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The Real Mindset of an Abuser When They Start to Miss You · The Mental Healness Podcast

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What goes on in the mindset of a an abusive, manipulative,
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narcissistic person when they start to miss you?
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When you cross their mind? Do I ever cross your mind
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anytime? What goes on in their mind?
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What are they thinking? That's what we're talking about
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today y'all. The mindset of a of an abusive
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person when and if they start to think about you, they start to
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miss you. If you're new here, my name is
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Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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narcissist and welcome to another episode of the
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Narcissist Go. Let's get in.
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Well, So what goes on in that mind in that Dome piece when
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they are missing you? I know a lot of people ask that
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question lately. Do narcissists ever miss you?
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Does my abusive, manipulative, emotionally toxic X miss me?
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Do they ever think about me? Yeah, the answer might surprise
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you, right? The answer might just surprise
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you. A lot of them do miss you.
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Like they could just be chilling on the beach with the new
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supply, right, baby, chill with the new supply, telling the new
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supply like, I love you so much new supply, you the love of my
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life. I never ever felt this way about
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anybody else. Even though I was married for 40
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years and I was cheating on my my partner of 40 years with you.
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I've never felt this way by anybody.
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I promise the whole time they think about you the whole time
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they thinking about what y'all had, how things went, how things
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could have gone better, but but always a butt right, a big old
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butt BBL. But it doesn't mean that they'll
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it's a good it's not good things right?
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Typically, when they are missing you, they are missing the
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validation that they got from you, right?
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They are missing the control that they had over you.
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They are missing something that you provided them that they
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might not be able to get from someone else 'cause I know they
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tell people like they might miss you.
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People like, oh, they miss me and somebody.
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Look, the crazy thing is sometimes I'll tell people that
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the narcissistic person might miss them and they just like,
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well, Lee, I've been looking for a reason to go back.
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Thank you. You.
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No, you. If you looking for a reason to
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go back, you on the wrong page, you are in the wrong zone.
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Go back, huh? A reason to go back in the
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toxic? No, Hell no.
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You do not. Look, dude, this is if you're
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looking for a sign to go back into toxicity.
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This ain't it. This is not it.
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Yeah, I'm telling you because typically when they're missing
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you, it doesn't mean that they won't want to, they want to get
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back with you to treat you better, right?
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It doesn't mean that they want to get back with you to for a
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second, 3rd, 27th, go around and this time things are going to be
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better. No, typically they're missing
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debt supply. They are missing debt control,
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right? And sometimes, look, when they
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are missing you, guess what? They'll reach out to you.
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Sometimes they'll sometimes they'll reach directly out to
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you when they are missing you and text you.
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They'll send you a text message. Hey, big head.
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Hey stinky butt. Hey pluka, pluka.
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Hey, my little, my little dirty bird.
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Hey, whatever pet name they used to call you, they'll call you.
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Hey, big head. Hey stinky butt.
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Hey, my little pluka. My little pluka, Pluka.
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My little pluka. Bluka, bluka.
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I was just thinking about you. Aren't you at the beach with
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your new supply? Just saw you posted a picture on
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Instagram. Click go hang up, right?
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They'll hang up on you and you just like are you?
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I just saw you posted a picture on Instagram with your new with
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your new Boo at the beach. Like why are you calling me?
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Click. They'll click.
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They'll click on you, won't they?
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They'll click on your ass quick. They'll hang up on you.
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They're just checking in. When they miss you, they miss
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the control and look. And a lot of narcissistic people
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think that they own you. Yeah, let's keep it hot and
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ready. Like a Little Caesar's pizza.
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Sometimes they think you belong to them.
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So when they're missing you, they're missing the ownership,
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right? They're missing what they
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thought they had with you. They're missing the fact that
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you belong to them. And they want to make sure that
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you're not with anybody else. They get to be happy.
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You don't. I forgot where I was at.
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I don't know if I was on. I don't know if I was on if I
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was on live on YouTube or Instagram, I might be on
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Instagram. I was on.
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I was live on Instagram yesterday and a young lady came
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in there and she said my narcissistic partner is cheating
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on me. He left me for somebody.
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He left me for somebody else. But he keeps messaging me
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telling me he misses me and we might have a future.
