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From Darkness to Light: Turning Confusion, Division, and Delay Into Momentum (S5) S5:E1 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hey everyone, it is John C.
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Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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I think sometimes we don't realize where we're
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going or what we're doing.
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I think sometimes that can happen for a
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lot of people and it gets people stuck,
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right?
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So when we think about this, a lot
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of times people be like, oh my gosh,
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how do I do this?
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How do I not do this?
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And I think it comes down to some
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questions of what I do, what I say,
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right?
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And that's important, right?
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Or less.
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Because if you don't understand these things, then
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what can happen, ladies and gentlemen, you can
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actually cause yourself to get into this, well,
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you can get yourself into this state where
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you basically get frustrated.
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And nobody really wants to get frustrated, but
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it happens because maybe you're not going the
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direction you want to go right now or
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something like that.
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So that is really the most important thing
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that I can say to all of you
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guys, because I know a lot of you
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want to be successful.
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I know a lot of you get, how
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can I say, you get a little bit
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frustrated because you're not where you want to
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be right now.
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But that does not mean you should give
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up, guys.
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Absolutely not.
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It does not mean you should give up.
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So I think that's important to understand.
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And we have to keep on this journey.
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And a lot of people say to me,
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John, what is the journey?
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And maybe you're saying to me, John, I
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get it.
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But then again, I don't get it, right?
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And so by the way, you're tuned into
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the Inspirations for Your Life show.
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We're the Daily Motivational Show.
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And I'm all about turning confusion into clarity,
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division into direction, and delay into forward momentum.
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I'm your host, as I said.
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And it is a privilege to be with
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all of you and to mentor all of
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you here.
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This week's master topic is a very good
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one.
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And it is In From the Darkness to
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Light, Turning Confusion, Division, and Delay into Momentum.
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By the way, this is series five.
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That means we're on the air, our fifth
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year.
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This is show number five.
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And yes, guys, it is episode number one.
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So a lot of great stuff here coming
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for you guys as we're diving things up
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in the real world.
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And this sounds like science, doesn't it?
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Or science fiction, tiny ocean robots deliberately make
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changes.
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But how do we make changes in our
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life?
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I think these are the things that a
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lot of people, you know, I just think
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people just don't get, you know, what this
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stuff means.
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And so what I want to say to
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you is that it's about who we are
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in life, okay?
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What we're doing in life each day.
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And so when we think more about this
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concept, when we think about how people are
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in life, and we think about, you know,
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where somebody is today, or maybe where they
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are tomorrow.
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And so I know it can get frustrating,
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because you're like, hey, John, I tried to
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do this, I tried to do that, right?
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So when I talk about darkness to light,
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because that's what this whole week is about.
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A lot of times we see things as
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a darkness, you know, and we don't realize
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that there is a light at the end
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of the tunnel.
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Once we start to know and believe there's
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a light at the end of the tunnel,
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it doesn't seem like we're in darkness very
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long.
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It doesn't even seem like we're in darkness
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at all, because we're actually starting to realize
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or have that what I'll call that epiphany
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moment, right?
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That epiphany moment.
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The one where like, oh, yeah, I get
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it.
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Now I know what you're talking about.
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Now I know what you're doing.
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That's very important.
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And so that's an important thing for a
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lot of us to realize or to understand,
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is that where we are right now is
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something that many people just don't get.
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You know, you start one way, and then
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you come back and it's like, oh, my
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gosh, what am I supposed to do, right,
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what?
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And the what comes out because, like I
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said, you get frustrated.
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So we think about darkness, darkness and light
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and those kind of things.
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I think what happens is we just kind
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of go on this epiphany moment, an epiphany
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moment.
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So thinking about that epiphany moment and things
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like your point of view, right, things like
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knowing that we've all walked in darkness before,
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right?
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And so what I want to say to
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you is that when you walk in darkness,
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you actually get in light eventually, but it
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doesn't happen overnight and people get frustrated.
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I get this every day.
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I know that sometimes you do something like,
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oh, my gosh, like, I don't know what
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I'm supposed to do.
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I don't know where I'm supposed to be.
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I don't know how I'm supposed to do
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it.
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All I know is I'm getting extremely frustrated.
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And so when you get frustrated about something,
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it's like, oh, my gosh, like, what do
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you do?
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And I think that comes down to a
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big challenge.
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And the challenge is this.
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It's our perspective.
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It's how we look at something in our
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lives.
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That's right, guys, how we look at something
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in our lives.
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And that's something I think that is very,
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very important to understand.
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Perspectives, right?
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Perspectives, think of perspectives like a piece of
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fruit, right?
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There's many parts to a piece of fruit.
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You might say there's just a few sides,
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but really there's a lot to the composition
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of an apple or a piece of fruit
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because you got one layer, you got another
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layer.
