Latest / No Dribble / 🚁 Helicopter Parenting, Bleached Chest Hairs, and a VERY Special Guest
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- 0:01Speaker 1: You're listening to a.
- 0:02Speaker 2: D M podcast.
- 0:03Speaker 3: We'll try to keep it as nice as we can,
- 0:05Speaker 3: but you might hear the occasional swear word in No Dribble.
- 0:07Speaker 4: Don't tell Mom?
- 0:21Speaker 3: All right, Hello and welcome back to No Dribble in
- 0:23Speaker 3: this brand new Netball year. I'm Carolyn Swindell, writer and comedian.
- 0:26Speaker 3: I'm in Sydney and very excitingly, I'm in Sydney with
- 0:29Speaker 3: lots of.
- 0:29Speaker 5: People today as always, Pap Coops.
- 0:32Speaker 3: And joining us in Sydney lose. We're all together and
- 0:36Speaker 3: he the first time. Here's the first time, isn't it?
- 0:39Speaker 5: Wow?
- 0:39Speaker 6: We should have streamers and stuff.
- 0:41Speaker 1: We should we should actually just try and do a
- 0:43Speaker 1: good job. Let's let's set the bar.
- 0:46Speaker 3: Chair, come on. But it's even more exciting because we
- 0:50Speaker 3: have an extra special guest today and once again, Pat,
- 0:54Speaker 3: I'm going to ask you to guess who our guest is.
- 0:57Speaker 1: Okay, stop peaking out of your eyemass.
- 1:00Speaker 3: Did a good job last time. Okay, So our special
- 1:03Speaker 3: guest is one hundred and seventy five centimeters tall, shorty, Okay,
- 1:08Speaker 3: what what is an outrage from someone who is one
- 1:11Speaker 3: hundred and fifty nine centimeters were entirely skipping over the
- 1:14Speaker 3: one sixties and you're still saying she's sure. Okay, no,
- 1:17Speaker 3: no guess at this stage. Okay, this person's star signed,
- 1:21Speaker 3: should you follow such things? She is a cancer and
- 1:24Speaker 3: I've given you.
- 1:24Speaker 5: A clue there.
- 1:25Speaker 3: Our special guest is a she.
- 1:27Speaker 2: Oh okay, and do you know what I missed? That took?
- 1:30Speaker 2: No star signs? Don't do it for me?
- 1:32Speaker 3: Well, this is something is This is very interesting because
- 1:34Speaker 3: I actually think the height and this are quite an
- 1:37Speaker 3: interesting disconnect. This person's position of choice when playing netball
- 1:41Speaker 3: wing defence. So a short loser, so a massive team plan. No,
- 1:49Speaker 3: still nothing, no, still nothing. Okay. So when I asked
- 1:53Speaker 3: whether you would prefer a scrunchy or an alice band,
- 1:56Speaker 3: this person said, well, there weren't scrunchies around when I
- 1:58Speaker 3: was at school, so it was just a terrible hairtie. Short,
- 2:01Speaker 3: elderly loser okay, younger than I am, I believe.
- 2:05Speaker 6: So, oh this is real.
- 2:08Speaker 1: You know you've got your eye mask on and you're
- 2:10Speaker 1: going to copy an upper cut, all right.
- 2:14Speaker 3: I suspect you'll get it on this one. So our
- 2:17Speaker 3: special guests drink of choice is either a giant caramel coffee. Oh,
- 2:24Speaker 3: depending on the time of day and the mood, et cetera,
- 2:27Speaker 3: A large glass of rose.
- 2:29Speaker 5: Why isn't always the drinks when I'm the only person
- 2:34Speaker 5: I know that combination is just row It is just right.
- 2:41Speaker 7: And I take back everything now being an old loser,
- 2:47Speaker 7: an old short loser.
- 2:49Speaker 3: I feel like you're being punished for my presence on
- 2:53Speaker 3: this podcast. Actually, so the wing defense is something Catherine
- 2:56Speaker 3: takes particular Umbridge at, but people who are short, I'm sorry,
- 3:00Speaker 3: I feel your pain, Yess.
- 3:01Speaker 1: So Jess, I love a wing defense because the wing
- 3:04Speaker 1: defenders always made the goalkeepers look good. And I feel
- 3:07Speaker 1: like you're very good at that. Did you what other
- 3:09Speaker 1: positions did you play? Talk us through your long and
- 3:11Speaker 1: storyed netball career. Well, I began netball at primary school.
- 3:15Speaker 7: It was the one team sport that girls had at school,
- 3:19Speaker 7: and I was very nervous and shy as a young girl.
- 3:22Speaker 7: And my dad was like, come on, let's sketch you
- 3:25Speaker 7: enrolled in the team. And so wing defense was sort
- 3:29Speaker 7: of the little apron I was given. And I was
- 3:31Speaker 7: very shy, but I would stand away from the ball.
- 3:34Speaker 7: I wasn't very good at going for the ball, and
- 3:37Speaker 7: dad watched a few games and was thinking, oh, no,
- 3:39Speaker 7: this isn't good. So then he would coach me to
- 3:42Speaker 7: sort of go for it, go for the ball. So
- 3:44Speaker 7: then I moved from wing defense, and then I was
- 3:46Speaker 7: wing attack, and then I became center.
- 3:50Speaker 1: Oh so you grew into yourself.
- 3:52Speaker 7: And then I was goal shooter.
- 3:54Speaker 3: Oh sorry, yeah, no.
- 3:56Speaker 5: Sorry Catherine's friend looking at the boss woman that she is.
- 4:01Speaker 2: I had to guess from the start, that's what I
- 4:02Speaker 2: want to say, as you played, and then digging.
- 4:08Speaker 1: Herself out of her You've got so much more work
- 4:12Speaker 1: to do, Coxy. Just one of the reasons why we're
- 4:14Speaker 1: desperate to get you on the podcast, other than the
- 4:16Speaker 1: fact that we love and adore you, is we have
- 4:18Speaker 1: had quite the debate about scrunchy or no scrunchies, and
- 4:22Speaker 1: a lot of our dribblers love scrunchies. Ms Coxy is
- 4:25Speaker 1: not a scrunchier, but she did spend a lot of
- 4:28Speaker 1: her career wearing an Alice band. So you know, you
- 4:30Speaker 1: are an icon of all things fashion, and so would
- 4:33Speaker 1: you say alice spand or scrunchy.
