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SPH Book 4 : Why Being More Ethical Makes You More Attractive · The Bull Brotherhood

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  What y 'all thought y 'all wasn't gonna see me?
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  I'm the Osiris of this shit. I'm born atomically.
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  Socrates, philosophies, and hypotheses. Can't
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  define how I be dropping these mockeries. Lyrically
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  perform on robbery. Hey y 'all, it's your boy
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  Socrates here by myself. And this is a new segment
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  called Socrates' Philosophies and Hypotheses.
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  So yeah, I really love that song, Triumph, from
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  the Wu -Tang Clan. I actually played that song
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  at my wedding. It was my walk -in song and it
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  was the same for my son. Anyway, so this is a
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  little quick segment of where I just kind of
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  drop some deep philosophical shit on y 'all.
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  I'd love to hear you guys get involved. I'd love
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  to hear your opinion about it. I'd love to hear,
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  you know, pushback or whatever. You guys can
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  always email me at thebullbrotherhood at gmail
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  .com. Or you can always look us up on Telegram
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  or all the other social media sites under the
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  Bull Brotherhood. For X, it's Brotherhood without
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  the E at the end for ER. So anyway, today we're
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  going to talk about ethics and strategic ethics.
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  And the reason why we're talking about this is
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  because I was, me and my wife were invited actually
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  to teach at a lifestyle place. They actually
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  decided not to have us because they felt like
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  we were too ethical. And I was like, wow, you
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  know, and I've been known as the guy with ethics.
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  Does that mean I'm perfect? That means I'm the
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  most righteous guy on the planet? Absolutely
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  not. But I just felt like people are misunderstanding
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  what ethics means. And I think that I wanted
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  to just kind of share my perspective on it. Something
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  really quick. We're going to go with three basic
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  fundamentals of ethics, what ethics is, and why
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  I think ethics is important. So one, let me say
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  what ethics is not, in my opinion especially.
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  Ethics is not right and wrong, good or bad. I
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  remember when I first got into this lifestyle
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  and I was asking one of my mentors about hearing
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  stories of so many cuckold couples that started
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  off with someone cheating. The way, you know,
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  it transpired with those two people not being
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  able to communicate with each other or not really
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  understanding themselves or not doing self -examination
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  or not. A lot of times cheating for men is just
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  a, you know, it's a situation of an opportunity
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  that presents itself. Right. But, you know, I
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  was really judgmental about that back then. And
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  my mentor was like, man, you don't know the circumstances
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  of how that worked out. You don't know the things
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  surrounding it. And, you know, I was really judgmental
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  back then, I have to admit. But what I realize
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  is that ethics is not about right and wrong.
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  It's not about judging a couple. So if you've
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  done anything that, you know, we're going to
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  say is unethical or not right, we're not saying
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  that you're wrong. We're not saying that every
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  time you do X, Y, and Z, you're going to get
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  A, B, and C result. What ethics is, first I want
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  to talk about what ethics is. Ethics are a set
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  of... morals or principles or code of conduct,
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  that does one thing. It increases your chances
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  to get positive results. I'm going to say that
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  again. Ethics are the codes or code of conduct
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  or principles that you live by that increases
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  your chances of getting the results you want
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  and decreases your chances of things turning
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  out wrong. So does that mean that there isn't
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  a lot of cuckold couples, for example, and other
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  couples that start off where one person is cheating
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  and a lot of times that cheating ends up breaking
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  open a conversation that the couple didn't know
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  how to have before then, then that it turns out
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  later on that everything works out great, they
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  get into the lifestyle or they get into cuckolding
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  and they realize that, you know, That was just
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  a really difficult icebreaker to have a really
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  good conversation. My thing is, if you don't
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  want to have an upfront conversation with that
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  person, I'm not here to judge you on that. What
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  I am here to say is, as many stories as you hear,
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  it turns out right, you'll hear way more stories
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  where it turns out wrong. You'll hear way more
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  stories of people feeling betrayed, people feeling
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  like they can't trust that person anymore. So
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  ethics, strategic ethics. is about a framework
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  of ethics, of a way of stacking the deck in your
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  favor, right? This is about understanding that
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  every ethical choice is like a move in a game
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  that increases your odds of success and respect
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  in ethical non -monogamy space. So we have a
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  code of conduct between me and my wife, and it's
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  not about right and wrong, good and bad. For
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  example, you know, we always play with condoms,
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  or if we don't... We're going to have a conversation.