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There are many different layers and many different
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ways for combinations.
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There's billions of them if you think about
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how many there could be on a piece
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of fruit.
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And so when we think about this and
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we think about where we are in life
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at the moment, it's like, oh, my gosh,
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like, where am I supposed to go?
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What am I supposed to do?
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And the what comes out to be like,
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I don't know.
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It comes out to say to me, John,
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I know that I want to do this,
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but for some reason I just don't feel
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qualified.
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Well, that's a feeling, guys.
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If you don't feel qualified, how can you
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ever move past something, right?
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How can you ever move past something if
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you're not feeling qualified?
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A lot of this is the feel, right?
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And if we can't feel something, how do
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we move on?
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But we don't.
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We stay stuck in that pattern that we're
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in right now.
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We stay stuck in that pattern.
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And that pattern is something, guys, that I
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feel a lot of us just want to
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sometimes get rid of.
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We don't want to be in that pattern
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anymore.
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And it's nothing to be scared about.
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It's just that we need to understand why
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we are not going forward.
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And it's not the reason you think, guys.
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It's not the reason you think.
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It's having to do with our mindset.
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And our mindset is actually, well, running the
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program, running the software that controls our hardware,
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which is our body.
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You might say, John, well, that's crazy.
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Well, if you think it's crazy, think about
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where you are right now, OK?
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Think about all the thoughts that you've had
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recently, OK?
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Better yet, tomorrow or later today, take a
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piece of paper or take a journal and
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start writing down when you notice you're saying
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everything, good or bad.
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And now when you get that, you're like,
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oh, wait a minute.
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I really do have negative self-talk going
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on.
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When people deny it so strongly, I can
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almost pinpoint and say, yes, you've got negative
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self-talk.
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I mean, it's like without a doubt that
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you've got negative self-talk.
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And that's a very, very important thing.
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And I think we have to embrace this
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as people, people because negative self-talk happens.
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I'll tell you why.
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It happens because of a state we're in.
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Now, a wise person once shared with me
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in my NLP training is that the map,
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ladies and gentlemen, is not the territory, huh?
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So the map, what we think something represents
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is not really what it represents.
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All right, John, you're really losing me, OK?
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I'll try to make this easy.
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So let's say, for example, you're having a
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challenge with something in your life.
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Doesn't matter what it is.
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Could be a relationship, could be money, whatever.
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I want you to think about where that
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challenge resides in your body.
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Is it in your heart?
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Where do you feel the sensation when you
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think about it, OK?
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Now that you've located, it could be your
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arm, could be your head, could be your
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leg, anywhere.
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Where do you feel it?
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Usually in your chest or something.
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And what color can you assign to that?
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Can you get a smell from it?
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Can you get a size?
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What shape is that color?
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Is that color the same size right now?
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Has it gotten any smaller from when we
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started?
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Or is it something you can't quite put
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your finger on?
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And I say that because it means we're
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not tuned into our bodies enough.
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When we tune into our bodies, there is
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so much endless potential.
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But a lot of us say, oh, you
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know what?
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I'm not going to do that.
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I'm not going to do that.
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Fine, don't do that, OK?
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But when you don't do something, you change
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who you are.
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You change a perception.
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You change a belief in your life.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people, for whatever reason, just don't understand
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why that is.
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But it's truth.
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And truth happens because of things in our
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life.
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You may not agree with something.
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I've always said to people, it's OK to
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agree to disagree.
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And that's one of the most respectable ways
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that you can actually decide to have a
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polite disagreeing with someone is to agree to
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disagree.
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You're like, OK, I'm going to agree to
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disagree.
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And I'm like, huh?
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So what that really means is I hear
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what you're saying, all right?
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I understand what you're saying, and I respect
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it.
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And also, I don't believe that.
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I don't agree with that on my end.
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But I respect the fact that you think
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that's the way it is.
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And it's OK.
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Everyone's entitled to have their own opinions, their
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own comments, and in addition to comments, their
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own way of being.
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And you may be saying to me, John,
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being?
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I'm lost.
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All right, everyone in the world is here,
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right?
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We see, we hear, we touch, we taste,
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right?
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And we're all grateful for those gifts that
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we have, because some people can't do those
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things.
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If you were to just take your hand
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for a moment.
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Now, if you're driving, don't do this.
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Can you right now, if I tell you
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to focus on your hand, can you feel
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the sensation of maybe the blood going through
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your hand?
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Can you feel that?
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If you focus on it, I can even
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feel it in my thumb.
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I can concentrate.
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Without even looking, I just can concentrate, holding
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my hand just like this.
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I can feel the blood going up and
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down my fingers.
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I can feel it, how it's traveling.