- 4:36Speaker 7: Well, I have short hair, so I don't think either.
- 4:41Speaker 7: Growing up, scrunchies went around and Alice bands weren't a
- 4:45Speaker 7: thing either. So I sort of had an elastic band,
- 4:48Speaker 7: I had a middle part, and i'd have a low
- 4:50Speaker 7: ponytail that was.
- 4:53Speaker 5: That's very trendy, but it wasn't then.
- 4:56Speaker 7: I just I had very thick, long hair and I
- 4:58Speaker 7: just pull it back and there'd be big knots in
- 5:00Speaker 7: the back of it too. And I've got teenage daughters
- 5:04Speaker 7: and they they have actually embraced the scrunchy. They're not
- 5:09Speaker 7: into the alis band and they roll their eyes when
- 5:11Speaker 7: I say, do you know that scrunchies aren't just a
- 5:14Speaker 7: thing for you now? They have been around for quite
- 5:17Speaker 7: some time.
- 5:18Speaker 5: Sorry, I need to stop you. Your daughters are quite stylish,
- 5:20Speaker 5: aren't they.
- 5:21Speaker 1: They are?
- 5:21Speaker 5: And are you saying that they're into the scrunches.
- 5:23Speaker 7: Now, Yes, but it's a thin scrunchy. It's not a
- 5:26Speaker 7: fat scrunchy. And you know they're all into we don't
- 5:30Speaker 7: want to damage here, so they're like silk scrunching.
- 5:33Speaker 3: Given one of those by one of our dribbler it's
- 5:35Speaker 3: a thin set with angela, thank you very much.
- 5:39Speaker 5: Traction alopecia, yes, wonderful traction alopecia.
- 5:43Speaker 7: No, what is all these things? I'm discovering.
- 5:48Speaker 6: Is going to help you.
- 5:49Speaker 7: This isn't dribble. This is in fact no dribble.
- 5:52Speaker 1: Yes, this is no dribble.
- 5:53Speaker 3: Traction alopecia, So this is something I've discovered. I'm a
- 5:56Speaker 3: bit of a Google doctor, so nothing I should say
- 5:58Speaker 3: should be counted as actual medical advice. But traction alopecia
- 6:02Speaker 3: when you put the follicles under stress so constantly, having
- 6:06Speaker 3: it pulled back like that, and then people will have
- 6:08Speaker 3: a march back and at their temples. There happens quite
- 6:12Speaker 3: a lot with African American women too, who have their
- 6:14Speaker 3: hair in braids constantly and it's under stressed. I saw
- 6:17Speaker 3: it on Queer Eye once, and.
- 6:19Speaker 7: And ballerinas would have that too, because I did do
- 6:23Speaker 7: ballet as a little girl, and I see end all
- 6:25Speaker 7: sorts of strife from my ballet teachers because I'd have
- 6:28Speaker 7: a few little bits of hair that would be coming
- 6:30Speaker 7: out from it being pulled back very tightly and in
- 6:33Speaker 7: a bun and it hurts like those clips.
- 6:36Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and you get your perform hair at it
- 6:39Speaker 1: night You're like, oh, this feels so good.
- 6:41Speaker 6: To get this.
- 6:42Speaker 2: As you get older, though, I've noticed that a ponytail
- 6:44Speaker 2: is a good thing, because.
- 6:45Speaker 7: It's like, what's the bowtox? I mean, I do get
- 6:50Speaker 7: the botox anyway, but being you see short hair, I
- 6:53Speaker 7: can't pull it back. But I do find when I
- 6:55Speaker 7: get my hair bleached that that's almost like a mini
- 6:59Speaker 7: face lift because it all do it tingles like a
- 7:02Speaker 7: burn's really bad, and you.
- 7:06Speaker 1: Kind of feel like you.
- 7:07Speaker 6: Leave the salon.
- 7:07Speaker 7: I'm like, oh this is fresh, I'm refreshed, health is burning.
- 7:14Speaker 1: Yeah, I got my neck bleached. Do you think I'd
- 7:16Speaker 1: get a boobleft? I get those chess hairs done?
- 7:28Speaker 4: Oh no.
- 7:29Speaker 3: I do just want to give a very quick history
- 7:32Speaker 3: of the scrunchy because Chess has raised something here. So
- 7:34Speaker 3: the scrunchy was first seen sometime in the nineteen sixties,
- 7:37Speaker 3: but it was actually patented in nineteen eighty seven by
- 7:40Speaker 3: Rommy Hunt Revson who had a fifty dollars sewing machine
- 7:43Speaker 3: and wanted an alternative to There were elastic bands with
- 7:47Speaker 3: like a metal bit on it that would take oh yes,
- 7:50Speaker 3: remember those. Anyway, she went on. She only died quite recently,
- 7:53Speaker 3: but she went on to make a great fortune. Prior
- 7:55Speaker 3: to that, she had been a house sitter in the Hamptons.
- 7:57Speaker 3: Though so is that is that a rich person? Who's
- 7:59Speaker 3: that a poor person? If you're a house sitter in
- 8:01Speaker 3: the Hampton's, you're kind of both right out that you're
- 8:04Speaker 3: a Clayton's rich person. Anyway, Rommy Hunt Revson, three out
- 8:08Speaker 3: of four of us salute you.
- 8:09Speaker 1: Yes, that's true love for that.
- 8:11Speaker 6: Yeah, I just know that Jess is on board. Though
- 8:13Speaker 6: she board, your daughters.
- 8:15Speaker 7: Are, well, yeah they are, but I'm not.
- 8:17Speaker 5: I'm not said she's not.
- 8:19Speaker 1: I'm not a.
