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Season 3 - Episode 244 - Towards and away · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So there's a theory about in the coaching world, in the
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  psychological world where we talk often about are you moving
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  towards what you want or are you moving away?
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  Now, this is like Marco Polo to me.
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  Remember Me playing Marco Polo when you're a kid in the
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  swimming pool and someone's, you know, Marco and someone's else's
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  polo and they're trying to find you and you're they're swimming
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  towards you, but they're supposed to have their eyes
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  closed. But who really ever keeps their
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  eyes price tightly closed? It was always, you know, the fun
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  game. And if you're not fast,
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  athletically present company included in that, then you're
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  you're not going to ever win at Marco Polo.
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  But it's not about just Marco Polo today.
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  It's talking about how Marco Polo is really the move towards
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  or move away. You're getting warmer, you're
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  getting cold or hot and cold. That old fashioned game that
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  we've all played, hide and seek with all of it and flashlight
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  tag, you know, all the good ones that can lead back to this.
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  But in life, it was a great training because from my
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  perspective as a coach, I'm constantly talking to myself and
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  to others about the moving towards and moving away.
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  Moving towards and moving away. What does that look like?
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  Are you moving towards your goals or are you moving away
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  from your goals? Are you doing the things that
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  get you closer or you you constructing things that keep
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  you away from it? And yes, we actually do
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  construct our own barriers to them.
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  If you want to say we create these situations because we are
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  not good at keeping clear on that path because we don't check
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  in enough, I'm convinced it's because we don't check in
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  enough. The more we check in, the better
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  off we are because once we start doing the check insurance, then
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  we can say, oh wait, I made a, you know, in the world of Bugs
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  Bunny left turn at Albuquerque and I've got to go back.
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  But that only happens when you do check insurance.
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  And if you don't do check insurance, you're basically
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  screwed in the process because you have to keep checking in.
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  And the towards in a way model for me is something that you can
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  do every day, multiple times a day.
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  Am I towards my task? Am I away from my task?
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  Am I closer? Am I not?
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  And whatever words you like, I just like towards and away
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  because it's very clear I'm either moving towards them or
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  I'm moving away from them. So sometimes what gets in our
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  way is our emotions show up and we just want to stay frustrated
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  because we have been violated. And this is all true, but I mean
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  100% in the process of doing this, you will find things that
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  you don't like that don't work for you.
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  You will be irritated, aggravated, pissed off even.
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  And you have to make sure that you pull yourself to the side
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  and say, OK, is this situation happening real?
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  Yes, it is. OK, great.
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  Is my reaction moving me closer to my goals or further from my
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  goals? And if your reaction is taking
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  you further from your goals, then the, the, the reality is
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  it's time for a course correction because without it,
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  you're just going to continue on a trajectory that does not make
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  you happy or get you where you want to be.
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  So the key, the absolute key to this is making turns quicker,
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  making stops quicker and checking in.
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  Think of it just like you're, you know, you're driving with
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  the GPS. You see it on the screen.
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  This happened to us yesterday. We're driving and we're trying
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  to get to a restaurant supply company and the GPS is giving us
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  these wonky directions. And you can't tell sometimes
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  when you look at it on the screen where it's like got the
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  little line and I'm like, no, it says that's the exit and we got
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  off. My husband gets off as and he's
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  like, well, look like that one. And I'm like, I know it's, it's
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  too weird. We're in an area where all the
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  roads overlap and they're all running parallel and you can't
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  tell. And we get off and the first
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  thing that we do is we stop and we say, OK, what is this
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  actually saying? Which way should we go?
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  Quick check in. OK.
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  And when you we made the next turn, it was the wrong turn.
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  OK, great, let's back it up. It's telling us to go a
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  different way. So it all happened very quickly
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  in a short period of time and we didn't even end up losing any
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  time going where we were going because we stopped and we course
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  corrected quickly. Now we're all very, very engaged
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  and grilled to do that as people who are driving, but we're
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  driving our lives and that's when we let it go so long and
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  that's when we have the problems.
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  So using that same metaphor for life is really important because
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  once you start doing that, Oh my goodness, things don't get out
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  of hand so far. You can fix them.
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  You can handle anything when you know.
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  So do yourself the favor, make sure you check in on that
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  quicker. And you won't have to wait until
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  things go so far off the track because you are clear.
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  You are making your corrections, moving towards, in a way, much
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  sooner than you may have previously.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I'll
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  see you tomorrow. Bye.