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#597 Holiday Hot Seat - Kylie Coulson · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the.
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  Speaker 1: Time poor parent who just wants answers Now Gooday.
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  Speaker 2: This is doctor Justin Coulson, the founder of Happy Families
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  Speaker 2: dot com dot a you, dad toes six daughter's husband
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  Speaker 2: to one wife and the parenting expert and co host
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  Speaker 2: on chan Lyne's Parental Guidance. Also the host of this podcast,
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  Speaker 2: that Happy Families Podcast. Thank you so much for listening
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  Speaker 2: and allowing me into your life to hopefully be useful
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  Speaker 2: in making your family happier. Right now, school holidays in Queensland,
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  Speaker 2: which means that I'm doing my best to spend as
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  Speaker 2: much time in the sunshine with Kylie and the girls
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  Speaker 2: as I can. So each day during the Queensland school holidays,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to be featuring on the podcast. Some of
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  Speaker 2: my favorite podcast guests from twenty twenty two were doing
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  Speaker 2: Lightning Round question and answer format. Today's guest is the
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  Speaker 2: one and only missus Happy Families, Kylie Coulson. Kylie, You've
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  Speaker 2: never been submitted to a Lightning Round before, but today
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  Speaker 2: is the day where I get to ask you all
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  Speaker 2: of the questions and you get to well, I mean.
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  Speaker 1: You actually did do a Lightning Round.
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  Speaker 2: It's been a long time. It was right right back
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  Speaker 2: when my very Your First Question podcast. Yeah, that's right. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: if you want to hear how bad it was, you
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  Speaker 2: can go back, I know, like episode numb one hundred
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  Speaker 2: and thirty or there.
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  Speaker 1: Have to have it on the highest volume because I
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  Speaker 1: talk so quietly.
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  Speaker 2: So I've got a whole lot of new Lightning Round questions.
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  Speaker 2: I ask everybody that I interview now for the podcast
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  Speaker 2: these questions, and today I thought we'd do something together.
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  Speaker 2: I thought I'd ask you the Lightning Round questions. Some
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  Speaker 2: are fun, some are serious, some are impossible to answer accurately.
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  Speaker 2: You're just going to dig a hole. Let's see how
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  Speaker 2: we go. Question number one. Everyone knows this, but we're
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  Speaker 2: we're going to treat you like you're a special VIP guest.
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  Speaker 2: How many kids do you have and how old are they?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, you're testing me from the outset. I have six children.
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  Speaker 2: We we no, you're asking me.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, fine, I have six children and they're all girls,
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  Speaker 1: and my youngsters eight twelve, fifteen, eighteen, nineteen, and twenty three.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, do you have a favorite child?
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  Speaker 1: Of course, not would that I'll say in public?
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  Speaker 2: Would you like some time to think about that. No,
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  Speaker 2: of course not. Who do you love the most? Me
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  Speaker 2: or the kids?
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  Speaker 1: You?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, you're so good at this ideal number of kids? Six? Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it is. It's always what you wanted from the time
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  Speaker 2: I knew you wanted six kids.
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  Speaker 1: But if I could go back at No. No, six,
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  Speaker 1: I absolutely love it.
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  Speaker 2: How do you rate yourself as a parent?
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  Speaker 1: Oh?
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  Speaker 2: Do you know what?
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  Speaker 1: Over the years, I think that I have gotten a
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  Speaker 1: lot better at this process. I'm definitely not perfect, but
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm getting a handle on it as
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  Speaker 1: i'm mature.
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  Speaker 2: What's something great that your parents did that you've tried
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  Speaker 2: to continue in your parenting.
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  Speaker 1: My dad was really really good at spending time with
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  Speaker 1: me in my emotional moments and as each of our
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  Speaker 1: children and especially being girls and being probably a lot
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  Speaker 1: more hormonal. I've really tried hard to tap into that
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  Speaker 1: skill of sitting in their space when when things are hard.
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  Speaker 2: Who's a better parent you or me?
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  Speaker 1: I think that we have different strengths.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so you're not going to give me a straight answer.
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  Speaker 1: No, I'm not, because I think that there are some
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  Speaker 1: things that I do way better than you.
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  Speaker 2: Get Like what.
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  Speaker 1: I can't think of anything off the top of my.
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  Speaker 2: Head, right, come on, lightning round, You've just got to
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  Speaker 2: say whatever comes in mind.
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  Speaker 1: I think dealing with the girls hormonal outbursts, I think
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  Speaker 1: that I deal with them predominantly better than you do. Interesting,
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  Speaker 1: But there are other things that you deal with hands
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  Speaker 1: down better than me. Like what I'm not telling you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not about you today, No, I know, but I'm
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  Speaker 2: really curious now.