- 8:19Speaker 7: Massive Scrunchy fan in I've got shorthand and I have
- 8:24Speaker 7: for thirty years, so I think it's better to have
- 8:28Speaker 7: sort of short hair. And I mean, if you're gonna
- 8:29Speaker 7: pull it back, why not just cut it?
- 8:32Speaker 6: So that just raises a whole lot of others that
- 8:34Speaker 6: puts us out of business.
- 8:35Speaker 1: Yeah, that does.
- 8:36Speaker 3: I don't know what we would talk about on our podcast.
- 8:39Speaker 3: But also I think in a ballet background, you have
- 8:41Speaker 3: a great elegance.
- 8:43Speaker 1: That you have the best, not of anyone that's ever
- 8:44Speaker 1: been on this podcast.
- 8:47Speaker 3: All right, so we'll put you down as a fence
- 8:49Speaker 3: sitter on the Scrunchy.
- 8:51Speaker 1: Do you did your girls play netball?
- 8:53Speaker 7: They didn't they My youngest Gisell plays basketball. You see netball.
- 8:58Speaker 7: It's interesting it wasn't offered for them in primary school,
- 9:02Speaker 7: and then in high school there's a team, but it's
- 9:06Speaker 7: not part of the school. So the girls who are
- 9:08Speaker 7: netballers played outside of school and Allegra does touch footy.
- 9:13Speaker 1: So they both do team sport.
- 9:14Speaker 7: They do great, yeah, which is wonderful, and it's I
- 9:18Speaker 7: look and I really I love seeing them as part
- 9:20Speaker 7: of a team. Whereas for me, I mean, this is ridiculous.
- 9:24Speaker 7: I did netball as a young girl, but then once
- 9:27Speaker 7: I got to high school, it wasn't cool to do
- 9:30Speaker 7: school sport, and so it was cool not to bring
- 9:33Speaker 7: your PA uniform. And I look back now and I
- 9:35Speaker 7: think that is so dumb, daft, really dumb. And so
- 9:39Speaker 7: for us we were like, oh no, we don't want
- 9:41Speaker 7: to be part of a team. And I look back
- 9:43Speaker 7: and I think I wish I did play a team
- 9:45Speaker 7: sport then. So now when I see my girls playing
- 9:47Speaker 7: team sport, I'm like there, I'm one of the vocal
- 9:51Speaker 7: but very supportive parents because I cheer both sides because
- 9:55Speaker 7: I'm like, come on, let's be fair, yay, hooray, that's
- 9:58Speaker 7: all well done, good job.
- 10:00Speaker 1: And Michael's like, oh, mom.
- 10:01Speaker 3: Can you just well, I think the only thing worse
- 10:03Speaker 3: than seeing your own kids team getting thumped is seeing
- 10:06Speaker 3: your kid in a team thumping the other team.
- 10:08Speaker 1: Like it's just it's awful.
- 10:09Speaker 3: It's just it's I don't mean physically thumping, but like
- 10:12Speaker 3: if one team is losing really badly, it's just horrible
- 10:16Speaker 3: to watch because you know those kids are just having
- 10:19Speaker 3: a terrible time and every minute that passes it gets worse.
- 10:22Speaker 1: So yes, yeah, and week in week out you think, oh,
- 10:25Speaker 1: that poor little team. Imagine coaching them and trying to
- 10:28Speaker 1: get them up for every single game.
- 10:32Speaker 5: Lolli's allies will get them up for the game.
- 10:39Speaker 1: Do you just remind him? I had a conversation with
- 10:41Speaker 1: a friend a few years ago and her daughter stopped
- 10:43Speaker 1: playing netball when she was twelve or thirteen, and she's
- 10:45Speaker 1: now an adult, and she she said to him one day,
- 10:48Speaker 1: I wish you had have made me keep playing. And
- 10:50Speaker 1: it's such a hard thing with a parent, is it?
- 10:52Speaker 1: Because you don't want to push your kids to do
- 10:54Speaker 1: things that they don't want to do, But you also
- 10:56Speaker 1: know that playing netball or a team sport is the
- 10:59Speaker 1: absolute best that they can do. Really, all the way
- 11:01Speaker 1: through high school, and she really regretted because her kid,
- 11:05Speaker 1: her daughter was quite athletic and talent her, but she
- 11:07Speaker 1: fell into a crowd where not just netball, but any
- 11:10Speaker 1: sports sweating wasn't cool. And if her daughter had been
- 11:15Speaker 1: a teenager now, when you know you've got the diamonds
- 11:17Speaker 1: and the Matilda's and women's sport is not seen as
- 11:21Speaker 1: an outlier. It's seen as you know, just like everything else,
- 11:24Speaker 1: it would have made it so much easier for her,
- 11:26Speaker 1: and she probably wouldn't have had to push because a
- 11:27Speaker 1: daughter wouldn't have wanted to. And I think that, you know,
- 11:29Speaker 1: if I think back to you when you're a teenager,
- 11:32Speaker 1: imagine it was if it was cool now to have
- 11:34Speaker 1: all these female sporting teams. What a difference that would
- 11:36Speaker 1: have made.
- 11:37Speaker 7: Made a huge difference. I think though, as a parent,
- 11:40Speaker 7: you can't make your kids do anything they don't want
- 11:43Speaker 7: to do, especially once they've become teenagers. You really want
- 11:46Speaker 7: them to be saying, yep, I'm going to do this. Allegra,
- 11:50Speaker 7: who's seventeen, my eldest daughter. She was a fantastic athlete
- 11:55Speaker 7: in the sense of runner, really fast runner and really
- 11:57Speaker 7: good at high jump, and I love seeing her do
- 12:01Speaker 7: that in primary school. But then for her, once high
- 12:04Speaker 7: school hit, COVID hit, so a lot of the competitions
- 12:08Speaker 7: that she was competing in they all stopped. And so
- 12:11Speaker 7: she now looks back, she's in year eleven, and she's like,
- 12:15Speaker 7: I really wish that didn't happen because she was just
- 12:18Speaker 7: starting to kind of get to her stride and go, oh,
- 12:21Speaker 7: I enjoy competing, but then it was sort of taken away.