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We might have if we if I hold on, we might have a future.
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I say where? I said what now?
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If you hold on to what? What are you holding on?
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What? What are we?
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What are you holding on to again, ma'am?
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You're holding on to the fact he went somebody else.
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What do you hold on? What?
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Hold on to what? He went somebody else?
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If you hold on, you might, you might have a future that I said
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that man, thank you belong to him.
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Yeah, couldn't even get her a guarantee.
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That man say if you hold on, we might, just might, might have a
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future. And she was like, I don't know
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if I should wait or not. I was like, let me make the
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decision for you. Don't wait.
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She said, I don't know if I should wait around.
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I like, no, why the I was like, yeah, I'll be, I'll be cussing
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on Instagram. I said, why the beep?
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Would you wait around for a man to get some that's with somebody
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else? That's that's somebody that,
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that that man just love making you look stupid, right?
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Sometimes when a narcissistic person misses you, sometimes
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they miss making you look silly. They miss being able to
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manipulate you. They miss being able to confuse
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you. They miss sometimes they miss
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being abusive towards you. Let's just say, let's just get
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let's just keep it hot and ready.
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They will absolutely miss being a being a straight up abuser to
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you. Imagine your partner missing
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putting their hands on you, missing the fact that they never
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got in trouble, missing the lack of accountability that that they
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could have in your relationship, missing that.
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What? What?
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They don't miss the good stuff. So not yet, can they?
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Can they miss the good thing? I'm going to say that.
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Can they miss the good times? Yeah.
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They can miss the good times, Right?
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Who's it there? Right.
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Yeah. They can miss the scapegoat.
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You're absolutely correct. They absolutely are correct and
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what not. They can miss the scapegoat,
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they can miss plan. Look, they can miss plan in your
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face. Y'all want somebody to miss plan
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in your face. Is that what you want?
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You want somebody to miss plan in your face, miss embarrassing
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you miss the fact that they they got they they tricked you into
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cutting off your support system. You want somebody that that
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misses that because that's what they could absolutely be
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missing. Some people I know, I know a lot
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of y'all their y'all impacts or whatever you want to call
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yourself, right? Y'all want to believe or just
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you might just be a good person, right?
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Y'all want to believe that there is good in everybody and I'm
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here to tell you that that's just not true.
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Some of these manipulative evil bastards are just that.
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They are evil bastards sometimes.
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They miss the trickery, they miss the scheming.
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They miss it. They like, man, I tricked the
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hell I mean, I, I mean the time I was with old girl, man, I
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tricked the hell out of her. Damn, that was a good trick.
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And she forgave me. Damn, that's crazy.
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I'll never find somebody that I can make look silly like that
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again. So before you respond to a
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message, before you respond to AI, miss you text, I miss you
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e-mail, I miss you phone call. Before you respond to that, just
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ask yourself, do you have your clown mask in the closet 'cause
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you gonna have to put it on? You had to strap your clown mask
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on 'cause they're about to make you look like Boo Boo the fool.
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Make sure you got your Red Nose, your brightly colored rainbow
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wig, your size 27 clown shoes. Because you're going to need
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them. Because they're going to have
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you looking silly. They going to have you looking
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silly. You bought to be like, that's
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it. They going to have you looking
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like Boo Boo the Fool. Boo Boo the Fool's twin brother,
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Foo Foo the Foo, Foo Foo the Boo.
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They going to have you looking silly as hell.
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They going to have you looking foolish.
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Sometimes they miss the games, man.
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Yeah, I know somebody y'all y'all want y'all see, when y'all
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get a message from them that says I miss you, you immediately
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associate that with good things and the good feelings.
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They don't. Again, I said they could be laid
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up with somebody else. They can be literally clapping
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cheeks with somebody else thinking about you.
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Imagine that they clapping cheeks with somebody else.
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You hear this sound right here and they thinking about you,
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They miss you. Now.
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I miss my ex. I miss him.
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I really do miss him. Imagine that, because that's
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what come happen right there. They love making missing making
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fun of you, right? Yes, yes, they could.
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They do. They'll be.
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They are crazy, man. You get a lot of crazy work.
