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An Injection of Gratitude for Overwhelming Thoughts · Groove with Portia

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  Welcome to Group Porsche, a space for individuals to share how they found their
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  group through moments of adversity. I am your host, Porsche Book are better
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  known as Porsche the producer. Thank you for joining me. Let's die in.
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  Hey guys, it's Porsche. I wanted to hop on here really fast
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  and just connect with all of you. There's something that crossed my heart and
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  I wanted to share with all of you. As always, before we begin
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  these conversations, I have to start off with gratitude. So I spend my
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  gratitude wheel and the letter that it landed on today was the letter O so
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  o as in oscar o, as in obstacle, oh, as in October,
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  oh, as an opposition all those things, right, But I want
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  to really focus on the word overwhelm. Let me say that again. I
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  want to focus on the word overwhelm. Have any of you felt overwhelmed lately
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  with all of the integration of AI, the demand for social media, those
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  of you who are entrepreneurs, with all of the constant changes of the algorithms
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  on all the different platforms, anybody else feeling just overwhelmed in every direction?
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  I have to admit that I've been feeling overwhelmed for the last year. I
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  mean, we are coming up on a year of my mom making her transition,
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  and I have to be realistic and honest that I don't remember before my
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  mom making her transition and also now my father, of feeling this overwhelmed where
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  I almost feel paralyzed. Can anybody else relate to that? Where you feel
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  a little paralyzed because you're so overwhelmed. There's always something to do, there's
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  always another task that needs your attention, or a social engagement that you should
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  embark on. All the things right, But I have to say that I'm
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  truly grateful for feeling overwhelmed right. As always whenever I look at life right,
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  I have a very unique way of looking at things. And I have
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  to say that my feeling of overwhelmed has truly been a journey, and also
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  it's really helped me in the last couple of weeks to really reconnect with myself
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  and push myself beyond my norm. So I want to share a little story
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  with all of you today. Now, those of you who know I still
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  produce shows, podcasts, all those things. Now, I have to admit
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  video editing, video production, that's nothing to me almost. I mean sometimes
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  I still have to look up little things on YouTube if I'm not sure how
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  to do a particular function. I mean, YouTube University is the best,
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  right all of us who utilize the platform for various reasons. It's the best
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  thing since slight spread. Now I have to admit that, even though video
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  editing is nothing to me, I have to be honest that something that I've
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  always somewhat struggled with is creating flyers. Now, some of you might sit
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  here and be like, well, Porscha, you can do video editing like
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  it's nobody's business, But how come a flyer can be such a struggle for
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  you? Well, I think, for one, I tend to overthink number
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  two. I feel like at times when I've had to create flyers, I've
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  tried to, in my mind make them so perfect. But what I've realized
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  is simplistic is the best option. Simple is more, Less is more.
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  So. Sometimes when you have all these ideas of having all these different decos
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  or flowers or all these extra little things on a flyer that really don't need
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  to be there, it tends to cloud I think at times the actual message
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  that you're trying to deliver well, one of my good friends put me to
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  the task of creating a flyer for a corporation, and I have to be
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  honest, I was a little hesitant when the opportunity fell into my lap,
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  and I said, well, what's the hurt, right, Let's just give
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  ourselves a try and just take a stab at it. Why be honest,
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  y'all. I felt overwhelmed when I reached a point in creating this flyer where
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  it just was not coming out the way that I wanted to. Now,
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  those of you who use Canava, Canva has so many rich features if you
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  know how to use them. Canva also has all these different frame templates for
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  photos. Right, if you want to have a picture and a heart frame,
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  or a picture or a polygon frame, or a picture in a more
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  triangular frame, right, Canvas got it all. But this particular flyer that
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  this corporate client wanted, I had to build it from scratch, and I
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  found myself falling into this trap in my mind of oh, it's not perfect.
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  It has to be perfect. You have to. If it doesn't turn
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  out exactly the way they wanted, they're gonna blast you all over the world
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  in a bad light. So all the negative things right. But what I
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  had to do, you guys, is I had to what I call take
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  control of the situation. And what I mean by that is I had to
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  be mindful of the thoughts that were permeating my entire mind and brain that was
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  literally forcing me to shut down. It was literally almost like I was kneeling
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  myself to my own cross because of the intrusive thoughts of my inner critic.
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  So what I had to do to work through this feeling of overwhelmed from trying
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  to make this flier exactly perfect is number one. I had to take a
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  moment to breathe. Anybody else noticed when you're getting really stressed or tense,
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  your breath starts to shallow. You're not breathing taking deeper breaths in through your
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  nose, out through your mouth, like you're not taking those types of breath,
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  and then when you actually do, it's almost like there's a blockage.