- 12:24Speaker 7: So I think that's hard for a lot of kids
- 12:27Speaker 7: through COVID that they miss that team sport opportunity or
- 12:31Speaker 7: just competing in any.
- 12:33Speaker 3: Type and even things like choirs like those you know,
- 12:36Speaker 3: the kids who weren't sporting, but those group activities that
- 12:38Speaker 3: they couldn't do. I think the schools are getting better now.
- 12:41Speaker 3: When I was in primary school to high school and
- 12:43Speaker 3: then tried out for the netball team didn't make it.
- 12:45Speaker 3: Now the schools go, we'll have as many teams as
- 12:48Speaker 3: people who show up and want to play, and I
- 12:50Speaker 3: think that's terrific. It's like, you know, let's have the g's,
- 12:53Speaker 3: let's have the h's, and have those kids still playing
- 12:55Speaker 3: because if we lose them, they're gone forever. And I
- 12:57Speaker 3: was it wasn't until I was in my twenties that
- 12:59Speaker 3: I went back to a bit of social netball. And
- 13:01Speaker 3: you know, obviously the netball world didn't miss me terrifically
- 13:04Speaker 3: in that period, but.
- 13:07Speaker 7: But you exactly, you missed it and it brought you
- 13:09Speaker 7: enormous joy. And I think being a part of a team, yes,
- 13:13Speaker 7: and celebrating winds together or what going through tough times,
- 13:17Speaker 7: there is nothing quite like that.
- 13:19Speaker 6: It is the best, isn't it.
- 13:20Speaker 2: But they've also made it more accommodating, I think too,
- 13:23Speaker 2: with the uniforms and with you know, it's not the
- 13:26Speaker 2: body shaming and stuff there was. I remember playing basketball
- 13:29Speaker 2: in high school where you had to wear your single
- 13:31Speaker 2: and your scongies.
- 13:32Speaker 6: Oh that's it.
- 13:34Speaker 5: There was no shorts, no.
- 13:36Speaker 2: Horrendous like I was so horrified, And then you know what,
- 13:39Speaker 2: you're sixteen, You've got a great body.
- 13:41Speaker 6: You just don't think you do it.
- 13:42Speaker 2: At the time, it was horrifying, But now it's so
- 13:44Speaker 2: much easier. There's different options for uniforms for people. If
- 13:47Speaker 2: they want to be covered up, they can be and
- 13:49Speaker 2: then they hopefully play longer.
- 13:50Speaker 3: But this is the beauty of what sport does too
- 13:52Speaker 3: for young women, particularly where for so many years you're
- 13:54Speaker 3: taught to try to be smaller, take up less space,
- 13:57Speaker 3: get skinnier, whatever else. Actually being involved in sport of
- 14:00Speaker 3: any kind makes you go what can my body do
- 14:02Speaker 3: for me? Rather than how do I serve this vessel
- 14:05Speaker 3: that I walk around in that I think is so
- 14:07Speaker 3: repulsive and I just think that's so so sad, But
- 14:10Speaker 3: that sport is the answer.
- 14:12Speaker 1: It is interesting though, and just I'll be interested in
- 14:15Speaker 1: your opinion on this. Like I have parents. When I
- 14:19Speaker 1: was running netball coaching clean it's parents a can't to
- 14:21Speaker 1: and go, oh, my daughter's just started to playing netball,
- 14:23Speaker 1: what else? What extra can she do? And I'd be like, well,
- 14:25Speaker 1: she's twelve, so no extra, she can go and play
- 14:28Speaker 1: another sport. And as netborle's become more professional, you see
- 14:31Speaker 1: a little bit bit more push from parents, And always
- 14:34Speaker 1: say to parents, don't push your kids that if they
- 14:36Speaker 1: are going to be a professional athlete or a dancer
- 14:39Speaker 1: or a model, whatever they're going to be, it's not
- 14:42Speaker 1: your dream. You've actually just got to support them and
- 14:44Speaker 1: let them go out and get it. And you're a
- 14:47Speaker 1: few years ahead of me with my teenage daughter or
- 14:49Speaker 1: nearly teenage daughter, like what's your advice in that regard, Like,
- 14:53Speaker 1: how do you know when to push and when to
- 14:55Speaker 1: sit back and just support. Sometimes I need to push,
- 14:57Speaker 1: but sometimes you just got to sit back and go, oh,
- 15:00Speaker 1: it's really hard.
- 15:02Speaker 7: I don't have a simple answer, and I'm someone who
- 15:06Speaker 7: I'm not good at pushing. I've never been someone who's
- 15:09Speaker 7: sort of said, oh, I'll try this, do this, do that.
- 15:12Speaker 7: I'm more I'm a helicopter parent, but I'm a nurturer,
- 15:16Speaker 7: so I'll sort of say yes, do that. Oh, well done.
- 15:19Speaker 7: It doesn't matter that you came last.
- 15:20Speaker 6: I'll give you a metal leaning away.
- 15:22Speaker 7: I can't both parents, but you know you've participated, so
- 15:27Speaker 7: that's so good. And I just like my girls to
- 15:30Speaker 7: find what it is that they love doing and try
- 15:34Speaker 7: and work out ways that I can support them to
- 15:36Speaker 7: make that work as opposed to pushing them and teenagers
- 15:41Speaker 7: as well. The minute you suggest that might be a
- 15:44Speaker 7: good idea, there's the eye roll or as if for
- 15:49Speaker 7: what would you know? And that's when you sort of
- 15:52Speaker 7: do have to bite your tongue and sort of think, well,
- 15:54Speaker 7: I do know, but they don't.
- 15:56Speaker 1: And sometimes as a parent, you want to fix it,
- 15:58Speaker 1: don't Oh, you just have to be like, oh, it's
- 16:01Speaker 1: going to let you make your own.
- 16:02Speaker 5: Mistake, and I'll be here with the safety in it.
- 16:05Speaker 1: When it all falls down.
- 16:07Speaker 3: I did see something the other day on Instagram that
- 16:09Speaker 3: made me laugh. I want my kids to follow their dreams,
- 16:11Speaker 3: unless I've already paid the term fees, in which case
- 16:14Speaker 3: they can keep on this activity for return until they
- 16:16Speaker 3: follow their dreams.