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And that's wild, right?
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What if I take my other hand?
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I do the same thing.
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I'll put that hand down, hands up.
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And I can feel the flow.
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Now, if I focus, maybe I'll focus more
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on my elbow.
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Let me focus on my elbow, OK?
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I can actually feel the sensation of the
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blood in my elbow.
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Let's now take the back of our neck,
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all right?
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Take the back of our neck.
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Again, if you're driving, don't do this.
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And I can feel the sensation of blood
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moving through my neck.
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That's wild, guys.
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So that tells me something.
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It tells me that our body gives us
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a lot of feedback, but we just do
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not pay attention to this feedback.
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Why?
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Well, I'll tell you why.
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That big capital word, capital E, capital G,
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capital O, ego.
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Yes, we need to let go of the
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ego.
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I always say to people, we need to
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have the ego stopped at the door.
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See, people think their ego is all there
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is.
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But ego is all they've learned.
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Ego does not allow you to interact with
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other people.
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Egos don't allow you to move ahead.
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Egos cause you to stay stuck.
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That's right, guys, to stay stuck.
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And I think that's a big challenge for
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a lot of people.
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It's like, well, they don't want to be
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stuck, right?
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But they are stuck.
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They're stuck.
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And the hardest thing about being stuck is
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not knowing how to get unstuck.
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I said before, if you're not part of
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the solution, you're part of the problem.
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You might say, well, John, I have nothing
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to do with that.
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Exactly.
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But the moment you start thinking of that
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issue and you can't be a solution, then
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you are part of the problem.
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I know that's wild.
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Think about this for a moment.
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Now, I'm not going to turn the lights
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off here, obviously, being in the studio.
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But if you turn the lights off, again,
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not while you're driving, you're going to notice
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that maybe the atmosphere is different.
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Maybe your sound resonates differently to your ears.
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Maybe the way your eyes and your pupils
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are dilated are different because it's dark.
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They're going to open up more.
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So we think about darkness to light.
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A lot of us think about a tunnel,
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right?
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There's a light at the end of the
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tunnel.
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So if we start at a tunnel, and
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the tunnel is very dark, and if we
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look and we see it's dark, but maybe
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if we focus, we can just see a
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very tiny minuscule light.
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Now, if it's a long tunnel, we're not
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going to see that light for a while.
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But the belief that we're going to have
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a light at the end of the tunnel
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is what keeps us in our momentum to
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keep walking, driving, or pushing forward.
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Darkness can become light, like that.
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And light can become darkness, like that.
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A subtle shift in our perception, a subtle
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shift in our perception will actually alter our
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reality.
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That's a huge, huge thing, guys.
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I mean, it's very, very, very huge.
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If you think about perceptions, let's do this
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for a moment.
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Maybe you've gone to a store recently, right?
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And maybe there were some things on display
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that you really liked because of your perceptions
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and things like that.
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Maybe there's other things you're like, oh, I
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wouldn't be caught whatever buying that, right?
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Your perception.
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Now, let's say somebody was there, maybe it
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was a celebrity, and they were like, oh,
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this is the greatest thing, and they're using
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it, and you're seeing them do all this.
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You're like, oh, I got to have one
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of those.
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But you just said before that you couldn't
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be caught having that.
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And now you're like, well, if that person
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has it, I mean, I'm sure I can
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have it.
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You see how that subtle change affected who
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you are?
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It affected your outcome.
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It affected your actions.
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Actions are power, guys.
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Thoughts are great.
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I love thoughts.
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But thoughts without momentum are dead.
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Darkness to light.
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Darkness to light.
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That's powerful, guys.
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Walking in darkness versus walking in light.
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When you have that aha moment, it's like,
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oh, yeah, I get it.
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I get it.
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And we're going to talk more about walking
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in darkness tomorrow as well.
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But it's our perspective.
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It's our understanding.
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And our perspective can shift a complete 180
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if we pay attention to something else.
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I'm going to give you an example.
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I remember the first time I went on
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a roller coaster.
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It was actually a steel coaster at Great
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Adventure in New Jersey.
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And the ride was actually Batman.
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I remember doing all of the research and
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even meeting the engineers that actually help keep
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the ride running every day.
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They have a lot of tests they have
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to do.
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And even ride the ride.
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And if you let your mind go all
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over the place, you can really get scared.
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But if you focus on one thing, because
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getting on that ride was interesting.
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And standing up.
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And that's how this ride went.
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I believe this was a stand-up ride.
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Oh, actually, you had this.
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Actually, no.
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This was a stand-up ride.
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You were in a position.
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You were in a seat.
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But your legs were dangling when they dropped
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the floor.
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And I knew there were turns.
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There was a lot of things.
