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#34 - A Mini Solo Episode: Showing Up When Life Gets Messy · Being Different Together

• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Being Different Together, the podcast for people who want to make the world a better place, but no, they can't do it alone.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_01: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_01: Kelly Brady, acupuncturist, psychotherapist, and certified dialogue therapist.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm Nissa Hanger, massage therapist, aromatherapist, coach, and real dialogue specialist.
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  SPEAKER_01: Together we'll explore how conversations can improve relationships, make work more joyful, and spark healing for ourselves and our communities.
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  SPEAKER_00: And listen, we don't shy away from the hard conversations.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, we welcome them.
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  SPEAKER_01: This isn't about being right.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's about being different.
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  SPEAKER_01: Together.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: Aww.
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  SPEAKER_00: Together.
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_00: I had to say it this time.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: Uh if this is your first episode, um, I want you to just skip on through to another episode because this is a very, very different episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am doing this episode solo today.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so Kelly is here with me in spirit, um, and she is not happy that this is where this is landed, but also it's okay.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: Um, she just wanted to say for the record that she don't like it, that I'm recording this by myself, and it's not because it it's circumstances, it's not anything else.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, let me explain to y'all what what happened.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, y'all, we did an episode maybe about two, I think two episodes ago, we talked about this whole um idea of being in the trenches and how sometimes in your life you're just you're just in the trenches.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, you know, my friends, we did not know that the trenches were getting deeper.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: Um I don't know if you can hear that right now, but uh we are currently uh getting our floors done.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you've been listening to this for a while, you know that we are in the process of building an edition.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: And for the most part, um I'm actually recording this right now in the edition.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we have got a room that was that was at one time no longer not not no longer, but at one time was not a part of this house.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now it is here, at least in in almost completion, but we have got AC, thank goodness.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have got flooring, we have got walls, we have got windows, we have got tile.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't see any of the tile because we have had to use this room as a storage space to put all the other things from the other half of the house.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, um maybe about a couple weeks ago we had the other half of the floors done, um, which uh was just so much easier than this phase.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, that doesn't even have to do with why I mean let me back up as to why I am just doing this um episode solo this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um we went to record um on Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today is Tuesday, so however many days ago that was on Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's usually our recording day, or usually, you know, the week before the episode drops, we record that episode.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: This is when I'm like, man, it would have been nice to have a couple more in the can, but that's okay.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_00: You know, maybe we'll get there, maybe not.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: We have figured it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: We go to record on Thursday morning, and the construction crew that was scheduled to show up on Friday morning showed up, and um we're starting some um next level.
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  SPEAKER_00: For me, it felt next level the work that they were doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Basically, we were having a getting rid of the window in our master bedroom and putting in a door, um, which is great, and I feel so good about it, and I am so I feel so lucky and privileged that I even get to do this work because of how we were able to make this happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but it has been so disruptive and so stressful, and for them to show up a day early, it um flustered me, I think is the right word for it, because my friends, we did sit down and I I I can't say recorded an episode because I did not hit record.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_00: Well, okay, I did hit record.
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  SPEAKER_00: We decide to sit, we decide to, you know, okay, they're gonna go to Home Depot, they're gonna get the stuff, we'll make this happen, we'll record the episode while they're here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: We sit down at the kitchen table, we put in our headphones, I press the record button like I always do because there was that episode.
• 5:13
  SPEAKER_00: I think that it was it was the episode on the bell.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I think that that was episode number 14, is my memory.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but this has happened before, my friends.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: And um, I did hit record, okay, just for the record, I hit record, but the problem is I hit the button a second time by accident, and I did not realize until we were we had already spoken to each other um for about 45 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um and you know, I just looked down to see how much time went by, and I just took my headphones off and I just said, Oh babe, I'm so sorry.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was a really nice episode, and it was really about the edition, which more than likely we will come together, we will be able to um re-record that episode.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: Kelly told this really great story about the Fisher King.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you've never heard that before, just know that that's coming.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure that we will get into that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um, yeah, we really talked about what it what it has been like to go through this process of um building onto our house and doing some home renovation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um yeah, uh, we'll record some version of that for you um in the future.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then we were like, all right, we'll just you know take care of it over the weekend, and the weekend um was sort of one fire we needed to put out after another when it came to um moving everything into this room and making ourselves a makeshift kitchen, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are b basically blocked off from our kitchen, and thankfully there is a way to make it to a bathroom, but it is not in the area of the house that we are staying in.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just want you to imagine camping in your own house.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what we're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh my goodness.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when we realized that there was just too much to handle this weekend, we were like, okay, we'll, you know, record on Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um we just didn't really realize that our schedules would not line up for that.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_00: So we decided to just publish a short episode where because here's the thing, my friends, um, I know that there are those of you that listen to this episode every week, and we didn't want a week to go by without you getting something from us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, though unfortunately this week we are being different apart and not together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but we will come back together next time.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, I just want to kind of recap that I am so grateful we did the intentionality series.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, if you have not finished all of those episodes, just go back and listen to the ones that you missed.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is, I think, about 16 of them or 15 of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, it starts, I think, episode number 15 or 16.
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  SPEAKER_00: We start and we go to episode 30.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyways, so many of those lessons from Uncle Murray have really helped me to uh take the hard things easy, and um, doing it does it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I am doing it right now by talking to myself while the cat swats me with his tail and is trying to telepathically tell me that I should indeed open up this door for him because he should be able to go outside.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not happening, Jack.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, you know, uh I'm trying to think like I I wanted to come in here with some sort of takeaway, and the takeaway that I want to offer for you all is um this idea of like knowing what is important to you.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I know for me when I was faced with this dilemma of what are we gonna do about our podcasts?
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, you know, on the one hand, it's like, well, we could just skip a week.
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  SPEAKER_00: That didn't feel good because I had gone into this year and this project of recording these podcasts with the goal of publishing 50 episodes by the end of the year.
• 9:25
  SPEAKER_00: And to do that, I really need to keep up with the the once a week.
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  SPEAKER_00: So then it's like, okay, well, can I lower the bar on what an episode means?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe an episode is just one of us, and maybe it's a lot shorter.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, okay, you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: We can do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So instead of focusing on what I couldn't do, what wasn't gonna happen, what got messed up.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I did focus on that for a little while, probably longer than I should have, but still got over that and was like, okay, well, how can I make this work?
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  SPEAKER_00: And by knowing that what was most important for me is that something came out today for y'all, I was like, all right, less Omega happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's just a reminder that sometimes things do not go according to plan, and you have the capacity to figure it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, it may not look like it you thought it was gonna look like.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_00: And in fact, when has anything ever looked like what you thought it was gonna look like?
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_00: You know, things there's that whole thing where there's what happens in real life, and then there is what happens in material reality.
• 10:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um, going back to the episode on the moon where we talk a lot about that, how to bring things into material reality, and you know, your intentions, what you plan for, is just really the starting point.
• 10:47
  SPEAKER_00: So uh well, I really miss doing this without my wonderful wife to banter on with.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I'm just gonna leave it at that, and just know that this was a short episode to um wet your whistle between now and next week.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: And just a reminder that if you've missed some other episodes, just go catch up with those.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure that we will have so much more to talk about next week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kelly can tell you her version of the story, and um yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're still listening to my short, shorty episode, I really, really, really appreciate you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um I hope that this has given you just some food for thought for your day, and that, you know, showing up showing up is sometimes just showing up, and that's enough.
• 11:51
  SPEAKER_00: So, on that note, I love you all, and thank you so much for being here, and we will see you here next time on Being Different Together.