- 16:17Speaker 1: It's like damn right. But there is also something in
- 16:21Speaker 1: that about teaching your kids that once you start something,
- 16:24Speaker 1: you actually have to finish it. Like I think it's
- 16:25Speaker 1: all about supporting your kids and not pushing them, but
- 16:28Speaker 1: if they come to you and say I want to
- 16:29Speaker 1: join a team and then halfway through through the season
- 16:32Speaker 1: they're like I don't know, you actually have to make
- 16:34Speaker 1: them keep turning up to training because it does take.
- 16:36Speaker 1: That's one of the lessons of sport is finish what
- 16:39Speaker 1: you say you're going to do, and then we can
- 16:42Speaker 1: talk about what you do.
- 16:43Speaker 7: Oh, Liz, that's pretty tough. I must say I'm a
- 16:46Speaker 7: bit slack in oh regard when there's well but when
- 16:50Speaker 7: there's touch footy and it's rainy, and there are some
- 16:54Speaker 7: mornings where I'll be looking out the window on a
- 16:56Speaker 7: Saturday morning, thinking please just rain a little bit more
- 16:58Speaker 7: so then I can stay bed, please please please. So yes,
- 17:04Speaker 7: there are kind of some moments where I go, we don't.
- 17:08Speaker 1: Have as well, but if it's raining, and then I
- 17:11Speaker 1: get the call saying it's okay, you said your play.
- 17:14Speaker 1: Your teammates will turn up. Don't let them down, you
- 17:20Speaker 1: know what.
- 17:20Speaker 7: I've got to be honest and say that. There have
- 17:22Speaker 7: been times when my when I've actually said, that's all right,
- 17:25Speaker 7: you can stay in bed. I know, I know, but
- 17:29Speaker 7: if you were mine, I am a soft touch, like
- 17:35Speaker 7: I'm kind of like, all right, that's okay, and.
- 17:38Speaker 1: Then I have my giant caramel. Yeah.
- 17:45Speaker 3: How boring is it? Always being a grown up? Though?
- 17:47Speaker 3: It's like can someone else just do this? Can someone
- 17:49Speaker 3: else make this child go and do what they have
- 17:51Speaker 3: to do?
- 17:51Speaker 4: Oh?
- 17:52Speaker 7: Exactly.
- 17:53Speaker 1: It is so tedious.
- 17:54Speaker 7: It's like having to cook every single night. I'm like, really,
- 17:58Speaker 7: why do I have to come up with them often?
- 18:02Speaker 1: You know what?
- 18:02Speaker 7: Sometimes it is toast. It might be baked beans on toast,
- 18:05Speaker 7: can spaghetti on toast. On a Sunday night, I'm like,
- 18:08Speaker 7: this is fine. It's cereal. Cereal for dinner can be fun.
- 18:13Speaker 6: My favorite.
- 18:16Speaker 7: I know you're a big cook.
- 18:18Speaker 4: You like to prepare.
- 18:20Speaker 1: So for many years, or a couple of years, Catherine lived
- 18:22Speaker 1: with Matthew and I and every night I would be
- 18:24Speaker 1: cooking dinner. But then when I went away and get
- 18:26Speaker 1: home and I'd say, what did you have for dinner?
- 18:27Speaker 1: What did you have for dinner?
- 18:29Speaker 7: Yeah?
- 18:30Speaker 5: We loved it.
- 18:32Speaker 1: It's so good.
- 18:32Speaker 7: Sometimes it's like yes, So if my husband Petie, who
- 18:36Speaker 7: reads the news in Sydney for Channel nine, if he
- 18:39Speaker 7: has a work commitment and isn't coming home going out
- 18:42Speaker 7: for dinner, I'm like, yes, so then we will have
- 18:44Speaker 7: the toast, all the cereal. I don't have to cook
- 18:47Speaker 7: a proper meal.
- 18:48Speaker 1: Oh they are good. I did try.
- 18:52Speaker 7: I did try frozen mash the other day and it
- 18:55Speaker 7: was terrible.
- 18:57Speaker 3: Yeah, does that surprise you in any way?
- 19:01Speaker 7: I'm an optimist and someone had suggested it's a shortcut,
- 19:05Speaker 7: so I thought, yes, anything for short cut. It was appalling.
- 19:08Speaker 3: I couldn't had to perfect that actually and make it tasty.
- 19:10Speaker 3: And that's the three glasses of rose first, and it's like, whatever,
- 19:13Speaker 3: just give me the frozen man.
- 19:16Speaker 1: Should you heat it up first?
- 19:17Speaker 6: Though?
- 19:18Speaker 4: Frosted perform?
- 19:20Speaker 7: Yeah? You de frosted in the mic. Then I added
- 19:23Speaker 7: heaps of milk and butter. But it was appalling and
- 19:26Speaker 7: my girls were like, Mom, this is rubbery.
- 19:29Speaker 1: But it was.
- 19:30Speaker 6: But it doesn't fix it. It's never going to be fixed.
- 19:32Speaker 3: I feel like we shouldn't end our conversation on that note, Jess,
- 19:35Speaker 3: because what we've seen is that your kids don't have
- 19:37Speaker 3: to go to sport if it's raining, and that you're
- 19:39Speaker 3: serving up pros and mashed potato. But we know that
- 19:42Speaker 3: you are an extraordinary role model for women around Australia,
- 19:45Speaker 3: and particularly no more so than for your own daughters.
- 19:47Speaker 3: But we've run out of time.
- 19:49Speaker 4: Oh what.
- 19:54Speaker 3: First guest set the benchmark incredibly high.
- 19:58Speaker 1: Thanks for having me.
- 20:00Speaker 7: Here's two wing defenses everywhere.
- 20:04Speaker 6: Dribble on.
- 20:04Speaker 3: That was Jess. Thanks so much for joining us.
- 20:06Speaker 1: Jess, Thank you?
- 20:10Speaker 3: Oh my god, how good was it to Jess here?