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But I said, how can I preoccupy myself
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so that I can enjoy the ride without
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stressing about different things coming up?
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And just enjoy its beauty and its grandeur.
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So I got the idea.
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There's a screw right in front of me,
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a little bolt.
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I'm going to keep my eyes focused on
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that bolt the entire time.
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And you know what happened?
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I started focusing on that bolt.
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I focused on it very lightly, nothing crazy.
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And I kept focusing on it.
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And the ride was amazing.
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I just kept my eyes focused on that
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bolt.
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And before I knew it, guys, the ride
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was over.
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Many times, people look too far.
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They look past the tunnel, when all we
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need to do is just look outside the
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tunnel.
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That's a huge thing, guys.
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If you look too far ahead, you miss
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what's going to motivate you and, let's say,
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wind you up to go further.
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If you miss that, I'll call it a
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checkpoint.
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You know what happened after I got off
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that roller coaster?
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A friend of mine said, let's go on
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another roller coaster.
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You know what we went on next?
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The Great American Scream Machine.
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It's not around anymore.
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I still remember to this day, my friend
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and I, we got on this ride.
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And you get all fastened in.
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And then you're waiting.
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And then there's the treachery of going up
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that big incline.
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And you're getting very nervous.
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And then you know there has to be
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a release.
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And there is.
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And it went into several spirals.
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And right after we came out of the
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second spiral, guess what they did?
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They took a picture.
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And it was quite funny.
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My hair was a mess, right?
24:02
I mean, in that position where they took
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the picture.
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It was a perspective.
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But it also taught me that roller coasters
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aren't that bad.
24:11
Roller coasters can be fun.
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So things in our life that we may
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have feared can actually be growth.
24:18
Roller coaster was emotionally uncomfortable at first.
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But after I let go and I just
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went with it, I actually enjoyed the roller
24:28
coaster.
24:28
It was a tremendous feeling, big rush.
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And so now when I take any ride,
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I try to embrace and let go.
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Now, of course, there's some rides I will
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knock it on because they're just not constructed
24:50
very well, especially some of the ones that
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these rolling temporary circus and carnivals that come
24:58
by.
24:59
They put the ride together with some bolts.
25:02
But I just never trust that they're going
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to be that well.
25:06
If we think about a perspective, as we
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talked about before from a camera or in
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the perspective of this water bottle, the perspective
25:17
of this water bottle right now is clear.
25:20
When I pick it up, my perception of
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it being clear is there.
25:26
But that's not what comes front and center
25:30
on stage.
25:31
You know what comes front and center?
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The attribute that the water has a little
25:37
bit of a cool feeling to it when
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I hold the bottle.
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That's very important.
25:45
I also take note of the plastic straw.
25:48
And then as I move the bottle around,
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I take note of how the water kind
25:52
of warbles around it.
25:56
When I actually take the bottle and I
25:58
put it to my mouth, a couple things
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happen.
26:01
I notice the sensation of the plastic where
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the water would come out of.
26:07
And I feel sensations in my mouth and
26:12
throat.
26:13
But I also hear it even before it
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fully gets in my mouth.
26:22
Those perceptions allow us to enjoy or de
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-enjoy an experience.
26:29
But sometimes we don't enjoy something because we
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haven't taken the time to enjoy the beauty
26:36
of the setup, right?
26:40
You go to a play.
26:43
And maybe you're not enjoying one of the
26:49
acts because maybe you're not taking in the
26:52
perception of the costumes, the tonality of the
26:56
actors, the skill of the actors, maybe the
27:01
dance of the actors.
27:02
Pretty cool.
27:04
We're going to have fun this week.
27:04
Guys, with darkness to light, I am John
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C.
27:09
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
27:10
You know, it's always such a privilege.
27:12
It is such a pleasure.
27:14
And it is always such an honor to
27:16
be with all of you here on the
27:18
Inspirations for Your Life show.
27:19
And I don't know if you guys know,
27:21
we are celebrating four years being on the
27:23
air.
27:24
And this is our fifth year that we've
27:28
started being on the air.
27:29
We're at our 24th day of the fifth
27:30
year.
27:31
Wow.
27:32
Yay.
27:35
When I started this show and the other
27:36
show, I never had dreamt we'd be in
27:39
five years.
27:41
But it's a milestone, and I'm very grateful
27:43
for it.
27:44
I'm grateful for all of you that decide
27:46
to watch the show or listen to the
27:48
show and share it with your friends and
27:49
colleagues.
27:50
And for you visiting BelieveMeAchieved.com, I hope
27:53
you guys have a great day or great
27:54
evening, and I'm going to catch you real
27:56
soon.
27:56
Be well, everyone.
27:57
And remember, darkness to light.
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Let's make it reality.