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  Speaker 1: I think you have the capacity to not take their
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  Speaker 1: outburst personally, and as such are able to see them
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  Speaker 1: as challenged and irrational and immature, beautiful little human beings
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  Speaker 1: who just need to be understood. You just don't take
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  Speaker 1: it personally. And I struggle with that from time to time.
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  Speaker 1: And so what I love about what you do is
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  Speaker 1: just that constant reminder of who they are and just
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  Speaker 1: how much you love them.
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  Speaker 2: What's the hardest thing about being a parent.
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  Speaker 1: That there is never just one challenge to deal with
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  Speaker 1: In any given moment. Each of our children are living
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  Speaker 1: parallel lives in a collective space together, and at any
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  Speaker 1: given moment in time, every one of us has a
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  Speaker 1: burden of some sort, and as a parent, it's almost
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  Speaker 1: like they're all bundled into your basket and you feel
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  Speaker 1: the weight of that.
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  Speaker 2: If you could spend an hour with the kids at
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  Speaker 2: any what would you choose? And why?
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  Speaker 1: I think it's five or six. There's just such an
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  Speaker 1: innocence about our little prestook rulers, and they are just
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  Speaker 1: so thirsty for knowledge, and they just see you with
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  Speaker 1: rose colored glasses.
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  Speaker 2: You're their world, right, Yes, Kylie. What's the ultimate joy
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  Speaker 2: as a parent?
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  Speaker 1: I think it's when your big kids leave home and
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  Speaker 1: they ring just to say hi.
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  Speaker 2: Most controversial question of all after that beautiful moment, what's
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  Speaker 2: the right age for kids to have a mobile phone?
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  Speaker 1: Never?
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  Speaker 2: It's the question that I get all the time. Drives
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  Speaker 2: me up the wall. What's that thing that your parents
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  Speaker 2: always said that you swore you'd never say, but it
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  Speaker 2: keeps popping out of your mouth.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure there are probably a hundred things, but I cannot,
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  Speaker 1: for the life of me think of one.
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  Speaker 2: Now. Yeah, you'll probably think of it once you let
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  Speaker 2: the studio. We need to record that again. What's the
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  Speaker 2: kid's favorite thing to do with you?
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  Speaker 1: I actually think it's snuggles. Yeah, you know, even the
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  Speaker 1: other day, our twenty three year old came in and
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't feeling particularly well, so I was just having
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  Speaker 1: a lie down in bed, and she literally just jumped
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  Speaker 1: in right next to me. So, you know, from her
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  Speaker 1: down to our eight year old who comes in every morning,
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  Speaker 1: I think snuggles would be hands down.
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  Speaker 2: What are you most looking forward to as a parent.
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  Speaker 1: Being a grandparent? As I'm watching just the way I'm
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  Speaker 1: maturing as a parent and in some ways wishing that
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  Speaker 1: I had known all the things that I know now,
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  Speaker 1: I'm looking forward to seeing that growth and that maturity
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  Speaker 1: develop even more as I grandparent.
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  Speaker 2: If you could go back to you as a young parent,
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  Speaker 2: having one of those tough moments and being so inexperienced,
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  Speaker 2: what advice would you give yourself?
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  Speaker 1: Just be kind to yourself in that space and remembering
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  Speaker 1: so acutely being aware of my limitations and my weaknesses
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  Speaker 1: and just wishing I could have been more and now
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  Speaker 1: recognizing that I was all I could be in those moments,
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  Speaker 1: So learning to be kind to myself and giving myself
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  Speaker 1: the grace that I would give anybody else who was struggling.
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  Speaker 1: Giving that to me would have made a big difference.
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  Speaker 2: Last question, Kylie Colson, what's been your biggest win as
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  Speaker 2: a mum.
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  Speaker 1: I think that it would be that as my children
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  Speaker 1: have matured and grown, when most children would typically choose
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  Speaker 1: to not want their parents in their space, my girls
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  Speaker 1: have relished the opportunities that I've been able to volunteer
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  Speaker 1: and be in their classes, or participate in their school
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  Speaker 1: events or church events, you know, going on a school
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  Speaker 1: trip to Germany with our oldest daughter, and her actually
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  Speaker 1: relishing the opportunity to share that experience with her mum,
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  Speaker 1: with her friends. And I've watched it time and time
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  Speaker 1: again with the kids at different stages and for different reasons.
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  Speaker 1: I just feel so grateful that they still work me around.
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  Speaker 2: Kylie Coilson, you survived the lightning round. Thank you so
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  Speaker 2: much for your insights and ideas. I hope it's been
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  Speaker 2: inspiring for people who have heard it. I've loved hearing
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  Speaker 2: your answers.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks.
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  Speaker 2: The Happy Families podcast is produced by Justin Roland from
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  Speaker 2: Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer. If you'd
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  Speaker 2: like more info about how to make your family happier
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  Speaker 2: and how to be as awesome as Kylie, you can
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  Speaker 2: get all the you need at happy families dot com
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