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Focus on Yourself, Not Others: The Key to Unlocking True Success · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Today, I need you to embrace what comes hard.
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  Speaker 2: Today.
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  Speaker 3: I need you to accept the challenge to day. I
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  Speaker 3: need you to fall in love with the process.
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  Speaker 2: There will be plenty of opportunities to get discouraged, to
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  Speaker 2: lose your passion and think that it's not meant to be.
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  Speaker 2: But if you're going to reach your destiny, you have
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  Speaker 2: to have a made up mind. If you give up
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  Speaker 2: after the first time, or the fifth time, or the
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  Speaker 2: thirtieth time, what that really means is you didn't want.
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  Speaker 4: It bad enough.
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  Speaker 2: There should be something you're believing for that. You are relentless.
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  Speaker 2: You are not moved by how impossible it looks. You're
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  Speaker 2: not discouraged by how long it's taken. You don't give
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  Speaker 2: up because people told you no. Your attitude is if
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  Speaker 2: I have to believe my whole life, I am not
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  Speaker 2: going to stop believing. I am not going to take
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  Speaker 2: no for an answer. I'm not going to settle for mediocrity.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to keep pursuing what would in my heart.
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  Speaker 5: And ask ourselves what do I really want? What do
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  Speaker 5: I really want? And write it down. Writing causes thinking.
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  Speaker 5: Thinking creates an image, and you get these images going.
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  Speaker 5: You're building a vision in your mind. It's the visionaries
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  Speaker 5: that changed the world.
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  Speaker 6: Think of them.
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  Speaker 7: But what keeps that competitive edge, what keeps you on top,
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  Speaker 7: is the ability to think and prepare mentally over and
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  Speaker 7: over and over again.
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  Speaker 8: The body has limitations, the mind does not. We focus
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  Speaker 8: so much on what goes on from the neck down
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  Speaker 8: that we forget it all starts from here. Everything starts
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  Speaker 8: from If you're not mentally ready, you're never really physically prepared,
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  Speaker 8: and that's where the preparation starts.
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  Speaker 9: What would your life be like as you look toward
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  Speaker 9: the future if you.
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  Speaker 6: Decided I'm not going to allow my fears to stop me,
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  Speaker 6: And I'm saying to you, whatever you gotta do, do
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  Speaker 6: it because if you don't, life is gonna whoop you
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  Speaker 6: and tell you surrender. So when you're young and you
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  Speaker 6: make mistakes, don't let them eat you up. Because everybody
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  Speaker 6: that made it to made them. You got to fail
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  Speaker 6: in order to win. Hey, look, man, to understand how
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  Speaker 6: to hit the game when they shot, you got to
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  Speaker 6: miss the game when it shot.
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  Speaker 10: You know, you got to be tough.
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  Speaker 1: Because the road to success is always under construction.
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  Speaker 3: It's never a clear path to success.
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  Speaker 1: The people who become successful are the people who have
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  Speaker 1: a relentless attitude.
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  Speaker 4: And you just got to.
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  Speaker 6: Hang in there through the bad breaks because the bad
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  Speaker 6: breaks is coming.
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  Speaker 3: But they usually right before the big break is about
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  Speaker 3: to happen. You get a series of bad breaks and
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  Speaker 3: it stumbles up a lot of people. My life and
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  Speaker 3: my success is to say to anyone you can stumble,
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  Speaker 3: you can fall, you can get back up.
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  Speaker 9: Again, no matter what you face, no matter how bad
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  Speaker 9: it is going to be. When there is a challenge,
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  Speaker 9: and by a challenge, I mean anything in life, any challenge,
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  Speaker 9: anything that you're facing, the only way to overcome the
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  Speaker 9: challenges that you face is to start walking. Take that
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  Speaker 9: step every day, no matter what you are facing, get
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  Speaker 9: up and start walking.
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  Speaker 4: I have the ability to see the end before the
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  Speaker 4: beginning even begins. And what that means is I know
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  Speaker 4: that to get to the very end, I can see
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  Speaker 4: it right now. So before I went the butts and
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  Speaker 4: I was losing all this waiting, I saw myself walking
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  Speaker 4: across the stage at one hundred and ninety one pounds.
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  Speaker 4: That's what I had to get to get into the door.
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  Speaker 11: I saw myself six months a year later, whatever it's
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  Speaker 11: gonna take me to do I saw myself walking across
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  Speaker 11: the stage getting that certificate of graduation from Buds, and
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  Speaker 11: I was able to be there at three hundred pounds,
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  Speaker 11: and that feeling that I was nowhere near that feeling.
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  Speaker 11: I was able to put myself there a million times
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  Speaker 11: every day. And that feeling of like, my God, that
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  Speaker 11: is going to feel amazing. That's what made me suffer.