- 20:12Speaker 6: I knew she was a shooter, though.
- 20:16Speaker 3: You can tell she's got the part of a wing
- 20:18Speaker 3: defense though doesn't She might have the beauty of a
- 20:21Speaker 3: goal shooter, but she's got the heart of a wing defense.
- 20:24Speaker 5: I mean, we all started in positions we didn't end
- 20:26Speaker 5: up playing.
- 20:26Speaker 6: This is true for you.
- 20:28Speaker 1: What did you start it sena, and then I went
- 20:30Speaker 1: to shooting and then I ended up because I was
- 20:33Speaker 1: a ballhog, right.
- 20:34Speaker 2: Okay, that makes sense. And then you got to the
- 20:36Speaker 2: shooter and they went, what did you start as wing attack?
- 20:41Speaker 6: Did you?
- 20:42Speaker 5: And then a defender my whole junior Rep's career the attack, yes,
- 20:46Speaker 5: and a rubbish defender.
- 20:47Speaker 1: So when did you move sixteen?
- 20:51Speaker 3: And did you really work hard to get yourself into
- 20:53Speaker 3: that position or did someone go.
- 20:55Speaker 6: Someone moved me. You're actually not very good there the.
- 20:58Speaker 1: Other close to the hoop just put.
- 21:02Speaker 6: Anyway, So there you go. Earn the rooster's history.
- 21:05Speaker 3: No, some of us played our entire career in the
- 21:07Speaker 3: same third of the court. So yeah, I never made
- 21:10Speaker 3: it into either of the goal.
- 21:12Speaker 2: If you could play anywhere else where, would you have
- 21:14Speaker 2: played gold defense, gold defense, yeah, oh mongrel, Yeah, you
- 21:19Speaker 2: would have done some damage to It.
- 21:21Speaker 3: Was really frustrating when I first started coaching my girls,
- 21:23Speaker 3: the under eight Skirls, and they just they had no urgency.
- 21:25Speaker 3: And then the end I had to say that can
- 21:26Speaker 3: you just pretend there's fifty dollars take to that ball
- 21:28Speaker 3: and if you can get the ball that it's yours
- 21:30Speaker 3: to keep, And they went, oh yeah, got it because
- 21:32Speaker 3: I was just getting foxed.
- 21:33Speaker 1: Oh no, after you, after you.
- 21:35Speaker 3: It's like here if you need is very nice, but
- 21:37Speaker 3: it is not for every single occasion.
- 21:40Speaker 6: Yeah, it's like some of the ads as well, winning
- 21:42Speaker 6: is it everything? And I'm like who wrote them?
- 21:45Speaker 5: Who's in charge of this?
- 21:46Speaker 1: If you don't want to win? Is there another reason
- 21:48Speaker 1: to get and get out of bed?
- 21:50Speaker 5: Exactly?
- 21:50Speaker 1: All about winning?
- 21:51Speaker 3: Well, a number of our teams are looking forward to
- 21:54Speaker 3: next year and clearly have an eye on winning and
- 21:56Speaker 3: getting into the finals. So we've had some really interesting
- 21:59Speaker 3: signings coming up. But we've got Mary Cholok who's going
- 22:01Speaker 3: to the FIREBDS.
- 22:02Speaker 1: Where's Mary from Uganda?
- 22:05Speaker 6: Win ning?
- 22:06Speaker 1: She's great much she's from Uganda, but she's via Lightning
- 22:10Speaker 1: UK in the UK Super League where she's just dominated.
- 22:13Speaker 5: Yeah, fantastic.
- 22:14Speaker 2: She was the one that everyone had their eye balls
- 22:16Speaker 2: on at the World Cup, so you just knew at
- 22:18Speaker 2: some point she was going to pop up what.
- 22:20Speaker 3: Everyone had their balls on the word who pausefortunate pause.
- 22:27Speaker 6: Unfortunate for her?
- 22:29Speaker 2: No, but everybody was watching because she was an absolute
- 22:32Speaker 2: superstar and you just knew that the little recruiting binoculars
- 22:35Speaker 2: were out and someone was going to pick her up
- 22:37Speaker 2: at something.
- 22:38Speaker 1: So she's twenty seven, she's it's not like she's a kid.
- 22:40Speaker 1: So has it just taken her this long termt sort of?
- 22:44Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so, because I hadn't noticed her before
- 22:47Speaker 2: it any major tournaments prior to that, and then she
- 22:49Speaker 2: just dominated and suddenly we're like, oh, we want that.
- 22:52Speaker 5: We'll have that over here in our league, thank you
- 22:54Speaker 5: very much.
- 22:55Speaker 3: So what do you think prime age? PK t Neett
- 22:57Speaker 3: Bawler is, Oh, it's not. It's not fifty two and
- 23:00Speaker 3: forty eight the way.
- 23:02Speaker 1: Sadly, I was at my best when I was in
- 23:04Speaker 1: my thirties really, but you sort of think by twenty
- 23:06Speaker 1: seven that someone's probably seen you. But maybe by the
- 23:08Speaker 1: like she had to get over to England first and play,
- 23:11Speaker 1: and then that World Cup.
- 23:13Speaker 6: Ye really put her on the stage.
- 23:14Speaker 1: So it's just I guess, you know, if you're an
- 23:17Speaker 1: overseas athlete, you're not coming through our talent development system,
- 23:20Speaker 1: so you're going to turn up that a little bit later.
- 23:22Speaker 7: Yeah.
- 23:23Speaker 4: Cool.
- 23:24Speaker 3: So we've got quite a few internationals and there's a
- 23:26Speaker 3: lot of talk on the netball chats about the pros
- 23:29Speaker 3: and cons of having the international players in our competition.
- 23:33Speaker 3: Obviously it does mean that there are positions that Australian
- 23:36Speaker 3: netballers cannot play, but I'd be very interested to hear
- 23:39Speaker 3: what you two think about what the league should be
- 23:41Speaker 3: doing there and what this means for Australian netball.