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You get a lot of narcissistic people, a lot of abusers that
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miss this stuff right here, man. They miss the cooking.
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Yeah, they could miss that right there, right?
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They could do that. Yeah.
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They they are so fake. We'll talk about you behind your
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back and reach out to you and tell new supply you don't want
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reaching out and bothering. Yeah, they absolutely will.
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And you can shut. The crazy thing about it is you
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could show the new supply that they're reaching out to you and
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they still might not leave. She's been, she's been sending
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vitriolic messages for years. I went no contact.
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She said I miss you and still never say anything.
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And now they're back to monthly vitriolic message.
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Yay. Back to the void.
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Straight to the void. Boo, Boo the food.
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Yeah, Boo, Boo. The food is alive and well.
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You know Boo Boo. The Foo is alive and well.
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Why ads keep jumping in your life?
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It's YouTube, YouTube. YouTube got to make their money.
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You 2 got to make their money. They got to push their ads out.
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Phone the ass clowns. They are alive and well.
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Yeah, Oh my God, I walked. I walked up on him talking about
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me with his new old supply who we talked about to me O2 faced.
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Yep, talking about you to her and talking about her to you,
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making sure both of y'all trying to trying to fit both of y'all
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for a a tightly, tightly woven clown mask, right.
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But again, if they, if they reach out to you and say I miss
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you, make sure that y'all, like I said, seriously y'all, if
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they're reaching out to you and saying I miss you, ask yourself,
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what does that mean? Because I know what it means to
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you. Ask yourself, what does it mean
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for them 'cause they don't miss the same things you miss unless
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they send you a, a, a, a, a video of you naked or something
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like that, 'cause they might have pictures and videos of you
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naked. I miss these cheeks.
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Yeah, and I know you missed this.
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Send you an unsolicited nude or something.
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I know you missed the sound. We used to make you.
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We used to make some. Good luck, girl.
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Damn, I missed that right there. Damn.
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I missed them. Buns, gear.
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I miss them too much. I gotta have them.
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Hope. Hope.
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Nobody else is getting those buns.
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I miss them. Right.
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That's crazy. Yeah, it is insane.
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That is crazy. But again, that's what you face,
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That's what you're up against when you're dealing with an
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abusive person. They will try to get you to miss
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the good times, but that's not what they really miss, you know
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what I'm saying? They'll convince you that they
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miss the good times to get back into your life.
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And does it work? Yes, it works.
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Y'all, depending on where you are, depending on who you are,
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it works. And sometimes they don't even
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have to try hard because you miss them, right?
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If you're missing them, if you're missing them and they
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just so happen to reach out with AI miss you message, you might
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go and sleep with them, Drake right then and there.
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It might be you might be like, Lord, if they're supposed to be
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in my life, send me a sign and that sign and they just happen
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to message you out of nowhere, right?
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And they're just checking back in to see if you're silly.
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See if your mind's still ain't ready, right?
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See if your mind is just still zooted.
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That's what goes on. That's would be happening right
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there. They want to see if your mind is
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still zooted to the point where they can come back in there,
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infiltrate your space, make you look and feel silly as hell, and
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then they'll dip out. They'll come into your life like
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they'll swing. They'll swing into your life
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like a Wrecking Ball and then dip at like nothing happened.
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Swing right into your life like a damn Wrecking Ball and then
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dip on your ass like nothing happened.
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Like nothing, like nothing went down, nothing happened.
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And then they skedaddle. And then you'll never hear from
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them again. They'll come back here.
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Yeah, that's the devil sign. Yeah.
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Got the the the devil got a damn the devil got the line that you
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and God tapped. He then tapped into the line.
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He can hear you asking for God's prayers.
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Imagine you you praying to God for a sign and the devil got the
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line tapped The devil like and Angela praying for a sign.
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Have her have her abusive ex send her a message right now.
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That'll be hilarious and that's the devil.
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The devil got God's line tapped listening.
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Send you that, send you some BS. The devil listening then I was
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with her for 12 years. She hoovered 7 times years after
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she got the boot and rejected her.
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Yeah, you got to keep it. Yeah, keep that boot up.
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The devil, the man in the middle.
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Yep, Yep. They'll be testing you, man.