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  Speaker 11: That's what allowed the paying to be real and say
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  Speaker 11: this is worth it. I want to feel for this
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  Speaker 11: next eighteen months. It took me eighteen months to find
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  Speaker 11: become a navy to to find me just get through
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  Speaker 11: butts eighteen months. Six months took me eighteen That's what
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  Speaker 11: woke me up every morning was I'm gonna put myself
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  Speaker 11: through this much pain and suffering for a few seconds,
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  Speaker 11: so it is a few seconds of joy. It is
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  Speaker 11: so worth it, man, I said. People don't get so
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  Speaker 11: I'm able to put myself at the finish line, even
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  Speaker 11: though I have no finish line, but at the finish
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  Speaker 11: line of an event. Before I even start, they say,
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  Speaker 11: how are you gonna feel at.
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  Speaker 4: The end of this? Visualizing this is my biggest tool
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  Speaker 4: of life. That's why I've been able to put myself
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  Speaker 4: in cold water, put myself in one hundred mile race
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  Speaker 4: millions of times before I've done it, and I'm able
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  Speaker 4: to go through the race and see how I'm gonna
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  Speaker 4: feel it.
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  Speaker 11: Myle fifty almost to the almost to the exact exact
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  Speaker 11: feeling right.
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  Speaker 5: So when it comes up, it's no surprise.
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  Speaker 11: I no surprise.
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  Speaker 4: I've already done this.
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  Speaker 10: In meantime, I recommended the last time I was here
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  Speaker 10: the little richest man in Babylon, and I said, I've
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  Speaker 10: lectured now to over three million people. Guess how many
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  Speaker 10: have actually gone and got this little book? Answer? Very few.
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  Speaker 10: My best guess is ten percent. Such an easy thing
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  Speaker 10: to do, this little book. Number one is easy to find.
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  Speaker 10: Number two it's easy to buy. The most you can
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  Speaker 10: pay for it six seven eight dollars. You can borrow
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  Speaker 10: that from your kids. But if it's easy to find,
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  Speaker 10: it easy to buy, and if it's easy to read,
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  Speaker 10: why wouldn't everybody go get it? We don't know. I
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  Speaker 10: don't know. Nobody knows. Here's how profound it is. Some
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  Speaker 10: do and some don't. Now here's the numbers about ten
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  Speaker 10: percent do We don't know the mystery of that. And
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  Speaker 10: I'm telling you ten years from now, those numbers will
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  Speaker 10: still be the same. The numbers don't change, only the
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  Speaker 10: faces change. I used to belong to the ninety percent
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  Speaker 10: who couldn't be bothered even if it was easy. How
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  Speaker 10: many people have a library card? Answer three percent? Ninety
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  Speaker 10: couldn't be bothered. Guy specializes an happy hour, but he
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  Speaker 10: doesn't have a car, and now readily and quickly blames
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  Speaker 10: the government, blames his company, and blames the pay scale.
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  Speaker 10: Here's my advice to you today. Walk away from the
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  Speaker 10: ninety seven percent. Don't talk like they talk, don't go
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  Speaker 10: where they go, don't act like they act, don't specialize
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  Speaker 10: on what they specialize in. Throw away the blame list.
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  Speaker 10: They clean them too.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta be consciously conscious today because your environment can hypnotize, mesmerize,
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  Speaker 1: and paralyze you. The other thing is take full responsibility
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  Speaker 1: for your life.
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  Speaker 10: Oscar Wilde once said, responsibility is what we expect from
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  Speaker 10: somebody else. This is very true. Most people dread accepting responsibility.
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  Speaker 10: That's just the fact of life, and we can see
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  Speaker 10: it in operation every day. We can see ourselves getting
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  Speaker 10: hot undo the collar when the dentist keeps us waiting
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  Speaker 10: and we're sitting there reading old magazines when our appointment
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  Speaker 10: was thirty minutes ago, and we don't stop to think
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  Speaker 10: that we forgot to mail in this month's mortgage payment.
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  Speaker 10: We can see ourselves growing angrier and angrier because a
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  Speaker 10: business contact is supposed to call at noon, and here
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  Speaker 10: it is almost two o'clock and the phone still refuses
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  Speaker 10: to ring, But we don't stop to think about the
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  Speaker 10: cause we ourselves have forgotten to return while we've been
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  Speaker 10: so busy fuming. We can see ourselves writing an angry
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  Speaker 10: letter to the airline because a flight was delayed, But
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  Speaker 10: we don't write an angry letter to ourselves when we're
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  Speaker 10: late for something, even though that might not be a
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  Speaker 10: bad idea at all. Yes, we can see avoidance of
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  Speaker 10: responsibility all the time in both our personal and professional lives.
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  Speaker 10: And here's something else we can see just as often.
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  Speaker 10: We can see that most people aren't as successful as
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  Speaker 10: they wish they were. Do you see there's a connection
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  Speaker 10: between these two very common phenomena. I certainly do, And
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  Speaker 10: by the end of this session, I hope you'll agree
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  Speaker 10: with me. I hope you'll understand that it's in your
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  Speaker 10: best interests to take responsibility for everything you do. But
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  Speaker 10: that's only the beginning. I'm also going to suggest that
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  Speaker 10: many times it's even best to accept responsibility for the
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  Speaker 10: mistakes of others, especially when you're in a managerial or
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  Speaker 10: leadership road. I can hear you saying, what accept responsibility
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  Speaker 10: for someone else's mess ups? Why would I want to
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  Speaker 10: do something like that? Well, that's a fair enough question,
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  Speaker 10: and over the next few minutes I'll try to answer it.