- 23:44Speaker 1: So I know that there's lots of chat about it,
- 23:47Speaker 1: and you do want to make sure that if you
- 23:48Speaker 1: are funding a high performance league like super Netball, that
- 23:51Speaker 1: it is part of your high performance program for athletes
- 23:54Speaker 1: to come through. And when super Netball was established, it
- 23:57Speaker 1: was established with the idea that it was unlimited internationals
- 24:01Speaker 1: and I think that's been great for our game. Australia
- 24:04Speaker 1: World champions Yes, we've been We provided world class daily
- 24:08Speaker 1: training environment for athletes from around the world and we've
- 24:11Speaker 1: seen the rise of England and Jamaica in particular, but
- 24:15Speaker 1: we've also seen the slippage of New Zealand because they
- 24:17Speaker 1: haven't had athletes in super Netball. So you know, on
- 24:20Speaker 1: one hand, we're getting athletes who you know, we don't
- 24:23Speaker 1: have as many Australian athletes as we would like into
- 24:26Speaker 1: super netbaw because there are imports. But on the other hand,
- 24:29Speaker 1: the ones who were in playing super netbal are playing
- 24:32Speaker 1: week in week out against the best best players in
- 24:34Speaker 1: the world. So you know, we used to turn up
- 24:36Speaker 1: to a World Cup. I remember my first World Cup.
- 24:38Speaker 1: I played against a Jamaican goal shooter whose name is Cricket.
- 24:41Speaker 1: I can't, for the life of you remember her first name, Patricia. No,
- 24:45Speaker 1: I can't remember her last night. That's because I'm old
- 24:47Speaker 1: and halfway through menopause and so I have no memory.
- 24:49Speaker 1: But she was amazing. She was just like Ramelda tall
- 24:53Speaker 1: engine or tall and just dominating. But it took me
- 24:56Speaker 1: forty five minutes to figure out what to do because
- 24:58Speaker 1: I hadn't seen it before. Is if she was in
- 25:00Speaker 1: our league, of course, you sort of know how to
- 25:01Speaker 1: approach these things. So I know that there is talk
- 25:04Speaker 1: about the fact we should limit imports. I'd actually rather
- 25:07Speaker 1: grow the league. I'd actually rather have more teams so
- 25:09Speaker 1: you get more contract places for Australian athletes.
- 25:12Speaker 5: Because when we started, there was a rule that was
- 25:14Speaker 5: only one import per team. Wasn't there back when it
- 25:17Speaker 5: was CBT or whatever it was.
- 25:20Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, in CBT wh when I was playing, there
- 25:22Speaker 1: was no money to pay imports. There was no imports.
- 25:24Speaker 1: But when A and Z Championship started, it was it
- 25:26Speaker 1: was one per team.
- 25:27Speaker 2: I think, yeah, just to try and keep that balance.
- 25:29Speaker 2: But I mean I take off my now sorry player moment.
- 25:33Speaker 3: Come Wealth Bank Trophy. I was thinking cognitive behavior theory.
- 25:37Speaker 8: Come.
- 25:38Speaker 1: That's when Cathroine and I play. And then it was
- 25:40Speaker 1: A Champs, when it was Australian, New Zealand went into
- 25:43Speaker 1: sun Corps. So there's sort of three distinct periods and
- 25:46Speaker 1: so it was national, yeah, national. So when I played
- 25:49Speaker 1: and Catherine played together, you could not have well it's
- 25:52Speaker 1: not that you couldn't have imports, just no one really
- 25:55Speaker 1: did because there was no money. And then the next
- 25:58Speaker 1: iteration of that was A and Z Champs where you
- 26:01Speaker 1: could only have one import.
- 26:02Speaker 2: I think because they want a sensation to keep those
- 26:05Speaker 2: spots for the Australian players that you talk about.
- 26:08Speaker 1: And there are only five Australian teams remember and five
- 26:10Speaker 1: New Zealand teams.
- 26:11Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but the difference is now, like if I
- 26:13Speaker 2: take off my athlete hat and put on a commentary hat.
- 26:16Speaker 2: We want those players here because it's by far a
- 26:19Speaker 2: better competition. But as you say, they take those skills
- 26:23Speaker 2: back to their countries, lift their countries up so then
- 26:25Speaker 2: you have this much better World Championship competition as well,
- 26:29Speaker 2: instead of being Australia and New Zealand in the final
- 26:32Speaker 2: every single year since the start of the thing. There's
- 26:34Speaker 2: been some change ups in recent times because of these
- 26:37Speaker 2: players skill levels improving and so it's a different thing
- 26:40Speaker 2: because as the Australian coach, I'd want no imports here
- 26:44Speaker 2: at all.
- 26:44Speaker 3: Although if you're Sarah klou and you've been playing with
- 26:47Speaker 3: Helen howse an entire season, you've been playing against Ellen
- 26:50Speaker 3: or cardwell, it's going to really help, I imagine.
- 26:53Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, so like I reckon Stacy Marinkovic would
- 26:56Speaker 1: probably like to have the imports from a high performance
- 26:59Speaker 1: point of view, you but if you're a young player
- 27:01Speaker 1: looking it must be really difficult. So that's where you know,
- 27:05Speaker 1: Netball Australia and Netball in Australia we have to work
- 27:09Speaker 1: out how do we keep these young players engaged, to
- 27:11Speaker 1: give them a high performance thing to strive for, and
- 27:14Speaker 1: then more contract places at the top level.
- 27:17Speaker 6: Bring it on, get Ontolizabeth, I'll add it to my
- 27:20Speaker 6: list of.
- 27:22Speaker 1: Right after, you know, try and get us into the Olympics.
- 27:25Speaker 3: Well, it's been an interesting trading period, hasn't it, And
- 27:28Speaker 3: I'm again just looking forward to next year. It is
- 27:31Speaker 3: very exciting this netball year. Sorry, I know I've just
- 27:34Speaker 3: muddied the whole year's thing now with the whole netball.
- 27:36Speaker 6: Financial years and netball years actual years.
- 27:40Speaker 1: If I ring my account and start talking about imports,
- 27:44Speaker 1: don't like what I'm sorry?
