is true because you will have said, let's say
47:08
Speaker 1: your man has he's not very well in doubt, but
47:11
Speaker 1: you in love with him. That little dick be hitting good.
47:14
Speaker 1: He's like that little dick. But when you fall out
47:18
Speaker 1: of love with him, like this a little dick fuck,
47:23
Speaker 1: you know, little last dick. You can't him, you know,
47:26
Speaker 1: you know this sucked, this slurp on that little blunt
47:30
Speaker 1: right that love you as fake choking on it the
47:32
Speaker 1: stroke his ego. No damn well, I should ain't hitting
47:42
Speaker 1: on nothing. And there you fall out of love, right boy,
47:46
Speaker 1: oh boy, because look, women minds leave before that person
47:50
Speaker 1: be it. Do be hitting though, because you in love
47:53
Speaker 1: in your mind mine has told you like, oh, this
47:56
Speaker 1: is the most special little miniature dick I've ever had
47:59
Speaker 1: in my life, and I wanted forever until you don't.
48:06
Speaker 1: So for people say that you don't have to be
48:08
Speaker 1: in love to be in a marriage. Like marriage is
48:10
Speaker 1: not about love, it most definitely is in sex. It's
48:15
Speaker 1: it's I mean, you may not be in love with
48:17
Speaker 1: the people you fucking, but unless you're a car hopper,
48:21
Speaker 1: in order to really enjoy it, you have to have
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Speaker 1: some type of feelings for the person you're having sex with.
48:27
Speaker 1: No right, Yeah, exactly, unless you funk for a living.
48:32
Speaker 1: And that's how you get your paper right, And then
48:36
Speaker 1: there's that part. I enjoyed this conversation today, me too.
48:42
Speaker 1: We need to have more of these, uh semi intellectual
48:45
Speaker 1: conversations because I know people just think we're super ratchet
48:48
Speaker 1: and just be cussing and saying niggers and bitches and
48:50
Speaker 1: holes and dick and pussy like all those like those
48:56
Speaker 1: words cock suck your cock, like that cock dick with
49:06
Speaker 1: black people, black women, Let me see that dick. Send
49:08
Speaker 1: me a cock shot. Now, I do say that cell
49:11
Speaker 1: phone save lives. Bit a cock shot will save you. Okay,
49:15
Speaker 1: you might like a nigger and he's seeing that little
49:17
Speaker 1: dick like listen, I don't even go get to the
49:19
Speaker 1: point of loving this little dick that See that's mean
49:22
Speaker 1: Because one if a guy was like, see me your
49:25
Speaker 1: pussy and you're sitting that Roastby sandwiches and they'd be like,
49:27
Speaker 1: I'll eat that Arby's bitch. Your feelings hurt. I wish
49:33
Speaker 1: people would stop talking about coochie and dick with the coochies.
49:36
Speaker 1: You haven't seen those pictures on Instagram. It's like different
49:39
Speaker 1: coochies and how they're shape and ship like. People are
49:42
Speaker 1: born that way. It's not like cheese ran through some people.
49:46
Speaker 1: Labia Libya or whatever. Labia is hanging out like that's
49:50
Speaker 1: just how their vagina is. Like, why are y'all associating
49:54
Speaker 1: that with somebody who's extra promiscuous and who that had
49:56
Speaker 1: a lot of sex men just on no ship, even
49:59
Speaker 1: with Brad. It's genetics, you know what I'm saying. Everybody,
50:04
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna have like the super you know, firm
50:07
Speaker 1: sitting up right breast like the fund is wrong with
50:11
Speaker 1: your Everybody ain't gonna have a big dick. We're talking
50:15
Speaker 1: about them. What about a skinny dick with a big head?
50:19
Speaker 1: You like, those are like a soldier. He's like a
50:22
Speaker 1: soldier helmet. Yes, mushroom like a mushroom head pencil dick
50:27
Speaker 1: with the mushroom I like, um, you know, I don't
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Speaker 1: mind it because the head has got the girth, but
50:33
Speaker 1: I prefer girth the shaft all the way around. Yeah,
50:37
Speaker 1: m hmmm, warts my spirit. All right, y'all. If you
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