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That's what I say. You have to be yo.
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You have to be strong. You have to be strong.
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You know what? Hey, Day, day.
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You know what? It's June 5th again.
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And I just. I look, I, I, I, I was driving
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down the street. It's June 5th that just so
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happened to see a stray cat. And it reminded me of your cat.
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No, I didn't take the cat. And I hate cats.
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I just want to let you know I missed you.
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You see what I'm saying? You don't even like cats.
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I saw a stray cat on the side. Cold, wet, rainy, and hungry.
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No, I didn't feed it. No, I didn't pull over.
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I just won't let you know it reminded me of you.
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It reminded me of you. Let me let me talk to the cat.
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Let me talk to the cat. Y'all y'all a lot of people.
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The dead. The dead be baby daddy.
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Let me talk to my son. I just want to talk to my kids.
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He's trying to call you and talk to the cat.
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I only miss you like that. I just miss the cat.
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Let me hear. Let me hear the meow.
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Let me hear the meow. Let me hear the meow.
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Let him know I'm on the phone. Put me on speakerphone so he can
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hear me. Put me on speakerphone so the
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cat can hear me. He know my voice.
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That cat know my voice. Don't try to do that.
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So you alienating me from my cat, I'm taking you to court.
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Yeah, the devil will listen to your conversation.
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Yeah, some people believe it or not.
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Some people actually do be Co parenting with with cats and
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dogs. Some people do.
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And it keeps them it keeps them stuck.
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Man, I just it's it's hard to tell people to just like look,
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Flash hates be snarling and Flash and Flash can sense the
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evil. My ex and my service dog.
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Oh man, but that's what be happening.
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Y'all put the put the cat on the phone.
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Put the cat on the phone. Mississippi at the house.
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What's up? What's up?
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You're very encouraging. Thank you.
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You're welcome. You're welcome, y'all.
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That's what I'm here for you, man.
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I'm here to help you, help you laugh through it, man.
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Like I said, just imagine New York City next week.
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I'm doing this in person in New York City, man.
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Like I said, it's going to be a good event.
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And then after the event, we might go out and to sit in the
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bar or something, just chill and hang out and whatnot.
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But that's what's going on, man. Like I'm telling y'all, if they
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are reaching out, if they tell you that they miss you, you have
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to be strong. You absolutely do.
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Or, or you give in, the cycle starts again and then you'll be
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mad as hell. You'll be mad as hell at them,
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but then you'll be mad at yourself as well.
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Not only will you be mad at them, you're going to be angry
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at yourself for letting it happen.
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I knew they were lying, I knew they were trying to manipulate
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me. I knew that they were BS and I
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knew it. I knew it, I knew it, and I
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still gave in. Damn it.
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You can be angry. You're going to be mad.
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That's what's going to happen, man.
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It's part of it. I promise you.
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It's part of it. But you can heal.
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You can fight back. You don't have to put up with
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the BS. You can block them.
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I miss you. I don't miss you.
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Click, boop. The next time they call you,
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they should hear the number you have called is no longer in
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service or may have been changed.
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Thank you. Doo Doo, Doo.
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We're sorry. The number you have called is no
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longer in service. Please try again later.
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Doo, Doo, Doo. We're sorry.
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That's what they should hear. They should not get you a
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voicemail. They should be talking to
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Verizon Wireless or T-Mobile or Sprint.
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Not a Sprint who is? I don't know if Sprint exists
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anymore. They should be talking to
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somebody else. They should not be talking to
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you seriously. They should not be talking to
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you. They should be talking to
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Sprint, T-Mobile, whoever the hell is not Chief, not I said
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the cat block like a brick house.
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Absolutely right. Absolutely.
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If they miss you, it doesn't mean that they will treat you
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better. I think people get it conflated
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because you're still, I think somebody, somebody commented
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earlier, she said. I'm sorry, I'm not supposed to
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say this, but I miss him. It's understandable that you
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miss your ex who hurt you. Y'all spent time together, y'all
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shared a life together, You planned a life together.
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You might have kids, you might have a family, you might be
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friends for 40 years, 20 years before that.
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It's OK to miss somebody who hurt you, but it's not OK to
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allow them to keep hurting you. It's not OK to allow them back
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into your space to hurt you over and over and over again.