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  We're going to make sure that person has a good
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  protocol to take care of themselves. That's ethical.
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  We always have these open conversations with
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  people. We think that's ethics. Now, does that
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  make us better than anybody else? Absolutely
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  not. What it does do is it decreases my chances
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  of getting STIs. When I communicate with people,
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  if I meet you at a club or a hotel takeover and
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  you don't have a wedding ring on. I'm not going
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  to ask you or interrogate you on whether or not
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  you're here, if your wife or significant other
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  knows you're here. I'm not going to do that.
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  What I'm going to do is I'm just going to assume
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  that you're doing the right thing. But if it's
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  in our face, we do step away from people who
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  are cheating on their wives and their wives don't
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  know. I even don't play with women or couples
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  that say, well, my wife knows. What's going on?
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  She's totally okay with it, but she doesn't want
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  anything to do with it. That may be true, but
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  the chances of that just being an excuse for
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  you to get away with, you know, pulling BS is
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  why I step away, right? Second principle we want
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  to talk about is risk reduction, right? It really
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  helps prevent you from high risk things like,
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  you know, gossiping. Like telling other people's
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  business, like, you know, doing things to get
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  other people's public face out there without
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  their permission. These things are not about
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  right and wrong. It's about increasing your ability
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  to operate well in this community. It's a small
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  community. It's about avoiding the risks of what
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  can happen when there's drama because of not
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  being up front, when there's drama because. There's
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  been confusion between the couple when there's
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  drama, because if you're fluid bonded with someone
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  else and you're not communicating that with other
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  people and that person might want to play with
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  you. So ethics is about just increasing your
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  ability to succeed and decreasing the things
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  you want to avoid in major drama. Right. And
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  then the third thing I'll talk about is reputation
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  currency. It emphasizes that in the Bull Brotherhood,
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  we talk a lot about reputation as one of your
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  biggest assets. In this community, I never forget
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  the second hotel or third hotel takeover I went
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  to, I found out there was a list of women, a
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  group of women, my wife even has a group now,
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  that women talk to each other and they talk about
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  their experiences with other play partners. And
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  they will give their assessments and they'll
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  give their opinions. You know, what I like about
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  the ones that I know about are the things that
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  my wife talks about. They try to avoid talking
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  shit about people, but they will definitely say
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  if you're an unethical person, if you lie, if
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  you don't, you know, if you're not upfront about
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  things, if you are misrepresenting yourself,
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  if you have somebody in your life that doesn't
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  know or is not aware that you're doing this,
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  these women will share that. On the other hand.
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  You have women that share, oh, he's really good
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  with play. He's honest. He's ethical. His wife
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  is not involved, but she has left a voice memo
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  or I've talked to her. You know, he's really
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  open. He doesn't mind. Like for me, I get my
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  wife involved in not every couple. You know,
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  she's not involved in cuckold couples anymore.
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  We've kind of adjusted the whole slut secretary
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  thing. But I've gotten my wife involved in a
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  lot of these things. And she is just there to
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  kind of help me, you know. understand how things
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  are working you know she's there to help me see
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  things that i don't see she's there to help me
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  avoid problems that i don't and i i like the
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  fact that she can come in talk about things and
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  explain things in a way that makes a lot of sense
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  you know so that's really my little tick minute
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  segment i'd love to talk more about this maybe
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  we could do a whole episode but you know that's
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  Socrates' Philosophies and Hypotheses. So my
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  philosophy about ethical and being ethical. So
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  look forward to this. I love your opinion and
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  feedback on this. And we'll hear from you guys
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  later. Take care.