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  Right. So I had to take a minute to take several deep breaths in
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  between working. The next thing I had to do was I had to just
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  take a walk. I closed my computer down and I said, let me
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  just take a walk around the block with the dog and just get my blood
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  circulating right, get some other thoughts in my brain, focus on the task
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  at hand. So I'm diverting my focus from this flyer and putting it towards
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  the task of walking my dog, mister Fletcher. And while I was walking
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  him around the block, I took a moment to express gratitude. I was
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  thankful for the task at hand. I was thankful for the challenge that had
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  been put beforeming. But I was also thankful for the fact that I had
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  an option right, that I was given an opportunity, and the fact that
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  even though this corporation didn't exactly give me a quote unquote deadline, I knew
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  that I wanted it to get to them a sap to meet their debtline for
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  their event. And so when I came back to the house, I worked
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  on a little more, worked on it for another hour, and I just
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  had to call it quits for the day. You guys, I literally had
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  to call it quits because I reached a point where I was so frustrated at
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  number one, the fact that the flyer idea was not coming out from my
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  brain the way that I wanted it to on paper. So I said,
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  let me sleep on it. Let me just sleep on it for the day,
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  Paul's all the rest of my work for the day, and try again
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  later. Well, those of you who know, I still wake up between
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  three and four in the morning. And I have to admit, even though
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  I went to bed a little late that night, around eleven or twelve o'clock
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  and I woke back up at two. When I woke back up at two,
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  that two hours of sleep that I did get gave me an opportunity to
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  rest. It gave me an opportunity to just stop everything that I was thinking
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  about, all the stress, all the worry, and really give myself a
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  moment to rejuvenate some new ideas on tackling this task. So when I got
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  up at two, I turned on my laptop in my bed and I said,
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  let me take one more stab at this task before me of this flyer
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  and you guys, I have to say, I'm proud of myself because number
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  one, I was afraid of it not being perfect. I was afraid of
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  showing quote unquote and imperfection. But let's be honest, we're all perfectly imperfect.
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  I'm saying again, we are all perfectly imperfect. And when I gave
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  myself permission to realize that I don't need to be perfect what is perfect.
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  I gave myself permission to give it my all, to think outside the box,
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  to tackle the task at hand, to create this flyer with not a
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  whole bunch of direction, but give it my own creative flare along with deliver
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  bring the message for this corporate client. And I let my hands roll,
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  I let my brain just go with the flow of how things were moving.
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  So from two in the morning until six am, I worked on that flyer
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  and I completed the task. So I decided to email it to the corporate
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  client. I was surprised that early that morning I got a response back from
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  them saying, this is amazing. Thank you so much. You saved the
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  day. And I'm grateful that even though I was stressed out to get this
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  task, this flyer done for this corporate client, I'm grateful that I gave
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  myself permission to step out of my comfort zone. Right. And this is
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  where I say again that I'm grateful for feeling overwhelmed right, because that overwhelmed
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  feeling Number one reminded me to incorporate self care when I'm tackling a task.
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  Number two it reminded me to take little breaks. Right. Rome wasn't built
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  in a day, The world wasn't created a day, right, And I
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  think we have to remember that when we are embarking on whatever journey that we
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  are on in this life. Right. Some of us who are entrepreneurs,
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  some of us who are beginning school, some of us who are writing our
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  first book, maybe our second book, our third book. We get overwhelmed
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  because of all the demand, all the things. Right, But I think
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  if we remember to tackle or take each task one baby step, I'm gonna
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  say again, one baby step at a time, and allowing ourselves to fall
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  into that rut a little bit, right, Because if I didn't recognize the
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  feeling of overwhelm and give myself time to take those breaks, breathe, take
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  my walks, sleep, I wouldn't be able to really explain and express to
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  each and every one of you that this feeling was worth it. It was
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  so worth it because I learned so much about myself. We are all resilient
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  creatures, right, We're all very resilient, and I think the feeling of
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  overwhelm is a good thing as long as we're able to Number one, take
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  a moment to breathe. Number two, give ourselves permission to take a break
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  or meditate, rest, whatever that might be. And then number three,
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  take a different approach. When I gave myself permission to take a different approach
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  than what I normally would do, I found myself going with the current instead
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  of against the current of my way of trying to always do things right.
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  The same growing foot is not going to fit in the same size nine shoe
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  forever. Right, We're all expanding and growing in our own way, So
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  why not give ourselves that same level of openness and grace when we are putting
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  ourselves to a new task that may feel a little overwhelming. Okay, I
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  wanted to share that story with all of you really fast, because I know
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  that feeling overwhelmed seems to be a trend right now in a reoccurring theme amongst
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  me and some of my fellow entrepreneur friends. And I just want each and
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  every one of you to just remember that you can take control. You can
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  take control of the situation, Take control of your mind. Do it.
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  Number one, Take deep breaths. Take deep breaths. Number two, right,
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  give yourself permission to take a break from the task. And revisit it,
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  maybe in an hour, maybe another day, depending on what your deadline
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  is. Right, number three, make sure that you rest, meditate,
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  And then number four take a different approach, right and cut yourself some slack.
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  But number four, I gotta really leave this with all of you today,
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  right when you're really passionate about getting something done right, I always remember
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  why you began it. When you're embarking on whatever this task might be,
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  that you're feeling overwhelmed, Remember that Rome was not built in a day,
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  just like you didn't learn how to walk the minute that you came out the
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  womb. So give yourself some grace during this period and use that overwhelming feeling
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  to your advantage. Okay, all right, y'all, I'm about to hop
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  off of here. I just wanted to connect with all of you really fast.
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  I hope that you're all doing well. Love you lots, piece of
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  hair, greased guys. I'm portunately the producer