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When have you had enough? Right?
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When have you had enough? When is enough enough?
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When is your the fact that you missed them going to weigh less
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than your own? The, the careful you have, the
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love you have for yourself. When is the self love going to
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outweigh you missing them, right?
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That's important right there you, I'm going to do a whole
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video about that y'all. I can, I can go to a whole damn
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sermon right now about that. I'm going to do AQ and a now I
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got to hop over here y'all. I'll drop some questions in here
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again, y'all, before we switch it up.
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New York City will be in New York City next week, like I said
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for my next in person live Q&A. It's a live Q&A, y'all.
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It's like it's not a work. I know people like you doing a
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workshop. No, it's not a workshop, y'all,
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it's a live Q&A, like just like I'm doing right now.
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It's going to be just like this. Like what I'm about to do now is
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going to be just like this. Or is it that, like I said, New
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York, it's called the Foundation, it's in New York
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City. Y'all see it?
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New York City, it's on Tuesday. I know Tuesday's in the middle
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of the week, but that's when I come up.
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Or y'all? Y'all see it right here about
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the event. Event schedule, 10 days, is it
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10 days, not ten days. June 2nd's not ten days away, is
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it? No, it's next Tuesday.
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That's crazy. Y'all see it right here y'all?
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June 2nd, I'll be in New York City, come check it out.
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This is my previous workshops. Y'all people come through,
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people say hey, all my pictures and stuff like that from my
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previous workshops, some of the homies, some of my members of my
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group, my home girl NIA, we are, we got testimonials here, y'all,
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all this good stuff, all this good stuff.
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So I will see y'all in New York. If you want to come to New York,
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Mental illness.net/events, they truly break down your self
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esteem to tear down your walls. Absolutely.
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Yep. What helped me move on is the
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quote. People only do what you allow.
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Yeah, that's part of it right there, right.
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What did it click for you and not him?
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Do you feel safe for yourself or you talking about me?
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I said that's the so the question about like me, what
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made me help me change or help me work on myself.
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That's a very, very long winded question.
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I I don't avoid it. I just have a longer video on
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it. I can't give like a short answer
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because they will take with the whole quick Q&A session.
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I miss him for sure, but I'll be the first to admit it.
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But being a clown is not the way I the life I want.
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There you go. How we're up.
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You do not want to put that clown mask on.
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I'm close enough. Would be nice to meet and greet.
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Yeah. I mean, let's say New York City
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next week. Y'all New York City June the
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2nd. Isn't that 10 days?
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Isn't really is next week though, isn't it?
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Yeah, well, I was just saying 10 days on the site.
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I don't know what Darius has it on there.
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Crazy. But it's definitely not ten
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days. It is a couple days away is
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next. I'll be.
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I'll be flying out Monday. Yeah.
23:30
That's weird. I have no idea why it looked
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like that. Yeah, June 2nd is definitely
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next Tuesday, 7 days. I don't know why it says that.
23:41
Hey, guess my friend can trek with me.
23:43
Trek in with me? Yeah.
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Go and get registers at New York.
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Because there's only. I think there's only nine seats
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left. There's like 9 seats left.
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Yeah, I saw it, but I don't get how you got to the get out and
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the rest are forever. Dune Because I wanted to, right?
23:59
That's I wanted to. It really is boiled down to I've
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been doing, I've been working, I've been working to myself for
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20 years. Y'all what you see right now,
24:06
who you see right now? This is the product of 20 years
24:09
of self personal development and nine years of psychotherapy.
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You know, I've been in therapy for nine years.
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I've been working to myself for 20 years.
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Yeah, I'm 40 years old. So half my life I've been
24:20
working to myself, right? So half my existence, literally
24:24
half my life. When I was 1920 years old
24:27
working at Blockbuster Video, I started doing personal
24:30
development. I have another child on the way
24:36
by my ex-husband who's a diagnosed nurses.
24:37
You got to be careful with that one.
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Did you know he's diagnosed before the first one?
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Very low. I wouldn't say I'm very low.
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I've just been working on myself.