- 27:46Speaker 6: Wrong tax in here either, ye.
- 27:55Speaker 3: Okay. So one of the things we forgot to do
- 27:56Speaker 3: when we're all together in studio, and I think it's
- 27:58Speaker 3: because we were so excited the most important thing we
- 28:01Speaker 3: do every week, which is our win beneath our wings nomination.
- 28:03Speaker 3: So we've gathered together again. Kath and I are here
- 28:06Speaker 3: in Sydney and Liz on the North Coast to talk
- 28:08Speaker 3: about our win beneath our wings nomination. And we do
- 28:11Speaker 3: have one, don't we?
- 28:12Speaker 7: We do?
- 28:13Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's the gold Stars flying out the door
- 28:16Speaker 2: again because not only is it Act again, ACT left
- 28:19Speaker 2: us hanging for such a long time and now and
- 28:22Speaker 2: then boom boom, no two of them and it's a
- 28:24Speaker 2: voice not yeah, Well, let's have a.
- 28:26Speaker 5: Listen, hey, Liz, Catherine and Carolyn.
- 28:30Speaker 8: It's another Liz here on Liz van Vliet and I'm
- 28:33Speaker 8: nominating my daughter Kate van Vliet for the Winged Beneath
- 28:38Speaker 8: Your Wings. She is twenty three twenty turning twenty four.
- 28:44Speaker 8: She's been playing netball since she was eight, but more importantly,
- 28:50Speaker 8: she has been volunteering since she was around eleven as
- 28:56Speaker 8: a coach in support being younger netballers. She's never was
- 29:04Speaker 8: never going to be a great netballer, but she has
- 29:07Speaker 8: uplifted and elevated so many little girls And right now
- 29:12Speaker 8: she's in the act where she volunteers as a coach
- 29:17Speaker 8: at Canberra Girls' Grammar. Just to give you some context,
- 29:22Speaker 8: she went down to Canberra as a university student at
- 29:26Speaker 8: a and U.
- 29:27Speaker 5: She's graduated and.
- 29:28Speaker 8: Got her first professional gig at Ernstein Young Consulting and
- 29:34Speaker 8: within two months she had asked them if she could
- 29:38Speaker 8: have Monday afternoons as time for her to be a
- 29:43Speaker 8: volunteer coach in order to coach a little bunch of
- 29:48Speaker 8: little netballers. So this is somebody who for half her
- 29:53Speaker 8: life at twenty three twenty four, has been the wind
- 29:58Speaker 8: beneath your wing for so many netballers who still remember
- 30:04Speaker 8: her and love her as a coach. She also umpires
- 30:08Speaker 8: and sadly no longer plays. She could not, for the
- 30:12Speaker 8: life of her get the three foot rule.
- 30:14Speaker 3: Well that is Liz vandleet and what a beautiful nomination
- 30:18Speaker 3: of her daughter, Kate, And I will say a couple
- 30:20Speaker 3: of weeks ago our other act nomination was Aaron TMB
- 30:23Speaker 3: nominating her mother Lisa. So this is a beautiful yin Yang,
- 30:26Speaker 3: isn't it? Mother daughter? Man? How good is netball? So
- 30:29Speaker 3: thank you Kate. You are the wind beneath our wings.
- 30:32Speaker 3: And how proud is your mother of you as she
- 30:35Speaker 3: should be.
- 30:35Speaker 6: That's just keeping the wine within the family.
- 30:39Speaker 3: Yeah, make sure you hit your mother up for your
- 30:41Speaker 3: share of that wine. But that's all we've got time for.
- 30:45Speaker 3: So and a reminder that tomorrow, the twenty second of August,
- 30:49Speaker 3: tickets will go on sale for the No Dribble Live thing. Yeah,
- 30:54Speaker 3: that is exactly one month until the Diamonds take the
- 30:56Speaker 3: court with the Brush Roses at Cutos Arena. All of
- 31:01Speaker 3: the links to buy tickets and the like are in
- 31:03Speaker 3: the show notes here. However, you're listening to the podcast
- 31:06Speaker 3: also on our Facebook page, so jump in. It's going
- 31:08Speaker 3: to be super fun. It could be a bit loose,
- 31:11Speaker 3: so remember this is in all ages. Event but you
- 31:13Speaker 3: need to make an informed decision about whether this is
- 31:15Speaker 3: something you want your kids to be listening to. If
- 31:18Speaker 3: you don't think they're ready for this podcast. They are
- 31:19Speaker 3: definitely not ready for what could happen in a live event,
- 31:22Speaker 3: but you know they are very welcome, So yeah, buy
- 31:25Speaker 3: your tickets. There are a limited number, but we are
- 31:27Speaker 3: so looking forward to seeing as many of you as
- 31:29Speaker 3: can make it, and we are looking forward to a
- 31:31Speaker 3: fun day. And then we all go over to Cutos
- 31:34Speaker 3: Bank Arena together and cheer, I assume mostly for the Diamonds,
- 31:38Speaker 3: but I'm hoping that there will be some people there
- 31:40Speaker 3: who are cheering for the English Roses as well.
- 31:42Speaker 5: Side note, I'm not coming unless it is loose.
- 31:44Speaker 6: They're nice.
- 31:45Speaker 3: Okay, Well, once again, we could be talking for hours,
- 31:50Speaker 3: and you know, let's come back and talk for hours
- 31:52Speaker 3: overcoming weeks because we're out of time now. But thanks
- 31:55Speaker 3: everyone for joining us again on a fantastic episode of
- 31:57Speaker 3: No Dribble. I'm Carolyn Swindell.
- 32:00Speaker 1: Oh, I'm lose alas I have been for quite some times.
- 32:02Speaker 5: Yeah, have you have fifty something? And I'm Catherine Cox
- 32:06Speaker 5: and we haven't ford the place down.
- 32:07Speaker 6: The three of us in the one.
- 32:08Speaker 7: Room who winning right.
- 32:11Speaker 3: Squad's on the way, let's bail See you next week.
- 32:14Speaker 1: Dribblers have a good one.
- 32:15Speaker 2: F