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  Speaker 1: One of my weak points in my personal life is
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  Speaker 1: I don't like technical stuff. So even though I have
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  Speaker 1: to be on Twitter and Instagram and Facebook, I don't
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  Speaker 1: care for that. So guess what, I find somebody who
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  Speaker 1: loves to do that. You know, I find somebody who
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  Speaker 1: has a strength where I have a weakness, and I
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  Speaker 1: partner with them. All you're trying to do is get
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  Speaker 1: to the goal. No one gets there by themselves. Everybody
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  Speaker 1: needs help. Now, when you know what you got going for,
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  Speaker 1: you be confident, not cocky, managing your strengths, knowing what
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  Speaker 1: they are and don't let nobody talk you out of it,
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  Speaker 1: and that gets your fight ready.
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  Speaker 3: You get fight ready like that.
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  Speaker 1: You got to know you helps you develop your skills.
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  Speaker 1: All the while you're developing your strength, not you just
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  Speaker 1: got to keep developing the strength.
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  Speaker 6: Don't nobody talk you.
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  Speaker 1: At the same time, you must work on improving your weaknesses.
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  Speaker 1: So I've had to, in spite of myself, get on Instagram,
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  Speaker 1: get on Twitter, get on Facebook. I got to do
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  Speaker 1: the videos whether I want to or not, because the
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  Speaker 1: world is moving to social media. If I had as
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  Speaker 1: many followers as Kim Kardashian, I probably wouldn't even have
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  Speaker 1: to do this TV show.
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  Speaker 10: During the years when professional basketball was just beginning to
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  Speaker 10: become really popular, Bill Russell, who played center for the
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  Speaker 10: Boston Celtics, was one of the greatest players in the
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  Speaker 10: Pro League. He was especially known for his rebounding and
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  Speaker 10: his defensive SKUs, but like a lot of very tall centers,
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  Speaker 10: Russell was never much of a free throw shooter. His
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  Speaker 10: free throw percentage was quite a bit below average, in fact,
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  Speaker 10: but this low percentage didn't really give a clear picture
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  Speaker 10: of Russell's ability as an athlete, and in one game
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  Speaker 10: he gave a very convincing demonstration of this. It was
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  Speaker 10: the final game of a championship series between Boston and
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  Speaker 10: the Los Angeles Lakers. With about two twelve seconds left
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  Speaker 10: to play, the Lakers were behind by one point and
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  Speaker 10: Boston had the ball. It was obvious that the Lakers
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  Speaker 10: would have to foul one of Boston's players in order
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  Speaker 10: to get the ball back, and they chose to foul
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  Speaker 10: Bill Russell. This was a perfectly logical choice, since statistically
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  Speaker 10: Russell was the worst free throw shooter on the court
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  Speaker 10: at that moment. If he missed the shot, the Lakers
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  Speaker 10: would probably get the ball back and they'd still have
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  Speaker 10: enough time to try to win the game. But if
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  Speaker 10: Russell made his first free throw, the Lakers' chances would
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  Speaker 10: be seriously diminished, and if he made both shots, the
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  Speaker 10: game would essentially be over. Bill Russell had a very
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  Speaker 10: peculiar style of shooting free throws. Today, no self respecting
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  Speaker 10: basketball player anywhere in America would attempt it. Aside from
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  Speaker 10: the question of whether it's an effective way to shoot
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  Speaker 10: a bass, it just looked too ridiculous. Whenever he had
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  Speaker 10: to shoot a free throw, the six foot eleven Russell
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  Speaker 10: would start off holding the ball in both hands about
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  Speaker 10: waist high. Then he'd squat down, and as he straightened up,
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  Speaker 10: he'd let go of the ball. It looked like he
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  Speaker 10: was trying to throw a bucket of dirt. Over a wall.
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  Speaker 10: But regardless of how he looked, as soon as Bill
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  Speaker 10: Russell was fouled, he knew the Celtics were going to
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  Speaker 10: win the game. He was absolutely certain of it because
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  Speaker 10: in a situation like this, statistics and percentages mean nothing.
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  Speaker 10: There was a much more important factor at work, something
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  Speaker 10: that no one has found a way to express in
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  Speaker 10: numbers and decimal points. Simply put, Bill Russell was a
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  Speaker 10: player who wanted to take responsibility for the success or
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  Speaker 10: failure of his team. He wanted the weight on his
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  Speaker 10: shoulders in a situation like this, No possibility for excuses,
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  Speaker 10: no possibility of blaming anyone else if the game was lost,
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  Speaker 10: no second guessing. Bill Russell wanted the ball in his
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  Speaker 10: own hands and nobody else's, and like magic, even if
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  Speaker 10: he'd missed every free throw he'd ever shot in his
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  Speaker 10: life before this, he knew he was going to make
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  Speaker 10: this one. And that is exactly what happened. That is
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  Speaker 10: what virtually always happens when a man or woman accepts
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  Speaker 10: responsibility eagerly and with counties