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Yeah, it's not very low. I promise you, I probably
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should. You said you said it to my wife
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and she's like, I was like, I was like baby Angela said my
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narcissism is very low. She's like, what?
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No, it's not very low. It just seems like a yeah,
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because I've been. Yeah.
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I'm so I'm well spoken. I'm intelligent.
25:05
I've been doing. I was just the door to work.
25:09
How can I prepare? How can I prepare for being
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affected? Emotional follow up by his
25:14
attempts to antagonize through our child and our other friends,
25:18
his future partners. So future partners, man, this is
25:21
what I say with your future partners, your children, though,
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depending on how old your children are, you can have
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conversations with your kids, right?
25:28
You can have conversations with your children about this.
25:30
You know what I mean? You absolutely can, but
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depending on their age, you don't have to tell them straight
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up, Daddy's a narcissist, he's going to lie on me.
25:37
You don't have to do that, right?
25:38
Actually, if I can find it right here, I normally have one right
25:41
beside me. Depending on how old your kids
25:46
are, if your kids are, I say 10 and under, you can read this one
25:50
I got. I wrote a kids book called
25:52
Remember It's Not Your fault designed to have these tough
25:56
conversations with your kids about toxic relationships, toxic
26:00
parents and whatnot, body positivity, self love.
26:04
It's got remember it's not your fault.
26:05
It's on Amazon. I, I can put the link in the
26:07
comments in, in the description, but it's got remember it's not
26:10
your fault. It's specifically for those
26:12
children like the in that age group.
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Oh, you bought the book already? Oh shit, I'm I'm, I'm behind.
26:22
Then you already did it. When you going to do a meet and
26:26
greet in Durham? You know, I'm, I'm a local.
26:28
That's my life. I did, I've done 1.
26:29
I did one of the the one. The second one I did was in
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Durham. I've actually done to endure.
26:33
I actually done to endure. You know, I've done to endure
26:36
them. The next one in North Carolina
26:37
will probably be in Charlotte. Oh, oh hell no.
26:43
What? He threw it.
26:43
He threw the book away. Oh hell no.
26:45
He a bastard then you don't want your kid doing about self love
26:48
and appreciation. That's crazy.
26:51
Threw the book away. That's crazy.
26:55
That's crazy. We broke up and haven't spoken
26:58
in weeks. But he has a few boxes of his
27:00
stuff he has here. I don't know how to go out
27:02
there. Put those boxes by the no right.
27:05
I don't know if you still in contact with him or you have to
27:07
invite. Hey, look, yeah, there's a
27:10
there's a Beyoncé song for you right to the left, to the left.
27:13
Everything you own is in the box to the left.
27:17
You got 30 days. She, she didn't put the 30 days
27:20
on her. She's like, you got 30 days to
27:21
come pick it up. Pick it up or it's going to be
27:24
in the trash. Narcissus really don't have an
27:30
attachment style. It it, it mirrors.
27:32
They don't really deeply attach. So it looks like a voiding
27:35
right, but it's not it looks avoided, but it's not really an
27:38
attachment. It's not really a deep
27:40
attachment right, yes, come to Charlotte first.
27:43
I hear the kids book. Yeah, my kids books.
27:45
I remember. It's not your fault.
27:46
My twin brother lives in Charlotte right, So I'll
27:50
definitely the the next one will probably be in Charlotte or am I
27:53
doing it in Raleigh, Raleigh or Charlotte?
27:55
I've done 2IN Durham right and whatnot.
27:59
Y'all, especially in dark at night, I can really tune into
28:02
these late nights. Yeah, I will.
28:03
Do I I like doing them later at night too, because more people
28:05
hop on like these. These are my big my biggest
28:07
lives when I'm on here at night, right?
28:11
But anyway, y'all, I got to hop off this thing.
28:13
I'll be live again tomorrow because I I have to do another
28:16
few lives this week in preparation for New York because
28:21
I recorded some videos. I don't want to drop them until
28:23
New York because I'm I'm be on the flight again.
28:25
I'll be in New York City next week, June 2nd.
28:28
Also my my regular website for my coaching, my one on ones my
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zoom calls. I do text messages now too.
28:36
Y'all have text message sessions for the whole week or the whole
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29:07
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29:09
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29:11
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